GOING NATURAL WAS A BIG MISTAKE!

Hey guys! In this video I share with you all the struggles that I have been having with my natural hair. If you guys have any tips and tricks to help me please comment down below!
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[@BriLineFilmEditor]

I think us natural girls have to remember ALOT of us were getting perms since we were children, THATS A LONG TIME. We learned so much and became accustom to permed hair. For a lot of us we have only be nautural for a few years.. We're NEW TO THIS> its like getting a new leg, its gonna take a few years to learn to walk again. GIVE IT TIME!!! focus on the POSITIVE! Missing relaxers is like missing drugs, its unhealthy and bad for you. I understand you frustration i went natural in 2009 and Im still learning how to deal with my hair.

[@sharronking]

BriLineFilmEditor I completely agree.. It's so much easier now!

[@aboutashow]

Yes! I've been wearing extensions since I was four and wore weave all through high school. I grew up around white people and didn't even know what natural hair was until I was a junior in high school. I've been natural five years now but the first two years were a nightmare. I looked a mess but now it's so much easier.

[@pmerancier]

BriLineFilmEditor i have been natural all my life & i can understand where she is coming from. My natural hair takes forever to wash too, the process is a very long time. I won't ever get use to it to the point it takes a 30minutes to finish. I feel you honey & you are right about that there is little to no videos pertaining to the struggles of natural hair. I always tell people who want to go natural that it's not easy.

[@TheZchristina97]

Extensions at four?I'm sorry, but What the hell?

[@aboutashow]

TheZchristina97​Just box braid extensions. I'm not dead, so I'm guessing it was no big deal~

[@2010DeSaray]

natural hair is not for lazy people.. If you only wanna spend 5 min on your hair get a perm and watch your hair fall out.. natural hair takes dedication, love and care.. its foolish to compare natural hair care to relaxed hair because its two different processes.. one is chemically burning your hair straight which causes easy maintenance.. the other is learning YOU and what comes out of YOUR scalp naturally and requires more tlc.. if you dont cover your hair at night with a scarf or bonnet IT WILL BE MATTED! If you dont thoroughly detangle you hair IT WILL BE TANGLED! If you keep your hair in its afro state IT WILL GET KNOTTED! if you dont keep you hair moisturized IT WILL BE DRY! If you dont balance your protein IT WILL BE WEAK! If you go in to natural hair thinking you're going to breeze through it like permed hair then YOU'RE PROBABLY GOING TO BE MAKING A VIDEO LIKE THIS! i believe if we never were introduced to these perms our culture would not be making such complaints because natural hair care would be a part of our everyday lives.. for all my new naturalistas out there dont let this video stray you away from going natural.. i been natural for yrs and i absolutely love it and look FORWARD to my wash days because i know im giving my hair the care it needs to flourish!.. now, im almost at my hair goal, WAIST LENGTH!!!!.. :) :) :)

[@AshleyChristina101]

Seems like you're really upset that I wanted to get a perm?

[@2010DeSaray]

umm no hun.. just being specific & stating clear facts.. plus i ended my statement with a smile not a frown..

[@cookieinspiron]

Nah. You can't string a bunch of words together with low key jabs & shade, all caps and such - and just throw a few smileys on the end. But you tried it. Everyone has their own journey to travel. Either you're dedicated or you're not, one YT video shouldn't knock you off your goal if you're truly serious. A sister is allowed to struggle with her hair journey now & then.

[@khadijaha.muhammad5741]

+cookieinspiron lol ikr. She's big mad. Hate those type of natural "sisters".

[@2010DeSaray]

everyone who uses caps are not angry loves.. im speaking with excitement.. & since when has common sense become "low key jabs"?.. lol only to those who are offended by the truth.. :)

[@gingersnaps997]

Look you are an adult. If you get to the point where you are tired of your natural hair then get a perm. It does not matter what people think.

[@hcharles8492]

Nikita Scott Exactly! Simple! 🙌🏽

[@roslyngordon4596]

"my boyfriend won't allow me" oh please 😑😑😒😒

[@miamii_vibez]

Yesssss ❤️

[@roslyngordon4596]

Her L!f3style I understand he has the right Intentions but that comes off like he's her parent or something

[@datzsojahna8925]

I feel like people with 4c hair are mostly the ones that want to go back to relaxers. 4c hair is beautiful in my opinion it just needs wayy more tlc than coily or curly hair. that's all. don't do it :/

[@rosedalinevaletine6931]

True. It saddens me.

[@SA-qk7qi]

I have 4c hair and I love my natural hair. I don't know why I was so afraid of going natural before. I am lazy when it comes to my hair and that's just because I have a 9 month old who keeps me busy.

[@sharronking]

Jahna Trapp I completely agree, it's also the less accepted and showcased in natural hair community, but it's so beautiful and I know plenty of girls with long beautiful 4c hair.

[@CurlytashJ]

Jahna Trapp true 4c hair is sooo beautiful! Holds styles so beautifully!

[@datzsojahna8925]

Idk to each their own but i wish someone would have urged me to go natural a long time ago. Its more work and more care but its beautiful hair

[@babyboom64]

Let's be real. The vast majority of KZbin "naturals" have hair in the 3 category, which is far easier to style and detangle. Personally, I only spend a lot of money on conditioner (Nexxus). As far as moisturizing, I stick to all natural, raw, pure, coconut oil, shea butter, and a tiny bit of bees wax. Don't give up. You're gorgeous and your hair looks GREAT.

[@dimanshe1]

Your Boo's Boo ....... you have hit the head on the nail....... Most of them are in the 3 category..... Al lot of them from Dominican Republic and other ancestries where type 4c isn’t the norm..... I understand how this lady feels about her hair i have been natural for 2 years now.... and the only reason why I haven’t gone back to relaxer is that it’s cheaper and I don’t have to wait hours getting my hair done and I do so hate being under the hair dryer. That said .......my hair grew a lot faster relaxed than natural and not because it was stretched out either.. These ladies are very young so can chop and change as they please. But oh yes the majority of them saying that they grew their hair from scratch past their shoulder sin 3 years.....That is not 4 C hair......

[@mariahverneus6645]

I don't get why people are bashing this video?? I find it very helpful because what she is saying true and raw. I am currently transitioning and I am going through all the things she has mention. When you had relax hair for so long you don't expect it to be this hard to take care of your natural hair. I've had relax hair for 10 years and I was so use to just going to the salon and getting perms, & washes. So I can relate to this video, it is very time consuming, & when it gets tangle you get so frustrated.. I am glad she made this video, cause now I don't feel alone in this process. I'm all for natural hair because it is "healthier" but you can't get mad at someone for wanting what they use to have if it was easier to deal with.. anyways, stay strong! Your hair looks nice, & I feel lost right now about understanding what my hair likes. But I know eventually we'll get it. 👍🏾

[@layawheeler6118]

Mariah Verneus best comment on here! Im in the process of transitionin and this video is very helpful!

