Gender Dysphoria vs Gender EUPHORIA, ft. Ash Hardell!!

[@HeyThere005]

Ahhhh I am at work, but I am going to watch this tomorrow and I’m excited your great did you know I miss you ok ok ok bi.

[@antigenlost1989]

Ash Hardell . You seem so comfortable when you are talking with Aaron even the saying goodbye part. You both just put a huge smile on my face :). Thankyou!!!

[@sharongrant2160]

Ahh, bi... I see what ya did there

[@mantasquid]

“Im excited your great did you know” 🤔🤔🤔

[@aarronsholar6404]

I don't hate my body necessarily. I would just prefer if it looked another way. I am not taking away from my body, like my parents say, but rather I am adding to how awesome it is.

[@Katistic1]

Aarron Sholar I agree. I don't hate my body, I respect it but I am dysphoric about people seeing the way it looks because it's not how I want to be seen.

[@Mandrake_root]

SAME

[@michaelkessler3813]

Same

[@kylenoisegriffin]

Aarron Sholar Amen, friend!

[@peko5632]

Aarron Sholar sAME-

[@kerricksanker3051]

I ordered a pizza yesterday and just gave my last name for the order. At the end of our transaction the clerk said, "Thank you, Mr. Sanker." Holy shit. My voice has dropped enough to pass over the phone! Gender Euphoria achieved.

[@kerricksanker3051]

Also, Mr. Sanker is my dad. Lol

[@eddyviolet9422]

Kerrick Sanker lmao nice

[@sammyboi5615]

gender euphoria is never talked about enough, thank you for this plant daddio 🌱

[@Jacob-nk1of]

gender euphoria is amazing, i recently got my name legally changed and when i was picking up my meds, my doctor called me Jacob and he and wished me luck with my transition (she didn't assume i am transitioning medically, i had said i want T) and then the pharmacist called me Jacob and my packaging says "Mx. Jacob *lastname*" and i wanted to cry it feels so right

[@Mehk]

How is Mx. pronounced?

[@carrie637]

Meh, I think it’s pronounced mix.

[@AllenMcCooper]

ok so let me tell you my most recent experience of gender euphoria context: I'm nonbinary, french and working in a bakery (yes I sell baguettes honhonhon) so after I was done serving a bunch of old people the next person (way younger like in their 20's like me) in line tried to say hello to me except they stumbled onto their words when they properly looked at me like "Bonjour M-gjhfkngmgjh" they couldn't tell/choose between "Madame" and "Monsieur" (sir) and I just smiled (giggled a bit) they were smiling too and as I was serving them I sent them a kinda smiley thank you stare and they seemed to get it! It was nice, I don't know for sure if they understood (or if they were just laughing awkwardly) but I like to believe they did. It certainly made me feel so great and I was boosted for the rest of the day. :)

[@malika5320]

Allen Bonjour! J’espère que tu passe une belle journée ~ Merci pour ton expérience :) [Ca me fais plaisir de voire des autres français]

[@soldiaz7261]

personally i use “madamonsueir” for myself when im practicing french with my brother

[@abbiesmith7612]

Having gender euphoria helped me validate my gender Dysphoria. Because as you said the dysphoria becomes like a annoying humm in the background and just like Ash. I questioned if everyone felt the same so I suppressed it and every now and then euphoria happens and it validates it. I was with my mum in town once and got into a lift and a woman said to me "excuse me young man" and my heart and the feeling I had was insane. I was so happy. My mum mentioned it when we left the lift and scoffed at the lady who said it. And I had to explain to my mum that it didn't bother me. And she was very confused.

[@izzysnyder5226]

a waiter called me "sir" several times at a restaurant and it felt GOLDEN and my brother was like "whoa, did they just call you sir" and I had to just quietly be like "its fine don't correct him" and he was a lil confused.

[@Atlas226]

I'm masculine non-binary and I pass as male, so whenever my family (I'm not out to them yet) and I go out, people call me 'he'. When they do I feel like I'm on top of the GODDAMN WORLD but as I'm not out to my parents, they'll go 'this is my daughter' and I'll be like 'no, I actually prefer he/him pronouns' to myself as the feeling slowly drains away because the person who got my pronouns correct is incessantly apologising and calling me 'she'. So, when I go out with friends (who I'm out to) they'll always call me 'he' plus using my preferred name (Jaydan) and I feel incredible.

