Gay Black Man Reacts to Jaiden Animations Being Not Straight (I LEARNED SO MUCH) | JOEY SINGS

[@bel410la]

Some people don't consider Asexual or Aromatic as a part of LGBTQ+ but they do fall into that category because it is a unconventional sexuality. I am not either but I have a few friends who have explained it to me and Its interesting and valid. As someone who is Bisexual i dont undetstand that some people in LGBTQ+ think they can gatekeep its such an open and welcome group and some people just ruin it. XD

[@yourlocalnugget._.]

Something interesting is that LGBTQ+ is just shortened from LGBTQIA+ *that* THAT IS AN *A* WHAT THE A STAND FOR? ARO AND ACEEEEE *also I’m ace too* :p

[@itzmehDevi]

@@yourlocalnugget._. some idiots think A stands for Ally which makes NO SENSE like with allys who think this I am like: " Look.. I appreciate your support and is very thankful for that and all but like....u r not a part of the lgbt+..U support it..Like If I support animals rights..I don't become an animal.."

[@blankit9247]

@@yourlocalnugget._. The A also stands for Abrosexual

[@_helvetixa]

It’s kinda ironic when people in the community gatekeep it XD like oh boy.

[@jdot_fightme7770]

@@itzmehDevi literally the people who think the A in LGBTQIA+ stands for ally kind of irritate me because ace and aro get erased even by the LGBTQ+ community in a similar, but often more drastic way than trans people and it's really frustrating that probably also contributed to the way that i masqueraded as a lesbian asexual rather than an aroace in an attempt fit in with the community even partially

[@o_r_c4141]

The asexual spectrum is very diverse and I'm very glad Jaiden was able to give you an introduction to it! I'm ace and Jaiden sharing this has really made me feel validated, thank you for being open minded because even in the LGBTQ+ community ace and aro people can be seen as outsiders, so thank you (:

[@TinariKao]

This was actually enlightening to me. I have never felt any "attraction" to anyone, and just assumed "I'll get romantically involved with someone when I sort myself out." but really, I just don't find attraction to anyone. Family talking behind my back about me being "gay" because I'm not dating or romancing anyone made me wonder if anything was wrong with me. Turns out, no.

[@SpaceAnomaly09]

Unlike most Ace people I never felt left out for feeling no sexual attraction, maybe because I had a LGBTQ+ friend group, but I figured out I was ace about a year or two ago and watching Jaiden’s video made me feel great because I’ve never met an Ace person before so having a youtuber I watch be Ace was nice.

[@nugget9190]

Smh that’s what the a in lgbtqia+ is, some people don’t understand it’s in the name and push aro and ace out and it ain’t fair bc y’all are in the acronym

[@Shalakor]

@@nugget9190 Definitely not defending being exclusionary itself, but I also understand how hard it is to even keep track of what the most recent form of the acronym even is unless you make it your life's work. It's a bummer, but it's also not fair to expect people have all the knowledge as a baseline. Understanding and learning is a lot more work than just finding whatever bubble works for you and sticking to it. Human curiosity and fear of the unknown will never stop being at odds with one another.

[@dr.dkakarot1017]

I KNOW RIGHT I HEAR NOBODY TALKING ABOUT THEM!

[@changedmynamebcyallwouldnt..]

she got hella backlash for this video. she's actually being put on blast for this EVERYWHERE. i'm aromantic myself. as far as i know, her video gave visibility for aromantic people more than any other youtube video ever. when i first saw it, i was so happy. seeing the backlash a day later hurt so much. i believed i was a sociopath for the first 16 years of my life because i didn't know that aromantism is a thing. this also contributed to my depression. it's so fucking alienating. seeing the video made me so happy not only because i may not have to explain myself as much to everyone in the future, but also because i knew it would save so many people from what i went through. seeing the backlash, however, was the most frustrating thing i've gone through in a while. not only will the backlash cause so many people to have second guesses, self hatred and a feeling of "missing out" (very common in the community), but also further ignorance in everyone who we'll try and explain ourselves to. i'm so exhausted this is just plain stupidity

[@DrTurtleBee]

Feel ya. The sociopath thing, and other things Jaiden mentioned. Keep trucking fellow ace buddy.

[@moonrat1955]

I unfortunately have seen this kind of backlash to the community for a long time which is why, unfortunately, that not many people talk about it. Jaiden was so brave to post this video because hopefully it will help people realize there is nothing wrong with not feeling attraction in one form or the other.

[@ferninthehouse]

why are people mad?? like genuinely what are they even saying. im not ace or aro but this was a needed video

[@DrTurtleBee]

@@ferninthehouse now.... this is just some peeps, not everyone by any means, but some LGBT+ folks feel Ace shouldn't be included cause we're not gay, per se. Even though we experience similar things when exploring our sexuality. And some straight people just think we straight up don't exist or there's something seriously wrong with us mentally or physically... Much like they feel about most LGBT+ folks. Nothing like picking on a minority group to make you feel better about your world view right? /S Basically it boils down to being neither straight nor gay and feeling isolated because of it. Much like Jaiden explains in the video.

[@Whocares158]

@@ferninthehouse Because people expect you to have romantic and sexual attraction. If you don't fall into that. People hate that. Makes me sad and angry that people hate her. Am Panromantic Asexual. I know how it feels to be discriminate against because of it.

