My Honest Advice to Anyone Feeling Behind in Life

[@alfredtafadzwabandera630]

As a 34 year old man who is not married and without kids ...all l can say is THANK you. This is the reason why l deleted all my social media applications....l am now focusing on myself and l don't have to know what my age mates or people l know are up to. l know that my time will come and l will rise to the occasion. Love and Light to all my brothers and sisters who are 30 and above ...not married with no kids...Keep pushing...Keep believing...Keep bettering your lives...it's only a matter of time. I love you 😍 💗 take great care! There is nothing wrong with you/ us.

[@Whopcap]

Thank you brother! Turning 32 this year

[@rhysyyyroyal]

About to turn 30 🫠

[@alzdsz]

Thankyou brother I'm 36 here feeling hopeless. No friends no love of my life not achieved my goals or dreams yet. But yet I try and keep and smile on My face 😊. Keep pushing, keep growing no stopping, full power 💪🏻. I too have deactivated social media no need to know what others are upto. My day will come and even if it doesn't I'm at peace knowing I tried.

[@alfredtafadzwabandera630]

@alzdsz There has to be a STORY before the GLORY my brother. The stones in a river never prevented the water from flowing. You are a star my brother. Everything is gonna be alright 😃 😊 😀 keep well.

[@jacintahearn]

Thank you for sharing your message x

[@TheTricksterCoyote]

I'm at the age where all my friends who got married in their 20s are now breaking up/divorcing. There are always set backs in life.

[@jjtiger9969]

One day we all gonna die, behind or in front doesn’t really matter…you don’t own anything or anyone except your feelings or experience

[@kellyyates5175]

I know u talking about my performance look thank you for reaching out 🎉

[@viiiRA_]

The issue exists because of the lack of thoughts or experiences, but good attempt! Stoicism is a great life philosophy.

[@Goodhabits000]

Whether you’re in business class first class or economy , when the plane goes down , we all go down - behind or the front

[@athoi5364]

❤

[@STEVEN-vz8qq]

Well said my friend

[@lindsey5365]

I am 36 years old and never had a boyfriend. This is why I don’t have social media. I don’t care or want to know about others “perfect” lives. I am a religious person so I pray a lot. I am focused on God’s journey and plans for my life. Yes I have to fight off the negative thoughts, I stay busy and look forward to my breakthrough.

[@akanshashukla356]

@lindsey5365 thanks for sharing your experience. This is so motivating for someone like me. I'm doing the same. Thanks for sharing 😊More power to you😊

[@thatsfunny2051]

I'm very religious, and I'm only in my first relationship now. We met when I was 33

[@manala2873]

I invite you to read the Quran 😊

[@Areutherehello]

47 year old here. Never been in a relationship with a man. I definitely understand how you feel. I'm surrounded by married couples, sometimes with kids. They all have a house, vacations, more money because they have two incomes, and the list goes on. I am always behind. Always single and unwanted by men.

[@thatsfunny2051]

@@Areutherehello the financial aspect is really interesting. As a single woman, I can't keep speed with a dual income couple. I'm priced out of socialising with them

[@tassedaboukherroub8850]

"Don't compare your insides to their outsides".

[@paolina4715]

33 here, crushed, depressed, with broken heart. People with kids and families, in a relationships just hurts me. Everyday is the same, every night is the same. It is so comforting to see you guys all here in similar situation. Thanks for sharing your stories. Love to yall, eventually we will be fine ❣️

[@DukeJohnny]

36, I feel that I've been at the exact place what you describe 2 years ago, but at the same time that's the moment where your inner strength truly shines even if it doesn't feel like it, it's a complete paradox. I also learned at that time which of my friends were the true, real ones ("Prawdziwych przyjaciół poznaje się w biedzie.") and I've learned to be genuinely happy for them, even though I don't have what they do and they also do know how much it costs me. Loneliness is tough, I know that first hand, but honestly what came before was even worse, so now I learn to appreciate at least the peace I have while being by myself. It does get better, it REALLY does, just don't give up on yourself and keep on going. Additionally, give yourself a little bit of acknowledgment: after all, how many of the people you see and compare yourself to did survive what you have? Probably not many. That may make you smile with pride, even if it's mixed with sadness. You'll be all right, stay awesome, cheers from Wrocław :)

[@brett84c]

40 single male here, I am absolutely in the same place. Just feel like this last decade has been a total wash. Sure, I have a good job, a nice apartment, and decent friends, but dating is super hard for various reasons, and people seem to barely go out anymore, so most nights I'm just at home alone trying to keep myself entertained. I would love someone or something to focus on and help give me some purpose because I just don't really care all that much chasing hobbies that only enrich myself. I'm not looking for someone else to magically give my life purpose but it's natural to feel as though trying to do everything on your own and for yourself just feels kind of hedonic and boring. Anyways, I know I'm rambling but you're not alone. Wish I had any advice other than stay active and make efforts to get out and socialize, which might mean making new friends and stepping outside your comfort zone (if your friend group is like my primary friend group that's mostly couples that keep to themselves). One thing I've learned from these last 10 years is solitude can only lead to sadness and depression.