[@carlhumanbcrab]

when i worked at a primary (elementary) school, all the kids kept asking if i was a boy or a girl and all the teachers around me kept making them apologise for being rude. and I was just standing there like "nooo, please continue, I like that they are a) asking questions, and b)recognising that i am probably not a girl"

[@imaginareality]

Haha, I started working at a kindergarten last week and there is a heated discussion going on among the kids wether I am a boy or a girl. So, every now and then a kid will come up and ask me. The best thing about this is that I am out as trans at work (very accepting team, still nervous about how to talk to the parents though) so for the first time ever I can answer this question with "I'm a boy". And even better, most of the kids just accept this, even if they point out that I have a girl voice (and apparently I also have girl feet, whatever that means xD)

[@eddyviolet9422]

This happened to me with my ex's little bro and it was great lmao

[@sophiamcauliff]

I'm also pronoun in diffrent but eveyone in my life uses she her pronouse and it gets tiring so my boyfriend only uses he him/ they them pronouse for me and it's really nice.

[@ourseon2577]

Oh that's a really kind boyfriend you have there. :)

[@deaddead7395]

Aw that’s great!

[@eddyviolet9422]

Drew do you have an instagram bc i really like your profile

[@sophiamcauliff]

emma cunningham yeah it's @hayidrewthat but keep in mind that a shit ton of people from my school follow me so I'm not really out on there.

[@eddyviolet9422]

Drew Draws kdoki

[@artifedex]

Yes!! I’ve had pretty mild dysphoria, it’s still there and it happens but it isn’t debilitating for me but other trans people have said that trans people like me who aren’t incapacitated by their dysphoria every day- that were just trenders adding onto the problems of why society doesn’t take us seriously??? But yo, my euphoria when strangers code me as a boy is LIFTING. Fuck the noise I like the bells better 😊

[@izzysnyder5226]

yo also when people blame transphobia on trans people that's seriously fucked. Transphobia is society and cis people's fault, not ours.

[@doctor_owl]

Good on you, don't listen to the members of the community who try to drag you down. Some people are just miserable and they think other people aren't valid if they don't suffer as much. It's like trans envy. Not that their suffering is invalid either but to invalidate others who DON'T suffer as much is just BS.

[@eddyviolet9422]

Izzy Snyder damn, I'd never thought of it like that. Thank you..

[@KalvinGarrah]

I normally don’t comment on videos but I would like to say that even though I disagree with a lot of points in the video (I do believe you have to experience gender dysphoria to have a reason to transition and therefore to be transgender) this video is so accurate. For me gender dysphoria is also like a hum. Best analogy I’ve ever heard. My dysphoria is ALWAYS there, sometimes the hum is louder than other times, and when I get gender euphoria, it’s very much like a bell. I’d also say though, sometimes dysphoria can strike like a wrecking ball. And that’s almost like an alarm. Like, if I get an awful wave of bottom dysphoria, instead of a bell, it’s like a terrible sounding alarm. I think also gender euphoria is a result of gender dysphoria. Like, if you’re feeling euphoric about something pertaining to gender (getting gendered correctly, etc) it’s most likely because you were feeling dysphoric before and that resolution caused you euphoria, simply because you’re stuck with that underlying hum, and when it’s resolved for even a few minutes, it’s a breathe of fresh air. That’s just my take on it.

[@AaronAnsuini]

I appreciate you taking the time to watch the video and formulating a well articulated response. I agree that gender euphoria is likely a symptom of dysphoria (being that the gender euphoria itself would not exist, if not for the break it were creating in the dysphoria). The reason why I don’t like to put particular emphasis on telling others that they need to experience dysphoria, is because: Firstly, i don’t think people realize that they ARE experiencing dysphoria, at times (this is especially true for someone early on in their transition or someone who maybe questioning). My dysphoria was more difficult to identify that my euphoria, since I lived nearly my entire life experiencing it. It was the “norm” for me. And those “flare ups”, as you describe them, were hard to differentiate between any other waves of body dysmorphia that I experienced (and I do mean dysmorphia, rather than dysphoria; having struggled with an eating disorder). People may not realize that dysphoria is even just that cringe you feel when someone misgenders you, or misnames you; the misalignment that they’re experiencing with certain pronouns or their assigned name or gender. So they feel like they don’t experience dysphoria, and I personally think that’s okay. I don’t want to force people to dwell on the discomforts and hardships of being trans, when there is this OTHER symptom (ie: gender euphoria) that in itself stems from gender dysphoria, that is much more pleasant and easy to identify at times. But again, I respect your opinion and very much appreciate you taking the time to watch this and respond respectfully.

[@Anthony-yj6nt]

Thank you Kalvin 👏

[@KalvinGarrah]

Aaron Ansuini I 10000000% agree with you, especially that dysphoria isn’t all physical. I had a lot of dysphoria due to being misgendered, being deadnamed, etc, back a few years ago and it’s so true that people often don’t recognize that something non-physical CAN be dysphoria. I think we’re a little opposite when it comes to saying you need dysphoria or in your case, that you don’t need it, because for me, telling people that you do need it spreads awareness. What I mean by that is that along with saying you need to have dysphoria, I’ve also tried to clarify what dysphoria is, like that it can come in SO many different ways and SO many different strengths. I think that allows for people to realize their dysphoria earlier on, and in turn transition earlier. Anyways, thanks for the kind response. I really do respect you and Ash and I think you’re great people trying to spread positivity, whether I agree with you all the time or not.

