GETTING PAID TO TAKE CARE OF A FAMILY MEMBER

[@OHMYGODNESS777]

What is sad is when you already know how but family thinks you should do it for free while they sit on money and resources that are already there that they claim to not want to use until much later days, when our loved one is already 81. There's no survivorship so if they die anytime soon (God forbid), then that caregiver will have suffered hard and long without compensation. The other family members that continued on with their lives just continue on without injury.

[@LaurenNicoleBased]

I’ve been dealing with this “guilt” for 5 YEARS since I turned 20, that’s how long I’ve been living with and taking care of my grandmother. She is a fall risk, and can’t be left unattended anymore due to here many health issues, she’s broken her back, congestive heart failure, the poor thing is always in the hospital had staff on 6 different occasions in her lifetime (she’s also scared to death of the hospital). So now I only work in the summer part time when my sister is able to come in and stay with her while I support us. We can’t live off of the money I made this summer and are in desperate need of help financially basics like groceries, utilities, EVERYTHING😭 my waters been turned off twice and I refuse to draw unemployment. I’m now fighting Missouri Medicade to increase her benefits so that we can both be paid. This money is not for me it’s for US

[@happyhealthycaregiver]

I get this question so much from the clients I coach. I hope the options for paying family caregivers expands. If you aren't on Medicaid or are a veteran, it's so tough in many states.

[@kevinmccann938]

You should do a video on a family caregiver(s) through a Caregiver Agreement to care for a parent who pays them for the care. This is especially helpful in spending down assets and is permissible on the 5 year look back.

[@lowelowes.g9613]

Thank you so much I'm take care my mom and she need 24hr care and trying find a place that will help me

[@johnmay371]

Thank you very much for posting these videos and sharing your knowledge. You are so very helpful. I'm sure this video will help many people you have given me some great directions to follow.

[@SofiaAmirpoor]

Thanks John, I’m glad to help!

[@angelamcallister6968]

@@SofiaAmirpoor I a person has a parent in a Nursing home and they are getting Soc. Sec benefits and VA benefits each month and the Child is the POA over everthing and is also the one who writes out the checks each month for to the Nursing home. Childs name/POA is first on the checking account and parents name is second. when that parent passes away do they owe back whatever is left in that checking account to the VA or Soc Sec?? What happens to the money that is left over if the Childs name is also on the checking account?? Im trying to help a friend out but i dont want to give them the wrong information. thank you!!

[@JoanEddy-e9n]

Yes I took care of my elderly father for 5 years before he passed away and was paid for by the state of it was under the department of aging

[@arislebsack6781]

, .p

[@KishaAmenio06x]

Yes you can. My friend takes care of her mom. She gets like$1000 per month.

[@1mandrywallarmytv144]

cant live on a 1000 dollars a month.

[@michellenestroyl7872]

Is this in ca?

[@denesellers]

This is so great. Thank you!!! ♥

[@mkshffr4936]

Thanks. Came across this video as I was trying to help my brother find out if his income and assets would disqualify our parents living in his house from getting Medi-Cal.

[@rondaleistiko1227]

I spent 3 months with my mother as my stepdad was in a nursing home. His son's want to be reimbursed for the air fair and nights at the Hilton hotel. They cleaned out the house of anything of value as I took Mom to see her husband in a nursing home. Two weeks for one brother and 7 days for the two other brothers. They're demanding 17,000. For their expenses seeing their dad when he was still alive. Never came back to help me with the death certificate of their Dad. To get SS and pension for my mother. She only has 100,000. To her name after I sold her house and car. It took me 3 months to get that certificate of death without any of their help. Everything was left to My mother. I've put 7,000. Of my own money for her care in a memory center for the last 2 months and 3 months of around the clock care for her. I'm thinking I need an attorney.

[@UnclebabyCarbona69]

Damn 7 grand for 2 months? That's crazy

[@joy2440]

Yes - you need an experienced attorney in this type of situation- you should get paid

[@cadlac1533]

Happy Lated New Year 2022 to you . I have been taking for my hub for many months , still tough to get help like that . Mostly we have to pay out of our pockets. Thanks for your time .

