GETTING OUT OF A SLUMP (in a realistic way) | feeling unmotivated & tips & tricks!!!

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[@NureyaAlexis]

Seasonal depression, long covid, slipped disc, post concussion syndrome - dang girl that’s a lot :/ take it easy

[@CarterSullivan]

I mean it is what it is... I can't change any of it- you can either fight it or accept it and try to live your life and learn to live with it and love your body for taking care of you as best as it can! That's how I see it anyways.

[@elizabethgraceb]

i've been dealing with a breakup the last few weeks (2 years in, it's been tough) and i'm doing the same right now- this vid couldn't have come at a better time

[@rebeccaalovesya]

This is one of my favourite videos you've ever done Carter. Thank you for being so real with us, always. I felt really held and seen watching this. ❤

[@m_buck]

Love how genuine this video was, I related so much. Also loved the longer format!!

[@emilyford1517]

So relatable - thank you for sharing!! So exciting for you about getting back into riding too. I hope the barn is a great fit with kind people and horses 🤍

[@lolarose4252]

This was so good. Been feeling kinda meh lately and just feels good to know that I'm not alone.

[@khloeabrown]

This is coming at at a great time for me as I have been in my own slump in many aspects of life. Seeing you do the things that bring life to yourself through the video and really caring for yourself gave me happiness and a lift to do something for me. Thank you for sharing and I'm wishing you the best during these times ❤️

[@CarterSullivan]

Aw this is so sweet! Sending you lots of love and motivation to slowly get out of your own slump! I think it's important to share that sometimes doing things that we love and taking care of ourselves is the best way to get out of a slump, not always jam packing our days with productivity!

[@khloeabrown]

@@CarterSullivanI definitely agree with that. I've grown to learn when I need to do productive things and when I need to caring and relaxing things when I feel low.

[@jordanlouie6603]

This was such a vulnerable and open video, thank you for letting us in to these reflections and learnings around what healthy rest vs pushing yourself is!

[@CarterSullivan]

❤️❤️❤️

[@hollyc4624]

I love this realistic overview of getting into a slump and how to try to get out of it. Thank you for being authentic to who you are. We all need to see and do this ourselves. The Jessica Knolls book is excellent! Great choice.

[@tanyabaldwin636]

This video comes across more genuine and not like you're trying to jump on the KZbin "Get Out of A Slump" bandwagon. It is more realistic, in my personal opinion. Your quilt jacket is so cute. I didn't know that was a thing ☺

[@CarterSullivan]

Aw thank you! That's been my goal over the years with creating content- I will always keep it raw & real (not just pumping out content to jump on the YT bandwagon) even if it means growing slower! More important to me to be genuine and share the REAL highs/lows of life! So thank you for watching and sharing this kind comment 🫶🏻

[@lifewithkat9865]

Girl I totally get what you're going through. I'm trying to get out of my slump also. Alot of what you said resonates with me. Thank you for sharing.

[@nic5697]

Thank you for sharing so openly about your long covid. I am also recovering and feel like I just got my body back and totally hear you on wanting to care for my body now that I'm not just scared of her all the time! Proud of our bodies for healing - here's to trusting and caring for our bodies!! I love your videos and am so thankful for the positivity and honesty you bring!

[@CarterSullivan]

Yes thats exactly how I feel- I always took good care of my body btu she has done so much for me throughout this journey that I want to take the best care of her now!!

[@nicolelink7369]

Thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing this! I really related & needed to be reminded that getting out of a rut isn’t linear.

[@CarterSullivan]

You are so welcome! 🥰

[@thenaturalsouls]

This truly is such an important video and message in it. I wish everyone would see that, especially those, who feel guilty for not being the whatever is doomed as „getting life together“ „being disciplined“ „productive“ or „healthy“. It should be balanced. It should be you enjoy your life still, but bringing in some things that help you reach your goals, whatever this is. It should be eating a piece of cake, reading a book, and yet still clean at least a little corner of your home and get the documents done that you really have to get done. It can be both, it should be both- at least for a regular life. I am sure some days can be great to get a ton done and sometimes one is in the flow, but don’t think that’s a normal. It’s fine to enjoy and be productive at the same day.

