Girl Defined - Is Gender A Personal Choice?

[@weigit2014]

On this Thanksgiving holiday on a year of personal loss, I'll be thankful for you, Jaclyn. You were instrumental in helping me shed my religious skin several years ago. That's a very very challenging and wrenching experience but I made it through and I am better off. Thanks for letting us see that atheists are just regular people like the rest of the world. And, thanks for being a good person with a good heart. 💗

[@Jaclyn]

This comment made my day. So happy I could be helpful in any way. Sorry you had a tough year, sending lots of love ❤

[@Justsomebody009]

I just wanna come in and say I'm also thankful to Jaclyn because I felt alone in my anger and frustration towards religious views and she is so out spoken about it, helped me feel less alone in a world of homophobia.

[@sopcanime21]

Me too. I am very thankful for your content. I fled my parents house in 2018 and your videos, your stories and your opinion has counted so much for me and has helped me so much into transitioning from leaving behind the religious baptist evangelical cult that i was raised in, I've cried watching your videos, laughed and related, it has felt so so good to find you and to be part of your online family that follows you, thank you for bringing awareness and enlightement to gals like us that have struggled with that brainwash and are now free from it. Blessed Thanksgiving Sis!!! XOXOXOX 🖤🖤🖤

[@sopcanime21]

​@@Justsomebody009yasssss!!

[@sopcanime21]

Thanks @weigit2014 you've brought our words out!

[@JennaCzech27155]

As someone who is disabled, hearing their "be what God intended you to be" rhetoric is soo confusing in every respect. If it's God's will that a trans person be what they were assigned at birth, am I, as someone born disabled, supposed to be disabled? If so, how fucked is that? And if not, if God truly doesn't make mistakes and trans people are supposed to submit to whatever gender they were originally, to be "normal" if you will, am I also supposed to somehow shape-shift myself back to "normal"? The math ain't mathing.

[@nightshade7240]

It's worse, God made us to be disabled and then they say oh become a xtian and he will make you whole after you die. Like bitch, he couldn't fucking do that before I was born?! Also he's going to take away the whole experience of my life and give me a functional body in the end times? Why the fuck didn't he just make the end times first? There is no teleological value to making so many of us suffer with often agonising disability. How the fuck does that make any sense? How stupid is their god or how callous? It's so easy for them to blather on about this shit because they are pretty and privileged and won the genetic lottery and as a result of that have experienced success. Not because they are talented or charismatic but because they are pretty.

[@Thirdbase9]

If God doesn't make mistakes, then Christians should be against all medical procedures and practices.

[@babyqeels]

Yes!! Their rhetoric literally would be that we are perfect the way we are (disabled, gay, trans, etc), because god makes no mistakes. However, because they also believe there is a “right way” to be, they’re actually putting themselves and their own interpretation of the Bible over God. They don’t understand that conformism is a man-made belief that often uses the Bible to push its agenda, nor do they understand the experiences of someone who doesn’t fit that able-bodied, cis, straight (and in their cases, aryan and financially privileged) mold. If God truly is the great creator who makes no mistakes, then everyone is perfect as they are. However even that rhetoric is flawed, because it means miscarriages, life-threatening or fatal disabilities, and other premature deaths are also his intentional doing, and that is not a God I would want to worship. Sorry for the rant I just was really interested in the point you brought up

[@numbers7n]

God doesn't make mistakes, yet diseases and pestilences exist. Things break down over time, and the passage of genes from one generation to the next is an information system that is breaking down. A Christian explanation is that death and suffering entered the equation when Adam & Eve first sinned. A science explanation is that entropy occurs. Things flow from an ordered & perfect state into a disordered & imperfect state. Sometimes the diseases occur before birth; other times they occur late in life. Regardless of the body, every soul has equal worth to God. As for trans,... There are a certain amount (it's super small) of people that are born intersex,... where they might have XY chromosomes but other parts of their body aren't able to receive & process the hormonal messaging that should have developed their external parts into fully functioning male parts,... and vice versa. Those are real, and sometimes can be treated to give the person a pretty full & functioning life that matches their XY genes (in this example). The trans stuff, on the other hand, is mental. When someone says they "feel" a certain way inside, it's an unfalsifiable claim. Just start with the fact that most trans people have pre-existing mental conditions. The trans stuff is being marketed to them as a solution for problems it can't actually solve. They overwhelmingly come from houses with liberal/lefty parents. They are more susceptible to the trans messaging (for some reason). (If it was just genetic, it would occur in equal amounts across the political spectrum, right?) Females are also more susceptible to it. (Again, if it was just genetic, it should occur equally among males & females, right?) And trans kids are somehow occurring at higher numbers among actors & actresses,.... (Because it's being taught.) I hope this is helpful to everyone who reads it. God Bless You All this New Year!!