[@SofiaAmirpoor]

You got this!

[@sojellunjam5778]

Thank you sooo much. Video is very helpful God bless.

[@margaretallen9102]

Thank you so much I found this very informative ❤

[@andreavicente1594]

I'm a caregiver for my daughter with disabilities in Georgia. The agency who pay me as caregiver said that I cannot have a second job. They require me to take care of my daughter at least 5 hours, obviously I do more than that; but if I want to have a second job, like a one part time or any other from home, I'm not allowed to do it and I don't know why. The payment I received as caregiver is not sustainable to pay a health insure or to cover other home expenses. It's something else that I don't know about to have a second income? I appreciate your help. Thank you!

[@Skiskiski]

New Jersey Assistance for Community Caregiving (JACC)

[@faniaandaya5571]

Thank you for your video. My mom is 67yo and she’s having trouble remembering things that the doctor tells her to do for example schedule a Nuerology appointment, or taking medication. We are in California, she has Medicare, is there a program I can enroll her in to have some one take her to and from the doctor and take notes for her as well as remind her to take her medication? Would she qualify for IHSS? and would IHSS help with this?

[@myriamgramajo6399]

Please let me know if the program is in Tennesssee thanks 🙏

[@crystalkellim9987]

My grandpa is 91 my mother is 65 but mentally worse than he is(shes a retired nurse as well) my grandpa is extremely paranoid about anyone in scrubs. I had to quit my job leave my kids(my son was 18, but it still hurt me) I fed his cattle I had q literal nervous breakdown between him and my lunatic mom...

[@NdungeDiaries]

Wow , as a Kenyan , it's hard for me to relate. people here are expected to take care of their aging parents for free and it's an honor for most

[@jenniferfrazierlpc7171]

But do you all have any community support? Over here, our neighbors stick to themselves sometimes. There’s a lot of family discord, so no support there. And there are tons of single parents. So although, ideally, it would be an honor, it’s also like another full-time job with high demand and expectations.

[@NdungeDiaries]

Yes , there is community support, especially in the rural areas where neighbors are like family. After giving it a thought based on your info, i totally get your point. Things in Africa are different and in fact, those people who take care of their parents literally as opposed to paying for them to be cared for, are usually, mostly jobless now that I think about it. and most of those parents have homes or shambas (small household farms) that they own. So in the end they benefit by having free housing and food.Thanks for the reply.@@jenniferfrazierlpc7171

[@bluesdirt6555]

What if they have no family, or everyone in the family works?

[@NdungeDiaries]

If they work, best believe they will gladly pay someone to do it out of pocket . About having no family, it's a rare occurance but extended family MIGHT help as well. I was just pointing out what happens here, you can ask other Kenyans if you think i don't know what am saying. @@bluesdirt6555

[@froy204]

My dad is 84 he doesn't cook, clean, anything. My two sisters married anglo saxon, heck they tried to screw me over with adult protective services. I knew more about services than the supposedly investigators. I had finally found a corrections officer position after many applications. When I came home he was full of urine, the home was filthy. No one came during my week in the Academy. It's like i took my mom's role

[@idk-rr7xb]

Hello please anyone reply if i take care of family who is 30s and have cancer and disable and receive home care caregiver benefits is that money taxable for income or not

[@wakawaka1976]

Can your parents hire you to provide care and save money on taxes doing so? A tax person told my mom she can hire someone to give care and use that as a write off instead of donating to charity. We live in California

[@mohh5560]

Thank you for the video, I live in Virginia, what is the name of the program here in VA to get paid for taking care of my 80 Years old dad, I really need help

[@SofiaAmirpoor]

@Mohammed H I believe it’s called the Commonwealth Coordinated Care Plus program. Good luck!

[@mohh5560]

@@SofiaAmirpoor thank you

[@deepsid829]

I am in North Carolina, is here same kind of program?

[@fbush5152]

Thank you

[@angelarodriguez4116]

Anyone dealing with this in NH?!

