Gloria's Story | Waiting to Exhale Breakdown

[@HeitCheri]

Do you think that part of the reason Gloria came over to apologize to Marvin was because Tariq had just left and she was lonely and heartbroken?

[@antie4924]

I think her apology is just part of who she is. She has a strong moral compass and would take the Love Your Neighbor commandment to heart.

[@ItsTifahTifah]

@@antie4924I think you’re both right

[@msbrit5178]

I think she had time to think about it. She has the morals and when you do something wrong it really bothers you.

[@capricornman89]

I believe Gloria was sincere in her apology to Marvin and I also believe she had a reality check when Marvin suggested maybe Tariq isn’t the one who need to come to his senses.

[@ohseauxdee]

I think she was going to apologize regardless. However, with Tariq leaving, she no longer had the distraction she was using to make things right sooner.

[@thespawnofchaos1538]

Remember the scene where Bernadine and Gloria were at the carnival, and Bernadine says I'm not strong like you." I need someone to hold me? That shows you that Bernadine looks up to Gloria and see's her as strong and confident but when we the viewer take a look at Gloria and how her story plays out, Gloria needs to be held and loved as well, she is just more reserved and holds herself to a standard around her friends but when she's alone, you can see that she definitely feels alone, has hang-ups like the rest of em. She just hides it better and puts her feelings aside to be there for everyone else. I believe she was still in love with David both mentally and physically, and it was hard for her to come to terms when he came out to her. She refused to believe it because she mentally and physically gave herself to this man and treasured the relationship even after he left. She had this empty sense of hope that he would come around even though he clearly moved on. I was so happy when she found love again. She gives so much of herself to others. Her son, her friends, and her ex. It was good to see her catch a win.

[@HeitCheri]

Exactly! We talk in depth about all of this in the video! I was soooo happy when Marvin came along and loved Gloria like she deserved! OMG, that scene where he tells her he loves her--I just wanna cry for Gloria in that scene! :-)

[@thespawnofchaos1538]

@HeitCheri omg yes! I was like yo this seasoned brotha is smooth af and knows what he likes! Get them yams bruh! Haha! Literally Gloria's story was my favorite in this movie! That and when Robin decked Troy in the back of the head with that orange! Still has me in tears every time I see it! Oh and the sloppy top scene with her son! Her reaction was the best! The interaction with her son in this movie was the best. This movie is straight up Oscar worthy!

[@blacknbougie8021]

​@@HeitCherime too‼️She was such a sweet wholesome lady. She deserved love, companionship & to get her cheeks clapped by a man that truly loved her😊Go Gloria❤‼️

[@mysticIvy324]

Yes, the other ladies were getting action throughout the movie, but she got her man in the end!

[@Joshjoshomg]

Gloria is not homophobic. She has one son and maybe she doesn't want him to be exposed to that lifestyle in some way. This is back in 1995 where gay was still in the closest kinda idk know the history of the gay community, however it's more excepting to be gay in 2023 then 1995. I didn't know or see a gay person really til I was in high school in 10th grade at 15. So from yrs 1-15 gay life or gay stuff was not accessible, it wasn't so in your face like now lol. Ellen came out and I was ok, I watched girl or girl porn....every straight teenager of any race or color did so I'm not a pervert. Everytime you turn the TV on now everything is gay

[@marvinwhittaker]

Loretta Devine looked good with that short hair. She has a southern accent and that glow. She does a good job in all of her movies.

[@CarsonDouglas]

Love love love her.🥰 I can hear her voice and slide down the wall 🫠

[@jamaalmoses8821]

Gloria was insecure. About her weight mostly ..so she didn't love her Ex ..she wanted somebody familiar. Another layer is Gloria was also the most church going and devout of the friends. So she wanted to walk the walk,and in her mind messing w her ex was better than hooking up w a total stranger.

[@hannahmclaren9672]

I think the fact he sees his father spending the night in his mum's bed when ever he's over might have something to do with his attitude too.

[@orangemaster345]

THAT MAN MARVIN WAS PAINTING MORE THAN ONE SET OF WALLS!! 😂😂😂

[@HeitCheri]

😂😂

[@amazonianunicornbunny9599]

😂😂😂😂

[@indiashante1560]

Thank you for these character breakdowns! I absolutely LOVE Gloria! She was so loving and nurturing. I love how feminine and soft spoken she was. She was that dependable friend that everyone needs. Edit: I feel like the reason why Gloria wants to be intimate with her ex is because he's familiar and comfortable emough to be with him. She clearly isn't comfortable with her weight so being vulnerable with a new man is probably anxiety inducing. She doesn't want to be intimate with just anybody and also wasn't really trying to date anyone because of like most single mothers she prioritized herself last.

[@VooDooJuicy]

54:06 First of all RIP Gregory Hines❤ I thought Tyrek heard them talking about cheese as he walked up and was playing along with the joke.

