Getting diagnosed with ADHD! - (my diagnosis story)

[@Obby_Unsk]

I’ve always been discouraged by my peers and adhd gatekeepers and I’m afraid of talking to my doctor because I’ll get anxious and forget all my symptoms and worried they’ll think I’m just trying to get a prescription for drugs so I end up not talking to my doctor about it and say I’m just fine

[@_dashyy]

literally same

[@sweezymoney]

I felt the same way about it, but don’t let that scare you away. I just got diagnosed yesterday. I did struggle to articulate my symptoms and experiences, but just be open about it to your Doctor and they can help by asking you specific questions.

[@Obby_Unsk]

@@sweezymoney Thanks for the encouragement, I’m gonna go to the doctor very soon

[@sweezymoney]

@@Obby_Unsk No problem at all my friend, I am sure everything will work out well.

[@PurdyBear1]

My doctor hardly talked about symptoms. I even took a huge list of symptoms in with me and she didn’t even look at it. I’m awaiting my assessments date.

[@barrelburger]

Thank you. I am recently diagnosed and I am 63 years old. Your videos are very informative and inspiring.

[@Jupa]

Adult diagnosis was like a mental earthquake for me. I also discovered my ADHD in first year uni. I fuvked up uni badly. My relationship, my money, my education, everything was being tested, broken, rebuilt. Idk. It is hard to talk about… Congrats on getting your degree, I ruined my bachelors because I hyper focused on building my online retail business. will watch the rest of your video and come back with my thoughts. it’s interesting because my own discovery led to me helping two close friends of mine discover their own ADHD. Also, Bonjour! I love Paris… it’s like my home away from home (London). Also you’re right about diagnosis in England, I had to do it privately, my parents paid a few thousands to support me getting help. The fact that I failed in my bachelors (I’m still enrolled but I’m so far behind idk what I’m doing)… pains me a lot inside. It’s the one thing I feel I owe my parents for, and I couldn’t even do that for them. It fucks with me, a lot… Also you’re getting a lot of subscribers! You’re doing great, I think you should consider the idea of building a community for adult ADHDers through and around your channel, just an idea.

[@GoADHDGo]

Wait… you telling me that there are people with ADHD that have KZbin channels? Only weirdos would do such a thing. :)

[@youradhdgirl]

Hey! One thing I want to say, and I know it’s very hard to believe for us ADHDers, is that ruminating and beating yourself up about what you did in the past or even what you’re doing in the present, is NOT useful. It’s actually producing the results you don’t want, meaning more procrastination because of negative self talk, telling yourself you can never achieve anything (here, the said degree). I know it’s easy to say and very hard to apply (I personally struggled with this a lot and still am) but forgiving yourself for your past mistakes and accepting yourself and the way you show up in the world is the most important thing an ADHDer can do. I got carried away into coaching mode right there haha but I hope this resonates with you or makes you think differently about your experience (by the way I am not a certified coach!). Thank you for the comment and for the suggestion! I am thinking about making something out of the KZbin channel in the future, but for now my focus remains on producing quality videos every two weeks or so (goal would be every week but I’m not there yet!) Anyways wishing you the best and always happy to chat with you in the comments ☺️

[@tirarosaurioreads]

I have my first visit to assess if I have ADHD and your story has helped me so much to know (more or less, Im in Spain) what to expect. Merci beaucoup :)

[@youradhdgirl]

That's great to hear :D I hope it all goes well!!

[@advikvenkta1769]

This is so relatable, lmao and also nostalgic in a way, eventhough I am 16 and a minor (and was diagnosed at 12). But one thing i cant imagine is that u did all this by urself. However, being an adult with adhd, how do you structure ur day and intend to stay on the right track? That is one of the major difficulties i undergo apart from starting a given task. And everything I do, i end up procrastinating. I really do not know how to overcome that.

