Girls Dealing With Jerks

Clips from the movie Stepmom (1998) illustrate 2 different methods of dealing with inappropriate boys. Originally used in a post in the Empress Tea blog: Sexism, Objectification & Dealing with Assholes
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[@sheena9p90]

Isabelle did a really nice thing for her. ❤ she treated her like an actual daughter which I loved. She tried to help in her own way and the important thing is Anna really felt better after and it wasnt wrong....just a different approach. :)

[@patriottroll1764]

That little punk was pressuring her to do things she wasn't ready for. She taught her to stick up for herself.

[@sharonjensen3016]

That's Brad from "Home Improvement", isn't it? Thought he looked familiar.

[@marycanary]

It is?!

[@sharonjensen3016]

Sorry, my mistake. Turns out it's not. It just looks like him.

[@mangohaeppchen3447]

Nah, the step-mom did the right thing. Middle schoolers are brutal and don’t fight fair - you’ll just be left with scars if you don’t figure out how to get the upper hand.

[@marionarda2790]

It was elementary schoolers here

[@mangohaeppchen3447]

@@marionarda2790 Oh, they’re not yet 12? I thought they were at least that old.

[@marionarda2790]

@@mangohaeppchen3447 they were 6th graders so they might have been 11 or 12. Apparently some elementary schools go up to 7th grade

[@SleepyEyeglasses-us2tn]

In Oregon, the 6th grade is middle school, and most in most states, it's in middle school. Back in my day, it was grade school. Things change fast because 9th grade in the 70s was in junior high, not high school.

[@Ciclopea2]

I think both the mom and the stepmom are right in their approach, it's about when it's appropriate to apply either one, the default should be the most dignified way of the mom, but if it's costing you your peace of mind because the bullies won't leave you alone then the stepmom way is the way to handle them.

[@MA-dh4bk]

I always found Anna's friends cheering for her was so endearing and yet funny especially her friend that's like "WOOOOOO YOU RULEEEE" LOL I love it..great support and audience.

[@MsWarbucks]

My favorite lines from the movie... The choice... It seems to me you have a choice. You can either pretend to be an adult or you can actually be one. So, sit here in the cold crying by yourself... or... do something about it. Together. Jesus, how many grown-ups, nowadays, need to be reminded of that choice! Only many are not as smart or grown-up as Anna!

[@tyamkeaaskew]

When I was younger I always wanted to do this after seeing this😂

[@pattibrooks1907]

I used to be bullied as a kid too . Boys can be monsters .

[@yeshuasage3724]

Is there anyone who doesn't experience bullying?

[@nayelynunez6753]

Facts, next thing you know they have a crush on you and now they think have a chance soon as you glow up. Pathetic.

[@liamisaac1152]

@@yeshuasage3724 the bullies

[@yeshuasage3724]

@@liamisaac1152 wrong Over every domineering asshole, there’s an even more domineering asshole that has harmed him ESPECIALLY when they leave school and deal with even worse bullies on the streets or work place

[@drinasun6984]

Girls, too. They can be as vicious as boys.

[@exas4791]

Giving jackasses their comeuppance is very satisfying or necessary. However, sometimes learning to ignore people unworthy to be in your life, is important to cultivating inner strength and integrity when far more serious situations occur in adult life, which was what Jackie meant about learning to withstand peer pressure.

[@webelonghere]

Loved Julia Roberts in this movie

[@amandeepgahunia9985]

"I believe in a crisis you have the opportunity to learn something". "Winning without dignity and grace is not winning". "She has to figure out who she is so she can stand up to peer pressure...so she can steer her own course". There are two different ways to stand up to assert oneself. This is depicted through the step mom's lens and the mothers lens. The mother is trying to raise the daughter one way; and the stepmom has conflicting viewpoints. Very good way to depict relational harassment between the mother and step mother.

[@videohistory722]

Why exactly did she not point out that Anna DID do what Jackie said, and it got worse?

[@PeachWookiee]

Jackie wasn’t going to accept that at that moment.

[@swperlindah]

Jenna looks so nervous doing this scene.. and Susana's character is adorable.

