GIRL CHAT: Losing Self, stuck in a Job, Dating Advice, Intentional Men, No Kids

[@koreenm2014]

This video was right on time! In 8 months, I’ll be entering my 30’s and a lot of things I “wanted” for myself haven’t came yet. I’m learning to find beauty in being a late bloomer and letting God take control of my timeline. He knows best. ❤️ Thanks for this video, Destiny.

[@allofdestiny]

Letting God control the timeline. That’s beautiful 💕 30s is beautiful and so lovely. You’re going to love it . Early welcome from me to you. Gods timing. I wish you all of your hearts desires, in his will🤎

[@loverofallthingsbeautiful2]

Life doesn't stop at 30 sis.

[@taylorsnow3994]

Don’t think this is CAP when I say this because I don’t give out fake compliments and energy, but you helped me so much along the way baby at 23 years old when I first started watching you and I’m 26 now… You taught me how to braid my hair, do my nails, feet and even love on myself a lot better than I was. I’m not going to get into the extremes of what I was going through when I started rocking with u but girl u helped me. I’m proud of you and who I’ve become while watching you. And don’t let comments like this put no unnecessary pressure on you. I’m just letting you know that if your goal in creating this type of content was to uplift and encourage, you’ve got a for sure success.

[@k.c.43]

" Rest in your singleness" As a 44yo who is new to this single life, this gave me a different perspective! Thank you!❤

[@allofdestiny]

Love that!

[@adeanapatterson9533]

"It wasn't giving temporary, it wasn't giving blow up, it wasn't giving rent a center!" SPEAK DESTINY!!! That whole dialogue!!! My God. ❤️❤️❤️

[@FeliciaJohns-lr8zt]

AMEN

[@Fee-K]

Destinyyyyyyyyyy girl! You had me in tears talking about the couch situation! And I’m married (3yrs now) to my wonderful husband! However, before…..I did not rest in my singleness…..baby I had the Aaron’s, RC, Walmart Layaway’s baby I had them and they were TRASH! I went through so many heart aches it ain’t even funny! And it wasn’t even anything sexual. But when I finally stopped trying to have that great man in my time, stopped looking at other ppl and their relationships, and let God move in his time. Within a month my husband was revealed to me. We’ve been together 7 yrs friends/dating and now been married for 3. Baby you spoke nothing but the truth! I love you sis! You are a truly amazing soul and everything you want, need, and desire is yours! It is your DESTINY! Blessings to you always!

[@allofdestiny]

Awww, I love this for you. Congratulations. Wishing you many blessed years in your marriage💕 when you least expect it. God’s timing is everything. Resting in singleness in the context of the questions provided means not being ashamed of it and embracing it. And yes also living your best life. Thanks for sharing your story here

[@Fee-K]

@@allofdestinyI agree and that’s just what I did. Thank you! ❤

[@MissExclusive4]

The best advice for healing is definitely to keep it cute and move forward. You have to do it for you.

[@allofdestiny]

I agree. 💕 do it for you

[@fashionistarr]

Nooo :( you literally could pass for 18 and you should never feel that you need a man or have to have kids :( I’m so sorry also you are so sweet and pretty you deserve the best things

[@larhondaaskew1941]

I totally agree with you. She's such a inspiration and beautiful woman inside and out ❤

[@allofdestiny]

Black ain’t cracking on this side. 🤭thank you so much…on another note, I hate that my answering the questions submitted has gotten mistaken/misunderstood for me feeling some way about not having children. I’m living my best kids-free life. You have no reason to be sorry me🤎

[@jsorrell080]

I really enjoyed this video!!! Thank you.

[@ivythegreat4943]

OK I didn’t even start the video yet, but let me get this out of the way you’re successful you’re gorgeous you make your money you’re God-fearing, you handling your business you’re respectable you’re very classy. You’re very elegant. And that’s on Mary had a Little Lamb…. Also, I hate the fact that people put age limits on everything everyone has their own journey just because certain people get a certain point faster than others does it mean it’s not gonna happen and maybe they don’t want it to happen and that’s OK.

[@allofdestiny]

Did you watch yet?