[@joshuamcdowell9745]

Gloria was one of those women who devoted her entire life to raising her son. Tariq was like her emotional husband. That's why she had a hard time letting him go. Tariq was all she knew. She didn't date at all. When Tariq's father would come to visit, she jumped at the opportunity to sleep with him because she was lonely and craved intimacy with a man. Gloria wasn't the type of woman to have a random hookup or sleep around like her friends. David was her son's father and someone familiar. I don't think she wanted to be with him. She had needs. Her life was running her business and her son. She never made time for a man. In regards to her ex David, he was always gay. A Bisexual man is still very much attracted to women, so how the hell could he not respond the last time he came to visit. How you go from being attracted to a woman and having a whole child to not being able to perform sexually with a woman? His you-know-what just stop working when he is in the presence of a woman. Like did he closed his eyes and pretended that Gloria was a man when they conceived Tariq? He was just scared to come out and chose to suppressed his true self and desires, and live life on the DL like many men. He told her that he have lied long enough about who he was. At that point, he was tired. Gloria knew what she was doing when she went across the street to talk to Marvin. She got all dressed up and put on her good church heels 🤣 but can we talk about Gloria being referred to as a big woman when she wasn't even that big? Loretta Devine wasn't big even back then. She had a nice shape.

[@jama3997]

It was the 90s. I saw something on lipstick alley about people just calling us gen z’ers fat bc a lot of us are built like Loretta Devine was back then and we don’t consider it big. People acted like women her size were potential “my 600 lb life” participants or something. What we know as big breasts or big butts today, completely outdo what was considered a big butt or breasts back in the day. What we consider a small waist, or a flat stomach today, was called fat and pudgy bskc then. I’m built like Countess Vaughn was. Short, wide hips, big thighs, big breasts, normal sized butt, etc. and I was getting called fat in the early 00’s just like she did. She’s not even big and never was.

[@daniellej7914]

Yeah but it’s other fish in the sea

[@iamstrangepeaches]

16:41 fun fact: the hairstylist Joseph played by Lamont Johnson also played in Girlfriends (tv show) as Joseph I wonder if they're in the same universe.

[@jennifercee5584]

Definitely could be! LA is only a 6 hours drive from Phoenix so maybe he made that move!

[@jaceambition7701]

His name was Ronnie on Girlfriends! 😂

[@iamstrangepeaches]

@@jaceambition7701 name change? Career was still the same 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@jaceambition7701]

@@iamstrangepeaches Right!! I read your comment as his name was Joseph in Girlfriends also. I understand what you meant tho! 😂 Basically, the same character.

[@allyssa_anderson]

Recently rewatched it on Netflix and he even does the exact same “as a heart attack” line!

[@comegetjazzy5482]

As a hairstylist, I think Gloria only agreed with Robin about the haircut because she is the one who cut it. It was a compliment to her as well as to their friend so yea, she put her foot in that haircut she just didn’t want to cut it bc she also invested a lot of time into Bernadine’s hair journey.

[@iamstrangepeaches]

I'm just now realizing that "waiting to exhale" and how "Stella got Her groove back" we're both written by Terry McMillan. Now, in the movie Gloria's ex- husband was bisexual/gay. But in real life Terry's ex-husband came out as gay also in that turned into a big old scandal 😢 and the (Stella) movie that also starred Angela Bassett was loosely based on the love story between her and her ex. #WHOOOCHILE 😅😩

[@HeitCheri]

I remember that scandal about McMillan's husband back in the day! Art imitating life I suppose LOL

[@robintillman7940]

Nothing about Stella husband was ever in the closet...lol

[@iamstrangepeaches]

@@robintillman7940 not in the movie. I'm talking about the real life story that inspired the movie.

[@robintillman7940]

@iamstrangepeaches lol, I know. Her and her husband did an interview on Oprah back in the day and ...well He was very effeminate. Like how did he fool her?

[@joshuamcdowell9745]

And Terry still bitter over that. She have yet to remarried or even date for that matter.

[@thespawnofchaos1538]

Marvin was a gentleman. He eased his way in there but trust me I'm sure his patience paid off! He got his spread plus desserts and some seconds, thirds and fourths. Plus I'm sure he had to wait. Gloria's son was always around and she strikes me as a woman that is reserved around her kid. Gotta keep up that wholesome mom Facade

[@HeitCheri]

Marvin was indeed a gentleman!

[@tam_forreal]

I agree with everything except for the waiting. Gloria was horny 😅

[@zeepickens9049]

​@@tam_forreal😅🤣😅

[@Jo-zi5px]

😅 true. It also shows that Gloria put her son before men, since some mothers tend to neglect their child(ren) for their new man. Both Gloria and Marvin are wholesome, reserved, respectful and have family values, that’s why I think they would work out in this situation. No jealousy of exes, no partner stealing schemes, just 2 people that were lonely for quit some time finding each other ❤

[@loriellajames6978]

@@tam_forrealGloria should’ve used a sex toy like me and start off as friends at first. I liked to be held too but I usually let a man come to me. Gregory Hines was hot in this movie. I can see why her panties melted when she met him.

[@msbrit5178]

As a person that had an absent parent, you can definitely start to understand that if a person really loves shows up. You get tired of being not chosen. My other parent was present, why can’t he be? It is a hard pill to swallow. Mine would be around when he wanted to show me off and lie about being the best dad ever. As I got older I stopped going. I noticed game. We talk but it’s definitely not like it should be. More just respect to an elder not my dad.

