6 Ways to Heal Your Broken Heart

[@E_Tea]

I think one of the hardest things after a break up is to make sense of going from being so damn close to the other person to literal strangers. It's hard to accept and hurts big time. Once the acceptance is settling in it gets better, but getting there is tough. Moreover, grief is not linear, it comes and goes - feeling all the feelings when they come up speeds up the healing process in the long run, even when they come in months later, feel them and let them pass. Too many people push those hard feelings of grief away or distract themselves in unhealthy ways - grief needs to be expressed and worked through within our bodies, don't let it get stuck, cause it'll hunt you in the long run. To everyone grieving their past relationship here: I see you. And you're not alone. Sending you all big hugs!🌻

[@princessjulia5646]

Thank you

[@Ghhh-on3nl]

Thank you

[@E_Tea]

@@princessjulia5646 Sending you hugs

[@E_Tea]

@@Ghhh-on3nl Wishing you healing

[@stephanie_allen]

amen! it's like the fabric of your universe has been deeply altered. It does literally feel like deaths i've been through (people around me passing). Reality is altered and it takes time, even physically, to process.

[@hamtoriz1084]

"Just because we were in love it doesn't mean we were happy, it doesn't mean we were at peace" so true! we could be in love and miserable af

[@Xl_12578]

1. Talk about ur breakup.. its ok to talk.. u will end up framing the story into a positive thing.. if u r not talking abt ur story it means u did not accept. 2. Find peace. Focus on peace which u ve lost. It doesnt mean love is peace. Relationship that gives u peace is important. 3. Triggers ruminate things. Social media; mutual friends; etc., ur world is bigger than that. Expand ur world. 4. Contract ur life that u don’t remember ur ex anymore. Reclaim those places that u spent with ur ex, go there again and create new memories with friends. Reclaim those and never talk abt ur ex again. 5. The world is so much bigger than ur ex. On a global scale nothing is not equal to ur ex. 'Paris' is functioning and doesn’t even know ur ex. There are things more important than ur ex. Ex is unimportant. 6. Do things that u wud ve never done when u wer in that relationship. When u explore those adventures, it will balance ur life. It will end up u realising, 'if they did not break ur heart u wud ve never enjoyed these adventures'. 7. You wont feel bad for the whole of your life. Next year in ur life will be beautiful. Remember and believe. Ur relationship with that event will change. Remember, everything will change. Peace ☮️ ✌️

[@Z-gg3fc]

Very well said. Thank you so much for this. I totally agree ❤❤❤

[@daniqtpy647]

Thanks

[@kflecha1]

Breakups are painful sometimes but for me the best cure is understanding your value and loving yourself enough to understand that, the relationship didn’t work and you deserve better ❤

[@stephanie_allen]

such good medicine for that, totally agree

[@Debby142]

Very true.

[@litedawg]

5:03 WOW just because we were in love doesn’t mean we were happy. This is what I needed to hear today.

[@WesleyMillionDollarMilford]

Great video. My ex and the mother of my kids broke up with me 8 weeks ago. I still feel heartbroken and am having a hard time letting go. I currently feel a lack of happiness.

[@billieblake6227]

I'm an old lady and I can attest that your points are true and will work. The horrible pain goes away. Figure out why you chose the person that's your ex, decide if it was healthy decision. Put your life back together. You'll survive. Really. Thank you Matt, I wish you'd been around 30+years ago! (I've been married 30+years. I met the love of my life after horrible break up. I'm Soo glad I was dumped! Chin up everyone, the Best will come if you do the work!)

[@airakhan7979]

Thank u ma'm. Really needed this one

[@diasiaswanson43]

Thank you so much ! I love seeing this

[@justemonsoleil]

Thank you so much for sharing this ❤

[@billieblake6227]

@@airakhan7979 just saw this. I hope you're better. Time really does heal. Best wishes.

[@billieblake6227]

@anna miller As long as we don't fall into the trap of self pity, but strive forward with new eyes, we learn from the pain! Best wishes

[@SRA234]

When you go to places you’ve been with your ex, it does not only remind you of them but its far worse than that; It hurts you, you almost feel like you are living that moment again with the person that is longer there, especially if you loved your ex so much and you were not the one who broke up! It cuts you deep and you feel so lonely in that moment. That’s why it is so hard to revisit those places, i rather never go there again.

