Candace Owens Judges Childless Women & Stigmatizes Mental Health

[@sevan8350]

There are many women who got married, had kids, did everything "right" YET still end up alone in a nursing home in the end.

[@BrianSzymczak-d2n]

were those people along in a nursing home because these people were bad parents. the women i mean. id hate my parents too if they were bad.

[@sevan8350]

@@BrianSzymczak-d2n you think there aren't ppl in nursing homes who were perfectly loving good parents? Your question is idiotic. So if someone is in a nursing home they had to have been "bad" parents and therefore deserved to be abandoned. 😂 There are all kinds of ppl in nursing homes as is the case everywhere on earth. There are many factors that could lead to ppl being alone in nursing homes.

[@zoanth4]

Feminism has destroyed women's ability to maintain relationships. Plus all the simps and in else out there.

[@Ihavenoideawhatthisevenis]

That's what I'm saying! I keep telling so many others that!

[@Zuzuboy1218]

That’s so true my mom worked in nursing homes for years. They wait 4 them to die and argue over money. I don’t have lil kids so I was my 90 yr old grandma died in my house. I was able to do that bc I’m a single guy w 4 bedrooms.

[@biCARRIEous]

My favorite thing in the world is when rich people call child-free, working class people "selfish brats" for not having children. Y'all want to DEMAND complete strangers to have kids, let's see you pay up some child support. Privileged hypocrites.

[@natalyrausch]

Yeah, they want us to produce the next generation of workers and they’re trying to insult us to get us there. Make it make sense.

[@kdmill7563]

It’s all “if you can’t afford kids don’t have them! What you’re not having kids?! You lonely old selfish crone!”

[@Corn_Pone_Flicks]

Calling somebody selfish for prioritizing their happiness over someone who literally won't ever exist is idiotic in the extreme. Hey, Candace, being rich while others are in poverty is selfish. Eating food when others are starving is selfish. Watching a movie instead of working for free at a soup kitchen is selfish. Are you going to renounce doing things you want so you can devote 100% of your time to serving others? If not, you're selfish. Welcome to the club.

[@hangUPthePHONE28]

​@@Corn_Pone_Flickswell said

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

It's always the same bs. The rich need cheap labour, so they want more poor, desperate people. How else are they going to stay at the top of society?

[@sarahmygind7741]

Last year my boyfriend's grandma looked me dead in the eye and said "I do want great-grandchildren before I die you know". I am so grateful for people like Jaclyn who make me realise that I don't need to have children for any other reason than if I want to. Also, I am only 24 and not even done with my education, relax grandma!

[@nothankyou6840]

Good for her. Unfortunately, not her choice it's yours. Do NOT let someone else make that choice for you, no matter who they are. It is YOUR choice. If you want them, then I'm happy for you. If you don't, then I'm happy for you. I know Jaclyn's video basically says this, but I just wanted to say it again.

[@sarahmygind7741]

@@nothankyou6840 I appreciate it. Luckily, my boyfriend's mom is very much on our side and she put grandma in her place real fast!

[@shannonleeann5643]

You have 11 more years you’re fine. After 35 it’s a geriatric pregnancy (this is the actual medical term)

[@sarahmygind7741]

@@shannonleeann5643 For now my plan is actually to not have kids at all but I'm open to the possibility of me changing my mind in the future. I do know the term geriatric pregnancy and it literally just means pregnancy after the age of 35. I know that there can be more complications with pregnancy and birth with geriatric pregnancy but it is by no means unheard of. I personally wouldn't go around telling people how long they have left to have children. I can tell that you mean well but it can be damaging and incredibly stressful for some people.

[@OoglyMartian]

​@@sarahmygind7741 im 22 and my mom gave birth to me at 39. Because of that i have a mirror movement disorder, where no matter what my hands will ALWAYS mirror each other. (i am in no way trying to blame my mother or sound rude ♥️she is an amazing strong woman) Even my arms; when i carry one grocery bag in my hand, my other arm will flex as if im carrying something in that hand too. Its very straining 😭 edit: this was in no way to derail conversations about "late" mothers, i just felt a need to rant about this disorder. Im sorry if i made anyone feel a certain way ♥️

[@kateruckus]

Have you guys ever noticed how Candace Owens gets this mean little smile before she says something super cruel? There is a piece of her soul missing.

[@marlonbrando2272]

💯

[@chrisitl]

Actually, she has zero soul

[@insensitive919]

Clearly she gets such a thrill out of this social grandstanding as part of a popular mob. And she was like this before she became a neo-con, if you look back to her Social Autopsy days when she made a website designed around outting alleged online bullies by posting screenshots of them acting badly and contacting employers, etc.

[@Grimrv]

I always say: children are not going to ‘fix’ a single problem. They’re going to make problems worse. If you’re having relationship/ mental health issues: don’t have a kid. They are an amazing blessing but are not here to troubleshoot YOUR issues. You’re there to help THEM. And this is coming from a woman currently pregnant with my first, and so stinkin’ excited and overjoyed. But I made sure my shit (while still not perfect) is together so I can probably provide for a child.

[@mariaquiet6211]

You know what's sad is your opinion probably has carries more weight (or at least is harder to challenge) for people like Candice cause you're having a kid. Others are "childless people coping" But thanks for getting your shit together and realizing that your kid isn't there to help with your issues. It's shocking how many people don't seem to get it. Best wishes

[@djk5v]

Absolutely agree. Marriages are most rocky within the first year of having a child, even the solid ones, because of all the adjustments made and lack of sleep.

[@MakaykayLAMB]

“There are absolutely no breaks, no sick days when you have kids. You never get a day off or a moment to rest but I want to tell everyone that you should have kids because it’s the best thing I’ve ever done. Nevermind the privileges I’ve been afforded and the money I have.” Girl… do you hear yourself?

[@NattyByNature-]

She’s out of touch

[@likapikafika7196]

I have 3 kids and still have depression and anxiety and feel lonely. My sister is child free and also have depression and anxiety. I doubt more kids is the answer to either of our depression.

