Get Her Attention: 5 Tips For Great First Messages On Dating Apps

[@Queenbg1]

I got no such problem with messages. I got no matches, so nothing to worry about messaging! :)

[@Pharaohdefowl]

@@Queenbg1 I got a prob with all these messages, matches. Lol

[@carlel121]

@@Queenbg1 😅😅

[@TomNook.]

It's kinda difficult to find a point to talk about when most women's profiles are blank, and all their pics are just selfies in her house!

[@HayleyQuinn]

Ugh I know that sucks! I have a video on what to text a woman who hasn't completed her profile. You can find it here: www.hayleyquinn.com/men-blog/3-messages-to-send-a-woman-that-has-no-bio-on-a-dating-app/

[@betha.6279]

Don't waste your time on fake profiles. They are scammers or shallow gold diggers looking to ruin your bank account ....then divorce you for the next guy.

[@jaywilldoit]

Ok then don’t say anything and stay single forever. Problem solved.

[@RobertWarrenGilmore]

​@@HayleyQuinnyooo that's excellent. Thank you.

[@carlel121]

Well my profile is full and explain who I am and what I would like from a partner, only 3 pictures, smiling and natural, I receive a lot of messages maybe like most women.

[@jamesm798]

No matter how good your message is...both guys and girls look at your pics...then they decide whether to message you back...sad but true...we're all just window shopping...

[@deepinspired]

Great tips. Your tone of voice, ability to articulate yourself and your beautiful accent separates you from the online dating coaches. Loved the unusual word tip. Well done Amy!

[@latashawiller8559]

Quick Example given in video 1) So what would it take to get you to quit YOGA and try KICKBOXING instead (based on specific interests) 2) Pose Direct Q's: Nice dogs, do you think they would get along with my cats 3) Use interesting word: Baking? Any chance you bring cookies to your 1st dates. Suffering? Is this a good time to tell you I have a phobia of waves.

[@scottl9660]

I would like to imagine I have an inbox full of messages since…I’m a guy😂

[@brazwen]

I've been on dating apps for a little over a month, contacted around maybe 30 women, had two block me, the rest just looked at profile without responding to my message - not a single one replied to my message. Yes, I used your advice, still the same result. Honestly, it just annoying that women just ghost men like that and they wonder why they're single. I'm at the stage where I think dating apps is just a waste of my time and money.

[@nathelm8693]

I think all of us have that issue. Honestly dating apps are an extension of social media; people use them to satiate that superficial urge for intimacy and attention. Seriously, switch to real life interaction, girls I've met in real life seem to act more genuinely then if I had met them online. The only thing dating apps give me is the discipline to focus on my own life. Say some ballsy shit, don't care about feelings and try immediately asking a girl you matched with to go out in some form.

[@baronvonlimbourgh1716]

They mostly are. Go out amd find someone who isn't just looking for an ego boost. Pictures are all that matter on dating apps. If you're pictures are good you can say what you want and you always get a response.

[@LifeofRGiina]

Men do the same

[@vikibobula8930]

It's particularly noticeable when you don't form short sentences, but rather complete sentences! And the other person is totally surprised! You don't speak like that in everyday life either! I think my normal sentences are either too normal or shocking for normality, the other person has the wrong idea about me? It's a bit frustrating that you mention that you would like to meet normal people! Of course, every taste is important too!

[@bradmarkmichaelduffy5915]

​@@nathelm8693 if that's the case then why do guys still use them, I hear that men are tired of dating apps but that isn't translating to guys leaving them and them going bankrupt?

[@joydixon3440]

Sending messages is one thing, but it's hard to get her to physically met up with me.

[@Cdub0619]

Tip #1 Avoid sending low effort messages. 100% 1st message from women: Hi :)

[@adityanagpal7608]

I think men and women both have to be together and fight for individualism, where we need to fight against any kind of typecasting based on any parameter like gender, financial status, body type etc

[@TedNewkirk]

Let us know when women quit wanting guys who are high-earners and over 6 feet tall.

[@brazwen]

"Muh individualism" Yet the west coming apart because there's no social cohesion due to radical individualism.

[@9StickNate]

Thanks for the tips! I’m an American living in Germany. Women here have the shortest, concrete and pragmatic profiles. I don’t think Germans know what flirting is 😵‍💫

[@baronvonlimbourgh1716]

Flirting? Never heard of that. Please tell me more.