[@cats6667]

I tried to go and do certain things we used to do together it hurts asf in the first and the second times but believe me when u made new memories u won't care that much

[@Z-gg3fc]

How do you feel now? It’s been a year since you commented that. I use to feel the same way years ago. I could not bare to go anywhere I went with my ex. I would literally tear up . I couldn’t even eat certain foods because that we ate together. But slowly it doesn’t fade away . They just become memories and so does he. Life goes on. Enjoy those places again like you use to. Not fair to you not to. Whether with new love , alone or with family, friends. Time heals all wounds.

[@Jen-K-2024]

​@Z-gg3fc i can't wait for it to be just a memory and feel no pain. Every where I look in my house, I see him. I won't be able to watch the Notebook movie again. That was our movie. Sucks!

[@Z-gg3fc]

@@Jen-K-2024 I’m sorry. But the pain will leave, it might not feel like that at the moment. I feel like people come into our lives for a reason and things happen for a reason and sometimes we never know why. I worked with a girl that went by the name Jen k. Funny right. lol. So everyone at worked called her Jen k because there was another one that was also named Jen. Everyone got confused with them two. Your name reminded me of her. I haven’t talk to her in years, we were so close.

[@tayyab3070]

I visited those places. First, give yourself some time to heal. Later, when you visit those places again, you'll feel much more confident. Now I even laugh to think that I once cried for that person.

[@lonewolfheart1697]

I'm 43 and now the only single person in my group of people in my life. I feel like I'm so alone... not just because of that but I truly want to find love for me.

[@mp4455]

I’m 42 and same

[@nayaplayz441]

#2 is huge. After 4.5 years of an off and on relationship that was very toxic at times, I always seemed to forget that the reason we were so off and and on was how often I felt my life would have so much more peace if we weren’t together. And then we’d break up and all I could always focus on is the loss, rather than the peace. As soon as I heard this I also “removed the triggers” by finalizing unfriending on any links, including fitness apps and even the Bible app we were still linked on. These videos and this man provide the assurance and peace we need during our heartbreaks. God Bless you ❤️❤️

[@Deenen13]

This is so similar to my story....off and on....and when we were together all I wanted was peace....getting there slowly tho

[@JQWELLIN]

“Just because you were in love; doesn’t meant you were happy. And just because someone wasn’t BAD; Doesn’t mean you didn’t FEEL bad while you were with them.” 💣 BOOM💥

[@lynettenjunge124]

I remember when I was dating my ex he kept complaining I slept too early (Yet I would explain to him I am used to sleeping early in the evening and wake up early since I feel very active in the morning). So I would force myself not to sleep just to avoid the conflicts. Now I sleep so peaceful like a baby and at my time of choice.

[@thisloop]

😂😂😂 i know how it feels...

[@janinediaz5941]

My ex used to tell me, you’re not. Hungry, you’re just bored.. now I can eat whenever I want 😂

[@leannaTurner-pp7tr]

I’m sleeping better too ! More peaceful

[@jenein6985]

I really needed this. I've just broken up with my ex after 4 years of. It's only been a few days since the breakup, but I'm feeling a little bit better. I still cry, but it's not as painful as the number of times I've cried in pain for how he had been treating me. I've been doing some of these tips you've given. I went out my friends and talked about everything. I'm also planning to do things I've always wanted that he wasn't interested in. I'd also love to share how I deal with my fun or "happy" memories with him which make me kinda miss him. I always tell myself, I could've had those moments with someone else who would've treated me genuinely. It just so happens that it was with him. Then, I feel more at peace, 'cause I can finally create genuinely happy memories with myself and the people who truly cared for me.

[@_Diaryofwealth]

U broke up with him so endure and move on

[@Bobess22]

He made me so anxious. I’m still recovering from the impacts of that. I am glad for the safety of myself now but I think I’ll find it hard to date again.

[@galentine09]

"on a global scale, your ex is not that important" thank you Matthew for this great reminder. I moved to Costa Rica and met/started dating a tico and after discovering he was cheating on me after we moved in together, I just crumbled, I thought my "world" had been destroyed. But I am trying to climb out of this heartbreak now and I feel like the only way I can survive this is if I move back to the U.S. Everything here reminds me of him and he lives on the same street as me. He & his entire family LOL so it has been ROUGH to say the least. And I feel so stupid and so weak. Your videos and my friends are what has been getting me through each day. Thank you for giving such sound advice and I do look forward to a year from now.

