Gay Men & The Need To Perform

[@tet43]

I'm gay and 57. So glad to see young gay men talking about what it means and feels like to be gay and how to evolve and navigate the world as different than the norm. Awesome.

[@CrusaderforChrist-Channel]

Hello, please know that Jesus Christ died for your sins. He loves us, but not our sins. Your gay life style is not a " born this way" natural accurance. Demonic spirit has influenced you in your thoughts to be gay and at some point you accepted it which gave that spirit rights to resided in you. Ask Jesus to deliver you from this spirit. Repent of your sins AND TURN FROM THEM. Ask to be reborn again in Jesus spirit. He is the ONLY way to Heaven. Until you seek him and choose to change you will not inherited the kingdom of God. Jesus is coming!!!! Will you know him in time?

[@techblogger8323]

Nice to know all gay guys above 30 aren't drooling over ever other gay guy

[@CrusaderforChrist-Channel]

+Ladiopfa Thanks, that reminds me to keep going. It's God's words, not mine.

[@Ladiopfa]

+Caasi Janet (WalkingWithJesus) You are most welcome. You forget this guy can offer mental help. Don't turn it down- you seem to need it!!!

[@ricardocg2828]

+Ladiopfa no, he can't help her. he can't treat mental disorders/disease like a psychiatrist can, he is a psychologist.

[@DiamondFlame45]

These guys look like brothers. They have similar hairstyles and beards. The quintessential white gay male look. lol. They are just missing the backwards cap. Good video by the way D:

[@doubleclutchonline5811]

+diamondflame45 If only all men could pull off this look so well!

[@georgeharrison5582]

+diamondflame45 Clap your hands.

[@umai21]

i do wonder what this hairstyle are called..........

[@outsiderofcal]

Have you been to WeHo? This is the look..

[@Padam91]

This is exactly what I've needed for a long time. Smart, thoughtful and kind gay role models to share ideas, love and support with me. This is what the gay community should be more like! Subscribed.

[@lechatparlant]

Thank you so much for this video. I ended up here after I had seen the go go boy interrupted videos. I think finding this video is a weird in a good kind of way. This year has been a self-development/self-improvement year. I started reading books by Brian Tracy and listening to his recordings. He emphasizes the importance about having affirmations and writing those everyday. Now I hear about affirmations from you guys. I was thinking that people were going to think I was weird or crazy if I mention them that I was writing my affirmations. Probably most will but just hearing from you guys that having affirmations is a great thing actually makes me feel better. Thank you again for the video :)))

[@MarcinViscardi]

It's not fair, good looking, smart and gay... Too much!

[@CrusaderforChrist-Channel]

Hello, I'm just stopping in to let you know about God. God hates sin, but loves the sinner. God did not make Gay minded people. It's demonic. At some point you have been influenced by a demonic spirit, and you excepted it. Once you do, it gives that homosexual spirit the right to posses you. Jesus, died for you. Repent and turn away from your sins and ask to be reborn again in Jesus spirit. You will not be able to enter Heaven without being reborn again. Turn from your life style, it will ultimately lead you to your destruction.

[@MrJuly1990ish]

+Caasi Janet (WalkingWithJesus) Caasi FYI: God also really hates judgemental people like you who think they know it all for "God" and really don't now shit. So, watch what you say about others, your ass Caasi could be struck down to the eternal fires first (Hell) by your "God" for judging. Stay in your lane boo or it will be YOU who will see their own self destruction.

[@CrusaderforChrist-Channel]

I'm not judging, just giving you the WORD OF GOD.

[@CrusaderforChrist-Channel]

Also, are you not now judging me? Also, I do know God's word on this, so I do know actually.

[@MrJuly1990ish]

Caasi Janet Again, you don't know shit.

[@KyleSfhandyman]

I honestly think part of reason you see so many gay men in acting is because we have had to act our whole lives. We couldn't let kids in school know we were gay or we'd be tortured. We couldn't let little gay mannerisms pop out so we'd move with care and intention. We hid that we were gay 24/7. We still had to act straight when we went home from school. I wonder with more acceptance, are we going to see gay boys who grow up authentic and don't learn the "look straight" skills.

[@brentduanefoster]

Not only that, but when you are a part of a community that literally is still trying to find its way after losing almost an entire generation, it’s not as simple as everyone thinks it is.

[@doubleclutchonline5811]

I am having such a good time watching Matthews videos. He has found a way to articulate things that we've all experienced, but maybe have been able to unpack in a way that isn't defensive or passive-aggressive. Good positive thinking and a positive approach to a lot of different personal and social issues. Oh, and also, how cute are these two together!

