Getting My Life Together After Depression

[@alyssa13ts]

everyone with depression relates to this video so much. i spent 18 hours getting things together last sunday. i was up at 4am-11pm and kept busy all day.

[@AlexisAAbrams]

I’m SO PROUD of you🥰

[@risika]

was listening to a podcast that said, “it’s important to live life by design rather than emotion. Basically, sticking to a routine is what allows us to be the healthiest version of ourselves (especially when you're fighting these demons ex. OCD for me). I’ve had to overhaul how I approach taking care of my brain (exercise, journaling, studying etc) by practising mediocre consistency. Now I try to put in consistent 50-60% effort into my habits - to make sure I do it I began recording it and posting it on YT. After a really bad depression phase I started to believe I couldn’t change and I’d feel that horrible forever. Historically I have a habit of going too hard, not being able to sustain the Herculean effort, giving up and hating myself. So now I’m trying to give a small, consistent mediocre effort everyday. And its crazy how it adds up.

[@koteswarris8949]

Thank you for making this video, it motivated me to get my life together. It has been really hard, I have been lying in bed all day, not being able to do a single thing.

[@AlexisAAbrams]

Sending you all the love in the world💗 it’s been tough for me, too lately. We’re not alone

[@emilyfarris3510]

I have been there. Depression is not only mental sickness but a physical sickness. It affects your mind and your body. You can have aches and pains and be so tired and drained that you physically are unable to do anything from washing the dishes to taking a shower. To anyone reading this, you are not alone and you are special, beautiful, talented and have a lot to contribute to this world.🦋

[@lbarc3376]

@@emilyfarris3510 Make sure to have your thyroid tested. I went years being medicated for depression and then I got more tired, and my doctor did a full thyroid panel blood test and found out I have hypothyroidism. Being low in vitamins B12, D, Folic Acid, and Iron can cause your symptoms too. Get those levels checked also. Even if they are low, the doctor will tell you you are fine but low means your body needs more of that vitamin to function.

[@ManicMaidenASMR]

Girl this was the realest and I mean the MOST authentic “getting my life together” video I’ve ever seen. I could not relate to all the “That Girl” videos. It only made me feel more inadequate and self conscious about not being able to wake up super early, working out every day, journaling every day etc. I love how you said “but it’s enough for me” honestly mental healing is SO different for everyone. I had the worst depressive episode of my life this summer and I’m still recovering from it. I was feeling suicidal for the first time in years. I felt like a loser. I felt lazy. I took a break from filming KZbin videos etc and I felt like all the work I did early this year was for nothing BUT this video made me feel SO MUCH BETTER. I felt the “getting better then crashing immediately the next day/next few days girl that literally happened to me last week bc of stress from work. You make me feel like even really pretty people can have terrible moments and I hope you feel better just know you are not alone and no one is judging you 💞

[@ItsQueenJane]

i’m about 7 minutes in but it’s so amazing to hear how aware you are of what works and knowing how much you’re able to manage and when. as well as it’s so heartwarming to see and feel the overwhelming feeling go away slowly after each task you did. you seemed like you smiled more and more after each one

[@emily3568]

This is my first video watching you. I’m only half way in and girl you showing the realness is so appreciated. I’ve been struggling for about 7 months now (longer than that but the past 7 months have been harder than ever) It’s been one thing after another and I’ve lost a lot of motivation, but the past few days I’ve been trying to pick myself up and stick with trying. Forcing myself to do my skincare, trying to maintain a somewhat clean space, little things that I feel like shouldn’t be hard to do, but for me they are. I’m glad I stumbled upon this video because I’m currently trying to find the motivation to get up off the couch. You’re not alone and it’s cool to see neither am I 💕

[@AlexisAAbrams]

The fact that you’re able to do skincare and clean a bit is huge💕 I’m so proud of you! Sending you love

[@emily3568]

@@AlexisAAbrams thank you so much! 💕

[@nashaeunique4741]

I’ve been dealing with the same depression except for about a month now. I’m glad you are doing better and feeling better! Keep up the great work! ♥️

[@AlexisAAbrams]

I’m so sorry that you’re going through that. You’re not alone, you are worth so much and I hope you feel better soon. Sending you so much love💕

[@BellaVita1890]

Same here. I hope you're feeling better!

