Get Out Of Victim Mode

Hi to whoever this video may reach. My name is Aly, and I studied psychology, I believe just to be able to self-therapy myself at the end of the day. Recently, I decided to start online therapy, only to realize after a few sessions that all I'm essentially doing is squeezing my entire week or things triggered during the week into 45 minutes. Therefore, I thought to myself, instead of saving all these emotions and thoughts for my therapy session, I will just speak into the camera exactly as I would in therapy, but on the other hand, perhaps meet people who truly understand me.
I know I’m a little tired in this video but I wanted to share it anyway because I think it's important to show my authenticity. Yesterday, for example, I was walking for fashion week in Berlin, which was a long day. Even though I'm usually bubbly and happy, there are days when I'm just not feeling it. It's all part of being human. Life has its ups and downs but it's important to embrace them, be kind to ourselves, and practice self-love and acceptance. That's what really matters in the end.
It's important to remember that "emotional detachment" isn't about becoming cold or unfeeling. It's about setting healthy boundaries and protecting your emotional well-being. Here are some tips to help you emotionally detach from people:
- Understand your Reason: Is it due to negativity, manipulation, or simply being overly invested in someone who doesn't reciprocate?
- Understand your Goal: What do you hope to achieve through detachment? Do you want to reduce stress, regain your independence, or protect your energy?
- First things First: Detachment begins with prioritizing your own needs and emotional well-being
- Reduce interactions, both in person and online. This doesn't mean being rude, but it does mean minimizing unnecessary exposure
- Set Boundaries
- Focus on Your Own Life
- Don't Take It Personally
- Focus on Actions, Not Words
- Challenge Negative Thoughts
- Practice Mindfulness
Remember emotional detachment takes time and effort. Be patient with yourself and celebrate your progress. Focus on what you can control: your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Detachment is about protecting your emotional well-being and prioritizing your own happiness. If you're struggling with emotional detachment, seek professional help. A therapist can provide personalized guidance and support.
This Friday, the New Moon in Cancer invites us to focus on nurturing and protecting the things we love, including ourselves. This lunar cycle encourages a deeper examination of our relationship with giving and receiving love. Are you a giver, a receiver, or someone who struggles to open their heart? This New Moon asks us to reflect on our emotional tendencies and the balance in our relationships. Cancer is known for its intuitive nature and emotional intelligence. It can help us understand our feelings and those of others with greater depth. Consider this time a blank slate, an opportunity to set intentions around caretaking and create a month infused with the energy of the New Moon. Be mindful of your actions and feelings during these days, as they will impact the rest of the month.
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[@Nina94771]

Holy cow. What an acutely accurate and beautifully articulated video! Thank you for this, I agree and have gone in and out of this realisation; out of it recently and the way you explained it was so helpful and needed for me. Might have to watch this every other month or so 🤣👌

[@thediscoshrink]

Oh wow thank you! That really means a lot to me :) Don't worry about it... I sometimes re-watch the video myself. Sometimes we forget what we already know - it's all about always turning to the most loving choice and being kind to ourselves

[@elissaannesley9070]

Thank you Disco power woman

[@thediscoshrink]

🪩❤️

[@isaacsevan]

you radiate so much light. i resonate so much with what you said. thank you for sharing.

[@thediscoshrink]

Thank you so much!! So glad about that :))

[@paulafinn8519]

Thank you so much. I’m struggling with this topic for years now. Your video really helps me with understanding where this comes from and what you can do. Thank you!🙏🏻🫶🏻

[@thediscoshrink]

Oh wow I'm so happy it helped!! It's a long journey :)) always be kind to yourself.