[@johnstinson4026]

Yeah there's waiver programs I applied I'm waiting on it right now if you have the licensing and you could be a caregiver and Bill Medicare you can get all that money you got to go through a nursing staffing it's not that much they bill emdicard $20 an hour n pay u $10 it sucks

[@loly5471]

What program do they have in SC? I'm in the process. I work full time and taking care of my mom. She was in an home facility. She needs all day help as she is recovering from cancer and her mind is not okay. They only offered a few hrs a day and want for me to quit my job. I can't afford all bills without a full time job. She seems to have dementia it's just very ruff for me.

[@stephens1543]

I am my neighbors guardian. He has been declared incapacitated. He lives with me and i provide all of his care. Can I get paid for my services and living expenses?

[@virginiamoss7045]

For perspective, do mothers get paid for caring for a baby or young children or all children of any age? No, they don't; they get supported by a spouse or welfare or they work and pay others to care for their offspring, depleting their income to where sometimes it makes no sense to work. Time away from working gets them less Social Security income when they get old. Now, that same mother/women (typically) is stuck also caring for elderly parents, being forced to quit working and, again, getting less Social Security in their old age. Women in these circumstances need enhanced Social Security to be on par with men in our society.

[@beautyoftheworld3314]

Get every one healthy and wealthy in whole world

[@LouLou-du1vd]

I been out of work for 7 months now I been taking care of my mother and my grandmother really could use some help but my luck ill get denied 😔 😪

[@jackfrosty4674]

IF were the government pay 5,000 to 7,000 per month nursing home for each person or pay you 2,000 a month. Seems pretty easy to pick answer. Start keeping a log and get a time clock or write it in. Start doing it like a job as far as keeping time so can then prove and charge against it when get approved.

[@1mandrywallarmytv144]

2000 is not enough to live on. it cost 5000-7000 to live here a month. In Cali if you are approved the max monthly hours of 283 at an hourly rate of 17 with over time and everything you are looking in receiving about 5850 a month. This would be more doable unlike 2000 a month

[@erikmendez6741]

Hello my mom is young at 37 and she has Scoliosis and has cancer also, she lost her job and I’m at 19 stressful taking care of her

[@SofiaAmirpoor]

@Erik Mendez Yes, there are fewer resources when your mom is so young. Sorry it's been so stressful for you. Maybe try the American Cancer Association website, or your local caregiver resource center. If she is disabled and unemployed, try applying for medicaid, then maybe you can get In-home supportive services. But this is all too much for a 19 y/o son to have to manage. Family?

[@danamissouri]

You're a very good son. Please reach out to social services in your county and call and ask them if they can provide any help for your mother. You should also consider researching a "caregiver support group for (enter the name of your city and county ) Please reach out to them as they can provide helpful tips on how to take care of YOU as well as offer suggestions for agencies to help your mom. You can reach out to the local catholic church for help as well. I'm wishing you the best of luck. Please make sure to provide yourself with self-care and keep eating nutritious meals to keep your strength up...mentally and physically.

[@missdowner3267]

The Same with my mom and am 27 it's very stressful as hell

[@AF-fo9zv]

@@missdowner3267 Look up Dr. Wons anti cancer smoothie on KZbin. Also get and eat Garlic that’s not from China. Garlic is the strongest anti cancer food in the world.

[@realspilltv4494]

Your mom is sooo young I feel sorry for her

[@user-qu7jc8ht5q]

If I go this route can the state claim property of the individual under care after death if the state had paid (Me) for the caregiving?

[@ritabosico3328]

Ask an elder Care lawyer for your state. We put the house in an irrevocable which cannot be taken by the state.

[@shelleygh6476]

great video, please do more

[@SofiaAmirpoor]

Thanks, will do

[@leonardshap2894]

Hi Great Video, My dad is a WW2 vet and would like to see your video you mentioned about "Veteran Direct", where do I find you video and you provide the link. Thank you

[@SofiaAmirpoor]

@leonard Shap here is the step by step video on how to apply for Aid and Attendance. It’s a few years old, and the VA website has changed a bit, but the application process and steps are the same. I’ll put another comment with my experience. Enjoy and good luck! VA LONG-TERM CARE BENEFITS- Step by Step Application Process-2019 (Aid and Attendance) kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2m8iZSteZp_r9U