[@LifewithKu]

I felt comforted guys after reading your comments...I'm really hurt, got nothing to show forth. I'm asking God if I will ever go through this cause it's not easy. I'm battling. Everyday is a struggle

[@alphawhiskey3311]

A girl looking like you, shouldn’t be too hard to find a nice guy

[@edwardkenemorales]

“Every night is the same, every day is the same” - this resonates well with me

[@keri471]

Some people have always had it easy when it comes to finding relationships. We can't act like others don't have it better than us.

[@mangoteeth1290]

or had easy on getting a job, eventhough they were dumber

[@JasKhalid]

Before I watched the video: “I’m feeling sooo behind I’m 36 Never married No kids No partner Hanging onto a job 3 years that I feel is too technical for me I need all the advice” After the video: What is right for me now is self love I did the best I could at every step I don’t want someone else’s entire life Thank you ❤

[@senaittadesse5324]

Here also the same 36 yrs single beautiful lady. Keep it up

[@WarwolfGames]

Thank you so much for this video. I usually don't write comments but I really wanted to thank you for this. I'm 37, I have no family, no support, no close friendships and I feel so distant from everyone. Everyone around me has moved on with their lives and I feel like I don't belong anywhere.

[@chanyzv]

That’s so hard 😢

[@banjomechanic]

I just turned 50 and have been single for a long time. Thanks for the wisdom. I’ve been working on myself and my interests and I’m sure things will work out well. Thanks

[@zoeyanaqvi-zn7482]

❤ God bless you !

[@DukeJohnny]

Sir, you're a true inspiration, thanks for sharing.

[@DayandyDissanayaka-eb1zh]

this advice is not only for love life.This also goes with every part of ur life.

[@SJ7469]

I avoid groups of people that are all married with children it simply makes me feel uncomfortable... i just focus on my plans for the future with myself...thank you for saying i did my best at the time. I did what i felt at the time.

[@JKNat9004]

I understand what you mean. I like to avoid conversations where women compare pregnancies and grandchildren. I'd rather talk about just about anything else, like nature and politics than that stuff. TV shows, books, volunteering just about anything so I don't walk away ruminating over my past

[@cookWithYuyu2024]

+1 I don't like to be with children focus people either

[@LifeVabo]

I've found a lot of married couples with kids are deeply unhappy. Constant drama. Cheating. Looking elsewhere for attention. As a single person it is best not to involve yourself too much with couples.

[@vitalyvolkov1618]

Yeah, it sucks in the work environment, when you’re the only single and childless among coworkers. A lot of small talk is about children and relationships.

[@JKNat9004]

@@vitalyvolkov1618 Yeah. I once had a job where I got stuck with working every weekend and night shifts that no one else wanted, "because they wanted time with their family.". Also I have encountered a few women who once I say that I don't have kids, they don't know what to talk about. 🙄

[@kateaghaghiri2968]

I’m 70 and feel like I’m running out of time. Thank you for this.

[@isorozco511]

You’re hella old lmao you almost out 😂

[@ProductivityControl7]

Don't listen to the troll above me... you're objectively old yes. But perhaps you're meant to live for 40 more years....there are people who live for 40 years, accomplish a lot and then die. Marilyn Monroe only lived for 35 years or so. It's not that late ...it might feel like it. But live the remaining time you have on earth intensionally and do what seems to be meaningful and possible. Wishing you luck.

[@kateaghaghiri2968]

@@isorozco511 this is why you need to make the best choices for yourself now while you are young.

[@nikki8789]

Make the best of the years you have that’s all you can do 😊

[@aigerim7788]

@@isorozco511I can’t believe people like you exist. Don’t you have parents?

[@linnmusic]

34 and never had a boyfriend, been focused on healing my trauma, surviving, living and learning to have boundaries with people.

[@naturalebeing]

I definitely need this. 27 year old woman living with her mom. I spent the first half of my 20’s traveling and working seasonal jobs and I don’t regret any of it, but here I am, working at a restaurant, struggling financially, and struggling mentally. 2024 was the worst mental health year for me in a decade. I almost left this world multiple times. I’m finally starting to pull myself back together and set my path forward, looking to enroll in cosmetology school to become a hairstylist (which I always said would be my backup plan). The hard reality of it is that I’ll have a year of school, a year of being an assistant, so I realistically won’t become a hairstylist until I’m 30. I wish I didn’t start my career path so late because my dream has always been to be a wife and mother, and I’m going to be really busy with school (no time for a relationship) but I just need to accept that this is where I’m at and there will still be time to have those things, it just won’t be on the timeline I always wanted.

[@kdkdkdbdkddn3]

I'm a male almost 26 living with my parents, as long as you contribute to the house, buying food, helping around etc. you shouldn't be ashamed of this. And you also have a plan on what to do, many people are jobless and don't have a plan.

