Girl Talk - My Dysfunctional Relationship

[@kaleythornton9484]

This breaks my heart. It's too real. My ex husband of 2.5 years was the EXACT same way. I decided to leave him when my father died and he asked me after a couple hours if I'm "going to be over it soon."

[@alinan4320]

=(what a jerk. stay strong xxx

[@Brittanyandemmy]

good fuck that guy

[@brileexoxo2650]

So happy you left him! Fuck that guy. He's not worth it girl.

[@kats4331]

That's terrible! Thank god you were strong and ended that!

[@sierrawhitehead7910]

Kaley Thornton oh girl. I'm sorry I know exactly how that is! my brother, who was my very best friend in the world and the closest person to me on this planet, committed suicide while I was pregnant with my daughter. I was absolutely devastated! and my boyfriend at the time said "well I mean he obviously wanted to die so I don't know why you're so upset?" I was like are you kidding me right now?!?! I don't understand how people can say such hurtful things especially at a time like that! so glad we are both rid of them!

[@MissAlyak3]

"we fight hard, but we love harder" wow I love that

[@kiiiirbzzz]

I LOVE THAT

[@1ANCA1]

Kayla Harding It’s sad because that is also disfunctional....

[@Jessicalvarez21]

I will show this video to my daughter someday. I was in two relationships like this until I found my price charming, whom I now call hubby! There is hope for everyone out there. Thank you for making this. Love you!

[@Jessicalvarez21]

Prince*

[@brooklynnashley2675]

[@kyramiller6843]

+Bellma Ora no it's not!!

[@mrsvicky3399]

+Bellma Ora manipulation, lies, controle, yes! not good for a healthy marriage. But I would also consider how long has he been acting like this towards you, is frequent? does he know he's doing it? can it change?

[@xgpl8771]

Coming back here after Jaclyn and Jon’s divorce and it truly breaks my heart bc she really was so in love w him in this video 😩💔

[@LanceLouis7008]

Is that u in the pic? Your cute if sooo

[@xgpl8771]

@@LanceLouis7008 yes, thank you very much. My name is Dokyeom or DK and I am a member of the group Seventeen. Please stream Homerun ⚾️ ✨

[@brookiieepoohh]

I think she had love for him, but in love? No. she said she put on a show when the camera was on, because she wanted to set a good example for people who didn’t have a functional relationship to look up to, because of her own father. So she put on a show to be a role model for her subscribers.

[@aguana369]

@@xgpl8771 😂😂 Promoting Seventeen here 👌 sis, you know it

[@xgpl8771]

@@aguana369 pledis better start paying me 🥴😂

[@KellyAddyimperfectlyperfectka]

I really hope you continue to do these "Girl Talk" videos. You should tell stories about your days as an MUA at MAC and freelance, or stories of you and Jackie! You mentioned doing videos just drinking wine and talking. I think that would be an awesome idea. It helps us get to know your life outside of KZbin and YOU as a PERSON. So many people think things about you that they shouldn't, it's because they don't know you. And this video probably has showed many that you're a person like the rest of us. :) I follow you on Snapchat, so I know for a fact that you're a person too. But talking videos show more of your personality than a 5 minute tutorial. I really hope you continue doing these. They'd be great for when you don't know what kind of video to make, also. It would be awesome to watch one like once a month atleast. I hope you think about it!! - Kelly P.S. LOVE YOU JACLYN!!

[@mylovgren511]

yaaass!

[@emilycarrier9838]

Literally took the words out of my mouth, it would be soooo awesome if she did this once a month or even once in a blue moon! I love her aha

[@MoonFairyDee]

Couldnt agree more!!!! Loved this so much!

[@KellyAddyimperfectlyperfectka]

+Davanna McCarthy I really hope Jaclyn gets to see this. She says so many haters comment about things like her energy, her changing, ect. But they don't get videos like this or watch her on Snapchat. If we had these types of videos like we do on Snapchat, I think a lot of people would see more of her true personality. You really can't judge someone on a 5 minute video. Or even a 20 minute video, but this video showed SO much TRUE emotion. :)

[@neleos8779]

Yas! 😁

[@samanthatarpley1148]

this was really something I needed to hear. my ex took me on the biggest emotional rollercoaster ride I have ever been on for 6 months. he always got mad at me for no reason, called me all sorts of names, and made fun of my goals and dreams. we recently broke up and he still tries to call me and text me. if been trying to be strong but its been very hard. you just gave me an extra push towards loving myself again. thank you so much! you truly are an inspiration to me.

[@samanthatarpley1148]

*I've

[@shannonmaratea7613]

Don't do it!!! Mine did it to me for a year after we broke up as he was living with someone else...

[@gabrielleflewelling7284]

Stay strong girl, you got this. :)

[@chanseymeatball]

Don't give in girl! I have been there many times. They don't change :(

[@thegennychan]

I went back with my abusing ex 4 times before I said it was enough. it was soo hard but it's worth it. you can do it and you will find somebody who's gonna be worth it.

[@mikkibobbi4558]

I'm sure you won't read this. But this video hit home so hard for me. I went through the same exact thing, basically every word. To a point where I just started crying because of how true all of this is. We were the same age for the few years too. I was in such a horrible place, so depressed so suicidal and I thought there was no way out of it. My ex was very abusive, mentally and physically. I hid in my house, I never wanted to go to work, and I never saw any friends or family. This video, helps show me that even if I feel like I'm not going to be able to ever get over that part of my life or that everything that involves him will haunt me forever, I'll be able to move on and make an amazing life for myself. And look back at this and remind myself how stupid I was and how I should have opened my eyes. Thank you for being you Jaclyn you're amazing.