[@cryptiddmashups]

I’m so glad this vid is bringing asexuality and aromaticism into the light, no one knows what asexuality is when I tell them

[@arohie7610]

Especially aromanticism

[@theshire9173]

I remember in high school, a guy in my friend group told us that he's asexual and I didn't understand when he said he isn't attracted to anyone. I thought that he just didn't have a crush on anyone at the moment but probably will in the future. Years later, I understand him, since I realized that I'm asexual too

[@_helvetixa]

It hurts when you have to explain what aroace means but then someone’s says “you just haven’t found the right person yet” XD like okay. Thanks for the validation(for real though, it feels like someone telling a lesbian person that they haven’t found the right man yet, which is very fcked up)

[@randomizer1666]

Yeah, I've been aro my whole life, not ase.. And it is nearly impossible for me to explain that to anyone...

[@cryptiddmashups]

@スケルスケル ? Where am I gonna go lol

[@avian1]

As an aromantic person myself, I think it is awesome that Jaiden is using her platform on KZbin to educate more people about aromanticism and asexuality. Both identities are pretty obscure and not well talked about, so it is always great when people can learn about them and accept them.

[@FightsRightsAlways]

I'm straight, but I'm here for the lesson. It's confusing, but I'm still interested and willing to learn.

[@thatboyjackk]

I respect people like you.

[@parasective5113]

based straight guy

[@BitchNamedLia]

Damn I wish there were more people like you

[@DarenYerry]

@@parasective5113 fr

[@human-excrement]

Think of us as what it was like before you got your first crush.

[@nagging_nagrom7571]

This video was really wholesome, and relatable. I'm Asexual, and I personally don't see sex as a thing to keep a relationship happy and healthy. We have hugging, and kissing and hand holding for that. I'm not romantically attracted to people I meet, I'm more attracted to their personality. Because the way I see it, someone can be the most handsome man I've ever met, but if he has a bad personality, it's a no go for me. However, if a person is attractive and they have a great personality, then that's a an added bonus. I'm glad that Jadien went into detail about Ace and Aro, because most people tend to just look at them like we're not attracted to anyone at all, we can still be attracted to people, just sometimes not sexually, we can be attracted go their personality, their kindness, their morals, their honesty, and all of the good things about that person. It's like the old saying goes, it doesn't matter what's on the outside, it's what on the inside that counts. Outer beauty is great and all, but inner beauty is what really draws me in. Great reaction, and great take on the topic!

[@Jade.the.Government]

that's amazing! i feel like what you're saying resonates with panromantic/pansexual, but ofc i could be wrong since i'm not an expert either. i think i'm aroace, i'm not sure where i land on the spectrum, i just know that im on it

[@dawniodoesmagic3917]

It's really unfortunate how the asexuality umbrella is brushed to the side in the LGBT community. It causes some people to even forget / not know we exist! I'm asexual, but I'm like, a helpless romantic and do have a girlfriend who's also asexual. We'd never get really intimate, but I love her so much.

[@CodaBlairLucarioEmperor]

There also is the fact that people just put aromantic and asexual as one thing. It's like Jaiden said in her video, you can be one without being the other. While I'm both, I do get that you can be one while not being the other.

[@joda7697]

You are so right we do need more education, especially about a-spec identities.

[@dianacutie99]

my girlfriend and i are both asexual lesbians; but we actually didnt know this when we first started dating !! around a year into our relationship i realized i was asexual, and coming out to her was terribly scary because im sex repulsed so i wasnt sure if that would be a deal breaker or not. she said that sex wasnt really that important to her... and realized she's ace too. i so appreciate jaiden opening up about her asexuality and aromanticism bc not a lot of people do, and i wish it was talked about more often.

[@dianacutie99]

@RobloxMaster1987 1. not a boy lmfao 2. this video is about asexual experiences. if you have nothing to add to the conversation, then just dont comment.

[@0racle.sunrise3570]

Aaaw that's really adorable! Don't know if that'll ever happen to me too or not, but you girls are lucky to have each other!

[@susant80]

I had never been to your channel before, but I loved Jaiden's video so I watched some of the reactions. Yours made me tear up in the best way possible. As an aroace person, representation is low and understanding and empathy (especially on the internet) are hard to come by. Thank you for being open minded and understanding. Big hugs for you and *subscribed*!

[@JoeySings]

I love learning new things and this video really helped me understand even more.

[@abigailschmieg9479]

I'm aroace and I'm so glad you reacted to this! I appreciate how respectful and eager to learn you were! :)

[@JoeySings]

I appreciate that!

[@spattheswagestbat8636]

This reaction was really wholesome.

[@whyareyouhere845]

I’m ace/aro, known I’ve been for years now The biggest revaluation I’ve had was realizing people were actually looking at celebrities and thinking ‘daaang wanna kiss’ and not just Admiring their talent or liking their movies

[@zoetrogolo7349]

As a child in a super good and inclusive school that starts talking about identity and sexuality and gender from a reasonably young age, it really makes me sad that some people don't get the luxuries that I do, which gives them a really twisted view of the world. Hang in there, Jaiden. We're rooting for you.

[@CodaBlairLucarioEmperor]

It's especially bad because it's just straight up outlawed in a lot of schools now.

[@killaxy_jy]

You should really learn more about different sexualities, because it's really interesting and actually so incredible how differently people can feel their attraction towards others (Apologies in advance for any mistakes, English is not my first language 😅❤)

[@Suyana06]

Yes! That would be so cool!