[@myradavis1139]

also to say “someone pretended to be straight and then ended up being okay with it!” that’s CONDITIONING. slowly wearing yourself down until you just /have/ to be content with your situation because it’s all you have. such a sad fuckign existence and it makes me sick that they are STILL perpetuating this

[@blueismylove3128]

OR or they were just bisexual

[@justtooweird]

My former baby sitter recently left her husband of like 35 years to be with a woman. Her husband and her have 2 kids. I believe she felt that she had to hide who she truly was because of her mother and her beliefs. She left her husband soon after her mother dies. I think she felt free afterwards.

[@sarahcheever2229]

I'm happy for her but sad for her husband.

[@johnwarren6762]

That’s honestly just terrible for her family.

[@jules917]

@@johnwarren6762 how so? The kids are gaining a second maternal figure and finally getting a happy, true to herself mother. This will be good for their family in the long run. An unhappy family built on guilt and lies will never be as loving as a happy and healthy one.

[@alexandralite835]

Why would a 9 year old ask her a question like that? It's 100% fabricated because why would she ask her and not their own mother.

[@SquishyMain]

If i could choose my gender i would not choose to make my life harder than it already is, so i wouldn't be a trans man. But here i am still a trans man.

[@sithlordangel7342]

Yo I feel this so much

[@GlitterC8k]

❤❤❤

[@HScreecHC]

How can you say these two lovely kind hearted open minded blondies hate gay people? One of them even married one!

[@c0smictac0]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@Goat.Cheese]

That's not cool. Dave said he's straight, so I believe him. We dont need to assign sexuality based on stereotypes.

[@c0smictac0]

It's not gay, it's SSA!

[@ariannasantina]

@@Goat.Cheese agree. whether or not you like the girls or agree with them, speculating on peoples sexuality isnt cool.

[@elsis_h]

@@Goat.Cheese I'm slightly confused, I thought one of them was sent to a conversion camp and after that said he was straight? I could be wrong but if that is the case it seems like being brainwashed by shame rather than actually being straight. Like I said I'm not sure of those facts at all but I thought I heard that at some point.

[@taeminislove]

Have they ever addressed the criticism of the fact that they even have a platform when they're WOMEN? Doesn't the bible talk abt women needing to be quiet? 😅 "A woman must learn in silence with all subjection. But I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man. Rather, [she is] to be silent. (2:11-12)"

[@ziploc2000]

Ah well that wasn't one of the cherries they chose to pick from the bible buffet...

[@nightshade7240]

They are using a loophole by aiming their "ministry" at women. Then they can go but we aren't teaching men. If men watch we hardly have any control over that. Also buy our book aimed at women.

[@ziploc2000]

@nightshade7240 Does the Bible say women can teach women?

[@pantaleimona]

I'm really glad you reacted to this particular video, Jaclyn. My spouse and I have been married 36 years, choosing celibacy for the last 20. We were SBC when we met, and they were turning themselves inside out to be straight. It made my blood boil to hear GD talk about the gay man who realized if he couldn't change, he couldn't have sex. Such a polite way to say, "God broke you, you can't get over it, so you don't get the goodies AND you'll have to sit alone in the corner for the rest of your life." They condemned him with their christian love.

[@ziploc2000]

People can no more choose their gender or sexuality than they can choose their natural hair color, or choose not to be color blind. They _can_ choose to try to hide their gender or sexuality, usually due to social or religious pressure, but it usually doesn't end well.

[@bobdonda]

You don't have to hide anything, just stay out of women's spaces if you're male and vice versa. Respect other people's privacy and rights.

[@raydean897]

​@@bobdonda 👈🤡 hiding behind the guise of caring about women

[@kylajohnston130]

@@bobdonda this whole notion tht letting trans people use the bathrooms tht align with there gender identity will increase rape is funny to me cus if a rapist was gonna rape someone in the bathroom they are just gonna go do it they aren't going to become trans to do it rape is still illegal and cis women have raped people before so this whole fear mongering is stupid af. your problem is with rapist not trans people but you lumping trans people as rapists is a huge problem. not to mention u making us use the bathroom tht doesn't align with our appearance or gender actually will increase violence and sexual assault towards trans people not cis people. cus having a trans woman looking like a woman in a mans restroom and vice versa is definitely going to cause issues only a fucking idiot would think otherwise.

[@kylajohnston130]

@@bobdonda how about you respect trans peoples privacy and stop causing unneeded problems and issues into our lives when there wasn't one to begin with.

[@kylajohnston130]

@@bobdonda you hyper focusing fear mongering obsessed and jealous bigots. must be hard being so fucking stupid and wrapped up in religion.

[@jakthebomb]

I didn't choose my Gender, I chose to make my body match it. I don't think anyone choses their gender, they just are. When one's gender doesn't match their body, they transition.