[@blue_shoes8715]

It infuriates me that childfree people HAVE to justify why we don't want kids. The pressure to have kids is so bad that many of us will bring up our private health issues as justification, we don't owe you that info and we don't need a justification at all! Pro child people like candace always say, 'what will happen when you're old?' Like that's not the most selfish reason to have a child, to have an obligated unpaid caretaker when you're old. When I'm old I'll pay someone who is a professional to care for me

[@Corn_Pone_Flicks]

You don't have to justify it. You can always invoke the time-honored technique of telling the other person to mind their own damn business.

[@kirstenornelas881]

I decided to have two kids and no more. I cannot carry them to term. I wanted to have kids though. At the same time my teenage kids don’t ever want to have kids themselves and I don’t blame them one bit and their reasons are different for not wanting children and for them their reasons are theirs not anyone else’s business. When one of them asked me if it bothered me I won’t have any grandchildren I said absolutely not. While I’ll absolutely be happy and love any grandchildren if they do happen to come into this world I’m in no way expecting them to have kids just because I had them. Just so I could be a grandma. Hell no. I want my kids to live their lives and make their decisions based on what is best for them not something I want or think they should do. They have their own dreams and goals and children are not in those plans and goals and I’m just fine with that.

[@Moon0525_]

@@Corn_Pone_Flicks majority of us do. Unfortunately that's when the 'bingos' start. (Bingos = things all of us hear as combatants because the reason of "I just don't want to so mind your business" doesn't cut it with the noseyparkers.) The problem is really people feeling genuinely entitled to a stranger's life, and offering unsolicited criticism or advice when someone's life doesn't match up to preconceived ideals. I do notice this is a huge problem mostly with Americans; most fellow Aussies respect my choices regarding (anything). A lot of Americans believe it's their moral duty to critique me.

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

'what will happen when you're old?' I'll be long dead before that happens.

[@cymbelinebritain6799]

@@kirstenornelas881You're a good mom. That's how we should raise our kids. To be independent, able-bodied individuals who make their own decisions based on what's right for them, not someone else's ideal of what is best. 🥰

[@boneappletea3858]

That lady behind a desk looks like the last person to be telling others how to be happy.

[@Chronically_Kimberly]

What irks me most about Candace is she does seem to be very smart but says the dumbest things. She does seem like she's only happy because she shits on everyone else. Usually behavior like that is portrayed on the children that she didn't have to have.

[@Lauren-zg9zo]

😂😂😂

[@MallyRandom]

She speaks and looks so condecending

[@corinnefogarty7880]

You're not quite getting it.

[@pale_saint]

@@MallyRandompurple hair does look condescending?

[@athenaamethyst8385]

Ugh...the stigmatization of mental health and medication is so gross. Thanks for pointing it out. I'm a parent of two bio kids and my nieces who now live with us...and I take medication for my depression, anxiety, and ADHD because being a parent doesn't cure mental health issues...she makes it sound like being a parent makes you automatically happy. That's not the case. I wanted to be a parent SO BAD and I'm so happy with that choice, but that doesn't make my mental health issues suddenly cured.

[@icravedeath.1200]

On the other end, my parents caused mine lol

[@RiRibutnotRihanna]

@@icravedeath.1200woww

[@lisawise4204]

I love my kids. I really wanted to be a mom. But having kids not only didn’t cure to mental health issues, but made my depression and anxiety worse. Medication helps me be a better parent!

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

She's just mindlessly repeating the good old principle of "The economy needs kids, so you must have kids." It's neoliberalism propaganda designed to provide cheap labour.

[@georgiannagreene8252]

Yeah, all my issues have definitely been magnified after children. Thankfully, after years of no insurance, I'm finally covered and able to see someone again.

[@laurawithnou]

Just wait until Candace's kid needs antidepressants and antianxiety meds, cuz you know it's inevitable with having her as a "mom"

[@DinosaurianDude]

I doubt Candace herself can remain medication free before her children leave home.

[@lidiagizaw3828]

she's gonna critic every little thing they do

[@hanashable95]

Omg imagine if they’re trans 😂😂😂 she’ll be like “I was wrong!! Do not birth children in this disgusting world!!” 😂

[@BrianSzymczak-d2n]

just cause candace's kid might need those drugs doesn't mean she will provide them. healthcare cost money after all. nothing is free. also people with the most money can afford better healthcare. that's the way it works in the US.

[@madisonweber2480]

My whole childhood made sense when my mom told me when I was 30 that she never wanted to have kids because she's a selfish person, it was pretty obvious but hearing the words come out of her mouth were so cathartic. The most interactions I'd have with her were essentially either "go away" or "you're doing it wrong" I have so many issues with self assurance that making decisions gives me a panic attack. DO NOT HAVE KIDS IF YOU DONT WANT THEM THEY WILL KNOW

[@presidentamanda7468]

I always felt personally attacked by Candace bc I’m in my late 30s and don’t have kids yet. I want kids more than anything but I was in an abusive relationship until my early 30s and never had kids bc of that. When I got out of that I went to therapy and school.. so I’ve been getting my shit together basically. It’s devastating to think there’s a possibility it could be too late before I’m ready.. but this is what my life is and I’m trying my best. Candace always makes me feel like shit.. like everyone’s had a straight line of earn a lot of money, in a stable environment, then be able to have kids. There are so many different circumstances that don’t allow women to have kids even if they want them.

[@sarahmygind7741]

I'm so sorry. Your situation sounds really tough❤️ people like Candace often have trouble putting themselves in another person's place. I don't want kids myself but I can certainly imagine how painful it must be to want it and not be able to (for any reason really). I hope everything works out for you❤️

[@bubblebrooke3338]

I was in a abusive relationship...and everyone is asking when are you going to get in one again?! My mom and her friends set me up. And get upset that I don't want to date

[@jeremy19175]

Another reason that people don't want kids is because maybe those people grow up in an abusive home and so their emotionally scared from childhood also her pressuring people into having kids is the same as pressuring them in to drinking doing drugs or have sex which is the last one she's try to do which is wrong having sex should be if and when they want to do it not be forced into.

[@DinosaurianDude]

That's because Candace is a spoiled privileged brat who wants everyone to be exactly like her. She's completely detached from reality and empathy.