[@thebasquez]

And equally, women will think you are less attractive if you are too "unique" with your message because it will come off as desperate or that you have to put in more effort because girls dont like you Once they think youre an easy catch, its game over. Youre better off sending something bold then being sort of a dick than you are trying at creatively engaging with her. If shes trying back, its because shes already found you to be physically attractive in a way that makes it worth trying without knowing the person. Just because youre "unique" doesnt mean girls will be any more comfortable with you. A girl is comfortable with you when simply she feels like it, which probably is also when she finds you physically attractive first in some type of facet. "No no cuz this guys a dork and we matched" okay sure. Hes a dork, but hes got a good personality. Ehhhh. Just not buying it. Theres something uniquely, PHYSICALLY attractive about him. If a women is not going to feel like youre a leader or a good sexual option, youre toast. Idc how many videos like this are out there. Its 70% luck 20% being at the right place in the right moment and like 10% skill. Proximity is key. Screw making a perfect first message or dating app convo. That will get you probably nowhere.

[@robertmurrayscott9542]

Great content, I appreciate your work on these videos. It could be a little louder. I want to know how to let a girl know I'm interested when we meet in public without coming across as a creep. Also approaching people I don't know.

[@betha.6279]

As a woman I'd respond well to a guy introducing himself and saying he noticed something good about my smile, or personality and was hoping to get to know me a quiet setting like a coffee shop or outdoor restaurant. That's just my preference. I like down to earth guys, like my husband.

[@v5e762]

Harley Quinn would have some interesting first messages.

[@spazmatic05]

This is nice of you to make this video but also I feel that a lot of the women I talk to do not put in any effort for conversation. So I think of ways to make the conversation interesting and it just leads to a response that I’m unable to do anything with. Or they respond hours or a day later. Am I wrong for unmatching these people?

[@Afolayanfavour-f9h]

Thank you Harley... Found it really helpful

[@carlel121]

Some men are so basic, I don’t respond to “hi”, “you are georgeous” “how you doing”, how is your day going? Why? Very low effort, most men don’t know how to start a conversation with a women honestly, but there are some approaches very unique, even funny, even if you don’t like the guy you feel that you want to respond something!

[@chinmeysway]

curious, you’ve sent how many first messages?

[@carlel121]

@@chinmeysway no many honestly but when I do, I never say Hi, how boring is that! You know how many hi, or you are beautiful a woman get? If you can’t be different than the rest, what make you unique?

[@chinmeysway]

@@carlel121you’re misunderstanding or disregard my query. you already made that point. mine is that most all women are actually making less effort than the pathetic “hey baby” or hows your “day going” messages of men type, in that they are not taking their own initiative much. like why not ignore all your inbox clutter and message ppl first that seem good, and steer conversation how you want them to go. it blows my mind further all these ppl that want to smash patriarchy but they’re sustaining a very passive gender role via dating. like i’m a creative good looking interesting person and know other that fit that description and over years on n off online dating received like the tiniest small amount of first messages from women. if we did it was actually “hi” or three other words on many cases. it’s so lopsided!

[@davidhagler8475]

Shit, I just sent a message asking a woman how her day was going. Keep in mind that these are opening lines and if women don't put much on their profile which is often the case then us men really don't have much to start a conversation with. see men have to be the ones to try while it seems like women really don't. I have tried many different approaches and sometimes I get a response and sometimes I don't and that's ok. I have sent long messages and that doesn't seem to work well. Sure I want to ask interesting questions but then I could be crossing a line for the first message. If my first question is what are you looking for in a relationship, then that can come off as cliche too. What's an interesting question? Are women better at asking questions?

[@davidhagler8475]

@@carlel121 Someone is telling you you're beautiful, you see men don't get messages like that often. I wish I had an inbox full if hi's where I could pick and choose. I get where you are coming from but consider that online dating is much different for men than women. If you really want to find a good guy, send him a message first, it will blow his mind.

[@HawanatuKabba-d9j]

How to get a long lasting relationship

[@the_life_of_thang_nho]

Saying what you write to see the tone is a great tip

[@WhenAphroditeSpeaks]

So good, Hayley! Very helpful!

[@khywe9344]

Hayley you really a good coach Love you

[@TerranIV]

Thanks for the great advice and tips! :)

[@Doyourthing04]

Damn. I got no game!

[@Luai1BOOS]

My news is the same still 🔥💪🔥.

[@chinmeysway]

gross 🎉

[@blacksabbath99]

Great tips and I love that the tone of your video doesn’t come of condescending. Keep up the good work!