[@bobdonda]

Gender just means personal style and personality type and interests. Those things don't transform a man into a woman or vice versa, and neither does cosmetic surgery.

[@reyon2673]

That is some crazy mental gymnastics you have to do. You simply did not accept yourself. That's the fact. And the sad part is that you could have expressed yourself however you liked, you could've dressed, talked, walked, acted however you so pleased, and it wouldn't have made you any less of a man. But a woman you are not, cannot be, no matter how desperately you wish that fantasy was true. This entire movement is the product of a lack of emotional maturity and stability, and highly corrupted groups taking advantage of vulnerable, confused young people to push an agenda for profit and influence.

[@bl4ckkn1g8t5]

What is your gender and what are the characteristics of your gender?

[@ferninthehouse]

ignore the replies. people are dumb

[@FoodIsOverrated]

@@reyon2673you summed it up perfectly.

[@Itsatragedeigh]

For years of a friendship i thought my friend was straight and a guy. Thats how she lived for a long time. In her forty’s she’s came out as trans and ace. My old friend was pessimistic, depressed and honestly a bit mean at times lol. My friend now is happy, kind, generous, and wonderful. I loved her before but the amount of growth I’ve seen since they came out a year ago is insane. If god wanted this person to be miserable their whole life as a guy, that’s not a god i want anything to do with.

[@chelseywest2311]

I feel you on this!!! I had two friends who were twins and all throughout school I knew them as boy and girl twins. But (I’ll call them L, I don’t even feel comfortable typing their old name) L… L struggled a lot. I noticed L was very quiet and depressed and I just always wanted to help them feel good. Years later and after we lost touch, I now know Aiden. Aiden is confident, boisterous, and smiles so much now. The first time I saw Aiden, I realized that was always who they were meant to be. People don’t realize that being your true self can change everything! Turns out, it was always two twin boys. The world just didn’t see it. Aiden and his brother are so close now :)

[@trixjoyce]

These women and everyone else with their opinion are the reason why I left the church and I felt so sad for leaving a religion because of its people and not because of God. I'm still struggling with not being fully an atheist but still not heteronormative enough to be a christian.

[@beanythompson1460]

I got told a story in church one time about how there was a church that Jesus visited and he said this is not about God anymore.......idk the whole story but it was honestly really instrumental in me starting to realize that I needed to follow teachings that God tells me are right not the church 😂 because the church isn't about our relationship with God anymore its about controlling people

[@nightshade7240]

Jesus accepts you. He literally says some are born gay, sadly the English translations have obfuscated that oh so important verse that no xtians read and go hang on, why the fuck does this verse read in such a weird way?! The reason it reads badly in the English is because it's covering up both linguistic context from the Greek and cultural context. Jesus didn't make you to be heteronormative and in his own words, he accepts you.

[@trixjoyce]

@nightshade7240 I agree, in fact I have studied these verses (and the entire Bible since I was in Bible college for a while) but as I said in my comment I left more because of the people and not because of Jesus. I know Jesus accepts me, but it’s hard to defend that when 80% of Christian’s believe that you’re sinning. I don’t know where I stand right now… but it’s the same problem here in Sweden and in our translation of the Bible…

[@toastywnderbread]

Honestly what sold me on gender affirming care was the reduction in suicidality. There isn't another treatment or medication I know of that reduces suicidality in patients at 70-80%. We should be tripping all over ourselves to save lives. Suicidality is not fun to live with.

[@5-Volt]

Ehh.. There's unfortunately conflicting studies about that. What I find scary is that the suicidality of trans people has gone up since 2000. It was 28% then & now it's at the alarming 41%. If trans acceptance & knowledge has gone up, then why has the suicidality?

[@bobdonda]

If it lowers the suicide rate would you let adult men legally change their age to 11 and attend middle school? Should adults be allowed to compete in children's sports? What about having a relationship with children? You can play along with someone's self-delusion if you want to, if you think it helps him. But his freedom ends where other people's rights begin - a man should not be allowed into women's spaces or infringe on women's rights, because that's harmful.

[@Trippymisery]

@@5-Voltmental health issues overall have increased so I’m assuming that plays into those stats

[@raydean897]

​@@5-Volt trans acceptance has gone up, but there have also been hundreds of anti trans bills passed all over the U.S. in recent years.

[@5-Volt]

@@raydean897 More exposure is a double edged sword.

[@Attirbful]

I always find it hilarious when people say, sexuality or gender is a choice. Essentially, they are saying that everyone has a free choice to choose either and that everyone, at some point, must make the conscious decision to choose either side. What this boils down to is they say everyone is sexuality and gender fluid and that they consciously chose - possibly despite feelings not under their control - to take the cis hetero path. Well, I happen to be a cis hetero woman, too, but frankly, I NEVER had any inclination of not being cis nor had I ever any desire to engage in homosexual activity. I never chose to be that way. If you say you do, you are acknowledging you a conscious effort on your part to not go the way you instinctually would go. Why would non-binary and homosexual folk “choose“ that route when I did not “choose“ mine?