[@sheena9p90]

They acted this scene out perfectly

[@mighty2487]

05:10 The Vines are singing m.kzbin.info/www/bejne/iGbUg56vgbRraKM

[@Butterflywings011]

I mean it worked. But it's sad, how the kids wouldn't leave Anna alone, till she lied, making everyone think she's dating someone. Which is something that still happens today...

[@Carebearlaine]

"Are you defending what you did?" "Right to the ground."😂 Amen

[@saradauchiha66]

But who is the gorgeous guy that pretend played her boyfriend he is cute

[@lataraleggat6202]

He is too cute and sexy too also

[@celestefrost770]

I just looked up snow blowing and i'm only 28 now. I still didn't know what it meant until today!!! LOL

[@jasminekoidhis2893]

@celeste frost "snowblowing" is a term an act during sex where a guy cums and spits it in there partner mouth they do this back and forth.

[@dity9442]

@@jasminekoidhis2893 What?! Gross! 🤢🤢🤮

[@rachelwyatt6030]

Jasmine Koidhis omg lol this was my favorite movie and I was afraid to look it up but I was always curious. Thanks for telling me even though it’s so nasty lol 🤢 😂

[@dabneyscholler8495]

I'm 34 and I had to look it up, that's gross!

[@rite2bcreative]

Haha I'm 29 and didn't know! I've just heard it called something else 😂

[@jonathanfunnell4167]

always hated that duncan fired isabelle

[@sheena9p90]

I loved Julia's character in this movie. Such a great actress. :)

[@bethgiani1213]

I love this part in the movie. Wish I could have stood up to the jerks in my life

[@sharonjensen3016]

Me too.

[@KatieLeeTitus]

I loved that part it was the best take that Brad!

[@CeltycSparrow]

Good for you, Ms. Anna. You showed that nasty bully who was boss. lol

[@sheiladevellis6176]

I wish I had a clever rouse like that in high school .

[@benkenobisgirl]

I learned about snow blowing through the movie Clerks. I wonder if that’s the movie she was talking about.

[@josephhernandez1885]

Jackie you are wrong!!!!! Isabelle did the right thing. You were playing the PG version which is the soft way to dealing with jerks. Isabelle taught Anna the tough way to deal with boys the right way. It's not like the principal overheard her and she's already in trouble for it. Her plan worked than yours!!!

[@pierre0227]

She taught Anna to stick up for herself but based off a lie. That’s not gonna work in every situation. The plan was clever in making the boy feel like a loser. Jackie just wants to what’s best for her kids.

[@scootergurl48]

Joseph Hernandez! Amen, I say the same thing. Isabel's idea really taught that little schmutz and his pals a lasting lesson. That this girl is a force to be reckoned with so look out. Jackie doesn't have to worry about all those parents calling her about 'snowblowing'. What kid that age goes to their parents and tells them about the new dirty jokes or words in school? No kid that age ever tells their parents about dirty words, jokes, phrases, books, movies, etc that the whole class has seen and heard. The Happy Hooker book got passed around to everybody in my fifth grade class and not even the teacher knew, much less the parents. Jackie can rant and rave until the roof caves in but the fact is Isabel was there to deal with the problem while Jackie couldn't for health reasons.

[@Meganquigs]

They had to be bitter characters bc of the story and it had to be portrayed how real people are like in those situations. The actors are just doing what the directors and producers want

[@hackerkeanu]

Young girl should respect her stepmom..

[@lezazhurkina2532]

i love this movie i remember before watching this movie as a teenager and having a crush on that model,that julia roberts hired to pretend to be her high school boyfriend. he is awfully cute

[@baggergurl16]

I know I'm probably missing the whole point of this scene but the part where Anna says me and my new boyfriend laugh our asses off every time we talk about you but if you talk to your new boyfriend about your ex wouldn't you be giving your new boyfriend the impression that your still hung up on your ex?To me that's dating 101.I don't know but I know Anna is just sticking it to that jerk Brad. Oh and that male model that Julia Roberts set Anna up with I think he's gorgeous still think he's gorgeous😍😍

[@scootergurl48]

That scene was just a setup to totally humiliate that blonde boy for calling her Frosty the Snow Bitch on the Friday before. The guy with the motorcycle wasn't really dating her. Isabel just paid him for this one scene so the young girl could regain her dignity. That's all.