[@RandomSwiftie13]

You can always adopt if you couldn't have of your own. It's alright to wait till you are financially stable especially when we all know that the education and childcare is only going to increase in cost also there's all sorts of luxury stuff that kids and teens require nowadays.

[@puppychan2086]

What I wanna know is why a random lady on the internet thinks it's any of her business whether other people want to have children or not. She can have as many babies as she wants but she can stop telling me what I need to do with my body.

[@mariaquiet6211]

The end goal is to convince people that uteruses are public property

[@britthalaas]

When I publicly said I didn't want kids...I was told, "don't knock it until you try it." Literally word for word. I'm like, "yeah...that works for food or a TV show...not bringing another life into this world 😂"

[@AllyAuer]

that's actually so insane to say to someone about having kids.. holy crap 😮‍💨

[@JustLindaThings]

I don't recommend that for having children. lol

[@KreeZafi]

That one is so insane to me! Children don't have a return policy, you can't just try them out and then decide it's not for you. Once you have them, you're stuck with them.

[@CyberFighter-hu7xo]

Ok catt5ard

[@ODDCONFIDENCE1973]

Sums up…the world!

[@Kasia237]

The vile she spouts about mental health/illness is disgusting. All these pro life pro children people, are all words and no action. They don’t care what happens to the child or mother once that child is in the world.

[@tyup-nk1fq]

That’s why I call them “pro-birth” instead of the misnomer of “pro-life”.

[@mariaquiet6211]

Better mental health runs counter to her brand of religion that needs people on their knees, desperate and suffocating in self loathing. Not to mention her brand of politics which needs the exact same thing.

[@impala359]

Preborn you are safe, preschool you are fucked. -George Carlin

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

You're wrong, they do care. They want to make sure not a dime of their money goes to helping any of those children or mothers. They WANT poor miserable desperate people that they can exploit.

[@chinoto1]

Assuming most adoption centers and food banks are run by Christians, that would seem to indicate that they care, they just don't want the government so involved. Most people are Christian though, so it's rather expected that they'd be running most organizations.

[@SweetGem97]

"What if she didn't have kids because she didn't want to pass down her genes?" Thank you! I have GAD and Autism as well as anger issues, and I refuse to have kids because I'm not only scared that they can have the same problems as I do, but it can also cause both of us problems. I have meltdowns so easily, and my sensory can be overloaded by loud noises such as kids or babies crying. So yeah, no kids for me.

[@SpookiCooki]

That's a very mature stance.

[@celestialangel666]

I know some who want kids but their genetics and other issues are a cocktail that they don’t want to pass on. Having that choice is hard but a mature choice to make.

[@nothankyou6840]

Exactly! I have too many mental health issues that run on both sides of my family, and a lot of anger issues I've inherited from my father. I've had to put in a lot of work to not have these things ruin my life and to not take the intense & irrational anger out on other people because they don't deserve it, but most of the other people in my family have not put in that effort or they have and just didn't succeed. I don't need to bring a kid into this world with such a huge disadvantage, where they need to fight with their emotions on a daily basis just to not be a shitty person.

[@chinoto1]

This is effectively self-imposed eugenics. I've had similar thoughts, without having any diagnosed issues, because I feel like I struggle more than I should with social interactions and progressing my life.

[@DanSlaughter85]

👏 Hey me too. 💙 I made this decision at 12. For the same reasons. ✌️

[@PossiblyKayla]

I love that you’re married, having children, yet still are so outspoken for those who choose a different life

[@HellaJ77]

😵‍💫 I was 11 when I knew I never wanted kids and became terrified (because of religious indoctrination) of being forced to marry, and have them because we were taught women should be in the home. I am talking, serious fear, anxiety and panic about the rest of my life. I am 46 now and so so so very glad I stuck to my instincts.

[@gill8779]

I am a Brit & we don't have the religious indoctrination here as much as the US. My family was not bothered at all when I told them I didn't want children & I married a man with the same views & we have never regretted it. I am not frightened of being alone, I do have family, but I have always liked my own company & my hobbies keep me busy. I hope you are okay now & you did the right thing.

[@Corn_Pone_Flicks]

I was about the same age when I basically discovered that kids were an option, not an inevitable consequence of life, and from that point on I knew I wouldn't have them. Family kept insisting I'd change mind. Forty years on, I never have. They also thought I'd miss school when I started working. Never did. Frequently I wish I didn't have to work, but at no point did I want to be back in school. The only part of it I miss is summer vacation, i.e. when I wasn't there.

[@marlyd]

​@@gill8779it's less so my family and more so just anyone I encounter in life and they bring up kids.

[@steph678]

​@@gill8779well the Muslim children being raised definitely have to deal with indoctrination

[@gill8779]

@@steph678 I agree they do, but Christianity is declining here. In fact I don't personally know anybody who is religious.

[@katalac]

Nothing wrong with not wanting to have kids

[@2tall2handle1]

Wrong, Candice is almost as bad. She will humiliate women for having mental health issues, and women for not having children.

[@mariaquiet6211]

Suffering depression? Other mental health issues? Drag a freakin kid into it yeah wonderful fucking idea

[@nothanks1239]

She will humiliate any woman who makes independent decisions for herself. She is very aware that her audience are red pill incels. She is pandering to them for her success. She could care less about any woman; she just gives her audience what they want to hear.

[@sarahcox1197]

Candice is the perfect example of what I like to say these days: nobody hates women like Christian conservatives do. If you are not neatly fit into their little box designated for women, you are unworthy, second class, and shamed until you cut yourself into that perfect mold they want. F*ck that.

[@bluebird4815]

Exactly!!! She is terrible.

[@youtubeposter3814]

Chelsea has specifically said she does not want to be a mom because she KNOWS she will be a bad mother: “I don’t have the skills to be a mother”. I am well versed in psychology and mental Grant although certainly cannot make absolute claims; that said, I suspect, given Chelsea’s interviews with her personal therapist, that she is a Narcissist. She may not say it in these direct, exact terms, but Chelsea Handler is afraid that she will inevitably be an emotionally abusive mother. Such an individual would NOT be shamed into having a child. In fact, they should be APPLAUDED.