[@yeuruuerueeheue]

sending you so much love and strength!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️ you got this

[@allyjoblock920]

This is literally happening to me now!! My cheating Tico boyfriend broke up with me a week after he moved into my neighborhood! So insane, at first read I thought your comment was narrating my life! I hope that you are doing really well making progress towards forgetting your cucaracho!

[@terrirawnsley478]

I just ended a very unhealthy relationship and I know staying away will be extremely difficult for me, however I feel free and want to stay that way. I'm 61 and going to concentrate on living my life to the fullest and not allow anyone to steal my THUNDER!

[@semperfitygaming5619]

Keep that thunder my friend!

[@Amanda-qh2lh]

Thank you very much for this video. I'm very fresh out of a breakup (3 days ago) and am in a lot of emotional and physical pain, as it came out of the blue, a complete 180°. It happened after I came back from a week-long work trip (again, only a week!!) but things were great before! Our relationship was new (were official for 3 weeks but dating for almost 5 months), and I was so excited to have life experiences with him. His reasoning for ending things was that he didn't think he was where he "should" be in the emotional connection. I was falling in love with him and could see a future with him... It helps to remember there's a whole world outside of them. 🥺🌎 Thanks again Matthew!🙏

[@bor4ence1]

Same story for me, however after 1,5 year of dating and moving in together..

[@madilynkuang6329]

Matthew, thank you millions. Been crying for months and trying to get over a breakup, feel like i could never get over this and could never love anyone else with my entire heart againn. Thank you for this video you made, you points are truely valuable.

[@JayJay-vv9rp]

This hits so deep considering what I'm going through, life is so difficult alone , it had gotten to a point where she became such a big part in my life ,it's so hard to do things without her , it feels like my soul is crushed , waking up everyday hurts more than the last 😢but thank you Mathew , you've been a great help in this journey

[@thisloop]

ure gonna be fine. been there done that. its hard at first but if u adjust it, u'll b fine

[@johnroberts7813]

Your self-respect is the most important thing. I found that out after being with someone who was damaged from previous relationships . I couldn't stay as I was losing myself. That is the most important thing, It does not matter if I was in pain,I had to remember the reasons why.😊

[@Darkviking872]

It's been two years since she broke up with me and yet it still stings at times because she is now engaged to the person she left me for but this video couldn't have come at a better time. Thank you for this!

[@Anakinsgone3006]

Hope you find love bro you will

[@harriemacintosh8338]

I hear you💔. It's been nine months since I found out he had met someone else. How do you know she's engaged - you still have contact?

[@Darkviking872]

@harriemacintosh8338 i am sorry to heae that. It must really hurt and a friend who works with her let it slip out. Until then I had no idea what was going on with her.

[@Darkviking872]

@@Anakinsgone3006 thanks. Maybe one day!

[@nitisood]

How can a women leave a loving man..she is unlucky..I can feel ur pain ...I'm trying to move on from him😢

[@yesreneau]

So this is what happens when you wake up early, huh? You get to be one of the first to see a Matthew Hussey video. Might need to wake up at 7am more often

[@bananaisyuk23]

Or you live in Australia and are a night owl so always watch MH right as he uploads 😆

[@krishna335]

Accept, grieve, look at the situation objectively for what it is, and remind yourself that this, too, shall pass. Hope you heal soon.

[@alexdewilde934]

Damn, binge listening to videos like this on KZbin and applying the teachings have been absolutely healing. Heartbreak seems to be the most confusing and intense pains I have yet to experience. I'm happy stuff like this is around to help me heal, reduce scarring and much more.

[@keymed1935]

I’m going through the same thing. So glad that heartbreak is common enough where there are countless videos to encourage and help us. Best to both of us

[@jetevangelista1098]

I like it when you mentioned about having so much peace after the breakup than being in love and was anxious all the time.

[@cr0wzzz]

Thank you for the reminder -- I do feel way more at peace now. No more anxiety has been a huge relief. I can't wait to forget them more each day.

[@marlyza88]

This man is always pure genius. Every time he speaks it feels so genuine, making it easy to trust what he says and believe if we follow the advice we're going to be alright. ❤

[@ebonyde7828]

I wish there was more conversations on divorce and how to do these things while still talking to them daily and dealing with the day to day co parenting. I know it's hard to talk about if you haven't gone through it but it would be nice to hear

[@elizabethschuler8890]

This so much. So much break up advice is horse shit if you have kids together and a court system that’s fucking hell bent on forcing you to co-parent with someone who was abusive.