[@jeromeabalone6000]

I actually agree with both of you, as IMO your points are not all that contradictory. I strongly believe that we need to move away from equating being trans to transitioning. A person that is trans (= they do not identify / feel like their assigned gender/sex) may or may not transition. Some may not NEED to transition if the dysphoria they experience isn't too severe. We need to recognise people for who they are regardless of their body parts, that includes trans people who cannot, don't want to, or don't need to transition. That does not make these people any less trans. More power to trans people who can live their lives happily without needing to go through serious medical procedures. I find that it is a bit like how shitty situations or events can cause long term distress (like depression or anxiety) in some people but not in others. Being trans (= a frankly less than ideal situation) can cause long term distress in the form of dysphoria in some people but not in others. We need to realise that both are part of the trans experience

[@KalvinGarrah]

Jerome Abalone when I say transitioning I mean in a social too

[@neopets97]

!!! This is exactly how I feel! I don't really hate my chest and I really could go on without transitioning social or otherwise but, it feels so good to hear someone use my chosen name and I love having a flat chest. It just feels right. If I didn't transition, I would be ok. Just like Ash said, I'd simply go through life being ok and nothing more. And I don't want to just be ok anymore. I want to be happy. Thank you guys so much for making this video, (I also really love your videos, Aaron) it made me smile a lot and feel affirmed, which is a plus

[@thethinkingbeing9817]

neopets97 Yeh. That’s how I feel. I just become so desensitised I forget what it’s like to be truly happy. Weird thing is, when I’m happy I imagine myself as female, and I feel amazing about that, and then when I realise I’m physically male I have to block off my feelings otherwise I feel like crying.

[@HolyPancakesBatman72]

i'm so glad to hear you guys talk about this. a moment of clear gender euphoria is actually what finally convinced me to transition, bc it gave me something genuinely positive to chase after instead of looking at transition as something that would make me less miserable but still leave me unhappy. euphoria gave me the hope i needed that life could be good for me, not just less bad. great video and glad to see two of my faves collabing as well!

[@doctor_owl]

HolyPancakesBatman72 This this this!!! We shouldn't have to suffer or be miserable... That's not really what being trans is and it shouldn't be defined that way. It sucks that some folks are miserable and I feel that way sometimes too. But we should be happy and encourage those who are positive and have a good outlook and hope to be like them. Our goal is to be happy not to suffer.

[@onyxsnow1455]

Good luck with your transition~

[@niestabasniestaras]

Because my feelings before i realised i'm trans were similar to what Aaron explained, for me being trans is not "it sucks that i'm in the wrong body" but rather "i'm so happy and relieved that i don't have to live life as a woman and i can do all medically possible to get more comfortable in my body". Definitely dysphoria feels like i want to die many times, but most of the time i'm glad i'm trans.

[@deadboy5678]

MY FAVESSSSS 💖💛💚💙💜 Also I think a lot about my lack of dysphoria in the past, but this video is the one that actually made me feel totally validated. Like holy shit, I lowkey wanted to cry. This is going in my lgbtq+ playlist for sure. I love you both so much!!! 😭✨✨✨

[@jamiemorgan6490]

SynysterTill if you don’t have dysphoria then you’re cis

[@idabee7605]

I was called “young man” in public today. Gender euphoria!

[@CelesteM]

Yesss, this was such a good conversation!! Also you guys have such a good dynamic, I love it!

[@hym3910]

Just what I needed, thank you. The 'no dysphoria = no trans' people are being really angry on the internet lately. I didn't know what to think of it since I only knew I was trans because of the dysphoria. I think I understand it a little bit better now. 🙂

[@hym3910]

Vynjira Thank you for your encouragement, I hope you're also doing better now 🙂 But I must have worded it wrong? I'll edit it to be more clear. I meant I only knew I was trans because I had so much dysphoria. It made me suicidal too.. I needed this video because I didn't know what to to think anymore about people without dysphoria with all the different opinions going around. Why I have difficulty understanding it is because I had tons of body dysphoria and little social dysphoria. As a child I also never thought 'I'm a boy'. Maybe because I was a little out of touch with the other children. 🤔