[@jacintacapelety9600]

I've seen people who have English as a first language make more mistakes, you got nothing to apologize for. The only thing that *might* be a mistake (and honestly I'm not even 100% sure if it *is* a mistake), is that I don't think you needed the word "their" near the end of that first sentence. Other than that, first rate English, better than some people I've seen who have it as their first language.

[@killaxy_jy]

@@jacintacapelety9600 🤧❤❤

[@ZIEDANyt]

as a gay male with a aroace best friend, im so happy seeing someone like her so big talking about this! they get overlooked so hard while they are just amazing people who dont need romance or sex, they just want friends they can count on! they are as much a part of our lgbtq+ community as anny of us! So nice to see you see this video and understand them and share this to your audience :)

[@liettemaccoul162]

“I thought they were exaggerating” that sums up my whole realization LMAO

[@horadragonchild7724]

Umbrella category here “Hetero-Romantic Asexual” is mine Defined as a person who has a straight orientation and willing to be in a romantic relationship maybe even get married and could have kids. I am infact married and the kid plans are in the works. My significant other understands my sexuality and is always trying to make me feel comfortable. Even though I don’t really have any… “intimate” desire I simply do it with my partner to make them happy which in turn makes me happy too 😌 I feel like an outcast both in general society and in the LGBTQ+ community for the very things Jaiden talks about. When I came out as Ace even my family didn’t understand. Some random people even called me inhuman or abnormal for not feeling that attraction towards others. It does really hurt when it’s said to your face or even online.

[@aggable]

im an aromantic lesbian we're like opposites lmao

[@Zephirite.]

That bit about Aro/Ace people feeling isolated from other sexualities is really important. Not even queer people should feel like bc we're all labeled by society as "not normal," that it means we're obligated to fake blind understanding. Normalize self-and-social explorations, people! If someone's offended by you asking about their identity, they're probably in a place where they're too insecure to offer helpful explanations at that point, but there are always people who are happy to learn and explain their experiences. Stay kind and curious, everyone!

[@elofton4855]

Honestly, having someone acknowledge that Aro/Ace are an actual thing is great. I've come out to my mother at least twice, and the takeaway she had (the time she acknowledged it,) was that it was an extension of my poor mental health and that I shouldn't "close myself off to love." Her concern was genuine, but it's just so frustrating. I thought I'd explained myself pretty well, but after watching this video, I think maybe the third time might be the charm.

[@lizstevens6808]

Im also aro-ace and felt similar things she explained growing up, its neat seeing a creator talk about it and try to explain it a little :3

[@RisingRose]

I'm so incredibly happy that Jaiden decided to make this video. I'm Agender, Asexual and somewhere on the Aromantic spectrum, three identities/orientations that are not very well known and represented, so seeing someone - especially someone with such a big audience - make a video discussing their experience, coming out as aroace and explaining what those orientations mean? Nearly made me cry. I related to so much of what she told us from her own experience, from the whole logically analyzing people when trying to decide on a crush _(I didn't try to 'decide on' a genuine crush cause I didn't care that much, but sometimes kids would ask other kids who in the school they think is attractive or have a crush on and that's when I felt pressured to make something up because I didn't understand how crushes work),_ to the looking around every year and going ''WHY ARE NONE OF YOU ATTRACTIVE'', to the whole ''if you're interested in someone but they just want to be friends, I don't understand why people cant deal with that'', to the listening to romance songs and suddenly realizing like,,, wait people actually feel this stuff??? and even just her talking about how romance seems to be everything people talk about/how every song on the radio seems to be about that stuff.. I mean, heck, if you pause at 4:37 to read the analysis example of trying to find a potential crush, I'm pretty sure I have said this sort of analytic stuff out loud before when classmates asked me about crushes/who's attractive. Also, a small detail in the ace section that made me really happy was that she danced around the vocabulary. I'm the s##-repulsed kind of asexual, I don't want anything to do with intercourse and the topic/words make me uncomfortable as hell. I often feel silly or stupid or too sensitive for it, especially because even among Asexuals many don't have an issue w/ that stuff, so seeing her dance around it to,,, it's a small thing but it means a lot to me I do think I have some degree of romantic attraction, but it's so rare and so difficult for me to tell apart from platonic feelings and understand that it makes me anxious to give myself a precise label, so I just go by asexual, bi and arospec _(meaning 'somewhere on the aromantic spectrum')_ and call it a day. Which- on that note, since you said you don't know much about asexuality and aromanticism, it might be useful to know that when someone doesn't have sexual attraction but still has romantic attraction, instead of saying _''bisexual'', ''pansexual'', ''heterosexual'', ''homosexual''_ etc. you often see us using _''biromantic'', ''panromantic'', ''heteroromantic'', ''homoromantic''_ and so on. Might be useful to know :] Anyhow I'm rambling, point is I'm very happy that Jaiden made this video, and that the aroace community can feel a bit more represented :]

[@warriorcatkitty]

I definitely relate to this quite a bit, especially the having trouble telling if you are feeling attracted to someone romantically or just like them... I also feel like I might be on the aro spectrum to some degree, but where I'm not sure, and it's hard to tell if maybe I just feel romantic attraction differently than how it's normally portrayed in media (since most people seem to always think "intimate" attraction and romantic attraction are the same thing, so it's very often portrayed that way).

