Goal Setting

Goal setting can be overwhelming for many people, but it doesn't have to be. If you reframe your goals and start by focusing on how you ultimately want to feel instead of what you want to attain or accomplish, your goals will have more depth. In this video, you'll learn Danielle LaPorte's top four tips for discovering your core desired feelings.
1. Feel What Feels Good. When goal setting this way, first ask yourself how you want to feel in three main categories: lifestyle and livelihood, body and wellness, relationships, and society. Write stream of consciousness lists for each category listing out your desired feelings for each.
2. Look For Patterns. Identify the words you repeat in these lists, or notice the patterns that are coming up. Begin to narrow down your list of words that will help with goal setting through your desired feelings.
3. Declare Your Core Desired Feelings. Ask yourself what's beneath a feeling for you. For example, maybe "success" is really about freedom, or love, or creativity. This is a good time to turn to a dictionary and look up the definitions of words -- every word is its own world.
4. Ask Yourself: What do I want to do, have or experience to create my core desired feelings? This is the beginning of goal setting with soul. This is where you make connections between how you want to feel and what will actually help you feel that way.
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[@DulceGarcia-eg2jg]

You get this sense that there are many people inside Danielle. It's clear she's done her homework. LOVED.

[@NicoleDeniseTV]

I could listen to Danielle speak all day. The tone of her voice is transcendent!

[@CindyKhorFilms]

Re-watched this 3 times, got out my notebook and pen, wrote down all desired feelings into the 3 category, narrowed them down to 4 and list my goals relating to these core desired feelings: Abundance | Freedom | Alive | Love And suddenly, my 2014 goals seemed attainable compared to previous!!! Thank you very much, Marie and Danielle

[@ElenaLipson]

Beautiful. Drop the hustle and get into the feelings and goals with soul. Love the energy you two create. Gratitude,

[@ReeKlein]

You two ladies BLEW MY MIND today! I'm ordering Danielle's book TODAY!

[@ReeKlein]

Karl Rohde I'm not surprised to see that you follow these two as well! It's a beautiful world we live in :)

[@ReeKlein]

***** Oh yeah, Sedie...that doesn't surprise me :)

[@kmcg2us]

I can not tell you how many times I have watched this interview with Danielle as both of these Goddesses are some of my favs, and for the first time I really heard, " my Spirituality has to work in my kitchen, it's got to work in my bedroom, it's got to work in my heart." Brilliant! My Spiritual beliefs have had a shift recently and this totally resonated with me. AND, I love the core desire of Shakti... adopting it as mine! Thank you glorious Beings of Light and Love!

[@Kim-wq4sx]

Forgot to say that I am absolutely enamored with the fact that Danielle talked about relying on outer forces to feel good about yourself (this is ABSOLUTELY what most selfies rely on--and why to a certain extent I disdain them because of the "look at me" mentality). Our worth will be self-evident when we get to love ourselves for where we're at with who we are right now and where we're going on an awesome journey. LOVE you, Marie and Danielle.

[@TiffanyHendraSOS]

Thank you for writing this comment.. saved me the words. This was my takeaway as well!! Awesome.

[@ExtraordinaryLiving]

I loooove Danielle LaPorte!!! I found her years ago when she was still doing fire starting ... she now has *this*. She's all about the heart, but unlike most heart-center gurus, she is so *FIERY*! :)

[@gabiguimaraes6327]

No matter what is the game I started playing . What matters is the reason that I decided to follow inside to out which gave me the choice for being part and win the Game of my Life. I am a leader and a businesswoman of My Own Life. I am grateful to be a b -schooler and multiply this empowerment as Coach.

[@Julia_Schoenleiter]

What resonated strongly with me: "´No matter what´ is a very dangerous phrase when it comes to your wholeness"! That's what I needed to hear, even when this video is 5 years old. And one of my core desired feelings is FREEDOM

[@jessicaInTheRa]

Wow! When she speaks, people listen. I'm captivated not only by the content, but by her voice! Thanks Marie for another inspirational episode. x

[@jenniferryanjwezf5801]

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[@alexwest2689]

I have been in a really dark place for the last few months and watching this video I made that decision - I want to feel nurturing. I felt a cloud lift -THANK YOU.