[@beccabailey8687]

this is sooooo important thank you for making this video!! I'm non-binary and I used to not feel "trans enough" because most of the time, I didn't experience strong gender dysphoria (especially body dysphoria), and I was so used to being called a girl that the social dysphoria didn't really make me feel very down, I would only feel validated when someone used the right pronouns and I felt that gender euphoria buzz. Now, when i'm at uni, i'm mostly used to being gendered correctly, at least by the people i spend the most time with, which is fucking awesome. But i've just been at home for 4 weeks and I reallllllly feel the dysphoria from being constantly misgendered, which I hardly noticed before. Like, it''s actually overwhelming and i've not felt this overwhelmed by it in so so long, even though it's the same as I was experiencing every day before. Luckily, I'm going back to uni tomorrow, and I'm sure I'll notice the gender euphoria from being validated so much more after seeing this video so thank you

[@cielchavez4697]

That feeling when you realized you've been feeling gender euphoria this entire time omg I love having self discovery due to my fave youtubers a true blessing

[@billmartins5545]

Sounds more like indoctrination

[@jelliemish]

Gender dysphoria being a constant hum and Euphoria being a bell, I love that analogy. IT ME TOO!

[@redactedredacted6656]

One of my defining memories is when I was about 11/12 walking down the stairs in my older brother's baggy hoodie and hair hidden behind a cap when my older sister sarcastically said "Ha ya look like a boy".This stands out because I felt so fucking escatic and it was like a sudden wave of excitement.

[@PuprleFox]

I was so excited to see this!!!! This collab is so legendary omg two of my favorite trans youtubers in one video :”D loved the discussion!!

[@taliagreen1645]

Great video Aaron, you and Ash have such good chemistry!! I always feel like I learned something after watching one of your videos. Have a great day! 🌱

[@MadLordSnapcase]

Thank you both for this topic! Gender euphoria is definitely overlooked too often, and it was great to hear a discussion about it exploring some examples - very relatable and affirming!

[@RMacca]

I definitely relate with the feeling of "that's right" when I bind. I just look and feel right and it makes me feel so much more confident.

[@MarisaClardy]

Aaron, thank you for mentioning that you "just wanted to be a guy". That's what my dysphoria manifested as. I "knew" I was a girl when I was young, but then went into the closet and considered myself a guy, just wanting to be a woman.

[@thethinkingbeing9817]

I know it’s not relevant and I’m sorry and I mean this with the best of intentions; be careful with your profile picture- from a distance it reminded me of that “triggered feminist”. I just wanted to point that out to you before someone brought it up in a hateful manner. Perhaps do a different pose? Look I’m sorry, I mean no harm, but as trans people (if you are trans) we are more likely to receive hateful comments than others when going into KZbin comments. And especially the kind of people who are intolerant to basic science and instead want to hate on people for unjustified reasons; they are usually people who are also bigots. They are also miserable people who lack the self-awareness to figure out why they are miserable (hint: it’s because of their own beliefs that make them miserable) and so they continue to make stupid decisions and never truly figure out why they are unfulfilled. And so they are the type who will pick out any random reason at all to be rude to anyone who juxtaposes their stupid and uninsightful opinions. So just to let you know, from one angle your picture looks like Ed Sheeran (which is great- one of the best singers alive (religious and stupid but a great singer)) so you can change it if you want, or not I don’t really know. But yeh just letting you know. Perhaps I worry too much.

[@musicalsaremylife1]

I really liked this video~ I think this gave me some great stuff to bring up when I come out in a few days!

[@Ian-th3np]

We need more stories that show transition in a positive light

[@londojellyfish]

Nonbinary AMAB, I found this video so so inspiring and helpful. I’ve been struggling a lot in recent months about myself and my identity and you guys helped put this into perspective perfectly. I don’t entirely hate my body. I definitely don’t like aspects of it and I am still trying to understand if it’s dysphoria - and there’s all my emotions around not feeling dysphoric ENOUGH but I digress - I have 100% felt gender euphoria though. Even before I truly realized I was nonbinary I started painting my nails and I was SOO happy about it and I didn’t even realize why. I’ve felt recently that maybe I’m supposed to feel more dysphoric if I really am nonbinary but this video and you two really helped me realize that it’s okay to feel any amount of gender dysphoric and euphoric ❤️

[@annapletneva9609]

I have a feeling that for some people gender euphoria can sometimes be mistaken for the feeling of that dangerous pleasure that comes with cross dressing - pleasure from the fact that you are breaking gender norms and play with society, tease it in a way. Because cross dressing is mainly done to get this feeling which is also euphoric, but they are different yet quite close types of euphoria since they both deal with gender

[@Charles_Plant_Proud]

JESUS FRIKEN CHRIST THIS IS THE MOST VALIDATING THING EVER 💕💕💕 Thank you for making this video omg.

