Generational Trauma & Things We Were Wrong About! - PRETTY BASIC - EP. 282

[@Slavic_Hooker]

It’s crazy how good Alisha looks in pastel yellow

[@kristeentabanera1115]

All their baby/ wedding talk is making me so excited for when Alisha finally finds the one for her. So they can live their mommy/wives era together 🥹

[@LaughinLinds]

As someone who’s gone through infertility and now pregnant from doing IVF, please do your research now if you’re even contemplating it. I’m 29 and tried for over 4 years despite all my tests and bloodwork all coming back normal. I’m an unexplained case and this was the hardest thing I’ve been through. Definitely get some preliminary testing done now. Wishing you all the best ❤

[@missyagustin7008]

i had a classmate pass away from an accident literally 2 weeks after our highschool graduation & it was absolutely so shocking & heartbreaking towards our small community :( crazy how it’s been 4 years already, i definitely still think of him time to time.

[@allysonherrera5141]

as a recently graduated new grad nurse, it is astonishing going through our labor and delivery course and learning how many risks increase after the magic number 35 😭

[@sarahtappo]

When Alisha said she never had to deal with grief I was like girl knock on wood 😅( I did it for her haha) but my friend recently passed away from ovarian cancer and I knew her since I was 13 years old. It’s crazy to think about you really don’t know who’s next

[@alyssawalby2545]

I knocked on wood for her too😢 I lost my grandma a few years ago & she truly was my best friend..

[@daixyray]

I love seeing different sides of you both on this podcast and the Basically Unfiltered. I just wanted to say thank you for your vulnerability and advise! Also you both have been glowing and i feel like your friendship is like sisterhood compared to when the podcast started

[@stevieheilman7513]

ok hear me out…. Yall as London & Maddie but the boys as either Zack and Cody, OR Esteban & Mr. Mosby 😂😂😂 that would be great content!

[@pureescape]

As for the girl who passed away that you dreamed about Remi, don’t worry about over stepping some boundaries if you want to connect with her family ever. It could be as simple as “hey, i went to high school with your daughter and i had a dream about her recently that touched me and made me think of her.” Even if they react weird or whatever, chances are they want to know that she’s still thought of in any way. As someone who lost literally all of their immediate family before i was 19 (mom, dad and brother) sometimes it feels like the world forgot about them. It’s easy to cope and say “life will go on” but they should be remembered too. Especially people lost early.

[@taylorfunk1203]

one of my childhood friends and classmates went missing and was found dead in the river 2 weeks before our graduation. our birthdays are next week, he would have been 21. still hard coming to terms that he is really gone and lost out on so much life. grief is such a hard thing and never really goes away!

[@csakiabigel-ub9kq]

hi, I think you guys have to be sabrina and jenna for halloween. Alisha just had her photoshoot where her theme was sabrina, and I loved it. love you bothh soooo muchhh

[@savannahdugas]

10 seconds in & Alisha spittin facts …. This IS my absolute FAVORITE podcast 🙏🏼😁😁

[@maxus8567]

Just this morning I was thinking how life is really scary, not just people that we love but also pets that pass away. Right now a handful of people that I know are grieving in some way or another and I feel bad that I've been fortunate enough to not have experienced grieve just yet in my twenties. But hearing Alisha say that she also hasn't really gone through it definitely is comforting and even though we haven't personally gone through it, it doesn't mean we can't be there for others who have.

[@tiffanyalmazan3310]

It’s a great day when Pretty Basic posts!

[@mikaylan3543]

We lost a family friend a while ago to mental health problems. When I was in middle school at the time and I had to pass the place where passed ever day to get to school. The feeling doesn't go away it hurts still but this thinking that they are in a better place makes everything better. The one thing about people dying would be I feel so bad for my grandpa he has attended so many of his friends funerals that when his comes along he won't have any friends to attend it. His doctor tells him he is so healthy to so I know it must be hard for him. To attend all of those funerals.

[@mattijohnson8023]

my best friend since kindergarten just had her first baby with her husband!! it has been such an amazing experience to get to see her as a mom now!! 💕

[@taylornpickle]

period alisha in her reading era!!