[@youradhdgirl]

One simple answer: time blocking almost every single thing I do. Once those blocks are there on my calendar it becomes much more real to me and much easier to start and do the task 👌🏼

[@annachristinanotyet4678]

@@youradhdgirl What does it mean? What is it? How do you do it?

[@nnylasoR]

@@annachristinanotyet4678 - Just seeing this ~4mos later~ and was wondering if you’ve taken some time to look into Time Blocking, or fallen down any “ADHD productivity hacks” rabbit holes perhaps? 😆

[@christylee5156]

Candice. Thank you for your channel. This video has encouraged me. I have classic adhd and realize now that depression and anxiety often associates with adhd. Keep up the good work. Your work in helping others is not in vain.

[@youradhdgirl]

Your comment means a lot to me Christy, thank you so much!

[@2323ace2323]

Thank you, Candice! This is such a helpful and reassuring video! I am 35 years old and a few years ago I started reading some scientific literature on adhd (before I only thought of it in terms of societal stereotypes, movies and tv shows) It explained so many things about my life, I was shocked, but relieved, at the same time. I‘ve been procrastinating, for at least two years now, about making an appointment with my Dr to talk about getting diagnosed! I really want to go back to university and get another degree, but I’m scared that, if I don’t get help/diagnosed, it’ll be the same bad experience I had the first time 😭 Like you said in one of your videos - I don’t remember ever studying, doing homework, essays were ALWAYS handed in late (if at all!), cramming an hour before an exam… same story for four years. I actually picked courses that were mostly marked by testing, no written component 😔 I want to do better this time and actually be proud of it! I hope this will give me courage to make that appointment!

[@GoADHDGo]

Make the appointment. It will change your life. I promise. I was diagnosed around age 35 and I wish I would’ve been diagnosed earlier in life.

[@youradhdgirl]

You got this!! Taking this appointment is the next most important step in your career and personal life: make it your priority and I promise it will open up many doors! Getting diagnosed saved me from staying in the unknown; not knowing how my brain worked seriously impacted my life. As you mentioned, it heavily impacts our studies! And getting diagnosed will allow you to put in place systems that will ensure you succeed in the next course you take! I believe in you, you can do this 💪🏼 come back on this thread and comment once you got your diagnosis ☺️🎉🎊

[@zeebot1]

I am really looking forward to my appointment end of march to see if the doc (who is not a specialist unfortunately) can do a proper diagnosis. I'm actually scared of it not being adhd and having to start from scratch with no clue why I am the way I am... first year uni, just moved to Berlin, it's been a mess... take care of yourselfs people ♥️

[@nnylasoR]

May I please ask… how did that go for you? How are you getting along now - many months later…?

[@mddljordens]

and ??

[@Natti1]

I relate to all your symptoms about organizing and just doing the daily tasks. I feel like everything takes twice as long to do.

[@noraricagni2077]

This is the first video i watch on your channel, and WHAT, YOU’RE FRENCH!? Let me explain, I’m italian but i grew up in the french education systhem… and no way yours is an accent 😂. Frenche people do not know how to speak english. So all my compliments. I had a feeling every 40 words that english was your second language but no way would i have thought you were french. Your english is excellent wow. And thank you for this video, very nice for someone who’s just starting to look into ADHD thinking i might have it :)

[@youradhdgirl]

Thank you Nora I’ll take the compliment 😂😍 glad the video could help in some way ☺️

[@Orangina345]

Some people can mask some of their difficulties.. females in particular - like if you aren’t hyper. I wasn’t hyper in my youth, but I always procrastinated as you described. Disorganized etc. . I was able to do very well in school until college. Even then, I had no idea. Got diagnosed in mid-forties.

[@Theinmy20sDiaries]

same on the college thing. that was one of the worst times in my life

[@Tilr701]

Same here, in the college I had a hard time even deciding on the subjects.