[@Tweenky_TV]

Don’t be ashamed. You are working hard and has ambition. Life is not easy but you got it as everyone else 👍🏻

[@general_enslaver_of_cactii867]

I'm 32 staying with my mammie, I'd rather help her buy a house than throw my wages at a landlord, no shame in that.

[@jenessaprincessa]

I’m so sorry to hear about your mental health struggles. Know that you are super young still!!! Yes ppl went to school and are in their career….maybe people hate their jobs and feel stuck. You are on a great path and your dreams of a family will happen. I’m 34 with mental health struggles….& struggling w/ my career. You’re not alone!

[@Moussaka47]

I stayed with my mom until around that age and now I'm a lawyer. If I had left earlier, I wouldn't have had the chance to succeed in my studies the same. And I've always been single, but we can make it, sis! Most people do really questionable choices based on some tradition or their egos. You seem to be a great person and that's all that matters. Props to the guy who's trying to help their mom buy a house (in fact, I'm actually thinking of doing the same - since I'm single and they won't lend money to singles lol)

[@soulsister381]

Thanks! 33 F. I find most of my friends married. Some having kids, others planning to. At 32, my fiance broke up before the wedding. At 33, I faced setbacks in career. I feel like such a failure. I'm not clinically depressed, but it's been difficult. I can't thank you enough for making this video.

[@Duckdealer007]

You know what they say. Marriage material men are found in church prayer groups, not at bars. Just saying. Cheers 🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@niara6]

Are u planning to get married again?

[@Rabies-gx5hy]

I just turned 40- never married and no kids. I had a handful of good relationships, but in the end, none I wanted to make a major commitment such as marriage to. At one point, I did play the comparison game, but this is what I’ve realized: some people out there like myself are people who are very self aware and won’t settle for less and alternatively, some of the people I see on social media with the ‘perfect’ life may be very unhappy or even mildly and consistently unhappy, but are so afraid of change inertia is more attractive to them. There are some people out there who “have it all” and have worked hard for it, but many people out there who keep up appearances do so because they are scared to make changes.

[@moccy]

I'm with you. I'm in early 40, in a relationship but not married and too late to have kids while I'm still trying to build my future financial and fixing my anxiety. I admire my peers who just walk their lives seemingly effortlessly while live, amidst their struggle but seems like they are living a fulfilled life. While I feel honestly quite scared of the idea of lonely old days. But at this point of time I realized my back story probably doesn't allow me to have a healthy relationship if my life progressed in the same timeline as others. The unhappy life of social media persona you mentioned is spot on, when I saw the beautiful portrait of people I know, I realized I have something they dont have and vice versa. There is no perfect life, there is only a life that is perfect for me as who I am.

[@nahthataintit6446]

Some of Those people that appear to “have it all” no doubt settled in at least one of those areas. GUARANTEED. Do you know how many that are out there that are forcing themselves to complete certain life milestones by certain ages like getting married or having children?!?! MANY Be proud that you’re living life on your terms and not caving to outside perceived pressure or validation!

[@lindyheather]

Great to know we aren't alone ladies! 46 here, never been married or had kids, and haven't been in a relationship in over 20 years. It has been hard at times, but in the end, I would rather be single and happy than in an unhappy marriage. My siblings often tell me they envy my single life. The grass is not always greener on the other side.

[@Duckdealer007]

That’s not self awareness it’s “delusion”. You forgot somewhere along that life is for living and all those who have a family have “family” because they prioritised it over the person. Find a relationship counsellor and learn to vet men for marriage early, you don’t have time, ovaries are crying and drying up. Sheesh woman have some sense of urgency!!

[@Rabies-gx5hy]

@@Duckdealer007 😂 Bless your heart

[@raymondtendau2749]

Compare yourself to who you were yesterday. Not to who someone else's is today. -Dr. Jordan Peterson

[@ofkgjsl]

At this point I want a partner who is able to communicate like this. This. This level of maturity. This healthy confidence. I need to find someone, who understands what it really needs for a solid partnership. Who really gets it.

[@flygirl0516]

As a woman in her late 30's going through IVF number 4, while all my friends are getting pregnant wothout any issues, thank you for this video 😊

[@enojelmeli]

The toll that must take emotionally and financially. 🫂 I pray you get your heart's desire 👶🏼❤️

[@orielwiggins2225]

Thank you Matthew. I was conditioned from birth to compare myself in an unfavorable way. And it's super tough to get out of that self critical mindset. Having lost my childhood, and learning to reclaim those creative, adventurous, playful "irresponsible and selfish" parts of me, Today what's right for me is to put less pressure on myself, in fact to remove ALL pressure on myself to improve, prove, achieve, progress, figure it out, or fix myself. Today what's right for me is to find ways to just Be. And enjoy what that's like. Thank you, and here's to a fantastic 2025 for all of us.