[@lindalackey8399]

Right on black queen are people is so hung up on some damn hair it's so much shit going on in the world besides some hair you can't eat no damn hair it's your choice your hair how ever you want to do with it sweety

[@ArianSage]

I think it's more because you're focusing on what you didn't have to do with you're relaxed hair instead of focusing on what you need to do for your natural hair. You're frustration is increasing because you're unconsciously trying to do what used to work for your relaxed hair, but doesn't work for you natural hair. Natural hair isn't necessarily harder to deal with, it's just different. You have to discover what works for you personally, whereas a relaxer is pretty much common knowledge. I think what some people don't understand about going natural is that it's starting with a blank slate. Your hair is completely different now from when it was relaxed. It's a process, and it's definitely not easy, but at the end of the day, you should focus on what's best for you and your hair. Natural isn't for everyone, just like relaxed isn't. It's up to you to make that decision.

[@NYCSouthernGirl1]

I agree. It's apples and oranges. We are more accustomed to dealing with relaxed hair. I personally don't find one harder than the other but for some it can be. Been natural twice and this time I am taking the less is more approach. Less products. Less manipulation. Less obsessing over growth which it's going to do regardless.

[@jthompson4916]

I agree with all you stated except for "natural isn't for everyone" -it is for everyone it's natural. It's difficult because one never had the chance to experience and learn it as they grew. It's quite unfortunate but I believe more people of the next generation will not have this "problem." We need be careful how we say things. Natural is how we were meant to be.

[@ArianSage]

+MsQueenB2 Exactly. Same here. I recently big chopped again, so I'm also doing my best to better understand my hair and what it likes. Good luck to you. 😁

[@ArianSage]

+Joane Thompson When I said natural isn't for everyone, I was referring to those who find being natural too difficult, or simply just prefer to get a relaxer. Again, there's nothing wrong with it, that's just how it is.

[@glamnp5456]

This is how to leave a comment! Constructive criticism!

[@EccolaporLauraLuz1]

Girl, let go the standard perfect curls people told you you need to follow. Frizzy hair is beautiful too. I promise it will get better once you find the routine that works for you, so don't give up yet. Stay strong sis 💕

[@lisahayden1355]

That what I have very Frizzy hair, We're the ones that need a hair movement we are very over looked lol

[@EccolaporLauraLuz1]

+lisa hayden Me too and I ain't ashameddddd

[@missb1982]

it has been the opposite for me. True wash days are a little longer but once I do a style once a week, that style lasts me the whole week. I do not retwist either, I throw a bonnet on and wake up and go. and I do not spend Money on any expensive products either. that's just a way for companies to make money, it's not that serious. I think you are making it harder than what it really is. try stretching your hair after you wash it. it won't shrink up as much and makes the style last.

[@heavnli_goddess6052]

This is me!! I literally use 3 to 4 products..and I keep it so basic!

[@LunarNoire]

kikifresh same here lol. It'll be a cold day in Hades before I spend 5+ hrs washing my hair and spending bill money on products. I watch some of these videos and just be like y'all doing way to much for me. My mom permed my hair at an early age and then I started wearing extensions, but my God sisters never had their hair permed and had 4c hair and I don't recall it taking anywhere near as long to do, nor were there a boat load of products. It was hair grease and water. When they did get it straightened for special occasions their hair was super long and healthy and remained that way until extensions and perms started breaking it off. So I don't think that much is really needed outside of making sure it's moisturized, sealed, and protected.

[@deljean]

i go to bed with my hair in a puff sometimes. Being natural isnt tht hard to me

[@introvertednigeriangirl4865]

It's really not but I do have room to talk because I've been natural all my life so I knew some things before I actually started taking care of it and now it's growing! 😊. Lol but yeah I agree it's a learning process you just have to know what works for you

[@osimeon00]

Until them edges start breaking.

[@deljean]

+osimeon00 bit a tight puff. Not very often either that i still do it.

[@rosedalinevaletine6931]

Me too. And it is growing. I am a lazy, minimalist natural (three products: shampoo and conditioner and deep conditioner). 10 or less minute in shower and 10 or less minute styling. Some people are trying to mimic KZbinrs-get the bits you need and move on. I REFUSE to spend 6 or more dollar on a hair product. Again, my hair is growing!

[@deljean]

+rosedaline valetine lol foreal

[@TrayceeSimmonsKISS]

Google porosity test. Your literally just putting a strand of hair in water. Porosity is very important in building a regimen that will work for your hair. Also styles that stretch the hair prevent single strands knots ( twist outs and braid outs) . Natural hair is definitely more maintenance if you make it . Wash days of course are longer but I gravitate toward styles that last at least a week or more. Thats 7 days or more of not combing through my hair. I hope this helps Sis . Either way your gorgeous with natural or relaxed hair

[@Jayariee]

But arent most people normal or low with natural hair so she could skip it and just try techniques such as warming products or warming her hair with warm water before putting products, washing regularly and so on

[@Jayariee]

I said most (based on this natural hair survey done in the US). That doesnt mean all.

[@chalseywilder937]

+nanajosianne I believe I have a mix of the two. And I'm half african and half black american.

[@donnachesser21]

+nanajosianne wrong.

[@oluwaseunoladimeji8747]

Traycee Simmons z

[@gigglyfitzgirl]

If it hurts when you comb your hair, you're doing something wrong.

[@tythecreatorrr1744]

gigglyfitzgirl Exactly

[@sds420ss]

gigglyfitzgirl Not necessarily, she might just be mad tenderheaded. She's used to relaxers so, feeling some minor kinks probably feels amplified on her scalp. Also, I've heard that using relaxers for years can cause some people to have scalp sensitivity for years after they stop using them.

[@princessaaliyahangelique300]

gigglyfitzgirl I agree, she might be strangling while her hair is dry which is a BIG mistake. If you detangle in the shower while it's wet/finger detangle it's WAY EASIER.

[@MilkjugMafia]

Idk I'm really tender headed like really really bad and It doesn't hurt unless I take a sew in out

[@dorrettp1339]

gigglyfitzgirl she's not necessarily doing anything wrong, in my family many girls are tender headed...myself included. my sister used to say my mom is using a rake in her hair. i ended up styling my own hair since i was 9. one of my daughters even at 12 would scream and holler at how hard I'm combing her hair...my neices bawl...yep, tender head is a struggle.