[@n0ne121]

Help heal 1. Its okey tell the break up over and over with people 2. Connect with newodund sense of peace instead focusing on what you lose 3. Remove the triggers Without affectinh your quality of live (not physical can be blocked them) 4. Or change the meaning of the triggers (reclaim what you cant remove) 5. 6. Remembering next year, everything changes

[@connorw360]

Coming out a 7 year relationship and I am definitely getting the insight from the breakup like he's talks about in another video. I just wish I put more effort in and saw it during the time. It makes it even harder when she was your best friend too and you put all your eggs into one basket and drifted away from other friends. I think the two hardest things for me is remembering all the memories you had with the person, and the idea that you won't be making her happy anymore, it will be another guy eventually 💔

[@SHINKU93]

This is me right now and it hurts so bad. How are you holding up now my friend?

[@skater65rager99]

Same

[@deseraenelson2518]

I'm the one leaving him and IM emotionally destroyed. I am barely functioning. My dogs are the only reason I'm up and moving. Bless their hearts.

[@ckl5801]

Remind yourself why you chose to leave…use cathartic journaling to help you stop reminiscing. It helps to get it out of you and on to the page.

[@Lisa-oq1bd]

Thank you. You have given areas to focus on that I need. Working to finalize healing. 2023 is going to be a great year. 😊

[@amber4027]

Finally and also, dating in your 40s and eventually blending families would be awesome content. There are so many of us doing this ❤

[@himanshukumawat3419]

Its been 2 years since my breakup , my grief has reduced but memories still bothers me. Sometimes i can't focus on anything, feel helpless and keep ruminating. And i feel like i have to tolerate this discomfort for my lifetime.

[@davidalanglaser]

This guy is the greatest. I don’t know how I would be handling my recent breakup without him. Thank you Matthew! ❤

[@skyejacques]

Thanks Matthew. I'm 3 weeks no contact after having a slip up (technically I'm 2 months no contact yay) and today I want to message him and there's no point. I'm crying and sad, and doing breathwork and will do some shamanic plant medicine now to help accelerate the healing again. I swear, without the hapeh and energetic cord removal and inner child healing, this heart would have felt a lot more pain... Thanks for the video, it's reassuring grounding alongside all the spiritual work 💕✨

[@JBreezzBeatz]

It’s been months and I’m still extremely damaged but thank you so much for all of your insight Matt

[@clarepemberton8915]

As always Matthew your advice is spot in. Big thank you. After an 8 year relationship which ended in a very unsatisfactory way last June I have been absolutely devastated. But your advice on triggers is very interesting. I made the mistake of going to a holiday destination that I had been to with my ex. Nearly finished me off! Thank you x

[@asishpeter5045]

Protect this man at any cost ❤️

[@davidwilliams2840]

Nobody is guaranteed tomorrow so you have to make the best of every day .

[@tinamckay2440]

11 years together, known each other for 13 and married for 5 years. He moved on after a month almost to the day. I am trying to tell myself that saying celibate and focusing on processing doesn't mean I can't be interesting to anyone else. My self esteem is a rollercoaster like my emotions.

[@akrico1]

@Tina McKay I’m going through similar experience. I made mistakes in my marriage, have taken ownership and corrective measures to help ensure not repeating in the next relationship I know I will find. I’ve had fleeting moments where I thought I needed to go out and jump in the sack with somebody just to feel validated to move on. I don’t know whether my ex wife has done that for sure or not, but reality is, it’s none of my business and gravitating to those thoughts only keeps me stuck in an unhealthy cycle. It hurts like hell, but we must push through it. Truth is, that we gave ourselves permission to love or exes. It was that love we gave that made us feel so good. It wasn’t the love that was given to us. Each day when we awaken, we must look in the mirror, look ourselves in the eyes and speak “You are enough. You are worthy of loving and being loved.” After all, as Matthew says in another of his videos, it was your strengths that put you in that relationship. You still have them. One day at a time. Be kind to yourself. It’s okay to grieve. In ‘We All Want What We Ain’t Got’, Jake Owen sings “You know a love like that ain’t easily forgot”. Be patient and forgive yourself, even forgive your ex which is so extremely difficult to do, but you have to to find peace. You are not alone and God will never forsake us. Be well !