[@HeitCheri]

I agree that people who really love you show up... it's really just that simple.

[@KeeKeeSoto]

Same!!

[@Jo-zi5px]

Oh for sure 💯! Sometimes we also love non family more than our Biological ones, just because of their love and actions towards us

[@PGHDude]

Man Gregory Hines was so damn smooth back in the day. And the fact that he took her talking down to herself in stride and flipped it on her.

[@teet3435]

I'm loving these Character breakdowns y'all are doing!

[@cabbitness1983]

Oooooh i was waiting for this one. I love Gloria! I hope you guys do more of these character breakdowns, maybe with Soul Food?

[@HeitCheri]

We will most definitely do more! Have you seen the video we did on Soul Food on our other channel? It's here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qZ69eHRrds5rbcU

[@cabbitness1983]

@@HeitCheri oh i definitely have, that's kind of what made me think of it. a friend and i were having a discussion about max and teri's falling out, and i pointed out that no one ever talks about kenny's involvement in that. cause homie contributed big time to that fall out too.

[@genaa6651]

Im here for it

[@c.willie]

I think Gloria’s exhale toward Gregory Hines was because she had finally broken the spell of saving herself for David. That’s why Tariq mentioned she doesn’t do anything besides work and baby him, and wait for David to come around. Her spell was broken when GH showed her there’s other men out here who may find u attractive. Open ur eyes and let David go.

[@thespawnofchaos1538]

Been waiting on yall's take on Gloria's story! Thank u!

[@HeitCheri]

Enjoy! ❤️

[@thespawnofchaos1538]

@@HeitCheri oh for sure I am! U two are awesome with this commentary!

[@thespawnofchaos1538]

@@HeitCheri I can finally EXHALE...lol see what I did there😋

[@zeepickens9049]

*I work in the film industry and I thoroughly enjoyed the analysis. I'm still laughing 😅🤣😅about the **#ThanksgivingSpread** comment. I love the nuances that you observed as well. Likewise, when you look at Gloria's full length body when she's going to the pool house, she really has a nice shape. The wardrobe department was not kind to her va-va-boom!😅* #Subscribed!!!!!! 🎬

[@HeitCheri]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@zeepickens9049]

@@HeitCheri 👍🏽

[@mysticwaterz]

Marvin was definitely putting it down with tap shoes and all 😂 Love the content 😊

[@HeitCheri]

😆 Thanks for watching!

[@soniarena5250]

Tarik is not lazy, he just hasnt had anyone to teach him certain things. Now I have an 18 year old son and he has helped move furniture here and there, but I wouldnt send him to a strangers house to help move nothing. We have to keep in mind that Tarik is a musician, so that kinda explains his new years eve outfit.

[@HeitCheri]

I just think Tarik didn't do much manual labor and hands-on type of stuff. I don't think he was lazy either.

[@sashaychantae8498]

The HandyMan🫶🏽 I watch y’all videos as I tend to my home and it really adds a spark to my day. Thank y’all for this wonderful content😌

[@HeitCheri]

Our pleasure!

[@Quanism1995]

Great breakdown as usual now I can’t wait for y’all to do a break down on poetic justice and lastly I can’t believe no one brought up the fact that at the end of carnival scene after Bernadine says she’s not as strong as Gloria she’s caresses that bear she was holding confirming she does need to be held. Very clever of whoever put that in the movie 😅

[@HeitCheri]

Ohhhh I missed the part about the bear. Great catch!

[@csamuels89]

I really didn’t want this series to end lol you two do such a awesome job every video thanks for putting such great content together for us all

[@HeitCheri]

Thanks so much ❤️ We will make each series special and hopefully we will all enjoy them more and more!

[@tam_forreal]

As far as the call and caller id… They pushed *67 and blocked the call. So, lil mama just assumed it was John.

[@smallsmall5062]

She's not even overweight...

[@soniarena5250]

I love Gloria!!! She is established, nice home in what looks to be an established neighborhood. Gloria is just learning to live again because her whole life has been centered around her son and her business. Gloria just wasnt willing to look too far to find a man so her son's dad was just an easy find. I dont think she was caught up on her ex, just not focused on looking for anyone new.

[@HeitCheri]

I love Gloria too!

[@smilealwaysnatasha3423]

Gloria was comfortable

[@robintillman7940]

I agree, I always felt she put her son first and her career.

[@chanelmiller4635]

11:43 he scratching that itch lol.. I feel like he’s familiar to her so she sticks with it bc of the history

[@jamaalmoses8821]

Gloria and Marvin were not physical until she jumped on him later in the movie.😅😂

[@HeitCheri]

😂 When they went down on that sofa you know what came next! 😆

[@Shy411]

Yes I’ve been waiting for this!!! Do it y’all!! 😊

[@HeitCheri]

Hope you enjoy it!

[@queenscarlettpimpsunkiss..5537]

Marvin & Glo deflee showed Mutual Submission & it was so Beautiful! 😭😭😭🌹🌹🌹😭😭😭

[@HeitCheri]

Yes it was!