[@torischerle]

Honestly, I found the hardest part about returning to soccer after injuring my knee was the mental aspect, like I was cleared to play again and was physically better but it took me a long time to get over the fear of hurting my knee again. Some days/games are easier but it’s not linear. Sending lots of positive vibes that you are able to enjoy riding again. Also having a part of your life off line and just for you may be a nice change of pace, so don’t feel pressured to film ❤ love love loved this video!!

[@sandy68917250]

Your hair looks so good ❤

[@pixeleverafter]

New subby here! Absolutely loved this vid and how chatty it was! I definitely understand how you feel and this inspired/motivated me to continue and try these new tips for getting out of a slump😺

[@adriennehilll]

Your camera quality is amazing ❤ also i love the clips of you in your library, literally feels so so cozy to watch

[@CarterSullivan]

Omg thank you sweet friend!!!

[@hannahreadstorelax16]

Amazing video and so relatable! I fully am with you on the exercise thing, I always seem to have a reason like I just washed my hair and not doing the workout!

[@CarterSullivan]

YESS I always find the silliest excuse

[@sianreed3890]

Love, love, love this video! I agree that often these types of videos are almost a 'snap out of it' attitude whereas I definitely lean into a more gentle, slow-living mood nowadays. I was planning on starting my own version of 75 soft at the start of March but didn't feel motivated enough. I think I could do with a brain dump/journalling session and work out why I've been feeling demotivated in 2024 first before personalising the challenge more. It's okay to have bad days and feel in a slump as long as we give ourselves the grace to and don't beat ourselves up about it. PS Totally random but I also grew up a dancer (fellow tapper here) and also have a slipped disc. Maybe that's why I'm scared to do any drastic exercising in case I damage it again! PPS Loved that bathroom set-up in that local store you visited. So bright and airy.

[@Andrea.reeddd]

It feels like you’re just reading my mind…. I could cry because I’ve felt so alone and helpless 😢 thank you so much for this video you don’t realize how much it’s helping 🤍

[@CarterSullivan]

Sending you a big hug. You are most definitely NOT alone ❤️

[@cathytate5766]

I feel alone alot of the time too.

[@vintagechristmas8877]

I keep going back and watching this video, it's very relaxing, yes, but the music in the video somehow makes me happy but feels sad at the same time . A hopeful melody 😌You know that feeling😌Your videos so motivating🙏🏻Can't wait your new videos🤗🫶🏻🌼

[@jennell3563]

This video came at the perfect time for me as a fellow seasonal girlie. The seasonal whiplash in February is so real lol. One day this week so wonderful and sunny and nice out and then it was cloudy gross and snowy the next day 😅 February always feels the longest for me also because it’s the final stretch of winter and all I want is spring

[@crystalmarie920]

perfect timing, I was just looking for videos about this this morning 😭 carter coming through!!

[@CarterSullivan]

aw hope you enjoy it!!

[@user-ei8rb7sj6c]

This helped. Little changes. For instance, I need to go outside & walk daily but I’m not a disciplined person. Thanks to you, I’m getting dressed to leave the house first time in almost a week. New sub & I’ll keep looking for more of your content. Best wishes in your wellness journey!

[@gicoboyas459]

By the way this is my first time seeing one of your videos and I’m finding what you’re saying very relatable so… thanks!

[@rachelmallory3734]

thanks for your honesty carter :) here's to getting out of a slump

[@CarterSullivan]

Yes lets do it!!!

[@ballroomred]

This was sooooo relatable Carter. I’ve been in this same mindset in terms of looking for ways to end a slump. I definitely want to join you in this idea of starting a challenge in March. You’ve given me some fun ideas to mull over. And btw, exercise habits are something I struggle with too, especially in winter.