[@KaitheKnightly]

Me and my fiancee are on different parts of the aro/ace spectrum. I am demiromantic but asexual. Meaning I can feel romance but it's a slow build and I don't obsess over it. Like I love my partner and we cuddle and kiss like no tomorrow but if I went a day or month without it I would be fine. But I am asexual in the way that, sex means nothing to me. It's like if someone isn't into sports I just don't see the appeal. She is demiromantic and demisexual meaning. It takes her a bit to be attracted to anyone but once she is feeling the fireworks of "oh man I really enjoy this person and love kissing them" she wants intimacy. So how we work is. I give her what she needs when she asks. Because for me. I don't need it. Never will. And yes sometimes it can be stressful but overall we communicate so well that I don't have trouble. We are perfectly happy and fulfilled in what we have. 🥰🥰 -Kai

[@beenseen]

Omg thank you for sharing this story because I felt like I related to what Jaiden talked about but not fully, I feel like the term demiromantic might feel right for me, I'm going to look more into it so thanks for sharing your experience as it's got me curious about the terms you mentioned.

[@KaitheKnightly]

@@beenseen so happy to help you. It always takes a while to find your correct term. But with enough research and looking inward you will find the truth. As a fellow demiromantic I welcome you into the fold. And wish you luck in finding a partner who listens to you like I have with my fiancee. Who works at your speed. It is possible. You are perfect the way you are.

[@joanae8554]

Thank you for sharing, I think i'm the same thing as you and communication is really the key. Like, my partner is straight and need the intimacy part but sometime he didn't express is too directly and explain it too late and i'm like ohhhhh it was what you mean at this moment. We try to communicate it more now to make it work.

[@tiffythekewlchick3457]

that is absolutely amazing!!!

[@emmiccino528]

Any content revolving around sexuality and a wholesome v i b e, teaching people about it, tends to make me feel happy. I'm not even on the asexual spectrum, I'm just Androgynous and hella gay :p But the video still just about made me cry thinking about the people it helps-

[@emrysm5501]

I used to think crushes were like imaginary friends, a thing that some people made up and everyone else went along with, because I never had either. I was 30 before I ever heard the concept of aro/ace.

[@cloudcat_]

If I had grown up knowing that aromanticism and asexuality exists it would have saved me a lot of time and emotions trying to figure out what was 'wrong' with me. I'm So glad that people are now finding about about it and hope that it helps other young aroaces (or old ones who haven't figured it out) learn that they're fine and theres others like them (also, the background of my icon is an aroace flag, I personally like it more than the aro and ace ones smooshed together)

[@mymyrou3199]

as a bisexual aromantic person, the ..intimate attraction confused me so much because that and a strong desire to be friends appeared as a crush to me and has made questioning so much more complicated...but I got it in the end. I really loved your reaction here, jaidens video has had such an impact, especially viable on the aromantic subreddits, so many people discovering stuff about themselves or just learning new things

[@plantkiller7651]

As someone who’s been vibing with being Ace since I was maybe 14 y/o and who, luckily, found the Aro/Ace community pretty early on, it’s so cool to hear about Jaden’s story. When I first saw Jaden’s video I was at the point of screaming bc I’ve barely seen any representations of our community at all and I didn’t realize how much I needed that until that point.

[@natelongbottom3720]

This reaction is awesome. And this coming from from a straight guy who's sexually attracted to women. I actually fully understand the terms "Aroace/Aromantic/Asexuality" a lot better than before. Thank you for being yourself, Joey 🙂

[@tiint_tone]

I remember being in high school a few years after gay marriage was passed in Massachusetts. We had a GSA (Gay Straight Alliance) club that I never went to because I didn't know what I was. The longer I went without feeling something, the more distressed I felt about ending up alone and isolated, the more being around people, gay or straight, who were focused on those newly formed aspects of their lives hurt. The internet has been a great way for aces to connect with each other and meet up and make events, because there are no asexual bars that I've heard of. It's often the first time many of us feel ok and not doomed. Jaiden Animation making a video like this is invaluable for all the baby aces out there. Look around and you'll hear stories of people googling about a lack of sexual attraction and going to the doctor, because a lack of sexual attraction (loss of libido would be a better phrasing) can be a symptom of many cancers. People getting put on medication for low libido. A big figure in the online space coming out with such a comprehensive video is going to help a lot of people understand themselves, and can be incredibly helpful as a tool when coming out to friends and family. We also have garlic bread memes, and I'm happy to break garlic bread with you. Give us a visit over on r/aaaaaaacccccccce (7a, 8c, 1e because I know counting that stuff can be annoying). What would the ace equivalent of a gay bar be? A coffee shop? I'm going with a coffee shop!

[@juliasings6131]

A coffee shop as long as they have garlic bread and cake

[@anonymousfellow8879]

Coffeeshop deli, anyone? Good food, booths, quiet no-pressure vibes. Neutral for no romo, some romo, and romo. ‘Cause…you can actually hear yourself think. And not have to shout to talk to anyone. Or just get your coffee and snack and hunker down in a cozy corner and just read or draw and appreciate people parasocially

[@astrorisks]

i'm down with a coffee shop, with like a small bakery section where we can just hang out and vibe

[@warriorcatkitty]

@@juliasings6131 funnily enough, garlic bread and cake (well, cheesecake specifically) are two of my favorite things xD

[@mydickfuckinghurts]

There’s also a term for wanting to get to know somebody better and basically obsessing over them non romantically. The terms Squish and Plush both stand for platonic crush.

