Get out of the fight or flight stress response.

[@HalifaxRyan]

How people can thumbs down this is beyond me, this man is a genius, and so many are grateful for his work including me, it gets me through the day. Thank you Dan!

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you for having my back Ryan. Much appreciated.

[@kathleenwharton2139]

I have lived in Fight or Flight Mode for 30 years Now! It is a miracle I am alive. And I have suffered many various and assorted Symtoms..but I am learning! Thank You..Dan..for your good work and your Caring.

[@PainFreeYou]

You are very welcome.

[@deniserouthierledoux8133]

Since discovering you early this week I have been binge watching your videos. You’re calm and deliver your message in that cool and calm way-with a smile on your face. I realized when taking my walk I would be tense-so wound up and now I have been loosening up , being in the moment. Now to work on talking to my brain--in that cool and calm way. Thank you Dan. 😊

[@kathleenwharton2139]

@@deniserouthierledoux8133 Tell yourself..Let Go..A lot! That really helps me.

[@jessicanilsson5941]

Do You have weakness in legs and depersonalisation

[@jessicanilsson5941]

@@PainFreeYouis it Possible to contact You

[@chriscalder0n8]

I’m 24 parents Got divorced at a really young age which cause me to be stuck with this fight or flight mode to support myself which I recently became aware of , I got super sick cause I literally over work myself to the point I couldn’t get out of bed to go work an I bump into this video thanks man really helpful...

[@PainFreeYou]

Really glad to be of help. If you are looking for a few more strategies - this video linked here have my suggestions: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aaetmHWkp815qpo If you'd like more information on what causes chronic health problems, check out the video at: PainFreeYou.com

[@bharatdixit8883]

What are the symptoms?

[@katiejon17]

I’m a wife and mother, and my husband has childhood trauma, CPTSD, depression, and likely a personality disorder (a therapist said this, then my husband never went back). I’ve been with him for 9 years. He really has put in work to improve and heal, and he is a wonderful father. But he is not a good husband, he puts in effort with every other person he comes across, but I’m who gets him without any effort. I’m sad to say that it is horrible. We got together when I was 36, and I never had chronic pain before. I’ve had chronic pain since about 18 months into our relationship, all in my pelvis and back. I’m just now, like in the past week, grasping that it is all emotional. When he’s loving and respectful towards me (or even just bland) I’m fine. When he gets stressed or feeling depressed.pm he takes it out on me... and my back starts to spasm, leading to days (sometimes weeks) of immense pain. I won’t leave him, because as I’ve said, he’s a great father. Our children are little and I know how divorce damages children. The good news is that I’ve learned how much my emotions and “perceived danger” are making my life worse with this pain - so I have something to move forward with now.

[@charlalar14]

Jeez, I've been in fight or flight mode for days now. Like a constant state of anxious, every minute and every second of every day. The symptoms are scaring me. I cannot switch it off. I know there is no reason to be anxious, but I just cannot turn it off in my brain 😭

[@PainFreeYou]

I understand. Here's a video that may help: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aaetmHWkp815qpo Not sure what TMS is? Watch the video at: PainFreeYou.com Not sure if your symptoms are TMS? Take the pain test. DanBuglio.com/paintest Want to end the symptoms: Ending TMS - a summary kzbin.info/www/bejne/aaetmHWkp815qpo

[@alansherwood5319]

how are you doing now?

[@lisarodriguez5388]

How are you now ?

[@mr.reacher2358]

Mine was on off year ago Then stress increased Pain also Symptoms too Vertigos panic anxiety Mild insomnia My symptoms became severe after i burnt out nd didnt care for my mind body Now.they are mild Im recovering thnx dan Ill see u in 🎉 in the success stories inshallah

[@PainFreeYou]

Absolutely will see you in the success stories. You can do this.

[@beingbenign2685]

I appreciate your teachings very much. While I knew I’ve been in fight or flight mode much of my life, I had trouble changing it because I felt I was lying to myself in some way by not facing reality. Your wording has helped… especially the part about saying frightening things to ourselves. I thought “I wouldn’t do that to anyone I love, why am I doing it to myself” that hit home . I also wanted to mention I went on a very very low carb animal based diet 5 1/2 months ago and it greatly lessened my inflammation, and cured my restless leg syndrome, and many other things esp metabolic health. But I still was stuck with my depressive pain Full way of thinking and could not get out of home or entertain hanging with others. So I am working on this now, and it is much easier because I have only a few pains left . This hopefully will help others. Thanks ❤

[@PainFreeYou]

I eat mostly carnivore myself. When I am strict, I feel amazing. Fortunately I have no pains or symptoms to resolve, but overall health, energy, sinus congestion and body weight is so much better on carnivore.

[@beingbenign2685]

@@PainFreeYou I am wondering if you have anything that may help me to deal with grief, I just can’t help despair I feel because I feel I can never have a relationship as special as with whom I lost. I just don’t know how to put in perspective without feeling so victimized. It’s been 10 years of depression since the loss. Thanks

[@PainFreeYou]

@@beingbenign2685 I'm not sure how old you are, but it's never too late to meet someone special in your life. At 58 years old, I am still dating and not in a serious relationship yet. I hold out hope. Begin to envision your ideal partner. Focus on making yourself into the best version of yourself so you can attract that quality of partner into your life. I believe in you. Regarding the grief, I have recorded a few videos on grief: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aKi9hYilo7OAbpo kzbin.info/www/bejne/i4iliYSFpLyontk kzbin.info/www/bejne/eZS2mGZ6fpuDZ7c

[@coreyanderson1457]

If being abused, and/or in an unsafe situation, it is important to be able to stay reasonably calm. Because it's very hard to think clearly and intelligently when in freeze fight or flight. It's as though the brain literally just can't think, and when scared and overwhelmed, that unfortunatly starts to kick in.