[@theamazingwatchamicallit4651]

THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! At first I was confused if I was trans, I knew I was, but when people said the definition of gender dysphoria, I could relate, but not as much as others. I felt like I wasn’t trans enough. Then I watched this video, and now I know I have gender euphoria and gender disphoria.

[@kaistevenson6374]

Omggg I love this video so much I understand this so much and I’m so glad someone is talking about this. I understand myself a lot more after this video.. I’ve always felt like I had to put so much emphasis on my dysphoria to prove that I’m trans but honestly I don’t feel much dysphoria... I only feel euphoria and I always try to talk myself into thinking I have more dysphoria than I do because I’m trans and I’m supposed to hate my body but honestly I don’t... I just feel better when I bind and want a flat chest.. but that doesn’t mean I HATE my chest I just simply wish it wasn’t there.. but I feel not trans enough because other people hate their chest so much and I feel like I don’t deserve top surgery even tho I want it.

[@999Tity]

Kai Grey just wanted to say you're not alone, I also feel this way most of the time

[@izzysnyder5226]

I feel this so much-a few months ago when I started to really question my gender, I almost forced myself to have more dysphoria than I did, because hating my body made me feel more valid in my gender identity because that's what everyone ties the trans experience to. It made me feel like I had to prove I was super dysphoric to see myself as valid, but since I don't have a lot of body dysphoria it created this awful cognitive dissonance and just made me feel worse and worse and worse. In my worse moments of doubt, I also convinced myself that I was doing this all for attention, even though I have literally told like SIX people, most of whom are trans people at my school, and I fucking HATE attention. Sometimes I feel like I don't deserve to ID as trans or even non binary because my experiences aren't as hard as others, but I have to keep reminding myself that just because my gender struggles aren't as hard as others' doesn't mean that they don't exist, and just because I'm not SUPER uncomfortable with my body, name, pronouns, etc doesn't mean I can't be super comfortable with something else. Also you deserve top surgery if you feel like it would make you happy! If the pain of a big surgery is worth it to you for the amount of comfort you would get in exchange, then I'd say your need is totally valid.

[@doctor_owl]

Hey you're not alone! I'm a trans boy but I don't really HATE my body either... My chest is a pretty good chest, my thighs/hips/butt is pretty nice too... Just wish it wasn't on ME! I understand why other people think it's attractive I just feel those parts don't belong to me, like they're someone else's, so I feel more apathetic than negative. I only get dysphoric when other people notice them especially in public because I'll be misgendered. When I'm alone looking in the mirror I'm more like "hmm... Too bad boys aren't supposed to look this way!"

[@kaistevenson6374]

Izzy Snyder thank you so much for sharing your thoughts I literally feel the exact same. I sometimes feel like I shouldn’t identify as trans or non binary either because I don’t have as much dysphoria or as much of a struggle with things like other trans people do. I know that I would be okay if people called me my birth name and if I didn’t get top surgery but I also know that I feel 1000% happier when people call me Kai and when I bind so that’s why I want top surgery because I hate binding but I like being flat

[@kaistevenson6374]

Doctor Owl yeah I feel kind of similar. Like I think my chest is fine I just don’t feel like it should be there and yes I get dysphoric when people notice it in public too.

[@CakedCrusader9]

I relate to so much of this! Thank you for this video Aaron :) Love hearing from both you and Ash

[@daniellemorrison3047]

now that I think about it the Danish girl movie seemed to be very euphoria focused so thats cool.

[@onedayitdid]

Thank you both so much for this video. I'm saving this to watch on days when I'm needing some validation. I relate so so much and needed to hear this today. THANK YOU!! 🌱

[@butter366]

(Ye mudah voice) OH SO PROFESSIONAL, you get the followers, on the youtubes

[@timmik34]

Butter +

[@bunnyskull4788]

This inspired me to look at my transition in a way more positive way and it made me even more exited to start hormones next month! Thank you!

[@jasperkalleo6292]

Watching this has helped me so much. I have mild dysphoria so I always thought that I wasn’t valid enough to be considered transgender. Now I learned a little bit more about gender euphoria and about my own self. 😊 thank you so much.

[@laylastone7852]

Yay a new Aaron video 😍 and bonus Ash! perfect way to end my evening!

[@oskare5289]

Thank you both so much! this video and especially Aarons thoughts about being trans helped me so much figuring out my own gender!