[@CarterSullivan]

Aw yay!!!

[@xnocturnalwavex]

Others make it seem so easy to just change up their days and then immediately feel better - thank you for this honest perspective!!! I’ve been trying so hard to make choices that are better for me and connecting with friends then feeling ugh that it doesn’t magically give me the energy to take on the world

[@CarterSullivan]

THIS! Social media makes it seem like we should just be able to get our life together overnight and be ready to take on the world but that just isn't the reality. I always want to keep it real so I'm happy this resonated❤️

[@alexislexi1211]

When you were talking about how you wanted to move your body and get strong, it reminded me of exactly how I felt before I did 75 hard. You are definitely right. It’s not for everyone. I did it all the way through, and it was the hardest thing I ever did. I did have to take one day off because I got T-boned by a distracted driver and hit my head (literally on the way to the gym for my workout LOL). So I had to obviously wait to be cleared by a doctor. I’m so glad you made your own challenge and goals. 🩷 Because of 75 hard, I’ve now adapted those challenges into my everyday life and I’ve never been healthier. The first two weeks of any challenge is the HARDEST. One tip I have during the first two weeks to think of it as a “two week challenge” to trick your mind. It’s all mental!! After the first two weeks, it becomes a good routine. 🥰 I know you’ve been through a lot, so give yourself grace. I wish you all the best!! ❤️

[@wellness_withliz]

Thank you so much for this video and being raw and vulnerable. You are totally not alone in all of the feelings you expressed. One thing that has really helped me when it comes to an ideal routine is having categories for different days and different feelings or different energy levels. So having a “most ideal routine”, “a most likely routine”, and a “minimal routine”. Especially with ADHD, our dopamine & energy levels are always different each day and there’s no way to plan that. By having 3 “routine” options, it takes away that shame aspect and instead gives you grace and you still feel like you accomplished some sort of routine, even if it’s the “minimal routine” which means “these 2 things I will do no matter what”. Even if that means just eating cereal instead of an entire homemade breakfast. You are still eating breakfast and that’s what matters. Hope this helps you too❤

[@CarterSullivan]

I did the exact same thing for years- it's one of the best thing that I ever learnt in therapy! I've transitioned away from doing this now for the time being because like I was mentioning, I just need discipline so I was always gravitating towards my minimal routine even if I felt great! But I think this can be a really great tool!

[@wellness_withliz]

@@CarterSullivan that makes sense…Discipline is so hard. I read the book “The Power of Discipline”. It’s so small but took me 2 months to finish it bc it was so hard to stay disciplined😂🙃

[@Nalastasia]

i know exactly what you mean when you say you have no discipline. I'm exactly the same way and have been wanting to do the 75 soft challenge. I'm not looking for hardcore weightloss but just to lead a better lifestyle! I think a good way to look at it is to remind yourself that you deserve to feel good and it's important to have that respect to keep a promise to yourself! I adore you and this vlog. Thank you for sharing something so vulnerable.

[@CarterSullivan]

🥰🥰🥰🥰 I think for me the biggest reason I struggle with discipline is because I'm a fairly active person to begin with! If I wasn't active during my days, I think I would maybe have a bit more discipline😅 but we're working on it!!

[@jennifergordon1415]

It's Friday for me too and I'm normally at work today and just yeah in a slump and needing to do stuff but I just can't get myself to get past the couch and my coffee which was a choir in itself!

[@user-cm2lm1fm4w]

I picked up ‘For The Last Time’ by Heidi Perks, after watching your vlog, and really enjoyed this book! It got me out of my reading slump!! Thanks for the recommendation!!😊

[@isabelbeck7]

February felt like having a house dropped on my head 😭 Getting myself out of a slump by finally decorating my house (it's almost been a year since moving in), planning a super in depth March reset, starting my garden, and buying a new switch game ❤ It looks different for everyone but we can all agree FEBRUARY IS HARD!!!