[@Lsdivoiletgreen]

"My boyfriend won't let me..." Girl, bye!

[@jtlacy7314]

Lsdivoiletgreen Right!

[@RushellKB]

Lsdivoiletgreen You got me dying!!! 😂😂😂😂😂

[@gigglyfitzgirl]

Lsdivoiletgreen 💀💀💀

[@AshleyChristina101]

To everyone laughing at this comment, which by the way I don't think it's that amusing. When I say "he won't let me do it" I mean he knows I'm indecisive so if I go back relaxed I'll just complain and want to go back natural. BUT how many people can say they have a supporting HUSBAND like I do. I'll wait ☺️

[@gigglyfitzgirl]

Ashley Thompson I'm mostly laughing at the "girl, bye!" part. For some reason I find that phrase so hilarious. 😂😂 I don't mean any harm. Don't let these comments get to you. Relaxed, natural, etc do whatever you want, it's your hair. 💙 And yes it's nice that you have a husband that's supportive of your natural hair journey.

[@georgiac20]

Finally a video that speaks the truth! 👏 not all natural hair is easy to manage and not everyone's hair is the same texture

[@AshleyChristina101]

Georgiaaa Exactlyyyyy and people get so offensive when you talk about the struggles!

[@cjw5403]

Quick Tip: Buy natural hair products at CVS, they have a 100% money back guaranteed return policy if you've used or have not used the product.

[@leggs4113]

Constance Rose wow. I never knew that. Good to know. Sally's has the same return policy.

[@pretendfriend1417]

Constance Rose i hit up dollar general lmfao

[@sparkle5278]

Co wash every day. Then pineapple it. It'll get trained like when u wrapped a relaxer. Get pure olive oil. That's a cheap product that you can buy a lot of at once ( unlike other small bottles of oil) . I even started using conditioner for white folks as a leave in because it's cheaper (Aussie Moist). If I don't wear natural looking extensions I wear a huge bun. Ends are hidden & it looks professional. A bun maker helps make a nice donut shaped bun. I like your honesty . I feel you.

[@VP-fr3cj]

Sparkle LaBelle thanks good ideas! I'm 8 weeks into no relaxer and trying not to open up this box of perm!

[@AshleyChristina101]

I am not a rude person AT ALL but some of you all with your comments thinking that you know what I meant by this video or assuming that I'm in happy with my hair texture is just starting to annoy the crap out of me. I will like it for you to just keep your comments to yourself at this point idc what you have to say or what you think I need to do.

[@AshleyChristina101]

AND HIS VIDEO IS ALMOST A YEAR OLD SO THINGS HAVE CHANGED!

[@PrncssJazmin777]

Ashley Thompson If you can turn the comments off, I think you should.

[@KassandraQuiseng]

You should definitely turn off the comments. these people are extremely rude.

[@ajm935]

hi Ashley Thompson, If you want to go back to straight hair I recommend a Japanese straightening/ thermal reconditioning system!! I got this after being natural for 15+ years and my hair is straight long & healthy. DO NOT GO BACK TO RELAXERS. My hair has never been this length and my hair actually looks healthier than it did when I was natural.

[@ajm935]

also it's not the keratin treatment, do not let them talk you into that, it's a totally different system. Thermal reconditioning is permanent and keratin treatments aren't (and look raggedy after a few weeks). Also don't let these fools get you down. Every style ain't for everybody. You gotta do what works best for you, makes you happy and makes you feel beautiful.

[@Soonandvery]

Just came across your video and I completely agree. For me I considered going back to a relaxer not because I have some hate for my natural hair but because it was less expensive and less time consuming. It had nothing to do with being lazy as someone has suggested in the comments (which was rude because she in essence called you lazy). Some people live very very busy lives and its all about convenience and time management. It has also been far more expensive for me to maintain my natural hair than it ever was when I was relaxed. I actually relaxed and trimmed my own hair so I didn't have a major expense. Now, with even the minimal products i use it still comes out to much more than I ever spent on my relaxed hair. I also want to point out that my hair was near waist length when i had a relaxer and everyone always complimented me on how pretty and healthy my hair was so I think it's all in how you take care of your hair be it natural or relaxed. Contrary to a certain commentator's views, everyone with a relaxer is not destined to have all their hair fall out of their head. When it's all said and done, you have to do what's best for you, your hair and lifestyle. If you want to stay natural, that's great but if you decide to go back to relaxers that's no one's business but yours. People need to stop trying to shame people and make them feel bad for their decisions to do what they want with their hair. Best of luck on your natural hair journey and please do an update video. Sorry for the long post :)

[@patriciajohnson8453]

When women say that relaxers cause their hair to fall out, it's because, they didn't follow the instructions, they either left the perm on way past the 20 minute mark or they didn't wash their hair throughly or they over lapped their perms by getting another to soon or using the wrong strength for their hair type. Honestly, I'm confused by this natural hair vs straight hair, it's completely ridiculous and a big to do about nothing, why do people feel the need to tell women how they should wear their hair? if you want to wear your hair unprocessed so be it, if you choose to wear your hair straight, so be it, why has hair of all things, caused so much tension within the black community is beyond me.

[@Kindred04]

The first part of your comment is simply not true for everyone who experiences hair loss from relaxers. It is extremely shortsighted to say that if relaxers caused someone to lose their hair, it's because they didn't follow the instructions. Some people's hair simply cannot tolerate those harsh toxic chemicals. Even the so-called "mild" relaxers are too harsh for some people's hair and scalp. I've been natural for over 20 years, long before it became the trend that it is now. To understand why natural vs. straight hair causes so much tension (at least in the US), you must understand the history of how kinky/tightly coiled hair has been perceived in this country. People love to say "it's just hair," but as long as you still have Black women being told that their kinky natural hair is not "professional," and Black girls facing suspension or expulsion from school for wearing their natural hair out, then it will never be "just hair." Conscious people understand that it runs much deeper than that.

[@patriciajohnson8453]

NewLifeGratitude The box of relaxer states, that you should test a strand of you hair first, before applying the entire relaxer to your head, I guarantee you, that 99% of the females don't do that. White kids have been suspended from school because of their hair styles as well.

[@PrettyBossUNLIMITED]

Patricia Johnson Exactly. My hair grew long when it was relaxed and natural

[@patriciajohnson8453]

Absolutely, no matter if your hair is relaxed or natural, if it's properly taken care of, it will grow. Thank you!