[@shamirahm5174]

Girl I know how you feel

[@_Zxyaa_]

when you said "i am not going to be that girl" i feel so so good thankyou for making this video ❤

[@beingsixtine6431]

I beat myself up for feeling the way I feel and not functioning in the way I know I can, and I can't really figure out how to put how I feel and what's going on in my mind and body in order to let my loved ones help. But this helps a lot, especially when it comes to feeling alone and inadequate and not good enough. I'm so sorry you experience this, but then again it's comforting to know I'm not that much of damaged goods or alone in this.

[@sierraparks8830]

I really admire your bravery to be 100% real, vulnerable and transparent. That takes so much courage to put yourself out there in that way. I really hope no one has anything negative to say, and if they do, remember you’re helping so many people get through their day/week. Your video has really helped me today. Thank you so much ❤️

[@auramontana6623]

thank you for creating this video, I feel like I saw myself so much - I am currently having one of those bad days where all I do is eat and hide but watching this gave me the push to try and end today as kindly as possible and remember that I can start fresh again tomorrow! plus we have the same favourite flowers💐. Big love from a fellow mental health warrior x

[@AlexisAAbrams]

Thank you so much. I love that you’re trying to be gentle with yourself. Sending you so much love and I wish I could send you peonies, too💕

[@geneg3776]

This is fantastic!! I listened to a video from Jordan Peterson that said to ask yourself day to day, 'What positive thing are you willing to do today?" E.g I may not feel like a workout but I'd be willing to run on the spot for 5 minutes or go for a 10 min walk etc or I don't feel like washing the dishes today but willing to take the rubbish out today or I don''t want to cook but willing to eat a freezer meal today. That's the idea. This is kind of what you were doing. We always will get off track. Any movement you are willing to do that day is great and to rest. Also for anyone reading this, if you are going through hard times constantly, reach out to someone, a friend, family or your doctor. Don't try to do it all on your own. Love this video so much. Thankyou!!

[@sidop5298]

Stay strong queen..!! Life is full of up's and down.. Keep reminding yourself that you are stronger than any situation..!! 🤍♥️

[@AlexisAAbrams]

That means a lot to me right now. Thank you🙏🏻

[@hadeersaid6456]

For the jornal part , you don't have to worry about not doing things or blaming yourself that you're staying in bed doing nothing of what you wrote , making jornal is just to keep you organized and reminded , not to punish urself being lazy Just be so gentle on yourself if you haven't done stuff And yes if you are not in the mood to do anything or feeling depressed , stay in bed , do some simple stuff that makes you feel okay , enjoy your break And treat depression as it's physical illness , so enjoy staying in bed till you will be okay I hope you're doing great today ♥️ " Writing that comment from bed not in the mood to do anything while yesterday i was getting things done fast and positively but i know i will getting things done soon again "

[@AlexisAAbrams]

Thank you for this🙏🏻 and sending you all the love in the world💗

[@scollycatrapumba]

This is kind of an old video but I just want to say that I’m so proud of you

[@LUxo323]

I'm over it with depression. Girl i peak the strength through your sense of humour. Good on you . 💎

[@HeluvvAuri]

I am so proud of you. Living with depression is definitely a difficult thing, it's not easy. Sending love and support

[@noplainjanie]

So strange I should come across this video this morning. I have Depression, and today is not a good day. The last two weeks have not been good days. I'm usually pretty stable, but my sister was placed in Hospice, so I am feeling really overwhelmed. I can relate to your video so much. I just want to thank you for being brave and real. It's comforting to know I'm not alone, and it's motivating to see you really try and and bounce back. You are a warrior, girl!