[@Eiuol81853]

It is almost like Kristen and Bethany think the problem with their previous videos was their tone when in reality the problem is the message. Even if we're to buy into the idea that they've become more empathetic about being gay and trans, the main issue is that they're still condemning these people for their immutable identities. Nevermind the fact that their idea of God's perfection is in direct conflict with their condemnation of queer folk.

[@bgambie21]

GUYS! Let’s get her to 1 mill, she’s sooo close! We love you Jaclyn!! 🤗🩵

[@leslie9951]

These people always forget that God ALSO created intersex people and its not far off that trans people exist

[@chapstickaddict435]

Oh my Jaclyn you've angered some conservative in the comments. It literally has been scientifically proven that people who are gay are wired gay. Just like we are wired straight. It's just different wiring and genetics.

[@courve]

That has not been scientifically proven. Gay cannot be measured. Since adults shouldn’t eat crayons, I’m confused as to why you even said that lie. It only hurts gays to make up BS about them.

[@Blackcoffeeplaylists]

Nope sadly "it's a choice" like who tf chooses to be gay and be kicked out and yelled at.

[@rizumu-8937]

while i can agree with people not being able to help they’re attracted to, i don’t believe that gender can be chosen. it’s biology, you can’t deny something that’s written into your genetic coding. if your argument is that being gay is not a choice, then you cannot also say in the same breath that we can choose our own gender.

[@platanous]

sexuality is real. gender identity isn't

[@courve]

@@rizumu-8937 gender is not biology. It is fashion, an accessory. It cannot be measured or proven.y assumption is you meant to say sex. That is immutable.

[@jrjones029]

Keep fighting the good fight! We need people like you who can tell young adults that this kind of talk is hurtful!!! Especially now with bigotry getting worse. Crazy, I’m pretty sure I’ve been watching your channel since you made your first reaction videos to them. Still love seeing your videos.

[@mattslaughter4748]

Don't ever stop with this conent, it is needed more than ever. Thank you for all you do.

[@blacky_Ninja]

TF is up with these comments 😅 Don‘t listen to the trolls, both you and your channel are perfectly fine.

[@Lynxdom]

SWOOP did a good doc on girl defined that kind of speaks to their background. I recommend it.

[@Attirbful]

them talking about “compassion“ is insane!

[@LadyAtoli]

I wish being trans was a choice

[@bobdonda]

It literally is. You have a choice on whether to recognize the reality that men cannot transform into women, or whether to believe that pretending to be something actually makes it true

[@kylajohnston130]

@@bobdonda gender dysphoria isn't a choice neither is being intersex and why is it tht so many trans people end up actually being intersex in some way? almost as if there is a correlation to the two.

[@bobdonda]

@@kylajohnston130 It's a choice to believe that men can transform into women even though that belief is contradicted by scientific fact, and it's a choice to believe that you are one of those people who has transformed via buying different clothes and getting cosmetic surgery.

[@kylajohnston130]

@@bobdonda scientist agree with trans people and intersex people dude why do so many transphobes think science backs them up when its actually the opposite and tht there is scientific biological proof tht trans people are who they say they are. there are people born with xx xy xxy xxxy xxxxy and xyy xyyy xyyyy and xo and women born with uteruses with xy chromosomes and men born with penises with xx chromosomes you clearly dont know science at all or you would know tht and those are just a small fraction of all the intersex conditions tht exists and fetal development also can play a role in intersex traits and brain chemistry so you dumb fucks need to stop claiming science is backing you up with no actual proof and or knowledge cus if u actually did know the science you wouldn't be thinking the way you do.

[@comrade_kittygirl]

@@bobdondashut

[@SEGASister]

Let me suggest this: if God created everything and everyone as is, then why wouldn't he create people to be trans? Have it fall under that, "everything happens for a reason," umbrella. God would've made people transgender for a reason. Let's just ignore that _other_ religions exist, and that plenty of them do not follow that gender binary. Let's also ignore the many transgender people who have existed throughout history.

[@myradavis1139]

i ask anyone this: could you be convinced to change your gender identity, or sexual orientation? could you try really really hard to be whatever the opposite is of your current identity or sexuality? no. you couldn’t. gay people are born gay. trans people are born trans. why would you think others can be changed if you can’t?

[@meganthemom]

If trans people are born trans, what’s going on with all the detransitioners?

[@daviddavid1093]

Honestly I think that they just remade the video to make people upset but the funny thing is me and my friends do not care what they say anymore.

[@marilynwest4647]

It's funny that some bigots think kids won't learn about lgbt if it isn't taught in school. I was a teenager and I had google.