[@swiitdoll]

Pretty Boss TV it's the same with me. With relaxers in 8 months to a year my hair goes into a ponytail but now I'm natural and it's almost a year my back hair is short af! To wear a bun I have to gel it down. I might just get a perm tbh and I cut my hair like every 2-3 years as I get bored quickly so it doesn't matter

[@michellewise6942]

I'm sure you're getting the hang of it now. I was the same way when I went natural. I just stuck with it. if a product doesn't work for me, I take it back. most places will do that. keep on keepin on girlfriend, you will get the hang of it. your hair is beautiful.

[@miahilliard9184]

Good for you, finally an honest opinion regarding natural hair. I hate naturals who bash women who'd rather care for healthy relaxed than struggle with natural hair. Stay strong and encouraged during your natural hair journey. At the end of the day it's your hair and relaxing it doesn't make you lazy or any less of a woman. I personally have better more important things to do like enjoying my kids instead of spending all day playing with my hair. Oh, and by the way...I have natural hair but believe me if I had to spend all day taking care of my hair I wouldn't hesitate to relax it.

[@tanikaharlis2347]

I totally agree! It's your head. Do what you want.

[@AshleyChristina101]

Exactly! Thank you(:

[@shardaepage6096]

I think you just have to learn your hair more, like you said you don't know what products work for you, you don't know what your porosity is, you dibt know your hair type, etc. I get so sad when I see this because this is our hair guys, our hair isn't meant to be straight and flat, if relaxers never existed we wouldn't have to compare our hair to anything, we would just love our natural hair because that's all we would've known.

[@ReginaSparkleSibert]

Well said. #truth

[@antoinettneil7091]

I had a relaxer for 40/45 years of my life. Natural hair life is more work but you don't worry about chemicals. It is unfortunate that many people don't show the true lifestyle change with natural hair. If my stylist told me to stay natural that means a lot.

[@MissPinkapples]

Thank you so much for making this video. It feels so good to know I'm not the only one feeling this way. I'm super lazy and I do absolutely nothing with my hair it's a matted mess. I'm considering putting a relaxer but I'm pregnant now so I think I have to wait a bit.

[@AshleyChristina101]

+Miss Pinkapples (Misspinkapples) Oh yes definitely wait until after the pregnancy, but yes I'm on the edge of getting a relaxer it's so frustrating to deal with sometimes!

[@bodybossfitnessllc5748]

You only live once. Your hair doesn't define you! If you want a relaxer get one! who cares what ppl think?!?!

[@poppytree1909]

There's rlly nothing that hard about being natural...

[@ahneed6406]

I agree, but maybe because I've been natural all my life

[@princessCaribou1]

Simstone Free for you maybe but give a thought to those who do

[@TheZchristina97]

It is if you don't do wash and gos

[@user-zx5xw4yw2e]

Simstone Free Everyone has a different grade of hair and texture. U mean its not hard for YOU.

[@blasianprincess8763]

TheZchristina97 not really lol I have 4c

[@thebreestylez]

This is the realest video that I ever saw about the natural hair transition. You explained my actual struggle

[@mykindaday]

I was natural for four years and recently textlaxed my hair. It was the BEST hair decision I made. It's now raiser for me to take care of my hair daily because the process is shorter and my protective styles( Bantu knots, twist outs,etc.) last longer. I hate that we base our beauty and what we should do with our based on what others think. Do you boo whatever you do.❤️

[@estrogenian7433]

THANK YOU for sharing this!!! I'm 23 months along and fresh out of 'underbraids' & wigs! Cried the whole 6 hrs it took to tend to my hair so I feel you! Going to watch your follow up vid now.

[@privateprivate5302]

this is very real and extremely informative. I just wanna say thank you for being straight up. I am lazy low maintenance, jeans and a hoodie to go out, sweat pants and a few to stay in. I don't comb my hair until I have to go to work, and I only style it when I feel like it and that's not often. my style is a wet-set a/ magnetic rollers, air-dried for 4-24hours depending on the motivation that day. I thought going natural would allow me to be even lower maintenance. I had a hair dresser who was putting in my relaxer, (my hair is fairly long. I don't even trim my ends but maybe once a year). my hair dresser is natural and reveled in how long my hair was and discussed her hair length goals. I expressed the curiosity of going natural and she discouraged it, but didn't elaborate. thank you for elaborating. I only perm every 6-8mos. when my new growth gets really long, is when I start the roller sets, really just to hide the new growth and continue not combing my hair. the key to my long hair, ignore it. yes wash, deep condition, moisturize, but not religiously. I just ignore it. no poney tails. NO HEAT. the most expensive product I buy is MOTIONS MARULA oil, because it's only sold on Amazon at a crazy Mark up, and I buy it in bulk. I realize, I'm too lazy to natural

[@BossLady19811]

Thank you for your honesty! I'm on a 6 month stretch aiming for one year. And I've considered going natural.it's really hard to want to go 100% natural when you work 50 to 60 hours week,maintaining a household, etc. etc. it's nice to see someone on KZbin mention how difficult it is to be natural and not just showing you a quick tutorial and in result.

[@lisajohnson521]

Yeah, natural hair is expensive, challenging and time consuming. Your hair is beautiful though. Don't give up sis. You'll get the hang of it all.

[@chalseywilder937]

It's not unless you make it expensive and time consuming.

[@lisajohnson521]

I think it is when you're new to it. It takes time to figure out what works for your hair and how to manage it. I do however, think that it's sad that black women have been so conditioned to desire a different hair texture, whether it be from a relaxer or a weave, and when we open our eyes to see how beautiful our NATURAL hair is, it's a chore and we don't know how to care for it. That was me too. LOL But practice makes perfect!

[@chalseywilder937]

Lisa Johnson I completely agree with you. I think it's sad too. It can be expensive at first and that should be a given. You're doing something new so of course. I find that transitioning is more difficult to deal with. I just did the big chop. Keeping the damaged chemical treated hair will slow you down. But if your hair is short in the beginning it shouldn't be too much work at all

[@GimpGirl1]

In the beginning it definitely is a struggle even I had doubt's and wanted to give up, however you do start to learn your hair and it gets way easier. Natural hair is only as expensive as you make it, you really don't need as many products as people on KZbin make it seem like you need. All I use is a cheap conditioner (Aussie Moist) to help detangle my hair, to deep condition I use coconut milk mixed with any cheap deep conditioner and mix in some oils (Olive oil) and then I do a braidout(8 braids) and rise out the deep conditioner I do a braidout on hair full of conditioner bc this is when my hair is stretched and will make for a better braidout. afterwards I rinse out the conditioner. Next I put oil on my braids then put my leave in conditioner on top and call it a day. my braidouts lasts for a week.