[@NOUHAILAH]

Me too , I'm going thru the same thing and I watched this video like 5 times now

[@profilingmanipulation]

Google Savannah Grey/esteemology narcissistic personality disorder huni, I was stuck in a relationship like this but a lot worse with violence, depression/suicidal thoughts/attempts etc and it was 7 years ago now, I thought the pain & scars would stay with me forever & always haunt me. I have two children to him & been single since & I left him - I left with a 3 year old & 6 month old & was homeless aswell. You will be fine one day & it does become a distant memory, reading about npd at the time made my head get straight as it answered so much about why he did what he did & why I couldn't break the cycle & get away xoxox lots of love - hope it helps xoxox

[@Wonders19_]

Me too, I almost cried a few times actually and I was just smh the whole time, like yup yup. I think this video has been really helpful for me. I'm gonna watch again till it gets through my thick skull lol 😂

[@lydiahope135]

i second all of this wow it was so crazy hearing her talk about these things and literally relating so much to everything. you are so brave and strong for speaking about this and so is Jaclyn

[@hannahbork6007]

I know exactly what you are going through. Stay strong, & be confident.

[@ashleereid2980]

I just want you to know that for the past 10 months, whenever I want to call/text/contact my ex, I watch this video and think "NOT TODAYYY!!!"

[@mariaclaudette8764]

seriously, you are the only youtuber i can watch for 30 mins and look at the video and say WHAT ITS ALMOST OVER.

[@anaizav]

Agree!

[@noemiesauve7439]

+Claudette Purisima YESSSSSSS!!! Same!

[@katiemoore3598]

100%, I keep looking at the time left and getting sad that its almost over.

[@darienkeay5819]

I love jaclyn and ive never been a fan of long story time videos or vlogs but I totally agree with you. The only other channel that I could literally live on is The Michalaks. Ugh so beautiful lol

[@JanelleVargasxo]

+Claudette Purisima OMG I thought the same exact thing!! lol

[@sadgirlchanel.]

We need a full on Jon & Jaclyn story time!

[@lexiisteward3970]

YES

[@heyyyitskat]

YAAASSSSSSS

[@steventonyamonroe3995]

Absolutely

[@rebekahwills2909]

We need this to happen!!!!!

[@RyanGetz9]

YES YES YES YES YES

[@shannonhearts1]

I'd love to hear more about your homeschooling days and how you feel about being homeschooled.

[@elidajacobs4842]

Yes!

[@PeaceNLiebe]

I had avoided watching this because at the time I was in a toxic relationship and couldn't face hearing the truth. Now it's been two weeks since I've completely cut him off and now I am able to hear what you went through which is almost the identical situation I endured too. Recently I've been healing and have discovered my ex was a narcissist who emotionally used and abused me. I have also found out my history of having an abusive father has played a part in attracting a manipulative partner and having a hard time leaving him. It is a hard thing to accept and heal but I hope you are able to relinquish all the pain from your past and present. We experience these toxic people to wake up and become stronger. Fortunately we have gotten out of it. Love you so much Jaclyn xx

[@harleyquinn-mp1rt]

Caroline hope you are better

[@kayvee5601]

Caroline hope you're doing okay, love. sending good vibes your way 😍

[@itsnickalex]

I am dealing with a narcissist right now , I am trying to cut him off , he does not love me and our relationship is soo fucked up and I want to set free

[@alasia2007]

wow, same here. you never see that they're a narcissist until afterwords

[@TheRachtastik]

I would love to hear Jon's side about how he felt when he first met you, how he fell in love with you, etc!

[@Micas_]

omgggg yesss!!!!

[@lishanicolexox]

yesss

[@julieboo7810]

dude yesss!!

[@mycarife8875]

+TheRachtastik that's exactly what I was thinking!

[@letissue461]

are u imagining its all romantic?

[@JennyBennettt]

Can't say I've ever felt this emotionally connected to a video and i knew i would bawl my eyes out 20 seconds into it. When you go go through situations similar to yours you feel so disconnected and you doubt that anyone feels anything like you do. As insane as it sounds, I was in this EXACT same situation. Watching this video really brought me back to that moment and those feelings and i wish i had this video when i was 16 years old to watch over and just know that someone else felt that way, and that in fact i wasn't alone. Having someone make you feel so small, and strip your confidence/independence completely is the scariest thing, and i said i would never let that happen, but little did i know i was brain washed and involved in a toxic relationship which did all of that and more to me. Thank you so much for posting this video Jaclyn, you inspire so many people and hopefully this will assist anyone going through similar situations. I am now very happy and moved on from that toxic state of life, and I'm so thankful that somehow i woke up from that horrible nightmare. Jaclyn you are so inspiring. Thank you for all that you do for us strangers who just watch your videos but somehow you still treat us like your best friends. love you girl! Thank you. xoxoxo

[@mackenziegoode3853]

+Jenny Brito My high school relationship was almost the same as hers event for event, circumstance for circumstance. I couldn't believe how accurate it became, the further into the video I got. I was crying too. So glad those days are in the past.

[@Everydaystarlet]

It is so easy for anyone to get caught up in bad, and even dangerous, relationships. It's so important to share our stories with the younger generation so they can hopefully learn from our mistakes. Great video!

[@lilibrunetst-pierre3515]

Wow. I worked in a shelter helping women victims of domestic abuse, and you describe control, domination, manipulation, and this kind of ''conditionning'' so freaking well. It is incredible. And you never minimise the impact on you or the fact that it is abuse even thougt there were no direct insults or physical violence. You undestood what happened to you so profoundly well. Hope you can help a lot of other girls and women and boys and men who live with someone who need to put them down. Personnaly I would show this to a friend or a future daughter.. I am really impressed.

[@AlexandrasGirlyTalk]

I can totally relate Jaclyn. The timeline, the dysfunction.. everything. Thanks so much for sharing girl

[@lauragabler]

When you said you forgot you were filming, I remembered I was watching a video and not just talking to a friend 🙈

[@dalmafleitas2548]

yeeesss

[@AndreaaDiaz]

Yes! Same!

[@demelysoramas5267]

It really did felt that way and I felt like I could relate soooo much!

[@AndreaaDiaz]

+demelys oramas I can't relate but honestly it did feel like we were just in the same room talking like good friends. I agree that she needs to make more videos like this!