[@Misagonna88]

He may have “moved on” with someone else after a month, but he’s just delaying the pain. Women grieve, men replace. I know my ex is suffering, but no contact really helps. First few days are awful, but I refuse to be beaten down by it. You have to be happy by yourself and this is incredibly hard and I’m learning how to do it. It’s also perfectly ok to take it slow with someone new in a few months time. Little by little. Day by day 🌸

[@tinamckay2440]

@@Misagonna88 thank you, I am staying alone I have no right or interest to pursue anyone. I need rest, healing and space to become myself again.

[@valerie1920]

After 5 months of anguish over the end of an engagement, tip #2 was an absolute epiphany 🤯. It changed everything in my healing and acceptance of the end of a relationship that wasn't as good for me as I liked to remember it being. You are a blessing, Matthew Hussey ❤. God bless you 🙏🏼

[@shoukifong]

100% what I need.. hanging on someone who doesn't have the same life goals with me for over a year is interrupting my current healthy relationship. Thanks Matthew

[@Aprilgirl1111]

Why I feel like I never gonna meet someone like him ever... I feel small and insecure.... I want to move on but fear of not meet with anyone better 💔

[@ueamadio]

God Bless Matthew just what I needed to hear, I just let go of a relationship that was nit going anywhere, he was stringing me along for the past 15 months telling me to wait, finally I just walked away, feeling like crap missing him like crazy even though he will probably never commit to me!! Your video just popped up and it knocked some sense into me, the bit you talk about where one would have to move countries, I can’t afford to move to another country but I can reclaim the places I used to visit with him and start a new chapter in my life ❤

[@ar.5230]

Thankyou Matt, you are doing a divine job, I say this even as a guy, all of what you say makes so much sense. Moving on would've been so slow if it was not for whatever you said in your vids...i keep on repeating what you said whenever i ruminate about the incident, "If they do not choose you, they cannot be the right person". Keep up with your work Matt, things would've been so different if it was not for you.

[@anamhusain6866]

Thank you, it’s been almost two years and I can’t believe how much I was actually overlooking and just trying to rush the process 😭

[@arlene1986]

while i am watching this.. i am crying really hard. i feel so much excruciating pain. i keep denying and denying and now it exploded all at once.

[@ЛялялЛялялллялял]

How can WORDS from a person I don’t even know be so helpful and healing ❤

[@kostaslolis8262]

Oh Wow Matthew! Thank you! That's huge I want to emphasize that! Just because you were in love, it doesn't mean that you were happy! That hit home on my case. Also just because some one isn't bad it doesn't mean, we didnt feel bad! Wow

[@m.pellicier]

I got rid of EVERYTHING that reminded me of narc ex husband. It helped me heal a lil faster. No more triggers.

[@bulelwankolongwane6660]

I got goosebumps when you mentioned Johannesburg! I'm actually in Johannesburg, South Africa. And that point resonated with me so much. I would always say to people that when I was with him, it felt like nothing mattered in the Universe besides being with him. And now I realise that - actually, Johannesburg is moving along smoothly without any awareness of his existence!

[@teresitaambrosio4503]

Thank you so much Matthew for all your content. I recently discovered your channel and content and I have no words to describe how much you have helped me. Thanks to you I discovered a new passion, self-development and how to improve all of my relationships. As you said, this would not have happened If I wasn’t broken hearted. Thanks again and a big hug from Uruguay 🙏🏼

[@ZhangRed]

I loved this video. I'm struggling to wake up every morning as I wake up in bed alone and cold. I frequently dream of my ex. I used to write "what I've lost" and show it to my support group. After watching your video, I want to make a list of things that "I've gained" now that we're not together.

[@josemerino7894]

I'm in same boat ,,,hate dreaming of her 😢

[@ritabinsry8239]

same! having a hard time sleeping or staying asleep thinking of them and then dreaming of them. alone and cold too!

[@AliciaSweetz]

This hit home! Because I was never at peace and need to stay strong.

[@suzisaintjames]

10:55 there's a George Strait song: She let herself go... to NYC, Beach because it was too far, nights out with friends, etc... She let herself go. Everyone watching this video should listen to that song and make a list of where you would let yourself go... Sending lots of love 💖 from sunny 🌞 Arizona 🌵. Take care of yourself and each other 😷.