[@lindsay1408]

I love the look on the bullies face when he seen the guy by the bicycles. LOL 😂 😆 🤣

[@linnycrocus6023]

I mean...it's kinda sad that the ultmate thing that got the boy off her back was pretending she was dating another boy.

[@pamelaoliver8442]

I never got this honestly. I've been in both situations, and it's not about you. it's about the kids. They won't love someone else more.

[@jonathanfunnell4167]

Brad is a kid version of Gaston

[@creating1_c1999]

this was my favorite...you only need one good moment to knock an a-hole on their butt...and the word spreads generally fast

[@marycanary]

I don’t really like the way they did it but as for standing up for yourself, I don’t see anything wrong with that.

[@Choices2aa]

I have to give credit to Isabelle for helping Anna b/c Anna didn't like her b/c she was a new mom and she wanted her own mom Jackie and Isabelle stepped in and wasn't a mean stepmom as stepmom are known to be evil and stepfather's evil but Isabelle gave Anna advice and she helped her out and then Anna and Isabelle had a realtionship from there. Anna used what Isabelle gave her and you can be adult and tell the truth about this bully and make people see him for what he really is which is a jack ass and Anna did just that. Isabelle had a boy who was with her and the line when she said "You don't believe me he is standing right over there, we laugh our asses off when we talk about you!" There was that boy with Anna and she said it worked it worked and she thanked Isabelle but Jackie (Anna's real mom) wasn't happy about it!

[@pme8370]

Jackie was so petty the whole movie. She could not handle having another woman in the picture and she took it out on everyone.

[@BrandyTexas214]

I wouldn’t have handled it great either.. I mean, think about it.

[@pme8370]

@@BrandyTexas214 Unfortunately a lot of adults in those situations don't handle it well. And the adults that do often suffer because the ones that don't are saying negative things to the kids about the other one effectively poisoning them.

[@Tiger-cm1qc]

I mean... He left his wife for a younger woman. That's gut-wrenching for her.

[@susanmurray955]

I disagree. She was the mother and trying to do what was best for her children. People need to learn to learn that their children are more important at times.

[@user-gx7rn6jn7o]

When i was bullied in middle school, (1970s) my parents told me to ignore it, so i did. I TOTALLY ignored it, they just couldn't get a rise out of me and it stopped. HOWEVER i also had full parental permission to hit anyone who hit me first. Being particularly small, (& utterly pokerfaced at all verbal bullying) nobody expected me to physically defend myself. In midle school i was hit two different times by two different kids. I hit them both back immediately and nobody messed with me again.

[@SS-te2ku]

listen to stepmom not actual mother

[@pattibrooks1907]

Bullies will be bullies . I have neighbors mean bullies like this kid was to the girl

[@sharonjensen3016]

These days you'd call Taylor Swift and give her the details. Then she can write some songs about the bullies.

[@teencritik5512]

2:28, I think it wasn’t acting and that the kids were seriously laughing their ass off

[@denise6240]

Ignoring them does work sometimes but sometimes you need to stand up for yourself once in the fifth grade a boy said to Me that if brains were gasoline that I wouldn’t be able to drive a motorcycle around the circumference of a penny I responded with at least my motorcycle would start unlike yours and he was silent not knowing what to say

[@iprobablyforgotsomething]

@denise6240 -- "he was silent not knowing what to say" Thus proving your point. X'D

[@denise6240]

@@iprobablyforgotsomething 👍💜😃

[@broccolipropaganda]

She taught the girl to lie. Not a good example.

[@maureenavena33]

I couldn't stand Susan's character in this movie!

[@Disneyfan82]

+maureenavena33 I couldn't stand her either, encouraging her kids to hate and talk filth to someone she herself can't stand, rewarding their behavior instead of punishing them.

