7 Habits That Will Transform Your Love Life (& Social Life) in 2025

[@combatwombat2134]

Ironically had my first "micro mission" last night. Broke up recently and last night there was energy to just go out into town on my own. I started off with a drink with a friend and then left to go for a drink elsewhere. I didn't pluck up the courage to try, but I'd never have even gone out prior to do that sort of thing, to just be around the social spaces. It's a small step, but it's a step.

[@okashi10]

Proud of you!

[@melodyal3357]

👏👏👏Keep going:) I am working on myself too and as you say, even small steps count and add to the result🌟🙏

[@darliqo]

Watching this made me realize how much I’ve been holding myself back. Synfla’s book taught me the secrets to creating deep emotional connections and building confidence in my relationships. This book already helped a bunch for my dates! ❤

[@warriorqueen9792]

2024 started off tough for me but I turned it round and I feel optimistic for a good 2025. Sometimes you have to just keep on keeping on until you come out the other side. I am emerging from a dark hole. I hope the same for others who have been struggling. Don't stop. It's ok to rest sometimes we need it but we need to keep on going until the work we put in starts to show results. Consume new content: yep! Got this! Moved on from learning about orchids to fungi. And I've been going out for walks to find fungi to take photographs of.

[@TheOlfactory]

I used to thank God for giving me her. Now I thank him for giving me the most profound heartbreak and transformation of my life. Forward is the only option. Best of luck on your woodland adventures!

[@warriorqueen9792]

@TheOlfactory joy and happiness is great but from conflict and heartbreak we can learn and grow, even though I'd never wish for it. All the best for 2025.

[@PatriciaEverard]

I love this message.2025 I will get out of my comfort zone.You have inspired me to take up hiking again.2025 is the year I find truelove!❤

[@warriorqueen9792]

@PatriciaEverard excellent! Good luck with it. Hiking is always rewarding. We just need to take the time for ourselves to do it. I can't promise love will happen but I think we have to not be looking and to be in a good place so we can be chilled about it (but not icy!) maybe I will find love one day too but if I don't that is ok.

[@brio993]

Thank you for this comment. 2024 started tough. Heartbreak, death etc. But it ended on a brighter note. So I’m carrying on in 2025.

[@summerdazs789]

I said something mean one time in your comments, I wanted to say I’m sorry. I was going thru a very bad break up but that’s not an excuse, you deserve better. I’ve listened since 2015

[@EdelweisSusie]

I struggle with 4. because there's NOTHING for singletons where I live so I take my laptop to a different town (cafe/library/pub) and set myself up there. For retirees/people not working - all the guys/girls you're eager to meet are at work during the week so do your chores then so your Saturdays are free to experience a new venue. I've passed a wine bar virtually every week for years and always wondered what the food's like there so my mission (which I choose to accept!) is to take myself and laptop there and find out for myself. Thanks, Matthew.

[@hdog4474]

Perhaps virtual meet up groups might be helpful since you’re limited in your own town? From one singleton to another, enjoy your date out with yourself! 😊

[@jennthroop3356]

MH, I’m going through a divorce, been separated for 6 months and your videos are helping me stay centered while I put myself back out there! Thank you for your life changing advice!

[@Tiamarruca]

Same, after 11y of relationship he just left me. But all the good things are about to happen.

[@ArtistryInsights]

More power to us. ❤

[@kellymillard4096]

22 years. I’m ready to be happy again.

[@liambraithewaite6415]

For me its never the time that's the problem, its the lack of people and lack of consistency from people.

[@cecilang9721]

Lack of people? I’m pretty sure the world is quite populated. Where are they all hiding? Or are you hiding?

[@liambraithewaite6415]

@@cecilang9721 Well that was certainly a very tone deaf response.

[@guacamolesurf]

Lack of consistency I’m agree!!

[@77NickDale]

@@cecilang9721 Well it depends where you live of course!