[@joyfulonpurpose6913]

" Rest in your singleness" This is an on time word ❤

[@mssocial9086]

🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@letoriabennett2019]

Yessss🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@allofdestiny]

People act like it’s such a bad thing. Single is beautiful when you do it right.🤎

[@pinkygirl0323]

Girl I never thought I would be a foster parent but I got a sibling set, sister and brother and God told my husband and I to adopt them and we are glad we listened cause they are the best kids ever..

[@allofdestiny]

Awwwww I love this so very much. That’s so beautiful. 💕such a blessing.

[@iamonlychristina]

This helped a lot especially with entering in my 30s soon and single with no kids. I always feel rushed and seeing others already married, kids etc. This helped with knowing you don't have to rush and continue working and taking care of self first then all will fall into place in God's timing♥♥

[@allofdestiny]

Happy this helped you . Live ya life, enjoy your kids-free life. Once all of that comes, it’s permanent you can’t give (kids/husband) back. Better to take your time than end up with some hot mess of a man you want a divorce from.🤎💕

[@tonika7543]

Sometimes you gotta appreciate the little things in life, it takes time and the best is yet to come.

[@allofdestiny]

Definitely agree

[@MissExclusive4]

We’re definitely in a instant gratification generation and I definitely believe that practicing gratitude and believing that God has his hands on us in every season will help us to remain happy and focused even when we’re not there at the goal yet! Love what you said about trying not to always focus on what’s next too ❤ enjoy the process!

[@FeliciaJohns-lr8zt]

AMEN

[@jazzmondsmannequin]

I agree, instant gratification is starting to become the norm 😢

[@allofdestiny]

Well said! Trust the process and ignore what strangers gotta say, that’ll forever be my advice especially to younger girls in this ugly unforgiving social media space

[@MissExclusive4]

@@allofdestiny thank you & yes you’re right!❤️

[@LifeOfKells]

@4:10 “where I’m at is where god currently wants me to be” Oooooo! THATS what I needed right now, I have a bad habit of not being in the present and overlooking present accomplishments because of this. I’m going to start saying this to myself and others when(if) asked❤️❤️❤️ Thank you

[@drekaag334]

Seriously… I felt that on a different level! Soon as I graduated with my bachelor’s degree so many people asked “what’s next?” Or “Are you going back for your Masters?” Like let’s cut the cake baby

[@LifeOfKells]

@@drekaag334 “let’s cut the cake”😭lmfaooo 💯🎯🎯

[@atotten1924]

Tell 'em Destiny. A man will show and pursue you.

[@allofdestiny]

That’s right. If he ain’t properly pursuing, we ain’t interested in giving him our precious time💕.

[@alisac905]

Ms. Destiny you are simply Awesome!!! You are not my daughter but I am very proud of you and the woman that you are. May God continue to bless you and your family. Be Blessed, Be Safe and continue to spread Love and Joy.

[@allofdestiny]

Thank you so very much🥹 it’s been a journey. Thanks for being here. I pray God blesses and shines upon you . 💕

[@FeliciaJohns-lr8zt]

AMEN

[@jazzy5389]

I first wanna say to the 23 year old you're not missing anything not all of your generation but some young men today are not date worthy. To comment on when a nan wants you you were right on it A REAL MAN WILL ALWAYS LET YOU AND OTHERS KNOW IF HIS INTEREST IS IN YOU there will be no confusion on that. You are correct afain you can't stop your life to wait on a husband to come. Buy your home, car etc .... because waiting on him may not happen and I know people right at this moment that's in that position. Great conversation ❤

[@LifeNbalance]

The girl chat I didn’t know I needed. My girl ❤

[@allofdestiny]

💕💕happy to have you here

[@r.ladawn24]

Let me grab my popcorn…love me a Destiny ChitChat💞

[@allofdestiny]

Yesss I’m snacking and watching with yal right now💕thank you

[@Poochoxo]

I’m so glad to hear you say you wanna be a wife before a mother bc same!

[@tasharawarbington]

You are so inspiring!! Such a good example of a young classy God fearing women!!