[@thebigksmoosey]

As a gender fluid bisexual, who spent a lot of my life living as a closeted "straight man" my experience is that gender and sexuality are not a choice, when it comes to how we are built internally. We can choose how we live, and how we present, and even when it causes us pain and damage and a constant desire to end our lives, we can choose how to act and live. But I certainly didn't CHOOSE to struggle with my identity as a man or my attraction to people other than cis-women. My life certainly would have been simpler and easier if I could have just been the cis-het man I was raised to be and wanted to be. I probably wouldn't have struggled with 4 decades of suicidal thoughts, shame, fear, anger, frustration, guilt, and depression. But no, I had no choice. I just got stuck with these feelings and thoughts and sense of identity. And I have to live with this everyday instead. Thankfully I live in the United States with is so very accepting and understanding of these issues, especially here in the Midwest where there are so many compassionate Christians are willing to let a person be who they are even if it is different than what they expect someone to be. Praise Jesus

[@ariannasantina]

Aww i didnt know you had a cat named Tippy (if i heard correctly) as well! I grew up with a cat named Tippy, she lived for 21 years! (sounds like your Tippy is long-lived as well :) ) My Tippy was given to me by my dad for my 9th birthday and she passed away like a month before I turned 30! Had that cat through EVERYTHING.. will never forget her (adorable long haired fluffy tuxedo cat - black and white with of course white "tips' on all 4 paws hence the name TIPPY ..short for 'Tippy-Toes')

[@joshs3229]

"God could've created anything he wanted except things that frighten and confuse us"

[@L-MIRL]

I’ve followed you on youtube for over a decade and you’ve been consistently defending gay and trans people, I’m glad you have stayed on top of that all these years.

[@madisonmcdermott2383]

I feel so conflicted when I talk about religion. I genuinely don’t care what people believe. That’s their business as as long as it doesn’t affect me, go ahead. But my problem is when people tell me I need to explain WHY I don’t believe, I don’t know how to respectfully say “it’s built on the beliefs of a man from 2000 years ago, full of hypocrisy and vague statements, and doesn’t even make people nice so what’s the point” In my opinion, if you believe “you can’t pick and choose the rules you like” then you should be living off the grid, never cutting your hair and wearing burlap sacks. Genuinely. If you do believe you get to pick and choose, you don’t get to “rank” sins. Being gay is just as bad as cutting your hair in gods eyes.

[@melissaroszkowski8911]

" I totally saved this young girl!" And everyone clapped 😂

[@isabellascott3443]

Jaclyn 2017 was a vibe lol

[@Justsomebody009]

Can I just say as a mother to a 9 year old they definitely have questions about their bodies. Also if they've been brought up correctly they will know that they are not the only person on this planet and that we have to share it with a bunch of people who are different to us and that's okay because we live in a world were we can be free to be who we truly believe ourselves to be. If you truly believe in god then go with that, if you truly believe you were born to the wrong gender I believe they are entitled to the same freedoms.

[@radish1395]

Jaclyn reacting to Jaclyn is gold. Is the story about the man with "SSA" actually one of their husbands?

[@yasmeen___1997]

No he denied that he was ever in conversion therapy

[@method_squirtle]

They forgot that intersex people exist 😅

[@MrBuns-yi2hk]

What are you trying to argue?

[@method_squirtle]

@MrBuns-yi2hk That God only created man and women, and you are either a man or a women when biology says otherwise

[@emilyharrington2219]

Yes! Please do more of these I love the inception of it!!

[@litaylor7]

I would love for someone to point out to me where in the curriculum kids are being taught about lgbtq. What standard does this fall under? What state standard for public schools covers teaching lgbtq? Please do share. This is always the argument “it’s in the schools!” *clutch the pearls!* No. It’s not. At most a public school is just accepting of all students because they’re a PUBLIC school… Apparently that means the school is TEACHING it just by allowing lgbtq students to exist in their schools.

[@TheTrueDoomSlayer]

Wrong. You need to educate yourself. Some schools, like the middle and high school by me, literally have lectures that last an entire class in "BE TOLERATNT OR WE WON'T TOLERATE YOU! WHITE PEOPLE BAD, but if you're gay it's ok. Also remember sucking dicks is ok and having kids get HRT and irreversible surgery is also ok without parental consent." I wish I was joking, that's literally what I've heard kids tell me they're taught.

[@TheTrueDoomSlayer]

You're probably not a parent. Maybe ask around...

[@Letycs]

They're not arguing that it's 'in the curriculum' and you won't find any sane person saying that - it's an issue of teachers idependantly doing these things IN school and there's so much proof of it it's hard to believe you haven't seen it unless you live under a rock. Countless teachers have been fired for doing exactly these things... Omir Odom has even covered some of the completely inappropriate books that small children can get and read excerpts from them. To act like it's 'just not happening' isn't true and it's disingenuous to say otherwise or pretend that parents shouldn't be worried, at the very least, of people like Jeffrey Marsh telling kids to keep secrets from their family and talk about their bodies an sexuality to their TEACHERS and keep it a secret. Hello, groomer 101.

