Esther Perel’s Best Advice for Finding Love Today

[@VeraEcht-pj3pj]

This woman is sooo right. The only natural way is to meet someone, not knowing where it will be going. This is why I completely boykott the „What are you looking for“ question on Apps

[@AmyBotelho]

I could listen to Esther talk about anything. Great conversation. I love the game idea to gently get into charged intimate conversations. Learned a lot. And Matthew - thank you for talking about love above 40 y.o. I'm 52, single, never married and no kids and I like that my situation can be talked about with possibility and not like a disease. I own all that I have and all that I don't. I chose not to have kids. I think there are plusses and minuses to all intimate relationship scenarios. Like anything in life, if you tell yourself it's hopeless, you're right; and if you tell yourself there's unending possibilities, you're also right. Get out of your comfort zone and there is no end to the people you can meet, and yes, you will have to let go of the story you have about yourself and that takes effort. I appreciate the content both you and Esther are putting out there. It makes a difference. Love, A.

[@juliea.]

This video came at a perfect time for me. Two weeks ago a man approached me on the subway and we exchanged numbers. We texted for a week and discovered we have a lot in common. I finally asked if he saw it progressing to an in person date and he told me that he doesn't have time to date. It makes absolutely no sense to me.

[@juanpablomartinezc]

It is very interesting that we approached in the first place and that he chose to text for over a week, just to say he doesn't have time for dating. I see it in either one if these 2 scenarios (I could be wrong): 1. After having texted with you, he decided he's not interested in dating you, this could be for many, many reasons, but it could be because he doesn't find you attractive enough to meet in person (but then he would stop texting too) or because he met someone else, or something change in his life, like a huge work project, or he's moving to another city, etc. 2. He really likes you, but he's just extremely busy with work. I can totally relate to the fact of being super busy and not wanting to date anyone. I'm in that stage right now. I don't feel it would be "fair" for the girl I would date now, to start dating her, from how busy I am. However, if I would see a girl I really like, I might approach her and exchange numbers. However, if I would change my mind in the dating in person thing, I would 100% communicate the reason why. So coming back to the hypothetical scenario from the guy from before: In both scenarios, he should have properly communicated the reason behind deciding not to meet in person. If you want, you can choose to see it as a good thing, because it means you are now free to find a guy that knows how to communicate, a guy with emotional intelligence. There are quite few nowadays, but you can still find them if you look in the right places. Long story short, it's not your fault and you got this 💪🏻

[@GloriaHass]

He could be a married man. He could be single and likes the thought of having someone in his life. This isn't about you. It's about him. Keep going forward.

[@froyo9674]

That’s how the men are these days. They have time for bumping uglies, but no capacity for emotional or intimate connection with a woman. They only respect other men. Their mentality is that they have nothing to gain from being in a monogamous relationship when they are able to explore the world of women and “pump and dump” their words!!!! Not my words!!!

[@froyo9674]

I keep hearing neM say that they only have time for bumping uglies and that a monogamous relationship doesn’t bring them one single benefit. These are all neM 20 and UP! Their words not mine: “P U M P AND D U M P” So keep that in mind and don’t let them treat you like this anymore. DEMAND MORE

[@froyo9674]

They just want to “ rump and dump” their words not mine

[@Myka_Lynn]

Matthew and Esther, THANK YOU. Both of you are making a positive impact in my life and the world!!! You are shinning lights. Apathy and hopelessness are the easiest things in the world and your message is so important. We love you!!

[@revathiyuwa1016]

Very insightful. One of the best podcasts I have seen with the guests in your channel.

[@TheJulianameyer]

Too good to have You two together 😍 Great podcast 💯

[@The_Apex_Wolf]

This is going to be great. ❤

[@DeadCat-42]

Most men have given up and don't even try to date anymore.... I'm six two, fit, good friends loving family, bought a house at 26, gave up trying to date at 30. I just can't meet todai standards, I'm not a millionaire , I'm not a pro athlete . I'm just a normal guy trying to be the best man I can , that's just not good enough.

[@reinas1713]

What standards can’t you meet?

[@digvijaypurty8160]

Bruh I am 26 I have never had a girlfriend I have given up too

[@GloriaHass]

It sounds like too many superficial women out there. Have you tried older women?

[@digvijaypurty8160]

@@GloriaHass Why would I choose older women they come with a lot of baggage

[@GloriaHass]

​@@digvijaypurty8160that is a stereotypical belief and answer that you have. Not all older women have emotional baggage because they have dealt with it. Maybe it's better for them that you don't choose an older woman.

[@askquestions1236]

some people want to make a life with one man and children together. thats the pressure.

[@Calida]

IVF and freezing eggs is incredibly expensive and having a child with another "suitable" coparent sounds... for lack of a better phrase to describe: ew I guess I'm glad i don't "need" to have kids at this rate 😰💀 Thank you Matthew for asking the very real questions!

[@bellarose2706]

Me before listening to Esther+ Matthew; (╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻ | Me after listening to Esther+Matthew; (✿◕‿◕✿)/ᐠ｡ꞈ｡ᐟ\

[@kirkwhite1736]

At 51, I decided to give up on love. I've tried for 35 years to find a woman for a relationship. I only had one long time relationship for three months. I Have Failed as a Man and a Human Being basically. I stopped looking, I will continue to live alone.

[@nn7397]

No you have not failed!!! Are yoy a good man? Then you are a success!! All those married cheaters you think have succeded? Sure..in making others unhappy.

[@hadiza1]

💜💜💜

[@KA-ux9qb]

Intentionally having a child with just a co-parent who isn't in the same home seems like a bad situation for the kid right from the start. ATTACHMENT ISSUES! I'm divorced and having my kids move back and forth every week is not ideal for them. Torturous at times...they don't get to grow up with one home, one bedroom, etc. Please don't do this to kids unless it is the only healthy option.

[@pikapoka17]

Can anyone sum up what she said about dating and biological clock, please?

[@gr8hndz4u]

🙏