[@krimezofkolor4683]

Girl I’m 31 no kids no man . I’m just happy!! Idc what anyone thinks I’m loving myself period . But yes people constantly ask when I’m going do this or that . Can you worry about your own life and womb . Loving myself is the best love ever. Being single is peace . Keep doing you pretty girl . If it’s meant to be it will be

[@allofdestiny]

HAPPYYYY. Love that for you. And ikr, mind yal own wombs😂 they ain’t gone buy no pampers. I’m convinced people just like announcement photos. 😂🤭Kids and marriage are permanent. nobody wants to talk about how much of a headache all of that can be when you rush and choose the wrong man. You’re doing the right thing, keep that going for yourself.

[@shefromdc]

I loved this video, needed this video and appreciated all of this video. To my niece in my head, you’re anointed, you’re gifted, you’re blessed, you’re amazing, you’re beautiful and I thank you for being you. 49y/o me has watched every video of yours since August 2022 and I’m now sitting, waiting for more of them to be uploaded. I’ve learned so much from you & have passed this info AND shared these videos with my daughter. Your parents did a wonderful job, I love them for that & love you for being you.

[@LivingSauceywithNiNi]

Don't worry or let people tell you that you need a man. God has the perfect man for you! Enjoy your life appreciate your FREEDOM while you have it girlie. Much love & respect from Detroit. ❤

[@allofdestiny]

A little more clarity may be gained from watching in entirety. 🙃 don’t judge a video by the title.

[@LivingSauceywithNiNi]

@@allofdestiny It wasn't for you Destiny it was for whomever needed to hear it.

[@margaretrivera6664]

I see your mother in you, they've done an excellent job raising y'all. Great responses❤

[@linarose5994]

“Stay distracted from the distractions “ 👌🏿

[@allofdestiny]

That’s it right there 💕

[@linarose5994]

@@allofdestiny just to let you know I been following you for a while now and Iam very proud of you not only that you are an inspiration, thank you ❤️ May god continue blessing you

[@meefurst]

Love your transparency makes me want to watch even more… no disclaimers….can’t wait til the next one

[@lorelei8387]

The analogy of the couch and dating the right person! Destiny dropping gems.

[@takilathompson4532]

Girl!!!! Rest in your singleness!! Yes!!! A word..I love it

[@SharneitaLatrice]

38:48 this video was such a vibe! I love you Destiny …You are so pretty and have a great head on your shoulders thanks for being such a inspiration ❤😊

[@allofdestiny]

Thank you so much!!

[@charmaineld89]

I'm late but girl!!!! you betta let the holy ghost speak through you about patience. There is nothing wrong with being single and enjoying it. I have had so many ppl look at me crazy because I want to have kids with my husband only. Someone even said I thought I was better than ppl because I choose to wait. The couch analogy was good!!! Continue to allow God to use you and he will surely answer your prayers. Stay blessed

[@GinaBihh]

Destiny Girl I’ve been watching you for the longest He will come just take you’re time. 😊❤

[@keke_lavay7613]

I love how honest and genuine you are it’s always so amazing. You’re so enjoyable to watch and listen too and such a big inspiration. I didn’t want kids but I got diagnosed with ovarian cancer to 24. I had a full hysterectomy that same year. Sometimes I think did I make the right choice. It’s was important to me my health was intact.

[@tee3165]

Absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be married first! It will all happen for you, God speed! Societies "deadlines" don't have a say so here! You go girl!

[@johneshiataylor6050]

Girl that was a Word!!!!! I’m over hear Boo Wooing because there is a prayer that I’ve been praying for and I have so much faith that God Will!!!!!!!!!! That’s it That’s All!!!!!!

[@allofdestiny]

Keep having that Faith in Him, and claim whatever it may be. Gods got it, he can do anything 💕

[@deescott222]

You betta Preach Daughter!!! Yes, wait on the Lord. Your waiting, is Him preparing what He has for you!!

[@KDBetter]

Girl! I went through a whole thing coming into my 30s. We are not alone! Thank you for this ❤

[@lakeishionstreet]

"chirp chirp, nee ga " lol That was a great visual example for all. Let that man prove himself.

[@allofdestiny]

🤭chip chirp😂 and I know that’s right. We don’t care if he like us, what he doing about showing us matters.