[@SusandeVriend]

I wasn't even going to watch this one because of the words: Goal Setting. I feel exhausted when I have to sit down and write out things like "goals". Everything she said about it is how I feel towards them and so usually most do not get achieved because of the pressure of achieving. The key moment in this interview for me was when Danielle talked about how everyone is living under someone else's interpretation of success. Unbelievably powerful. You see this demonstrated on a daily basis. Its gotten so in my life that I do not know how to define success or confidence. But this Desire Map, the steps and discovering how you want to feel, WOW that opens a door of great joy and creativity for me. Its not about goals anymore its about finding the fun, the joy, about life and how is should be lived. I'm so grateful for this interview and seeing it at this moment. Thank you Marie and Danielle!

[@AnnaGEFT]

I know exactly what you mean, Susan! I wasn't sure if I was going to watch this video...I'm so glad I did! Love your comment, truly heartfelt!

[@happybusinessmama7074]

This is wonderful. 1) Become an intentional creator of your life. 2)All there is, Love Thank you for this wisdom and for sharing.

[@leasylulu90]

I'm going to do a lot of jotting down in my journal tonight to find my core feelings. I never reach any of my goals in life, I'm 23 and feel like a big fat failure most of the time because of the whole "success" thing you guys talked about. Trying to live up to other people's versions of it. Thank you so much for this video. I feel something in me after watching it.

[@626CMalone]

This was an absolute revelation. My book coach has been after me and after me to get to the feelings behind the goals I set because I'm not making progress. Danielle's advice and insights gave me hope. That's the one thing that was the "ah-ha" moment for me. What is one core desire feeling for me: feeling like I'm enough. All my life I've been told I wasn't enough: tall enough, skinny enough, educated enough or a good enough writer to make it in the industry. I want to feel enough.

[@destinygood3673]

awesomeness Danielle's a breathe of fresh air. Marie thank you. I feel so empowered and motivated. 🤓

[@UAreArt]

The biggest insight I took from this was to go deeper. To go a deeper layer than what we think it is we desire. What's underneath that. 1 of my core desires is authentic. To always stand in my authentic self.

[@Jelly-sk2ry]

Danielle's voice though..sooo soothing

[@ker_possible]

One of the best videos I've seen, had to leave a comment. I was in tears, I was inspired, you had me shouting at my screen "I love you Marie and Danielle!!!" I had those a-ha moments that Oprah talks about. It's litterally when your heart and your spirit says "amen" because it's hearing the truth, it gives you shivers through your whole entire body you can't even control it, weirdly enough an orgasm can be described in the same way lol and with no coincidence whenever I'm doing something that is aligned with my purpose I feel those same shivers...

[@rebeccaonyoutube]

This put a tear in my eye... this is seriously what I have been searching for. Im over all those things Danielle spoke of... and cant wait to reestablish those real core patterns I desire... You are on the money Marie, this is revolutionary ! Big ups....

[@mellisarupp9826]

"Your sacred homework is allowing yourself to feel worthy"- How awesome to have two of my favorite strong powerful females in one episode! I am so ever grateful that you all have been the example to follow your dreams!MR "Goals with Soul" has been written on the front of my journal forever!

[@magaliebrunelle8370]

that's so true. we get lost in society/others desires. We believe that's what we want because others have it, or it looks good for others, and you feel like" ye, I want that" but finally we are on others pathway. Let's find out what we really want!Love love Marie Forleo TV !!!

[@JesseRobergeCourtierImmobilier]

Core desired feelings... Changed my view about an empty goal !! TY XXX

[@adeliachamberlain7367]

Danielle is just amazing , I have been listening to this video over and over again, drinking in every word of advise soaking into my cells , so my body and soul understand and start feeling life again. Thank you so much Marie and Danielle , love and treasure what you are doing. Adelia

[@lisaw6219]

Revolutionary ! I love this woman! I'll take her hair and those shoes too...