[@PainFreeYou]

If being abused in an unsafe environment do what you can to get out of that situation.

[@franceshaggitt3104]

I was by my ex then my son. He had to go live with his dad. I don't hear off him now which is sad

[@amyfield9496]

Hello Dan . , I've been watching your videos after suffering with debilitating embedded uti pelvic floor dysfunction, tinnitus and muscle spasms and severe pelvic pain 😢 struggling with this journey .. enjoying watching your videos very much

[@22nouvelle]

I happen to be in a toxic household that has set me on fight or flight: I can’t just move overnight so I have to tolerate it for now. This state has been affected my romantic relationship and I really want to change it.

[@PainFreeYou]

I understand. But I got well in the middle of my marriage falling apart. You can still get well. kzbin.info/www/bejne/qqixnWqfq5l-Zrs

[@Ardian1311]

My Thoughts are literally make me sick so i reflect on it and this are just thoughts you recognize them just as thoughts you are in Control because there are not real

[@rle440]

I have been in the fight or flight stress response to some extent for years and it is no wonder that I deal with the various chronic pains and sensations. Your videos make it so much easier to understand the process.

[@PainFreeYou]

Really glad to hear that.

[@bagelbomber110491]

Wish I had found your page a long time ago, thank you!

[@PainFreeYou]

You're very welcome!

[@ashishpari179]

Chinese proverb: best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago.. And next best time is now.

[@Nauseousjohn85]

Very helpful. Just discovered sarno’s books a week ago. Thank you. The “oh no” vs. “oh well” video really helped me last night. I had myself convinced I had an autoimmune disease for almost 2 years. Realizing it is tms. Bloodwork normal, nothing extraordinary in MRIs. Realizing now I can greatly reduce or even turn off the pain (but it’s temporary and moves somewhere else). First time I’ve felt hopeful in a while.

[@hew195050]

The awareness now is ALL talking about the same thing. Eckart, Mooji, Sarno, Gabor Mate etc. Everything is what you feel. Everything is what you believe. Trauma is the issue.

[@dianascilla2845]

I wish I saw this video back in 2017 when I was going to college. In the fall of 2017 I broke up with my girlfriend. I thought she gave me a disease and I prolonged going to a doctor for a a year and half. It ate me up night and day. The thought of having a disease set off my fight or flight response. I really am disappointed because I went and got checked two years later and I had nothing. But the damage was done. Believing that fear ruined my life. I can’t even get out of the parasympathetic mode. I have no drive, no appetite, I can eat and not get full, chronic pain, sleep is deeply disturbed, I can’t sleep for more than an hour without waking up. This has been going on since the fall of 2019. Only time it seemed to get better when I smoked weed for 4 months. My best advice for anyone that’s experiencing a constant fight or fight response. Stop it or you’ll wind up similar to me. It really sucks I don’t wish it on anyone. Thank you for the video. Any tips to help reverse this would be awesome :/ I’m so depressed

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes, the way out is the opposite of what got you where you are today. Learn to turn down the fear with accurate information that your body is actually fine. My suggestions are in this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aaetmHWkp815qpo And watch my videos: kzbin.infovideos I post a new one every single day - free coaching all on how to settle down a nervous system.

[@ravireddyism]

Does your ex even know what you are going through and how she was responsible for it?

[@giakhalsa7971]

I have been healthy all my life, but have been plagued with aches snd pains. I have used natural remedies and exercise, yoga, dance. And those things have helped. But these teachings that you bring are the real key to bring balance, ease and pain free for me . Thank you so much .

[@PainFreeYou]

You are so welcome. :-)

[@hanspeter5372]

What if the fight or flight turns down by itself ? If ur not hyper focused on it and try to do things which are important to your life despite the symptoms. I find that thought helpful. What if there is no problem to be solved anymore. But y probably the hardest thing to do when symptoms are high. To have the trust that you can lean back a bit.

[@PainFreeYou]

The body self regulates. It's our job to create the feeling of safety and not fuel the perception of danger with our thoughts and behaviors. DansfastStart.com

[@tien6592]

I am going through it right now.. learning to live is like a rebirth

[@PainFreeYou]

Fantastic.

[@nicky9173]

Yup it feels like a baby learning to walk

[@cheryl8493]

OMG Dan.. This is me I’ve listened to this video before but today it so resonates thank you thank you❤

[@PainFreeYou]

You are very welcome.

[@calvinwilson3617]

I dont experience chronic pain (i used to but had a surgery which resolved the issue), but i do have pretty extreme anxiety symptoms/attacks and your videos are extremely helpful for me. Thank you so much, I finally feel like I understand what's going on and why I start to feel so bad despite nothing actually being wrong

[@parttimedrummer2064]

Nothing builds stress more that chronic pain.

[@PainFreeYou]

True, but there is a solution.

[@zoemilinkovic]

Great suggestions for turning off the Fight-Flight system! Great video, as always!

[@PainFreeYou]

Thanks again!