[@dacksonflux]

It actually creeps me out when someone suggests that because of [insert conservative republican reason] they will never suffer from mental health issues. "I have Jesus and he will protect me," type of shit. "I have kids so I will never feel lonely." Super creepy.

[@THEDOORIZCLOSED]

I just got into a spat with some chic who said her kids will “be her besties.” None of that is guaranteed and the fact that someone has to give birth to have friends is wild AND its not recommended by family psychologists

[@denisep3025]

I remember my child throwing a horrifying tantrum in red lobster.. Ppl staring.. We were so embarrassed, we left and didn't go back for years. So definitely understand how overwhelming that can be.

[@williamk7517]

But you know what kids are kids never feel embarrassed for your kid being your kid!!!! Not even kids can be perfect I'm not perfect as an adult never forget that ❤️

[@Luna-ch4uf]

How can she expect people to want to have children when these poor children are getting killed in schools. Someone needs a reality check

[@diamondgirl698]

SAY IT LOUDER At this point it's truly irresponsible to have children

[@THEDOORIZCLOSED]

“The good guys with guns, thoughts and prayers and getting rid of CRT AND DEI and Gender Identity will decrease these tragedies.”

[@Cinnamon_Spider]

I've known from a very young age that I did not want kids, and I was told my entire life that I would change my mind. In my 40s now, and I think people are finally accepting that I know what I want with my life.

[@sarahg2653]

Same here. I'm 37. I've never wanted kids. I've never felt that biological clock ticking, so to speak. I've always wondered if there was something wrong with me.

[@Drakescythe9]

My favorite thing about this argument that when you are older, your kids will be there for you is when my friend who did his residency at hospital and worked for a time in the ER talks about the amount of old people there who got no calls from their children, and the ones whose kids would drop them off there like an unwanted baby. It happens all the time. Conservatives have a real rosy perspective on being a parent.

[@nothankyou6840]

Yeah, having kids just in order to have someone to take care of you when you're older is not the right mindset anyway. That's not love, that's borderline manipulative.

[@chinoto1]

Seems better to do all you can to preserve your health and be financially stable so you either don't need help or can pay someone to help/"care". My grandpa is about 75 and can mostly handle yard work on his own, but pays someone to mow it for him.

[@Im_here411]

Yup. Having kids is no guarantee that you’ll have someone to care for you at an old age, especially when your children have their own families to support. And it’s a two way street. Some people that are dumped in a nursing home without their children visiting most likely weren’t the best of parents. There’s a lot of parents that act like you owe them the world just because they provided you with food, water, and shelter. Well, a nursing home does too. Enjoy.

[@mathieuleader8601]

It is clear to me that Candace & Girl Defined believe in the just-world hypothesis which is the belief that the world is a fair and just place and that people get what they deserve in life.

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

Oh, you mean, bs invented by privileged people to make themselves feel better about being privileged and not helping others?

[@mariaquiet6211]

"I am at heart a propagandist, a tremendous hater, a tiresome nag, complacently positive that there is no human problem which could not be solved if people would simply do as I advise." -Gore Vidal, probably half sarcastically, idk

[@warrencolegrove1]

I feel sorry for Candace’s children. I really do. I hope they get the help they need.

[@PersonOfGratitude]

Wait she has kids??

[@SavvyMuhon]

@@PersonOfGratitude She has three

[@nothankyou6840]

​@@PersonOfGratitudeimagine if she didn't, and was sitting here complaining about people not having kids. Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised.

[@Lauren-zg9zo]

Yeah, they’re definitely going to need help

[@RandomSwiftie13]

They will definitely need help 100%

[@hayleysheridan2886]

Honestly it’s disgusting that child free women are labelled basically as potential drug addicts. The fact that she is suggesting that no one can be child free and happy infuriates me. She accused a child free woman of attacking parents. So what the hell is this? Honestly the venom we face constantly is unbelievable. God forbid we say we are happy. Us been happy is not an attack on your life style. I have no desire to have kids I still love your vlogs with or without kids. Honestly it’s sad how women get treated when they don’t want to be mothers. Make no mistake this is almost always aimed at women. Also I don’t have anxiety or depression 😅 so I don’t know where she is getting that from. I know lots of people with both and most have kids. Kids are not a cure for depression that’s a stupid and dangerous idea to spread.

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

Candace has never heard of empathy. All she knows is mob mentality. Be like me, or you're wrong and i'll pressure you until you become like me.

[@steph678]

I also hate the way she talks about drug addicts drug addiction is a symptom of mental health problems that becomes its own mental health problem very rarely does addiction just pop out of nowhere when you're completely mentally healthy LOL

[@hayleysheridan2886]

@@steph678 Yeah I’m not gonna wake up one day and about “no if I had kids give me all the drugs!!” 🤣🤣 I agree with Jacqueline that it also really does almost shame people who need medication for their own well being. If she is happy having kids good for her but it’s not for me.

[@andreacelico8978]

Honestly, I’m at the point where I don’t tell anyone anything about myself. I just don’t care anymore, it’s noones business and I don’t want to hear the nonsense every time.

[@geeketteqc9898]

'' I did it, so you can too '' just sounds like she wants a trophy. She just wants to feel better about herself while putting others down. Big high school bully energy.

[@faithdollars9228]

what she meant to say say is “ I did it, so you must do it too “

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

Always Bullying is the U$ number one pass time.

[@RandomSwiftie13]

No she wants others to suffer just like she is. Do y'all think her kids like her? Highly doubt it.

[@Christine-Golden66]

One point that Candace doesn’t have to consider regarding moving & relocating is trying to coordinate services when you have a special needs child. My son requires 24/7 care has a feeding tube & a colostomy along with multiple medical special needs. The hours of time I put in moving from FL to SC to make sure he had a team of medical specialists, medical supply companies, a new state case worker, his monthly benefits & the proper educational program for him was its own full time job. Factor in 2 other children & the care & attention they needed leaving their old friends, school & the only home they ever knew was one of the most stressful times in our lives.

[@Mila-Rosa]

You sound like a really great mom but I hope you're taking time for yourself too! I was in the hospital a lot as a kid/teen and it was really stressful for my mom, so I'm gonna tell you what I wish someone told her back then. Care for yourself as well as you care for your kids. They know when you're running on fumes and they worry about you too. I hope your son's medical issues are stable and his siblings are doing well too! Have a happy Thanksgiving!