[@CarterSullivan]

That is actually the best way to describe February💀

[@christinasantamaria565]

I really related to this video. Another concussion girlie here, plus last year I had COVID, the flu, and an ER visit for accidentally swallowing a fish bone that tore through my small intestine. I have moments where I feel alive and normal but then depressed and I’m freeze. Trying to be okay with not always being okay.

[@EmilyChaytor]

this felt like the behind the scenes of those "getting out of a slump videos" and i LOVED it - thank you for being so real🤍 a lil tip for getting to the gym that worked for me these past few months: i started taking my kindle to the gym and saying i could just walk and read at the gym to create a positive mental association with the gym while also making going physically to the gym a habit, and eventually i was able to take the habit of physically going there and was able to start implementing the workouts i was aiming to do

[@CarterSullivan]

I'm really jealous of anyone who can read while they walk on the treadmill 😅 my motion sickness is too severe for that hahaha

[@EmilyChaytor]

oh no!!!!!! im sorry to hear that :(@@CarterSullivan

[@CarterSullivan]

it is what it is- just another lovely symptom of long covid hahahaha @@EmilyChaytor

[@thenaturalsouls]

Hugs to you! ❤

[@isabellasilverio3203]

I am so so happy you posted this. This totally resonated with me as I was just talking about how I felt like I have such a hard time showing up for myself these days. Thank you for being so relatable and vulnerable, this vlog was so comforting. Cheers to better days and growth to come! I want to do the 60 day challenge with you! Let’s do this!- And 🎉🎉 almost 100K ❤

[@CarterSullivan]

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[@haileywho2907]

insane timing! i neeeeeed to get out of the headspace i am in rn

[@CarterSullivan]

somethings in the air because i think we're all going through it- you're not alone!!!

[@margaretdavis242]

I would love to hear about you getting back to riding. I rode until the end of college and miss hanging out with horses lol

[@CarterSullivan]

Honestly I don't know how much I'm going to share- maybe little clips here and there but honestly if you miss it just reach out to some barns to ride at. Don't overthink it!! I've only been out of riding for about a year but it was one of those things I just couldn't overthink, I just had to go for it. I shared SO much of riding and showing growing up online (it's how I started my channel) and I still do share alot of my life so I may keep this hobby for myself- who knows! But I may post little updates here and there 💖

[@SarahSchneider2]

Yep even finishing the small tasks can make your day that much better

[@JamieRickettsmakeupbyjaye]

What camera are you using?

[@eduardamelo9616]

Thanks for keeping it real!

[@CarterSullivan]

Always!

[@kale5221]

I've been feeling the same!!! Also "maybe put on some jeans. Get wiiilllldd" is so relatable 😂

[@CarterSullivan]

😂😂😂😂

[@VeronicaCostaF]

Congrats on the 100k

[@CarterSullivan]

Thank you!!

[@kalisue6573]

Can sooo relate to the feeling of just going through the motions! Looking forward to this vlog.

[@CarterSullivan]

You and me both!

[@crawfordjennifer2015]

I absolutely love and needed this video! I have been kinda blah for a few weeks and thinking about balance/routine. How to be able to get things done but still have quality/ me time. Thank you 😊 so much for sharing!

[@CarterSullivan]

Aw so glad it resonated with you!!

[@crawfordjennifer2015]

@@CarterSullivan have a very blessed week ! 🦋😃🍄🌼

[@stephanieh9730]

I really needed to hear this! I was a gym girlie too and feel so nervous to go now idk why 😅

[@CarterSullivan]

My issue is that like I still love going and I have no issue going .... it's the getting there & getting my butt off the couch that I struggle with😅

[@stephanieh9730]

@@CarterSullivan maybe if you had an accountability buddy to join you? I started doing Pilates classes since the gym is making me feel overwhelmed and since I am paying for private class I feel obligated to go or I waste my money lmao 🤣

[@CarterSullivan]

@@stephanieh9730 yes I sure that in the video that Matt has been really good at keeping me accountable and I've gone back to booking workout classes so it kind of forces me to go!!