[@kathyk2777]

Hi, Dan, I'm a fairly new subscriber and I am getting so much value from your guidance. You mentioned breathing in this video...what are your thoughts on nose breathing vs mouth breathing and how each can engage either the para or sympathetic nervous system? I tend to wake up with very dry cotton mouth, and in researching this I found it is due to mouth breathing during sleep. Then I learned that mouth breathing engages the sympathetic nervous system, whereas nose breathing engages the parasympathetic. I tried to consciously nose breathe, and it felt really awkward, which tells me perhaps my constant mouth breathing has been contributing to my living in fight or flight for so long from past trauma. It's just been a few days of practicing nose breathing during the day and using mouth tape during sleep, and I'm feeling calmer already. I will also use the advice in this video to continue the soothing/stress balance I need. Thank you, Dan, for what you do.

[@PainFreeYou]

I haven't heard much about mouth versus nose breathing as it relates to TMS. We cannot control our mouth breathing during sleep, so I wouldn't worry about it. During the day, you can influence your breathing slightly by noticing if your mouth is open or not. Which type of breathing makes you feel better/safer? Do that. Deciding you are doing it wrong and stressing about it likely adds more fear than just breathing in whatever way you do.

[@jessicanilsson5941]

Is it possible to have weakness in legs arms , im been in fight flight all time .. My daughter trigger my trauma ( Cptsd ) how to heal ???? Have so much pain, anixety, depersonalisation, inflammation in my face

[@jessicanilsson5941]

Is it possible to have weakness in legs arms , im been in fight flight all time .. My daughter trigger my trauma ( Cptsd ) how to heal ???? Have so much pain, anixety, depersonalisation, inflammation in my face I am unsafe in my body and life and my nervous system been so sensitive

[@giakhalsa7971]

Also your voice is very soothing

[@casario2808]

The other thing too is taking wise efforts to calm down the amygdala - there are many ways to do it and its not a mystery, its in our sphere of control and can apply techniques every time. Whereas for me the deeper emotional processing is tougher, less obvious, a bit of an unknown landscape. Not to say it isnt important to address MBS, but I agree that getting out of the "reactive" mode is the first and most fundamental thing if nothing else than to keep things from getting worse, or triggering even more issues (anxiety, depression) that can happen if we stay in the stress response too much/long.

[@moreenmurray]

Thank you Dan...I came to your channel via The Steady Coach and have PPPD - a lot of what you say overlaps and it makes so much sense. Can't wait to watch more.

[@PainFreeYou]

Welcome aboard! Yes, she and I are very in sync on our recommendations.

[@zookeeperification]

For some reason, this one popped up on your FB page this morning and I really needed to hear this message TODAY. For the last few days I have awakened, not in physical pain, but in the crazy world of anxiety which for me is worse than physical pain. I come to my journal first thing and I try to get rid of it. Realizing that pushing it away with great fear wasn't helping, I tried to accept it and have an open house as you have suggested in the recent past. (I simply love that imagery, btw.) But this anxiety is a hard friend to accept. So... THIS! I realize once again that I am working too hard. Today I will try harder (LOL) to have fun. :)

[@PainFreeYou]

It's interesting. Anxiety is not a problem to be solved. It's simply another feeling that, while uncomfortable, is not dangerous. If we simply stop resisting it and stop trying to get rid of it and allow ourselves to feel anxious - it will pass. Many people give themselves anxiety attacks trying to get rid of.... anxiety.

[@zookeeperification]

Pain Free You So I just reread this. I needed to rehear it today.

[@dianascilla2845]

It’s really asinine to torturing yourself. Your fight or fight response scam be triggered by just a negative thought. I’ve done it plenty of times and I didn’t know anything about the parasympathetic or sympathetic system until it was too late. I was always in the sympathetic nervous system for the majority of my life. Now I’m just cruising in the parasympathetic mode which is not good tbh. It’s no fun not stressing about things that need attention. Like your hygiene, parents, your significant other. It can literally mess w h your entire body. Sex for example feels really good when your sympathetic nervous system is healthy. Trust me I don’t enjoy sex anymore and it’s because my bodies adrenaline is worn out :/ I really hope people watch the entirety of this video.

[@PainFreeYou]

It's never too late to teach your brain you are safe. When that happens the nervous system self regulates and calms down.

[@pamalatrynovich4817]

The adrenal glands are totally responsible for how you feel. I take GABA 750 mg four times a day along with L theanine 200 mg three or four times a day. Helps to relax.

[@PainFreeYou]

Thoughts create emotions too. What if we didn't believe everything we think?

[@jasminevaughn5214]

it just feels like something is turned on.. it just won't cut off. happen after a panic attack

[@PainFreeYou]

The concept I have introduced called perceived danger pain/symptoms explains a lot. Give it a watch. kzbin.info/www/bejne/qp-4Z354dttonMk

[@chewlay111]

Hey 👋🏽 I tried your website but it doesn’t work - do you offer 121 calls?