[@ExActa]

As someone who is not a native english speaker, this video was my first contact to an english speaking person of color who is gay and I gotta say I loved every second of it!

[@honeyjar2970]

In the end I'm really glad Jaiden did make this video because I'm aroace and it's so so rare to get any representation for it so the video really made me tear up cause I felt so seen and understood

[@arthurzackaryabrin]

I literally had to explain my therapist that there is a difference between romanitc and sexual atrraction. I'm panro ace so when I told her I was asexual, but mentioned my girlfriend in the next sentence or so, she was really confused. So I explained that while I am sex negative, I am very capable of feeling romantic attraction. Like, people have one night stands. All the sexual attraction, non of the romantic one. So why can't there be the opposite? All the romantic attraction, and non of the sexual one. I think she understood, so I'm calling that a win!! Way too many people don't know that there is a difference between romantic and sexual attraction so I was really happy that someone with her reach spoke up about it!! I think this video will helps lots of people realize a lot about themselves!!! I mean, we asexuals are enough people to invade denmark!!

[@monster-enthusiast]

I think you meant sex averse or repulsed when you said sex negative. Sex negativity is the mindset that sex is bad and shameful in general.

[@arthurzackaryabrin]

@@monster-enthusiast oh yeah that's what I meant!!! thank you for pointing that out!!

[@Zena_Nox]

For me i never knew what was going on with me, but with help of Jaiden's video i found out that i was aromantic. It made me much more peaceful in knowing.

[@laylascarlett2010]

I’m aromantic too yay

[@Hey-Its-Dingo]

The bit at the start of the asexual segment where she says "I have my eye on some of you! BEHAVE!" Is a reference to the fact that some artist have been drawing... Let's call them "adult illustrations" of her cartoon avatar, even though she has said many times that it made her uncomfortable, FOR YEARS.

[@Jeer42]

Just wanna say how much I love the titel lol Also so far loving the video

[@laylascarlett2010]

I’m aroace and thank you for educating yourself about us!

[@briiickiii3356]

watching her video and the way she explained aromanticism helped me SO much - I thought the exact same way she did, thinking that crushes were just a Thing that Everyone Had, but I just felt so confused and alone in never being romantically attracted to anyone

[@AngleF]

I was very surprised when I watched her video because she had a lot of the same experiences as me being aromantic, I kept going ME TOO as I watched! I’m very happy that you’re learning about the aroace spectrum, the flags are very interesting and nice to look at!

[@JoeySings]

Thanks for sharing!

[@likethecolour]

this video was so great to watch! I'm on the ace spectrum myself so this was fun to relate to.

[@carterkatt6703]

I've known I was aroace for a while and seeing the way Jaiden put it into words is nice. Cause the way Jaiden describes it is very similar to how I feel about it.

[@bananaspliitz9136]

What really enlightened me about the diversity in the ace community was one of those vids w a handful of people that stand on a side (strongly agree/disagree) when asked a question about being ace and they were really open about explaining how they did or didn’t feel about things. Like most things aro and ace r a spectrum and it was enlightening to learn that. This is the side of KZbin that I really love 💜💜

[@cragcat5158]

It’s really cool seeing jaden talk about her experience. It took me so long to figure out I’m aromantic pansexual. Mostly because on the internet I was never taught that you could have sexual attraction but no romantic attraction.

[@fionnarose1380]

This was on my recommended, and not even 60 seconds in, I'm lovin the vibes.

[@savannahmorgan772]

I thought it was wonderful seeing your reaction to this. It was very respectful of people who fall into this category and you were very open to learning about it :) I suggest you react to this short film called “In a Heartbeat” I’m not sure if you’ve already seen it before but I thought it was one of the cutest things I’ve ever seen

[@JoeySings]

Check my community tab I reacted to it 4 years ago

[@savannahmorgan772]

@@JoeySings oh nice, have a good night :)

[@lynntaylor9681]

I'm aroace and I'm very glad she made that video. It's really nice to know a KZbinr I'm subscribed to is also one and it was nice to see the other aroace commenters in the comment section. I'm glad you're open minded about it.

[@JoeySings]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@kiroonsmoon]

As someone who’s aroace I appreciate how you reacted to this! A lot of the time when coming out to someone who doesn’t know what asexuality or aromanticism is we often get ‘are you sure’s, ‘you haven’t met the right one’ or ‘you’re too young to know’ (the latter is mainly directed at young aces/aros like myself) or even just straight up denial and refusal to accept it. So I appreciate the ‘ooo what’s that?’ attitude and willingness to learn you’ve got!

[@BlackoutArtz]

As an aro ace person, this video makes me really happy! I’m so glad that you have an open and accepting mind when it comes to this stuff, because a lot of people in my life (such as my parents) don’t. This was really a breath of fresh air. So many people refuse to listen to those who come out as aromatic or asexual, especially younger people, because they claim that they’re not experienced enough to know. Like, okay, so parents don’t bat an eye when their 6-year-old gets a “boyfriend” or “girlfriend,” but when someone claims that they DON’T want one, then it’s suddenly so unbelievable? Alright lol. Anyway, my point is, thank you so much for the support and validation. It means a lot!