[@TheodoreStagnum]

im so happy you made this video! for me transitioning is way more about gender euphoria than gender dysphoria. i dont experience much body dysphoria at all, but a whole lot of social euphoria when ppl use my correct pronouns. ash's analogy with pronouns fit my experience very well great video to both of you! excited to see the one on ash's channel 😄

[@nyahjones2213]

Just today my mom was driving and my little brother recognized a girl from school my mom stopped so he they could say hi. Suddenly she tried to look at me and said Girl: John?!? My brother: No my name is (name) Girl: No beside you My brother: No that's my SISTER (dead name) Me:disphoria rises Girl: Oh my gosh I'm so sorry I thought you were a boy Me: Oh no it's fine *explodes with euphoria*

[@hewwowen1968]

One time the lunch lady at my school said 'sir' instead of 'ma'am' and I was so happy

[@caldwxll]

This is spot on! Thank you for this. It's amazing!

[@bellahawthorn4575]

This was such an interesting conversation! Thank you both for sharing some of your experiences, they've opened my mind to some things I've never thought about before

[@rayne333]

Yay! Two of my favorite peeps, been waiting for a collab with you two. Totally related to the chest binding thing before knowing what binders were. I knew that chest binding was a thing because of Mulan, and I would try to wrap my chest like that. Never used duct tape, but definitely used an ace bandage. I didn’t know any better, but luckily never left it on long because I always felt weird & guilty about how happy it made me.

[@Ian-th3np]

Wowie this is a relatable video I’ve been thinking a lot of this but haven’t heard anyone else say it out loud so this is real validating !

[@Ian-th3np]

The facial hair thing kept me from thinking I was trans for a while

[@bryselbows]

Ahhhh I love this!! Two of my most favorite humans!

[@In_TheMoonlight]

when you described the hypothetical of someone not feeling super uncomfy but then finding out that there’s another gender that they feel so much more and makes them feel so much happier or so much more whole that made me feel really nice because that’s basically my experience with gender

[@TheBieber27]

Wow truly bless y’all for this. Every word very much resonates with my experience 💕

[@kwatts999]

Thank you both for making this video. These topics were so validating to me, and my experience with transitioning resonated deeply with some of the journeys you and Ash shared. Mostly, thanks for showing that transness is not inherently negative. I used to run a channel attempting to provide support for trans-masculine folks, and wanted to grow it into a positive, happy place. But at that time there was so much negativity around transness and the whole non-binary gender experience, it didn't feel worth it. (This was four or five years ago.) Seeing this video makes me feel like I have a spot in the transgender community on KZbin, and I might just go for it again.

[@kavitadeva]

Hi Aaron I really really enjoyed this video. The reason is I like this format of just you and Ash just having a conversation on a couch without microphones in front of you and all that. It was a great conversation it was flowing perfectly the points you were making were awesome and I really just enjoyed the way it was simple on the couch having a great conversation I think that's your best videos in my opinion. Thank you so much

[@TeethT00th]

No dysphoria? Not trans. Gender euphoria stems from gender dysphoria. If you are trans and say that you only experiance gender euphoria then youre either a) not able to grasp your gender dysphoria B) transvestic Also gender dysphoria isnt just constant hating yourself 24/7 Its just your body is foregin and that can cause distress or like oyher poeple you could just be w/e about it.

[@bumblebee9925]

Ok I am crying I just found out I was non-binary (my name new name is Dani) and watching both of your videos has helped me realise that so thank you 😭🥰❤

[@Solsamsa]

Holy shit, thank you for this! So much of this hit home and is helping me to continue figuring out wtf is going on in here.

[@snapbeau5916]

I just got mega gender euphoria when my hair got cut short and madculine looking and for a good couple minutes i was smiling and walling around my room like eeEeeeE!!!

[@megan6552]

i love the idea of "gender euphoria" i feel like transness as so many negative connotations and connections to mental unhealth, its really lovely to focus on the positive for once and rebel against the sensationalist media stereotypes.

[@shelfman1505]

A couple weeks ago a class mate said my haircut made me look like a boy-girl. It was great.

[@lemmonking2416]

7:17 made me SOOOO happy and smiley! I've never Heard anyone else say that they feel like that!

[@rainesavage510]

I love this discussion, thank you! You two have alot of wonderful points 😊 alot of them very relatable!!

[@darkstar543210]

This video definitely helped me realize that i have background hum dysphoria. It's so minorly there that i pretty much never notice it unless someone directly points out my DGAB. So, storytime, online I've been using they/them pronouns because it just feels better to me. IRL, though, I'm not out to anyone but my buddies from high school and college. When I was moving into the college dorms, I was stuck in the elevator with a bunch of people and a cartful of stuff. I don't think I'd ever seen this person on campus since, but when I got to my floor, one person was like "they have to get through, this is their floor!" And i just lit up like a goddamn christmas tree. It was so surreal; people calling me miss, young lady, and her were far too common for my liking, and things like young man and sir were a rare commodity, but never, until that point, had anyone defaulted to them, and it made my entire week! Even to this day, I get warm fuzzies thinking about it.