[@jessicagallant8303]

Thank you for doing a video like this.....it helped me to realize I am not completely alone with the way my depression is. Always sending you good vibes

[@AlexisAAbrams]

And sending them right back at you💕

[@Izzahbells]

Hi! I don't know you, but I'm very proud! I also struggle with depression and anxiety and your video motivated me! Greetings from Brazil!

[@AlexisAAbrams]

You don’t know how much that means to me. Thank you so much and sending you lots of love💗

[@benschilendl1100]

THANK YOU! for being so real, so transparent! There’s no filter in this video that hides the Honesty of life! Thank you for you! ❤️

[@adiba__khan]

I am so proud of you!! Well Done Girl. ♡ Even i found myself in low spirits back in August this year. It was a tough year for me. I was so much disturbed cuz of Academics. but now I am healing. I wish the same 4 u. May 2022 ends all our sufferings and bring bliss in our lives. Amen.🤝

[@AlexisAAbrams]

Thank you! I’m so glad you’re healing and hope you continue getting better soon🙏🏻🥰

[@meganthomas7953]

Every time I’m really struggling with my depression I come back to this video and watch it and it makes me feel more motivated and do something small even if I don’t get everything I would like done. Also helps me to not beat myself up as much, I’ve not seen any other real videos like this only the aesthetic get it together vlogs and as someone who struggles those aren’t realistic for me so thankyou for this video. It helps a lot, all my love

[@AlexisAAbrams]

That means the world to me. Thank you and sending so much love 💕 I know it’s tough, but no need to beat yourself up. The small things count and I’m so proud of you☺️

[@AshleyAustinThomas]

This video made me stop feeling numb and i actually believe things can better. Thank you. This was more real than most of the stuff on youtube.

[@AlexisAAbrams]

That means a lot to me. I’ve had ups and downs since this, but am always learning how to do better and grow. Sending so much love your way 💕

[@icedcoffeeandbookss]

I know this is from a long time ago but still gotta say I’m proud of you!

[@laurensaunders4198]

This is one of the most realistic videos I've seen

[@irgendwoaunid4048]

Great videos! I cleaned my kitchen while watching it. Totally get you on the spilled coffee, I spilled coffee grounds like 2 weeks ago and cause it's on a spot on the carpet that I don't normally step on I just left it there 😭 vacuumed it today!

[@Angelica.sky__]

Thank you for being so transparent in this video.

[@donnamaynard7720]

This video appeared on my homepage at the perfect time. It made me realise that I put too much pressure on myself when I am struggling with depression. I too have days in bed, have an untidy home and don't eating. It gave me a kick start to do small things and call them successes such as having a shower and making my bed. I thought I needed to encourage myself by watching the 'that girl's' videos to motivate myself, but now I know they were making me worse because they made me realise how much a mess my home and myself were and how big a job it would be to sort myself out. Thank you so much for keeping it real and inspiring others. Even if you don't feel it somedays; you are amazing!! 🤗

[@AlexisAAbrams]

A win is a win, no matter the size. Sending so much love to you right now 💕💕

[@Dermatillomaniac]

"Don't wait until you feel better to do it, do it so you feel better." Sending whoever reads this strength and grace. 🌻☕

[@jackandlill]

