I was married & he cheated.. The Red Flags & How I Healed -Storytime

[@RobbiJan]

IG - instagram.com/robbijan 💕

[@MrRafayshort]

Aready followed❤️🥺

[@OguzhanStrength]

we have already followed 🥺🥺🥺

[@Phoenix-td1lg]

You're really strong

[@JC-tr8pc]

Where is your top from?!? 😍😍

[@shaunakearns7837]

Do you have a link for the top 🥰

[@ItsJordanx0x0]

If this women is getting cheated on - it’s pure evidence that a man that wants to cheat will no matter what. It has NOTHING to do with girls getting comfortable or not “getting ready” every day or bla bla. Cheaters will cheat. Doesn’t matter how great or pretty or perfect you are. It’s not your fault. It’s their (the cheaters) problem.

[@RobbiJan]

Exactly 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@JordanWilliams-ix2td]

*FACTS!* Im genuinely MINDBLOWN That she would ever get cheated on she's absolutely GORGEOUS! & Seems like such a sweet, genuine person

[@Exotixa]

Right

[@anastasiaforbes7084]

Yesssss! Some people can’t control it and just can’t commit to just one person but can’t admit it.

[@Larasubasi]

@@RobbiJan i love how you are like exactly👏👏 😅😅😅 when she is saying regardless of how perfect you are.. you got cheated on 😆😆😆 and you are like yeaahhh ...so humble😅😅

[@simini1837]

My husband cheated on me while I was recovering from leukemia and left me for this other woman with whom he is now married and has kids. While I recognise that this was a very difficult time in both our lives it was very crushing and heartbreaking to be betrayed. Please people end your relationship first before starting a new one!

[@kittyCAT-r3w]

So sorry you had to go through this but for you to write this now shows how strong you are and moved on from it! You deserved better anyway so he removed his trashy self from your life, count yourself lucky. He would have done it regardless. You deserved better and he likely will cheat on his current partner too. I hope you are feeling so much better now and healed and I’m sure you will soon or later find the right guy who deserves you. Have hope and never lose it ❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@simini1837]

Thank you both, I have been in a happy new relationship for the past 8 years so fortunately I found new love and my health is stable

[@nadiaalbert4336]

So sorry 💕

[@user-ll3sq4oh8i]

Sorry you had to go through that. Sending you lots of love

[@rosebud0391]

I had a LTR where my partner cheated on me and then went on to have a family with that person. It is SO painful when someone goes on to have a "successful" relationship with the person they cheated on you with. Took me so long to heal from that. Even after I thought I no longer cared it was validating to hear they did not work out in the long run.

[@reyesd709]

My ex had cheated on me while we were long distance and she got pregnant w her ex. Fast forward and now I’m engaged to the MOST amazing woman, and going to get married in May. Dark seasons have lessons in them and just as you say, everything happens for a reason 🙌🏽

[@RobbiJan]

Love this soooo much. Congrats on your engagement 👏🏽👏🏽

[@AbhinavChoudharyOfficial]

I'm curious why are you guys using black hand emojis instead of default ones when you aren't black or brown 🙏

[@Ohkeh640]

♥️♥️♥️

[@codingiscreativity]

You are lucky 👍👍

[@mikaylawallace9654]

@@AbhinavChoudharyOfficial why does it matter what color they’re using..? 😂 it’s a color.

[@ItsJordanx0x0]

I like your opinions on “the other woman”. You didn’t have a relationship with HER. You didn’t exchange vows with her. Yes maybe morally it was a bad choice on her part- but...the husband was the one betraying you.

[@brandiphillips5775]

As a woman, I would never step into another woman's marriage and I find those women disgusting. However, if it happened to me, I would say nothing, change my locks, neatly pack his crap and put it on the porch with pictures of the them together. And all that would be after I had filed for divorce and had tons of proof. If I ever ran into the other woman, I would thank her for taking out my trash.

[@TheTruthHurts6666]

I agree. I have a coworker who told me when she got cheated on, she mainly spoke about attacking the other woman. Of course she was upset with her ex husband, but I find it odd that she mainly talked about how she tried to get back at the other woman while she was still staying with the man.

[@sylvia8112]

Man is mostly too blame, but you don't have to exchange the vows to know what is morally acceptable and wrong. Your attitude is purely selfish and immature. Having sex with married man or the man who has family is wrong regardless. Seems like you were in the other woman shoes since you defend such a bad behaviour.

[@willothewispl]

@@brandiphillips5775 Exactly.

[@willothewispl]

@@TheTruthHurts6666 I would never do that. She can have him, let her suffer now.

[@MKSpeakz]

Following thirst traps and liking inappropriate photos is a huge red flag

[@nothemba1982]

I ignored this in the past 😩.Lesson learned.

[@xXItstrayceceXx]

Omg yes it was so hard for me to accept because he never hid his phone and did it openly and instead gaslit how I felt

[@danieller3450]

It’s seriously so frustrating. The last two men I’ve been in a relationship would do things like following and liking the thirst traps. There were days where it would be 3pm and I hadn’t heard from him, but was able to see the constant bikini pictures liked by him all morning and all afternoon. I brought it up to him and he broke up with me at midnight - - the night before he was coming in town to meet my family and go on our family vacay together. But I’m the problem!!!!! Lol. 💁🏻‍♀️

[@mundanelingo]

I'm sorry but what is thirst traps? :(

[@rabiahussain1842]

'Sexy' photos posted on social media

[@DavidJohnson-gx6me]

Some men just don't know how lucky they are I've been married 25 years and still love my wife as much as the day we met. the good and bad times we beat them together couldn't imagine life without her

[@Lauren-i8i]

DAVID JOHNSON - 👏👏👏 The world needs MORE good men like you to speak out about the benefits of fidelity!

[@BunnyRabit-yo3lx]

She's very lucky ❤.

[@ha8236]

Those kinds of men should never get married, if your not done playing the field, don't settle.

[@laniahg1292]

EXACTLY

[@tinanguyen9638]

Well said 👌🏻🙌🏼

[@jenneh.s649]

Not all cheaters want to play the field, some just want to be worship, be the number one and when they don't have it, they look for it somewhere else.