[@evelynbanda6513]

Agreed ! 😌

[@ZertucheMusic]

UGH YOU ARE LIKE THE BIG SISTER I'VE NEVER HAD BUT ALWAYS WANTED. Can I just say, in general you being so honest with all of us is literally an act of courage especially when it comes to personal stories like this. I was in a similar situation once with someone and to just hear this was just such a fresh breathe of air. I think almost every girl goes through this type of person, it's a "first love" thing and we all have to learn somehow. Some us are really strong, but some of us have to learn the hard way. It hurts so much but wow do you learn and the reward you get to letting go of people who aren't genuine and loyal is the person of your dreams. Please do not ever settle, because I truly believe there is a perfect person for everyone. Thank you so much Jaclyn for sharing your life because you really are like a light in this world. I always look forward to hearing from you. I never really feel like a subscriber, I always feel like you're my friend and I thank you for that. It's hard to find genuine people like you in this world, I am just so thankful that a platform like KZbin would create a space where just a great person such as yourself could just share their light.

[@baileyelizabeth8029]

I've been through this and recently just got out. Wasted two years of my life letting him call all the shots for me and not let me do anything myself. I couldn't dress up, wear makeup, talk to any guys as just friends yet he could do anything he wanted. I was the same as you said you were, I was such a strong independent girl yet when it came to him he just managed to control me in the worst ways. It hurt my mom so much to see all of it and how I was so blinded. Just glad I'm out now.

[@karlaandreinanarvaezquezad8146]

Bailey Elizabeth go girl

[@mahoganymonro]

Bailey Elizabeth yes! Same here! I just got so wrapped up in him and comfortable that I lost myself. Manipulation is so real man!

[@HolyGround777]

Bailey Elizabeth Yaaay! You are killing it girl!!

[@cecymxrgxrita]

you are better than that girl. believe in yourself and you will be able to get out of anything!

[@missdora3773]

Bailey Elizabeth same, same, same. I'm so happy i broke up with him.

[@tiffanytaylor6286]

I've been avoiding this video because I just knew it was going to speak so much truth for me. Thanks for posting! So many women think this kind of relationship is normal, but it's so important for it to be known that we are all more than the manipulation of insecure, controlling men. It took me so long to want more for myself, and the instant that it was really over between me and my ex, I felt a weight rise off of me, and I was able to see with clarity why so many people in my life disliked him for me. I just wanted to say that you're not alone in your experiences, and thank goodness we were able to see the light! 🙌🏽

[@Cosmobyhaley]

Jaclyn, I am so incredibly happy you made this video. I can relate to this so much and it is SO RELIEVING (and sad) to know I am/was not alone. The whole time I was nodding my head like an idiot because everything was so spot on! It is so crazy to think how much "love" can blind someone, and it's amazing to see you overcome such an unhealthy relationship and find something so real. Thank you for sharing, and WE LOVE YOU.

[@darbynapieralski9585]

Jaclyn I've been a day one subscriber from the start. And I just wanted to say this video changed my life. I've been in a five year relationship, since I was 16 and I'm now almost 22. I was so so so in love with him but no one understood why and I couldn't and wouldn't listen. What they saw was completely different. I wasn't allowed to have friends, and if I tried to hang out with even just my best friend he would start a fight. I wasn't allowed to drink or talk to other boys. He fought with me constantly and his love turned into obsession. When we fought and I tried to leave, he would physically force me to stay even if that meant hurting me or blocking the door. For two months I've been trying to end things and his devastation continues to pull me back in because it's so hard to see him cry and beg and know how heart broken he is. He started going to therapy to get me back but it's too little too late, my feelings changed. This video is an amazing life saver. Thank you, I love you ❤️

[@vksof]

+Darby Oswald I'm really proud that you left him, I know it must be hard (I posted above about my own abusive relationship story). Anyway you're doing the right thing. Its time to start living your life for you and being the woman you're meant to be. I'm sending you strength with all my heart

[@Vaipatri1]

+Darby Oswald youre amazing, im so proud of you

[@emmilygiselle1682]

I understand Happened To Me When I was 12 Now im 16 with someone new and a baby im young I have made so many mistakes but im better now in reality he didnt love you he'll miss you he'll really love you when your gone and well my ex boyfriend still looks for me but I ignore him I forgave him for everything he did but I wouldnt go back to it.

[@VernitaIvelina]

Looool "No b*tch you don't own me! I'M JACLYN!" - this was the moment i instantly subscribed.

[@laurenannable5122]

VERNiTA iVELiNA i

[@angelmoskal746]

LOL SAME

[@jesslynsharon2744]

i love how she said "john and i fight hard but we love harder" 😭😭💘

[@katherinewilhelm865]

This video hit me hard because I was in the same place with my ex. Thank you for putting this video up, it made me feel better to know how much you can still grow as a person even though you were so manipulated by someone in the past. You are an amazing and inspiring person Jacyln and your videos are so real and true and that is why you are my favorite youtuber. You are 100% real about life and the struggles you go through in life.

[@katherinewilhelm865]

Jaclyn*

[@YMER723]

I get it girl! Jaclyn is so amazing. I'm so glad she shared this story, makes me love her more.

[@DaisyInda]

Jacyln You have no idea how much you have changed me in such a short amount of time. This video is just one more of the million reasons why I Love You. I honestly felt like I was alone or no one could really understand what I had been through but to hear that I am not alone is amazing. I love your honesty and Kind heart, you have inspired me to be a better person and continue to follow my dreams which is freelance in beauty and youtube regardless of what everyone else has to say. I just wanted to let you know that you are so loved by so many people and you have become such a huge role model and impacted so many lives. Never change, your kind and loving heart, it will continue to take you to amazing places. I pray that one day I can be where you are, and I can get the opportunity to thank you in person. Thank you so much for allowing us into your past present and future. Much love Daisy

[@Jaclynhill1]

+Daisy Inda Thank you so much for leaving me this comment. You're never alone girl! Keep chasing those dreams. Pretty much no one believed in me when I started doing makeup and wanted to make a career of it. XOXO

[@DaisyInda]

Thank you so much Jaclyn I will always keep these words close to my heart!!! XOXO

[@MarieKalisaXO]

Getting screwed over by someone you aren't even really attracted to physically is the worst! I've been there. Might as well take a chance on someone you think is fine...