[@MrBuns-yi2hk]

​@@Letycstune in for next time when we cover "it's happening? Actually, that's a good thing!"

[@Letycs]

@@MrBuns-yi2hk lol yeahhh...

[@CLE-EA]

I thought Bethany was deconstructing? No? I mean it was awhile ago. Maybe it was just the husband who was doing that?

[@jewelsart1024]

Her husband was definitely deconstructing. She didn't want to say she was deconstructing but she seemed to be reassessing aspects of her faith, just not to the same level as her husband was.

[@kellysundae]

I love your videos , I was so happy to see you posted today!!

[@ER-ge9hr]

24:41 They look very lovingly at themselves 😂

[@MakaykayLAMB]

I hate to sound cynical but I just don’t think things are going to change in my lifetime. I just don’t think people are going to become THAT much more caring, accepting, or empathetic and it just sucks. I’m glad for the progress that has been made but I see now that people like GirlDefined don’t want that and they’ve outright said it, “make America great AGAIN”

[@gilliancoyle2948]

Unfortunately, I so agree with this. if anything, I've actually seen Americans become MORE intolerant

[@ziploc2000]

Having lived most of my life in the UK, over there most people don't care what your gender or sexuality is. The USA has a big problem with religion dictating how people should feel. If the USA could dump religion things would change socially, and people would be free to be less bigoted and hate-filled towards people not like themselves, and public education would improve.

[@Dashierez]

The eyeliner and makeup in general in the old vid looks perfectly fine.

[@DanSlaughter85]

Hi trans guy here from Texas. I didn't know you could be trans till i was like 28. I would give a lot to have those years back. I just had no idea why I was different and why being called lesbian made me feel icky. (It's not icky im just a man) Now I do, im 39. It's just unnecessary harm. I probably won't be able to finish my transition till 50.... If I make it there. Ijs No one has EVER woken up and "been a girl today" that has NEVER HAPPENED! EVER!

[@bobdonda]

I regret to inform you that you were correct for the first 28 years, you cannot transform from a woman into a man. That's not a real thing, it's just pretend.

[@ohkaypoh]

thanks for making this video, jaclyn! the current political environment regarding trans people (and the lgbtq+ community in general) is insane, every day i wake up and see more anti-trans bills signed or learn about the 200 million dollars spent on anti-trans ads during the trump campaign. ive been watching your channel for about five years now and i find that i really appreciate how your channel reaches a variety of political spectrums. i hope that folks on the right or centre are able to watch this and your content and be more open to acceptance and support for trans and lgbt folks despite the current constant political targeting going on. it is incredibly important to combat anti-trans and anti-queer propaganda and i appreciate that this video was made

[@singingsiren82]

"They wait to die till they experience joy" is such a great way to put it.

[@sarahjackson2889]

It’s so weird! When I watched this video, the first thing I thought when I heard Bethany talking about the gay couple was “so you just love them so much that you want to try to get them to get divorced and rip apart that child’s life and parents?”

[@libertyjones4111]

I feel like they're mainly talking genderfluid, and don't realize about nonbinary and other things

[@someonerandom256]

They are well aware of non-binary people. Haven't you heard their ilk sneer at they/them? I was recently stuck living with MAGA people for several months and they watched conservative media every night. I heard non-binary and they/them brought up way more than even just the general "trans." I'm agender and they didn't know and one of them kept talking to me about how ridiculous it is to be binary. Good times.

[@RaineInChaos]

Bethy is friendly with the creators of Zelph on the Shelf, one of whom is nonbinary (as far as I understand- of course pronouns don’t equal gender) so she doesn’t have any good excuses. She has someone - someone who understands content creation even - who she could ask for help understanding this topic and even for guidance on how to talk about it in videos

[@midnightmalice4501]

I told my friend who came out as trans that I don't know if it is something you choose or not. They got really mad at me. And I was like, but.... It doesn't matter to ME whether you choose to be or just are. It doesn't change MY opinion of, you are free to live however you choose to. As long as people aren't harming others, they can do whatever. That's none of my business. (I said that I don't know because it is something that is still being studied. It looks like most people are rather than choose to be, but there are also studies that show that some people maybe choose. The point IS it doesn't matter. It's the same pointless talking point of it people CHOOSE to be atheists or if they just are). And because I choose to not be an asshole, (which actually IS a choice), I treat everyone with the same level of respect they deserve. On a side note, every time I hear a Christian call someone a "sexual deviant" or whatever wording they use I remember that leaders of churches are being arrested DAILY for SA, usually against children.