[@ocrodger]

Hey Dan this is my main concern right now is fight or flight. My challenge right now is how to turn it off. It's on 24 hours a day 7 days a week and I'm trying so desperately to turn off fight or flight. I could sure use some help on that. It's my challenge of the day, the week, the month. Please direct me to where I can get additional assistance for this. I need to turn off the fight or flight response in my head and just saying to my brain stop it doesn't seem to get it. I'm scheduled to talk to psychiatrist about this in the next week. I don't want to go on drugs I want to do this naturally. I'm being a fool? Please sir let me know your thoughts. I'm new to your web page and I'm trying so hard to get over this TMS. Thanks Rodger

[@PainFreeYou]

Rodger. Trying "desperately" to get out of the stress response is keeping you in it. Fight or flight is simply a state that you are in right now. The solution is calm. Being in fight or flight is not the problem, it's the result of the problem. Perceived Danger. The best way I can assist is to have you start from the beginning. My getting started page is a great place to learn more and assess your situation. Once you do that, there are a couple paths you can follow. All on this page: www.PainFreeYou.com/start

[@sabs1970]

0 seconds ago Hi there Dan I am totally trapped in fight or flight frozen the Anxiety the worst ever is so bad am sure it's going to kill me'most doctors in UK just want to put me on meds also on nighty zopiclone for sleep these are Not helping me indeed I feel making me worst zopiclone are a horrible ! sleep med Dan I know when the fight & flight is about to hit ! me like a express train your video is spot on in the breakdown about the triggers & mind tools to recovery Dan ps I have just signed on to your Facebook page cheers my friend

[@Vicky-he9vd]

If I've been in fight of flight a couple of years, could that taken all my energy so I can't go for walks, or I got so week in 2-3 days after just activating myself a little..? Thank you , I will now start with all your tips🙏✨✨✨

[@PainFreeYou]

Vicki, fatigue is definitely stress related. Watch this video for my thoughts in this area. kzbin.info/www/bejne/oV7dfXaHqN1_d7c

[@stoner2055]

I’m going to start listening to your videos every single damn day my man ! ❤️

[@PainFreeYou]

Awesome - thanks for listening. Here's the channel and video archive: kzbin.infovideos

[@kevinlewis473]

Stuck in fight and flight for 6 years and stopped sleeping I am living in a state of hell

[@PainFreeYou]

Your number one job is convincing your brain that you are SAFE. If you know what TMS is and believe you have it, you are safe in your body. This video explains what I believe is necessary to end symptoms.

[@TheBowlden]

I have to for 6 years and its effecting everything in my life except sleep. I sleep like a rock. My only issue is when I'm in it I cough a lot. And it's like living in hell. I'm beyond tired.

[@munkab8462]

Love you ❤ very informative thankyou

[@PainFreeYou]

You are welcome.

[@santabala6314]

I heart that propanolol helps to break a pattern of flight or fight response, many people use that.

[@Goddddsds]

Great video. I have a question, Can horror/ suspense movies also increase back pain due to adrenaline rush?

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes, absolutely

[@1STBUCKLEY]

Getting assaulted and feeling a real fight or flight situation made me realise my anxiety and panic attacks albeit scarey and still releasing all the chemicals were not the same. Silver lining

[@peterwu8471]

Yeah - this is what I need - I have been trying for weeks. It seems I am stuck and so my muscles are aching all over. I am trying to get re-frame my thoughts today. Accept the thoughts, let them go.

[@PainFreeYou]

kzbin.info/aero/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H

[@saram5659]

I get often into fight flight because of subconscious fear, I often don't notice the trigger until my symptoms flared so bad I can barely talk. (For years I didn't even know what triggered them, so I really didn't fear it, but my body did!) So I had to learn to calm my nervous system via the body, because thinking "I'm safe" didn't help at all, because I never consciously felt unsafe. I think many people can't recognize the roll of stress because they are not aware of it, because it all happens subconsciously and very fast. (For example getting symptoms from loud noise, heat, high heart rate)

[@PainFreeYou]

Great point. The first signs of stress are often felt in the body. Becoming body aware and noticing if our breath becomes shallow, or our chest feels tight, if our body is tense can absolutely help.

[@SacredVisions-]

This video is 2 years old and I’m glad I’ve found this because I’m constantly stuck in fight or flight mode. Constant panic attacks, racing heart, shortness of breath. This is so hard to get out of.

[@PainFreeYou]

A great place to begin is DansFastStart.com

[@MsEdwin9000]

I feel you I wake up in fight or flight, need to find a way out of this.

[@PainFreeYou]

How you respond is key. Trying to fix morning anxiety makes it worse. Allow it to pass. kzbin.info/www/bejne/eniZiYlteJujiNU @@MsEdwin9000

[@SacredVisions-]

@@MsEdwin9000 your not alone been suffering from this since December if it’s not one symptom, there’s a new symptom

[@birdienumnums1]

My face is showing my red alert mode I look haunted.

[@MIKELPN]

I need to practice this until it becomes automatic

[@cdracos1]

Anxiety is just another symptom imperative. Many people juggle between, anxiety and physical symptoms , one is up and the other is down alternately . Did you personally go through the anxiety side of tms or did you only have back and leg pain ?

[@PainFreeYou]

I have certainly had my bouts of anxiety over my years on this planet. I still do.

[@cdracos1]

@@PainFreeYou like a snail surrounded by hungry birds , only to realise it left its shell at home.

[@20LookInside12]

Making a playlist to listen to while playing jazz etc... I have chronic migraines, and doing the TMS wiki program years ago helped amazingly. WHY am I so resistant to doing it again? Migraines have gotten much worse. Singing is REALLY helpful. Just a lullaby or an old traditional song is easy to try. Great advice. I wake up with anxiety every day, and the migraine follows immediately. The abortive meds aren't working much anymore. I also notice my tongue (although clean!) is grey/white when I get migraines. It's like I'm suffocating on anxiety. When I am energised and healthy - my tongue is pink and healthy. I am also very fit and active - exercise very much WHEN I have no migraines. Migraines are literally Killing me. Suicidal ideation comes with each one.