[@damnmuggle]

MarieKalisaXO yep

[@dreamwishergirl]

Sad this has happened to be twice now. I’ve definitely taken a break & will be with someone worthy!

[@EricaYE6]

Exactly! You got it!

[@Ame2847]

FACTS

[@DeathAngleZoe]

LOL, girl! SAME! I let the ugliest guy treat me like absolute trash. What a loser he was.

[@MadisonAxford]

if you could do a video all about your experience with anxiety, and possibly shed a positive light on it, that would be amazing! i struggle with it, but i look up to you, knowing that you have similar struggles, yet you don't let it stop you from doing anything you love and you are always a fabulous diva! i love you so much! and i admire your advice! you're like the best older sister!

[@Thejessicagladys]

When you were talking about your ex it 99% sounds like my current relationship (9 years in April). Then you started talking about John and I got SO happy for you. Your little chipmunk cheeks filled up from happiness

[@alybrooke9120]

yes!!!

[@laurasofiavazquezalvarez4130]

yeeeees please! *-*

[@Dontworryaboutit-r8v]

+Jessica Gladys Totally agree!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@KarenRodriguez-re4rz]

i completely agree with you...it makes you sit back and think about what you're going through

[@Thejessicagladys]

+Karen Rodriguez for sure! Almost helps you hear it from someone else and then you finally click in like oh crap!

[@daniellealfaro4568]

You may have been in a very dysfunctional relationship but as soon as you start talking John, your eyes light up so much brighter than your smile and you can just tell how happy you are. Love you Jaclyn 😘

[@gentlestormwyatt]

Jaclyn, thank you so much for making this video. You have no idea how many of us women you've helped. Sometimes we as women just have to hear this mess to know that we're in an unhealthy relationship. I appreciate you. I'm reading through some of these comments and man, so many of us have been through this and even more! So thank you much! Love you!

[@Ariana-hx9oc]

Tell us ur engagement and wedding story!

[@Breanneex]

Yaaaassss

[@gwendyrod577]

Yesss!🙌🏼

[@OurStorysYours]

Yes I wanna know how Jon proposed!!! Do tell Jaclyn😍😍😍

[@RubiAlejandra_]

Yaaazzz

[@SpiderShimaa]

Her wedding video is on Jon's channel. It's adorable

[@Lisa.Alexandra]

That ending though yessss! Manipulative guys need to be put in a box and shipped to nowhere land!

[@jtmjamtimemachine5212]

❤

[@psycherevivedby]

+Lady Mudskipper fucking preach!!!

[@mariamargaret5896]

Omg girl yassssssss

[@ivaniamartinez4423]

I love that , you're absolutely right!!

[@KatDuchnicky]

I spent 15 years of my life in a relationship just like yours. Walking away was one of the hardest things I have every done. But today I see it as the moment I decided to get my life back. Glad to see you're in a healthy and happy relationship! 😘💞🙏🏻

[@Lara77473]

this was emotional abuse and it is traumatizing. God bless you. I have felt this too.

[@marissahosmundson7269]

jaclyn your demeanor totally changed as you started talking about Jon, your entire being lit up :). Such raw emotions, thank you for opening up as many of us including myself have gone through exactly this. I'm in such a better place now with my current boyfriend and can feel myself light up when i talk about who we are as a couple. you can really feel such a difference when you are truly with your soul mate. the fighting and arguing still happen from time to time but the love always prevails and always takes precedence :)

[@kaylahackett1711]

This type of abuse goes unrecognized so easily, I really appreciate that someone with such a huge following can have the courage to bring this type of manipulation up and make it public

[@mimixmin]

I honestly wish you would start a Girl Talk series because listening to you dish out advice feels so good. I wish I could come to you and talk to you about my problems now because you feel like such a big sister, Jaclyn. It's sad because my sister committed suicide 4 years ago and I don't have anyone like you to talk to about things anymore.

[@melbeldanielle6845]

@JamieD I'm so sorry for your loss, I too lost a sibling, my brother committed suicide 9yrs ago, it seems like a long time but it's not. he was my best friend and we were incredibly close, no matter how much time goes by, we will still miss them and that hurt will come and go. I'm prayin for you. Reach out to me if you ever wanna chat! [e-mail]

[@mimixmin]

Melissa Sirokman You're so right, no matter how much time goes by it still hurts to think about them. Thank you so much, I appreciate it!!

[@melbeldanielle6845]

Your welcome hunny, your not alone

[@mrstaylorgraham]

I'm so sorry...

[@yesceniaarteaga8370]

I've been, or was in a relationship similar perhaps worse for 10 years..I have 2 little girls and I just now with this video realized how much I was being manipulated and still am for leaving him.. since according to him "am being selfish and taking my little girls a chance to grow up in a family".... wow...I just lost 10 years of my life ... but I know for my little ladies, I must be strong and teach them how to be amazing women and never ever hopefully have to be in these types of relationships. love you JH

[@christietrum3842]

Yescenia Arteaga "hopefully"?? You'll know a tree by its fruit. Don't commit until you've given him time (at least 6-8 months) for his true colors to come out, whether they are good or bad. And yes, stop the cycle and do whatever you can for your girls. They will learn what's acceptable or not through your teaching and actions. ❤️

[@4myZilla]

Holy crap, this described a relationship of mine to a tee. It's amazing what people will put themselves through to feel wanted. It was the start to my depression but was an eye opener to what I shouldn't accept. I hope this video changes someone's life who might be going through it right now. Thank you for sharing girl!

[@dianavaldivia6056]

I never felt more close to Jaclyn until now. I saw another side of her and although I saw the pain she went through, she became stronger and the woman she is today. Love you Jaclyn!