[@pohorex6834]

@@cecilang9721imagine thinking this is appropriate considering the nature of the comment. Grow up

[@deepost2604]

I’ve been snowbound for a week and I really needed to HEAR this.❤

[@amandayorke481]

I'm a little bit excited. I've already completed my first micro-mission for 2025. I haven't had a holiday in over 15 yrs. A body-boarder, I'd long wanted to holiday at a good surf beach. As a pensioner, I could only afford a weekend camping trip. A window opened up for me last weekend, so Friday night I just started packing the car. Stayed 3 nights. Basically just took breakfast food so not as cheap as I'd've liked, but knew if I spent too much time preparing reheatable meals, I'd never go. Had an amazing time; surf was brilliant. Met interesting people from all over the world, too, in the camp kitchen, travelling on a shoestring!

[@GVTarot]

Thank you 🙏 You’re one of the reasons I’ve grown and transformed. My next relationship will be fulfilling and long lasting.

[@jencabatingan6279]

The background with bookshelves is just lovely.❤

[@annieroos897]

Fellow introvert here :P For me 2024 started a pretty rough with the end of a toxic relationship,(blessed it ended tho!!) and spent the year trying to heal and have defenately been more inside my comfort-zone lately. But one of my goal for this year.. To get out more, do more stuff, and you just reminded me that I´ve been wanting to go to a yoga/mindfullness-retreat for like, a long time now and I just booked it :) I will go alone, so, out of my comfort-zone but Im sure I will meet nice and like-minded people! Anyway, thanks for the encouragement :)

[@chihiro99-zm4iq]

This video hits so much harder after a break up. Im finally working on and finding myself again. Great video Matthew 😊

[@horrie2805]

Lolsies. Laughed at the part where Matt introduces us to the fact that we should spread our knowledge by learning new content. And if you’re a person that only reads self development books - LOL! I needed this nudge because this is al I ever talk about 😂. Totally is in my comfort zone because I know myself so well and love digesting up all the juicy self love. A guy I went out with literally yawned towards the end of the date because I was chatting so much about self improvement 😂. This is the hints

[@reneebecker8702]

I love when I hear the same idea I've heard from someone else said a bit differently from another person... it's so confirming for me. Matt Kahn talked about circulating new energy. The universe likes to shake up the energy... break up the routine... gets the energy flowing. Like Matthew says too... it doesn't have to be BIG... just a little different. Thank you Matthew Hussey for going deep and keeping it simple.

[@ruchaabhyankar]

This video was extremely helpful. I tried the "consume new content" thing where I listened to a podcast I would normally not listen to, and I ended up having an interesting conversation on it the very same evening with my friend. We ended up talking about it for a good 20 min. You were right, these tips are not only helpful for love life or social life, but also to help us be a good conversationalist. On the other hand, I did another micro mission where I went on a smoke break with a new colleague who I thought was cute. I don't smoke, but he asked me for my company and I still went. It was fun

[@matthewhussey7789]

Love it!

[@ShopgirlNY182]

I love these ideas as I’m trying to rebuilt & restart my life again since my breakup in 2024, looking forward to a fresh start with new positive growth & habits that will enrich my world. Thank you Matthew for always knowing just what I need to hear. Happy New Year! 🎉

[@wheelerrach1]

A contracting life. 100% my problem for the last few years. Thank you for your timely advice. Perfect!

[@Ang36914]

2024 was a year filled with both blessings and challenges for me. One of the best things I did was take a writing class and out of that, I've gone to an author event with my classmate and we've all kept in touch through regular in-person/virtual meetings. One small step can open up a whole new world for you.

[@BBurnett333]

2024 ended with me literally telling someone I felt we are misaligned and it was time to part ways. Best decision ever for my mental health. 2025 has an abundance of opportunities to say YES to things that push me out of my comfort zone. Such as taking an ASL class later this month. Choosing to move cross country this summer. Adopting a chill and friendly Pitbull. (Dog parks are a fun way to meet people.) Not looking for love. Looking to continually enrich my life and grow as a person. 1% changes are changes nonetheless.

[@polpolpol99]

Matthew, Thank you for this one! I needed that kind of push to do out there and make my life feel bigger.