[@tedamjoke]

I think this was a fantastic conversation & really does applies to everyone so tx for getting my mind thinking about how I talk to myself & to be mindful of not always having to have my mask on! 😍😎

[@craymccray954]

So enjoyed your chat and discussion !!!!

[@alie.6386]

I think you should take the next step and be critical to why gays perform to empower themselves

[@bunji_beans]

I related to this more than I thought I would. I like acting and making people laugh, but I'm not a professional actor or comedian or anything. Even so, I've definitely felt that need to "perform" in front of people. I'm getting better at noticing it and at reminding myself that I don't need to do that. It helps me be more authentic with myself and others.

[@jimmyfowlie]

+Ben Y. awesome! so glad you liked it.

[@CrusaderforChrist-Channel]

Hello, I'm just dropping in to let you know that Jesus loves you! So much so, that he died for you. God did not make you gay, it's a abomination to him. Why would he make a gay person to only condemn them later for it? You have a demonic spirit in you. This spirit has been influencing your thoughts to be gay making it seem like your own thoughts. Once you accept that thought then that spirit has the right to posses your sexuality. That spirit knows that being gay is against God. He also knows that if he can keep you from finding out the truth then you will be condemned like him. This demonic spirit HATES YOU, because God made a way for you to be forgiven so that you can be in Heaven. They (demonic spirits) hate you for that. Repent of your sins and ask Jesus to deliver you from this spirit and for you to be born again into his spirit. Don't let these spirits keep you from Heaven. Heaven is REAL, but so is HELL. Don't let Satan fool you like he did Adam&Eve. Jesus is coming VERY soon! I hope you know him BEFORE then.

[@bunji_beans]

Caasi Janet I grew up with people like you telling me that there is something wrong with me and that I can't trust my own thoughts and feelings. I believed that for too long. I reject that now. Believe what you want, but people like you have done enough damage to people like me, so leave us alone.

[@CrusaderforChrist-Channel]

Because I'm just as curupt as you friend. Only difference may be between us is that I know it, and I'm sorry for it.

[@-myatlanticblue-3636]

+Ben Y. So true...well said.

[@adrian123456781000]

Can you please discuss about being a psychologist as a career? I'm very interested, I appreciate the time and care you produce these.

[@therepguy1]

Matt, here's a good subject for you to do a posting: It's my belief that gay men (or any man for that matter) who chooses to grow a beard is, in fact, growing a mask that will enable him to hide behind. I find within the gay community a large number of gay men do in fact have beards. What are your throughs?

[@zerklajerk659]

I love when Matts lip does that "thing"

[@AHMED-ly1il]

I like : i forgive myself when i do the mistakes and i know i am not the mistakes. Thank you

[@alfredbonnabel7022]

Jimmy is very funny, and I feel he doesn't take himself too seriously. Nice guy. 😊

[@luisdanyelfalcon]

What if you don’t know how to do that emotional work on your own because your upbringing was just f*cked up?

[@christophergreen6980]

Matthew is such a handsome guy and smart.

[@mrmidnight8975]

finally happy to see the video...please make them weekly :)

[@taurian101_official]

omg, you have know idea how this hits home for me in a lot of ways of my life, thanks for the video.

[@tonycruz2939]

Proud of both of you guys! I love this already! PLS keep making more pleeeeaaase! Ps I'm going to start writing positive mssgs on my Mirror too! xD

[@tonyanderson6235]

Great job interview and you got to the root of the issue. Thanks

[@georgeharrison5582]

I wanted to apologize to you all for my earlier comments.

[@enriqueali]

Did Matt's shirt shrink when he did his laundry? 😄😄😄

[@kilecan]

Matthew I think it would be great to get one of your friends to interview you once for this channel bc I see you are always interviewing and I get the feeling you wear a mask for the channel and almost sort of a performance. I was watching the interview and I saw how natural and down to earth your friend is and you come off very corporate and clinical. Very clinical. Maybe next time interview on a couch or somewhere more personable. It would be nice to get to see maybe the real you stripped down, natural and authentic. I know this is something huge to ask for, but it would be helpful to see that non performance side of you. Setting wise maybe that would be a start. Hope I make sense and dont come off like I am hating. Just constructive criticism.

[@411foryou]

Some gay men are naturally beautiful and hilarious though

[@hsfasojy6567]

🤭🤭🤭

[@ArizonaWillful]

I am glad that the Boomer generation made amazing sacrifices on behalf of future gay generations. But must every single KZbin gay blogger be buff and gorgeous? How is the average gay man supposed to relate to this, a constant parade of Adonises as our mentors? How hard is it to be gay in Los Angeles when you are buff and gorgeous? Give me a fucking break.

[@Zoxesyr]

it would be interesting to hear if there is anything new about gay ageism in this channel.