[@stephanieh9730]

@@CarterSullivan ahh okay, just now finishing your video! I am VERY type A personality as well and my fiance is go with the flow and impulsive with plans (sometimes its cringe) but these videos you make really help me to step out of my comfort zone. Thank you for making these!

[@Secrets.concurseira]

loved the video

[@AlyaBK94]

Please share more equestrian/horse content!!! can't wait!!!

[@CarterSullivan]

I think that's a part of my life I'm going to keep private- I think it's important for me to have hobbies and things I keep for myself! I may share little snippets here and there on IG and in vlogs but I've realized having hobbies and being back at the barn is the way I decompress from being online💖🫶🏻

[@sharalynduboise]

I’m a small changes girly, too! 🙋🏼‍♀️ It’s so important to have that confidence in our daily routine and it makes the rut feel more manageable since there’s no added pressure to overhaul my life in a weekend 🥹 Also heck yes to restarting hobbies we used to love when we were younger! 💖 I started playing hockey again this year and if I didn’t have a connection with my inner child before, I do now 😂

[@CarterSullivan]

Yesss I feel like I'm doing it to have a connection and heal my inner child🥹❤️ Maybe that's why I'm so giddy about restarting those hobbies!!

[@peachy__pg]

definitely understand u about trying to get used to something but then getting too comfortable. i hope that your exploration of hobbies goes well! it inspires me (:

[@CarterSullivan]

I think picking back up old/lifelong hobbies is a great place to start! It doesn't feel as intimidating as new hobbies

[@sereneadair4941]

I have been wanting to do a challenge myself.

[@tmbl9283]

whats the link to the chair you're sitting in in the beginning of the video? Looks Comfy :)

[@CarterSullivan]

Ikea Backsalen oversized chair!

[@RebeccaABeaudoin]

Perfect timing for me. I needed this too. Hate to see you through this, but I appreciate the realness as always

[@CarterSullivan]

❤️❤️❤️

[@hannahblume2000]

I honestly love this video. It’s so true that it takes time to get out of a slump. I think the people that can do it quickly, just shove down the feelings and that’s not the best. Thank you for the rawness ❤

[@CarterSullivan]

Absolutely!!

[@sereneadair4941]

I am hooked on remarkably bright creatures.

[@CarterSullivan]

I'm very intrigued to read it!

[@peachy__pg]

i finished the audiobook for this recently! i really liked it

[@jaycie_]

Omg I think this is first time I’ve heard a content creator talk about having post-concussion syndrome🙊 I snapped my head up to the screen so fast haha. I have it too and it’s different for everyone, but it still sucks for everyone as well.

[@MathildeG]

I know you’ve been struggling with your health but just curious: are you planning on participating in the Tamarack race, again? That has been forcing me to keep running through the winter (mostly on the treadmill 😅 though unfortunately).

[@CarterSullivan]

No sadly! It'll be my first year missing it since 2018 but we have alot of travel plans in May so it wouldn't be setting myself up for success

[@MathildeG]

@@CarterSullivan that’s super fair!

[@stacykhernandez]

Carter I’m HERE for the long vlogs lately ❤

[@CarterSullivan]

Ha ha I feel like long vlogs are my thing!!

[@mayacatherinecreative]

Bright young women was such a good read for me! 5 stars

[@CarterSullivan]

AH this makes me so excited to keep reading it!

[@hannahmerchant7268]

thank you for being you Carter

[@CarterSullivan]

🥰🥰🥰

[@mansoor3159]

Almost 100K Subscribers♥️♥️✨

[@CarterSullivan]

So close!

[@natalieeusebio678]

Carter I NEED to know where the white tank top is from! I am forever in search of white basics that aren’t see through!