[@bluebird4902]

They usually can’t play the field that’s why they try to keep one woman around at at times and then cheat if there’s an opportunity here and there

[@ha8236]

@@jenneh.s649 yes that also exists, the need to seek constant validation.

[@xotennisxgirlox]

People cheat because they want something they can’t have. Doesn’t matter what their partner is like. They can be stunning inside and out. People get bored and then want to partake in something inappropriate to get a thrill by chasing someone else they know they shouldn’t. It’s like people who save up to buy a new car, are happy for a day, and then want to buy a new house. There will always be something more. There will always be something better. If you’re that kind of person, don’t be in a relationship. It’s super easy to not be in a relationship. It’s 2021. Screw a different person every day. It doesn’t matter. But don’t tell someone you love them and then chase after someone else. If you’re not happy, leave. That’s it.

[@vivek27789]

True.. Very True...A person's heart is not something to play with just for fun or just for the thrill of it.

[@nicolecocoxoxo]

I love you for this comment. When u said -it’s 2021 u can screw someone everyday if u want, don’t tell someone u love them if u wanna chase after someone else, if ur not happy jjust leave……thank you, bc sometimes I think I’m crazy for feeling this same way. Feel like no one can stay faithful anymore

[@lisacranmer8005]

@@nicolecocoxoxo what is done in the dark with due time will be brought out to light, Jeh God has a plan for those who harm the innocent, they will reap what they sow...What does not kill you makes you stronger and more of a hero than a zero....

[@djkreigline2760]

Djk33❤😍😘 you have a boyfriend how old you are

[@malongmalay4075]

So true,they won’t stop if they haven’t been enough

[@BattGoods]

Watching this as a Male, it’s so Informative and makes me think on how I can treat my love better, not saying I’m doing anything like wrong but just the thought process and signs of the female mind can really be helpful emotionally

[@brielleimana1408]

More men need to be like you 🎉🎉👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@bhavyarawat9842]

So happy men like you exist 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@no-wun]

the "female mind"?? there is no female mind the same way there's no male mind. everybody is different. although i empathize with this woman & her horrible experience there are things that are red flags to her that i don't care about & i'm a female. every woman has a different mind that functions differently there is no "female mind" we aren't dogs.

[@AbhinavChoudharyOfficial]

better talk to your SO cause every person is different

[@ritah4713]

@daManonthehill lol sounds like you think that you're the good man that's being passed up. You're probably not good just probably entitled.

[@angieholland9648]

Number 2# is classic gaslighting. Making you feel like your intuition is garbage and you’re acting crazy when you know your eyes and ears aren’t lying to you.

[@hoppergrasa]

red flag number one: athletes... no seriously. Every single athlete guy I've known has always been unfaithful. They're only as faithful as their options, and athletes tend to have many. Musicians too.

[@hydeperv]

Can confirm the musicians thing 😂

[@creamerasant]

What about actors?

[@marinevaletudie9617]

@@creamerasant same 😂 everything in the entertainment industry

[@playmasterangie]

extremely attractive people too cause they know they are attractive and use it to their advantage

[@hajeraa]

you shouldn’t generalize. i personally know hockey and soccer professionals players and they can be really faithful. it really depends who you connect with.

[@ASMRA33]

I'm so sorry you went through this..being gaslighted is SOOO underrated as a form of mental and emotional abuse. It can turn a very trusting/loving/easygoing person into a person that is insecure and broken. God Bless you and I'm so glad you're doing well!

[@loungewear13]

I think you mean highly overlooked not underrated. Something underrated has inherent value whereas I think you intended it to mean gravity or weight.

[@ASMRA33]

@@loungewear13lol

[@reneef.874]

Very true. Dealing with this now. I'm severely broken and it's been a big challenge to heal.

[@jojoc326]

Agreed 100%. I speak by experience. WOMEN UNITE!!!

[@tinadraper9143]

Exactly, I told my husband if he ever wanted out or someone else to please let me know bc I didn't want to be with anyone who didn't want me but he pretended so well to love me while telling all his side chicks he didn't want me but I wouldn't let him leave and I was cheating on him, it was so humiliating bc he told our friends the same thing. I was so embarrassed I didn't think anyone would want me after that plus he put unflattering pics of me on fb saying this is what she looks like without makeup on but it didn't work bc I'm still getting asked out 2 years later but I don't want to trust anyone yet.

[@ChrisaMavraki]

So this guy found a stunning girl like you AND you were paying for him And he cheated on you? Lol the nerve

[@norlinz6660]

that’s all “most” 🙄 men have. the AUDACITY

[@kim8dk]

Obviously it's not that simple. You don't know what happened.

[@Ohkeh640]

@@norlinz6660 it’s funny because it’s true 😂

[@amandaclark2340]

Just goes to prove it's the person who cheats that is the issue. U can be a beautiful person in all ways a dysfunctional person is gonna cheat n any time thinking u weren't good enough is just wasted time coming back to knowing U R BOSS. AND... cuz of this ur even more strong n beautiful

[@kim8dk]

@@amandaclark2340 There could be a million reasons. Maybe he didn't feel loved, or maybe she was never home or distant or maybe putting him down. Just putting it down to "the cheater is always just dysfunctional" sounds a bit like someone who doesn't want to admit their own contributions. Cheating is never okey but usually it's not just a one sided issue.

[@kjl6039]

My husband and I have always known each other’s passwords and we have never been protective over our phones. Being secretive about a phone is definitely the number one sign of cheating! Those who have nothing to hide, hide nothing.

[@TheMspoodle2]

You're watching her video because you have a gut feeling about your own man

[@denaemejia4751]

Lol my soon to be Ex Husband always had an open phone policy, but he is a talented serial cheater I later learned. He doesn't need a phone to cheat, just a willing warm body. Many serial cheaters don't waste time with texting etc they get down to business fast with no audit trail

[@djv8323]

Or they have a 2nd phone. True story

[@fanichita]

I have no need for my husbands phone password. I trust him.