[@bellamorales4516]

a friend from high school just passed away a few days ago. I feel like im always relating to what you guys are saying. You guys always talk about stuff in episodes that I am always currently going through

[@kriziaa7559]

Is it confirmed that remi takes semiglutide? Only ask because one of the side effects is extreme fatigue, more than normal & a lot of my patients needed to take vitamin b12 shots to help fight the fatigue

[@s_ahmad7114]

I had a best friend who passed away in a car accident in 2017! she had an identical twin sister … I ran into her recently and it’s honestly such a weird thing to experience

[@ashleythompson1529]

I REALLY want you guys to do book reviews of the books you’re reading. Attract the booktok crowd

[@tracypierce157]

I lost my bridesmaids dress in a fire 3 days before my best friend’s wedding! Was able to get a replacement really quick but it was so stressful!

[@Sunnywitch444]

Generational trauma is BUCKWILD. I carry the grief of my whole family for insane shit… just now learning to heal and unload the baggage that was never mine to carry ❤

[@BaraEnElin]

Apparently the study that is the foundation of the thought that fertility decrease significantly in women at 30 was made on women in the 16TH CENTURY France. The study was picked up by Times magazine in the 90's and it became the narrative. When you look at more recent studies, fertility doesn't really go down until your 40's which is crazy considering the amount of stress that are put on women. ALSO, my sister went to get an egg count, got bad news so decided to freeze her eggs. She stopped her contraceptive to do the procedure and got pregnant straight away. She now has two children. Point is, don't let society freak you out!

[@rebeccamcauley4549]

Superb episode as always. I love that you are both well! Support always. Just the chilled and nostalgic conversation needed on a Wednesday evening here in Yorkshire, UK. 💜✨️🎤🎧

[@alexandraperkins763]

My sister passed away in 2021 in a car accident. She was going into her junior year of college and was only 20. Grief when you can’t process it takes a long time. Plus if a sibling passes do you still say you have 5 siblings without having to explain. It’s crazy😢

[@divinekaela7185]

I love when things get deep. You guys are so comforting 🩷

[@itswoozles9672]

we had a classmate pass away a few years back and it shocked all of us. she was very sick but left behind her husband and, i think, 3 kids. but she was the first one in our graduating class to pass. it made us all think about how short life can be

[@lofah661]

I had my babies at 20,32, and 41 and at 32 and 41 was the easiest for me having a baby.

[@missmolly2534]

Alisha & Remiiii! Help! I so badly want the guys to know this but I don’t think anyone is seeing my comments! I left a longer detailed story on the patreon comments and I also DM’d Mariah! But my now husband and I met in 2018 on freaking badoo/hot or not! I downloaded the app because of them because I was so confused that they were the same thing, first person that popped up was John, I took a screenshot and sent it to my friend and said “woah this guys hot”, decided just for giggles to swipe on him and then closed the app, not thinking anything of it. He, obviously, swiped back :) I audibly gasped. Yesterday was our 2 yr wedding anniversary, and we celebrated with our 1 year old daughter ❤️🥰 Ze-he & He-ho the match makers 😅

[@catheriner6675]

Iconic girl 🎉😊

[@amandaramirez8500]

A guy I dated in college and his cousin who I was really close with died in a boat accident in Alaska.. that rocked me. I never would’ve thought that’d happen

[@YouTubeuserms]

I became a mom and it completely changed how I see my parents. I just realised I love them much much more and that they are actually amazing parents and did a great job with all they had. Also… having a kid right now is honestly so easy. I mean we have diapers, information, electric cribs, better doctors. So so grateful for that. ❤️

[@KisasDestiny]

A study came out about how 200-300mg of caffeine is good for your heart health LOL. So girl don’t feel bad about your cups of coffee or your energy drinks.

[@soniacervantesvazquez4428]

Wait what link pls

[@Mahalkitalisette04]

Omg London and Maddie costumes would EATTTT

[@celeneb.5098]

my girlfriend sleeps horribly! i bought her lemme sleep and it DOESNT work for her. like wtf??? i told her about how remi said it’s insane. and it does nothing for her. it’s insane

[@yadiraibarra9272]

I have insane insomnia & the only thing that has helped is cbd gummies specifically made for sleep maybe she should try those!