[@Indiegirl007]

I think it depends on the texture, and what you do to your hair, which will determine how manageable it is. When my hair is straight, its bra strap length. Curly, chin length, maybe a little longer. My hair is very thick, and its between a curly and frizzy/poofy kind of texture. I notice when I stay on my deep conditioning, my moisturizing, my leave in, my hair becomes SO MUCH MORE MANAGEABLE. When I don't do any of that for awhile, my hair becomes insane. But when I do....Wash day, is about 2 hours. I put them in twists, that are easy and versatile enough to where if I need to leave, I can just pull them up into a basket weave bun and it looks cute. If I do a twist out, the twist outs last for 2-3 days, and even when the waves are frizzing up, my hair is still soft enough and shiny enough, it still looks OK. Also, another thing I noticed when I keep up with the moisturizing, my edges and my baby hair, start to lay automatically. You just gotta understand your hair. A lot of people have never seen their natural hair, and so when faced with taking care of it, they get scared, they get impatient. Its a journey. A journey in finding out whats best for YOUR hair. Do what IT needs, not do what you want it to do. And be proud in your texture! For the first time last week, I went out on a date with curly hair. I usually straighten it, because I don't feel "hot enough" when I have curly. But this time, I was just like, fuck it. If things work out, he's going to see my curly hair eventually. You just gotta play with it, work with it. Its all a process. No one said healthy hair was going to be easy.

[@iloveGod1105]

thank you so much for being brave enough to post this video. i appreciate you for keeping it real!!

[@KrystleMartin]

Girl, don't give in! Stay strong! Your natural hair is beautiful, and you will learn! I am just finding your channel! Subscribed!

[@trnigyul]

I've been natural 6 years now and I think its the plethora of info out there that overwhelms some of you. My advice; forget curl pattern and find out your porosity cuz once you do maintenance will be golden. Don't study what others are doing with their hair that will be your biggest mistake, trying to get the curl next door is one of the most time consuming and costly mistakes a lot of naturals make. I work with my hair and not against it, wash day only takes me 1 hour tops and I have waist length hair. Don't feel bad about your frustration but also dont overthink it, break some of those natural hair rules cuz i did and let me tell you natural hair is cheap cheap cheap for me! I spend so little time and money on my hair and it has flourished.

[@Love25648]

trinigyul What's your routine and products?

[@trnigyul]

I don't really have a routine, I just go with whatever my hair needs, I wash my hair once a week sometimes if my hair is in twists or flat ironed I will do it once every two weeks. My wash day is simple I dont pre poo because my hair already usually have oils/butters on it from styling. I shampoo with diluted black soap and condition with vo5 or tresemme conditioner whichever I have on hand then style. If i'm deep conditioning that week I just shampoo and deep condition right after, my fave right now is the shea moisture high porosity deep conditioner. After washing I just spray my hair with aloe vera juice and water, seal it in with whipped shea butter and style in a bun, twists whatever I feel like or have time to do. If I do a wash n go I just use Eco Styler gel with some lotta body moisturizer under it. Thats it. Those are all the products in my arsenal, very minimal and nothing is expensiv; black soap, aloe vera juice, a rinse out conditioner, a deep conditioner, shea butter, eco styler gel.

[@yvonnejacobs4376]

trinigyul thank you!! when i first went natural I was always doing what these hair ladies were doing and it was costing me a fortune, and that's money that I don't have cuz I'm still a student, but then one day when I went to buy products I just got so sick of the time consumption and money and rather than go for all those expensive products I picked up some simple olive oil products like I used to use and now my hair is doing better than it was with all those expensive and pointless products

[@shelliebrooks2170]

trinigyul

[@domiversaix5375]

(@Ant rip) was that a joke? her whole post basically says "stop chasing the curl next door" & the first thing you ask for is her routine?? *deep eye roll* smh

[@argelis119]

Thanks for being so honest about it, I've been both natural and relaxed now I'm relaxed and trying to be healthy. Thank you so much for the video 😻

[@randomsthingsandstuff9285]

I'm glad more videos like this are coming out to show the other side of going natural. Just so we can be more informed and know what to expect.

[@danaejames4981]

I bought reusable gloves at Sally's to detangle my hair with deep conditioner, and it makes my hair so easy to detangle.

[@SharonBeauzier]

I agree gloves makes all the difference , detangling is a breeze when you use gloves and some conditioner .

[@chalseywilder937]

I didn't know there were gloves like that at sallys

[@SharonBeauzier]

I use the clear one but i buy the regular cloves that you use to clean , the gloves that come in a dye box are crap lol .

[@buttercup6094]

omg thanks for this, will make sure to sallys and buy some gloves

[@ReginaSparkleSibert]

Thanks for sharing. I'll be sure to buy gloves. Right now, I'm loving my short stage...

[@DaphTv]

kinky hair is hard to work with.

[@introvertednigeriangirl4865]

Eh not really it can be frustrating but I wouldn't say it's hard.

[@chalseywilder937]

+Njeko Nwakile It's not hard at all. I love kinky hair. It has that natural puffiness

[@introvertednigeriangirl4865]

+Angie Wilder True

[@Changich]

it's not hard in my opinion it's just time consuming once you know how to take care of your hair it's not hard

[@lindalackey8399]

It is hard to work with I like kinky hair it's beautiful I'm black dominacan I have long hair like my father I try to get my hair kinky it won't work it will get curly but falls back strait so fycj it I tried hair don't makes a person any way I can't eat no damn hair lol

[@MsJae-sf2hf]

I agree 100%, I too miss my perms - being natural can become difficult at times but I can say my hair has never been so healthy I'm trying my best not to go back, thank God for all our Beautiful Natural Sistas out there to help us to get through, back in the day I rocked a "bush" but the hair products was nothing compared to what you can use today. Stay Strong Blessed and Beautiful.

[@MsBeautydove]

Girl you had voiced every concern I have since becoming natural.

[@triniluv_thepack8931]

Buy some raw shea butter and make your own moisturizer and create your own growth oil. Use regular conditioner and make your own deep conditioner. It does not have to be expensive. It does not have to be painful. You need to take time and stop watching so much KZbin videos and learn your hear for yourself!!!! And if you still are frustrated with your hair then put it in a protective style like braids.

[@deedwells]

Honestly, you don't have to do all that. I do not take a day to wash my hair. I don't do all those time-consuming styles. All you need is a leave in, moisturiser and oil. Curl type doesn't matter. Porosity is more important. All you have to do is the cup test to find that out. I'm natural with a busy life I just don't have time for the twist and braids I feel you. You really don't even need an expensive conditioner. I went back to drugstore conditioners because I use tooo much to spend 20$ on conditioner. All you need is moisture.