[@hkj949]

Takes me years to forget & to be ready again to fall in love ❤️ ! With age,it’s becoming even more deeper ,painful & I am becoming more & more exhausted just trying to move on ! Moving on is like being born again ! it takes all my inner strength,at the cost of my job ,education,money .. nothing actually matters at that point ! All the matters is this constant hurt feeling & desire to hear his voice, see his face again ..! And I could never understand how the other person never missed me soo deeply & had the heart to leave me without a word ?! that’s why we should always look for empathy & kindness in our partner above any other quality. I have actually left a job ,a city,& once even a university on being deeply heartbroken! !! Everything Mathew id saying is sooo true 😢

[@ameliel8792]

This is so spot on! Thank you. I think what I'm struggling with is that in my case he was what represented the expansion in my life. So I feel the loss more greatly... I guess it really depends what was happening before you met that person because if they were a big upgrade and they brought a lot to your life, damn it's hard to move on from :(

[@ignazs.5816]

Yes! My partner brought a lot of different great things and lots of adventures. But I got to remember that a lot of that came with a financial cost, mistreatment, anxiety and stress, and ultimately that he did not love me as much I loved him.

[@harrisonshouldice5451]

It’s been very painful trying to get over my ex. My first serious girlfriend and we dated for 3 years. The first 2 were amazing and it was the happiest I had ever been in my life. Then out of nowhere she had a bipolar manic episode that lasted months. This resulted in her being put in multiple hospitals and rehabilitation centers. She eventually had to move to another state to go to rehab. All I could really do was sit back and try to be supportive. The relationship turned one sided where only her needs mattered. I was still in love, but I wasn’t happy. I didn’t feel like I was able to talk to her about my needs because the last thing I wanted to do was trigger her mania. This created so much frustration in my head. After enough time that frustration was directed at her and we both decided it would be best to end the relationship. I’m still upset and trying to move on, I just miss the happiness I felt while being with her and I feel wronged because I feel like I did everything right. I was the only person who was able to somewhat calm her down while she was in her manic state. I was there for everything and I felt like I was owed a detailed explanation of her thought process. I expected rationality from an irrational person

[@vanessarodriguez8236]

Wow this guy is the best in this. He knows what he is doing

[@vidhiarya]

I like the evolution of this channel, I mean these advice are more empathetic, before it was very practical.

[@wildplanet1151]

Thank you so much for this. I am following and trying these suggestions. I do feel better most of the time. I have even started my own youtube channel and planing to move to Spain. I still love him but I put myself first. Love to listen to you. It puts me in the path of where I need to go and do. Fist, feel good in the heart and about one self, regain strength, climbing hiking exetra and know that the sky is the limit.

[@patchworkboy87]

3 months on since I broke up with my ex. She moved on in the space of 1 week (thanks Borderline Personality Disorder), and I'm still miserable. I've told my story, accepted that her condition prevents her loving me how I want to be loved. I haven't found peace yet because that ghost of the good version of her lingers in my memories. She loved so intensely in 2018, and by 2022, she just made no effort. While she claims she is "happier this way" with her poly relationship, I don't think it will last. We hurt.

[@LeslieBri]

This is the best getting over a breakup video ever. Thank you so much! I am so grateful for this.

[@maenmiu]

My love life is a priority this year in the sense that I'm committed to being single this year!

[@craftistic82]

Literally just spent 4 hours deleting every single photo, conversation, text, email, video, cloud backup... I couldn't stop looking at them. The ruminating was killing me. Now, It is as if she never existed in my life, according to my digital history. I thought that by doing this would mean that I was weak or spiteful. But the truth is, she wasn't a terrible person, we loved eachother a lot, but I miserable as we grew apart. And it was anything but a clean break. Which made it even harder. We lingered and tried to make it work. Finally, it came to a head. The decision had to be made to wipe the slate clean. It's still painful when she comes to mind, but she'll come to mind much less, and this stage of suffering will lessen as the triggers have been removed. I will find my person some day. In the meantime, it's about healing and development.

[@thisloop]

i do the same all the time every time i have a break up, deleting everything!

[@robbienielsen9331]

Thanks for your video, totally true and reassuring. I didn't know that it was what I needed before going to sleep. You even made me laugh when talking about whole cities still functioning without my ex. :D And to reclaim things, places etc. I have to do that. So far I have avoided even thinking about those triggers. I have already found peace in my home, I have binned/put away so many things and made new decorations. Today I managed to box the Christmas decor. I know it's quite late but my ex left me before Xmas, so the tree was a bit of a healing thing for me alone with our four kids. And I just easily threw away the little red paper hearts I made back when we were young lovers. They used to be his favourites. And yes, I want to expand my world and head for adventure. I also started a healing diary or what. I jot down things that are on my mind, motivations, feelings, music etc. I have to take notes from your videos, too. I mean to reread them when I feel down. I do hope for a better/easier life after decades of verbal and emotional abuse (I didn't realise that happening until now unfortunately). All the best for everyone out there suffering after a breakup.