[@josephhernandez1885]

@@Disneyfan82 exactly. I hated her character in here too. All because she blames her for her marriage to fall apart. Which it wasn't. Her husband works long hours and as a lawyer they work long hours. She had nothing to do with their divorce so there is no reason for her to be bitter to her because she is dying from cancer and Isabelle is the only female figure in her kids lives they got.

[@MrCodyhoskins]

@@josephhernandez1885 I wouldn't think she blamed Isabelle for her marriage. her husband was seeing other women after they separated as Jackie mentioned in that meeting with the school counselor. I think she just didn't like sharing the burden of looking after the children with another woman who was too young, involved in her work, and inexperienced with kids. she must have just liked dealing with her ex-husband alone more than having a third party to deal with over their personal differences as women.

[@blueburro9226]

So what the hell is snow blowing? An inquiring mind wants to know...

[@kathrynmitchell717]

Do u still wanna know? xx

[@josephhernandez1885]

Are you absolutely sure you wanna know what that means?

[@Catsss1017]

What An assholes just tell!

[@mcrose9067]

Seven years later and I'm still wondering what snow blowing is......

[@thg_2728]

Is that the girl from catching fire?

[@bunbacheso]

Yes! :) Jena Malone.

[@i123456987654]

ugh iconic i can't

[@drinasun6984]

Brad Kavitsky was an awful person, and bullying others he deemed as inferior was in his nature. Anna had a crush on him, but he didn't reciprocate it. I wish I had her courage when I was her age. I could have done that when I was in school.

[@sharonjensen3016]

I knew a Brad at my school. He was a jerk.

[@lupelupelupe]

omg I just googled "snow blowing"

[@Zeul28]

Ok I just looked it up 🥴

[@davidh8924]

snow blowing When you spit your partner's c*m in their mouth without telling them after they have cu**ed in your mouth without telling you

[@HMoney25]

Frosty the snow bish... makes me laugh every time 😅😅😅😅😅

[@In_time]

I remember thinking this scene was so badass when I was younger, now it’s SO cringe, lol, but I still appreciate what it did🙌🏻

[@davidschroeder1478]

BAHAHA “Frosty the snowbitch” I love it!

[@1tommyday]

Jenna Malone was really cute as a child. I cant believe shes over 45

[@jasminekoidhis2893]

Snowblowing 😂🤣

[@BrandyTexas214]

As if being an adult is creating some elaborate ruse with some paid actor 🤣

[@marklola12]

I hated Susans character in this tbh she was not nice

[@crazycatladyann390]

The mom is so jealous and conceded.

[@musixmesh]

true movie

[@margaretwalsh4434]

I love you Jackie

[@agustintiol9865]

What does SCHMUCK means? 6:33

[@bloodyrose1985]

It means a foolish or contemptuous person.

[@morganepg]

I was a very, very sheltered little girl. I had no idea with Dick meant. First time I've seen this movie again in years and I screamed.😂😂😂😂😂

[@TheEuzkatroika]

2:16 oh Come on!!! the child is rude..

[@katefevre6222]

it's just the machine, and he's playing a character!

[@alexandrosmartinez508]

0:31 True facts

[@margueriteskinner4761]

Julia Roberts did a great job in her role and helping Jean as Anna with her ex boyfriend bully suitation scene beat movie ever

[@Tbizel]

Btw what is snow blowing?

[@lyricgibson7476]

I'm more like Julia Roberts

[@Tbizel]

My favorite part of this movie ❤

[@mariannekenney8812]

Nice and cool.

[@shafaquenarayan4933]

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[@PattyLlewellyn18]

Talk about illegal though 😂

[@christycapers4715]

She thought she ate that🤣

[@mariannekenney8812]

Cool video

[@JosephJackson-zg7xi]

Great movie

[@jonathanfunnell4167]

God Jackie was such a (can't say it) at the end of this video

[@1970sGirl]

Can you download the "snowblowing" scene ??

[@1970sGirl]

+Marie Maria Never mind! Just saw that it's part of this - ty !!

[@daddy4043]

Cleaning

[@jaelynluna7692]

Give us they acted. Scene

[@venkataaravindmarni7453]

Snowballing😶

[@daddy4043]

Snow soap

[@leroymaxwellii2747]

0:24

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