[@Christine-Golden66]

@@Mila-Rosa thank you for such a kind reply. I appreciated it so much. I myself have several chronic illnesses so I make myself a priority because my kids need me to be there for them just like any parent. I hope you are doing well. Blessings to you & your amazing Mom.

[@Randomgirl6060]

I spend alot of time on that child free subreddit. I never see anyone post pictures or videos of someone else's kids. When people complain about kids, they just tell the story in text. Again, no videos and pictures. 20:00

[@nyancatnatalie]

My aunt and uncle didnt have kids. They didnt hate kids, they just didnt want kids. They had plenty of nieces and nephews that they spoiled. They didnt go partying or anything like that. They liked doing outdoor activities and gardening. They didnt have kids but they spent ALOT of time with their nieces and nephews, and they were a big part of my life. She was my favorite aunt, the kindest and loving sibling of my dad's. She passed away last month. I miss her.

[@sepnyte9422]

I've had diagnosed PTSD, anxiety disorder and bi-polar disorder since my late teens. There is no way in hell I'm bringing a child into that.

[@steph678]

I have all of those too but once you hit around 30 years old as long as you've been treating your condition and going to therapy having children is a possibility. Bipolar disorder can be very debilitating you just have to learn how to harness that.

[@mariaquiet6211]

@@steph678 I know people still going through severe episodes in their fifties, and not for lack of care and effort.

[@GinaGodfrey]

I have different mental health struggles (Autism, ADHD, OCD and Depression) and this is how I feel also. I don't hate kids and I love my nieces and nephew but I will NOT be a mother - it wouldn't be fair to me or my children.

[@a-ms9760]

Yeah people should only have children if they feel ready and able to and have thought through their reasons for having them, otherwise it's detrimental for all parties. No one actually needs children.

[@sepnyte9422]

I'm harnessing my problems well, however, I know myself well enough that it will follow me for the rest of my life and that I will have flare ups. I'm not bringing a kid into that situation. @@steph678

[@MimiUrameshi]

Having children is a very personal decision and everyone should do what's right for them and not have to face any backlash or judgment over their personal decision of what's right for them. I completely agree with you Jaclyn. Congrats on making it 9 months!!! ❤

[@OoglyMartian]

"Do you think people who have kids cant travel? 🤨" Um yes? I mean if they have the money then thats awesome! I grew up in poverty, our roof caving in and no clean running water, heating systems were broken. It took my parents AGES to afford to fix everything. So of course we had no money to travel. My dad worked 2-3 jobs, my mom stayed home with us three kids. The only time i actually had the chance to travel (to new york) was when my fiance took me away and said "lets run away for a week" It is the absolute highlight of my life. Dont put pressure and expectations on parents, Candace.

[@TwiggyHetfield27]

It's so WILD to me how my 70 year old aunt, who's married and child free, NEVER had to justify her reasonings to not want kids. Boomers who didn't want kids are not talked about, as if yet don't exist but Gen X, Y, & Z are criticized.

[@noelle78]

So happy I live in a time when content like this video is out there to counterbalance other videos

[@chelseawilkins2339]

If anything, having my daughter gave me more anxiety than I’ve ever had in my entire life.

[@DesireeHooston]

I’m pregnant with baby number five and the amount of looks I get when I tell people is annoying. We’re not religious at all. We just like being parents, BUT it is super hard and no one should ever be told they should have kids if they’re not ready or don’t want them.

[@diamondgirl698]

I respect your choice to have children and child free people like me only ask you to respect our decision in return

[@a-ms9760]

Maybe people who give looks are concerned about global overpopulation. It's just a theory. Or they're amazed that you can look after so many. Have you asked them? It would be interesting to find out what they're thinking.

[@sarahg2653]

Hm. I would be interested to know why they give you wild looks. Sure, 5 kids is an insane amount of work. But it isn't abnormal. And I think it's wonderful that you love being a parent.

[@jackelinesierra1342]

I’m working on my masters degree and eventually want my PhD but the amount of people around me that judge me for prioritizing myself and not a family is ridiculous. My partner and I are barely making it now and I have $8 in my bank account yet they continue pushing babies on us saying that it will make us happy. Nope. Being broke with a child will only make things worse. We do want kids but I’m only 24 and we’re not letting other people peer pressure us into a situation that will make life much more difficult. Thanks for taking about this, Jaclyn. It’s such a breath of fresh air to hear this take!

[@emilypenza8319]

Oh look, it's me, a woman with a husband and two children I desperately wanted and anxiety and depression that got worse and required medication after and since pregnancy. *massive side eye and eye roll*

[@1tyonie]

Having children is hard! I was pregnant in my second year at university, violently ill and in covid, I had to have an emergency c section and was basically paralysed and had to get my last year finished, I did a comic course, so I had to plan and write comings while, just had a baby and didn’t get to bond with him, I went into a DEEP depression and didn’t think my son was mine, and ended up having to go on happy pills to make me happy, I didn’t get to plan, when I think back to when I didn’t have kids? I stop because I can imagine my life without my little boy, it’s just me, and I’m very low income, I don’t eat most of the time because my son comes first. NO ONE TOLD ME BEING A SINGLE PARENT WAS GOING TO BE HARD BECAUSE EVERYONE FORGOT ABOUT ME WHEN I WAS PREGNANT

[@SarahsSnakeShop]

i can say my depression has been around since puberty. just started "taking pills" in my 30s. still no kids, but "the pills" have helped me want to live long enough to have kids.

[@hkandm4s23]

I have 2 kiddos and being a good parent takes a lot of work, time, and money. I put my career on indefinite hold to stay home with them but I'm a therapist and can tell you having kids does not cure loneliness or mental health problems. When people have children expecting them to fix them or their marriage, it just creates a recipe for trauma and attachment issues. My brother nearly died this year drinking himself to death in secret. He was saved by a transplant last minute, but his marriage is a wreck. They were married after 2 months dating. He was considering divorce 6 months later when he found out she had hidden a lot of her issues from him. Instead of getting a divorce they had a baby who had some severe disabilities and medical issues. It's all the things hyper religious conservatives say will give you a perfect life. 13 years of closeted alcoholism later, my brother nearly died at 45 instead of getting meds or going to therapy. You can ask any of the generations of people traumatized by parents to proud to take meds or go to therapy if it's selfish to not have kids....i assume they'll say it's much more selfish to have them and not be equipped to raise them.