[@SofiaAmirpoor]

@leonard Shap here you go. WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN APPLYING FOR THE AID AND ATTENDANCE BENEFIT kzbin.info/www/bejne/l6Szkmxte5uWeZY

[@VOakley]

Hi, I have a question I’d really appreciate your feedback… I recently started to take care of my grandma, she’s 84 diagnosed with dementia. She is physically able to do many tasks, but mentally she cannot take care of herself. She doesn’t remember how to cook, she will wear the same clothes/ not shower for months. She collects trash from outdoors and puts it under her bed etc. she does many unsanitary things. However, she is able to speak with others very politely and she completely denies that she needs any help, and she doesn’t remember that I am the one there to help her. If an IHSS worker were to ask her if she needed in home support services she would say no… but her doctors and her whole family would say otherwise. Have you heard of a situation like this? Where the recipient denies needing the assistance? Thank you

[@SRTsoulsessions]

Hi my mom is 75 and in and out of the hospital. I’m on unemployment at the moment and home more & I can care for her. Unemployment will run out soon. How can I apply to care for her without stress of leaving for work? She goes to the ER every two months for bowl obstruction and radiationitis … cancer survivor

[@tarynwarren6044]

My mom is on Medicare .. does that count?

[@NoName-zb1gm]

My niece has a child who requires 24 hours supervision. She can't stay with him and get paid. She has to go to work and hire someone to watch her child and pay that person.

[@RajRaj-ry9qy]

I got cna certificate in WASHINGTON STATE BEFORE THREE YEARS but helping my husband at home but not registered for helping at home and so not getting anything so where should i contact? Pls help. Thanks.

[@Roxanneh78]

Where do I find the information of how to take courses and be paid to take care of mom? She is 76, and I am 46. and my Retired Father is 79

[@billieancrum]

Thank you. What about Virginia?

[@spongebobiens2569]

Thank you for your interesting video.Could you please define: If a person gets home care services supported with medicaid will this expenses be deducted from their retirent pension?

[@deniserwinston6243]

Hello.. thank you for the information. I live in Georgia and I work full time but also care for my 80yo Mom.. are their any incentives offered here in Georgia?

[@SofiaAmirpoor]

Hi, try this website if your mom is on Medicaid. Your local AAA can give you more resources in your area. This site for Georgia has a link for AAA. Good luck!! aging.georgia.gov/programs-and-services/home-community-based-services/home-services

[@angiea8022]

I'm in Alabama. Where do I find the information of how to take courses and be paid to take care of mom? She is 80, and I am 60.

[@charlesrowland8202]

Hi my name is Charles I am a caregiver for my older sister whom is disabled bedridden age 62 yrs old we live in Pensacola I have tried to request information on getting paid for taking care of older sister the response was because I have a job I make too much and I don't qualify is there any other options

[@Bgraham2ify]

Look into Agency for people with Disabilities CONSUMER DIRECTED CARE. Your sister can get on the program and than you could get paid. It's APD/ CDC in Florida.

[@coachingwithsuzette]

Is this for Indiana also

[@capcats]

Hi. Can I use paid family leave if I live in California and travel to Pennsylvania to care for my father? Thanks in advance

[@SofiaAmirpoor]

Yes, you should be able to as long as you meet all the other criteria. Your fathers doctor may have to certify the need. Good luck!

[@vanessakeever1587]

I'm 36 and I help take care of my 87 yr grandmother. I live with her for ever! She raised me and now I'm helping her around! I like to know. Just was wondering how do I apply for this program! I'm interested! Please let me know how to apply!

[@reddeadjuju]

Go through elder services thats how I became a pca

[@cassieayala4733]

My godmother is disabled and is 55 and I'm her caregiver I'm with her more than 12 hours a day, I'm a CNA so I'm skilled in doing so, do you have any advice for how to go about this I'm in the state of New Jersey

[@johnstinson4026]

Also if you have a criminal record The Five-Year disqualifier I don't care if it's just a misdemeanor marijuana charge you will not get paid to take care of your elderly parent at home because you have a drug charge on your record it's ridiculous but then the government will pay 10-15 thousand a month to a nursing home to take care of them and you get all types of strangers

[@TuPapi-v8g]

What if you live with the parent but u want to get paid while helping providing the service

[@rolajordan1855]

What program they offer at state of texas

[@SofiaAmirpoor]

@Rola Jordan It looks like Texas has just one phone number to call for every service in the state: 855-937-2372. Wow, I wish every state had that! Good luck😃

[@Zhorellski]

Can I take Family leave and IHSS at the same time? to take care of my Mom. I’m in California.