[@LeeHanHart]

I agree with you 100%. A lot of KZbinrs are post big chop but I dont understand the point of being natural and then covering up the hair you work so hard to be proud of. I feel you on the struggle and have transtioned 3 times. I'm staying relaxed but love your vids.

[@clementine4133]

Thank you for being so honest, beautiful and soft spoken. I heard myself in your words, I did fall for the relaxer after years.... nice at the beginning and then my hair felt and sounded dead to me: lack of strength, volume, bounce. So, I am pondering what to do but I already started cutting the perm ends and twisted it today... I will see.

[@VampirelaPR]

Tank you for telling the truth.

[@melaningoddess973]

appreciate the honesty queen . I think you should do whatever you want. I have been natural ALLLLLLL my life but im over it lol im in between locs and a relaxer diversity is beautiful hmmmmmm

[@ednasimwinga9772]

Black in whatever texture requires a lot of tlc if it has to be healthy. Secondly everyone has a right rant or get excited about their own experiences and indeed our personal are different. I don't believe anyone with a KZbin channel about hhj is required to become a natural hair or relaxed hair ambassador. Each of us is allowed to expess our feelings or opinions even if they're contrary to the promotion of any particular hair texture. Happy hair healthy growing!

[@jbell6852]

I appreciate your honesty Ashley.

[@lindabrown0]

...........Just a tip regarding the products. Read the ingredients on the products and get to know what each ingredient is supposed to do (Google !!!!) Many of these products are composed of the same stuff so it's not necessary to buy different bottles and sprays, paying a lot of money, for virtually the "same" product. Fancy names, different fragrances, advertising are just marketing ploys for very similar products. The first ingredient is usually water with a little bit of this and little bit of that. Folks will go through a little bit of trial and error but once you find products that suit your hair, then stick to them...........IMHO

[@huntdalaina]

linda brown a

[@clarissabest4164]

I feel you girl... love my natural hair ...but sometimes 😒😒😒

[@gypsyspiriit2242]

i can like totally get where you going. i started transitioning in 2014 and big chop in nov 2015. two hair texture was so hard to deal with but eventually you'll get through it. :) just give yourself time. and remember youtubers almost always show 70% the best of their hair and 30% of the bad days ;) stay strong and peace out girl!

[@lakieshatucker9990]

I appreciate your honesty! Whether people say it or not, we've all been there.

[@TheKindJourney]

i just use water aussie moist conditioner and oliver oil every 2 days and it looks super defined

[@CeMoneNicole]

Some of you are so rude and judgmental. She's expressing herself and how SHE feels.

[@ohreallyokay7812]

EVERYTHING she talked about in this video I experienced with my natural hair! And I'm glad someone made a video about it, instead of trying to make it seem like this journey is a walk in the park because it's not. I'm not going to relax my hair because I believe relaxers are bad for the body but Damn this ain't easy especially those 2 strand knots ugh.

[@BlaydeAlabama]

when I get tired. braids! still saves me to this day

[@imtiredofyall4843]

Maybe get box braids it's a healthy option for your hair and it literally is so easy to do you don't have to brush anything

[@haizekhaze8868]

lollll enjoy that thinned hair thennn slowly but surely....plus hair clups coming out, having to wrap it up all the tx or hot comb it, curling iron it for it to lay dwn...

[@kailaalissia7038]

I was natural the first time for 4 years, and and permed and cut my hair into a pixie cut. I’m back natural again. This year will make two years. At the end of the year, I’m relaxing it again and cutting it into a cut short deep part bob! I’m so over this “natural hair”.. I’m straight on it.

[@lolabigcups7121]

OMG I so feel you! Its a long hard transition. The struggle is real!

[@AshleyChristina101]

Yes the struggle is so real lol!

[@queenbee9117]

if its too too much for u- jus go get a relaxer. its not that big of a deal... and a bf tellin u anything about yur hair choices is a no no... my opinion, that shud b a husband privilege only.

[@briannamiagymnasts6408]

queen bee it kinda is a big deal

[@emyliefougy8595]

realast natural hair video i've seen!

[@cocopecan]

I feel you girl. My hair is a lot of work too. Now I just straighten it. I rarely wear it in it's natural state but I will never go back to a relaxer. My hair is much healthier since transitioning to natural. Thanks for sharing your frustrations.

[@TheHappy2beme]

thanks for your honesty girl.

[@8673350]

I know Right it is so frustrating

[@TheWashAndGoChick]

hello! how is it going! have you tried looking at other 4c naturals with easier regimens? I dont think 4c hair should go more than a few days without combing, otherwise it is very time consuming. I wash, condition and style my hair every day while in the shower (I go to the swimming pool) and it takes me about 10 minutes including the shower, then I again, I only do wash and gos. I am too lazy for twists, braids etc. I tried this of washing my hair once per week, but the combing/detangling becomes a nightmare. (And ended up putting a relaxer on my hair and regretting, twice). Now that I discovered this about combing my hair everyday or almost everyday, my hair is not a burden any more. Sorry you have to experience such frustration. I can see the video is from a while ago, I hope it is better now.

[@Yolie71]

Thank you for being REAL!!!

[@SylviaWandahwa]

you rock!! telling it as it is especially during the transition period...

[@janemadison3542]

You're still in the awkward boring phase. It's not short., but it's not long. Not much to do but wear it back. But I promise you the longer your hair get the more fun it will be. We all been there. Don't give up. Try not to overthink it. Take your vitamins and get through this phase as quickly as you can.

[@AshleyChristina101]

Yes I'm just waiting patiently for done length, so I can do some different hairstyles.

[@bvivid1975]

Aussie moist makes detangling ridiculously easy !!! At least for me !! And it's $5 so if it doesn't work no big deal

[@alexandra4real360]

Only comb your hair when wet and preferably after putting a cream based leave-in in. This will make it easier to comb through, less breakage and will detangle your hair all at once!

[@Chauntihanna]

I totally agree with you about being natural, it is such hard work ! I have kept my hair in cornrows under my wigs/weaves bc i have yet to learn how to manage my hair since transitioning

[@AshleyChristina101]

+Chauntihanna Fayad It's so hard, I was wearing wigs as well but then I got over the process of braiding my hair in really small braids to let my wig lay flat!

[@sabcam2000]

Well, do whatever you want, but you look better with your natural hair in my opinion.You look all cute.