[@hkandm4s23]

Ughhhh so frustrated that they all just "forget" how expensive children are in terms of money time and energy. My career is on hold because i have two kids under 5 and cant afford childcare on a supervised therapists salary. My husband got a good job that allowed us to buy a house at the perfect time before interest rates rose, but it required us to move to a city where we have no friends or family. Im willing to make those sacrifices of delaying my career by 8 years despite having a masters degree a shitload of student loan debt, but realistically a lot of people wouldn't be okay with those sacrifices and resent their kids and husband and end up divorced or miserable or traumatizing their children. i also waited till 32 to have my kids so I've had my child free time with my husband as well..... anyone who simplifies having kids to something everyone should do is insanely privledged.

[@Cairo198]

It's CHILDFREE,not childless

[@rosamontano6744]

Ive felt very strange since i made the decision to not have children. But the, "you'll change your mind" or the "you just havent met the right guy" just... Made me really cofused. So i let time pass. And since nature does as nature does ive tried to be as cautious as possible and not take drastic decisions... Because what if i change my mind. Your words really touched me. Cos... Ive felt so lost always but its reassuring to hear those words

[@Im_here411]

I’ve heard, “what if your husband wants kids?”. Ma’am, what if my husband doesn’t want kids? Or better yet, I can’t have kids. So uno reverse, now what?

[@rosamontano6744]

@@Im_here411 I like how adoption is never good enough of an answer either. I told my doctor that and nothing.

[@angella9369]

Please dont pressure people to have kids. I've experienced first hand how women who didn't really want children make the worst mothers

[@petabulmer3317]

My best friend has three children, and is several years younger than I. I do not have children. I will turn 50 this year. I have a busy life, and you know what? Just like my best friend, I am happy with my life! Screw Candace Owens!

[@scarlet12234]

I have a 3 year old and a newborn (1 week old today) and I totally get not wanting kids. For me the pros outweigh the cons, but I can totally understand why someone wouldn't want to.

[@Jaclyn]

Exactly how I feel! Also, congrats to you and the new addition

[@scarlet12234]

​@@Jaclyn thank you

[@abbythecat01]

The most infuriating part of Candace’s argument is that her argument is REALLY prevalent on the right. I grew up in a Christian conservative FAR RIGHT community, and pretty much everyone I knew had the same take as Candace. Contrastingly, since I’ve grown up and moved left and gained a TON of liberal friends… almost no one I know devoutly believes that women SHOULDN’T have kids. I mean sure, there are anti-natalists, but I think that’s a relatively small sect of people and not reminiscent of the left as a whole, whereas I’ve heard the sentiment that women absolutely SHOULD have kids or else they’re selfish and miserable echoed prominently in my conservative Christian community. And the right is supposed to be big on “freedom” and “liberty” as principles, right? I guess “freedom” and “liberty” to make your own choices only extends to a small pre-approved group of people that fit a very specific checklist of qualities set by those on the right. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@a-ms9760]

Yes it seems the right is narrower in its principles than the left.

[@Ikine557]

I personally do need children in my life to be happy. That's why I'm an elementary school teacher and plan to be until the day I die. Taking care of other people's kids is enough for me, at least right now.

[@tylerisntasheep6854]

I watched the last video and watching this one too reminded me of Andrea Yates. Andrea was married to a evangelical Christian man who believed in having as many children as you can, so she had 5 children in 8 years. She developed extreme postpartum depression as well as having history of depression, suicidal ideation. There are many details of her life that explain how she was so at risk to develop postpartum depression and postpartum psychosis, but one of them is definitely that she was pressured into having more children, even told that having children will help her depression. Andrea murdered her 5 children because her mental health had gotten so incredibly bad that she was having delusions and went into states of catatonia. I was reminded of this when you said that "medication can be lifesaving for some people" because in her case it really would have been. She was medicated with an anti-psychotic and her condition was said to improve drastically. She didn't commit the murders until she stopped taking the meds and had her 5th child. Listening to the whole story is really gut-wrenching, hearing how much she REALLY needed to take time from having children, but kept being pressured to have them anyways. This is an extreme example, but the ideology her and her husband believed in weren't far off from the stuff Candice and Girl Defined are saying. Edit: I think this comment might have been more relevant on the previous video, because this is not really related to people who don't want any kids.

[@Im_here411]

I’ve heard this story. I had a presentation in a Psych class I took on women who killed their children. Out of all the women shown, she’s the one I felt the most sorry for. I don’t believe she would’ve did that if she hadn’t been forced to carry another pregnancy and had been stable on meds. So sad.

[@doseofdicamillo1811]

People who don't want kids, shouldn't have them. Living in a home where you're not wanted, is terrible

[@SweetTacos]

So, if you have anxiety, depression, or, I'm assuming, any other mental health struggles, the answer is to have kids? I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression when I was 14. Should I have had kids then? Because obviously, 14-year-old old me was actually miserable because I didn't have a child. Wow, thank you so much, Candace; I finally know how to cure my mental health issues after 11 years !!! Just pop out some kids, and your anxiety and depression are cured !!

[@authornmalone]

The idea of being responsible for someone who will end up being an adult in this world is genuinely terrifying to me. It legit scares the shit out of me. I want nothing to do with that. And I will find fulfillment in my life by helping others, looking after and being kind to animals, and helping my family with their kids. But I'm a woman who does not want children.