[@keirramichelle8644]

I've been waiting for you all to do Gloria! I believe because she's larger she's comfortable with her baby daddy she's really not into him but because she's familiar with him she wants him. She may feel like she'll take what ever attention from a man she can get. Where as, Gregory Hines comes around and says I like women with meat on her her face lights up as if she's just being seen for the first time.

[@HeitCheri]

Yeah, she was feeling Gregory and a lot of that was because he accepted her for who she was.

[@jabellatv3240]

The situation with Gloria and her ex husband and son’s relationship is what I’m going through right now it’s crazy my daughter is literally the same age as Tariq and her father just popped out from nowhere he literally was her Uber driver and he recognized the address he was dropping off to which was my grandma house and she hasn’t seen him since she was 1 years old she is now 17 and at first they were cool but he did something to hurt her feelings and now she doesn’t want anything to do with him I remember her asking me when she was 4 why she didn’t have a daddy like everyone else and now that she doesn’t call or text him unless he reaches out to her he basically told me he isn’t reaching out to her anymore until she calls him and this is after a month and a half yall and I told him he was a selfish and he kept saying how she is almost grown and I told him yes she is but she is still a child who was abandoned by her own father all of a sudden now that he’s in his 40s he claims he had to mature meanwhile i didn’t have that choice even though he was a grown man when he got me pregnant at 16 I had to grow up in order to raise her and like you guys said he can’t get back the past it’s his lost that he missed out on her growing up so he doesn’t have a real fraternal connection to her I honestly wish he would’ve just dropped her off and said nothing I have her therapy now because he came and interrupted our lives once again being selfish because the guilt has built up in him he didn’t reach out on his own he was selfish back then and he is now only trying to get redemption for himself not her all this time you would think he would’ve put up more of a fight smh this movie showed how messed up our community is and the trauma we all go through

[@indiashante1560]

I'm sorry you and your daughter has to go through that. May karma give him the life he deserves.

[@jabellatv3240]

@@indiashante1560 seriously I don’t even have to be there to see it when it happens but karma will come back around I hate how he treated my daughter she deserves nothing but love and he is a joke

[@honestytheory7529]

1:07:24 Thank you for highlighting this. Females are pretty consistently simultaneously treated as responsible and mature (Boys will be boys) while also weak-minded and frail who need protection and direction and unable to make decisions for themselves 😵‍💫

[@queenscarlettpimpsunkiss..5537]

Some women with insecurities being plus sized wear more 'muted' colors. To not be so noticed.. and neutral colors with the acception of white are slimming.. A similar tactic is used for black women in 'white spaces'.. They are trying to blend in and not give anyone a reason to outcast or attack them.. The colors could also be a director's request for thee intended aesthetic

[@HeitCheri]

That's a great observation Queen!

[@tam_forreal]

Tariq did not want cheese as Marvin didn’t. Gloria thought it was cute that neither wanted cheese… her two men. Imo of course, but fight me 😅

[@amazonianunicornbunny9599]

I said I would never make my kids leave when they are 18 however if you are making it difficult for me to maintain my household , having your hand out all the time then something has to give .. it really depends on what that grown child wants to do with their life

[@TheRetroWoman80]

I agree.

[@tenbandsinc.9498]

little did terry mcmillan know, the gay storyline would become her reality a few years later… her husband turned out to be gay - he came out on the Oprah Show and Wendy Williams’ radio show.

[@smilealwaysnatasha3423]

Wow that’s crazy

[@capricornman89]

THE HANDYMAN Rest In Peace, Mr. Gregory Hines. Gloria deserved Marvin and vice versa. Thank You Heit & Cheri 🔥

[@loriellajames6978]

Yessss! I love a man that’s well rounded, a gentleman, but is not afraid to get his hands dirty.

[@ohseauxdee]

I'm the Gloria of my friend group, lol. I relate to her character so much.

[@Thegiftedreadertarot89]

This was so good. I had to go back and watch the movie again because I hadn't seen it in years.

[@HeitCheri]

❤️

[@AdoseofAlana_]

Yall make a good point about being 18. At 18 i definitely still had a curfew. I had to work or go to school. My parents were not pressing me to move and while i wanted to live in a campus i wasn't ready to gully move away. When i turned 18 and in my senior yr, my parents were like if u wanna do grown stuff you better still be going to class and on time and whatnot. I had to be home at like 1. The curfew went away when i was 19 and my parents split because i was living with dad and he spent so much time with his mistress he had no choice but to let me be more independent. everything was still in one piece and i was being responsible so he backed off.

[@kamauruddock9684]

My 19 year old son could never address me like that. Wild.

[@charenzo95]

This is the 1sr time that I've ever noticed that on New years all the girls had on dull Earth tones except Gloria. She is the only one in a bright color. Could that be indicating that she's the only one who is feeling good about herself right now and on the cusp of falling in love?

[@leonardsmith703]

Gloria son tyreke had been the only "man" in her life so when a real man came she didn't know how to handle it

[@lakishasmith956]

The handyman 😅. I was at work when I got the notification for this video I was so thrilled thanks a bunch you guys made my night 😄.

[@HeitCheri]

Our pleasure!