[@velvetkitty8883]

Lemme is in a lawsuit for their products not being effective

[@nerdysophie1815]

Hey girls thank you for another wonderful pod episode. I love seeing different sides of you guys and I love that you guys can be vulnerable with all of us. ❤❤❤

[@annienguyen2197]

I love the energy in this ep, what a great way to start my Wednesday!

[@kaylanrenea1645]

Always LOVE the content baby content (I wore my tank today 💖) but!! I also LOVE the in-depth conversations y’all have been having. love you both! 🤍👑

[@jordanb6443]

17:40 i saw someone yesterday at the fair that looked identical to the loml that passed away in 2021. Literally made me stop in my tracks.

[@aims2350]

My mom had me at 42 with no issues! She had all three kids after 34.

[@anjaraj]

It's ok if she started having kids at 34. But if it was her first kid at 42 it would probably be difficult

[@iridescency]

Mine had me at 41. Honestly would love to do the same because I excelled in academics, but I grew up being scared of my parents not being here anymore when I reach milestones in life so idk.

[@cathleen021]

Omg I’ve never been this early because of timezones 😂❤

[@Kase1313]

Omg alishaaa I can relate on the neck insecurity I literally have the boniest collar bone and my sternum shows no matter how much weight I put on 😭

[@bellahedman2045]

If I’m not correct the term geriatric pregnancy for ages 35+ is based on your biological clock…. Technically you are at your prime around the time when you get your first period 😮

[@mikaylan3543]

Oh my favorite quote is "you are the only person stuck with yourself for the rest of your life might as well love yourself "

[@angelasalinas-so3fr]

You are correct 400 is the recommended daily limit for caffeine lol I definitely hit that mark most days! Especially being a boy mom haha also I have also as well cut down on caffeine for a period so I don’t get used to it!

[@jordanb6443]

19:00 alisha dont put out into the universe that you havent experienced it yet. I hadnt experienced death until i was in grade 11 then 10 people passed in one year that were close to me. Ever since its been inbetween 5-10 people a year. I tend not to get close to people now...

[@DoubleJ111.]

Please bring miss emma to the podcastttttt

[@priscillagarcia4394]

Y’all should do a while week of Halloween looks or like 3 different customes up to Halloween weekend

[@alisalaska1786]

To me, medical terms are really frequently misused and misunderstood by non-medical professionals. Geriatric pregnancy is just an unfortunate name for it😆. Most high risk pregnancies are not much more risky than any other, but that extra monitoring is totally worth it ❤️. I was one of those mamas that needed that and it didn’t make me any more nervous because I understood it was still really unlikely to go wrong.

[@Muahhliv]

What happened to your prettybasic youtube channel? Where u guys did videos?💕

[@deanna.rodrigues]

Great idea Remi you guys should def be London and Maddie

[@katec188]

just so you guys know lemme is not a reputable vitamin company..please do your research!!!

[@clairetrestrail7876]

Yayyyyyyyyy a other episode of pretty braisc podcast I love you girls ❤❤❤❤

[@ElizabethMaffei]

Remi pleeeeease tell us where you got your top!!!!

[@Kelly_9797]

Omg I’ve never been this early 🥹

[@jocelynsantos9843]

My mom always says whenever you dream of someone who passed away it’s because they’re asking for you to pray for them 🥺

[@FaustynaB420]

Jesse McCartney was my first celebrity crush ever lol makes sense Remi and I are both ‘95 babies

[@marissabowman1226]

WHERE is Remi’s shirt from?? I NEED

[@lylaeyoutube]

Both of u look amazing !!!!

[@madayavalos1201]

For PB yall should do tinkerbell&vidia 💚💜 kim&shego 🧡🖤 wilma&betty🤍🩵 black swan&white swan🖤🤍 For BU yall should do shrek💚 or scooby do🤎

[@ashlynnolan5112]

If I forget to take my medicine I have THEE WORST dreams. I’ll wake up and be like be so serious this isn’t necessary. Lol

[@MsAndrea98]

Woohoo early as fuck! I love the Patreon! Love these cause I watch while cleaning

[@abby-anne]

Omg I started watching sir yacht recently too!