[@koyumi_no_kumo]

i still missing him but i feel a little bit better now ..

[@jdnrotterdam2150]

On Easter morning my wife told me that she lost feelings and lost attraction for me. And that she wanted a break because she wasn’t sure that she want to stay married with me anymore. We have a child together. Bought a house. Financial security and created a safe bubble together for our family. I love our life with the 3 of us together and what we have. I didn’t saw it coming. First we had a break slept in other rooms. But in the same house. But 3 weeks ago it escalated because i was frustrated and wanted answers. Because i was insecure and scared to lose everything. Things escalated so far that i left the house and now i’m at my parents house. I feel weak. Heartbroken en destroyed. I really don’t know what to do .

[@arthurdane8508]

Started dating a friend of mine/colleague. It was going really well, and then suddenly out of the blue, it wasnt. Im trying to move on but struggling to move past it. The key i think is to allow the pain and sadness in, let it be a part of you, but only for a while.

[@parthrathod7670]

It's been about 6 months... Still not over her but I'll keep trying 🙌

[@frownyboi]

I hurt so bad right now. I can’t stand this feeling.

[@giorgiamis4676]

I’ve been following Matthew’s talks for years now and he never disappoints. Thank you and your beautiful community for the ongoing support 🙏

[@MoonFoxASMR]

Remember next year. ❤

[@Accomandoc]

Absolutely EXCELLENT!!!! THANK YOU I needed to hear this. I’m gonna listen to it again tomorrow ❤

[@amber4027]

Matthew please do a video on dating when you are older after being married for 20 years w kids. It’s complicated and I’d appreciate your insights ;)

[@shanetaylor8000]

I’m still broken after nearly 10 months.. I can’t let go. I’m so lost.

[@jonsayler3317]

How are you now?

[@curtis4304]

I’m 28 n I just experienced my first heartbreak yesterday n it’s sucks man like I’m hurting I can’t eat or sleep

[@kristenwilliamson8455]

I’ve just turned 50. My fiancé and I went on a beautiful holiday as he was also turning 50. I thought we were great but I found out while we were away that he wanted to be with a 26 year old. We broke up, even tho he “really loves me” and he was in bed with her the first night we got home. I feel so ugly and worthless because how can I compete with a skinny young 26 year old.

[@annphunn28]

Hello Friend, I am feeling for you and I completely understand how much you hurt. I am a similar age to you. I was my partner for 4 years. We planned to engage and move in this Xmas. But for the last months, he turned cool to me. And the last 2 weeks, after a small argument, he turned angry and aggressive at me. He blocked me everywhere. He is 53 and his mother texted me said it over and wished me the best of luck. 😮 I was shocked and had an anxiety attack, hurting very thinking about him. What your partner did a horrible, after a happy holiday with you. If he was man, he wouldn’t doings like that! We must love ourselves even more. Remember, you are beautiful and be more beautiful 🌹 and LET KAMA FIX THEM!!! ❤💪

[@melissccyn]

I am so sorry love ❤

[@senseofwonder0]

Well, first of all, that was a man not worth competing for. Just say a prayer for that child he lured in for she must have had some shitty childhood to fall for his bullshit. Unless she's just after his money, then well, she's done you a favour and took some trash out for you. Forgive yourself for your own foolishness and discover your new identity. Stay classy, but take what's yours. Good luck!

[@stephoutdoors]

Mate you re saving lives with this and other videos, your voice of reason in the free fall of emotions is a bungee cord to help spring us back to reality.

[@nirmaladatt4456]

Reclaim...my new fav word!

[@StoicismMovement]

Couldn’t have come at a better time.

[@Bamgeutcutiepie]

i listen to this with other relationships in mind - not romantic - and it's still just the most helpful advice Matthew. thanks you. 💕

[@DiraMcClintock]

This is no easier when you are the one breaking it off. I am just as heartbroken as if he was the one.

[@plasticmonument320]

Selling my home and moving out of state this week. Deleted my email account. Blocked her everywhere. Getting a new phone number. Traveled to five different countries. Wasn’t toxic, but was betrayed brutally in the end. Worst hear break I’ve ever experienced. Women these days move on in 15 minutes and usually with a loser. Broken society.