[@blaircoley747]

I loved the disclaimer at the end. We should really as women give each other grace. What you’re going through now I may go through on ten years. Let’s continue to be kind to one another.

[@allofdestiny]

Kindness will take people so far.💕that’s what I desire to build in this community. Women/men who are super kind and encouraging to one another in these comments.

[@goldencici8249]

“Rest in your singleness” recently single at 28 & needed to hear this.

[@MistyL82]

Isaiah 60:22 "I the Lord WILL make it happen" Your vulnerability is much appreciated! 26:01 hit me, that was good stuff!! I pray we all can rest in knowing that God told us He will open rivers in high places for us. With God, we never lack. We are the head and not the tail. Just hold on. I enjoyed every bit of this video💯💯 funny moments but also some gems were dropped

[@ceecee2274]

I can listen to you all day. Your sense of humor is so funny, smart and mature.

[@MissExclusive4]

The couch analogy was BEAUTIFUL. Your love for God is so clear and it is so refreshing. Thank you!

[@allofdestiny]

Thank you. God put that in my heart a few months back and I’ve reflected on it ever since. I got too happy trying to share it with yal so maybe I’ll double back to the story one day but I’m glad it was received well. God is so good 😊 💕

[@MissExclusive4]

@@allofdestiny you’re welcome! He sure is 🙏🏽🥰

[@dejakierra]

Heavy on "do the things that make you feel good!!" I needed to hear that today!

[@allofdestiny]

Definitely, you deserve that💕

[@milliy7975]

Bless you Destiny. Being real and transparent. Great encouragement and guidance for young women ❤

[@allofdestiny]

Thank you. As long as something I said helps one person, I’m thankful for that 💕

[@SuperSparkle66]

I wish I could have heard this chat when I was a young girl!😢 You are so down to earth and inspiring!❤

[@OlivePerezT]

Hi destiny don't worry about being single you will meet someone and don't worry about having children enjoy pampering yourself

[@allofdestiny]

Yal typing before watching the video huh🙃

[@OlivePerezT]

​@@allofdestinyyes girl I couldn't help it I had to type before watching the video 🙃

[@Teeks79Love]

❤Top tier video!!!! The reminders and encouragement you gave.... absolutely fabulous!!!❤ Thank you so very much!!❤

[@Nicolekimmie]

Definitely we love the vibes❤❤

[@allofdestiny]

Thank you for viewing Im glad the video encouraged you.

[@BiancaHudson]

For the person asking about the friend that keeps bringing up your past: That friend is still hurt by something, have a serious convo with them. I was that friend before.

[@allofdestiny]

That’s a interesting point of view. But if the hurt didn’t come directly from that friend, why the need for slick shots her way🧐

[@Tyelarkins]

Idk how many times I done watch this girl chat I love videos like these ❤❤

[@tanishiahicks]

This was such a great video, there is nothing wrong with waiting I love that you said that whew this was good 💕💕💯

[@Themflife]

“Yeeeen my momma” 😂 I almost fell off the treadmill. Lmao this video came right on time, definitely been feeling stuck lately. This transparency was very refreshing ✨

[@allofdestiny]

Girlllll I’d be torn between mad and sad hearing that. 😂🤭 and thank you so much. I’m slowing trying to ease back into speaking openly online I be needing breaks from it but I’m so glad it’s being received well💕thank you

[@lc22ac23]

Love this you are so right you are where you are because that’s where God wants you at this time ❤

[@NiomiTTucker]

can we stop and appreciate the references to nature with footage tho! loved it!! 💕

[@allofdestiny]

Thanks so much 🥰. Lol I’m such a visual person🫠 I had to add that special touch. So glad you loved it

[@takenadugger5086]

Hey Boo! This girl chat was much needed. Keep pushing past your uncomfortableness. You got so much wisdom. Love you💞 Ratchet Destiny, Hey Babe! 😅

[@iamashleynicole9103]

I watch you all the time and never comment but the message in the couch situation had me ugly crying! I love you sis. Continue to be you!!!

[@jazzygurl1121]

❤️❤️ Destiny this really spoke to me snd right on time!! So encouraging! Thank you!

