How to Cultivate a State of Safety | Dr Stephen Porges | Trauma Super Conference 2023

Dr Stephen Porges, creator of Polyvagal Theory, explores the importance of an inner state of safety and the conditions which help create. This interview was originally featured in the Anxiety Super Conference.
1. Why safety is so important to our nervous system
2. The conditions that invite a feeling of safety
3. Practical steps for bringing more safety into your life
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[@Rose_Ou]

That's exactly what I've learned both throughout my childhood and in my early adulthood (CPTSD + PTSD). Being accessible and vulnerable = most likely getting hurt (sooner or later). I perceive ALL people as threat, and, as I'm slowly approaching my 50s, I try to avoid them at all cost. It hasn't always been like that. I used to cling to anyone and everyone willing to acknowledge my existance because my hunger and thirst for love and acceptance was much stronger than all the red flags in the world. I started to withdraw in my early 40s and noticed that solitude, although not an ideal state long term, is the only time when I feel a little bit safer and slightly calmer. There's no cure for so much abuse, it doesn't exist. My brain should and could have developed differently but it was deprived of love and acceptance. Humans are cancer to this otherwise beautiful earth. We always hurt both each other and animals.

[@eveningprimrose3088]

I'm so sorry you think you are a cancer.

[@maryannemckay3606]

😢

[@chrisnam1603]

@Rose_Ou, yes i relate totally to you and all people who 'likede' your post, there are nice pure people, it's not easy to encounter-find them, keep open for those i would say (is what i try too, and i know two of them), from Belgium

[@chrisnam1603]

@@eveningprimrose3088 she does not say she is. And it not what she ment, it's really mean what you write.

[@eveningprimrose3088]

@@chrisnam1603 I am not trying to be mean. However, I beg to differ with you. She said humanity is a cancer, and she is human. Therefore, logic dictates that she thinks she is part of the cancer.

[@simplythebest2574]

Exactly, re highly traumatized individuals may suddenly have a paradoxical fear/anger/activation response to deep breathing, meditation practices that for many bring on 'safety.' Why? because their Threat Response has become strongly coupled with any experiences of feeling safe- from years of lived experience in abusive or traumatic experiences. Paradoxical, yes, but very real for some people with trauma. Thank you, Dr Porges, for your kindness and generosity with the Polyvagal Theory, inviting us to apply it, utilize it conceptually and teach it in our own ways. I just love him. Onward, people! Let's return to social engagement, in all the small ways and large ways we can.

[@charlotterunge9433]

Every time I listen to Dr. Porges I learn something new. Thank you for this conversation ♥️🙏

[@tobilytle5737]

Beautiful: “The problem is our language. Control of our bodies instead of respecting our body’s communication.”

[@MichelJGrando]

This is incredible content. Thanks for sharing it

[@IIcorrinthians519]

This is so good. I am learning what I didn't know about myself or where this hook in my jaw came from. I can remember the day it started when I was only 7. I have never felt safe since that thing or thought took over. My dad left. I stopped being carefree.

[@Shri-laya]

Beautiful! The empathy and the "coming from one's own experience" is tangible with both, the Interviewer and the Interviewed. It makes everything so clear and easy to understand. Having been traumatized severely in my childhood I can so much relate to all that has been said. It all is very reassuring to me. It is the first time I listened to Dr. Stephen Porges - so far I heard from him through people who use his wonderful scientific "blocks" in their work. What a wonderful, empathetic person Stephen Porges is. What great contribution he makes to the world. And what precious gift is this Post. Thank you!

[@moniaihmeita]

An incredibly insightful interview, thank you so much. Feeling safe can be a trigger-who'd have thought! It's very relatable, though, and explains a lot about my own, puzzling reactions. Finally. However, it's Dr. Porges' emphasis on self-compassion, and keeping an "ear" open for the body's messages of distress that I found particularly helpful. Thanks again.