[@alexandramaria8606]

I love Jaclyn! You're so real and sweet!! ❤️ ignore any hate. Thankyou for making me feel good about myself everday.

[@alexandramaria8606]

Everyday*

[@prizz8273]

Wow. You're experience, with all the manipulation, was EXACTLY what happened with me! And when I try to explain to people, they just don't get it! They always say, "But it was so obvious..." But NO! He played all these mind games! I'm so thankful that I'm not the only one who went through that. Not that I'm happy you had to go through it, it's just nice knowing I'm not an idiot and it can happen to the strongest of girls :) I think you're video will help a lot of people. Xx

[@taylerbrendel9434]

I wish this video was around when I was 14

[@StephiieLiddoRed]

agreed!!

[@princessmalaika8691]

+Tayler Schroeder same here i wishhhhh :'(

[@StaeshaGentry]

+Tayler Schroeder same

[@rudd-dq6ns]

Same :'(

[@raveotsla8888]

+Tayler Schroeder yeeeeeeeees

[@kellyzwarts4454]

Thank you so much Jaclyn. I got out of an unhealthy relationship about 1,5 year. The beginning was Amazing but it slowly got worse. He cheated on me with his ex girlfriend in our bed, he constantly told me my depression wasn't real, he did hardcore drugs, this whole relation has been a lie. We lived together for a year when he told me to move out for a while, which I did. I never heard anything from him again.. I have always said that he still loves me and that he eventually would get back at me.. But now that I saw your video I finally realized that he never really loved me and that it's over. So thank you.

[@JulieDChadwick]

Would love to hear Jon's story of how he fell in love with you.

[@Sarah-lf1dg]

Yes!!!

[@2ne1bapblockb]

+JulieDChadwick From him!

[@KrestynBarton]

Best idea ever!!

[@brookefoy9923]

she's talked about it before in her videos

[@KrestynBarton]

+Brooke Foy From Jons point of view is what she said

[@NEONEYEZ820]

I've been there myself. It is hard to believe outsiders when they are trying to tell you what's going on. You are so in love and wrapped up in this person that you think anyone that is trying to help is trying to tear your relationship apart. Which in turn makes you cling to the dysfunction even more. I'm 33 and I now have 2 beautiful girls 3 & 13. I will be letting my 13 year old watch this to get an outside perspective on this type of relationship and that it's not just mom being mean. I want her to know she's worth so much more than being someones property and that if they truly love her they will never make her feel insecure about herself in any way. Thank you for making this video. You are empowering so many. Love your videos and I love watching your personality. You're so real and raw and yourself. That's what makes your videos so popular. Keep it up! Sending lots of love from Alabama!

[@devasri_]

"Jon and I fight hard but we love harder" awwww😩😭😭😭❤️

[@BugBoo23]

+TheDarrier The way she said this gave me chills haha

[@h3ykayla]

Please make Girl Talk a regular series on your channel it would literally be the best thing and it'd help so many people

[@lamalu9202]

i totally agree!

[@sapphoboom1082]

That would be amazing 😁😁😁

[@samcavanagh9460]

I'm going through a break up similar and tomorrow we are supposed to talk about us and this helped me decide I need to get out of this relationship asap and I can't thank you enough for this video it was the perfect time to upload it and it's ridiculous how similar we are to your previous relationship so thank you so much for this! Not wasting more than 2 years on him anymore!

[@mariahpatrick2681]

Coming from someone who was in the exact same boat as you and Jaclyn for 3 years at the same age, when you talk to him, if he tried to say he'll change or tries to make you feel bad about whatever happened, walk away! The best way to get out of the situations is to GET SELFISH! I know that sounds bad but you don't have to always be selfish but in those situations you do have to be selfish in the sense that you have to know what is best for you and only you and it's probably not this guy you are with right now! There are so many more people out there. People from all over who are so interesting and unique and you will find someone who won't just lust after you but will fight for you! And fight with you, and not just between the two of you, I mean fight your battles with you. He will be right there with you through every hard time and every good time. But this relationship that you are in right now, ask yourself this "does it make me happy?" Only thinking about you. Get selfish for now.

[@leelsypeelsy]

This video is SO cathartic. I finally had the strength to terminate an emotionally abusive relationship (lasted for 2 years) earlier this year in March and I feel incredible. She constantly yelled over me and never let me have a voice. I was insulted regularly and had a ton of passive-aggressive bull thrown at me for the sole purpose of getting me angry just so she could play victim. I was accused of flirting with girls AND boys (definitely hinted at biphobia) and made sure I felt like crap before I went out with any of my friends. I lost all of my friends because of her and it changed me for the worse until I finally realized this person was garbage and I deserved so much better. It really breaks my heart to see other people bent out of shape over a shitty person. I know it's easier said than done, but you should NEVER dedicate your life to pleasing someone else. It's a game to them and it makes them feel good and the more you feed them, the worse they'll become and the harder it will be to let go. We all deserve someone who loves us unconditionally and helps us grow into the best version of ourselves.

[@piinkaly]

I fucking love how you became friend's with your ex boyf's ex girlf. That is a true example of woman lifting each other up and not dragging them down! You're awesome Jacklyn!

[@arbella89]

Amen! You're so right! I love that!

[@makaylamalkerson3759]

The way your face lights up as soon as you talk about John is so fricken cute 😍

[@biancajaramillo8360]

Once you started describing things he would say and do and I'm like "wait...my boyfriend does that" and I've had these thoughts before but for some reason you saying this and being so strong and an amazing role model is what is opening my eyes. I really just hope I can find it in myself to actually break up for good.

[@biancay.8982]

+Bianca Jaramillo if he's doing this, sweetpea get out, you deserve so much more!

[@victoriagarcia2125]

+Bianca Jaramillo im in the exact same position!