[@ThePrettyArcher]

I think Gloria and David haven't mashed since Tariq was 6 or 7 hence why Robin said 10 year drought. I think that's why she was so thirsty to get it Poppin when he came to visit

[@tenbandsinc.9498]

I think the 10 year drought is true. although David spent the night, he did emphasize how unresponsive he was to having sex with her that particular time.

[@iamstrangepeaches]

1:39:24 RIP GREGORY HINES

[@HeitCheri]

❤️

[@lzmayes]

I think the side piece answering the phone the way she did shows that Bernadine’s ex is living up the adage you lose them how you get them! I think she sounded stressed but also trying to keep her cool because she don’t want to believe he would do that to HER! Because why at that time of night is he not home 🤔

[@jasonphillipmccauley7103]

Neither one wanted cheese , and Marvin was definitely knocking it down .

[@HeitCheri]

😂

[@charenzo95]

I think David did come around as much because he didn't want to tell Gloria to stop pushing up on him. Instead he just hid from them instead of saying," look I'm NEVER going to be interested and if you don't stop, I'm not coming around anymore. I'll pick him up and leave." Saying it now when the boy is almost grown isn't really going to matter to Tariq. He never had to come out until he was ready but he should have been there no matter what. He was exhibiting deadbeat behavior.

[@Jo-zi5px]

Discovered your channel 2 days ago 🤗 and boy do I enjoy it 💯. I don’t even notice that an hour has gone by already 😅, which is a good sign that this formula for your channel works !!! I love both of your opinions and the tone of your voices, especially when you laugh🤗. It gives off genuine masculine and feminine vibes in the RIGHT way 💯💪🏼. Looking forward to the next videos while I binge on the previous ones 😅🤭. Have a great day everyone ❤️🇸🇷

[@HeitCheri]

Welcome aboard and thanks for spending time with us. We have another channel with lots more videos, as we are really just getting started on this channel. Feel free to check us out over there too! www.youtube.com/@axiomamnesia

[@Jo-zi5px]

@@HeitCheri cool ☺️ I’ll check it out

[@queenscarlettpimpsunkiss..5537]

Was Glo ex a Musician? Her not wanting to set Tariq free on thee trip. Reminds me of This Christmas. Thee mom not wanting 'Baby' to sing cuz the daddy & older brother "' abandoned '' her for music. Thee Mother was also a chrctr played by Loretta Devine as well 😂

[@chanellbryson3588]

Some men do it too, they lean on their daughters to be the woman of the house. When my parents separated and my mom left I stayed with my dad while trying to save for my apartment and it was times where we got shutoff notices because he didn't know how to pay the bills. He had the money but he was sooo used to just giving my mom the money every month. He worked hard everyday but never bothered to learn how to how to balance the finances and thought that was my responsibility now

[@Jo-zi5px]

I can tell you love your dad and acknowledge his struggles and that you’re grateful that he did his best 💯. That’s why you didn’t go any further into details when you mentioned that you’re doing his budgeting 😊. He may not be perfect, but at least he’s trying. I don’t know the full story, nor do you have to feel the need to explain yourself, but I’m speaking this way because I never had a father(figure) growing up. Got to know my dad at 16, learned that I had 5 sisters and 1 brother with the woman he was with. You wanna hear the kicker 🤣….? Me and the eldest half sister differ 3 months 🤭🙃🥴. I’m 40 now, so I made peace with all the drama a loooonggg time ago. Be patient with your dad and enjoy the time you still have ❤️

[@octalogicsmith9028]

She probably called Bernadette’s landline and the other woman’s at the house waiting on John to get back.

[@queenscarlettpimpsunkiss..5537]

Society doesn't really give young black boys the grace of being kids.. black girls too but it juss shows up different.. A lot of the times because of how society is conditioned black boys are always seen as men.. Like for instance when they cry. People often tell them to man up.. i think that comes from slavery.. Black ppl werent seen as Human . So their Youth was not a factor.. they were treated like adult mules regardless.. ripped from the parents.. & worked to the bone. Beat to the bone & shown no mercy or consideration thats due to any living being.. let alone a child.. so many black ppl don't have a keen concept of childhood.. i feel like thats also why Tariq dresses like a More Mature Male.. thats Gloria having influenced him with thee dynamic and allat.. amongst Society.. plus her being a stylist.. she prolly liked to dress him up like a lil man when he was a child.. she prolly even called him her 'little man' 😄😂.. And thats whats interesting too.. alot of Black Men are both Coddled & Rushed to Grow Up simultaneously.. and its like. They are more mature in certain ways when they are younger. And then get Older.. get a taste of independence/freedom.. and Act out through Adulthood.. Reminds me of this Book called Manchild in the Promise Land

[@PGHDude]

I loved Gloria. She was my favorite character because that was me and my Mom minus the father aspect and the outright disrespect.

[@HeitCheri]

I love Gloria's character best too!