[@angellombness4371]

Trivia, volunteer, library/club, volunteer, adult dance classes, volunteer ☺️

[@anastazjamalczyk7683]

That's some gold advice there, thanks Matthew! What you said about what makes a year exceptional or "full" at the beginning of the video resonates so strongly with me! Im working on my world to expand and one of the practical steps I'm gonna take is to really step out of my comfort zone and go ice-skating alone this month ☺️ happy 2025!

[@msdamianodavid2295]

I'm going to go to the retreat. I'm gonna make it happen! Look forward to it

[@matthewhussey7789]

So happy you're coming!

[@ValiantVicuna]

For the last 2 years, my family has had Saturday morning bagels around 10am. We are about to move away, but I can tell we are going to be regulars at our local bakery on Sunday mornings. #6 and #7 have been a big thing we worked on this year. I liked all of these! Thanks for sharing!

[@626lifeaa]

Awesome video, 2023 was the best year of my life, I traveled extensively, got married and life felt unbelievable. 2024 was the absolute worst, after 10 years and 1 year of marriage I’m getting divorced and spent most of 24 in depression and isolation, grief and regrets.

[@freckles-c9e]

Mine was 16 year relationship, so I hear you. I started sea swimming, group therapy, a new job, a new college course in the past 6 months and I will continue to live, learn, grow, be adventurous and love myself. I send you a hug and some 💛

[@RoccoB.-jq1oq]

Baffling. Would not having officially married in the final year saved the relationship?

[@SuzannePoschet]

Don’t waste time , it’s precious and goes by too quickly…. I know this, I’ve been where you are. Decide your going to be happy and don’t waste your precious days mourning something that’s gone, look for what’s ahead ❤

[@hikerhobby1204]

I feel so bad for you❤ To me, heart break is debilitating. However, you will get thru this. I’m praying for you❤

[@bryonymaw1]

This is a very well structured and articulate set of advice. I feel like I do all of these things but I do them for myself and my love life I see as quite separate. I find myself not wanting to risk the community I've built or found for just a possibility of connection. This has made me reflect on this more.

[@juliafisher5844]

Why would you be risking that I don't understand?

[@nelsonjmclaughlin7061]

Thank you for separating introvert and shyness! Being an introvert I need time after to process (recharge batteries) and that's part of my make up. Shyness is something I can change the degree of how it affects me by doing nothing about it or doing something such as micro missions! Thanks for adding that last action to my vocabulary!

[@basketboutiquebysha]

Hey Matthew! I am currently listening to your book Love Life. I appreciate your transparency, directness, and warmth. Thank you. Happy New Year ✨✨✨☺️

[@earthgirl0225]

It’s amazing how similar we are. I’m super introverted with a very few friends that I only hang out a few times a year. I really needed to hear this. I guess we are both INFJs.

[@dnn-1111]

I have just invited all on my facebook to join me for a coffee every 2 weeks. Something I would never do ! Thank you!! ❤

[@bernardmccormack8687]

Its 2025 and I am here not to just listen to your message's of hope, but too also say happy new year to you and your lovely wife and family and friends,,from julieann whelan in Ireland Jan

[@BrookeAuty]

So many people never move out their comfort zones. They stick in their cliques. This is really good advice since lockdown people don't mix as much as they did In fact, this bad weather period feels exactly like lock down again

[@MayankDhuria]

Soo needed this video. When you said that You too are an introvert, I was so happy. 😌😌

[@PinkyBonna]

I’ve got this on loop while I study. It’s so smooth!

[@warriorqueen9792]

Thanks for the micro missions idea. I've got a couple of things I can make my micro missions without too much trouble! I've isolated myself a fair bit the last few years and as a former extrovert it's been a bit lonely! I'm not even looking for love but I think that's how it should be anyway and then sometimes love will find you.

[@jessielynninspire573]

I hope you are safe from the fires in LA…. Thank you for sharing the insights and knowledge ❤

[@tadpole2024]

I am embarking on my first real meaningful connection, I would like to thank Matthew for his great videos. they have made me see my self as more worthy in the way I am treated, and how I have accepted certain traits that I thought were normal in a relationship, I just had to change the relationship with myself...

