6 Lessons I've Learned About Online Dating

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Lots of studies have shown that high quality relationships are a large part of our happiness, and in particular, our romantic relationships. Given that one way of finding a relationship is online dating, and that I’ve had my fair share of experiences, I thought I’d create an ultimate guide to online dating. Enjoy x
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0:00 Introduction
0:57 Why Online Dating
2:06 Step 1
3:43 Step 2
7:52 Step 3
9:35 Step 4
11:40 Step 5
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[@aliabdaal]

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[@arin20]

Only Ali can do 6 step routine for dating. 😂

[@unknownname3295]

When brand deals calls 😀. Ali will always deliver

[@FizaKhan-zx5rq]

😂😂😂

[@Lawand]

I swear😂

[@shellyt556]

Dude is methodical in everything. Not a bad thing. Glad he has found a formula that works 😅

[@radio_almaraa]

I laughed so hard when I read the title of the video

[@croguy]

I love the fact that you associate dating with productivity 😂

[@EvelynMoore629]

*I don't know who needs to hear this, but don't chase comfort at the age of labor, so you won't labor at the age of comfort.*

[@EvelynMoore629]

Always put your finances in good care to ensure that your income rises. Wealthy people achieve there financial goals and acquire riches by seeking help from finance pro(s) but many claim to have achieved success themselves.

[@EvelynMoore629]

“The greater the passive income you can build, the FREER you will become.” I feel fortunate to have made productive decisions that have had a lasting impact on my life. Through my finance coach, I've accumulated over a million and recently purchased my first house in January. I've also managed to pay off my mortgage and student loans, and now I'm focused on working towards my retirement by next year.

[@ThompsonAthena10]

That’s a just approach. I’m 52 but my financial life is a mess. Any ideas will go a long way in shaping my life and finances.

[@EvelynMoore629]

I operate a wide range of investments and have achieved massive growth in my finances with the help of my financial professional, making my financial goal a reality.

[@EvelynMoore629]

Sear ch the names if you care!

[@sj4267]

This is the post-date 8: 1. What side of me did they bring out? 2. How did my body feel during the date? 3. Do I feel more energized or de-energized than before the date? 4. Is there something about them I’m curious about? 5. Did they make me laugh? 6. Did I feel heard? 7. Did I feel attractive in their presence? 8. Did I feel captivated, bored, or something in between?

[@tyrone_music]

lol, that transition to the Brilliant sponsorship was so smooth! Nicely done 6:30

[@PokhrajRoy.]

I’m just happy that Ali is dating someone and is happy in life. I wish you both well.

[@ugurfidan9639]

I do not know you but i hope you are (or will) date someone and be happy as well.

[@ssrini2002]

@LaMelo Ball he’s dating his girlfriend

[@SimonLiftsLife]

good luck to you and everyone who reads this comment!!!!

[@Youtuberapiuser]

@LaMelo Ball Izzy Sealey is his GF.

[@thetechcornerbusiness]

Me & hubby met online. 10 years later we are happy married with 2 great kids. Good luck for you Ali 😊

[@CalicoCooperFan]

Good "How to" video. Great content. I like it when you combine information from your personal experience, interviews with thought leaders, and insights you gained from books in your videos. Thanks!

[@anniethecherie]

The way you integrated sponsorship into this video killed me 😂 great video as always!

[@kagisot5479]

lol the way he did it so funny🤣🤣🤣

[@ledieuanhnguyen3198]

@@kagisot5479 definitely didn't skip the ad this time 🤣🤣

[@WhatIsThereTo]

It was the worst!

[@AlexPresa]

I really appreciate those Date Evaluation questions, super helpful with determining how to move forward!

[@s.dittrich8829]

Your videos are so professional! I love your style of editing and I can clearly see the amount of work you've put in :)

[@winandasworld]

Your videos have been helpful Ali. I hope to jump on this as well. I also love the quality of your videos, this is so clean and professional 👏👏👏👌

[@TheKonkehagia]

Thanks for the video! I read also the book that you in the past proposed "How to not die alone" and it was SUPER HELPFUL! thanks also for that!💙

[@sohinidutta97]

The romantic in me is quaking. The scientist in me appreciates this and is invigorated 😂

[@bayyleaf]

thanks for sharing your perspectives around this!

[@kristinaluginina3437]

Omg thank you so much for this video, I think it will save lots of people from trauma.

[@JillWhitcomb1966]

I've been meeting people from the Internet since 2001-- sometimes for dating, other times just to meet up with friends. I've always been open to meeting outside of my geographical area, way way outside of it. I currently live in North Dakota where the dating pool is just a tiny puddle, and it's difficult to make friends here, too. Meeting friends or dating from the Internet has given me opportunities to learn about new cultures, travel hundreds if not thousands of miles away to meet up with friends, show friends around when they have traveled here, and opened up entirely new worlds for me.