[@katrinejoy7433]

I can relate to this story so much. Met a dude when I was 14, had a very dysfunctional relationship with him for 2 years. I finally had the courage to break up with him, and he went crazy for weeks. I ended up dating my best friend a few months later. My best friend & I are still together and I have never been happier than ever. :)

[@jobethrice]

Holy. Shit. Jaclyn. I don't care what anyone says, never delete this video. So many people need to see this. Girls so that hopefully they can avoid this happening, and boys so that maybe they will learn not to be shit heads. I was in a dysfunctional relationship for almost 5 years. The things I went through are different from what you dealt with, but the moral of the story is still the same. I honestly still struggle with it, mine has been a lot more recently than yours was, and I can't even describe how thankful I am for this video. I'm sitting here crying typing this. I am so thankful I started watching you two years ago. Your videos have always been a break from reality for me, and now they're helping me with life too. I hope a lot of people gain something from this video like I have, and I hope you continue to do videos like this. I love you soooo much and thanks for everything.

[@jobethrice]

Also put a pic on snap of the Michael Kors heels Jon bought you!!

[@cedrineb2533]

Jaclyn I love you for this. So relatable. Took me 10 months to get over this person. I'm finally free and it feels so great.

[@brittburliss]

This is my FAVORITE story time video ever, your openness is so refreshing to listen to!!

[@Dooder_Noodle]

I had my first boyfriend at 17, I was in a bad state of mind, very depressed and suicidal and just wanted someone to love me. I rushed into the relationship. A month after we started dating he raped me. And continued to sexually abuse me for 3 more months. He manipulated me, he made me think what had happened was "normal" and that it was MY fault he raped me. I was so blinded wanting him to love me that I didn't even see the abuse in front of me! I remember coming home after one night after and just crying wondering why? Why was I feeling like this? He had me so confused I was blaming myself. Finally I remember one day I just looked at him and I was so disgusted. At that time I didn't know why, but deep down I knew what had happened was wrong, everything finally clicked. I ended things with him right after that. I even tried to go back once....that's how messed up I was! But then the truth set in, and dealing with that fact of what happened to me has been the hardest thing of my life. I even confronted him and he STILL blamed me for it! I am happily married now with a 6 month baby boy, but what my ex did to me is always there, it never truly goes away, you just learn to live with it. I have excepted it's not my fault and I have moved on with my life. If I could help another 17 year old not make the same mistake I did, or be a encouragement to help someone else who has gone through the same thing, I would know what I went through had meaning.

[@afoh-ex2vx]

Emily B.

[@vanessasins3136]

I am so sorry that happened to you Emily, thanks for sharing your story and I hope things get better for you :)

[@gracebruce]

This whole talk is literally so on point! love how open and honest this is! xo

[@clothesminded2701]

you literally could not have made this video at a better/more relatable time. i'm taking it as a sign, thank you. x

[@NinaSabado]

It's actually a relief hearing this story, because I was going through something similar at one point. But I definitely learned my lesson. I actually remember my mom told my dad "she just broke up with so and so..." and I was pouring down crying. And my dad said "I know she'll be fine and this might not even be the last time she will be crying over a guy, there's plenty more out there." I was livid lol but he was right, I did get over it when I thought it was the end of the world.

[@kristinreinke7918]

I just watched this video for a second time. The first time I watched it, I was in a dysfunctional relationship. I broke it off with him about a month ago. Although not all of it was the same as yours, there were some things you said that I was like oh my god!!! Mine did that too!!! I was in denial for so long and although it still hurts and I am trying to find closure, I still don't regret breaking it off. Thank you Jaclyn for sharing!!! xoxo

[@a.l.5208]

do you feel better now? sometimes you love the idea of that person, what you wont him to be and its more of a fantasy than real love and it keeps disappointing you until enough is enough, my best friend experienced this and i was there all the time. he wasn't as horrible but close. your happiness matters girl. hope you are fine now

[@KristinaKovaSanchez]

I vote for Q&A with John!! 💜 you guys are so cute together!

[@marayaalabry]

Thiiiiiiissssss!!!!!

[@brittanywebster8275]

YASSSSSS!!!!

[@chikii03]

Yessss

[@nicoleperez3240]

yes that would be awesome.

[@BridgetCarta]

And the dogs ... :)

[@NicolConcilio]

How Jon is reminds me so much of Nick!!! I'm so happy you filmed this girl! Reminds me of my past as well

[@daniellechoate8128]

this didn’t age well 😅

[@chloekit4861]

@@daniellechoate8128 why did that dude play her?

[@elizabethboulay1126]

You've always been inspiring to me, but this time, i am overwhelmed but how true and opened you are about that part of your life. You could have kept it for yourself in fear of being judged, but instead you put your story out for people to learn from your experiences...wow! I love you more and more ! Watching your video I felt sorry for how this guy hurt you, but happy to see you happy and grown up by this experience. I love you Jaclyn! xox

[@katedouglas14]

Ok the sneeze at the end - lol I so relate!! Unfortunately I relate to the rest of the video all too well, too, but I got the giggles from the sneeze!

[@laurengoodwin6074]

So glad you found yourself through this! I am 15 and a lot of people around me are dating and I always felt the pressure to date but I haven't felt ready yet. Thanks so much for sharing your story you truly are a role model and inspiration for young girls especially me! Love you so much ❤️

[@Jaclynhill1]

+lauren goodwin If you don't feel ready, then you're not. Thats amazing you can acknowledge that at such a young age! I wish I would have been like that. Getting to know yourself at a young age is honestly amazing!!!

[@laurengoodwin6074]

+Jaclyn Hill omg thanks so much for responding!!

[@mariamorales8476]

I loves this comment becouse I'm 16 and the majority of my friends haves boyfriend's /girlfriend's and i feel the need to have it when the reality is that i don't feel prepared to be in a relationship

[@amandatracey3287]

+lauren goodwin You're like me when I was 15 (about 6 years ago). I was just like, what's the point? I had several friends that were not in good relationships and it was just so unappealing. During lunch one day I found one of my friends of 6 years bawling because she and her boyfriend of a year or so had just broken up. They ended up getting back together later that day. High school already comes with so much drama! Why add more? To this day they're still on and off and very dysfunctional...we're no longer friends. I found out that she was not who she said she was and she made so many foolish decisions that she didn't think much of. I was always the person that put more effort into our friendship. It was time to end that.