[@allofdestiny]

You are so welcome

[@onlynekitta]

It’s coming🙏🏾🙌🏾 The family is coming!

[@AbsoluteMdot]

This whole vlog is a vibe and I am here for it!

[@Chanterryka]

It’s Friday, I’m taking my braids down and catching up on Destiny 🎊

[@allofdestiny]

Hope you had a great Friday. And thanks for watching. What’s the next hairstyle ?

[@BigMantha]

I’m in here cooking and My God you gave a word about Gods timing and his will vs ours !!! I love “Destiny fix my life “ mixed with a lil Ratchett Destiny 😂💙

[@allofdestiny]

Ii just finished dishes from cooking earlier. I hope you enjoy your dinner and lol I like the way you put that😂 I’m glad you enjoyed the video. Yes God’s will is so much better than ours

[@FeliciaJohns-lr8zt]

AMEN

[@Mindlfulmedicine333]

love love love , been watching you for years! You are an inspiration keep doing your thangggg girl

[@tierneywilks4679]

This was so real sis!!!!!! Thank youuuuu

[@sharinadavis9715]

This was sooo good. Listen to the single people this is the time to learn who you are what you will accept and won’t accept. You should know this among other things before going into a union with someone. Being single is not bad and it bothers me when people project this onto other individuals.

[@niegelcoffey5051]

I ❤ this I found your channel about a month ago Im from Memphis as well and you truly inspire me im thirty and struggle with the fact of being single with no kids and it’s get to me sometimes but watching this video really helps and made me look at my situation in a whole new light keep doing what you do !❤❤❤cause your advice truly helps others

[@Rel_30]

Loved this chit chat Destiny. Some of the single and 30's questions spoke to me, Thanks for the advice.

[@Kmchrissy93]

Hi destiny I’m a silent watcher just turned 30 this year 🇬🇧 your video was really interesting I can resonate with everything you said thanks for being open keep these videos coming ❤💖💖🥰🎉💖💖💕

[@andreacampbell6909]

Smudging is when you spiritually cleansing space, object or person. Ex: saging your home, getting someone to bless the area etc...every religion has their own version and name for it

[@WhenGraceCalled]

This is so good. I feel you Destiny. Almost feel like we are the same person.

[@tbabydell]

You're vulnerability is strength. Thank you for this video it came in at just the right time. 😊✝️🙏🏾

[@allofdestiny]

I’m really relearning to see it that way in this season of my life. It’s a journey right now, So thank you as well.

[@japalomeno8068]

I love your girl chats. Please keep 'em coming ❤️❤️

[@Anneline_Mei]

Thank you so much for this vlog talking about the single era ... 😊it gave me hope and trusting in the fact that the Lord knows who i need in my life... love you girl ... ❤

[@allofdestiny]

Yeap, he knows what you need🤎 and at what time

[@MoniiByrd]

The fact that you gave me permission to have it on audio when I was cleaning up 😂 you know me too well and this girl chat was GIVING We need more chats. Love 😍😘

[@Godsmylove]

Keep doing what God has called you to do girl. At the right time, the right things will happen (I know you know this, sometimes we just need positive affirmations). God is so faithful! 🙌🏽🙌🏽 I have seen this quote floating around. "You are now living in at least one of the blessings that you prayed for" 🙌🏽🙌🏽 God was faithful then, He is faithful now, and He will always be faithful! Amen!

[@melyakpa5490]

25:26-40 you spoke to me 🥹🥹I want the best one and I know that God is sending him my way🙏

[@katiesolomon3699]

i really loved this video GREAT advice!!!!!!!!!! You know you right everybody isn"t equipped to be a mother great great job,Girl u know this video was EVERYTHING it really spoke to me thank you keep them coming!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@marshayjacole]

Such positive vibes and great advice! ❤️

[@jackquelyng.3466]

Destiny, I really enjoyed this video! ❤Your feedback on one of the topics in particular was so encouraging and right on time for me! Thank you so much & may God continue to bless you!❤

[@crysloves2eat_eat]

Yess girl this is good!! Wait on one of the best ones.. I know thts right!! patience is definitely a virtue 👏🏽 loved Distract yourself from the distractions 🧡

[@melaniedunning4557]