[@preciousmogotlane2849]

She is amazing

[@avf17]

What Danielle said about wanting to feel creation rather than creative was an absolute epiphany for me, when it comes to something I've been struggling with for far longer than I care to think of. Thank you both so much. :)

[@roshanrahealer]

Love your interviews! :D The single take-away I got from the interview is it backed up what I figured out on my own and discussed with my therapist today. If that's not synchronicity, what is? One core feeling I've been discovering I needed in life over the years is worthiness. Not based on other people's perspectives, but worthy of being myself and giving as much or as little of me as necessary to feel safe, secure, inspired, and at peace in my life. I'm in a new stage of my life, which is scary but thrilling. Last year, I self-published my debut novel, which I wrote to heal from some of my CPTSD issues. This year, I'm republishing and rebranding the first book as I've learned more about writing and editing, then finishing the second book which I hope to self-publish by spring 2023. Also, editing for others, volunteering on my terms instead of being voluntold what to do, and making decisions for myself when most of my life, I let others make the biggest decisions for me. I'm worthy of love, of trust, of happiness, and above all, authenticity. Follow-through is easier when I know what I need from life.

[@NewcomerNancy]

Love the ease and grace of this interview & the message within. HUGE takeaway value.

[@lorenafernandez8678]

Great advice, simple and very empowering! A big thing I took away was that success has an underlying feeling! It's not something external, it's not another person's seeming success.

[@nar6ika]

I did the goal setting thing right after New Year's eve 2013, and maybe 80% of the things I wanted, I achieved them... the last 20% were not achieved because I didn't think it would make me feel better, so I forgot about them.... I mean, this is what I realize now, thanks to this video! Now I know I should focus first on my core desired beliefs to make the right choices in terms of goals. This is what I will keep in mind next time.. so thank you for this interview. PS: One of my core desired belief is being at peace with myself (consciously)

[@tesselkhoury6112]

My top core desire is love! Love inspires and informs each waking moment! Thank you for the refreshing and uplifting discourse on goals/desires etc.

[@ritterac]

There will always be desires... you can't get it wrong. It's about how you feel.. enjoy the journey and you will achieve.

[@DawnHutchins]

This was certainly revolutionary for me. I am reading Danielle's book and it is the first time I've been able to take a breath, let my shoulders relax and say YES. That is IT. You just articulated what my problem with goal setting has been. I had "I want to make a million dollars in a year" and I want to reach a certain director lever in my business. When those things haven't happened yet the feeling is simply dismal. The Core Desire Feelings that I need to narrow down from are: peace, clean, organized, simple, creative, joy, abundant, power, influence, passion and I LOVE Danielle's "creation". The one that is definitely first on the list is PEACE.

[@DarylHorton]

I like this woman...I really like the way she presents her perspective on setting goals with soul.

[@brunaabreu514]

#1 core desire would be full happiness within

[@MrDooley45]

The one thing I received from this interview was confidence and success is outside of me and someone else's goals and desire and that mine come from within and that I named what they are. And one of my core feeling are being attractive.

[@AmySimpkins]

Freedom. Right now it's mainly about professional freedom. But it's also about freedom in other ways too.

[@MrWeareone777]

What a great video with substance and passion.

[@unwindingmovement7288]

Becoming the intentional creator of my own life! One core desired feeling: Abundance.

[@laurelsternberg5861]

I had recently identified my core values, for the purpose of refining my message (about my art), but to actually make the core values my goals, instead of achievements, etc., is quite revolutionary and so much more pleasurable. Thank you!

[@MaryamMaqdisi]

This was amazing, I kinda knew some of this stuff from other spiritual teachers but I didn't know how the hell to implement it in a practical way, this was so clear, simple and to the point, I love it. Thank you so much. Now to the homework, I think one of core desires is freedom.

[@chloeeleanor311]

Incredible video, and I adore the energy of Danielle and Marie together, so energising.

[@jinaforjesus]

My biggest takeaway from this video was to honor myself enough to do the sacred homework. While watching this video I discovered that one of my core desired feelings is 'worthy'. Many thanks to both of you lovely goddesses! xoox

[@estilojackie]

Amazing! My sister shared this inspiring video with me today and I'm so glad she did. One of the biggest things I took away from this was, "Stop living other people's visions of success". So true!!!

[@anamikaprupa]

Thanks Marie, I couldn't help writing comment. I love u. My core desire feelings are feeling loved, appreciated, feeling abundance, feminine, contributions through creativity .