[@agreenpar]

I really relate to the “not always feeling in unbearable dysphoric agony” thing. That was the thing that made me question my gender for so long. But then I realized that while I didn’t always feel super bad, uncomfortable, dysphoria, something inside of me knew I could be comfier, and that’s how I finally came to the conclusion that I was trans.

[@999Tity]

thank you both so much for this video. Ash - I really relate to quite a few of the things you talked about here, thank you for sharing your experiences with us. I wasn't in a great mood, but watching this video made me feel a lot better and helped me feel more validated as a NB person. Thank you again so much, I'm sending you both the biggest hug all the way from Israel 💜💜💜 looking forward to seeing the video on Ash's channel :)

[@robint8855]

Shiit boi? You been working out? Your arms look buff

[@fabschalkson2529]

I just wanted to leave a thank you to Ash and Aaron, Aaron is so smart and very nice to listen to. I love how he talks about stuff in this mix of personal and theoretical so I feel like Im not alone with my feelings. I feel understood and also informed whenever I watch one of his videos so thank you to this awesome guy who is so smart creative and worthy of all the good things in the world. A thank you to Ash. He is so well informed and educational, creative and empathetic and just a strong awesome human being. I wish you the best.

[@NINES-2199]

The thing about Ash liking women and wanting to be what they like, I can relate, but with men. And with questioning weather I am trans ftm or not, it’s extremely relatable. I learned so much from this video. Thank you so much.

[@a.holland2262]

The first time someone casually used my chosen name I couldn't stop smiling for a really long time and I got really happy whenever I remembered for a really long time. Also I cut my hair in high school and a friend of mine started calling me James. That was awesome

[@KawaiiCat2]

I am part of a trans support group in my community and when I chose to try He/Him pronouns for a while, I didn't know what to except. When someone in the group addressed me as he, I felt so happy. But its deffiently true that I downplay my gender euphoria. I make a huge deal about my dysphoria. I think from now on I will try to be more happy about my gender euphoria when it happens.

[@unspokenvoices3399]

Thank you so so so much for posting this ! I don’t think this subject is talked about enough at all...this made me feel a bit better about when I do experience gender euphoria and how my experiences with dysphoria are still valid even if they aren’t experienced in the same way as others

[@samblake1746]

she gives me gender dysphoria. they is like yeah cool im comfortable no big deal. he gives me that gender euphoria.

[@FreakigesSternchen]

oh my god this has been so eye-opening for me!!!! i’ve started questioning my gender fairly recently and i don’t necessary feel “trans” because i don’t experience dysphoria, at least I don’t think I do? But I do experience gender euphoria when someone uses they/them pronouns for me (mainly online if they don’t know my gender) or recently when my friend told me that his parents said i look androgynous i felt SO validated and now i finally have a word for it thank you❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@alexpearce1368]

this is one of the best explanations of this whole topic and sub-topics I've ever heard, and as someone trying to understand their gender better, this was extremely helpful and eye-opening. Thank you!

[@ShikisaiMaki]

This is my new favorite KZbin video. * adds to favorites and shares with everybody * Thank you so much for discussing this subject at length, I think it's gonna be very helpful to a lot of people who have a hard time putting their feelings/experiences into words.

[@tomthumb9109]

Love you two together! Articulate and academic wth a dash of humour and solid reality checks. You complement each other ! More please?!

[@jaeedinger-vanatta4244]

Gender Euphoria for me, is wearing my binder. I look in a store window and I see a flat chest, that’s the best feeling in the goddamn world.

[@mat_has_a_hat]

I love this. Let's talk about gender euphoria more often. This is amazing.

[@KarsenRyanLuis]

Great video! You both really put some complicated topics into simple words, like the dull buzzing of dysphoria. That's how I've always thought about my dysphoria personally

[@ellencorbett3449]

I super relate to this! I don't hate my body, I generally don't have extreme body dysphoria. bUT lately I've realized how bothered I am by customers gendering me as a woman at work, and how great I felt when people would mistake me for a man. And after I got my septum ring recently, less people have been mistaking me for a man and I didn't realize how much it made a difference! Thank you for sharing your experiences with us!

[@maddyjane3559]

Omg this is amazing. I needed this so much, today especially. Thank you so muchhh!!!💖

[@theadventuresofpolyphony8032]

I never really understood what gender euphoria was until now, I have a mood disorder and was thinking of euphoria similar to being manic and I was like "well I don't get that and it sounds scary"; but hearing you guys talk about it and the description of the bell breaking the hum has really helped me get my head around it and have that "I GET THAT" moment. Think imma start using those gender euphoria moments to figure out how I feel about my gender, instead of only placing emphasis on dysphoric moments. Ahh, thank you guys!