[@user-kt4gl3kv1e]

When I first saw this video the aromantic part really resonated with me. Then I thought. WAIT A FUCKIN MINUTE! And after a road of self discovery I realized I was indeed aromantic. Glad you enjoyed it too.

[@sayonara9052]

I'm somewhere on the aromantic spectrum and I was very excited to experience this video along with somebody else! I already understood everything Jaiden talked about in the video, so it's exciting to see somebody else's perspective from a unknowing POV. Thank you Joey!

[@missflower6142]

As someone how is aroace, I'm so excited that it's coming to light. Before I realized there was a community of us I felt very alien and isolated. Now it's easier to accept and come to terms with. :) 3:59pm 3/22/22

[@TheKarret]

Aroace here; awesome to see you react and be so understanding and open-minded! I thought she did a pretty great job explaining it! I hope that guy you dated before got to realize he's ace, too ~ UuU!!

[@stardasuperstar895]

And this is why Jaiden is so awesome! Bringing a less represented community into the light in a funny, but still super informative way that helps people to understand us better.

[@mostar1219]

I remember my crush idea was "be friends and see where things go", but that was because I didn't see myself as the most dateable and was willing to take what I could socially get.

[@siveonstrix]

:) Jaidens video made me feel really accepted and it was nice to see a bigger name out there explaining lesser-known terms to people. I think she single-handedly explained the orientation to my sister who watches her stuff and that's pretty cool!

[@guyhughes357]

I'm GLAD u seem to be enjoying jaiden!! She has a rlly heartbreaking story it's a video on her acc called "why I haven't done a face reveal" or something similar I cant rlly remember if u want to see a different side of her I recommend checking it out (no pressure) loved this video joey!❤

[@M_jh_]

Thank you so much for reacting to this video😭❤️It made me feel so valid as an ace person and it was awesome seeing you learn so much about an underrepresented sexuality!! Honestly, I really appreciate your willingness to learn and educate yourself on topics that you don't know about! Especially since many people on both the straight side and lgbtq+ side invalidate aro/ace orientations, so your response was a huge comfort💚💜🖤🤍

[@kennyfool8078]

How I kinda understood was that human viewed romantic and platonic love as existing entities, instead of two classifications of hugely variant types of human connection. Basically you wouldn’t find romantic love or platonic love in the wild, we just took the overall idea of love and made boxes and designated specifics emotions and actions to those boxes. This is coming from an aro person, it’s just how I was able to understand for me

[@kennyfool8078]

There’s also some people who are aplatonic or loveless. Which means they don’t have even the “squish” (the butterflies in your stomach) for friends or for romance possibilities. For example I get butterflies when I want someone to be my friend. They are not sociopaths or anything, they just show their support and want to connect in varying ways. I’m not aplatonic or loveless but I just think they should be included in the convo

[@thomtheunissen5827]

Walking on a track in life that not many people experience can be extremely hard, Love that she shared this information with us.

[@zacklimmerman5797]

love her willingness to be vulnerable in this video because I think it is a topic that definitely needs to be talked about more. also panromantic asexual and proud to exist.

[@Icemirror319]

I had a very similar journey to Jaiden. Super clinical understanding of things and a logic-based lock-step understanding of how relationships progress. The first time I was confronted with someone's feelings, it's like my brain came to a screeching halt. I couldn't comprehend how the person was feeling romantic attraction before the "expected timeline point". Again. Total logic understanding. It was quite confusing.

[@MattVSNNL]

I think it's really cool how open you're with being Gay, most gays aren't open at all from fear of people judging them, but you're all open about it, subscribed!

[@thecritiquecornerr]

As an aro ace person myself I'm very happy that you've learnt more about it

[@illoish]

im so happy this isn't a hate video about Jaiden which makes me really happy

[@JoeySings]

No hate from me!

[@illoish]

@@JoeySings yes lol

[@ProsopAnonymous]

I'm asexual, gray-romantic (meaning finding someone I'm romantically attracted to is about as likely as finding a unicorn), and I thought she did a great job explaining both Asexual and Aromantic since I'm pretty much primarily Aromantic myself. Can confirm- past 'crushes' were actually squishes in that I was platonically attracted to them and wanted to spend time with them, but had no interest in a romantic relationship. I have also gone along with multiple romantic relationships because it was 'what you do' and I have broken several hearts along the way to discovering all of this about myself. Personally, I'm sex-positive which has contributed to the broken hearts and I've had to learn to avoid romantic relationships with people I'm not actually romantically attracted to, yet I still seek out those relationships because I eventually want it with someone (romantic attraction has only happened once for me). Anywho- I rate her video 10/10 on being educational and fun to watch

[@Creature_of_Knight]

As an asexual person, the jaiden animation video made me really happy to see and I was so glad that she made the video for spreading the education. I've explained asexuality to a fairly small number of people (mostly just the guys who have expressed interest... usually an awkward conversation) and literally none of them have ever heard of it. I mostly got responses like "You'll find the right person someday" "how do you know you don't like it if you've never tried it?" I even got from one guy "well if you ever change your mind you can hit me up" and like, he clearly hadn't listened to a word I just said 😒 but yeah so glad to see the knowledge spread, and I'm really excited for the people who may get a better understanding of their own sexuality because of it!