[@PainFreeYou]

I understand how distressing this can all be. But when you KNOW that it's merely a stress response and nothing physically wrong, you can embrace an approach that leads out out of this pain cycle. This video has my suggestions. Embrace and implement these concepts and you can get well. Many have. kzbin.info/www/bejne/aaetmHWkp815qpo Here is a success story for migraines from a couple weeks back that may give you some hope: facebook.com/PainFreeYouNow/posts/770495697041564

[@cdracos1]

Looking around I am perfectly safe! ..... But if I don't get up now my sausages are going to burn ! 🙊.....yep!... Thanks Dan, burnt them ! 😵

[@PainFreeYou]

haha - pay attention to the cooking.

[@rebecca_stone]

Lol, awwww dude I really wanted to hear what you have to say. But the drilling or whatever it is in the background was so agitating I couldn't take in your words! Ironic, or are you testing out our calming skills already, ha! I love your content though - will watch this on mute with subtitles.

[@PainFreeYou]

Likely someone doing yardwork and using some machinery. My apology. I have nearly 2000 videos - most don't have that background noise. My fast start playlist is a great place to get the fundamentals. DansFastStart.com

[@mikeel-asmar2376]

A mother can’t get any damn rest or recovery

[@Russellrodberg]

Every morning i get out of bed with real pain, can't stand straight on bend over, so i started thinking of the moment I do these 35 min exersice after morning coffee, the thought and exersice helps to a certain extent, any other ideas to cope?

[@PainFreeYou]

This is my entire roadmap to ending pain. kzbin.info/www/bejne/aaetmHWkp815qpo Right now you have a conditioned response and expect to hurt upon waking. Begin to teach your brain that there is NO reason to hurt in the AM. The exercise is keeping you focused on the body when the pain is coming from the mind. The framework taught in the video above is what I recommend.

[@taikuncio]

Is it possible for your subconscious to be in fight-or-flight but you don't realize it? I actually feel quite stress-free (consciously) and do a lot of meditation but I have very stressful dreams at times and often wake up in the middle of the night feeling very agitated and definitely in fight-or-flight mode. Any thoughts on how to deal with this?

[@PainFreeYou]

My take is that fight or flight is the response in the body. It can be caused by real danger, perceived danger, thoughts or dreams. It sounds like you are doing a great job when awake of soothing yourself and calming your fears to keep you out of that stress response. Other than some proactive visualization as you lay down to bed about having a restful sleep combined with a practice of gratitude as you drift off, I don't really have any suggestions for stopping intense dreams. What I would suggest is that if you do wake up agitated and in the fight or flight mode, go right to soothing. Reassure yourself that it was just a dream, breathe deeply and bring yourself out of it as soon as possible. And most of all, it's not a big deal. Sure, it's not comfortable and not preferred, but it's not harmful. Try not to view this as a massive problem to solve. And certainly try not to go to sleep fearing that it will happen each night. I'm no expert on dreams, but these are the things I think may be helpful.

[@snowyholman]

Oh bum I have this - anxiety and have a long history of tms. Love John Sarno x

[@PainFreeYou]

Anxiety / Fear / Danger is the issue. Safety is always the solution. kzbin.info/www/bejne/qp-4Z354dttonMk kzbin.info/www/bejne/a4TWfKF3nKappLs

[@maryannkass196]

Needed this subject matter. Thanks!

[@PainFreeYou]

Hey MaryAnn - really glad this video was helpful for you. :-)

[@samsher6037]

Really thankful for the video.

[@stevemarx6204]

I’ve been stuck for 7 years now and I need help !

[@PainFreeYou]

Steve, one of the ways you can get help is through some coaching. Two choices. 1 on 1 or through my course and group membership. I'm booked out for a month for my 1 on 1, but the group which includes the video course can be joined at any point and we have weekly group sessions on Wednesdays. 1pm and 7pm Eastern time zone. Details here: PainFreeYou.com/join

[@mindful__gardener]

My limbic system is constantly reacting and in alarm. I react to most foods and chemicals and smells and major fatigue. Alot of things trigger me easily. This all started after surgery and antibiotics

[@PainFreeYou]

My overall recommendations are in this video. While I mention pain a lot, the same exact concepts are able to teach the brain and entire nervous system to settle down. kzbin.info/www/bejne/aaetmHWkp815qpo

[@mindful__gardener]

@@PainFreeYou this is what I was thinking. Doesnt have to be just pain, can be other symptoms.

[@PainFreeYou]

@@mindful__gardener YES, stress illness / TMS can cause all sorts of symptoms. This page shows all the wild stuff it can cause: PPDAssociation.org/symptoms Check it out.

[@mindful__gardener]

@@PainFreeYou wow that's mind blowing. What are their methods of healing is it through confronting stress and past trauma?

[@PainFreeYou]

@@mindful__gardener My methods are all about teaching your brain that you are safe NOW and calming down the brain. Once the brain calms down, the nervous system and limbic system settle down too. My approach is in the video here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aaetmHWkp815qpo I don't believe confronting stress and past trauma does much to convince our brain and nervous system that it is safe now.

[@williamsanders5554]

what would you suggest when your hobby or exercise literally puts you in a life threatening situation?

[@PainFreeYou]

Can you be more specific?