[@SofiaAmirpoor]

@Zhorell Ski FMLA only protects your job and does not provide pay, so yes, I think you can also get paid via IHSS at the same time. Just know that IHSS takes months and months to get! But look into this.....if you live in California (and some other states too), and they take SDI (State Disability) out of your paycheck, then you may be eligible for paid family leave through the state's EDD. If you would qualify to be paid through the state for your own disability, then you should also qualify to be paid through the EDD for taking care of a family member temporarily. Good luck to you! And let me know if you have any luck...

[@llowen48]

How do I become a caregiver for my husband has parkinson,Alzheimer’s,dementia he has Medicare he needs help 24 hour a day

[@johnstinson4026]

Can you give us a roundabout of how much money you can get paid if your mother needs full-care meaning needs fed closed diaper can't walk everybody wants to know like how much you know

[@barbo1106]

Do the VA benefit opportunities extend to spouses of former veterans?

[@SofiaAmirpoor]

@barbo1106 Hi there! For the Aid and Attendance Program, the benefit is available for a surviving spouse of a veteran as long as the veteran would have met all the service criteria and as long as they were married at the time the veteran passed away. As for other VA benefits, I am not sure. But you can call the VA helpline at 800-827-1000 and they will answer that question for you. Good luck!!

[@tammycrisel8692]

I'm raising and giving total care to my disabled autistic grandson. He cannot bathe, dress himself, he takes medicine and will always need help with basics. He's 10 and still unable to wipe his butt, he is unaware of danger and is a runner so to be safe he needs 24hour care. Would I be eligible for help

[@SofiaAmirpoor]

Not all the options I spoke about in the video will apply to you and your grandson. But if he is receiving medicaid in your state, then he should be eligible for in-home supportive services (might be called something else in your state), and your state might allow you to be the paid caregiver. But every state has their own rules about this. But look into it. Good luck!

[@myriamgramajo6399]

Hello I have the program in California but I’m planing to move to Tennessee and I need to know if that state has it. I researched and called but I have I have response and I need help please 🙏 thank you

[@dreamrose2333]

Hi I just saw your reply to this video trying to seek help and get answers on how to bring my 82 yr old father that needs to live with me for dementia and his sister is kicking him out of the house so he’s basically homeless so I have to move him in with me .. I saw you mentioned you are on the program for California ..I’m in ca , please do you mind sharing how you got started or any tips you may have ? did you call Medicaid on behalf of the parent? my dad is in a different county now so I can’t go to his dr appnts not sure if it’s best to get a letter from a Dr? As you know calls n getting through through to government agencies can be very frustrating so I appreciate any help you can give me thank you God bless 😊

[@nicoradv3923]

What if the person you are caregiver for is not family?

[@sensisoulja]

MY DAD IS ON HOSPICE AND IS A VETERAN, AM I ABLE TO GET PAID AS A CARETAKER UNDER THOSE CIRCUMSTANCES

[@SofiaAmirpoor]

Yes, apply for the VA Aid and Attendance program

[@myriamgramajo6399]

what’s the name of the program in Tennessee please?

[@SofiaAmirpoor]

@Myriam Gramajo Hi there! In Tennessee IHSS is called OPTIONS For Community Living. You can enroll or ask questions at 866-836-6678. Best of luck!!

[@ThatsSoAlixNews]

I'm taking of my mother in law for dementia

[@syedzaminabbassherazi4934]

Hi sofia! I have been following you for a long time. I have a question that I am an international student in UK and my Grandmother has the EEA settlement in Uk. Can I become the carer of my grandmother to switch my visa? Is it possible?