[@kaspertheroundghost]

i deactivated all my social media accounts recently and prioritizing my health over everything else.. my physical health... my mental health...i remember i saw a quote saying... if you don't know what to pursue in life, pursue yourself.. i hope this helps any of you reading this. 🎈

[@SubhayyaAS]

Thankyou 😊

[@solsticio3]

When life started passing by me, and all my acquaintances started growing families and so on, I got really depressed, because I was stuckI. I tried to change my attitude towards them. I started celebrating and cheering their achievements. I thought: one day will be my turn, and I would like to receive the same level of support. But I am 47, I have nothing in life, still waiting. I am too afraid of going out there. When Matthew said about the situationship of 5 years and how it destroyed my life… it gave me goosebumps, I felt he was talking directly to me. But I truly thank him for this video. I will take ir seriously into account from today. From this very moment. I really needed this.Thank you

[@SLB_888]

I’m right there with you same age too. I spent the last 20 years in two situationships that amounted to nothing. I too am so afraid to go out there for fear of ending up in yet another dead end.

[@Cocoa_and_Me]

47 - you are still young!!! My grandfather found true love at 55 and was with her until he was 87!! Please don't give up hope. You just need to see how special you are, remember you are the prize!! There is nothing wrong with you at all. You are who you are meant to be, and people who don't accept you for you- you don't need them hun❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@solsticio3]

@@Cocoa_and_Me thank you for rooting for me. I need a change in my mindset. I feel more decided to love me.more.

[@Cocoa_and_Me]

@solsticio3 Definitely you cannot ever love anyone unless you love yourself first 🙏 Everyone has ups and downs, your storm will end soon! 🥰

[@Duckdealer007]

Have you thought about maybe reducing your standards to “earthly levels”? also serious introspection is required if you want to birth a child since you’re long past your childbearing years, so your *real* definition of a partner will require further consideration. Best of luck 🎉

[@shannonmcdonald1275]

"If we could have done better, we would have done better" Thank you SO much! I really need to stop beating myself down. I really needed to hear this. I did my best ❤

[@MsGuitars666]

Matthew you are a gift to this world, thank you.

[@VlogManInfinite]

I see many of my friends in relationships and marriages on social media. Trust me, while it might seem happy and dandy on social media, there's typically fights and arguments and disagreements that go on behind the scenes. Dont be so fooled that everyone is living a happy life. Focus on what you have and make the most of it. If you're single, work hard to make some extra money, or join clubs, outings, events. Learn a skill, a hobby, whatever. And if you have some money left over go on an epic solo vacation without distractions and stress. I'm single at 30, and honestly I used to be sad I was single, but I've learned to use it to my advantage

[@Clemxsg]

36F here, no children, not married, and recovering from an eating disorder of 15 years (my "husband"). Thanks for this video ❤

[@MargaretaHill-y9d]

Great-video! My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop (thinking about him)

[@RobinStiem-x3p]

Its difficult to let go of someone you love, I was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but I couldn't just let him go. I did all I could to get him back, I had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back*

[@MargaretaHill-y9d]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do I reach one.?

[@RobinStiem-x3p]

Her name is Maurice Gleti, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex...

[@RobinStiem-x3p]

Maurice Gleti, has incredible powers, and she can assist you.

[@MargaretaHill-y9d]

Thank you for this valuable information, I just looked him up online. impressive!

[@BinaBianca]

It's wild how you have no idea who I am but you still created a video with a message that I needed to hear right now ... I feel seen and I am sobbing over here. Thank you.

[@karlhans6678]

I'm behind in life.

[@hype946]

This was a good video thank you. I’m a 36M, no kids, divorced and lost in life in general and I compare myself to others so much.

[@thatsfunny2051]

It sounds silly to say, but I sort of didn't realise that men do this too

[@hype946]

@@thatsfunny2051 I don't think I'm a normal or a regular man, I think about these things a lot.

[@lavaniya85]

My go-to for advice, MH ❣ I'm turning 40 this year and, while I might be a major disappointment in my family's eyes, I’ve found peace with where I am-largely thanks to your incredible advice! Thank you, as always, xx 🧡❤

[@yestrech]

[@gloriam9443]

There’s a very real possibility that one day, I will be at an age where there’s no hope left and I have to face the fact that I never got what I wanted, nothing ever worked out and I never experienced what makes being a human worthwhile. Right now, I’m constantly told “you’re so young” but one day, what if I’m not “so young” anymore? It’ll turn into “oh what a pity, her life is so sad.” It’s not from a lack of effort, I work hard with the circumstances I’ve been give with no results. I don’t know

[@nitcsi]

Turning 38 tomorrow. This message warms me hearth and gives me hope. Thank you!

[@marisortiz273]

Thanks for this message! 36 and spent 10 yrs in a situation-ship, and i have no clue who i am anymore. Have to start over.

[@paolina4715]

You are not alone!!! Warm hugs from Poland ❤

[@Sparky.Sparky.BoomMan]

Try drugs

[@spaceengineer1452]

When I quit caffeine and milk, my life changed for the better. Less anxiety more calm, less stress.

[@sonixgr4206]

Thank you for this message, sometimes I have felt like this. I had it all, divorce, no kids, changed country, starting again.