[@williamsanders5554]

@@PainFreeYou I recently made the connection that rock climbing (among other things including life's daily responsibilities) has been putting my body in a TMS based stress response causing chronic pain. I can't stomach the thought of giving it up, but there are literally instances where i'm putting myself in positions that would end very poorly if i were to mess up. i try to reduce that risk as much as possible, but my subconscious is apparently very much aware of what's going on.

[@PainFreeYou]

@@williamsanders5554 TMS doesn't start because you are doing something you love that has an element of danger to it. It starts to protect us from an emotional world our brain perceives we can't handle or doesn't fit with our self image. Follow the steps in this video to learn the essential elements to ending TMS pain: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aaetmHWkp815qpo

[@patriciaolds9408]

Wow! Wow! Wow! So right on! Great info! Thanks again for these wonderful videos!

[@PainFreeYou]

You are so welcome

[@nmash6835]

I feel very fatigue around the afternoons when my kids come back from school, I can't function and play with them.

[@PainFreeYou]

Fatigue is very often the brains perception of danger. A good place to understand more is: www.PainFreeYou.com/start

[@jawedoryakhel4737]

Hello dear my name is jawed actually I'm stuck in fight or flight mood and stress responses if I mood to a different area I feel okay but if I come back to my old area then my body kicks me in stress response and my body becomes so havey why iam like this all the time because of my anxiety

[@PainFreeYou]

When the brain perceives danger, it creates symptoms. The solution is safety. A good place to learn more and begin is my getting started page: www.PainFreeYou.com/start

[@nmash6835]

I feel agitated in my head, I can't sit still and I feel doomed what do you think this is.?I feel like im going crazy.

[@PainFreeYou]

It's all perceived danger creating the thoughts. But here's the cool thing, we don't have to believe our own thinking. You are not going crazy. kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2e9Z36FbMdjoqc

[@ritalacour1985]

I have had pelvic pain for 8 years because of fight or flight. My doctors say my pelvic nerves are stuck causing horrific burning in my vagina. I am seeking nerve blocks or a surgical process called interstim. Your information is very helpful but I may be out of time to help myself. Thank you, Rita

[@PainFreeYou]

Why are you out of time? If the pain is caused by the brain and TMS, how will nerve blocks solve a problem in the brain?

[@cdracos1]

Do Dan's pain assessment on the painfreeyou website, before going under the knife . You owe at least that to yourself. 💜

[@peterwu8471]

I wonder how long it takes for pain to subside, if it's only been going for a couple months and we get our of fight or flight.

[@PainFreeYou]

Pain will subside when someone has successfully neutralized the fear and the brains perceived danger. It's different for everyone. kzbin.info/www/bejne/jITQhZhur7WLnpI kzbin.info/aero/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H

[@maharanirns]

Hi Dan, this video is a great help, definitely TMS,, can i email or contact you privately, thank you, mary, ireland

[@PainFreeYou]

You can reach me through the contact form on my website: www.painfreeyou.com/contact

[@patmattingly5815]

What about fibromyalgia? I'm trying hard not focus on it. But pain bad

[@PainFreeYou]

Fibromyalgia is created by the brain. Which means it can be reversed with the concepts I teach daily. Learn more here: www.PainFreeyou.com/start And my take on Fibromyalgia along with several Fibro success stories: kzbin.infosearch?query=fibromyalgia You can get well too.

[@monishareddy1]

thank you Dan ! you always give actionable steps that make sense

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad to help

[@ThaRealHomer]

Good video. An argument with my girlfriend turned my fight or flight on 3 days ago and I got the fuck out of there but have been stuck in this panic attack mode ever since even though we have made up since. The body is a strange unit. Thanks for the info

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad to help. Focus on safety. Despite the relationship issues, you are safe and no need to panic. You are safe. You are okay.

[@laurainfinity1390]

Great talk yes I suffer with bad anxiety so it increases my pain and all I do is think about my pain from the time my feet hit the floor until bed I really must change my thought process because it consuming my life with causes depression and all I want to do is sleep and cry not a way to live..

[@PainFreeYou]

If you want more direction, check out my getting started page: www.PainFreeYou.com/start - the concepts apply to anxiety just as much as pain.

[@Wabbajack21]

Im a 31yo man, my mind feels like a 7 year old sometimes. Im immature and emotional. I put my wife and kids through hell and she wants a divorce. I had reached bliss once before and now im stuck in my thoughts. I really need to let go of stuff and move on, build self confidence ect. But its so hard right now. Im trying to let go of pain of marriage, molested at 5 and 7 years old, neglected childhood, and now discovered my son and i are autistic. I dont want to hurt others anymore. I dont want to dump my pain on my wife anymore. Someone help me please.

[@PainFreeYou]

I might suggest you rename your profile. Calling yourself pathetic is likely not helpful. I'm very sorry you had such a tough childhood. Awful stuff. A few videos that may help. kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2e9Z36FbMdjoqc kzbin.info/www/bejne/fXPIlKKBZ9Bsac0 kzbin.info/www/bejne/a4TWfKF3nKappLs kzbin.info/www/bejne/n4OspKh3jb6mp5Y kzbin.info/www/bejne/mKazYYGJhNCEd6c Your story says you are broken. Changing that story and not believing those thoughts is the beginning. kzbin.info/www/bejne/r3u1qqePYquWptk

[@Wabbajack21]

@@PainFreeYou thanks this helps. hope i didnt drag you down too much. remember you arent responsible for everyones pain, your videos alone are enough. thanks for your kind response. im in a better mental state now. i remember making this comment and since then thinking about it sometimes and hoping i wasnt infecting someone with it. namaste.