[@amandavictoriasewell7393]

This is brilliant. I have finally got over him. He is of no importance to me now. He made me so anxious and was bad for my mental and physical health. I am back to my old self - creative and happy. He had become my whole world, the centre of my life. A God. No more. I wrote and told him not to contact me again. He told me so many times that he didn't love me. He used me sexually, while he was in love with someone else. Deplorable. He kept returning to the 'other woman'. He wasn' t invested in me at all. I am at peace now. Even looking round for other people. I may find someone else. i still keep/look at the photos , however. But I have reclaimed myself. My world has just got bigger. He is just a tiny part of my universe now. I have moved on.

[@bherky1923]

Not in 45 minutes ago my boyfriend just broke up with me . What I am experiencing right now is much bigger than me but this video has made me again😢thank you so much😢

[@percyb8268]

Don’t get me wrong … This video is important but that T-shirt though .. that T-shirt is is everything.

[@ummagumma00]

I'm in the midst of a painful break up right now. At 46 it's the first time I was truly in love! But I also thought "I've never endured the grief of the death of a loved one. When my mom passes I know it will devastate me." Perhaps going through the pain of this will make me tougher to deal with the pain of that experience one day.

[@SHINKU93]

How are you holding up now my friend?

[@erinjones4808]

Matthew, You're so kind and considerate (and cute) and truly believe what you say to your audience. I had to watch this clip a few times for it to sink in after I ended a relationship that wasn't right for me... So true .I even had a laugh along with you about Paris is bustling without your ex.

[@angelfairy5010]

I got rid of everything he gave me, it took me 2 years to get over him what finally did it for me was when I found out 2 years later exactly how badly he had lied to me and badly treated me, it’s almost as if a switch turned on and I was over him. One thing I could never watch on TV was first dates as he took me to the restaurant now I don’t care

[@PeterBarber]

Hey Matthew! I know your audience is mostly women, but I find your advice extremely helpful as a straight guy. Would it be out of place for me to join in on the upcoming live event?

[@cyberaga20]

You’re an absolute god send! Thank you! Hurting is the worst feeling in the world I feel so sad

[@brookeedgecombe8527]

I do feel a sense of peace. Undeniably.

[@nina13dm60]

Those videos of you, Mattew, are so healing and so true... Yeah, the moments when everything is reminding him are the hardest... I s it possible to change memories - of course, but it all needs time, work and effort. And motivation to cure yourself...

[@vladislava511]

90 minutes we know it's going to be 2 hours Matthew 😝 and we're in for that!

[@mamatananda2935]

I have been trying since 4 and half years but still having pain and emptiness which was there when it first started

[@TedWesley92]

I hear ya - been through similar where it can take well more than a year (in my case 5 yrs), but this was because we were on and off hardly ever reaching the stage of a full on steady relationship. And that’s where it can anchor us sometimes - the potential of what could’ve been, reminiscing fond moments, characteristics of theirs, etc. It takes a lot of different modes of work to see that as much as you want(ed) that person, it was not aligned… What’s been helping me lately is to hone in on the cons of the person. Hope you keep finding more ways to overcome the anchor 🙏🏼

[@thisloop]

cuz u dont wanna let go, u fear that nobody is as good as him, nobody wants u etc.

[@hushpuppies872]

Focus on the peace after a toxic narcissistic person left. That's a good one.

[@venuspsychicmasseuse]

It's true we need to talk it out feel and even remember the beauty, and if we around those who are upset by you needing to do that this time in your life. If I don't I implode.OR EXPLODE. its important to reflect and soothe and comb thru as much as possible so no remnants of mind games & control is cleared. go thru every story if needed.

[@Shad0wmoses]

while avoiding the triggers and muting socials and other stuff, it does mitigate it to some extent, i still find myself getting triggered by being reminded of her in almost every little thing like movies, music, or a specific location being mentioned in a video im watching. those things cause me to get triggered too, just not to the same intense level as seeing their social media. And even worse, even if there is no specific trigger that i run into, i can still find my mind ruminating on occasion.

[@luna-mi5ve]

i just hope we'll find each other again one day

[@EllaChinois]

Good advice. Thank you for the video. I feel they are good ways to help with recovery from different kinds of breakup. For me, I think quitting a job that has brought more pain than anything else can be considered to be a painful breakup.