[@francoismoolman8498]

This is the video that I needed. Thank you Matt!! I read How to make friends and influence people a few years ago and that has really made me a better conversationalist

[@JayPendragonWatches]

This is my new content - the first video from you that’s caught my eye 😊

[@hightopdeluxe]

I like the idea of micro missions. Going out to a new bar or just doing something by myself

[@zainabgaafar1661]

I did most of these things throughout last year, mainly because I was new in this city and I wanted to work on a few things. I would not say that this improved my love life lool, however, it really helped me get over work burnout.

[@missusmoon3867]

I had a Navy career, and when traveling overseas my micro mission was the local library, they'd tell me what I should see.

[@rocioortiz4915]

How is it possible that this man looks more attractive in every video?! Gonna have to try these 7 habits...wish me luck y'all ❤🎉

[@juliafisher5844]

Love the happy hour idea once a fortnight.. very good . The hike idea and the content .. changing from the usual

[@whatsupwithru]

Thank you these mindsets changed my 2024 and im gonna continue this in 2025 😊 ive grown too from your content

[@lanaabrahams739]

Thanks Matthew, really enjoyed this video because of how practical and easy these steps are to implement. I'm starting fresh after rebooting my life, making major changes has left me with a clean social slate. So perfect timing😅 if possible, could you post a snapshot of the 7 habits that we can keep as a reference of sorts, to remain "on mission"? Thanks again

[@sharonmargaretstewart8341]

Thanks Matthew have a wonderful day with Audrey, bless yous 🦋💫💫💫💫💫🍀🌸

[@NivethaBalasubramaniam]

Really good tips for the new year!! Manageable!!

[@banjomechanic]

Thanks for the positive vibes brother. I’m subscribed. 👍🙏

[@AniPistachio]

This video is the best dude .Thank you.❤

[@elizabethlaughlin5111]

Awesome advice that I really needed. Thank you!

[@msdamianodavid2295]

Thank you as always for all your wisdom, you are my yoda lol

[@micaelaalmeida2307]

This video was great. Love the concept of looking for newness, it just doesn't stumble into our lives, we need to invite it. Especially now that we curated ourselves into our own limitations. Great reminder to keep an open mind and invite novelty and fresh perspectives. Would love to know what is the album Matthew's brother recommended ☺

[@namasteyogastudio1994]

Hi Matthew, I love all your videos-they’ve been such an inspiration! I heard you mention mindfulness practice and thought you might find Vipassana meditation transformative. It’s a practice of deep self-awareness, observing breath and sensations to quiet the mind and build balance. Vipassana retreats, often 10 days of silence, can be life-changing-helping release stress and gain clarity. It aligns beautifully with the empowering messages you share. Would love to hear your thoughts if you try it! Wishing you continued success, Agnela Patil

[@FranekWrobel-hp7zp]

9:20 yea, this is important. I plan to change my fitness from just gym to mostly gym and once a week something else.

[@AY-ln1mk]

I love the first advice!!!🎉

[@laurenbarca4661]

This is such a quality video thanks, Matt

[@ghaili1175]

Thank you. I needed this

[@sonja7711]

Thank you Matthew ❤

[@naomiuchiha0906]

Such a useful video! Thank you

[@justtrash6673]

last year i barely had any friends or hobbies and was too introverted to enjoy a social life. by the end of the year, i was part of several communities, gained >20 friends (not exaggerating), 1 of them is now my incredible boyfriend, picked up two hobbies, did well at uni. i stopped trying to be invisible and take up space that i need to take up. and now 2025 is looking so positive. cheers for all your advice!

[@user-et2fj8xm5l]

I forgot how to live constructively. I’m 52 and feel like I’ve awoken from a deep sleep.

[@lenamarie3665]

Thank you so much! Really helpful ideas🙏🏻🥰

[@LvndrBeez]

Micro missions, love it

[@buda2049]

Do we really look for love,or we actually look for life, for ourselves? Does love or searching for love become a distraction?

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

Good question.

[@hesamforozan8964]

Happy New Year! Thanks for your advise! I do some of these for sometime, but it is all solo even when I converse or dance for example salsa with women or meet people! I enjoy my life, but wonder how to meet new connections and make new friends! Dating is another cattle of fish!