[@elenaricci1498]

+maria morales that's so crazy I literally feel the exact same way! everyone in my life has a boyfriend but I'm just not ready. I'm still feel like a kid honestly lol

[@kmelbz]

I SWEAR I DIDN'T GO FOR ICE CREAM WITH MARK

[@erinlouise7567]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

[@cottnncandy]

😂😂Omg

[@liv9542]

lolololol!

[@mylovgren511]

HAHHAHAHAH NOT ME NEITHER HAWHAW!

[@sandramilenkovic748]

HAHAHAHAHHAHAHAH THIS IS GOLD

[@betty7522]

Omg Jaclyn can I just say that your bomb...the story about your ex is so relatable. I was listening and it was like reliving my ex story. I started to cry because those feelings that you expressed where the exact same for me. It's crazy how you say we can get caught up with our feelings that we don't rationalize the relationship. Yep I wasted years of my life . Suffered from anxiety because of that relationship. Now I'm in a wonderful relationship with a man that gives me my place, loves me and treats me with respect. My ex is recently married and still calls me telling me he misses me and loves me. I bump those breaks so quick . His disgusting he makes me sick to my stomach and I feel for his wife. He makes me love my boyfriend even more and see how lucky I am to have a man like him.

[@elainepowers4489]

I just came across this video, and it made me cry. It reminded me so much of the relationship I just recently got out of. The way you were talking about this sounded exactly like me.. every single word of this video. It is amazing how people can have power and control over you. I believe that when you think that you have your whole future planned out with someone, and something bad happens, it doesn't matter. You are just willing to accept/forgive to keep the fantasy alive.. you are willing to completely morph yourself to this person and do anything to make them happy because you love the good times of the relationship. This was very heartbreaking for me to listen to, but it made me smile in the end, because you gave me hope. It made me feel like I'm not so alone. Thank you so much 💙

[@taylorpanzer8971]

honestly did we date the same guy or?

[@cinthyar3465]

Lmao I was asking myself the same thing through the video 😂

[@Reecex3]

Taylor Panzer Me too it's insane lol!

[@kkaylann]

Taylor Panzer I was seriously about to comment the same thing, then I scrolled down and saw yours 😂

[@ottoline496]

right!

[@laraXxlisXx]

NO LIE!!! I went back to when she blanked out his name just to SEE if her mouth sounded out my Ex's NAME. Omfg.... That's how bad it is...

[@jmichelle4734]

So many young girls are going through this same exact thing. I hope they listen to your words because it's easy to get caught up in a negative relationship. But not so easy to get out.

[@nicolekathryn5100]

I relate to this, the exact thing happened to me except I dated him a year longer. I then got into an amazing relationship a couple months later as well, and to this day I have never been so happy with my new guy. Everyone deserves happiness, you're such an amazing person Jaclyn!!!! Love you xoxo

[@nicolekathryn5100]

And more story time videos would be amazing!!!!! 😍💖

[@covertlydrugged6229]

stop using bad judgement and date men of GOd! The silly woman choose a man based on what he drives and a wise woman chooses a man based on what drives him

[@ourlifeonsunday8563]

Yes!!!! Me too. It's a good life ❤️

[@nicolekathryn5100]

+Covertly Drugged dude chill haha

[@BelladonnaPheonix]

+Covertly Drugged The fuck is wrong with you?

[@olvera564]

I almost get caught up on a relationship like this and I'm so glad you are talking about this so openly because it is horrible to be in that situation. I've been married for 5 years with my husband and I can totally agree that it is completely different!! If you are in a relationship like this please!! let it go! it's mentally exhausting and a waste of time!!!

[@haleybaker5589]

It was so refreshing to hear her say that on social media it looks like her & her husband live a perfect life, but in reality, they fight. I am guilty of getting caught up in social media where most people only present the good, so when my boyfriend of 3 years & I fight, I start to feel as if I'm the only one bad things happen to & our relationship is doomed!

[@hellobeautiful3301]

Thank you for being open with us, Jaclyn! God bless you!

[@mayrasnyder]

Cried so much cause I just got out of a relationship exactly the same as your ex boyfriend except for the actual abuse that went on in mine thank you so much jacklyn your story really helped me right now I got some of my strength back know that someone as kind and funny and successful as you got out of a toxic relationship and made it through I can to love you so much 😭💖

[@mayrasnyder]

*jaclyn

[@andreacamnugent]

+Mayra Guzman you go girl!! Glad you're in a better place now!

[@linette8948]

+Mayra Guzman sending postitive vibes your way!!!! you got this !!!!!

[@ROS13rdgz]

N u will make it through also. Trust me.

[@mayrasnyder]

+ Rosa Rodriguez thank you so much it's hard but I take one day at a time and with my family and friends I hope to be how I was before everything

[@CherryBlossom419]

I just came across this video. I am so glad you decided to make this video about your relationship. I went through something extremely similar to yours which also lasted 3 1/2 years and watching this made me cry because you were so honest about all that you went through and how you wish you could have told yourself the things you know now. I wish I could have seen all the horrible things he did to me way before I wasted three years of my life but I was only 15 and that's what happens when you're young, you just don't realize those type of things.Thank you for being so open about your past; it makes me realize that I wasn't the only one who went through a dysfunctional relationship. You're incredible and you should never change who you are. Your video has given me a lot of confidence and inspiration to always be myself and to stand my ground. Fortunately for me, I have found an incredible person who loves me for who I am and isn't hurting me like my ex used to do. I'm glad you found Jon; you deserve the best. Thanks again for this !

[@torirose7903]

"We fight. We fight HARD. But we love harder." Love this so ridiculously much.