[@hellomynamesninooo6017]

I love how candace sits there blankly while letting an obviously satirical video play as though its a real commentary on why nobody should ever have kids and definirelt not a bit chelsea handler did for laughs on social media. Even as chelsea says "i have gained supernatural abilities through my time in meditation and teleport back home" candace still has to sit there looking mildly displeased bc she has to pretend like this is a serious commentary on a serious problem Reminds me of actors playing news anchors when they have to talk about weird and/or funny events happening with an air of seriousness bc thats the character and role theyre playing, which then makes the news anchor actors a part of the bit and the joke 😂😂

[@PileofAshes53]

I felt the loneliest when I was married. It’s kind of strange in a way. When I’m not married anymore, I’m ok with having zero companion, someone to talk to and so on. But my ex did commit to me and that in my mind meant he was going to be those things for me. He just tuned me out, browsed Facebook in search of stranger kitty, and psychologically tortured me by watching movies about women being graped and forsed into $exual exploitation. Until one day he triggered me so much that I snapped and we had a massive fight. Those movies got to me. I asked him to stop watching those and suggested we watch something else instead, that we could both enjoy, but no, he wasn’t hearing me. He didn’t care about me at all. I was just a living blow up doll to him that he temporarily kept at his home and forced to do chores other than just adult activities. He lied about wanting to have children, only to tell me well into our marriage that he was never interested in having children with me because I wasn’t good enough. Honestly, I’m glad I’m no longer married to that prick. I’d rather be alone that with someone like that again.

[@cmdrezeri]

I’ve pretty much always responded to crying children in public with something akin to “Me too kiddo” while nodding. Now that I have two future heirs to my throne, I’ve doubled down…

[@Velvet3den]

I think it's so strange that people always look for reasons why people don't have children. I don't want kids because I want to live selfishly xD I don't even want a pet because I don't want more responsibility than myself. And I'm happy with that.

[@PrickedByThorns]

My mom met my dad when she was 16, he was a bit older there was disapproval of course so they ran away to another state and surprise! Had me, at 16 yrs old. Her family didn't support her, she was scared and to top it off my dad turned out to be a real pos. She ended up out on her own working 2 jobs throughout her teens, her 20's the prime of her life to support me. I was a really disobedient kid who turned into a worse teenager. Punk rocker hoodlum who ran around not going to school, drinking and taking drugs with the worst kids i could possibly find as friends. Not coming home because i hung out with "gutter punks" We would scream, fist fight and I ran away at 17 and didn't speak to her for years. Yes it was just the most joy my mom ever felt having me lol. It was pure MAGIC! Oh the delight and pure love that just radiated all through our damn house! Haha. Oh boy smh. Yea Candace everyone should do it. Whether they're ready willing or want to.

[@steph678]

Why the hell did you treat your mother like that?

[@PrickedByThorns]

@@steph678 Very rebellious teen. To be frank my mom mentally and physically abused me growing up. Some parents say they'll never hurt their children the way they were hurt. She took the other route though and beat me up until the day I left. I'm not talking spanking. I mean choking me until I passed out. Beating me in the face, head, back, legs with whatever was close to her including fists. You get the idea. I saw and experienced too much too young.

[@krussell-2000]

Candace has lost her damn mind 😂 and she doesn't need to be encouraging people to have kids who definitely have no place. There are some crappy parents out there.

[@lynnmeller2602]

I am a kindergarten-8th grade music teacher with after-school music clubs happening year round (clearly I hate kids and am a "selfish brat" right?) I chose to not have children when I turned 27 and was diagnosed with a rare disease, the medication I take to keep the pain and swelling down is not safe enough for me to get pregnant. I tell people I cannot have children, because it's honestly less of a hassle then telling them the truth. It's so sad that we live in such a shallow and judgmental world.

[@sadgurlhrs6289]

i feel like her smile while watching that was genuine tbh, she knows it’s a joke, she knows it’s funny, she’s just miserable lol

[@chrisbean9663]

I haven’t followed you for nearly 10 years but it’s good to hear your voice again you’re still dishing out some pretty good advice. Cheers.

[@boneappletea3858]

Maybe people don't want to be forced to have kids no matter the physical, mental, or financial risk. Don't be surprised if the birth rate falls forcing people to stay pregnant. U made your bed now be too scared to get/stay pregnant in it.

[@cymbelinebritain6799]

My sister will be 50 next year and she, as far as I know, CHOSE to not have children. She lived with me for a decade and helped me raise my 6 children, so perhaps she had her fill or it suited her better to be an aunt. She's had a boyfriend now for almost 2 decades and I've never questioned her as to why she hasn't or didn't have children. It's none of my business and if she's happy, who am I to judge her or anyone. I think it takes a great deal of self-awareness to know that you don't want children for whatever reason. If it's simply because you have no desire, are far too focused on yourself or feel you don't have the maternal instinct to give that child the nurturing it needs, those are far more selfless reasons than someone who has a child or children and neglects them or has them anyway when they know they don't have the means or the ability to care for them properly.

[@sembubble195]

I have a coworker who is gay and doesn’t wanna deal with adoption or the other options. We work in child care and love kids. Just sometimes life hands you a weird deck of cards.

[@oliviaweyand8914]

I live by the philosophy of, “every child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child”. There are plenty of people who should not have children for numerous reasons. I don’t understand the narrative that a woman “needs a child to be fulfilled”. I work as a first responder and the amount of cases I run into where there is child neglect or a parent living in poverty is too high to count. Some people may have the means to have children but they don’t want them. Great. The world isn’t going to run out of people. I won’t have children because I’m absent from my house most of the time. I don’t even have plants cause they would die. I refuse to give up my career and I refuse to leave a child at home alone for 48 hours at a time

[@GinaGodfrey]

I am already taking pills for my poor mental health as a 31 year old - having kids is the LAST thing I need right now. It would be cruel to my children if I had children because I can barely look after myself!

[@victoriabungart4330]

Thank you for using your influence for this topic As someone who has no intention of having children due to mental health issues, not having the right mindset to care for them and is terrified of childbirth, this video means a lot to me

[@hirikosaunders]

I'm infertile and in all honestly these people trying to force kids on people and say all of these it's the only/best kind of love thereis, It's the only way to be fulfilled, are offensive to me.

[@naftac555]

I’m right there with you. So hurtful that she thinks our life means nothing.

[@amberkandiraver]

My husband just had a heart attack at age 34. We cannot in food conscious have a child with the long history of heart problems.