[@AshleyChristina101]

Hey guys I just uploaded a new story time be sure to check it out please(: kzbin.info/www/bejne/m4DKkmCXZrKFm7c

[@deborahotu6345]

Ashley Thompson s

[@SamMKKK]

When I saw the title I was like, o boy, bros are gonna come for her for this one. And sure enough. Hi honey. I'm a semi new natural, and up until last week, I was considering getting relaxers too. But then I gave this fro one last chance: watched some KZbin videos, styled it, wrapped it, went to sleep, and GIRL. It gets better, I promise. I'm sure it has for you, as this video was posted a while back, but I really really want to encourage you to hold on. You have absolutely gorgeous curls. Stunning. But if you want to get relaxers, go get em tiger! Let no one tell you what the fuck you should do with your hair, because it is *your* hair. It's your struggle, not anyone else's. My best friend has her hair texlaxed, and trust me when I say it's so shiny and so full, so beautiful, and it IS healthy. You do YOU.

[@LiissaaRenee]

I'm a natural newbee and I did the big chop. My hair has never been this short, but my hair is more manageable now than before. It's all in the products. I mix and match product lines. I am enjoying the change but I have to say it has been trial and error. Good luck with your natural hair journey.

[@BlackBerri9]

just get a relaxer then . . .

[@ulondabrazzle8173]

I wanted to say that but didn't want to sound crass... lol. But, yeah.

[@DaphTv]

lmbo

[@itskaylah4733]

😂😂😂

[@mykindaday]

I literally lol'd when I read this. I wish we would stop measuring our beauty and what we want to do with our hair based on what others feel what we should do. Do you boo all day!

[@AshleyChristina101]

No need to be rude!

[@iamkellij]

Stop over thinking about hair type when it comes to your type of wave, curly. Focus on your porosity and density and type of strands.. Example: I'm low porosity and medium porosity (yes u can have more than 1), medium density with fine strands. The curl type to honestly doesn't matter. My friend is considered a 4a/4b and I would be considered a 3c/4a and our hair type with porosity and density is the same so guess what we can share products and it works fine. As far as detangling goes try using an oil before shampooing. I just use extra virgin olive oil Walmart brand, I heated it up and leave on my hair for about 10mins, then detangle. I don't think it should take all day to do your hair. At the most it takes me 2 hours and that's if I'm taking breaks.. if you have the moisture protein balance your hair needs it's a breeze. I got lucky however because my mom is a licensed cosmetologist

[@AdornHer]

Natural hair is great for some people but its not for everyone, personally its not my thing. I am glad to see in a recent video that you are learning to love it! I feel like everyone should do what makes them happy!

[@alainac.8183]

i used to hate wash days too, because it took forever to wash, but i came upon this youtubers video, efficiently natural. She has 4c hair and her hair is super long. She washes her hair in loose twists and it really cuts down wash time. I'm so glad i found her video's because she offers great tips. You should check her out

[@carlettawilliams1559]

Go get another perm..burn it all off again. No hair, no issues

[@CourtneyA.]

Oh lord. 😂

[@sds420ss]

Carletta Williams. LMFAO!!! Real shit. 😄😂 Them relaxers with burn that shit right out along with the follicles. Hair problems will be a thing of the past.

[@tytiaunnia]

Carletta Williams 😂😂

[@DivineDisciple7]

Carletta Williams i never new it was a rule or a command to stay natural or get a perm. Damn what people say right?

[@SourStrawberrys]

Bullshit. I have been relaxed all my life, and my hair is thick and down my back. People like you don't know what the hell you are talking about. Didnt know how to take care of relaxed hair yourself so you assumed that relaxed hair cannot be thick and healthy. Have a seat. BOTH can be healthy when taken care of and BOTH can be come unhealthy with not.

[@girlofepicness2]

I can totally see where your coming from. I've been natural for a bit over a year now. Products are pricey and it takes time to style natural hair. But, there are trade offs for both natural and relaxed hair. I personally think that natural hair is worth the effort because my hair is SOO healthy now and the styles I do look very cute on me. I love getting complements on my hair. I never used to with my relaxed hair. I currently have a protective style right now but I cannot tell you how much I miss the feel of my natural hair. Honestly, the key to be a naturalist is KZbin. I watch videos all the time for tips and products to use. I also simply google a lot of things too. I hope this helps

[@prettygirl45459]

I live in Japan and getting products will sacrifice my pockets. So I am left to use oils and shea butter mixes as well as DIY protein treatments. My hair has been pretty happy!

[@tallywithme]

Being natural is overrated and not even all that. I regretted it too and I started watching healthy relaxed hair girls with beautiful healthy long hair. I am happy I went back to texturising again. My hair is healthy and beautiful. It was brittle extra dry and broke so bad when it was natural.

[@VivianBreezy]

I'm thinking about doing the big chop but she's making me feel bad

[@itsinez9810]

do it . i just did mine on the 5th and i love it. i only transitioned for a year. you have to think about you and how you'd feel about.

[@rbreezy2]

I'm so sick of the natural hair movement why not healthy hair movement I'm sick of ppl telling other ppl what they should do to their hair

[@AshleyChristina101]

I so agree with you!

[@MultiBabydoll1234]

I agree too. I'm relaxed & my hair is thick & healthy. People judge me for killing my "black culture" with "hair crack" like girl bye

[@AshleyChristina101]

+MultiBabydoll1234 Yes my relaxed hair was healthy as well, I just wanted something different since I've been relaxed since I was a little girl. I don't see why people make it a big deal it's great to be back and have that choice to do different things with our hair!

[@Zhaanaay]

Relaxers actually DAMAGE your hair and scalp, the natural hair movement is just tryna help 😒

[@glamnp5456]

+Tati White But it's not what you say, it's how you say it. That's where the problem start. Some of these natural nazi need to really get their life, they steadily "attempting" to drag somebody! If everybody would have a better approach or simply just mind their own business, life would be great!

[@allaboutthatjazz]

I have a different experience since being natural. I don't regret it at all. Never liked getting the relaxers. I definitely don't miss the breakage I had while relaxed. I'm still learning my hair too. And right now the puff is my go to style as well. But I'll wear headband and pieces sometimes too.

[@beyoutifullynatural3084]

Loved your video. I felt the same way when I first went natural, it's all a learning process.

[@queenk6592]

Just because YOU miss your relaxers does not mean that other naturals only show the "easy" side of not chemically altering their hair. Those woman GENUINELY love their natural hair. It annoys me so much for people to talk for others.

[@brandit7685]

Okay...? HER channel. HER opinion :)

[@queenk6592]

Flawless Simmer Okay? My laptop, my opinion. 😊

[@queenk6592]

Bubblezlolx 😂😂 Just like you brought your unwanted comment to mine. Aren't you hypocritical. 😂😂 Humans...