[@insha7556]

What is a relationship without trust. If they're deciding you, the truth will come out eventually. They're only digging their own grave, so be present and positive

[@LeonardEarnshaw]

There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; they're all unique. What works for Adam may not necessarily work for Peter. Nonetheless, I've learned that there's always a solution to every problem. Five years ago, my wife and I were on the verge of divorce due to challenges in our marriage, but we managed to reconcile. It was a tough time, but we persevered.

[@BruceKnapp-n4q]

The significance of your words is not lost on me, and I genuinely hope my feelings resonate with yours. Despite our current physical distance, I cannot conceive of my life without her; my love for her is deep-rooted. I yearn for her return, and I'm committed to doing whatever it takes to make it happen. We've explored different paths, including therapy, in our journey toward reconciliation.

[@LeonardEarnshaw]

Letting someone you deeply care for go is always difficult, but in my scenario, I was fortunate to have the counsel of a spiritual mentor who preserved the unity of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

[@BruceKnapp-n4q]

Thank you for this direction. I'll swiftly seek her out online. I appreciate it. I'm hopeful that following this course of action will yield results for me as well; her absence weighs heavily on my heart.

[@LeonardEarnshaw]

You definitely should... I promise you will not regret it.

[@steffsrzz4971]

I feel like people that cheat are so insecure and have low self esteem. They need constant attention and validation to keep them happy. Ppl like that seek ppl or things to stay happy bc they don’t realize it’s starts within. Ppl like that may never realize it and they cannot be helped or changed unless they want to change themselves.it’s really sad.

[@amandaleighplans]

This is spot on. My ex literally admitted to this being the reason they cheated. Because I didn’t give them enough attention and they craved / “it felt good” to have someone fawning over them

[@steffsrzz4971]

@@amandaleighplans so sad, and honestly those type of men almost never change. They have a complex and need therapy.

[@dreamwishergirl]

I think most of cheaters have NPD !

[@Sei1989]

AKA "Narcissistic Supply"

[@farahwork2552]

Yup I love how this mindset (the sensical one) is slowly becoming more dominant in society as opposed to the mind numbing “sHe wAsnT gOoD eNouGh fOr hEr mAn” bs we are constantly fed.

[@lunalove9395]

I never understand why girls DM another girl if their partner is liking their pics, saying they should block them...surely they should just call their partner out and tell them it makes them uncomfortable? especially when blocking won't do much - they'll just find another girl to thirst-like over.

[@CatsInHats-S.CrouchingTiger]

Guys will gaslight and then tell their girl that they’re crazy. Being told you’re crazy is the first step towards the destruction of the trust in a relationship. That’s another warning sign. So if a girl gets in touch with you, it’s to let you know your guy is not being loyal. (Women should have each other’s back)

[@lunalove9395]

@@CatsInHats-S.CrouchingTiger I know - I don't mean if a girl hits up another girl to say 'hey, your boyfriend is cheating on you' (I agree that women should have each others backs). I mean when the girl with the boyfriend, hits up another girl (who probably doesn't even know the girl or boyfriend and has never interacted them) all 'my boyfriend is liking photos of you so please block him'.

[@TaraHower]

I notice a lot of guys manipulate their girlfriends to where they feel insecure to speak up. They feel like they are just insecure women when really their partner isn’t cultivating security. It’s twisted hut I see a lot of guys doing that.

[@tinadraper9143]

When you're younger you don't understand that, you realize it when you get older.

[@Sweetieee]

If you’ve been with a narcissist you can relate so hard to this When she said it broke her on a cellular level 🙌🏻🙌🏻 I felt like a shell of a person after my ex

[@amandamc6569]

Me too 😭😭😭 I feel like a spark in me is forever gone

[@pattilightmayo]

Same. 😩 I’m still picking up the pieces.

[@-A-09]

This hits home so hard 💔💔

[@willothewispl]

I sid for a long time, but once I understood narcissm and had therapy and talked to God I am coning outbof it a lot better now. Was not a nice place to be.

[@willothewispl]

Geez sorry about the spelling mistakes. Sleepy. 😁

[@Shan-ShanH]

If a person cheats, it has nothing to do with you their partner working a lot of hours. It is a flaw in the person’s character. His new wife is now married to A CHEATER. It WILL happen because it’s in his character.

[@Shan-ShanH]

@coco marineblu Then they should change. If they don’t, it’s in the character.

[@Lauren-i8i]

People CAN change. It’s not true that ALL cheaters will do it again. SOME people learn the lessons about their stupid, selfish and destructive behavior.

[@LifeisaBeautifulting]

If a person cheats once they can change. If they cheat in every relationship they're in, then it's safe to say there's a character flaw

[@wendy_lynn]

My ex husband also cheated and 100% the sudden hiding of the phone was one of the biggest flags. Of course though according to him I was always the crazy one for thinking this way…..

[@Dragonfly_magictarot]

Gaslighting is real

[@Lauren-i8i]

👉CHEATING 101 👈 (Written by a Betrayed in Many Relationships.) As soon as they call you ‘CRAZY’ the next thought would be: ‘HE’S DEFINITELY CHEATING!’ Calling you ‘Crazy’ is Rule #1 when a cheater is trying to get the attention off of HIM. This type of gaslighting happened to me when I was young & dumb. It initially caused me to doubt my intuition. 😂 Now I see it’s just a pathetic tactic used by a cheater who was clearly 100% a LOSER. Whenever they think you are on their trail, they turn the tables and try to put the spotlight on YOU. For people high on the scale of Narcissism, if they can also get YOU to apologize for your ‘sin’ of accusing them - they WON THE LOTTERY. Cheaters are MASTER liars and manipulators. That goes double if they are high on the scale of Narcissism.

[@chimakwaprettyboy4186]

I’m actually going thru this now. My gut is telling me as well was I’m a firm believer in ‘Actions speak louder than words’ and his actions are speaking loud. He knows how to talk himself out of situations so I am taking time for myself to mentally prepare, practice, rehearse and then let him know it’s time to part our ways. I’m exhausted. Thank you Robbi for taking the time to open yourself up and enlighten me. 🙏💕

[@RobbiJan]

Sending you love and hugs. You got this 💚💚💚

[@deevee8595]

Good luck ☺️

[@sixteen.candles.4644]

Yup they do.