[@frankitis6389]

The most important thing I learned from this: go for how you want to feel. I want to feel hopeful desire.

[@peterluisvenero]

I love Marie. Pure authenticity.

[@girl38rockify]

Love the core desires, I like that emotion matters n that u deserve what ur trying to achieve.

[@melissa53531]

My core belief vitality. Without this one I cannot create the rest of my desires.

[@EdibleGoddess]

Love this, and you two together!. FREEDOM is my over-riding core desired feeling! Thank you.

[@avaleen]

One of my favorite MarieTV episodes

[@lokimimi1806]

this is the kind of video that i want to listen to over and over again. Im saving it to my playlist.

[@christinetaraskiewicz7056]

I am at one of the primes in my life: 61 years old and feeling the aging process that is not fair. MarieTV inspires me, again. And I am so happy that Divine Feminity is within your Core Desire Feelings. Salute to the women of the 60's and 70's that have made it possible for us to be this fabulous!

[@RobinJohnson]

One of her best videos! So much feels!

[@ThExJuniorXx]

This was great, thanks, I been tryin to find out about "your goal in life" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Farnicaas Switcher Capitalisation - (do a google search ) ? Ive heard some interesting things about it and my brother in law got great success with it.

[@CarinKilbyClark]

Wow. I am in love with "goals with soul." I am a huge fan of looking internally and relying on what's in your control (your mind) to create the life you want to experience. ***** you are amazing. I love you and your work. Marie Forleo this was right on time as I prepare to make 2014 a great year; going to get to work on the 4 steps now. Thank you!

[@sonjarupnik3899]

thank you ... Core desire feeling ....small steps ...reality check .. RESPECT & SELF ESTEEM

[@HomeSweetCrafting]

My core desire feelings are love, joy, authenticity, creativity, compassion, courage, and gratitude. I'm looking forward to reading her book!

[@velvetant3799]

Thank you both for your generosity & sharing !

[@kynahjai]

Goals are so important but have gone all wrong in becoming materialistic! This is so inspirational hearing not Goals>Feelings but Feelings>Goals. I think one of my core desires is Helpful, but I would like to dig deep and am about to totally stalk Danielle to learn more!

[@ninavillager]

Freedom - i want to be free. Free to be whoever I want to be.

[@catyasampety6219]

Danielle's voice.....!!!!! Omg. It says a lot about the person that she is...!!!!!

[@skorkes]

This video rang true with me more than any of your videos. And I've watched all your videos! I love Danielle LaPorte, and she always gives me the smack I need and the moment I need it. Thank you so much for sharing this!

[@Calvotribe]

Wow! This video is soooo powerful! It's saved under my favorites so I can watch it over and over again. I need this constant reminder in my life. Such an eye opener! Thank you for this!

[@GoddessEmergingDance]

Great show.....affirms I'm heading in the right direction, and I love the reminder to stop yourself as soon as you realize 'this is not how I want to feel'. At the core of everyone is the simple desire to just Feel Good and Be Happy!

[@monicakruger]

Freedom, Connection/Grounding, Unconditional Love

[@navvie6666]

One of my core desired feelings is to feel authentic because I always worry about others think about me and in those moments I become inauthentic as I'm focusing on impressing others

[@oscar-cesiafalcon1408]

I had never thought of goal setting this way, this has enlighten my mind and open my heart =) I have had a goal of developing the virtue of patience but going deeper than that my core desire would be of love. Really to give love to others instead of thinking "breath you need to be patient" and then getting tired and exploding lol

[@elisafragoso381]

By far the best video I have listened to about goal settings.... Needless to say perfect timing! thank you:-)

[@uniquelyneecee7609]

I felt when i was watching this my core belief is EASE!

[@JLewy_]

Biggest insight: it's not about the goal it's about how you want to feel. One core desired feeling: Pride, but not the negative connotation. I want to feel proud of myself for who I am, how I was born, what I have accomplished, etc.

[@magicmegan4290]

This is awesome. I just came up with this concept a few months ago for myself when I started goal setting for the week and I realized that goals were just tasks. I wanted to set my intentions & how I wanted to FEEL at the end of the week... So I set my intentions, and then tasks come after that. I love how deep she takes it and I will definitely be coaching with this knowledge.