[@lakishasmith956]

This is total excitement 😂

[@dejaporter7338]

I was looking forward to this love the channel😆💕

[@HeitCheri]

Hope you enjoy it! :-)

[@justbobby_iam5015]

You guys killed, slayed, & reconciled glowed up Gloria’s point of view. Among the other’s women. I enjoyed this review. Even as a child . I connected to the story. I was raised by a single mother. So this my story! Kinda ! My mom let me go to savanna state. My step dad helped me grow. So I get it .. I love your channels. Great review King & queen. I’m subscribed! #thehanyman… my dad till this day want my love. I give it 2 him. Yet he choose my sisters over me. No matter how hard I tried🎉😊

[@HeitCheri]

Thanks so much and we're glad you enjoy the videos! :-)

[@therealmarlonbellamy]

THE HANDYMAN! Each breakdown was great. Continue to bring these breakdowns to us.

[@HeitCheri]

Thank you!!!

[@therealmarlonbellamy]

@@HeitCheri You’re welcome!!!

[@CassieCas0106]

The Handyman!! I have really enjoyed these breakdowns 🫶🏽

[@HeitCheri]

Glad you like them!

[@ParisFinley]

The Handyman 😅😅! This always gives me a chuckle! I watched Bernadine's all the way through and something came up right at the end. Now I got to go and see what it was 🤦🏿‍♀️.

[@ndeat.5833]

When it comes to their resolutions, I felt it has more to do with the other women learning to stand on their own and take care of themselves, and Gloria learning to lean on someone and be cared for. She needed to find peace in her vulnerability.

[@charenzo95]

My oldest son was born I 1994 and had a gay grandparent who had been in a relationship with another man outwardly since the 70s. What impressed me was how his father, the super macho man, always spoke of his father with extreme love and respect and as a matter of factly. He was a good many years older than me and I really expected some homophobic caveman business in regards to his father. I have to say, for that time, it was impressive. I had 3 out cousins my entire life so I was always ready to be defensive towards straight black males about homosexuality back then. It was a pleasant surprise to meet a man who just acted normal about it but he said growing up was hard but he'd never forsake his father or Stanley for anyone. ❤️

[@HeitCheri]

That is wonderful to hear! ❤️

[@Jo-zi5px]

Nice 💯 at least he was a good dad , which is all that matters in the end 😊

[@charenzo95]

The difference in maturity of kids and young adults from 30 years ago until now is clear. I've had a baby in the 90s, 2000s and 2010s and boy is it different! I wouldn't allow my middle kid to go away to school because he's so ill- equipped for life regardless of me trying to teach him survival skills his entire life. Lol. Unlike Gloria, I don't want to hold on to them for company but I want to make sure that when they do go they'll be safe, secure and successful and ONLY have to come back to live in a dyer emergency whereas my parents and my generations 1st set of kids were looked at as more capable. This dynamic between Gloria and her son seemed weird back then.

[@jentrieflournoy-thomas7569]

Some ppl had caller I’d but if you hit *67 you could block your number so it said private. So Bernadine might have called private.

[@marneebragg9839]

I always felt that David's ultimatum was from a place of hurt and immaturity. But it was always his responsibility to maintain his relationship with his child. And both of them wanted cheese on the sandwich.

[@kamauruddock9684]

The dad was kind of a deadbeat dad from before so him setting an ultimatum is wild. As to why Tyreek doesn't want to see him...the dad failed to build and prioritise a relation with his son so the seed of resentment grew in tyreek.

[@HeitCheri]

His father wasn't present and without the time invested, the bond just isn't there as strong as it would be if he was more present.

[@missmisher]

Fun fact… Have y’all read the book or the sequel entitled “Getting to Happy?” The sequel is crazy and I wish a movie could have been made. It explains everything that happened after all of this.

[@HeitCheri]

Yes i have! ❤️ It's tough with these movie discussions because there are differences between the books and the movie and we try to stick with whatever they provide in the movie. Sometimes that's impossible though!

[@queenscarlettpimpsunkiss..5537]

My inference is that it's late at night. And John wasn't home with his new woman.. So he probably also hadn't been answering any of her calls.. So she was probably up worried about him. So when she got a call from a foreign number. She answers, ''John?''.. cuz she's hoping it's him, with Answers on where he's been and such. Cuz You can deflee be pretty certain that John would cheat on the White Woman too.

[@AdoseofAlana_]

Made it through 2 hrs im diggin yalls breakdowns

[@HeitCheri]

😁

[@kamauruddock9684]

Gloria lacked confidence. She thought her weight made her less than attractive to men so the ex was convenient.

[@angelaharrison4314]

A twist... What if he told Gloria she look "healthy" bc he's homosexual and is HIV positive. Knowing they had intercourse he was saying she doesn't look sick. I may be reaching.

[@HeitCheri]

😲 That never even occurred to me. Wow!

[@angelaharrison4314]

@@HeitCheri bc think about it. He said he wanted to see Tyreek and if he doesn't want to see him, he's "checking out." Maybe it was not only a play on words for his hotel but that it WILL be his last time seeing him. And he DID look kinda frail in the movie. He didn't look "healthy" himSELF. Idk... He just looked kinda worried about something. Why would a man act like that towards the woman of his child? He didn't even wanna really hug her. This movie came out during a time when HIV/AIDS was still looked at as a death sentence. People didn't even wanna hug someone who had it.