[@tinadraper9143]

Yes! If I could do it all over again I would've handled myself better and with grace and walked away and healed like a boss instead of posting all these memes about being hurt bc I didn't know until my sister in law told me that him and his mistress followed me from a fake account and talked about me and were saying "she needs to get over it already" why on earth would a husband and his mistress follow the ex wife? Sounds like their evil together, she is married too.

[@anishafrancisfernandise1628]

Babe trust your gut it's your second brain I realised it later in my relationship but still got out of it when I had the time.

[@alexcosta]

Proud of you! Now you don’t have to worry anymore 😁

[@kennetha6423]

My man 👊🏼

[@ghaziii3412]

sus

[@Userinhills]

Here’s our gentleman

[@Sebastian_253]

Take good care of her❤️❤️

[@rojitahd2385]

Simp

[@Shan-ShanH]

Men cheat on beautiful woman like you, which just goes to show that cheating is a character flaw. It’s in a person’s nature.

[@Shan-ShanH]

@Jefparkn then they should not have gotten married. Unless they married a woman who doesn’t care. Just don’t be a liar. Tell women who you are and let them decide. There ARE skanky women out there. There ARE women who don’t value themselves.

[@Shan-ShanH]

@Jefparkn Then the responsibility of women to have nothing to do with them. And they choose cheaters, then they can’t complain.

[@Shan-ShanH]

@Jefparkn Who said it was the woman’s fault? I said IT IS THE RESPONSIBILITY OF WOMEN TO HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH CHEATING MEN. If a woman CHOOSES a cheater, then she is ABSOLUTELY responsible for having A MAN WHO CHEATS. Ya know, because she PICKED a man who cheats. Not a hard concept to understand. A woman is not responsible if a man cheats, but she IS responsible to choose a man who is not a known cheater.

[@Shan-ShanH]

@Jefparkn WHEN you know. If you stay, you’re not a victim, you’re volunteer.

[@dsmith9709]

She said she was paying his expenses. That's not what men want. She should allowed him to figure his way . She was playing the male role and doing so femenise the guy. He felt useless in that relationship. Men like to give and love when women receive with appreciation. Women should never give to guys. Plus she was 20 when she got married. That's too young.

[@mohamgghar3736]

I just went through something similar for 3 years. The biggest lesson I’ve learned is that once you see a pattern it is extremely unlikely it’ll change. No one can change a person’s harmful behavior but themselves. And if they are continuing to do something that means it works for them, it’s to their advantage and to your disadvantage.

[@amirzarrin4567]

Glad it’s not Alex

[@jorgelg175]

I was so scared

[@chethannagaraj2285]

Alex is our man and he would never cheat on Robbi😁

[@willothewispl]

Just finished a so called relationship with a man that just could not stop cheating. Seven years of emotional and verbal abuse. Finally cut him completely out of my life. He was stunned, could not understand why. Thank you Father in Heaven for giving me the strength to cut every tie and vet away. Now I have staryed a beautiful new life.

[@willothewispl]

@Jefparkn No never again. I am free.

[@mediocrebankai]

I did the same and felt like i had six years of my young years taken from me. He never admitted any wrongdoing. I never looked back, and now I am happier than ever. Best wishes for you and your new, happy life!

[@willothewispl]

@@mediocrebankai Thank you, best wishes also to you mediocre. Doesn’t it feel wonderful to be free.

[@vme6892]

I went through that too. The sun will always shine again, even if it takes years!

[@LuisChivas13]

Went through something similar. Took 3 years to work through it. Now I'm honestly trying to rebuild my life at 28. Thank you for sharing your story and letting me know that things will get better. Wish you and Alex the best!

[@michellealder69]

Sorry for what u went through, it happened to me 14 years ago, (2kids 14 years) My eldest Brother said to me at the time what doesent kill u makes u stronger, and can I just tell u it is so True .

[@untipocualquiera2203]

How are you guys doing today?

[@RhiReviews]

The secrecy with the phone is a huge one for me! I had a few dodgy ex’s, and personally was never one to be interested in looking at their phone. But I noticed with two of my ex’s, they were very careful to not leave their phone lying around, and did similar things - like the facing away to respond to a text. It always ended up making me want to check their phone, and sure enough, both times I then found evidence of cheating. I’ve been with my hubby for 11 years now, and I never feel the need to look at his phone period, nor do I want to even out of curiosity! I think if you’re feeling the need to check your partners phone, then there is def red flags!

[@antonio77italy]

I could feel your pain through your body language. You're strong!

[@lunaferreiradossantos435]

Ela terminou o relacionamento foi?

[@carsv.2501]

He was defenatly cheating… All the signs were there… If he is hiding his phone, he’s cheating…

[@Mali-qw7hx]

Well not quite. I got nudes of me flexing after the gym and I immediately said no to my gf who wanted to check my phone. So not always but most probably.

[@carsv.2501]

@@Mali-qw7hx Most for sure, because that's exactly what my Ex used to do, and was caught.... Now my current, makes sure I've got access to everything( including passwords), etc... Which is how it should be. You are one of few who hasn't alternate intentions when doing that...

[@artsyhyd]

Also some ppl have 2 phones or even more 😂

[@14loveuall]

I dont check the cellphone of my husband. I find this very sick. I dont let my husband watch my cellphone, not because Im hiding something, just because I have my privacy!!! And Im sure he also wants his.

[@Mali-qw7hx]

@@14loveuall I love that answer. I totally agree with you on that. Everyone should have their privacy and if you dont trust a person to the point you demand to check their phone then you shouldnt even be with that person.

[@fallongranger7576]

I love how respectful you are towards the person who cheated and lied to your face that just shows what a great person you are and you deserve sooo much better. I subscribed aswell :)

[@CyborgNinja86]

It takes an incredible amount of strength and courage to be this open and honest about such a dark, painful time of your life. You're built different. I'm happy that you chose to learn from this experience and became an even better person and moved forward.