[@matthewturon9737]

The use of the word "like" in this video makes my day. 🍋

[@99superjason]

lol i forgot about this channel, glad you showed up on buzzfeed XD

[@Javi621]

I can't wait for your new show! I'm definitely one of those guys that needs to stop performing for other people.

[@georgeharrison5582]

+Javi621 Stop getting it in your behind?

[@CarlosCruzTv]

So excited for the show!

[@rickybolamphear1182]

Interesting, but I couldn't finish it. Every third was the word "like". Is that a L.A. Thing?

[@DocTheop]

it's RAMPANT

[@MrLourie]

Matt, I've only just realized your connection to Nancy Grace. I don't expect you to comment, but I have many doubts about her professionalism and her knack for "jumping the gun". I dislike her, as do many. I mention this, because I am/was very excited to hear about your new show with Jimmy. But, now I can only think of the quote, "Your company determines your character".

[@willieirsm]

What's his connection to Nancy grace ?

[@MrLourie]

He is, or was at the time, regularly featured on her show as a psychological expert.

[@bam4966]

Louis Riehm She's horrid. She adds to the problem. She borders on muckraker.

[@dragonball7454]

Someone should do a video about the gay voice.

[@georgeharrison5582]

+kenny s Why?

[@edcampbell2419]

Check out "Do I Sound Gay?" on Netflix

[@michaelkylow4411]

Ed Campbell, I was about to type that, hahaha!!! Yeah, Kenny s, check it out: it is amazing.

[@dragonball7454]

Wow A little psychotic aren't we

[@n7pako367]

I was thinking that. Do all gay men in America sound the same? Legit question.

[@djouinibadreddine6495]

i love ur subjects i appreciate the care that u give and i adore ur smile well every thing about u

[@xiaoyubydoune2700]

I like Jimmy's goofy acting bits, but he's so much more attractive when he's not acting :)

[@karenwalker8682]

"i just want to occasionally show you pictures of memes" MEEEEE

[@mjwirickable]

Jimmy is so funny! I love his work.

[@982743]

Matt, i guess your shirt is a bit small for your body. it looks is going to burst at any moment

[@racontoor]

He's just being authentic and real.

[@ezravoss]

this guy looks so much like Ricky Martin

[@zakwood3094]

this is VERY relevant!!

[@wolfrobot6580]

Those questions tho! Awesome.

[@elgatolounge3345]

handsome jimmy..

[@scotthall9058]

Matthew, you are refreshing and adorable! Just want to pinch your cheeks! Lol.

[@racontoor]

Speaking of turning it off...

[@scooterpp]

You should do web therapy. I'm already in transference

[@rogethus]

Matty D, that brain...so hot. I want to give you a hug and say thank you for discussing this

[@djbryce]

Way too much sexiness and love in this video :-)

[@stefjongh9780]

Man, I admire you so much. Fucking hot you are.

[@Soh201]

I thought it was about sex 🤦🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️.. like dealing with staying and keeping hard when intercourses

[@1battery415]

Nice video guys!! ^_^

[@rainando3034]

Matt is that kind of guy that you don't want to be friend with because he makes everybody near him looks unattractive

[@Mns_87]

Omg you guys have to apply to Finding Prince Charming Season 2!

[@ChaseWulff]

I thought this was going to be about gay sex.

[@hanhuynh7798]

👍

[@christiano8088]

I thought it was gonna be a different type of performing:/

[@marcusdevito5939]

...everyone registered to vote ?

[@jairomy]

Like, like, like, like, like, like, like, like. Still cute though :D

[@georgeharrison5582]

+Jay L You let some guy shove his thing up your butt?

[@cristinasujoy]

+George Harrison did that phrase make you feel really smart and witty? If it did, you're delusional.

[@georgeharrison5582]

@Christina Manole It got you to respond.

[@joeyxoxox7915]

Hi Matthew and Hellooooooo Jimmy. Jimmy, I just love to here you talk. I could listen to you everyday and night. Not only are you good looking, you also have a.verry sexy voice. I wish I had met someone like you when I was younger. Get video guys.

[@joeyxoxox7915]

Good video guys.

[@wizbangFLL]

Meh

[@toehead20007]

Matt don't lose your hair cause you have a seriously odd shaped head and put those flying gay hands to good use like making a dress for Cinderella

[@doubleclutchonline5811]

+toehead20007 That was an odd comment. Now I need to go back and study the shape of this head.

[@josepp4evr]

Please speak slowly so I can understand you better please please please hahahaha thanks

[@Lifeofsothigan]

💗💗👏👌

[@fattyacid101]

omg, you're so cute :D

[@CashelOConnolly]

I hate psychologists