[@thatsfunny2051]

I'll be 35 this year. I'm not married, I don't have children, I don't own a home, and I'm *terrified* of the future. I feel so behind, and very isolated from my peers.

[@niara6]

This

[@Themayakay]

I just turned 36 and it was the first birthday I felt such deep sadness. I’ve always loved my birthday so this was very odd. Turns out the silent panic I’ve felt deeply for the last couple years is coming to the surface. It is so scary.

[@suzewuk]

Hang on in. I go through it too, but it does pass xx

[@cha9165]

Try turning 40 sister

[@Ktkins27554]

Felt that at the big 35 last year. Sending positive thoughts to us all

[@elharrop]

This is why I hate birthdays, just another reminder of being behind in life.

[@theoneandonly34]

I turned 36 in April! Let’s celebrate the 1988 crew!!

[@naturalebeing]

You have so much compassion Matthew 💗 it’s so refreshing in the world we live in today.

[@alj2404]

Listen… every time I say i’m just going to pop in here and listen for a few minutes… not only do I get COMPLETELY captivated, I’m rewinding to listen to this wisdom (making sure I don’t miss a word!). Matthew… thank you.

[@Me-uw2ku]

I have been crying non-stop for the past month but after listening to you I can understand life and I needed to stop the video and write the points in my notebook. Indeed, we should celebrate personal progress no matter how small, so I will plan a celebration

[@finawatsonart]

Mid 50s and can identify with this in several areas of my life. I can look at where others are in their careers and feel very behind, however I overlook the things I did when I was young that others put off till retirement ,when there is no guarantee they will be healthy enough, or a "one day" that might never come, so they could focus on their careers.

[@suzewuk]

Just what I needed to hear... divine timing. Compare and despair ✨️

[@manfred2375]

As a 19 year old who just got out of a 7 Month serious relationship I need to learn how to be on my own. I jumped from relationship to relationship and never took time to realize what it even means to be yourself. I always changed and tuned myself to my partner and lost my whole personality. I had this craving and need for validation and love because I never really loved myself or learned to love myself. She did broke my heart and I know I could get into another relationship with the things I learned but I need to be alone and mentally recover not only because of the relationship but because of all the things that happened in the past which I just ignored and pushed through. This is probably this most difficult and worst time of my life but I see in the very far distance a light. A glimmer of hope. This too will pass sometime

[@ArielLVT]

❤

[@maricor4791]

I love your videos. You were part of a lot of factors that built me after a bad breakup. I was lost in life in general. Not just in romance, but in life, no direction etc.... but five years later I picked up the broken parts and now I am getting married next year to the love of my life. Even if you don't read this, I hope God rewards you for the help you give. TY

[@brenb7153]

Definitely feel this. When family looks down on you or doesn’t take you seriously, it affects you in ways you don’t realize. Never have had what others have, marriage, friends, house or enough money to support myself…yet. I say yet because it’s not over and I’m only in my thirties and still have aspirations and hope for the future. Try to have a relationship with God and keep pushing forward even on the days you want to quit. Take a break sometimes, but don’t quit.

[@shermanjohnson9962]

49 and my life has been a series of car crashes. I keep to myself these days, because I don't need the daily reminders of my many, many shortcomings & failures... I didn't do a good job this life.

[@voidsleepy]

Bro, you're 49, don't sweat it, keep going, do your best. I know people double your age who are thriving, and someone who started a family around your age (and others older). Life's a marathon not a sprint as they say, keep going!

[@cheekyboy5000]

Same here. Same age. I did try my best, but a lot of stuff happened that was beyond my control.

[@voidsleepy]

@@cheekyboy5000 I feel you, life comes at you from all angles sometimes, but you're still here, so you must have done some things right 😄 I hope you can move past it, and take what you've learnt with you, onwards!

[@chemicalhalf]

This is EXTREMELY valid. No one chooses to be born, no one chooses who they are born to.

[@Wooly584]

I'm 27 and went through one of the most traumatic breakups of a four year relationship imaginable a few years ago which I have come so far from and built myself up again to be someone I should be proud of. I've struggled with dating a lot since then as it's hard being a single man while all your friends and relatives have partners and are getting married but I'm on my own journey and it's nice to have a reminder of that - I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be. I know my time will come I've just got to continue working on myself and loving myself and I appreciate so much of what was said In this video. Much love ❤

[@aspengrey1898]

I was all "that described" in the video in 2014...I had broken up with a guy who wasted my time since 2012...then I commited a mistake and entered in a relationship in 2015 very quickly which didn't go well either, that's when I stambled on this guy Matthew Hussey. I was in a terrible state where I added wounds on wounds on my heart, but then I had exams coming up which were very important. I had to put all my love issues aside and concentrate what was at hand. After that, I needed to nurse my heart by doing other things and to avoid social media altogether. When looking at people on social media who have what I lacked made me feel terrible. Now I'm single and focusing on myself. I nolonger think about love anymore and I nolonger feel terrible when looking at people who are in love...I'm just loving myself

[@kvhowells]

I’m definitely a late bloomer .I appreciate your perspective 😊

[@cyn5962]

What Matthew is saying in this video is what I needed to hear today.