[@stephaniecoffee447]

His voice is so calming. I love the way he explains this. So knowledgeable. I am in the middle of reading Dr. Peter Levine's book, Waking the Tiger, and its really really good, too. I'd love to read one of Dr. Porge's also.

[@nand3kudasai]

This Dr. has a very clear thinking and deep understanding. I loved this talk, it was one of the best ive seen. Thanks so much!

[@cathyglascock1370]

Love the relaxation of the interviewer.

[@katy5900]

Thankyou for your wise and wonderful expertise

[@arjanblad416]

This is beautiful... Thank you so much... Blessings to you both !!!

[@margike100]

Another great interview to mull over and apply my understanding in a prek setting with ages 3-5.

[@kateworsley5743]

google polyvagal theory in the classroom with Deb Dana

[@user-or1zc3pk6y]

There is so many helpful things that have been discussed in this talk! This gives me hope!

[@elenadominguez2350]

Thanks a lot. Great intervention! ❤

[@ciaranoconnell5277]

Brilliant

[@stephaniecoffee447]

safety is a trigger 🤯 yes.

[@stephaniecoffee447]

🤯 this also explains why I don't feel a huge sense of calm when I do breathwork, or meditations, etc.

[@Rose_Ou]

Same here. There's no end to anxiety/hypervigilance. 24/7 nightmare.

[@stephaniecoffee447]

@@Rose_Ou there's definitely hope, Rose! have you tried any somatic practices? deep seated trauma doesn't heal overnight for sure, but with consistent small practice our bodies and nervous systems can and will relearn safety.

[@azaleaslightsage1271]

I sat with back against a wall to meditate & do breath work I also had a SAFE person around as a type of 'bodyguard' so I could relax my hypervigilance knowing he was there watching my back so to speak ❤ I now Teach it to abuse/trauma survivors, offering a SAFE space for them to relax in be able to meditate do breath work, off duty Police officers volunteer & stand guard outside my centre To help facilitate safety for the survivors inside ❤ I used to think I'd never get better Yet here I AM Thriving Happy Healthy 😊 🎉

[@andybreedlove]

@@stephaniecoffee447can you suggest the practices - I’m in a paradox.. for a very long time, unable to calm body/mind with breathing etc.. Thank you

[@kirstinstrand6292]

To all guests. Do you know Prof Mark Solms, a neuroscientist from Cape Town University. I believe all you scientists are attempting to resolve similar questions through neuroscience and triggering neurons. He's all over KZbin.

[@jojojacques810]

Difficult to cultivate a state of safety when the environment and society are not safe!!!

[@amberstiefel9748]

I interpret the linguistic failure of labeling anxiety disorders as being an outcome of cultural and religious uncertainty... meaning, what if you rely on excessive self disclosure for social cohesion while blaming the absent feudal lords?

[@johnathanabrams8434]

Can anyone explain to me why polyvagal theory people are almost always rich white people ?

[@ComeAlongKay]

Can anyone explain to me why the NBA has been mostly black or why kpop is mostly Asian? I mean unless you’re racist against white people it shouldn’t really matter.

[@Trauma-Super-Conference]

I thought Stephen was an Idiot, before watching Bruce Lipton and Peter Levine. Now I know Stephen wins the third place. Of course, it's clear mr. howard thinks that if he surrounds himself with idiots, he will look a little bit like Half an Idiot. Well, he is Wrong! howard is a Full Idiot. No doubts about that!

[@KiwikimNZ]

Why is he an idiot? Your comment is uncalled for. If you think he is an idiot why is this so? Is it because he thinks anxiety could be linked, in some circumstances to the autonomic nervous system?

[@mumtrader]

What kind of comment is this? It seems incredibly churlish, in this context especially.

[@hefin.]

I wonder how the channel account made a comment like this? Howard, did you let a disgruntled intern manage your KZbin account that week or something?!?

[@LewisPsychology]

I think this KZbin account has been hacked.

[@lauracowan100]

​@@LewisPsychologyit's such a weird comment with no explanation! Clearly hijacked!