[@CarterSullivan]

Aerie from a few years back!! So good! Abercrombie also has great non-see through basics!

[@natalieeusebio678]

@@CarterSullivan thank you queen.

[@robingoodman8960]

That recipe looks delicious! Do you have the link?

[@CarterSullivan]

It was a new Hello Fresh recipe! Since we pay for the meal kit I don't think if I can share it but you may be able to find it online! It was a sundried tomato pesto pasta😊

[@robingoodman8960]

@@CarterSullivan thank you!

[@meganc5765]

Quick question - are you wearing an Oura ring? Thanks! 😊

[@CarterSullivan]

Yes!!

[@meganc5765]

@CarterSullivan Awesome! Do you have a video up about it? Did I miss it somehow? If so, can you please refer me to it?! If not, then could you PLEASE do a video on it? Thanks a bunch! P.S. You're awesome! 🙂

[@CarterSullivan]

@@meganc5765 feel free to DM me on Instagram if you have any specific questions! I haven't really filmed a video on it since there's already some really great ones out there!!

[@Billy33753]

Pasta looks good

[@gicoboyas459]

I get seasonal depression for sure. The pressure to go to holiday events and spend time with family and do gift shopping is just too much for me. I don’t like that I’m perceived as a grinch for not wanting to participate in all of those things. I wish I could just disappear during that time of year and that no one would expect anything from me, but I would feel like an asshole. Not really, but people would likely think that of me. As much as I’d love to do that for myself, I don’t know if the guilt-inducing comments like “we missed you at Thanksgiving” or “it would have been nice to see you for Christmas” would feel worse than just participating, even though I hate it. I hate it because I don’t enjoy it and it basically makes me the bad guy every year. I wish they’d just let me be.

[@gaablove8054]

This is a bit of an "older" video but I'm so curious as to what shop you were at 15:55! I get it if you can't disclose for security reasons but its so dang cute ❤

[@CarterSullivan]

I filmed this video last week so its relatively new🥰 I'm not super comfortable sharing online as it is only a few towns over from us, I appreciate the understanding when you asked this!!

[@gaablove8054]

@CarterSullivan absolutely :) hope you're having a great day!

[@HelenaTD]

Your hair are so beautiful ❤ What kind of curling iron do you use? :)

[@CarterSullivan]

Shark flex style!

[@KattsLife]

❤❤❤

[@Angelajasmiine]

Thisssss I’m in a deep depression 😢

[@kpatten100]

💖💖💖

[@vintagechristmas8877]

Have you ever watch Dr.Eric Berg DC on here . His healthy videos are amazing for healthy life . I have been losing a lot of weight since eating sugar. Refined sugar is very harmful and makes you gain weight. Cinnamon sticks are a great alternative to sugar and are still slightly sweet but with the natural taste of cinnamon in this healthy dessert😊By the way, weather changes also affect people psychologically. Not every day's mood is the same. I agree with you, but your videos are very good for me. Thank you very much 🙏🏻for these wonderful shares Carter . Hope you have a amazing day ☕️🫖🌼🤗🫶🏻🌼

[@CarterSullivan]

I personally believe that everything in moderation is okay even refined sugar! Life's too short to not eat good food hahaha

[@vintagechristmas8877]

@@CarterSullivan Yes, that's true, I think the same, 😁but life is hard enough 😫therefore , so many people don't want to deal with their health either😒It's good to be cautious🥳☺️ Thanks again for these beautiful videos. These re very motivating 😇🫶🏻🌼🤗

[@ryanrowe1975]

Looks delicious

[@JordynLynnia]

I think that life needs mental health support groups. Like yes therapy but something else.

[@CarterSullivan]

I think life already does! Having people in your life that you can be open and honest with is so important. Whether its a parent, friend, partner etc. that To me that is my mental health support group💌🫶🏻

[@actgirl1234567]

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