[@Theinmy20sDiaries]

@@Tilr701 Yeah, I wish they could change the system a little bit by letting us try different types of classes for free for a few times to know if we would mesh well with a major. Or maybe even offer a test that could be taken with the career counselor before classes start. Cus that stressed me out!

[@brittanyedwards8862]

do you think there were signs when you were a child? i can’t remember having any of the issues i have now but def do have everything you mentioned

[@Theinmy20sDiaries]

@@brittanyedwards8862 yes. All of the signs started showing up around the age of 8 or 9 but I thought I was just a weird kid at the time. It’s definitely worth getting it checked out because women often go overlooked since most studies are done on males and because many of the symptoms present with the more classic cases

[@tatogtech6748]

You've come a long way! Thanks for sharing your story.

[@sevamo]

Hi Candice! I wonder if ADHD is a spectrum. I have some symptoms but my academic records from primary to uni is very good (except math lol). I enjoyed classes and was active in most class discussion and extra curricular. But when I'm left without structure (at work now) where I have to self regulate, it's hard for me..

[@friedarl7400]

Could look into twice exceptional (2e = gifted + disability/disabilities) Sometimes the gifted part mask the disabilities, so it makes 2e people seems to be doing ok, or even great at things that they do; sometimes the disabilities mask the gifted part, it makes 2e people seems more unable / dumb than their giftedness suggested. It’s just sad that some people get rejected because they are “too smart to have a disability”

[@youradhdgirl]

Hi Seva thanks for your comment and this very interesting question! I completely agree with Frieda here: it seems like you got told off because you are “too smart to have ADHD”, which is b*llshit!! This is what happens when someone inexperienced with ADHD gives their opinion… it happened to me as well. One thing you should is that there are TONS of ADHD people who are extremely smart and successful in life or some areas of their life such as in their studies or at work. Being smart has nothing to do with having ADHD. it can actually help you mask the symptoms and compensate to such an extreme levels that your symptoms might not even be visible anymore to the public eye (leaving you to experience them on your own, which is what happened to me in a way). Nevertheless, ADHD is a spectrum and every person who has ADHD is unique: we don’t all experience the same symptoms with the same severity. So in a way yes ADHD is a spectrum but what you’re referring to here is not related to where you are in the spectrum, but more to your academic intelligence and the way you were able to mask your symptoms. Hope this clarifies some stuff for you 🥰 hope to make a video about this very topic some day on my channel!

[@Flor-gz1po]

Hi Candice! Thanks a lot for this video it was really informative, especially being french myself. Before booking an appointment with the specialist on Doctolib, did you have to get a reference from a general practitioner? Or did you book directly an appointment with the specialist of your choice? Thank you in advance for your answer! :) (I’ve actually been willing to ask you that 6 months ago when you uploaded the video but eh… procrastination again 😅). Take care and keep up the good work 👍

[@youradhdgirl]

Hey Flor! Thanks for your comment and sorry for my procrastinated answer lol. I actually didn't get any reference from a practioner ! I just went on Doctolib and looked for a specialist in my area, or actually in Paris, since there are very few specialists out there and they're mostly located in the capital ! Hope this helps ☺️

[@belafafa1058]

I'm almost 28 and im 80% sure I have it and im terrified to get diagnosed facing the fact that what I currently have isn't my real personality but just symptoms and not liking who I really am but at same time I feel that my life just stopped im not doing anything and I need the help

[@DickSwordOnDiscord]

shit this hit deep for me. I feel the same and I'm 30 this summer. I'm afraid of what the diagnose could possibly limit for me. Also not entirely sure what getting diagnosed could do differently for me...

[@Tom-zg6sb]

I hope to get diagnosed this year. 32 going on 33 but I’m ready to try adhd meds now

[@user-xp3sl7ro8p]

Did you do it? :)

[@jbug884]

I haven’t got time for a diagnosis and I’m too set in my ways to change at 45 anyway 😂

[@Theinmy20sDiaries]

Great video, but unrelated comment, I love your hair!

[@youradhdgirl]

Well thank you!!