[@77NickDale]

You don't have to 'improve' yourself to find love! You should just be able to be totally yourself and attract that person who loves you for YOU!

[@OliverD-l1s]

Is anyone here over 30? I’m a single guy, and new friends and relationships are much harder to find than I thought it would be in my 30s! Or am I the only one thinking that?

[@TheLooselois]

All this is fantastic advice. I particularly love the bar idea for 30 minutes But I am feeling stuck. Like my life is on hold as I work a full time job and studying for a degree. I just don’t have time for this for another 3 years. Nevertheless, I think I’ll do some of these where I can but my social life is just so restricted rn

[@michelleh6768]

Great tips.

[@GTC7702]

Great advice!

[@ghaili1175]

Ok. I’ll try

[@laylajchapman]

I really wish you would come to California. Please please.

[@ryandavis4936]

I hate dating around as an autistic person. its so hard to meet people i can connect with at all, and when they leave its like losing a loved one. its very traumatic

[@Julia-jv6rg]

Thank you ❤

[@freckles-c9e]

Thankyou ❤🧡💛💚💙💜💟

[@Ratsfrom42]

This is something I’ve been wanting to do for a few years, get out into new places to see new faces. I have chronic Lyme & comorbid conditions though so getting out… not very … easy. I don’t do evenings because of it except a handful of times a year for special occasions. Im a bit stumped on what to do honestly. My interests though like he said are too narrow. I’m very much into health and fitness (kind of ironic for chronic illness ik) so I guess I should expand my interests beyond. Maybe find a book club or try to do some art related thing. Ps online does not count for me for looking for a social outlet. I have too many friends online I need real people lol

[@amandakeaton9272]

Problem is none of the things around me encourage socializing with just singles. So, social life is great but without singles the whole love life thing is never happening lol

[@BeardedKaiju]

I appreciate you

[@alana5123]

Matthew and Vanessa Van Edward’s need to do a video together!!

[@cha9165]

I do all of this stuff but i make friends all the time but no man wants to pursue me. They know I'm single, even as a friend they do everything for me but they don't want a relationship.

[@barbara6840]

I think consuming new content resonates with me after watching this.

[@TheSunshinefee]

I had applied these rules-which I had found on my own-in the past. I met men, but they were all taken or not interested, and those who were were grandpa's age or misaligned with my values and goals. I didn't build any new friendships either. Coupled-up women are wary of single women. Also, as a brown woman, people open up less to me and they don't let me into their social circle. A few even told me I should look into my community. My community is small, so I have to look outside.

[@peacelove7437]

Don’t use race. I’m Asian and friends are brown, black, green lol

[@cecilang9721]

I’ve spent my whole life wandering the world as a “single woman”, and the hostility is real! Now I’m a mom/married woman. But I still walk the world “single” and hardly ever do things as a couple. As far as any new people know, I’m single. However, people also don’t like that I don’t do everything with my husband. Lol! I don’t know what to tell you. Avoid people who don’t see you as the interesting and remarkable person you are. It doesn’t matter what their “reason” is, there’s always going to be a reason. What is your “community”? Maybe there is an inside or outside, but I guess I have always been outside. As a minority, a woman, and an autistic. You will be ok!

[@j.m.221]

Struggling with the last 2. Friends are always too busy with their own lives to make it a point to do things regularly.

[@hdog4474]

Sounds like you need an additional set of friends using the tips in this video 🫶🫶🫶 good luck! 🥰

[@jojohanna217]

And what's the advice for people who are very introverted and don't have (many) friends?

[@caronreck295]

I think that's the point. Push themselves.

[@whatupdoemia]

Stay out of your comfort zone, sometimes just go out alone and strike up a conversation with someone, it can be uncomfortable to put yourself out there but that is the lesson and blessing❤

[@jojohanna217]

@@whatupdoemia thank you :)

[@Ang36914]

I'm the same (introverted with few friends). I sometimes go alone to events and places, wherever I feel safe and comfortable with the area, people, etc. Sometimes it ends up feeling a little lonely and other times I have a great time.

[@jojohanna217]

@Ang36914 thanks for your answer!