[@philerbuni]

Thank you, Jaclyn! One of the reasons I decided not to have children is because of my struggle with mental health. I instead have devoted my time to being a compassionate and loving tia to my nieces and nephews. And as for the medication... I have been on medication and off medication and then on again. There is most definitely a biological component as my family has a strong history of mental Illness. People forget that some of us need medication to function. I've tried the natural way. It didn't work for me. Now that I'm on meds again I can function. Anyway, congrats on your baby girl!!❤❤

[@PomsNTomsMom92]

Oh my gawd, you're having another baby! Awesome, congratulations. I'm guilty of being gone for some time. So good to see you doing well! ❤❤❤ I'm also pregnant, 8 weeks! Morning sickness is kicking my arse. 😂

[@Jaclyn]

ah hope you get through it soon! Around week 13-14 I started feeling a lot better

[@normaowens7340]

Try candy canes. The peppermint helps with nausea. I had the worst morning sickness with my oldest. It actually helped.

[@spadionkle1003]

Candice Owens is a perfect example of someone who needs to heal their "mother wound". She is always complaining and narrowing down mostly on other women.

[@HeatherHesselbach293036]

If you want to have kids, make sure you are prepared for it mentally, emotionally, physically and financially. Always weigh the pros and cons of having children. I have been married for 11 years and my husband and I only have our fur babies and choosing not to have kids.

[@KreeZafi]

I love you for acknowledging that different things work for different people and that YOUR personal preferences aren't right for everyone! I'm childfree personally, but I completely respect your choice to have kids since that's the right choice for you. I'm also personally very monogamous but I fully support people choosing ethical non-monogamy if that's right for them. My way is not the only way and I'm not going to act like my lifestyle is THE way to live just because it works for ME!

[@CopperIrony]

Having children in the US where healthcare is absurdly expensive, where the housing market and job market are in the toilet, and where we have to spend a majority of our time working just to make ends meet, isn't the environment I'd want to raise children at all.

[@Princesswithaspikedtiara]

Excellent video. Thank you for sharing ❤

[@janicenm9147]

I've stop asking ' do you wants to have kids' question because i dont know if that person is infertile or have other health issues or simply not want to.

[@luciasmatanova9163]

My mom was very calm and happy during her pregnancy. When I ended up in a burnout, she said "Now would be a good time to get pregnant, it will calm you down so much!" eehhhh no thanks, that sounds like 300% more stress

[@Butterfly-ql4pg]

Conservative women: "Why must feminists judge us for wanting to be wives and mothers? Our lifestyle is under attack! 😫" Also conservative women: "If you don't want kids, you'll be sad, miserable, and quite possibly a drug addict 🥰"

[@obehiikhigbonoaremen1241]

Exactly, so hypocritical!

[@tomboyraider1015]

The irony is that its Candace who is the one who comes off as bitter and hateful and feel like shes the one who'll end up lonely in her 50s when her kids have kids of their own. 🙄

[@Christina97493]

I'm more conservative thinking, but I really appreciate your views as a realist. Agree with this video. Thanks for making this😊 Also thanks for helping to destigmatize mental health!

[@NewBlooom]

11:54 i love this little smile that Candice gave us, seems like she like this video at least at 20%

[@rachelhamilton8669]

17:24 From what I’ve seen, oftentimes, the majority of Candace Owens’ comment section calls her out on bad takes. It makes me wonder whether most of the people who comment are outside of the “choir” Candace is trying to preach to, or if her opinions are just so extreme that even Daily Wire fans find them problematic? Sometimes I wonder if she just takes extreme positions to get views? There’s only one thing I respect her for: at least she doesn’t censor out comments that debunk her, which is kind of a rarity among militant people like her.

[@Aniexo_]

I’m not going to lie 😂😂 I thought your thumbnail was a fake baby bump. First time seeing a mom stick up for us child free folks ❤ new sub

[@edvh88]

Having a child truly just gives me more respect for Childfree by choice. I got to choose to be a parent, and I waited til I was 34… married.. settled down & ready … thankful I had a choice and I want that for others. It’s an incredibly hard job!!! Only for those who are 100% on board. There should not be pressure.

[@justajournalist]

YESSS a new video!!! Love you girl 💛

[@theresec6599]

I've never seen someone on the childfree subreddit post pictures of someone's kid. She probably made that one up, or it was a one-off thing. I mean that subreddit can be toxic and extreme, but there are very normal childfree people mixed in there too.

[@ismimyok5200]

besides the topic of the video i wanted to say that i literally grew up with you and i am so happy that i am still able to consume your content. i literally view you as my older sister. you gave me such comfort with my religious trauma, even though it was islam, but still. i always feel so comfortable in your channel because your are such a rational woman. i just love you. thanks for your content. keep on going.

[@Yulia.chandrika]

Candace doesnt understand the unwanted kids of those parente who were pushed to have a family but didnt want to, are the ones who are depressed later. We shouldnt perpetuate that

[@dawn8293]

"Does she think that people with kids just don't travel?" Careful, Candace, your privileged is showing. Many people are unable to afford traveling with kids. I grew up and live in the USA. My dad dreamed for decades of taking us camping in Yellowstone. Our best vacations were family reunions two states away. Otherwise it was staycations and local camping except on a very few occasions. We always camped or stayed with family, and we never left the country.

[@acrownamedtombstone9018]

I find it incredibly sad that people can’t find value in a life without having children. Life is incredibly precious and has deep meaning regardless if someone has kids. If someone’s entire identity is tied to passing their DNA on, they really need to take a step back and reflect on what life is really about. Also people shouldn’t be having children if they aren’t financially or emotionally ready to do so. Having children is a lifetime commitment until your last breath. You don’t stop being a parent when your kids grow up and move out. You are a parent for the rest of your life. I think a lot of people unfortunately don’t have the emotional maturity enough to conceptualize thst.

[@spencero5933]

“You’re a miserable unhappy person who can’t take care of yourself so you should have a bunch of kids right now”

[@david_zau]

You dont need children or a partner to be happy .

[@bumplebees]

i laughed when she said something about family get togethers my grandma essentially holds us hostage, if we dont see her as often as she wants, she stops eating and gets hospitalized

[@mariaquiet6211]

I'm selfish for prioritizing my mental health over parenthood but also i should create a whole ass human to cure my depression