[@omerdoganci1802]

The thing about dating is app that they make money based on user retention. The longer single you are the more money they make. There will be matches and dates but it won’t meet the effort you put. I think joining social clubs and activities are much better to have dates.

[@bonkadoom]

some people don’t have much of those in their area tho or they don’t really have the time to actively participate. tbh dating apps are cashing on people who are busy and don’t have the time to go out, meet and connect with people regularly enough to build a relationship with someone organically. or lonely people who have no friends and don’t get introduced to new faces often. kinda sad but nowadays this is the reality for many of us

[@kasuki800]

Step 1: Do Not Buy Any Paid Subscriptions. Ever. Even outside of dating apps. Step 2: idk man what else am i supposed to do, talk to people?

[@YuvirCharles]

Thanks Ali this really worked , I know have 3 wives and am struggling witth child support

[@fahanibrahimhashi]

This is so on brand, I love it!

[@stevewashington2716]

We have the same birthday! In addition, you teach things that bestow the power of financial stability and positive habits, so I applaud you.👏👏👏👏👏 Side note: what microphone do you use for that crisp audio?

[@legendofzoloxolo1425]

I tried for online for 3 years. It’s only people trying to catfish me. Fake accounts. I never got 1 date

[@sheetalkadam2099]

This is absolutely one of the best channels for life!

[@this_is_sha_me_em8426]

That Brilliant Sponsorship transition just popped out the almonds & raisins i was eating out of my mouth😦

[@devilinthebelfry7292]

Know what people also never do, stike up conversation on dating apps. From personal experience. I actually get more conversation from someone in person cos they feel rude ignoring you like they apparently do on dating apps.

[@guillermo5782]

Didn't see that Brilliant sponsorship coming. Nicely put!

[@CapslockActive]

Your placements are great, they almost fit seamless into the video.

[@Squintillions]

My productive guide to online dating: delete dating apps from your phone = save yourself loads of potentially wasted time. Go enjoy your life out in the world.

[@T-Bone99]

yup, absolutely

[@perksinc.4674]

🥺🥺Never thought I'd see a video with him talking about dating ❤️❤️

[@leventemezo5607]

Congrats on your relationship for both of you!

[@himilo101]

Hey Ali, I really enjoy when I am watching your KZbin.

[@riddley4382]

7:10 The sponsor turned up unexpectedly😂

[@sophiewong8501]

Ali is so smooth with the sponsored ads 👏🏻👏🏻 well played 👏🏻👏🏻

[@shravangubbi5670]

Your sponsor plug in was (wait for it..) Brilliant!

[@LuisPedro9]

The beginning is so ridiculous lol. "Why should we care about dating?" "WELL THIS STUDY SAYS... !!!"

[@ArtAngelMouse]

Security concern should be for everyone. I've had multiple female stalkers in the past despite telling them I'm gay and I've had unwanted touching/flirting at work from men. I'm sure victimization of men is underreported, I've never gotten interviewed or surveyed. I've heard some stories about Grindr so I'm keeping my guard up and letting my family know what I'm doing and stuff lol.

[@kyrinbuffalo2244]

Hope you doin well man

[@myoutuber77]

I understand the "stalking" women. Gayism is in fashion right now so when you say you are gay they do not automatically fall for it. If you want to shake women you will need to be more original.

[@JourneyJournalsTravel]

You never disappoint on your content . I like your contents.

[@matthewbridges3147]

The "I'll fall for you if.." transition was smooth

[@AnthonyRecenello]

Great tips Ali! 👌🏻

[@jensenc___]

i gotta say that ad was smooth, didnt see it coming...

[@arin20]

Next video, Six step process of managing your girls tantrum.

[@cedriceric9730]

An evidence based guide

[@isengaurd3795]

@@cedriceric9730 😂😂😂

[@adamsterdam9049]

Just say "relax", if that doesnt work say these, "you must be on your period", "Now i understand why your ex dumped you"

[@selian_]

Very smooth sponsor transition, Ali. Have you been taking cues from Graham?

[@musaibsaid]

Man I was not prepared for that advertisement transition. I fell for it

[@PartosBarbos]

Dating market is market. You should understand demand and supply and your competitive advantages.

[@feyyazkasl8640]

I am probably losing in stock then.

[@Dinomite1]

im bankrupt

[@feyyazkasl8640]

Hey buddy, what can I do for you to feel better

[@kushagrakanoi]

He is the only guy in the world who can associate the word productive with anything and I would believe him 😂

[@varunvarma6028]

That segue was probably the smoothest one I have ever seen on KZbin 6:35

[@joyfultrails]

Never been on a dating app, but they say that a large percentage of the women are just bots. And that the actual women only go for the top 10% of guys. Whereas the guys will go for anything with a pulse. So it just doesn’t work.