[@selahdiamond4465]

Guys can’t be just friends with women they’re attracted to

[@user-wl1tj9mw6l]

Say it louder for people in the back

[@kimberlyholt1497]

My dad told me this when I was in high school. Then he taught me how to change my tire so i would never NEED a man lol

[@Swiss_Girl]

What I‘ve learned after my fiance cheated on me, is, trust your cut! Its always, always right.☀️

[@vanessaanders1619]

If I know I guy that is cheating on his fiance.. should I tell her?

[@Swiss_Girl]

@@vanessaanders1619 I would tell him, he has to tell her, if not, you will!

[@vanessaanders1619]

@Swiss_Girl I don't want problems with him tho. I was hoping he would tell her... but it been years. I kinda wanna have someone else tell her

[@Swiss_Girl]

@@vanessaanders1619 oh no, thats hard. I wonder if she deep down knows? I had a bad feeling… or maybe tell her: someone you know saw him with another girl, but you are not sure, if it was him… kinda like that? but she deserves to know😢💔

[@vanessaanders1619]

@Swiss_Girl Maybe ... I just dont want the backlash of the drama. Plus some women are dumb enough to stay

[@kellyandlexiheartu]

My last breakup tore me up, similar situation. Today looking back it was the best thing that happened to me and propelled me into the best version of myself. I shed so many layers and weight that were holding me back within the relationship i didn’t even realize. Becoming so powerful within myself and by myself is the most validating thing I could’ve ever done!!! So grateful i was strong enough to walk away it’s so worth it

[@lasagnewolf]

I was married for 6 years, actually together for 4.5 years, we have 2 kids together. He cheated twice and tried to blame me both times.(he was very abusive) I use to be so angry and bitter about the other woman and I blamed her too. But after healing/moving forward I realize I feel sorry for her, to feel that low or have that shitty of morals that helping another person cheat on someone, it must be a lonely life. I also feel sorry for him, if we didn't have kids together I would never have contact with him.

[@chrisw9122]

It's not the other woman's fault. The person you married betrayed you...not her.

[@issatagibateh9107]

@@chrisw9122 exactly that’s so true these married men act like they single but really married and they out here cheating on there marriage. So sad and disrespectful to the spouse which means they don’t have respect for the self or there wife’s.

[@i_comment_on_everything]

Wow what a fu*king piece of s*it. Cheating on the mother of his children. Also.. Once a cheater, always a cheater i hope he cheats on that piece of trash as well

[@tinadraper9143]

So true, his current gf stalks me on fb, she likes my pics, she probably thinks she won a prize, I left his ass after the 5th woman I caught him sexting and for 7 years every time he gets drunk he begs me to come back but I've never told his GF, he tries to hoover me by having the kids ask me to eat thanksgiving with them, nope, I'm glad I left and the kids never witnessed the abuse, he hit me once when I was pregnant and another time while I was holding our 2 yr old daughter.

[@lasagnewolf]

@@chrisw9122 I'm aware that it's him, and him alone.

[@Anna-fw7lm]

The faster they 'recover', the more desperate they're.

[@tayhuiyun7238]

Omg so true!!!!

[@Canthavemybones]

Wow never thought about that. Comparing notes and you're so right🤔

[@msroflmao5]

so true! my trash ex had a gf right away like a month after we broke up but he would still text me, call me from an unknown number and even though I already changed my number so many fckn times, idk how he would still figure it out and bother me. He got “engaged” to the girl right away too 🤣 and I’m already in a happy relationship and he would still bother me and even my bf now. What a trash.

[@Elliecham]

It's because it bruises their ego, they don't actually want you back, they want power over you and feel validated again by them running back to him.

[@CC-kr3mr]

Thank you for sharing your story. If you just smoke that someone is cheating on you just please say that your phone died and ask if you can borrow their phone for a moment to make a call. Their response and willingness to give you their phone and the way they act, including their body language or hesitancy to give up their phone. Will tell you everything that you need to know.

[@insha7556]

This sounds painful. It takes courage to leave someone. I read somewhere that ending a trauma bond is like withdrawing from drugs. It takes courage to stand your ground and stick with your decision. Proud of you gorgeous! You deserve much much better

[@tinadraper9143]

I stayed drunk for 6 months bc I couldn't handle it, I finally healed and saw a pic of him in my memories yesterday and cried for the first time in a long time. I was married to a lie, he pretended to love me but secretly hated me and told people awful rumors about me while we were married and I didn't find out til after plus he was taking his mistress around our friends and justified it by saying I was cheating on him. I don't know who I was married to, for real sleeping with the enemy.

[@kaitsommer]

My brother is going through this exact thing, I’m so sorry you have to go through this. You’re such a strong woman and you WILL be ok. Keep your attitude positive as possible and remember it’s ok to express your emotional rollercoaster you’ll go through in your time of healing. Just keep your friends and family close and you will be ok girl ❤️

[@arijeetmajumdar33]

My ex cheated on me as well ! It sucks ! I avoid the early signs, that was my mistake.

[@Ohkeh640]

You live and you learn hun

[@kjl6039]

I think it is wonderful that you have been able to let go of the hate and anger. The woman who cheats with a married man is just as horrible of the husband. She is knowingly participating in destroying a family. The person that is willing to have an affair with a married person can never be trusted.

[@graceedit1]

naaaw I really liked this video I went though a break up recently first time ever being cheated and lost hair too, I still tried after he cheated but yeh health is more important I was too stressed and panic attacks all the time cause of and he kept small things here and there. It was horrible idk why I stayed. Now with a super nice handsome guy who treats me like a queen and more! it kinda feels like this guy is making up for everything I ever through in the past and making it all worth the journey. I struggled with trust big time after my ex, thats why took me years to even let him into my life as a romantic partner but he never gave up on me. Its amazing how life turns out when at the time you think it will never be good again.

[@RobbiJan]

PROUD 👏🏽 OF 👏🏽 YOU 💜 so glad you’re being treated the way you deserve

[@amyleigh3277]

As someone who married young at 20 this felt too familiar. I was cheated on a couple years in, and it was devastating. I am now divorced and appreciate you sharing your story.

[@jessica3218]

Why marry so young. That’s not good imo. I’m really sorry you got cheated on.