[@jessika3283]

Thank you! For those of us who fall behind or have a lot of personal growth to work on-whether in love life or other areas-due to difficult experiences in early life, this kind of encouragement is essential. However, it's often overlooked in discussions, especially when it comes to the dating world.

[@none377]

I'm a 30 year old guy who has never heard the words "I love you" in romantic context ever. I dwell on that sometimes and it hurts really bad. I've only been in what may be classified as a "situationship" which is only one, but never been in an actual relationship ever. This situationship destroyed me for years. I kept coming back to her because I couldn't find anyone and to this day, I'm still trying to heal from it. She just blocked me out of nowhere. This video resonates with me.

[@jmb4975]

Thank you for this reminder because some of those we are closest too gaslight us into believing it's all excuses and we just need to stop making them

[@astar6484]

I've been depressed and in bad relationships since 20s inc. All my friends had decent jobs, partner, kid etc now they're in my old position and I'm changing career and working on myself

[@MissBerlinerin]

I needed to hear this. Thank you! I am well aware that my friends who've been married forever with kids don't have perfect lives. They too have their own challenges. But I am 43, I've met a great guy about 2 years ago whose biggest flaw is to totally shut down and give silent treatment whenever I am ill. We talked about it a few times and still, here I am lying in bed with fever for the past 3 days and he hasn't called or texted me once...Don't know if our relationship has a future. Life just seems totally unfait right now

[@cyyuan2868]

I've heard all these insights before. However, hearing you deliver them in your own way still feels incredibly healing. I think I'll return to this video occasionally to remind myself. Thank you Matthew for making this video.

[@chesterchestechestches]

always thinking of this being behind. This video came out the right time. Thank you 🙏

[@EdelweisSusie]

It's the looks of pity that are like a dagger through my heart. 25 years ago my partner abandoned me and destroyed my trust in men. Everyone I know is married 30+ years and when I bump into ex-colleagues that I haven't seen for years I can see that pitying look when I tell them that yes, I'm single - again. If I had my life to live over I would NEVER help anyone with their marriage issues, parental problems, job applications, debts etc - I'd let them work it out for themselves just like everyone's left me to work out how to walk life's path alone.

[@Areutherehello]

I feel you there.

[@sandee-kw4mc]

I'm so sorry you have to go through that and i just wanted to remind you that indeed receiving help and support and compassion when you need them help does help it's wonderful to have them , and to have them from the peoples you've helped but here's the thing you WANT their help but you DON'T NEED their help . You have all you need in you to get back up and move forward YOU ARE THE HERO OF YOUR OWN LIFE. @WOMEN OF IMPACT

[@Sparky.Sparky.BoomMan]

Aur naurrr

[@Duckdealer007]

Hey why not look into divorcees looking for a second chance in your age group? You gotta start somewhere! don’t give up!

[@27Marlo]

6:59 Wow. We have been doing our best. This hits home for me. I had to listen to it more than one.

[@ShopgirlNY182]

That’s so true, just now still processing a breakup almost a year now and thinking I should be better at money management skills by this point in my life or I should know by now how to not get attached to people. Your videos really help me feel seen Matthew thank you as always. ❤

[@TH_DE]

Ok, I get it, Matthew. Everyone has a unique karmic journey. Celebrate your own, no matter what, because it makes you strong and unique. Do not get sucked into the illusion of some abstract comparison because we are all on relative timelines, and have different gifts and challenges. This is a nonproductive habit. And stop wallowing in past regrets, of ifs and buts, and what ifs. Instead, ask yourself, what can I do for myself right now.

[@b.m.980]

One of the best Statement Here, thanks

[@bellewilson-shaw578]

I'm 34, at the beginning of being a self employed singer, looking at everyone who's been grafting for the past 10 years to be where they are at my age and on top of that, I'm going through heartbreak from a guy that I thought was the one. I've never felt more behind! But what's right for me right now is focusing on myself and my health. I've spent my whole life putting others first and pushing my own needs to the side, it's time to shift my focus and start showing the love I so freely give to others, to myself.

[@nyuuuchan]

❤️

[@Psych2go]

This is a great message. Love what you're putting out there Matthew~! :)

[@LisaGemini]

Excellent advice! How did you get so smart? Don’t beat yourself up for past mistakes…we are all learning from the past. ❤❤❤

[@fmss6694]

It’s funny how fast I clicked on this video because I beat myself us all the time for feeling behind. However I have learned to deal with my life and I am striving for better.

[@samanehjafari1988]

Love this. Thank you so much. Getting out of a break up recently, I want to focus on my career and my goals for future and stay away from dating, so that I have time and space to heal ❤️

[@FooMantis]

Comparison is the thief of joy.

[@KDK1207]

@FooMantis, well said

[@dan5135]

40, single, divorced. I constantly feel like I'm behind and like I don't fit in with society

[@b.m.980]

got the same feeling!

[@niara6]

😢 me too, I feel so left behind when I see my friends getting married and having kids.