[@nathanhardman7143]

Honestly all I can do Is cry watching this. I have the Erie feeling that this year is gonna be just as lonely and depressing as the last. All the things you mentioned I’m deprived of. Just want to die.

[@bondimedia8494]

That pain in your thoughts requires new skills to no longer be overwhelmed and trapped.

[@juliafisher5844]

Please seek help urgently

[@CuriousCat_4]

These recs really require a ton of disposable income... And also living in a thriving city. What if you are broke and live in a very dangerous place? thanks!

[@zenazenstvena507]

Move, you are not a tree 🙂

[@tvo1620]

i just found out my 10years husband cheated on me after second born just turn 13months. i thought i found the right one. but no when creeping things come out of the dark, it cut me so deeply. i dont know what should I do now. Im just so lost.

[@michaelhelenethegirl]

So after 7 years I just recently started wanting to date again. My issue is I am 43 and as much as I would like a committed relationship something is going on in my body where all I want is sex. Lol. I feel a bit torn about it because I think it’s ok to do that temporarily and safely but I’m afraid I might scare off a good man. Sooo I find myself looking at younger men that maybe don’t want to date me but just want to have fun. I also don’t want to be considered a low value woman. Anyone else have this issue? Please don’t judge me, I think it may be my hormones changing. It’s really interesting.

[@WealthyChronicle]

Anyone else wondering if this 'consume new content' advice is just a sneaky way to make us Netflix addicts? 😂

[@liambraithewaite6415]

Tried the friend micro-mission many times. Problem is that even if you are invited, their friendship group is established and everyone else sees you as an outsider and a threat.

[@atty.veronicainoturanosg3487]

This is so true. Often, by the time we reach our mid 20's onwards, people's friend-groups are already set. I myself experienced this; both as the person trying to get into an established friend-group, as well as one of the members of an established friend-group who's wary of any newcomers because of the potential drama/baggage/troubles that they might bring along.

[@atty.veronicainoturanosg3487]

BTW I'm turning 44 y.o. this 2025, so yeah, I'm speaking from personal experiences & observations.

[@Ang36914]

Best way to find a new friend group is through classes, groups, etc. That way, everyone's pretty much new to each other and you lay the foundation of the friendship by having a common interest.

[@ThatGuyMata]

​@atty.veronicainoturanosg3487 hence why we don't take personal experience as seriously as data 😊

[@peacelove7437]

Stop making excuses. I’m 48, I’ve met a gf in my spinning class. I met 2 single and childless women like me at happy hour. I was actually on a date. One is 37 and the other is 40.

[@cargi9926]

19:43 21:18

[@annedolan5787]

Hi Mathew

[@Crith973]

@@annedolan5787 I was first😵‍💫

[@cha9165]

What i find is when i do something new men are emasculated because I'm already somebody who does a lot. Crazy, instead of appreciating the fact i can do it. Not many men appreciate women who can explore etc.

[@anaasma989]

I seriously can’t believe Matthew is an introvert as he can speak in the public just exactly like extrovert! Should I believe in everything he says🤔

[@ZhiyingHarp]

For years, I have always seen him as an introvert.

[@Ang36914]

He's had a lot of practice speaking in public. Actors come to mind: a lot of them are shy or introverted too and excel on the stage or on screen. Public speaking is a lot like acting actually.

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

I'm an introvert and have done public speaking. Being an introvert is about where you get your energy from, not how you appear to be in public. Introverts get energy from being alone. They get drained from being around other people. I found public speaking energising. I found socialising tiring.

[@carlabrown4800]

That's such a great explanation.​@dumfriesspearhead7398

[@nocando89]

Extroverted introvert.. maybe he can play an extrovert sometimes. :)

[@Crith973]

first here🎉

[@annedolan5787]

@@Crith973 no I was first

[@hikintrailsndrinkinales]

Ehhh. I was hoping for something more helpful. I’ve done all of these things and have been single for 12 years. I’m always outgoing and creating new connections, but nothing leans towards romantic relationships.

[@pomerang19567]

I think his content is for women... I don't think a lot of the things he says work for men

[@Karisbarlowe]

❤🙏

[@hadiza1]

💜