[@sophiasveningsson8637]

yeees girl. please do more reactions to girl defined´s videos, any of them. You are the best

[@kj.6010]

Yes! We need more of this👍🏾

[@c0smictac0]

My cat decides what kind of person I am 😅

[@RayNgai0613]

It's WILD to know that I've been with you since your first Girl Defined video! Back when you lived in LA and now with you living in the same area as me in Tennessee haha

[@MonikaRosaable]

“He couldn’t just ✨pray the gay away ✨” 😂😂😂😂

[@Blackcoffeeplaylists]

"god please don't make me bi" "You like tits and dicks still. So do I."

[@haroharo57]

"For sure" Britany said so many times "For sure" that is like the confirmation Kristen is waiting for. They talk and talk, saying nothing, there is not point. Just a lot of trash and they confirm each other whatever they said, there is not space to be wrong.

[@jamisontanksley112]

The crazy thing is, weather it’s a choice or not, none of it is harmful so why would it matter in the end?

[@erinnmackie3507]

The purple top is super cute, but certainly scandalous amongst some Christian circles. It would be so cute over a white turtleneck and with a mini skater skirt, sheer tights, and furry boots. While bookstores are becoming rare, I think they mean bookstores THEY approve of are becoming rare

[@zanej3825]

I can’t believe they’re still making crazy videos that people react to

[@313eve]

You look fantastic in this video. Thanks for the great content! Have a good week :)

[@alyj6398]

If God created people who have feelings, then it seems reasonable that he accepts everyone's feelings. And it is just as reasonable to believe God and you know your gender, even if it doesn't match what others would assume.

[@brittnilovescats]

Everytime Jaclyn says “Jawwzaass” 🤣🤣 I’m fucking crying 🤣🤣

[@ryanrowe1975]

Happy holidays!

[@BradPrichard]

They're still awful. You were right to call them out on the things that they just make up. But you missed like the most obvious one! They claim they went to a bookstore and read a bunch of children's books about transness. I can guarantee that didn't happen. And their claims of knowing what's going on in public schools? Oh man, I don't believe that.

[@franknunez7974]

Happy holidays to Jaclyn and Avery one else 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😊😊😊😊😊

[@KawaiiPrincess_Love]

6:48 Idk why, but somehow that image (if you hit Pause) perfectly captures those two "lovely ladies" as they are.

[@sawatee100]

Gender is a choice. It’s sue sylvester’s choice

[@hanatemonstas4485]

10:14 I remember being this little girl (not that met Bethany but grew up in. a conservative Christian home, struggling in my identity). The “cultural pressure” was the conservative gender roles telling what women should and shouldn’t be that those women peddle. I support feminine positivity but for all their claims, they get upset when boys and men take part in it too. It shows how fragile their ideology is.

[@animegirl.D]

If gender or sexuality was a choice I would never be sexually attracted to men at all but here we are

[@thatcreepyfangirlstalkerch3572]

There's a ton of bookstores in America. From Barnes and Noble to local stores. Just because they include LGBTQ books and other such books doesn't mean you can't shop there. Just Freaking Google book stores near me and you'll get answers!

[@scarlettredding]

People are upset because they believe in things that are super fucked up. I grew up in this culture, they truly look at it as an addiction or something smh

[@JohnDarwin7]

You and your family have a wonderful Thanksgiving.🌹

[@YAMAIHIME]

this is the earliest i've been to a jacklyn video in years.

[@FrizzKid05]

The way they said, "It's so sad," after pointing out that there are books teaching kids that it's okay for them to be who they are was off-putting AF!

[@allyk112593]

I'm only halfway through but two things that really bothered me more than everything else, they keep saying they're getting this topic in school which isn't true AND they can't even say what they're talking about. They keep saying "this topic" but won't say sexuality or transgender. They're grownups afraid to say the words. How sad.

[@jodyw-gk4ey]

yeah do more of this ones please jac

[@Emily_Entropy]

Love your eyebrows, Girl. I believe in a loving God, so I don't have any if these problems! 😂

[@vampiresrfine]

This argument about not pretending to be something you are not. Yeah, Sherlock, thats the whole point 🤦🏻‍♀️🏳️‍⚧️

[@einstwareinlicht]

When I first learned of their videos in 2017, I thought that they're way behind the times, irrelevant and delusional about their importance. But today I know that people like that are more common than we like to admit. I don't ever again expect there to be acceptance of people of non-straight non-binary identities.

[@wulfbana]

really strange how some christians talk about "the culture" as if their religion somehow existed in a vacuum and away from all human culture......

[@emmadear3276]

Do they not acknowledge that intersex people are born lmao?

[@stormflame829]

Having to explain to bots that praying to daddy in the sky won't change the fact I'm gay...is it 2006 again?

[@Orkprof]

On the topic of gender (identity?) being or not being a choice... Isn't it a little like that for non-dysphoric gendefluid people? As far as my understanding goes (I might be wrong) it does feels like "one day I might feel like this, another day I might feel like that".