[@kristianwasdin7954]

Oh remi I’m 22 and my hips crack all day every day

[@riekatimm]

What?!? I live not even a mile from Soquel!!!!

[@venusbutterflies4485]

can you guys do an episode with mariah 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🪩

[@rilakuma36]

i love u guys pls ur so real

[@albasofiar1833]

Alisha with the caffeine comment: “No I’m only at 280!” 😂 literally me

[@BriAnnaLaNaee]

I’ve never been so early!!!😭

[@kierasimone]

i’m 21 but my body is 90 constant back pain, bones cracking LOL

[@kathleentheg]

Stop it sir yacht! Ohio based creator. He's so funny

[@anonymous-yh9og]

i love being early x

[@courtneyc4]

I mean, if we take things back to nature and how humans have lived since existence, we’re meant to have kids as young as 10-14. When we get our periods that’s our body telling us we can carry a child now and can/should start reproducing. I said should in a sense of reproductive instincts. However in modern society and with money now involved, it’s not that simple. We’re expected to wait until we have financial stability and a support system and doctor visits and the newest cribs and strollers and a child safe car, etc. But back in the day we were just throwing our baby’s on our shoulders while we scavenged for food. Look at the way monkeys and apes care for their kids. I’m sure humans modeled something similarly. Yah we still probably had the family support but didn’t have the fancy stuff. Kids played with rocks and dirt and ate little things off the ground to learn what’s food and what isn’t. Today that’s frowned upon. We also probably have less deaths tho, but honestly the population needs to stop growing for the sake of our planet anyways. We go through menopause at 40-50 but humans were never intended to live this long. That’s why our health declines so much at 30-40. That’s why our brains start forgetting things and our body’s start attacking themselves and shutting down. We’re meant to die from nature, not old age. Predators, illness, eating the wrong berries, starvation, dehydration, death during childbirth, etc. just like all the wild animals around us. We’re essentially cheating the system. I genuinely believe if gods real that he never intended for us to become this smart. I think he’s tried to take us out a couple of times and start new but he failed bcs we were already too advanced. We as humans will never be completely wiped out and able to start new again bcs the rich will always have bunkers and food. The worst of the worst, the cockroaches of the human race, if you will, will always survive. And we’re gonna wipe out all things good from this planet. If you think about medicines, they mostly all come from plants, our foods and vitamins that we need all come from the earth. We were given everything we’d ever need to live and survive the way we were meant to. But we mentally advanced too much. We made fire and weapons and used it to oppress other animals on the food chain and become the top predator. Pretty fucked up if you think about it. What makes us better or more deserving? What makes us different? Nothing. Just our egos.

[@ashlynnolan5112]

Woooohoooooo!!! 💕💕

[@madayavalos1201]

Keep it in check everybody 😂😂😂😂

[@Christina-Claire]

Remi giving Jennifer Lopez The Wedding Planner 😊

[@yarlenyrodriguez5349]

Girl! Haha even my husband was invested in her hair & makeup

[@MellanieAniag]

Anyone else like the lemme sleep gummies?! Why are the ratings so low:/

[@user16224]

they have lawsuits against them bc they have such little amounts of active/effective ingredients that it’s medicinal properties are negligible. they’re basically just gummy candies with no health benefit. anything ur feeling is probably a placebo effect

[@Beautybarbie995]

When you’re pregnant you’re allowed up to 200 mg of caffeine a day! Definitely more than you’d expect

[@Belle_Faye]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@mellalove712]

Nooo 400mg is the general MAX! No more than 2.5 mg per kilogram of body weight. So 400mg is your max if you weigh 175 lbs.

[@13anw]

Remi is a DREAM maid of honor! 🥹💗✨

[@kaylavay3665]

29 seconds ago!!!!!

[@MellanieAniag]

Which ones the episode they get high??!

[@nerdysophie1815]

I think the high episode is on their other podcast’s Patreon

[@lifelover1170]

Medically yes it’s geriatric

[@jennanicolevlogs]

🩷

[@cam5017]

1:45 my hips have been cracking/popping since i was 13 lol

[@kearamoroz5027]

first comment

[@velvetkitty8883]

Lemme products are in a lawsuit rn for not having effective ingredients in a lot of their products

[@VeronicaSunshinee]

Earlyyyyyy