[@erichowry9356]

Good tips! I just joined Match and all ready have a couple likes!

[@chinmeysway]

from fake profiles

[@InspirasyonKulot]

Thanks for this.

[@Americanpatriot-zo2tk]

Well I can give you the first text for women! Tell them you have money! Tell them that you are a perfect physical specimen! Tell them you have been waiting your entire life just for them! Well those are a few starters! Women are crazy!😀😀😀😀😀😀😀

[@Americanpatriot-zo2tk]

Totally funny dude! Oh wait that’s me!

[@Thorfinna74]

On Bumble, dudes match with me but never reply when I talk to them. Dudes are weird nowadays. Why match then nothing?

[@chinmeysway]

dudes are weird? idk try messaging 30 ppl over a reasonable amount of time, let’s say three weeks: no first messages from women or nonbinary. no replies from anyone in the women category. and i’m talking crafty thoughtful messages ps. nothing. maybe one if twice / 60 messages are sent (?) which i’m not really willing to do. dudes are not the weird ones. ppl who don’t do anything like it’s fucking 1948 where men have to do all ideas and initiation. yet non dudes they want to smash patriarchy and uphold feminism etc according to profile so lol, i’d be okay to say that’s stupidly weird.

[@Pharaohdefowl]

I dont like how you said bout the pic of the dog and made it into a ?. Why can't you say hey how are you?

[@chinmeysway]

bc 300 messages and half of them are that. how are u is dreadfully annoying

[@Pharaohdefowl]

@@chinmeysway flirting is so old. Plus women now a days are very picky and diff. I don't message anyone lol my phone dry. If she wants me come get me cuz I honestly don't know what to say but hey than a tiny compliment

[@zoolmanv5477]

I think dating apps are unnatural. An opener shouldn't have to be "exciting" or "interesting". If you've seen the other person's pics and matched, that should be enough for both sides to participate in an initial conversation. You need at least a few, say 7 or 8 messages to start building rapport and attraction but you need to participate at least for the first few minutes of standard hi/how r u/where are u from talk, without expecting a rush of domapine or extreme sexual tension. If women have become that lazy where they can't even have a conversation now due to the number of matches they get then I have checked out. Going out into the real world...

[@chinmeysway]

tons of real world out out there too yess do it !

[@wvy6965]

Because I'm with the love of my life now (who I met on POF) 5½ years running I'll put this one out there to help some of you guys because it worked flawlessly for me landing me several successful "Flings and Romances". My opener was this "If it took God only 6 days creating Eve, it stands to reason why it took 6000 years creating you". It's corny, it's cute, it's extremely flattering and it shows you have some balls taking a chance using it. You can rendition it however you feel to make it not always sound the same in case you chat to a couple gals who may know each other lol but the keys in it are the 6 days for Eve (who in Christianity was the first woman thus all beauty started from her) so 6000 years for your love interest(s) makes Eve a cheap knockoff in comparison. Happy hunting boys! Oh by the way Hayley I can see why ;)!

[@KurtisStryker2015]

You are the best than you

[@DuckSeason12]

Too many details.

[@user-jr2ue9nu6y]

Tell her the INCEL rebellion has began.

[@ianzulfikri2319]

Se picik itu kah kehidupan percintaan gw

[@baronvonlimbourgh1716]

Dating apps have made women lazy.

[@ElCubanoBlanco-s5u]

Women have always been lazy my man lol

[@sargaa8471]

made everyone lazy me included

[@carlel121]

@@ElCubanoBlanco-s5u😮

[@Dirtbagmoto1]

​@@sargaa8471fr I was gonna say it but you beat me

[@stuartsmith6271]

Hello my name Stuart I am finding it hard to get a response back from lady I am texting her she's not reply back to me can you give a fast tips please from Stuart.

[@TheREVIEWGUY1-ip1wm]

Say something about her pictures away fun stuff like I love that find your dreams

[@chinmeysway]

start by not using words like lady ?

[@keithzizis4860]

11 minutes I’ll never get back. Useless

[@DuckSeason12]

Pretty woman giving advice. Not going to help.

[@chinmeysway]

Zzzzzzzz

[@erik041982]

😂 If guys didn't message women first it would be the total opposite men would have their pic....

[@chinmeysway]

good things it’s not only heteronormative comments on here ohhh wait it is!

[@willpost761]

A lot of men here crying in the comments… No one owes you anything