[@bobdonda]

It is a choice if you believe that dressing differently and acting differently from other man means that you're a woman now, or vice versa. That simply isn't true, but it is a choice to believe in trans ideology which insists that it's true.

[@Orkprof]

@bobdonda that's got nothing to do with my question. Anyway, I don't think it's a matter of ideology. You need to understand that biological sex and gender identity are two separate concepts. When you do that kind of reasoning ("Dressing up as a woman won't make you one, you're man and you stay a man") you're conflating those two separate concepts. When a trans person says "I'm a man/woman" they not referring to their biological sex, they're talking about their gender identity. The confusion stems from the fact that, for ages, identity and sex have been locked together in forced pairs, and that we do not have a separate terminology for gender id (some hold that "man" and "woman" refer to id and "male/female" to biological sex, but I don't see much consensus over that). *Especially for people with dysphoria, the need to distinguish those two concepts is no joke or make-pretend.*

[@bobdonda]

@@Orkprof It is absolutely an ideology. It is a belief system that includes believing that men can transform into women, despite that not being true. It requires believing that personality types and clothing preferences are a "gender" that entitled whole ass men to cheat in women's sports and invade women's spaces. It requires believing that women's rights don't matter and that men in dresses are entitled to do anything they want. BTW it's the followers of trans ideology who mix up sex and gender all the time, they think their clothes make them biologically female, and they think their pretend identity is a biological sex that entitles them to enter women's spaces despite being male. Your hateful misogynist ideology will never be tolerated. Women's rights matter.

[@ER-ge9hr]

13:15 ”I went over to the children’s section purposely just to see what kind of material is out there these days” ….she makes it sound so nefarious from the setup. Acting like there’s something scandalous about a mom looking at children’s books at the library.

[@KellyK2006]

I'm spiritual and I belief in a combination of different religions' beliefs. I also see stuff from the Bible as more of an allegory or metaphor for our lives. So, like, i believe that various sexualities and genders etc are valid and also created by God/the universe. I wish extreme people were more like this.

[@VegaTech]

Sometimes I like to flip it back on religious types. Like I"ll say didn't God put it in your brain to be the way you are. It just takes time for us to figure it out.

[@sopcanime21]

HAHAHAHA Looove the Eyerolls 🤣😭🤣😭🤣😭🤣😭🤣😭🤣😭🤣 "God" makes no mistakes right!? 😂😂😂

[@thedastone1939]

They’re making their own bible. You gotta make your own book Jaclyn lol 😂

[@theneonchimpchannel9095]

I don't know the story, but my understanding is that Eve was Adam's 2nd wife. Before Eve, there was Lilith...or am I getting Jesus and Fraiser confused again?

[@KawaiiPrincess_Love]

Eve was his second wife. Many people don't know their fairytale well enough to know that, though.

[@stateofnick]

I too am doubting Bethany's story about the 9-yr old asking all those questions, but if we are to assume it's true I can't get past the hypocrisy of being horrified about any 'curriculum' taught in schools, but then also saying 'let me freely impose my beliefs onto you.' The correct response to a 9-yr old is to encourage them to talk to their parents and health professionals about it.

[@CGplay186]

@stateofnick Health professionals are part of the system so would say no doing that, hopefully the kid got good parents or is screwed. I find it funny people always ask to seek health professional, you know sometimes people need support from follow men not someone that just see you as a work task.

[@lacucaracha111111]

14:00 GOOGLE Really though all the school and book shit has public and peer presssure on it in all directions. Google, in your freetime preferably privately has the best chance of having the " real you"

[@Thirdbase9]

I would disagree, there are no absolutes. There are people out there that choose their gender or sexuality or whatever. Not many, but certainly some. BTW, I'm agender and asexual, not my choice, just the way i am.

[@Violet-w9z]

I am 30 and Atheist and a Transwoman I very much agree with this video keep doing great work I was raised sadly conservative Christian

[@CassieSpeaksUp]

Transwoman here. Not sure why you never show up on my private personal KZbin page anymore however I am happy to find you here on my channels page. You rock girl! Have a great Thanksgiving and love the video! Have a lovely Thanksgiving! P.S. would love another Blaire White Collaboration.

[@ashleymillian6984]

Girl, I loved how thick the eyeliner was. I am so totally going to buy their book…not! They gotta stop. Thank you for having open mind towards lgbt people.

[@graffic13]

Have you watched Trixie Mattel watch these girls talk about putting on makeup in a God fearing way!?

[@mathieuleader8601]

how do these ladies rationalise from a theological perspective that Eve was formed from Adams rib I bet that Biblical bit of lore keeps them awake at night

[@Hoebafett]

It’s literally taught in Christian schools that men have one less rib than women

[@HypocriticalMass-g4u]

They're absolutely ridiculous.