[@nicolefarmer2512]

Marvin isn’t doing anything yet. Gloria isn’t about the fast lane she and Marvin are an old fashioned romance. Take note of what Savanah said when she was modeling what men used to be… Gloria has an opinion but it is all focused on the new news she got from her ex. She may have had a few one nighters but she not swatting down dudes like Robin. She gave that understanding look bc she knows what these ladies are searching for bc at one point she did have it with Tyriq’s dad. Until things went left and he left. She feels she may have this with Marvin, that slow burn the ladies all want to have.she won’t dive in like the others bc she isn’t really that desperate she just wants love but not just any love the right kind of love. She only went back to Tyriq’s dad is bc at one time it was perfect

[@MsTayShannel]

The Handyman😊 Love ya’ll’s videos!!!

[@HeitCheri]

Thank you!!!

[@jamaalmoses8821]

He asked her ,"why are you telling me this?'..because he also wants to know where they are relationship wise.

[@curtis75black]

Being called a Father is better than being a called a daddy. Father means so much more.

[@HeitCheri]

I think that just depends on how we as individuals define the words. We felt the opposite way.

[@mspennyisaac]

“Daddy” seems more informal thus connoting closeness. “Father” just sounds like a slight to me - like a sperm donor. Father seems more tied to biology whereas “Dad” or “Daddy” seems more like a doting term than the formality of “Father”.

[@allencollins5666]

​​@@mspennyisaacIt Is. And Most Black Call Their Parents Daddy And Mama. And In Sitcoms Family Matters & Fresh Prince, Laura Called Carl. Daddy And Hilary Called Uncle Phil Daddy(Daddy, I Need $300.

[@karenmarsh6396]

"Father" is a term on a birth certificate, it's purely technical & biological. "Daddy" is who a child's heart is with. Hood speak ("baby daddy") has twisted these terms in the minds of many, unfortunately...

[@iamstrangepeaches]

45:10 just a lil SNACK!

[@sethunyanikuru1079]

Every time I see the movie ,I have to mentally remind myself that the Gloria character in the book, was much heavier than Loretta Devine😖, I personally think Gloria was just taking a chance when she was talking with Tyreek's Daddy, if them having sex would have turned into something more I'm sure she would have went with it she just doesn't want to be alone... Great job as usual missed y'all❤

[@Joshjoshomg]

I remember when I was like 10. As soon as Angela Bassett cussed my granny was like oh no you cant watch this go upstairs. I didnt see this movie til 2015 on Hulu. Its a good movie to me its the black Sex in the City it could have been a series. However its a real good movie

[@HeitCheri]

😂

[@PGHDude]

My man Marvin is being a gentlemen ain’t nothing naughty going on with him and Gloria by her birthday.

[@chanelmiller4635]

I been waiting!!!!

[@HeitCheri]

❤️

[@octalogicsmith9028]

David coming out as gay made it very easy for black women to say see Nana no good there this this and this and some of them are on the down low. Gloria plays the big sister that’s trying to keep everybody in line but keep the peace.

[@caliBornbEauty]

I think there was no cheese on the sammich and Marvin wanted cheese. He tried to give it to Tarik who also likes cheese but there is no cheese on it. They are similar I think they had done it a few times...They were hanging out like a couple. Very affectionate, The son is used to seeing him around, they hang out together like father and son. I'm think the indicators were there. I think Gloria does not tell anyone about her sex life because she's embarrassed. She's got self esteem issues and doesn't think they will want to hear about her uneventful sex life. They just don't know about her encounters with David or her new relationship with Marvin I feel like his "Why are you telling me this" was like "If you want my advice and I give it, why are you challenging every bit of advice I'm giving??" He was telling her as a man, he understands what Tarik needs in order grow into a man. I think that ending couch scene where they kissed was the kind of sex you have after an argument or time apart. Not that it was the first time. I feel like she exhaled prematurely when she first met him. The couch scene was the real exhale...a long awaited and deserved, fulfilling DEEP exhale. The other ladies would exhale for the WRONG situations. This was the right reason to exhale. A good man who actually loves her and shows it after all her self depreciating talk and negative opinion of herself all tied to her appearance. The Handyman!

[@Jo-zi5px]

Oh nicely put 💯🤗. I also get the feeling that he was trying to ask Gloria, being in each other’s company for weeks or a couple of months: where do we stand now that WE have formed a bond, being flirtatious to a certain extent, seeing each other every day and sharing food (which I think is a very important way of bonding eg having a meal as a family whether it’s a form the form of breakfast or a holiday event). He wants to take it to the next level and she has to give the green light 😊. That’s how I perceived the question

[@keptbygrace6221]

@1:00:00 you mentioned poor editing... I think that was the issue with the condom in the Robin video. Another youtuber pointed out Gloria's earring that kept disappearing and reappearing in the scene with the ex-husband. It could be just bad editing so that Michael threw away the wrapper twice. 🤷🏾‍♀️ I can't believe he would take it all the eay off without her knowing.