[@mr_x718]

I don't think i will be able to talk about my breakup like you. You are really brave and strong..!!✨✨

[@nnicollan]

Its very important for women to be transparent because theres a growing number of incels who think men are victims and women get everything for free

[@jessahgase6919]

Forrealll👏

[@bluebird4902]

Haha all they will say is that she married chad and that’s why she got cheated on

[@vme6892]

You are so right! Wow!

[@rubenangelmartinez2952]

The Red Flags 🚩 1. Extreme secrecy 4:17 2. Being very defensive 5:11 3. Family/Friends opinion on them/doesn't like them 6:15 4. Partner is manipulative 6:15 5. Does your partner make you a better person 6:35 6. Dramatic changes in sexual activity 7:25 7. Inappropriate with other women 8:10 Good luck with Alex Robbie. I wish you both the best and I hope this new story of yours has a happy ending. ❤

[@nawailanellym.2557]

8.They affect your physical health.

[@janicegingerich3731]

Thank you for this!!🤩

[@ariemarie3202]

Sooo sorry you went through this love. I was married young and we divorced as well when I was only 22. We went to school together, same friends - all that good wholesome stuff. It was devastating when it ended. Its been over a decade and I still have moments where I genuinely miss him and wonder what our life would have been like. I often wonder what he is doing now. However, he wasn't faithful. I always went to bed earlier than him (he was a late-night gamer) and he would come and tuck me in all sweetly every night only to go back to his office afterwards and be adulterous. Online chats, phone sex, video chats... all behind my back. The things that hurts the most is him kissing me goodnight and telling me he loves me every night knowing damn well what he was going to go do afterwards. It made it so so so hard to trust anyone after that. But, like you, I learned a lot from it. Such is life, eh.

[@vme6892]

I understand.

[@playdearbird]

holy shit that hurts. ugh... i hope your life is better without him.

[@manicpixiecoffeelovr]

you made the right decision to divorce him and not stay….it’s devastating

[@mittag983]

It only made me do the same to an innocent man :( cheating messes you up I cheated on my latest ex with a woman not only because I'm gay but because I thought men are okay with cheating they all cheat it's no big deal all my straight relationships just made me hate men sm

[@untipocualquiera2203]

Such is life, im feeling this way right now. How can someone Can be so sweet then Cheat on you??? Leave your dreams, your life, your dogs… everything. But sometimes i miss her, sometimes i dont. I was amazed when i realized. Suddenly my love of my live wasnt even there anymore. Just a shell of something i loved

[@rubykaur4406]

When situations break you down on a cellular level, the only choice is to build yourself back up, from a cellular level 💗💗💗

[@Lauren-i8i]

Agree 100% - I couldn’t have done it without Jesus. 💕 “I can do ALL things through Christ.” - Philippians

[@oinammartin1121]

My girlfriend also was cheated by her ex. Now I am here she don't have to worry anymore. I love her truly and also from my upbringing I can't do any such thing to her. I lover her and God bless us🙏

[@Sapere_aude_Trottel]

God bless you

[@SM01999]

You're glowing girl !! It's obvious, you've grown and you're finding your self, heart and soul. The best is yet to come ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@linchun5368]

You’re so gorgeous I can’t believe someone would cheat on you , something is clearly wrong with him I’m happy that you’re in a better and healthier space

[@Lauren-i8i]

Surprisingly, cheating has little to do with physical appearance. More than one Psychologist has said the other woman is usually a downgrade from the Wife. Clearly, one has to feel somewhat attracted to someone for this evil to happen - but cheating is often more about connection, validation and feeling (so-called) ‘loved’ 🤢 than it is about physical appearance. Dr. Phil’s episodes on Mistresses shows how scarily average and unattractive these women really are. Out of YEARS of studying infidelity I have NEVER seen any other woman who was above a ‘6’ (and that’s being generous.) They seem to usually be average looking and sometimes scarily unattractive. NONE of the numerous other women I have seen would turn anyone’s head out in public. NONE of them would be hired for modeling jobs! The main draw of these women is: - They give the cheater attention and - They’ll participate in Adultery. TRAITS OF A MISTRESS: 1. Desperate enough to drop their previously held values. 2. Lonely because they can’t get a man of their own. 3. Low self esteem. 4. Broken. Men don’t cheat on their Wives because SHE is not enough. They cheat because THEY are not enough. No one is perfect. Cheaters use the Wife’s faults as justification for what they KNOW is wrong. Cheaters need serious therapy because are broken people, too. Cheating is SICK and SAD and DESTRUCTIVE. NO ONE wins in an affair. Only 3% of Mistresses marry the cheater. Over 85% of those marriages end in divorce. With odds like that, anyone would be as dumb as a box of rocks to think having an affair would be a good idea. The problem is, these people are NOT thinking logically because they are being led by EMOTIONS. GET A CLUE PEOPLE. HAVING AN AFFAIR CAN VERY LIKELY WRECK YOU! Consider yourself warned.

[@Hey_its_Dre]

Robbi - this sounds so painful to go through and so brave of you to discuss. When someone is with a person beautiful inside and out - and still cheats, it speaks volumes about their character. God bless the broken road! I was in a long term relationship with someone who I constantly caught in lies. I used to be paranoid that he was cheating on me - until one day I realized that it didnt matter. No matter if he did or didn’t cheat I trusted in myself that I would always be okay. “A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking because her trust is not in the branch, but in her own wings.” 🌈

[@billerin7995]

Youre amazing. he's probably looking at you right now and feeling like he loss a lottery. Alex is looking to be a very healthy partner.

[@jennyduhle5857]

Hello do you need help ? I can recommend you to someone that helpe eme restore back my broken marriage and he can also help you as he did mine too

[@BunnyJedi]

My wound is still fresh, it happened 2 days ago and he is now in a psychiatric hospital. I’m just glad to know I’m not alone. ❤

[@soursweetgone1998]

Thank you for your vulnerability; it's such a gift to the world.

[@henrycollins2478]

Massive respect for talking about this.