[@Rinzist23]

Thank you sir. Thank you for helping me and others get closer to the root cause.

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad I could help

[@larryc1964]

Just browsed for this subject and got a video from good ole Dan. This is my missing link to work on FIRST!

[@PainFreeYou]

Awesome.

[@lstcota]

Hi Dan. Thank you for all your videos. Can you talk about coming off some of the psychiatric medication that causes withdrawal symptoms? Such as benzoclonopines?

[@PainFreeYou]

If you search within my channel for "medication", the first three videos talk about my general thoughts on it. This is not medical advice, just my thoughts. kzbin.infosearch?query=medication

[@deniserouthierledoux8133]

I too am in my late 60’s suffering with high anxiety ---then the back starts to hurt. Is talking to my brain helpful with Generalized anxiety disorder? I ‘ll find out from taking your advice about talking to my brain. Massively uncomfortable is how I feel.

[@orchidsnlyme1564]

I always freeze when in a bad situation or when im very stressed but today I had trauma rage 😔!!! Never had that before!!!! Scared me that I had that awful embarrassing freak out response to a bad situation!!! I literally felt like I was fighting for my life 🫣!!! Your video has helped me understand why because....yeah I realized I haven't been sleeping, been dissociated, very stressed out, not eating well and putting everyone else first!!! My CPTSD has been really bad lately!!! Will take your advice 🌻 thank you

[@Osvie01-uc8go]

TMS?

[@jackiec1175]

Absolutely brilliant presentation & elaboration. Thanks, Dan.

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad it was helpful!

[@Zeepjeliefs]

Hello, I'm new to the channel. I really enjoyed the video, it's like a one on one talk and I like the simplicity and calming nature. My symptoms of chronic fatigue began after my relationship ended later got worse after I felt betrayed by my best friend. I suffered a lot of grief and had ongoing confusement and thoughts over the losses. Now I'm suffering from chronic fatigue after covid. Not to blame anyone, I think I was just overwhelmed by lifes events. I did not even think of it being connected possibly. I do believe in recovery, thank you for the video.

[@annaberg1200]

Talk about freeze mode

[@privateperson5769]

Such a good reminder and great tips - really is essential and makes a difference! TY .

[@PainFreeYou]

You are so welcome!

[@_cr8ive_]

I've been in pain now for going on 8 years and find that Anger has now become an additional emotion that I need to deal with, because I just cant release this "THING" that is stuck in my Colon . . . this intense energy sucking discomfort . . . whatever it is...😵‍💫😖🤦‍♂

[@katrijndepuydt1355]

Thank you!

[@cherylmiers-hv4nc]

Thank you this is me with thoughts I now realise its why I got pppd.

[@PainFreeYou]

Wonderful. Focus on safety now. That's the way to recover. kzbin.info/www/bejne/jITQhZhur7WLnpI kzbin.info/www/bejne/a4TWfKF3nKappLs

[@k4xxxminecrafter792]

I know this video is 4 years old, but thank you so much for these back then and now!!!!! ❤

[@PainFreeYou]

My pleasure.

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

Omg I was, to late my thoughts were horrible and hoppa I went straight to the fight and flight zone grrrr working now hard to stay calm will go for a walk also I am very angry about everything my symptoms people situations I know that it is the tms am sooo fat up with everything... Don't have many friend to go to right now grr try to relax but soo difficult now am breathing deep now will sing in the dunes will practice with your help in this video... Thank you Dan not a good day I quess

[@PainFreeYou]

A bad day is just that. A bad DAY.

[@Lenneke8422-b3t]

@@PainFreeYou ok it is, a bad day pfff

[@giselevandendorpe9129]

The more I work on myself the more new painsympthoms I get😢...I dont get it.....

[@supratim17roy]

Daily affirmations 10-15 min for 1 month. Will it help?

[@PainFreeYou]

Affirmations by themselves may or may not be enough. Also depends a lot on what you are saying and whether or not you are believing them. Here are my suggestions: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aaetmHWkp815qpo

[@Whylieaboutme]

I have been married for 25 years and my husband was diagnosed with mental illness 5 years ago. He refuses to stay on his meds and becomes verbally and emotionally abusive as a result. I am in the process of getting out of the marriage but can't leave until I find an affordable place to go. I have pushed down my anger, pain, rage, hurt, sadness, depression etc., for years. It is simply unsafe for me to express any negative emotions. I know I am constantly in fight or flight but I don't know how to make myself feel safe. I am also having trouble feeling my emotions because I just feel kind of numb. I know I am sad and angry about things but I don't actually "feel" those emotions anymore or know how to release them. Any suggestions you might have would mean so much.

[@shiveed1]

You are amazing, Thank you. I just discovered you less than a week ago and been listening

[@PainFreeYou]

Wow, thank you!

[@veryfinepeopleonbothsidesb62]

I'm in fight.or flight right now. For 3 years and yes I'm scared. Tried Everything !

[@woah6958]

This works really well. Even just an icepack or cold flannels on your forehead, temples, and cheeks will reduce your heart rate too. kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZmG1fJtsg7eAp8U

[@veryfinepeopleonbothsidesb62]

@@woah6958 thank you. I need help.!