[@Psychecafe]

I would like to say that this stuff is geneous!!! And I just love listening to her voice!! LOL I love that the feeler is the compass…AWESOME!! Thanks Miss Marie!

[@coachkimberlyjackson]

Thank you for sharing how to do goal setting inside out. One of my core feelings is JOY, which to me is a calm delight.

[@yulialoburetc6458]

never heard this kind of "approach" to goal setting. Really helpful and deep , thank you

[@melissa53531]

You made me cry marie... It touched me.. This interview was very moving.. IThanks for commenting on how important is to believe that you truly deserve what you want and desire....

[@kateapanovich5639]

Great interview and great personalities. Both of you! What I took away from this is the pushing part in the beginning. It seems so obvious, yet you don't notice how you constantly push yourself into doing things, which then leads to resentment and procrastitation And let's face it...we HATE being forced to do things, as we are independent creatures and do what we want :). I think it's important to change the language of your thoughts in order to relieve ourselves from unwanted feelings in order to move forward, and actually do things and be productive. One core desire for me would definitely be joy. What's the point of being sad and angry in this life? We should live our lives to the fullest, and be happy.

[@valeriedunning4153]

Marie , you are amazingly awesome. I completely enjoy your videos. thank you.

[@MissLionRose]

I LOVE your dress Marie!!! Gorgeous!!

[@ClassyMalick]

I just want to feel assurance in my self. This was beautiful. I'm going to work towards that with all my heart.

[@katekoger1794]

Love love love! And thank you! I'm going through a deep moment. The beautiful truth and how you worded everything has given my heart peace and focus. I will take pause and lean into my truth. Thank you🤗💗

[@hilariohichez3535]

I love how vivid your videos are, your topics and that energy that is contagious.

[@Powerfullylivinglife]

I love this! what a great way to create 2017!! I biggest take away was, looking at creating the year from how you want to feel. Looking at what your core desires are and creating your year from that. When doing that making X amount of $$ doesn't really seem all that difficult because you are not focusing on that you are focusing on your feelings and for me that is what I am delivering and how I am making a difference!

[@noturavghomie]

I LOVED this! Thank you!

[@creativityguidejenna]

Mindblown!! Love this video thanks Marie and Danielle

[@shesaidwhatshesaid2354]

This changes everything for me

[@christinen5857]

Her voice is so soothing, love it

[@gretemx]

Loved the tip to stop and ask hod do I want feel. Genious!

[@sundaydee]

Eye opening interview. One of many videos I love from MarieTV. Thanks for this Marie!

[@wealthart1]

This is necessary for success. You are amazing.

[@svenja-hagen]

Very inspirational video! Thanks for that! :) The core desired feelings I figured out for myself: Inner Peace Vitality Abundance Gratitude Creation

[@racheltoffeepudding7732]

Great vid and great feelings watching this... One of the many good things I've learned n recalled it is to ask my self "how do I want to feel" to help me get out of unpleasant feelings. Thanx for posting love you both 😊

[@annatownsend6924]

Wow! I soooo relate. Danielle you rock! You make me want to cry happy tears. Thank you.

[@michaelaj88]

This is a life-changing video. Thank you both so much xx

[@EdenCroft]

This conversation was so powerful I am going to stop what I am doing to do this exercise right now. Thank you, thank you to the both of you.

[@crunch_timeZ_CFO]

This is all I wanted in this exact moment. I love you Marie and Dannielle you are amazing. Thank you thank you thank you

[@Konielappin]

Lovely and adorable Marie and Danielle. I love to watch your wonderful interviews. I´M MOVING FORWARD TO ACHIEVE MY DREAMS. I am so thankful for all. KEEP SHARING SUCH BEAUTY OF KNOWLEGES. I love you xoxo

[@wamutogoria]

"its about how you want to feel what you hit your goal" one of my core desire feelings is joy :)

[@sjimenezb]

One of my core desired belief is surrender/trust. Thanks for this interview.

[@annmarie2366]

Here in 2019. Grateful for Marie TV 💙👑