Hy Alexa, I'm 56, haven't showered in a loonngg time - haven't done laundry in over a year (my laundry is 4 floors down & ... ) . That being said I can identify w/all that you shared in this video - thank you for sharing it! First, your nails look great! You are a beautiful young woman! I know me sharing those opinions with you won't do much for your depression necessarily cuz it never did too much for mine - but thought I'd say it anyway - Lol!! As for the work/life/care balance - once upon a time I was able to manage my life a bit better & a tip or two I have is/are: Give yourself time limits on each thing you do. Set your alarm & do work for how ever long that is & when that alarm rings - You SToP!! You can take a quick break - do something nice for yourself - put on some makeup, make a nice coffee or tea & or move on to home stuff but again - set the alarm! Even for the self care or fun stuff. I found that when I had boundaries around things it helped me to relax & know that something else ( my alarm) was keeping track of the time so I could just focus on the task at hand. And of course there were many times I just wanted to keep going when the alarm rang- cuz strike while the iron's hot -right? but that was part of the problem for me - I couldn't trust that if I had momentum going & stopped that I would get it back again. But I pushed myself to stop anyway - even tho going is like a good thing - it wasn't if I was trying to find that balance! After I started to manage my stuff this way - at the end of the day it would feel really good & like you did - the accomplishments of the day before were good fuel for trying the next day & so on. NO perfection in it - just a place to try from each new day!! First make yourself a bite sized list of tasks - set your time limits & try it! And of course being able to check off a list upon completion always feels good - gives ya a little boost! I wish you Peace & more good days than bad ❣I know how Real the Struggle is & I hope maybe you find these tips helpful!! PS - I appreciated how you seemed to be gentle w.yourself & give yourself some grace as you were moving thru your tasks - SO important!

[@switzerlandandthephilippines]

Wow, you are so brave to film the reality about your depression ❤️ It is so hard. I live with depressions for many years. There are better and worse days. I believe in God which gives me strenght and makes that I don't give up. Thank you for this video ❤️

[@AlexisAAbrams]

Thank you and sending so much love your way 💕

[@hannahmerchant7268]

thank you for making this video and for being so transparent in it. healing and mental health recovery is not linear. you are doing your best and that is good enough. wishing you all the best

[@AlexisAAbrams]

Thank you and sending love 💕

[@allthingsmundane.11]

this is refreshingly honest. I think a lot more people who are genuinely and clinically depressed would resonate with this than those aesthetic vloggers trying to make depression look good when it's not.

[@1zste]

This video is so real, loved it, made me instantly subscribe! Keep fighting ♡

[@klarapramwall6739]

Thank you so much for showing and being honest how your process is. I have struggled with depression and haven't been able to take care of myself or my home in like 7 month. I have tried to get my home together but I also get so overwhelmed and I have had a hard time to get motivation how to and been looking for a video lika this for month but all videos either was to much to fast or is wasn't nearly as messy as my apartment is so there tips where not helpful. So thank you for this video!! First video i found that I can relate to! You made me feel motivated and not so alone. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Thank you!

[@AlexisAAbrams]

This means so much to me. Thank you and sending you lots of love 💕 baby steps helped me immensely

[@flightzone5437]

Brave of you to post this video. Keeping your space and yourself clean is imperative in getting yourself back on track. Sending love

[@shamirahm5174]

Depression isn’t something being so called lazy. It’s a feeling of why even bother. Your whole vibe is you not enjoying anything or anyone. It’s just this dark place that’s feels so comfortable to be in. I asked anyone who’s there don’t get comfortable in it please. Don’t rush through the process to get out of it because you will get yourself right back into it. Just do as much as you can per day and give it your all. No matter how many people tell you need to get out of it won’t help. You have to do it for you. You have to want it for you. Just keep trying everyday you will be better

[@katerinaareadsss]

Coffee can make your car smell even oat milk can still turn bad❤️ thank you for this video I have been struggling a lot recently too thank you 🙏

[@AlexisAAbrams]

Sending you so much love💕

[@Dermatillomaniac]

"But it's enough for me." AMEN!!

[@dr.ameze_osayande]

I think I'm your 460th subscriber at this point in time. You made a powerful video here. I think you deserve the audience. Wishing you the best 💖

[@AlexisAAbrams]

Thank you so much 💕

[@Helen-xp2jx]

i needed this so much…thank uuu

[@AlexisAAbrams]

Sending you so much love. Really. 💗

[@kyrat6079]

This is super helpful and motivating so thanks for sharing the hard stuff for us!