[@maggvmay]

It’s so beautiful to see you smile about the good parts in your relationship even though it was traumatic it shows you truly healed 💗💕

[@djkreigline2760]

Djk33❤😍😘 you have a boyfriend how old you are

[@marthah4499]

Thank you! For you posting this video. I am divorced from a 30 year Marriage and it’s so wonderful to know that this is temporary, not looking for anyone yet but you have given me hope..☺️

[@delaneyrutgers3389]

First time seeing your videos… just wanted you to know that a stranger is proud of you and the energy you’re putting out into the world:)

[@djkreigline2760]

Djk33❤😍😘 he have a boyfriend how old you are

[@aledg25]

This woman is a prime example of how anyone can get cheated on. It doesn’t matter how attractive you are, even for men. People are never satisfied smh

[@alexanderbrown2717]

Agreed. I’m going through divorce absolutely horrible . Thank God for Jesus✝️♥️kzbin.info/www/bejne/ipOWgmekh7adjLs

[@Lauren-i8i]

Cheaters are greedy and they always want MORE. More variety, more options, more frequent s*x, etc. This is exactly why women say men are pigs!

[@arnazmaryam539]

He was my first love, really thought this could go somewhere. but my loyalty and understanding-ness blinded me to situations common sense would've helped me walk out from

[@prajwaljoshi8902]

Damn you have gone through a lot and you have a lot of courage to come sit in front of a camera and talk about your darkest days hats off to your mental strength

[@PrincessOceanna]

How gracious, you have more class in your pinky than the 2 could ever have in their whole life time. What an extremely difficult journey, and its sad you had to go through that, but I am so happy for your happiness now. This is my first video I've watched from you and just wanted to say that I appreciate how genuine you are.

[@MissAllaCinderella]

My family LOVED my abusive narcissistic ex (and encouraged me to stay with him)… however, they didn’t like the new guy I dated because he was a Jehovah’s Witness (but always treated me with respect and love… even when I knew I didn’t deserve it). Hard to trust others opinions after that…

[@reneef.874]

Same thing with my family, but my family has narcissism as well so I see why. They knew what he was doing and didn't hold him accountable, just swept it under a rug and acted like nothing happened or tried to make it seem like it was my fault.

[@lisacranmer8005]

Remember that no one can judge others if not in your shoes .Being a Jeh witness does not have 💯 percent perfection, The facts that he treats you well speaks about who HE is as a person, Jeh does not want any to suffer being in these days, if you are doing what Bible says there will be peace in your relationship...not all who are Jeh's witness follow what Bible says, you become one, as you leave your mother and father to build your own house..many times things happen for a reason and what is done in the dark will come out sooner or later...

[@jessglam]

But you do deserve it love that’s why he does it! I’m a Jehovah’s Witness too and my hubby isn’t but always remember that as long as we love God and do his will he will bless our marriage and even if it’s not easy because no one is perfect , trying to become better people everyday will help us have that happy life. It’s a work in progress everyday.

[@lisacranmer8005]

@@jessglam Thank you my sister....We have to be there for ea other in these days...You would think I was with a non jw than a JW.... Thank Jeh God I remained firm...The example of the bird catcher came to mind...how much is swept under the rug, but with the strong sister's That have held me up for years I am still going strong...💪.

[@kevincarvalho363]

It must have taken so much of courage and strength for you to speak about this topic publicly. You don’t have to worry about-feeling-that way again because Alex is honestly amazing! Take care and stay blessed Robbi ❤️ Also, please convey my best to Alex as wel😊

[@beccavry]

I admire your approach to the other woman, keeping the mentality/focus on who you DID have a relationship with.

[@jackpetersen7545]

Becca Vry,You are beautiful 🌷,Hope you are with a good man!

[@Ohkeh640]

The fact he was from overseas too and you were playing for everything too. Defensive men who are manipulative are trash! Thank god it’s over and no more time wasters. Great informative video ♥️♥️♥️

[@natg3361]

Incredible advice, very thoughtful

[@jennifertroiano3271]

Thank you! You hit so so many REAL points. The manipulation struck such a chord with me. Being in a relationship with a narcissist is so damaging. That is who I think you were with and so was I. Awful!

[@adeoyeakim4038]

I know of a man who could help you restore back your relationship either your ex or soulmate

[@adeoyeakim4038]

He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex partner three days ago without delay

[@adeoyeakim4038]

Whtsaap him"**

[@adeoyeakim4038]

[phone]⏩⏩⏭⏭

[@aaliyahs9594]

Thank you for making this video I am currently going through this and we been together for about 4 years , I needed to see this

[@saharakarri6011]

You got this sis! Praying 4 you

[@sharroon7574]

Sometimes difficult situations hurt so much because they make you realise how selfish most people really are. It's just sad when you realise how rare people are that truly love you and will be there no matter what.

[@Lauren-i8i]

👏👏👏

[@missinfinite5360]

It’s always shocking to me when I hear stories like this from women as pretty as you! Glad you found yourself then found love again after heartbreak!

[@StylesT20]

Proud of this. Everyone wants to share their best moments on social media and make it seem like we dont go through bad things in life but you are actually keeping it real and being genuine 👏🏾

[@CindymeCindy]

At some point, if he hasn't already, your ex will see a hot picture of you and decide to call you just to see if you'll "do him" again. They are so predictable. They'll do you, cheating on their current relationship, then walk away from you again. I've seen it happen to a lot of girls. Don't ever let them come back.

[@vme6892]

I was cheated on and it is something I will never ever forget! Rule #1: We do not own anybody. People will do whatever they want to do at the end of the day.

[@itsaddieswrld]

This is why I’d never get married to begin with. It’s easier to heal if you’re just dating than being married. Plus you have to deal with divorce and that’s just too much work

[@meganmarino2012]

Exactly. I don’t think I could ever trust someone enough to sign a legal document 😂

[@lucykatherine4269]

Not true. My ex boyfriend hurt me more than my husband.

[@YashKumar-c1x]

​@@lucykatherine4269 i think from your look maybe the problem and cheater is you. You can't call other person cheater if you are also one.

[@sharnawillie3005]

Thank for being open, vulnerable & sharing your story to empower others !! Proud of you.