[@dennisje2925]

Dont do a ratrace against others, but against yourself. Compare yourself to your last years self and if you are developing in the right direction your are doing a good job

[@michellem775]

I definitely can relate to the thoughts when you come out of a narcissistic relationship. Feel so behind from where I want to be and it just doesn’t seem fair.

[@sundusali6199]

Matthew I have been going through alot of videos but the way your talk consoles and heal .its just amazing🌝God blesS you!❤

[@yogaredfox]

Thank you! This topic is especially relevant for me. I constantly compare myself with other more successful yoga teachers, it seems that everyone lives their wonderful life with such ease. After watching the video, I realized that my goals and interests are different from the life that I envy. You need to build your path, following your interests, and not waste energy on empty emotions and feelings.

[@rekaszikszai2580]

This is incredible ❤ - I am trying to understand how it is possible that your videos always find me in the right moment. Matthew your words always give me such a support. Makes me think and I love it. I think my biggest weakness - lack of patience...

[@surajhanda9096]

thanks for this,. I am 40, never married or engaged .. trying to make new connections but its even harder to make good friends who are there for u when u need it (don't mean financially).. this is helpful to listen and all I can get out of this is to keep on working on myself in all sectors. I am so far in dating so not that but my challenge to make good friends at least in London...

[@z.deutch1334]

Hit 40 a few months ago, and now I'm the second last single woman in all my groups of girl friends (they're all married with kids or engaged, or divorced and remarried). The other single woman doesn't want marriage or kids. They've all bought homes or have investment properties. Most have kids. The gap between what they have and I have are widening. Even amongst my work colleagues (25 year olds to 50 year olds), I am the only singleton on the team, as they're all married with kids. At parties they talk about their kids and families, whereas I have funny or crappy online dating stories. More and more, I have less in common with them...

[@cha9165]

I'm the only single female too and I turned 40 last week

[@fecsan0315]

Same.. i hear you

[@voice_of_a_little_lady]

I'm 47 & now all my gfs are divorced with partial custody of kids. I'd rather be single then starting over 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@songbirdsky]

Same exact situation! )) You described me. I am turning 40 next month. Working a "small' job, moving from one relationship to another (I live in New York and 3-4 months seems like a common lifespan of a relationship here, unfortunately). Despite all that I am optimistic and grateful, and, having honest conversations with "married with kids' friends helps to understand that their scenario is a not an easy scenario to say the least. Some married women feel like single moms. Kids are the most unpredictable project. You might be happier being single dating, renting an apartment or living with a roommate. Maybe you just got used to good things that we enjoy being childless and single. You have more sleep, more freedom, more ways to work on your wants and needs. I am sure you look younger than many of your married peers. There are many things to appreciate about your life. Married women get panic attacks and existential crisis too :)

[@Bunny11344]

I’m taken but I don’t want kids sorry but not a fan. I avoid those who talk abt their kids 😅 I would rather hear your dating stories haha

[@amirmeimari]

Just turned 28 less than a month ago. I’m single and hurt, and it’s hard for me to trust anyone because of the pain I’ve experienced in the past. But I don’t want to continue living like this. I’m trying everything I can to climb out of this darkness, though I can’t see any light right now. I feel so alone, and even my friends don’t seem to understand me anymore. Thank you for your words; they mean a lot and really help. To everyone out there: I know there are still good people who can love you fully-you just have to keep looking. This is a reminder to myself as well.

[@dazzlingT]

I have never commented to any of your earlier videos but just had to on this one! PURE GOLD ❤

[@mimikassi4902]

Thank you, I needed this 🙏🏾

[@71phifer]

Great message. I have learned to appreciate all of my story. It wasn't easy. Yet I am grateful for it.

[@JustBreatheOkay]

What right for me right now is to focus on what I can do best and mainly discover this on my journey of self improvement. Focus on my health and career and never ending learning.

[@f.t.9889]

Thank you, Matthew. This was absolute gold. It soothes my hurting heart. Thanks.

[@itsjustme9354]

I'm 40 this year single and broke nearly ended up in jail first time. I lost myself in alcoholism . I've done it all wrong but now I'm sober with 2 horrible convictions to my name and wonder how am I ever going to get a decent job? I plan to study and get better mentally but I do feel lost. I 🙏 things will turn out for the better.

[@ancientwisdom108]

Others in situations worse than yours first read books and started teaching privately or on youtube. That transformed their lives for the better.

[@Sparky.Sparky.BoomMan]

Ill drink to that

[@chanyzv]

You got this 💪🏻

[@QueenDivine23]

Matthew, thank you…I needed this. Sending everyone love on your life journey ❤

[@kirkwhite1736]

I always felt that I was behind because I had no relationship with a woman. I felt I was behind because I couldn't find love at all, and made me hate myself for that. At 50, I decided that I failed in finding a long term relationship and move on working on myself.

[@sizzykelly]

This is very informative video , i am blessed that i have shelter and foods while other people are starving . And i help sometimes with other people as much as i can coz i believe sharing is caring .