Absolutely loved this! ❤

[@MsHoneyjai]

Love this! Thank you Destiny. ❤

[@ladyt928]

Thank u destiny I really needed to hear this. I love watching ur videos ❤

[@allofdestiny]

Thanks so very much. Happy to have you here💕

[@SWANGTV]

This video was goooodd! and smudging is saging lol when I first heard it my mind went everywhere else but that 😅 and yess "rest in your singleness" I been working on that a lot ❤

[@tiffanyguidry4738]

I feel you love . I want to be marry before I have kids

[@arreanteshanquel1178]

I love these videos from you! You always give positive advice, keep it real, and just be YOU! ❤ When you got emotional I really felt that! In God's timing everything will fall into place no matter how long it takes! You really gave the girls what we needed!

[@elegantimpressionsmua9017]

Great advice destiny definitely want more of the girl chats. Stay blessed and safe 🤗

[@allofdestiny]

Thanks a lot. More to come💕

[@Candace_Renee]

Sis I loved this! More girl chats please!

[@allofdestiny]

I have to take my mental breaks in between reading and answering all the advice questions and topic requests but more to come soon for sure💕.thank you

[@jasminewilliams1298]

I really needed this girl chat thank you so much Destiny 💖

[@allofdestiny]

Of course, you’re welcome. I have to take my breaks in between the girl chats but I enjoy answering the ladies questions and hope the responses help someone watching💕

[@shcara8787]

My petty days been over with, its tooo draining let go an let god dont rush what god has in store for you ❤

[@allofdestiny]

Same. Well said . I left petty destiny in my 20s🙃. Can’t rush God💕

[@shcara8787]

@@allofdestiny amen

[@jalesapeterson1977]

I felt you when you were being vulnerable I am 30 and I am resting in my singleness. I desire to be married and I want the top shelf man.

[@kiabeeasmr]

Please more of these, I feel there’s not many REALIST conversations about life and in life it’s to convenient be delusional

[@CharmagneHoskins]

Destiny you BETTER PREACH! That couch part was a whole sermon!!!! 🙌🏾

[@allofdestiny]

And that’s exactly how he spoke it to me the first time a few months back. I got too excited and happy I forgot to finish saying the rest but I think the point was made clear enough. I’m happy to share that with you all💕

[@88099mpne]

“Mmmmh c’mon” baybayyyyyyy y’all betta catch that word about that couch & apply it BECAUSE I AM. That thang blessed me. Y’all betta REST IT IN!

[@allofdestiny]

I felt God give that to me last year after my last relationship ended. I lost track of my thoughts trying to contain my emotions while filming that part but He put it in my heart. “you are capable of waiting on what’s for you because you’ve done it in all these other areas of your life”. If you can wait in all these other areas you without settling everything else is lightweight .

[@neff-bs3eh]

I feel that way. If you always live in the past. I'm 36 and I don't have no kids. I'm just enjoying it

[@allofdestiny]

Continue enjoying it. 🤎💕 kids are permanent and nobody’s responsibility but you and yours. Don’t let nobody rush something that don’t directly affect their life.

[@MercadezMichelle]

I needed to see this… it’s rough out here but I ain’t rushing nothing.

[@katrinaclark2315]

As always this GIrlChat did not disappoint! Keep up the good work Destiny!! Love ya girl!! 💕🥰❤️

[@Cali8701]

You always give great advice, needed this video ❤

[@allofdestiny]

I did my best, despite of being so late🤭 thanks I hope my advice helps and I’m glad you enjoyed this video

[@MsKyiah]

Real raw no disclaimer content love love love it sis 💅🏽

[@allofdestiny]

The I love it💕 thank you

[@jessicafianko]

Hiiiii Destiny Happy Wednesday Today's Girl Chat video was great 🙌🏾 We are so proud of everything you've accomplished and we will continue to cheer you on 🥰🥰 We love you so so much 🫶🏾❤🫶🏾❤🫶🏾❤

[@kendrad02]

I’m not one to normally comment, but I watched when you first uploaded this. I just had to come back to say that the “not today” method actually works. My mind immediately shifted from the negative thoughts, you gotta say it with an attitude though.😌