[@razzlefrazzlelor]

Thanks Aaron and Ash for this making this vid! I think this is a very insightful video and it really helps create a more holistic view of the bigger picture of gender and the trans experience! Being cis, I realise that its easy to overlook this experience and take it for granted!

[@ezogh3826]

I related so much to both of your experiences so much, mainly Ash’s pronoun experience, Aaron’s experience of dysphoria/euphoria (although I do have bad days sometimes) and the self-doubt you have both experienced xx

[@nicetoad]

Euphoria is a symptom of dysphoria. You can't have euphoria without some degree of dysphoria. You probably have dysphoria and dont realise it, if you claim to only have euphoria.

[@emersonbooth911]

Aaron Pedlow I don’t think that’s necessarily true. You don’t have to be uncomfortable with one thing to love the opposite thing. You may not mind being seen as a man but you’d prefer to be seen as a woman.

[@nicetoad]

Emerson Booth if you really had no issues with living as your sex, you’d be cis

[@HoneyPOWMorethanjustahoneypot]

I'm a cis girl who doesn't want to be a girl the fuck am i

[@HoneyPOWMorethanjustahoneypot]

I don't think I've got dysphoria

[@riversmall7645]

This is such an important conversation to be had and it made me feel nice so thanksyou

[@mattepgh]

I've never thought about this before. And I'm so happy that I decided to click on this video because he made me realize that I've experienced gender euphoria. Although I'm still not 100% on who I am yet gender wise and sexuality wise I just realized that I have experienced this. My friend called me her son once and even though that sounds stupid idk. Just my little heart got to happy and excited to be her "son" and not her "daughter". It sounds like childs play like "ooh it's just pretend. You aren't really related she just wanted to create a family aspect with your group like kids do sometimes" but for me it wasn't. And now I am her son. I'm her son everyday. Maybe not literally but having her says "son come here" just.. idk it makes me happy. Ahh. Idk. This video makes me happy. Like more normal than I thought I was. Like I'm not a weirdo or something I also like the amount of trigger warnings. Idk. I just wish people would say that more in a none "TRIGGERED" type way

[@levidavis5954]

This was an amazing video! And the descriptions of dysphoria and euphoria matched the way I feel it perfectly! Like yes, I don't feel great in the body I have right now most of the time, but when I wear my binder it just feels so right. I used to think that this was just the way everybody felt about themselves, like 'meh I guess this is just how it is' but then I learned that it doesn't have to be that way. Thank you so much for this video! And I really hope you two can collaborate together again soon cause it was just super chill and nice!

[@LesCrisVains]

So interesting ! I can relate to some of these situations but I didn't have the vocabulary to explain it, this is amazing.

[@galaxybatter8317]

This video was so nice to watch, thank you so much for sharing!

[@kaiwildsmith4731]

I'd love to see you two discuss dysphoria with You tubers like Sam Collins, Kalvin Garrah, Storm Ryan and Miss London. In a respectful and calm conversation. Id love that. I don't fully agree with you on dysphoria / euphoria but you explained well. I agree more with the people I mentioned and would love to see their take and see you have a discussion.

[@mctash4264]

I experienced gender euphoria yesterday when my sister and her best friend used he/him pronouns and called me Nick. That helped me 100% confirm that I am a trans guy. I have an appointment at the doctor on Thursday to get on a mental health care plan so I can see a psychologist to talk about my gender, but at this point, it's less to confirm it now, than it is to discuss what we can do, and get help and advice about coming out to more people in my life.

[@adamwise1111]

This was so relatable and validating. A little bit of my persistent doubt has been alleviated, at least for now. Thank you.

[@janibaldwin7109]

*TW~brief mention of suicidal thoughts* . . . . I don't watch a lot of Aaron's videos but fuck everytime i do it gives me so much relief from suicidal thoughts. His videos just make me feel like someone understands and im just so grateful everytime i click on one of his videos.

[@Nowayitsmycookie]

Thank you, Aaron and Ash, for everything you post. It's so informative!

[@billy3810]

Before going on T, I was also afraid of facial hair, and just getting more body hair in general. But now that I actually have it, I like it.

[@samthehypotheticaldad]

I remember the first time I was assumed male, I felt this huge amount of giddiness and I've never really known how to describe it. Now I do! Luv you both! 💖❤💛💚💙💜

[@Jay-lm9nt]

What an incredibly important conversation. Thank you for sharing this.

[@aug8649]

amazing video thank you so much for talking about this 💓💓💓💓💓

[@bluetrapp9502]

I have never watched a more validating video in my entire life. The whole "not dysphoric enough" thing has been driving me nuts and I totally have a lot of gender euphoria and this really really helped me. I added this to my playlist of videos I want to show to my kiddo when shes much older.