[@HeatherCutright]

I'm glad that you talk about how you got sucked into that even though you are generally a strong person who speaks her mind, isn't afraid of confrontation and everything. I feel like I never let anyone else disrespect me and won't put up with BS, I am bluntly honest, not afraid to speak my mind, not afraid of confrontation....and yet somehow...I can't seem to get out of an abusive, on/off (to an extreme level, like 2 weeks together and then a month or so apart...over and over), toxic relationship. It has been 3 years. The worst 3 years of my life! I am trying to be done forever this time. Wish me luck...

[@sophiaschelle]

Wishing you luck and sending hugs your way

[@didisaravia6627]

Heather Cutright how is it going?

[@dawnmaster2230]

wanna know why u cant let him go? well its because he is the only person that disrespects you an because of that u think that if I let him do this to me he must be something special but no hes not!!!! your special your better your what matters!!!! he belittled you so much you believe it!!! its a high its not real!!!! you are addicted to a lie... when someone emotionally abuses you it is a addiction... cut it out ... you are worth it.. don't let someone make you feel like your worth is only what he gives you.. love is a lot more then a chase....

[@Bellaxaguilar]

This video made me cry, but it's made me have so much more respect for you! Thankyou for being so real with us. Jon reminds me so much of my boyfriend because he's your knight in shining armor and mine is too :) much love to you both! You deserve everything you've worked for and so much more, can't wait for Jaclyn Hill Cosmetics! xo

[@katiesophrosin8901]

Thank you for posting this. There are so many people out there in horrible relationships. I've been here and it's honestly so nice when you finally find someone who treats you the way you deserve to be treated.

[@chloeshanahan1999]

Yaaaasss!! Please do more story times! Love this video!!! X

[@laurenwilliams4814]

Yaaaaaaaaasss!!!!!❤️

[@BrookeTheOutcast]

+Chloe Shanahan less, like how she started out in the makeup industry and youtube maybe

[@coconuttyfemme7933]

When you said "Jon and I almost divorced" I gasped SO LOUD that my cat ran out of the room in fear.

[@DianaVilla21]

Lmfao

[@KrestynBarton]

Hahaha

[@BridgetCarta]

That fucked me up

[@marayaalabry]

Me too! I was like "no way!" Could never imagine that at all

[@reghanchalker847]

SAME

[@KaterinaWilliams]

This sounds so exactly like the relationship I just got out of it's scary. Thank you so much for making this video Jaclyn, this has helped me so much. :)

[@sarahhettinger7070]

Oh man girl this really truly hits home. I have been going through the same thing for the past 5 years! It sucks so bad being manipulated and brought down so much you feel like the worst person on the planet and the person who is making you feel that way is the only one who will actually ever love you. It sucks so much and it has taken 2 years of counseling and one really really bad fight to finally realize it. And the funny thing is is his name is Mark I was like oh my its like shes reading my brain and knows what i have been going through! Thank you for posting this! I just love you and needed to here this also!! 💟

[@DylanMercedes99]

At the end when you were talking about John I couldn't stop smiling! Please do a Q&A together!

[@lilysextone2902]

+Dylan Mercedes good idea that would be a really cool video!!

[@AndreaRenee00]

This is totally off the video topic but I'M PATIENTLY WAITING ON JACLYN HILL COSMETICS!🙈 lol lol lol Anyone else?

[@jackieseale6427]

YESSSSSSS!!!!

[@02strano]

Yaaaassssss!!!!❤️

[@katiek2517]

+Lacey TayyyHAYY same!!

[@purplelonghorn07]

+Andrea Renee yes! I've been saving up!

[@mizzbeccaloo]

Yes!!!! I'm buying EVERYTHING!!!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@KTlovesable]

"We fight hard, but we love harder." New favourite line 💘💘

[@Amagaisie]

same

[@MJ-hc3iw]

I can't tell you how much this video reinforces to me my own decision to leave a dysfunctional relationship. Extremely similar to yours, and when I finally realized that I was done, I was DONE. Thank you for being so open about something that not many people feel comfortable talking about🙏🏼

[@louloucarol5276]

This reminds me sooo much of my relationship when I was 18-20. He acted the exact same way, always threatening to break up with me, and when I after 2 sucky years finally got the balls to break up with him he was clinging on me like his life was depending on it. I also wish the whole relationship didn't happen but it did make me stronger!

[@Kaitacan]

I would love for you to do a Q&A with Jon and just talk about yalls relationship. I am married and we got married very young and I understand the struggles that can be faced and would love to hear them from your perspective and how you have handled it.

[@hairgirls2]

This sound like my current relationship.. This really helped! But it makes me happy that you found Jon

[@hairgirls2]

John*

[@sodapopcutie465]

+zelina phelps Jon*

[@dananezat]

+zelina phelps look up "gaslighting" and Borderline personality Disorder

[@arianastwerker]

+zelina phelps ??? the one in your profile picture ???

[@margaretkb8500]

this was a huge wake up call for me. i’ve been dealing with a very similar situation for 3 years and this reminded me i wasn’t alone. i’m finally gaining the courage to realize this isn’t what i want or deserve. thank you so much for sharing this, i truly hope i find the strength soon to entirely move on.

[@thegingermommy]

i think we've all had that "why did i put up with this shit" relationship where, looking at it years later, we would never put up with that again, but it's just a learning experience that we all go through. makes us all stronger in the end!

[@thecaninefoodie]

I'm in a toxic relationship and I needed to hear this. Thank you.

[@user-ib4lj2hd4v]

A huge part of me wants Jon to sit in front of the camera by himself and tell us how he fell in love with you ... He seems like a wonderful person (:

[@sarahrybicki3863]

I agree!

[@bethanydavis8516]

Yes that would be amazing!!

[@lamalu9202]

oh yaaaaas... pls do this!

[@pattianajune6276]

This video was huge, people go through this relationships and you are a strong ass woman to share your own story and be open about regretting things and learning from it, I truly admire you for that Jaclyn! I hope more women gets that kind of confidence as you. All the best for you and Jon, you look great together