[@lilnightmare]

Damn... you're really good at this. Glad i found this channel.

[@Sarah-jt9fz]

I so relate to this and I get everything you said even when you say oh this is silly or when you said I’m not doing much but it’s much for me I so get it you’re not alone and please don’t be hard on yourself you’re doing great ❤️❤️ Thank you for sharing ❤❤❤

[@AlexisAAbrams]

Thank you and hope you’re doing better every day 💕

[@DarlinMarleneVeVo]

sending love

[@sheydawbabe7380]

Ok let me tell you something...I proud of you girl 👌🏻 you did the best you could and I have to say that I suffer depression but I really couldn't do thing as you did in the video wish you all the best sweetie 🥺✨🌸

[@AlexisAAbrams]

Thank you so much for that. It wasn’t easy and not always possible for me. But I was ready and it was time. Wishing you all the best and sending lots of love 💗💕

[@rrawrlolzzz4726]

thank you so much for this! it really motivated me

[@AlexisAAbrams]

That means the world to me. Sending so much love your way💗☺️🙏🏻

[@ThisSideofAutism]

Thank you! I feel like there’s some hope that I’ll be able to pull through too.

[@AlexisAAbrams]

There is always hope, sending you all the love in the world💕

[@christineclifton7191]

Your content was so raw, I felt so much 9f myself watching you, but I can tell you your have it pulled more together, I always want to plan things to make things easier I really struggle with work life balance, to the point I think I regret taking on more time and the promotion, I've had no support under me at work and I was forced to take serval weeks of to pull myself together enough, to not be at complete breaking point anymore, I dream of having my own business for more control on my life so it easer to take care of myself mentally

[@thetomeraider]

I'm so proud of you girly.♥️

[@savannahcoffey916]

This is real. If you push yourself too hard the pressure is too much.

[@Sadboysummer]

I’m also truly trying to start making content to help people cope with depression. This was an amazing video x

[@AlexisAAbrams]

Thank you! Sending love xx

[@ohshevlogs9067]

Sending you so much love and positive vibes my love.

[@AlexisAAbrams]

Thank you so much, doing the same for you🙏🏻🥰

[@shedanicole8395]

Once you are in a state of depression is extremely difficult to pull yourself out; you literally have to force yourself to get up each day

[@AlexisAAbrams]

It is. It’s not easy. But it’s always possible. Sending love o

[@natashachristine]

Thank you for this video ❤️

[@emilyfarris3510]

Hello Alexis, you are beautiful and talented. Keep looking up and moving forward. 🌠🥰

[@AlexisAAbrams]

Thank you and sending love 💕

[@beatrice6902]

me just laying down in my bed crying all day long

[@YasminaNouara]

I don't know you personally, but I'm SO proud of you!! 💙 Wish I could do something for you

[@AlexisAAbrams]

Thank you! I’m doing alright now and just keep trying💙

[@YasminaNouara]

@@AlexisAAbrams Yeah! You're welcome ☺️

[@kmodtf4578]

❤❤❤❤

[@praline1121]

Don't stress about the hair, it's normal after a long time of no washing

[@sonicspeed6457]

Hi!

[@AlexisAAbrams]

Hi😊

[@lighthouse6748]

Your truhfulnes is refreshing. Remember prayer to the Heavenly Father helps! 🌤

[@tiffanyfett1159]

What were you depressed about? 🤔

[@anani321]

If you don't know, what to do, why don't you pray and talk to God, he ist the God who created you, he know how to heal and care for you, trust me. God loves you more than anyone on this world can ever do.

[@graceluke_]

This is such a helpful and real video- thank you so much. It IS such a big deal to feel like you can do something, and this gave me the energy to tackle my own shit 🥰🤍

[@AlexisAAbrams]

So proud of you💕