[@SofiaAmirpoor]

@syedzaminabbassherazi4934 Hi there, thanks so much for following! I’m sorry, but I have to admit that I am 100% unfamiliar with the way things work in UK and don’t even know what EEA is. I hope that you find someone local there who can guide you. Best wishes!

[@teams3345]

If you cash out their assets first.

[@LauretteCandace]

If my elderly stepmom gets on Tenncare(tennessee Medicaid) then can I get paid to do what I’ve been doing for two years? Family caregiver of step mom and take my dad who has macular degeneration to his monthly eye shot appointments. Plus I have two special needs children. It’s like having two full time jobs but no pay😳

[@jackfrosty4674]

You should really look into medicaid at home pay. Sounds like would help alot and if get on hospice with dad maybe get some help with nurses coming to home.

[@warriorwoman5422]

Be careful with tenncare they will try to get their money back with their assets after anyone passes. I’m in Tennessee too

[@gigi9301]

No forget about it

[@Hllee6428]

Even if they offer to pay you……it will not give back your free time,privacy nor personal time. It only helps you survive without a full time job elsewhere.

[@sylvia4425]

What's the difference between a Nursing Home vs Assisted Living?

[@SofiaAmirpoor]

@Sylvia Assisted Living is more like a home environment where your parent would have their own little apartment and go down for communal meals and activities. Usually for higher functioning seniors. Assisted Living is 99% of the time private pay....insurance does not pay. Nursing homes are more like a hospital environment with doctors and nurses providing care. Medi-care or private insurance will pay for nursing home for a short period if there is a skilled need such as physical therapy, wound care etc. If your parent needs long term nursing home care, the only insurance that will pay is medicaid. I hope that helps!

[@lowelowes.g9613]

I couldn't go back to work my mom has dementia

[@ZussieMakesit]

I live in California and I’m looking into taking care of my dad, he needs the help and I don’t have a job right now, but I’m not sure if they let you have another job and don’t know how much they pay or from what I’ve heard it’s not enough

[@Crazyknives]

Did you get paid for taking care of your dad? I want to take care of my dad, but I want to know how much it is, so I can quit one job, thanks

[@ZussieMakesit]

@@Crazyknives I haven't been able to do it, but when I went to apply the social worker said that they don't give too many hours, it would depend on how much help your parent needs, so don't exactly know, you would have to see according to your case.

[@asta9198]

Can you get paid to take care of your parents and work full time ?

[@SofiaAmirpoor]

Yes

[@charlesparkakacharliekeybo6639]

How would you pay the US government back for what they did?

[@charlesparkakacharliekeybo6639]

This is like living from paycheck to paychecks?

[@jenniferblones-yf7zw]

I dont know why this is even a question.They are our parents😭 Why not care for them like they did to us when we are young

[@tammyknight5162]

Need help desperately 😢

[@joseph-cf5tg]

its a trape to get state in your home

[@HeatherHopfinger]

A person should not be paid to take care of a parent you do it out of love what is so hard to understand about that l❤ve 😢truth

[@J5649mrD]

If you cannot work outside of the home because you need to be home 24/7 to care for the parent, this makes sense. Of course you do it out of love but bills need to be paid also.

[@charlesparkakacharliekeybo6639]

The American government pays me to look after the elderly and is this a good country or what?

[@donnaallgaier-lamberti3933]

Only for parents or does this include a spouse

[@kevinfalcao8657]

Too generalised . Did NOT help with non VA resourses .

[@gerhardk98]

Can I get paid for breathing?

[@chuyhdz3082]

I’m in California my uncles wife is my grandma caregiver but she has never taken care of her she has neglected her it’s an ugly situation when I started seeing the real picture I started doing 100% of the work except the cooking but bathing getting her up putting her to sleep cleaning her room getting her back up and putting her back to bed I’m doing it all and I’m not even getting paid and I’m tired mentally and physically and don’t want to report them for fraud but it’s getting to that point and I don’t know what to do anymore she’s 101 yrs old . I might have to take her to my house and take care of her would IHHS send someone to help out what would happen anyone that has gone through this situation can you please reach out or anyone knows a similar case what happens ????

[@KorontrezDaniels]

Pray