[@jennyduhle5857]

Hello to whom it may concern I can recommend you to someone that helpe dme restore back my broken relationship

[@jennyduhle5857]

Whtsapp him directly

[@javy8229]

It's hard to walk away but sometimes it's for the best when you're getting under appreciated. I just had to do this a couple of weeks ago with my son's mother. I wanted nothing but to be with her and it to work. I grew to know I left no stone unturned and was better off by myself. Thank you Robi for sharing ❤ 🙏

[@saga2828]

good to know there are decent men out there

[@javy8229]

@@saga2828 Appreciate that

[@BrinChan]

robbi is so pretty and she seems so genuine, like i really dont get who would even think or want to cheat on her ugh

[@Lauren-i8i]

Cheating usually isn’t about looks.

[@megsmcg1186]

This is the first vid of yours I've seen, but I'm sold on your honesty and wisdom. This is the best advice I've seen on the subject, and the fact that you ommitted the details instead of publicly putting that guy on blast speaks to your integrity. Keep that shit up girl, you earned a sub. 😊

[@lilylamble9749]

You nailed those red flags

[@mr_x718]

Waiting for a video which will have the title saying: Alex and i are married..!! 💖💖

[@mr_x718]

@Laaiba @fraasbutt "insta"

[@sarahpaira3380]

How can anyone even cheat on a woman like her goshhh she is so preety and graceful

[@Youtube_member]

Poor heart. 💔 I just can’t imagine the pain you have been through… You are the strongest woman talking about it now and sharing it with us as a lesson. Thank you. I’m so amazed by your attitude.

[@adeoyeakim4038]

I know of a man who could help you restore back your relationship either your ex or soulmate

[@adeoyeakim4038]

He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex partner three days ago without delay

[@adeoyeakim4038]

Whtsaap him"**

[@adeoyeakim4038]

[phone]⏩⏩⏭⏭

[@bei1016]

Your A Smart Girl. That was Excellent Advice. Red Flags Should Not Be IIgnored.

[@tatlivinlavida]

Never pay for a man !!!!! Omg when will we learn the lesson

[@shanikaanderson5599]

Truth!!!! Never pay!!

[@ameliebringgold4125]

I see girls still insisting on paying half on the first dates. They lost their minds.

[@steffsrzz4971]

I agree with this to a point. Once you get married finances change and everything becomes one. At least that’s what I believe and how I was grown up in. Everyone is different, but by the time marriage comes you usually know who that person is, we usually ignore the signs because love can be blinding.

[@barbie503]

He was a man at the first date, then he became your lover, your best friend, your confidant, someone who you shared your best, worst and silly moments with. Someone who pays for your things. So you can understand why a woman is willing to work to support a "man" who she loves. It sucks, but thinking this way brings understand to women who pay for their man

[@Dragonfly_magictarot]

Yup never 👎🏼

[@Dandelion333F]

I’ve been through the same thing and I’m so grateful I am no longer in that situation anymore. If you’re with someone who is being sneaky with their phone just leave right there and then. Please do not give them the benefit of the doubt or the chance to convince you that you’re crazy until you believe that you are and then end up spending years gaslighted to the point you have no self esteem.

[@michaelasnyder7858]

Mine had a porn addiction, it was the most traumatic thing I’ve ever gone through. It was hidden apps, photo galleries, constantly checking Instagram, multiple times a day, porn sites, Reddit etc.. it compounds to every aspect of your life

[@katg9608]

Bless you! My dad had a porn addiction that shook up my childhood.

[@Sadhrita2002]

Omg I can't even imagine what u had to go through u strong girl 👍👍👍👍keep goin

[@greentea8678]

I feel you Michaela. My ex did the same and I broke up with him. I can't deal with that hurt and betrayal. So painful and damaging.

[@MMAAQQ123]

I went through the same thing 😢

[@llamareacciones]

Im passing through same as you :( i feel so ugly and worthless :( thanks you for sharing this ❤

[@lydiacordero5245]

You are not , you are enough & time heals ♥️

[@fi-bi]

The problem is HIM. Give yourself a hug from me! 😊

[@User-q13-q13]

You are not worthless he is

[@nz7780]

Your strength and beauty shines through with all that you do! I cannot imagine how difficult it was making this video, let alone going through that, but I am grateful that you chose to learn from it and share it to help others. I am also happy to hear you have healed/are healing and that you are in a much better place now! I think it’s an incredible message to share with others going through the same.

[@thefinkeyfam]

The poor girl he married is such a fool 🤦🏻‍♀️😔 sorry this happened to you. ❤️

[@thesilenceoflife453]

My wife cheated on me too. We got divorced after 30 years. She now lives with her boyfriend abroad and I live with our son (18). We are still in contact and get along well so far. Still, it hurts.

[@Lauren-i8i]

I’m sorry to hear that. People can be self serving JERKS - and that includes ALL married women who cheat! That goes DOUBLE if they have kids!!! SHAME ON HER. Your boy is lucky to have you and it stinks that he has such a poor example for how women in the world can be. God bless you all. 💕

[@bozenawagner]

I mean..he will never find someone better than you remember that.You are beauty!!You go girl💪🏽💪🏽

[@mistysedillo1696]

You are wise beyond your years!💜

[@ephermeralexistence3980]

I was in a 11 year relationship with a very toxic person, it took a while to pick up all the red flags and I thought I was always crazy because she made me believe it was normal. Until I ran into ur video and it’s validated all the red flags were real. She cheated. And I made excuses to myself that she wasn’t. Thank u so much robbi for this video. ❤️🙏

[@naenaew.7442]

He Will, Do This To Her As Well... I'm Very Glad Your Good Now n Have Forgiven n Released This.. Blessings n Peace To You n Family

[@woman4163]

You are beautiful and he never deserved you. You are so much more important than he ever could have comprehended. I'm so sorry.

[@NavjotHothi17]

I just don’t get how could somebody cheat on her???

[@Ufuny]

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[@oliviajoy1589]

@Amy Bradley facts

[@amalamal2209]

@Amy Bradley exactly 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻

[@radar4536]

Why not? Looks are not enough in the long term.

[@radar4536]

There is something wrong in the relationship. Even though you don’t notice it.