[@SergioR00]

Lmao that title is wild. Only Ali could pull that off 😂

[@pinkman1845]

Never expected to see "Productive Dating" line in my life lol

[@suhanivbhatt]

The very title of the video got me goosebumps 😂

[@tornado831]

This is legit reverse clickbait. I thought its gonna be fake and it was exactly as advertised

[@Dinomite1]

That ending speaks volumes

[@Ashishvatsav]

his next video, will be like: How to enjoy productively

[@otavioalexandre7575]

Amazing stuff bro

[@theotherbrief]

This is super helpful

[@lewu492]

loved that photo in the right upper corner at 3:47 😂

[@blinkwithlisa]

What was that 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@murk.mp4760]

that sponsor transition caught me off guard! well played Ali

[@HondaVolk]

My Top 3 Favourite Channels: Ali Abdaal, Alex Renko, Iman Gadzhi! Make my week complete!

[@John-3692]

This is beyond my expectations. I had the privilege of reading something similar, and it was absolutely astonishing. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

[@xPierrex]

Amazing content! I needed to hear this! ;)

[@shirley5970]

Cannot find Hinge in my app store. Guess it doesn't open to every country ;(

[@dewi9611]

I'm a muslim, and I was on online dating but this is my first time hear about Mus, lol. Gonna find someone potential in the local Mosque, ig.

[@Marceline374]

You should make a vid on making genuine friendships in your 20s

[@banandababa]

Omg Ali is in love so cute 🥰

[@beaugreenwood712]

Idk why I’m watching (I’m married) but I also co-sign Hinge! I met my husband off there 3 years ago !

[@katiewilkinson5593]

Is there an app to meet fellow creatives and musicians?😊

[@candycandy319]

4:31 This photo is so funny XD

[@johnwilliamson10]

Activity dates are the way to go

[@sigurdk13]

I am literally on my way to my first date and this video popped up 😅😂😂they are spying on ussss😭😩

[@isathumm4185]

Could you pls link the study of the beginning?

[@KrenzyHD]

very off-topic but I can see the gym progress here Ali ;)

[@SUPRIMAX100]

My Top 3 Favourite Channels: Ali Abdaal, Alex Renko, Iman Gadzhi! Make my week complete!

[@megafabricstextilecompany5533]

Let's goo! Alex Renko isn't really known yet, but that guys content is solid!

[@gtacarkits]

The 2 teenagers that are gonna be huge this year are Nicolas Berndt and Alex Renko fs, Nick's workout vids are the best tbh

[@alexrenko]

Yoo, thanks my man, I'm glad you have been enjoying :)

[@Brandondawsonaz-uw7wv]

Love that combo

[@DamnCreeteur]

This doesn't work

[@areyann1999]

Did anyone calculate the percentages from the graph at 1:27. Cause both are above 100% and it's really annoying me now...

[@user-np5fp8cq8s]

thank you!

[@autoclearanceuk7191]

I cannot download Hinge on my Android phone in the UK.

[@DarKcuS_]

funny how this is not joke video

[@RonPalacio]

Yooo productive dating 🧠🧠

[@MedDeviceEngineerX]

Ali talk about anything else but dating. Ali ain't red-pilled

[@wtfveganfood]

The "players" wink! 🤣

[@feyicoker8686]

Haha … nice transition with I’ll fall for you if

[@anxen]

I haz so many deal breakers I can only match with K drama characters 😂

[@birbtechy2329]

productive dating? okay.

[@juanpablorios8294]

Captain simbad’s video came true

[@urmilabagdas1467]

Nice video

[@snehaarvind4773]

that sponsorship timing tho - too smooth

[@izzakhan3692]

The background music though 😂

[@Alfigordon]

“Prospects” oh Lord god

[@huskygaze]

Productive Dating.... Letsss goooooooo!!!!

[@mdahsanhabibrazon]

Wow Carry On👍👍👍👍

[@FindOnGoogleEarth]

aAliAbsal where u learn editing videos?

[@ZainMiah]

Forgot to mention divorce rates are now higher 🤣🤣

[@sibtain2827]

Time to increase my productivity on Tinder😂

[@namanhajela]

Seamless Plug!

[@Onthehunt_142]

I wonder with all the productivity systems and calendars you use, how do you deal with the fickle nature of women and how do you handle flaking?

[@theamanmarskole]

i feel like dating is more complex than studying physics 😒😒😒

[@awesomebro3659]

what if I barely have any photos? atleast not recent ones.

[@maggenlove]

That Brilliant plug tho 😂

[@sirijanthakur]

Hmm thanks ali

[@Gregski3]

I cant fathom why some girls have profile photos with guys 🤯