[@woah6958]

Looks weird but works well

[@josh7916]

Did it affect your sleep

[@veryfinepeopleonbothsidesb62]

@@josh7916 I sleep OK

[@MorComm]

As long as my late mother was alive, even in a debilitated condition, I must have felt essentially safe because none of my TMS back pain or sciatica manifested as symptoms until about 3-months after her death in 2001. Until then I was always being a good over-achieving No. 1 son. But shortly after her death I blew off a contract that I didn't like very much and began a fanatical program of trail running. One night of course when I got back to my late mother's house (which I'd just inherited mind you), I was struck down with a major back attack that led to 6-months of physical therapy. Which of course worked for a while. But the next time I suffered a major emotional loss, bango the sciatica and LBP came back with a vengeance, triggered of course by you guessed it, a fall I took out trail running. Looking back you can sure detect the pattern!

[@PainFreeYou]

In hindsight, yes. While it's happening? Not so much.

[@MorComm]

In hindsight the powerful unconscious symbolic pattern sure stands out though! But looking ahead is actually the scariest part. Is that one reason the pain persists?

[@peachesmcgee4795]

Mine started after the death of my Mum too. For me,I think it was the upset and trauma of seeing her be so ill and of course the devastating loss :(

[@MorComm]

@@peachesmcgee4795 Yes, loss & separation from a parent really makes you feel insecure and unsafe too. Really activates the neural pain pathways in the brain.

[@peachesmcgee4795]

@@MorCommyes,that makes sense.

[@jenniferpullen559]

I still keep feeling the fight and flight. It started up 8 weeks ago and just won’t settle down. I am exhausted. I don’t know what kicked it on. Whenever I do the breathing I hyperventilate or over breathe. I meditate and I take breaks. Just not sure what to do to get this to settle down. Thanks for your great video though. You have some good suggestions. I just have not succeeded at settling down

[@Peacemakerblue]

Talking about survivor instincts why am I more easily triggered (disturbed) when I’m thinking/planning as opposed to acting naturally/spontaneously ???

[@PainFreeYou]

I'm not sure I understand the question. Can you clarify please?

[@Peacemakerblue]

Pain Free You I mean when I’m being myself in conversation I don’t get triggered as easily but when I’m being more analytical in conversation I get triggered and become inhibited. I assume it’s because when your thinking it’s a process so others people’s mannerisms can be distracting to that process and you can become confused. But being yourself no process is going on. So I wanted to know when you premeditate is the brain more susceptible to being triggered??? (Fight or flight response)

[@PainFreeYou]

@@Peacemakerblue Of course, trying to think your way through a conversation means you aren't even paying attention to the conversation because you are so concerned with how you are being perceived. If you are in the present and just talking, there is no self judgment. If you analyze every word and the other persons reaction, you will obviously trigger stress. Make a decision to simply be who you are. Be in the moment. Deciding up front that you don't care about the outcome and that you will just be in the moment will be very freeing.

[@DanBuglio]

@@Peacemakerblue You are asking me to explain human psychology. I would suggest you not over-think it. Just be and not worry about being triggered by everything. Don't worry about evaluating peoples hand patters. Don't hyper-analyze everything. Just be.

[@Peacemakerblue]

Dan Buglio ok thanks I was trying to understand the fight or flight response. One last question why does fight or flight response make you feel self-conscious?

[@narcabusevictimgermany9687]

I was wondering what if we could do a Interview together? I am a spiritual teacher suffering from Stress still, wanting to find solutions for humanity. Sometimes exchanging thoughts can work wonders.

[@PainFreeYou]

You can get on my schedule at: DanBuglio.com/coaching - just mention that it's an interview request and not a coaching call.

[@narcabusevictimgermany9687]

Pain Free You wow cool thank youuuuuu

[@mikep980]

Hey Dan, did you ever experiment with CBD oil? I know it’s not a long term solution, but I’ve researched that it has a calming effect and can slow down the sympathetic nervous system and jump start the parasympathetic system. Let me know what you think. Thanks!

[@PainFreeYou]

Nope - I'm not a pills or potions guy. I like to focus on the true cause. Unresolved emotions and stress. And through choice, we can learn to feel emotions and turn down the volume on the stress levels. If you try it, keep me posted if you notice a difference.

[@alansherwood5319]

Did you ever give it a try?

[@loganmartin7440]

Thank you. Your videos help me a lot as I navigate symptoms and give me SO much hope, you’re a blessing. Just wondering what other success videos you have on people who were given “cfs” labels? I’d love to see more of this. I watched rebeccas, another woman’s and a man’s video but I’m curious if there’s others

[@BreadedCatholic]

its true, the fight or flight came on n a month later i had autoimmune symptoms.

[@PainFreeYou]

You can reverse with consistent messages of safety. DansFastStart.com explains it all and what to do.

[@BreadedCatholic]

@@PainFreeYou ty so much

[@nmash6835]

I feel disconnected from my kids and always on edge and fatigued I feel like im gonna run crazy and I feel weird like there's something wrong with my nerves. Always feeling Luke I'm in a dream

[@PainFreeYou]

It's quite common actually. That is ALL created by a scared brain that is perceiving danger. Teaching it we are safe is the way forward.

[@nmash6835]

@@PainFreeYou do you coach? I'd like you to help me please

[@PainFreeYou]

@@nmash6835 I used to do one-on-one coaching, but now I am focused on doing my coaching via a video course and group sessions that meet weekly. There are 4 sessions and you can show up to any one of them or multiple sessions if you want more help. All the details are here: www.PainFreeYou.com/join