[@ThePrettyArcher]

The caller id number probably just showed a phone number, not the name hence why the white side piece said "John?". Also everyone didn't have caller id at the same time. We didn't get caller id until like 97 and it was big deal for us, technology wise as well as financially. But yeah I think just the phone number showed up

[@ChocolateThaiE]

And you had to pay extra for it. Swear we ain’t get that shit till bout 97 98 too lol

[@ThePrettyArcher]

@@ChocolateThaiE 🤣🤣🤣🤣 for real for real

[@TheNutCaseNetwork]

Cheri, you’re right about the bonds being broken between estranged parents and children. You just don’t know them and they don’t know you. All you have is whatever little reference was left before the separation. Sometimes that can cause issues as well because some parents aren’t humble about their absence and some children aren’t ready to forgive their parent… the family you do have on that estranged parents side really doesn’t mean anything because there’s no history or loyalty there. They feel like strangers. You’re not included in any family group memories and it’s kinda like a club you’re not a member of. This happened with me and my father after 20 years. All of a sudden a man I thought I would never see again was in my Facebook inbox, long story. But it’s bitter sweet because even though now I know who he is, if the trauma and damage within a person isn’t healed, reuniting or forcing a relationship may do more harm than good. My cousins and even siblings aren’t connected. I don’t blame Gloria’s son for saying F that ish. Sometimes forcing it will create another empty hole that needs fixing. It’s really sad, but it happens all the time.

[@HeitCheri]

It really is a tough situation all around. I wish parents could understand the impact of their decisions early on so people don't have to suffer.

[@TheNutCaseNetwork]

@@HeitCheri Exactly 💯🙌🏽

[@TamESQ]

Her son clearly felt a bit smothered by her.

[@Lapearla4]

Caller ID was a box that you attach to a phone line but it was only in one room so if it was in the kitchen and you're in the living room you have to go all the way to the kitchen to see who's calling. And in 1995 most people didnt have caller id in everyroom

[@HeitCheri]

Yes it was at first! And then they started making the phones with it integrated. 😆

[@msbrit5178]

I am that friend that says what is not the best action. It’s not taking it back but realizing my folks gonna do what they want to do. I’m gonna give my opinion but I can’t make you make the right choice. I am sensitive to people feelings and what hurts them to so I do ask before I say certain things to avoid causing more hurt.

[@HeitCheri]

That's a really considerate approach to take. I think Gloria was like that too. She said what she had to say, but she tried to be as delicate as possible about sensitive situations.

[@reneeflemister9308]

@ 1:34 time mark, THE OTHER 3 CHARACTERS OUT COME WAS GOOD, BECAUSE THEY FOUND THEMSELVES, THEIR STRENGTH, TO BE MORE AWARE OF WHAT THEY WANT, AND DON'T WANT IN THE FUTURE. THEY CAME INTO A BEAUTIFUL AWARENESS, AND NEW YEAR AT THE SAME TIME. #PRICELESS. ❤

[@tiffanybrown2968]

Oh, and Gloria didn't add the cheese to his sandwich because she knew he hated cheese! Marvin was teasing her asking where's my cheese😂

[@e.dominiasmith2665]

i'm actually gonna have to go back and rewatch this because it was just kinda playing in the background while i was typing a paper, but..... THE HANDYMAN!!!!

[@HeitCheri]

Yesss!!! Marvin was the handyman!!! 😆

[@queenscarlettpimpsunkiss..5537]

I think Tariq want cheese and Marvin was being Sarcastic when he said "Whats a Sandwich without cheese''.. thats prolly what Gloria said to him when she learned he dont like cheese.. cuz Most ppl like cheese on they sammich😄

[@-love-life3267]

I’ve seen a lot of Gloria’s. Overweight and a lil insecure and attached herself to a downlow gay man who uses her as a beard until he is brave enough to walk out of his insecurities and into his truth. He likes men. PERIOD. She liked his attention, but she saw the signs. He probably even told her about his choices and she was in denial….especially when she got pregnant. She probably thought being intimate with him would make him strait. Once he got comfortable being gay, he got into a serious relationship with a man and started living out loud. No need to force himself to smell fish anymore. But I trtuly believe Gloria knew before he told her. I believe Terry McMilllan knew too. She only got mad when her fruity boo wanted to leave her after using her to get to the states, meet a man and set up a business……at her expense. Ain’t no better downlow detector than a black woman.

[@trudelulu]

20:17 as an adult who recently had to put my foot down with a relative who felt entitled to a relationship with me without doing the foundational work of building one, tariq makes perfect sense to me. sure, you may have wanted that person around but you realize that that person can't show up and be present for you in the way that you would need. i'm sure tariq would've loved to have his father around, but when you grow up, you realize you can't change people and the people you want to be loved by may not be able to give you the love that you deserve. instead of creating an ultimatum (which I agree with Cheri, it is an ultimatum), david should've spoken to tariq directly. ask him why he doesn't want to be around you, self-reflect, and change your behavior accordingly. i wouldn't be surprised if david's journey with his sexuality and his wife created a lot of distance and resentment in tariq. 1:03:55 y'all ain't used *69 so it blocked your number from showing up on caller id or was i just a stalker 90s kid? lmao

[@PGHDude]

I think Gloria’s neediness stems from at the time folks downing overweight people. That was me at this time, giving myself to anyone that gave me attention.