[@disaster4550]

I still dont get how to tell if it affects my life enough to go to a professional :( like obviously I am not dуіng from it. Do I have the symptoms every day? yes. Does it ruin my life? idk..how would I know what exactly is ruining my life? Im not the doctor here :D And like..is bad quality of life/not being able to do anything with your life - a good enough reason to go ask about it?.. I think they will think I'm overblowing my problems even though I am not sure if I have it, and just want answers q_q

[@youradhdgirl]

Every single thing you said is a valid reason to go to a doctor and get checked out! Your life is not meant to be like this, you can get help

[@disaster4550]

@@youradhdgirl thank you for the advice!

[@johnhall8455]

This highlights the big problem….getting diagnosed..GPs haven’t got a clue in the UK, and getting referred to a specialist is a nightmare.. So much more research Is required as it’s a massive problem…. Most of the inmates of our prisons are undiagnosed Adders…. If you’re not sure, demand that your GP gets you professional help instead of dishing out antidepressants like they were Smarties….

[@lmdc2.0]

Hi Candice, great video. Very helpful 🙏. Hope to see you and ear you in French 😉.

[@youradhdgirl]

Merci Chris 😉😄

[@ericghersh1]

Hey there! I’m going to leave you information about me-a short introduction of myself.

[@tomatoeggs48]

Salut Candice ! Ca fait quelques temps que je soupconne avoir le TDAH moi aussi. J'ai été voir un psychiatre qui m'a fait faire un test trouvé sur internet et vu que je ne collais pas au type hyperactif (je suis plutôt du type inattentif), il a sauté aux conclusions que ca ne me concernait pas :( Je suis absolument certaine de l'avoir et j'aimerais savoir qui tu as été voir pour au moins avoir le diagnostic de gens qui s'y connaissent. Merci beaucoup ca m'aiderait vraiment ❤❤

[@youradhdgirl]

Bonjour Céline, je suis désolée que tu sois passée par là et que la personne que tu as consultée ne t’aies pas apporté les réponses que tu souhaitais. Il y a beaucoup de personnes qui se font diagnostiquer TDAH après avoir consulter plusieurs professionnels car certains ne sont pas spécialisés et donc ne donnent pas les tests officiels (correspond à la tranche d’âge dans laquelle tu te situes) et le temps nécessaires pour diagnostiquer ce trouble. Le seul conseil que je peux te donner, c’est de consulter des vrais spécialistes en TDAH chez les adultes, psychiatre ou psychologue. Tu trouveras quelqu’un qui voudra écouter et qui sera équipé pour détecter le TDAH, si tu en as un. Moi aussi je suis passée par une psychologue qui n’était pas spécialisée qui m’avait dit que je ne pouvais pas avoir de TDAH car je n’étais pas en échec scolaire… c’est bien évidemment totalement faux ! Donc courage pour la suite , tu vas y arriver ! Et si jamais ça ne s’avère pas être le TDAH (après avoir parlé à un pro), au moins tu auras des réponses 🥰

[@tomatoeggs48]

Merci beaucoup pour tes mots de soutien j’apprécie beaucoup ❤❤ aurais-tu un nom de psychiatre / psychologue spécialisé en TDAH à partager ? Ça m’aiderait énormément dans mes recherches !

[@youradhdgirl]

Si tu es basée sur Paris je t’invite à consulter le CPPND. C’est un centre qui regroupe plusieurs psychiatres et psychologue dont une spécialisée en TDAH chez les adultes. Je préfère ne pas divulguer son nom complet sous la vidéo, mais c’est elle qui m’a diagnostiquée et elle est très bien.

[@Tom-zg6sb]

F in amazing to know that meds can help

[@brokenonalllevels]

Thank you❤❤❤, it's been years and hit the wall❤❤💓. I need help after all. Thanks to you: an option left.❤❤❤

[@AustinSanders-f2e]

Why are you french?