[@juliasings6131]

12:23 this makes my heart so happy, I love this reaction here

[@TheLuckyJay]

As someone on the aroace spectrum ( I'm demi aroace,) it feels really good to see more people learning what it is. 💚💜

[@skyxddd6010]

Jaiden's vid made me realize I could be aromantic

[@Crystalitar]

12:25 This is so sweet somehow to hear? That you remmeber that aspect of them and that they were open even while not knowing *what* it was.

[@artemisneomenia]

as a long term viewer of your content and an aromantic person this means alot to me. Thank you for reating to jaiden’s video it explains everything amazingly

[@cocobeebunnied7371]

I love this video because I’m Demisexual and demiromantic (meaning I don’t feel any attraction to people without any attachent or information or whatever I’m not how to explain it better than that) which is part of the ace umbrella. I love seeing people like you able to learn about this more underground part of our lovely community

[@zolline]

I'm a non-binary lesbian (or Trixic if you will, it's literally non-binary loves women) and Asexual 😄 its great that you are being educated on the matter, and I highly recommend studying other sexualities. I myself find it very interesting haha. Love your videos 💖

[@redhead_bebs]

I loved this video so much! I realized I was asexual last year, and it explained so much stuff about my teenage years that I thought was just me being defective. Finding out I was asexual also helped me to navigate the weird feelings that I had within my relationship with my partner. I am just really happy that Jaiden made this video because it shines a light on a part of the LGBTQ+ community that is often overlooked.

[@TheUnnamedWizard]

I'm so proud of Jadien fir coming out, I honestly was ecstatic at the news. I am an Aromatic Asexual as well and had found nearly no one who was at least on the one of spectrums. It was also rare to see those who know about them. (Asexual) Ace is the most known of the two but it's still not well known. Another very rare tern is oriented aroace. It means your on the spectrum of both aro and ace but you can still feel one/both of them partially. You don't have to use any label but you can use if you'd like.

[@evergreenforestwitch]

I'm aroace so I found your channel because of this video, and I just found your reaction to be so pure and sweet and open. You got yourself a sub, my friend! So glad you watched this.

[@meddlesome-]

Jaiden's video was a great introduction for people! I'm so glad she made it.

[@noneofyourbusiness3288]

This entire "fake crushes" thing really hits home for me. I had no idea that that was what it was until I saw the video. Sure I did suspect the aro thing before, but when she was talking about faking crushes I was like "oh damn... yeah...".

[@paranoidrodent]

I've personally seen how society and especially medical personnel treat aro and ace folks like they are broken or defective in some way because of their romantic and sexual orientation. Folks who tend to exclude the aro and ace community from the greater LGBTQIA+ community because their orientation doesn't stand out in a crowd often have a very mistaken presumption that aro and ace folks don't face any challenges. Being aro or ace is often conflated with chastity or some other voluntary choice. It isn't a choice. It's their orientation... who they are attracted to romantically and/or sexually... and they do NOT get treated as "normal" because of it. The reality is that aro and ace people face being pathologized and socially rejected in all sorts of ways. Someone very close to me was pressured into going through hormone level testing and psychotherapy before their physicians finally just accepted that they're ace. I've seen aro people get called horrible things by people who presume sexual intimacy means romantic attraction. I've seen ace folks get trashed for "not putting out". Romance and sexuality are very strong social expectations in our society. It can be pretty damned isolating not fitting in. Most people are more willing to accept that you simply romantic love or desire someone *different* (they might disapprove, but it's a less alien notion to them than not feeling it at all) rather than they are willing to accept the notion that someone simply feels no romantic love or desire for anyone at all. Ace/aro might have the ability to fly a bit under the radar at first blush like bi and pan folks do but they definitely face challenges and rejection due to their orientation and absolutely deserve respect and acceptance from the rest of the LGBTQIA+ community. If you can't imagine what it's like to be aro or ace and you happen to have a binary sexual orientation (straight or gay), just imagine feeling the level of attraction you feel towards the gender that does not attract you, only towards everyone. It's like being straight in a world full of your own gender when almost everyone else is gay and finding love and nookie. That's not a perfect comparison but at least it's a way to imagine the experience.

[@limner123]

💛 great vid, loved your take

[@yogurt8150]

the whole "if i dont date them we will drift apart" thing happened to me but like, bc of me? a friend in highschool confessed to me when the whole time i was just happy to have a friend with similar interests. and after i turned him down (he was weird abt that like oof) he kept acting the same way he did before he confessed. and i didnt know if hed ever been flirting with me and i just missed it and he was hoping id cave and go out w him? didnt help that he kept inviting me to school dances... so i became uncomfortable w him and started distancing myself from him. like to the point id go the other direction if i saw him. was really annoyed when him and i were voted "couple that never happened" or sth like that when we graduated :/

[@Aurora_Animates]

Aw this is so sweet of you to comment on :)

[@Zephirite.]

Yay! As a fellow JoesSings fan, Jaiden fan, Aro/Ace, and artist, I'm thrilled you loved such a wholesome and beautifully articulated video. And this is tricky stuff to react to without seeming...pandering, or uncertain, or coming off as ignorant, but the level of support and positivity you bring to your channel really encourages respectful discourse. Even if you feel like you're just nodding and saying yes to everything, that unquestioning support is so rare and valued, and can do wonders for building the confidence to continue the conversation. So thanks for that as always, Joey! Keep being awesome, and sending that same love and support your way! (Also, you're "Aha!" moment for your asexual(?) ex was really cute.)