[@theholisticg]

I am 41, not married, no kids, no possessions really. 20 years I strived for my personal development, my healing and my purpose and sometimes it is really really hard to be so behind...

[@fabiatrump8734]

This sums up my life exactly. So much so that I had to check that I didn’t actually write this comment! Just proves we’re not as alone in this world as we may think!

[@theholisticg]

@ Oh, wow. Sending you my love! It helps not to be alone.

[@niara6]

How are u holding up?

[@Goodhabits000]

Great video ! I think we all need reminders of our back stories not to avoid responsibility but to truly understand that we are all made differently neurologically or biologically . Like soem people have terrible AdHD brains and they’re aalmost always in functional freeze and it’s genuinely hard for them to make decisions compared to someone who doesn’t and it’s easier for them to accomplish quickly … just like trauma Brains . Trauma brians function differently compared to someone who hasnt experienced them . And we’re comparing ourselves to someone else’s Brains when neurologically we’re all very different in terms of how we show up in life and at work

[@GrWi-e4h]

As Always & For Always: Thank You So Very Much Our Dearest Matthew🤗❣️

[@pjemje]

Yea.. Going through a breakup where I genuinely thought it had potential and thought my future was settled.. Really feel like I fell in a deep hole.

[@lilianrodriguez8312]

Matt you are always saying the right things at the right time.. thank you for you videos God bless you 🙏😊

[@Peace0511]

He knows what i need to hear! 😭❤️

[@francescagregori4237]

28 here and surrounded by people getting married and having kids, having mortgages and careers. People I know have gotten divorced. People I know have 3 baby daddies. I was a key worker during the pandemic and always felt that I had to fight to be seen and heard in school due to an undiagnosed learning need. I'm hoping to get my MSc soon and buy my own home. I want to get a driving license and I have freedom to do what I want to attract the right person. I recently walked away from a man who couldn't decide whether or not to be with me officially but still wanted to date. Never would have done that 2 years ago but I did. The man didn't say anything to try and keep me which showed me that I made the right decision. You'll all be OK. Just enjoy what you have and share what you have with those that truly care and you'll find your person

[@Sparky.Sparky.BoomMan]

Aur naurrr

[@GeenoGab]

There's no such thing as being "behind" in life. That's just society's distorted way of conditioning us.

[@CaboVerde777]

My feelings exsactly; Just turned 44 and spent all 1/19 in bed...So much exploded in life reladed to my relationship....My last long term relationship was '09...I have had nothing but flings and quickies since then. 😭😭😭...Great video as always!

[@manok3027]

Thank you so much Matthew for this awesome video and to everyone else in the comments for sharing! I'm definitely the person in my group of friends and coworkers who isn't married or has children. My friends got busy with their own lives after they got married and had kids so I barely see them. With my co-workers, I definitely feel left out because most of them are talking about their married lives and kids and I can't relate to any of that. So I've definitely felt behind in this aspect. It's been a journey learning to accept and appreciate my life as it is and that's what I need to continue working on. I think what I need to realize is that I'm not behind and things will unfold in their own time. I also need to connect more with community online and in person. Learning from others and about others helps me keep a healthy perspective on things.

[@thatsfunny2051]

It's really isolating isn't it? I avoid social situations where I'm the only single person without kids

[@manok3027]

@thatsfunny2051 it is isolating indeed! I wasn't ready for the change that would happen in my relationships with my friends once they got married and had kids. As far as my colleagues, yeah the conversations about marriage and kids I don't relate to but I try to learn from them. I generally like meeting with and interacting with new people so I can't completely stay away from social events either lol. I'm learning how to navigate these situations.

[@senmeii]

Thank you very much for this video, last night has been pretty rough on me and today I woke up with knot in my stomach from all these negative thoughts. Your words soothed my heart, I'll keep them in it from now on. Thanks again. ♥

[@sarajaafar4255]

Im a 22 year old female who lived in a divorced family and went through many toxic relationships that destroyed my confidence and personality and i had to drop out of general medicine because I’m short on money to pay for the tuition fees, but im here to look forward and do what is available. If i can do it anyone of you can ❤

[@frozenpancakes769]

Same here, I'm a 22 yr old man as well and I recently quit my corporate job that I had worked for a few months, as it was a night shift and since I'm trying to study for my certification in finance side by side as well, I just really couldn't balance both work and my studies. I had to take a call and quit. Life just feels stagnant right now for me as well, it feels like there's no growth, no certainty to where I am headed. But I'm trying to figure out my way and at least complete my education. Although I have a degree, I want to pursue higher education but getting anywhere without much work experience is tough. I suggest you consider getting to the gym or anywhere where you can workout, because working out feels like the best part of my day besides all the madness going around, exercise will surely help in keeping your mental stable. I'm quite literally nowhere in life right now just like you are, I hope you know that you're not alone in this and there's a lot of 22 year olds out there still tryna figure out what they wanna do with their lives. I wish you well in your journey.

[@chanyzv]

I really needed this today, thank you Mathew ❤