[@lumenyxii171]

As a young teen who is queer/questioning, this video was so very nice to watch. Its cool that people of a minority, such as lgbtq+ can share their stories and you react to them in such a positive way, I loved this video and it was nice to get some info on other people's stories. I like how you put yourself out Aswell saying that you were gay , with confidence. Also Jaiden's videos are really great, i reccomend you react to some more! ive watched her for a very long time, and they get better as she makes them! plus your reactions were really positive and wholesome, it made me happy to watch this anyway great video

[@banana5965]

Lol I feel so honored that my comment is there, keep up the good work

[@finpin2622]

I am gay but I don't feel romantic/sexual attraction SUPER often, so it's nice to see representation for those of us who fall outside the expected patterns of romance! I've never been in a serious relationship and I'm almost out of college, but aside from a few times after watching a very sappy romance movie, I've never felt super lonely because of that. I know that a relationship is something I'd like, but there have only been a handful of guys in my life that I've really wanted to pursue, and even then it wasn't an intense crush for any but one of them. I consider myself demiromantic because of this, but that's a debated label since some people say it's normal to not feel romantic attraction until you know a person... Which is true to a certain extent but it seems like everyone around me is getting crushes WAY more often than I am, so who knows.

[@_Lunanella_]

I actually really enjoyed your reaction to this video. You were very supportive and empathetic. I love that. I also really appreciated Jaiden's video and being vulnerable because it's not an easy thing to open up about (I'm aro/ace as well.) Great video!

[@JoeySings]

Thank you so much!!

[@challah_back_femme9857]

For a good long time I thought I was broken because I found no one sexually attractive. I felt romantic attractive but nothing else. Having friends who had huge crushes on celebrities and I was like how? You don’t know them? But finding out about these terms I’m like oh I’m bi ace! I will have Romantic attraction to any gender but no attraction. I no longer feel broken and have totally felt great being who I am .

[@skygoomysteatime3967]

Sad Fact: A LOT of people unsubscibed and are hating on Jaiden becouse she came out as Aero-Ace.

[@JoeySings]

That’ shows how disgusting mankind is! It’s really sad.

[@hannahg.8650]

i am so so glad you reacted to this joey! i am ace myself and seeing jaiden bring this into the light for more people to see and learn about, is really inspiring. i am glad you know more about it now! it means a lot :D

[@maymay6319]

I am so glad that Jaiden made that video! Even I, when I found out that I was ace, it was the last orientation in which I've learnt. Like years after all the rest and our education was pretty good when it comes to all the differents orientations.

[@seth-rk3hx]

her video made me realise i was aromantic,,, please why did everyone except me already know about this :")

[@havenlepire3500]

I loved that vid! I’m Ace/Aro too😋, also Agender (so the triple A of the LGBTQIA+)

[@nose-vm3gu]

I love this video, I'm aroace too and there's almost no representation, not a lot of people know what it is. I appreciate you learning :')

[@kozuminq]

I love this she brought being aro/ace into view bc it’s definitely something ppl should know about! I also pretended to have crushes so I would look “cool” in front of my classmates and be seen as “normal” I’m still not fully sure if I’m aro/ace right now but I’m still glad that representation was brought along to it

[@greengreysolarpunk4036]

This was so wholesome 🥺 as an aro/ace person, the queer community can sometimes feel exclusive to us. It’s so refreshing to see someone come into it ready to learn and enthusiastic about it and applying it to real life! The bar shouldn’t be that low but sadly I’ve seen people in comments related to Jaiden say aro/ace people sound like “sociopaths (derogatory)” for not feeling attraction. And that’s a gut punch sometimes. Especially since a lot of the people making those comments are showing their lack of empathy by not thinking how isolating it can be to be the only one you know who’s like this. My own (mostly queer) friends in middle school would pester me about crushes until I was red in the face and (though they didn’t know it) about to cry because they thought I HAD to have a crush, then they would use my “blush” as proof I was hiding something. One of them even told one of my platonic guy friends that I liked him because they’d all decided that I had a crush on him. It was kinda like constantly being gaslit into thinking I wanted a relationship, and I would stay up hyperanalyzing my relationships to see if I’d missed out on some secret romantic feelings I had. Once I got older and learned about aro/ace as an identity, I became much more confident and my relationships became way deeper because I’d accepted that I didn’t need to hold our emotional resources for a future partner. Then there are even some people in the queer community who will act like we’re less worthy of being queer because we “pass” as straight. And that’s just me as a vanilla aro/ace, some other ace/ace-spectrum orientations are even more scrutinized. There are a lot of people who don’t realize the emotional trauma that can come with being aro/ace or the sometimes dangerous positions it puts us in, because no one hurts us KNOWING they’re doing it for our orientation. I’ve heard horror stories of aro people getting prescribed drugs they don’t need because psychiatrists think they’re depressed for not wanting romance, or of ace people being pressured into sex by partners who want to “fix” them. Not to mention the heaps of unsolicited medical advice (like about hormones) and questions into your sex life and history.

[@warriorcatkitty]

As someone who is ace, I was very happy when I saw Jayden's video. (tho I do wonder if I'm actually aro too, because I did relate a LOT to what she described in the video. However... I think it's just that the lack of sexual attraction makes romantic attraction slightly different from how it's usually portrayed in media. It's also possible that I just feel it to a lesser extent or less often)