[@queenk6592]

Bubblezlolx ... You've got to be kidding me, right? So you're going to sit there and say, "but YOU brought your unwanted opinion to HER channel," and say that isn't an opinion? Girl... A statement is exactly that, a statement. It is an official account for facts, views and/or plans. So to make it easier for you, your statement can be and WAS an opinion. 😂 You objectified that my comment was unwanted, which is an OPINION. How do you know whether or not my statement was wanted? 😂 Lemme stand up so you can take this seat. I'm done though, because that was sadly comical. For you to think a statement can't be an opinion is stupid. XD Which is why one could say, "I STATED (root word) that she was ugly." What is that? An opinion. Exactly. 😂😂 I'm so done. I don't argue with idiots.

[@queenk6592]

Bubblezlolx You stated that you said a statement and not an opinion, and what you said was an opinion. No way around that. Plain and simple. You assume because she didn't ask for comments that all are unwanted? It doesn't work that way. 😂 So once again... Fail. ✌💀

[@akeyajohnson1065]

naturals who hate being natural get on my nerves.... like if you hate it sooo bad do yourself a favor and get a relaxer... no one is forcing you to be natural... not everyone spend money on expensive ass products... find a hair style that works for you... i wash my hair when i want i dont have a wash day... maybe you just dont know what you are doing... why are you even natural

[@AshleyChristina101]

If you have a problem why did you watch?

[@akeyajohnson1065]

+Ashley Christina if you hate being natural why dont you get a perm

[@AshleyChristina101]

+Akeya Johnson It's my hair and this is how I felt everyone has a different experience!

[@kizziekente2468]

+Ashley Christina Listen, I DONT KNOW ONE NATURAL WHO HAS THOUGHT ABOUT A PERM AFTER GOING NATURAL!!!!! For MOST it's a natural reaction it is also relative to how long it's been since uve seen ur natural hair!!!! I have been natural for years and I swear just 2 weeks ago I was ACTUALLY thinking about a perm! We go thru it, stay strong!

[@kizziekente2468]

+Ashley Christina Who has NOT thought about a perm, Is wat I meant

[@Coacoa11honey]

Gotta know your porosity it help A LOT! You can find $5 products that work for you if you know your porosity. I hope it gets better or has gotten better for you. I love my natural hair! I hate that you've been struggling. Don't give up you'll find what works for you!

[@amanasui]

Sometimes I feel really sad because a lot of the black community hates on people with relaxed hair and who like having relaxed hair. They always say 'thats so damaging like that is so bad for your hair' but I'm actually tired of it and I love my relaxed hair (my hair has been relaxed for like 10 years and I have no hair breakage at the back or anything, idk why just hair in my family is really strong) .I love my hair because its easy to manage and it looks nice but I'd prefer it if people didn't comment on how unhealthy it is every single day. Like shut up and leave me alone, it's not your head is it?? I don't give a flying foot about its healthiness as long as its not falling out. I do my hair the way I want it and you do your hair the way you want

[@Ascension1004]

I swear type 4 naturals complain about everything. Your hair is beautiful! If you don't feel attractive being natural, then maybe the issue isn't your hair. Plus, being natural doesn't have to be expensive. Black women spend hundreds of dollars on weave, but can't spend twenty dollars on good conditioner? Girl bye.

[@briannamiagymnasts6408]

Ascension 2000 you know the beginning of your comment was nice and calm but towards the end was just rude

[@serenareid6151]

It's hard to watch videos like this about how natural hair is so hard to manage. Natural Hair does not like laziness. If you are lazy then natural hair is not for you. The first thing you need to ask yourself is do I LOVE MY HAIR. Cause when you love your natural hair then nothing bothers you when it come to taking care of it. One day a week is not a big deal like you are saying. You really need to figure out what you wanna do cause as long as you keep thinking about your relax days your not gonna fully take the time to get to know your hair. My channel is mainly all about PROTECTIVE STYLING, if you want stop by. I have all different type of styles that maybe you can try to do, just to help you out alittle. Good Luck.

[@1998oliva]

I think it depends on your hair type. I have 3c hair with some 4a, and let me tell you im the laziest person ever when it comes to hair. I only use shampoo (dove or sunsilk) and conditioner (herbal essence) and any light oil like olive oil, thats it. I wash my hair twice a week with shampoo cause its too hot where I live. Got my first and only relaxer two years ago and my natural hair has grown 16 inches since then..

[@prettygirl45459]

I sincerely think it comes down to how we were program to view our hair. We can have lazy hair days, we can go without taking care of our hair here and there, ans so on and so forth. I have 4c hair, ziggly and kinky puff that is pretty thin but since 2012 I have been focusing so much on wanting my hair to become longer with taking care of my body as well. Going back to being natural (I hate the word becoming natural when women with relaxers have to get their roots touched up its there natural hair coming to ring a bell) is understanding that you've never dealt with your hair ever and will be confused at the start, It comes to understanding what you hair likes and dislikes, It is finding people who have similar hair texture and getting advice but taking it in little by little because hair has to become accustomed to routine so that it can start building stronger and healthier. I have always been fascinated with my texture because it is so weird and does its own thing sometimes, I have literally probably a few more years of love to make up for when it comes down to my hair and making it stronger, but giving up and framing it as if something that is naturally on your head is just too much for you to handle without having patience sends the message to those inspired by natural hair enthusiast on youtube or blogs that it is not worth working for. Sorry this was lengthy!

[@theqwndiva]

You are a rockstar for your honesty...

[@somethingaboutmary21]

Your hair is gorgeous. I'm 4c and it took me awhile to get a solid regimen. It's definitely a process. What helped me with making my hair more manageable was stretching it on wash day. There are different stretching techniques but I blow dry my hair on low to medium heat and then style it. I hope this helps. I appreciated your honesty in this video. It took me 2 years to figure out my hair as well. New subbie!

[@ChandraLeigh]

The word is fRustrating with an "r"..........

[@AshleyChristina101]

Thank you for the grammar lesson lol!

[@NOTRUMPZONE]

LM Jones that is extremely rude. You have nothing better to do than to troll KZbin videos and raise DICTION FLAGS? Please exercise some COUTH.

[@NOTRUMPZONE]

Ashley Thompson great video sis. Thank you for sharing your experience.

[@AshleyChristina101]

MELANIN GODDESS You're welcome 😊

[@blasianprincess8763]

MELANIN GODDESS literally only said that's how u pronounce the word . It ain't serious

[@lifewithlay65]

Been getting perms since 3, began to go natural close to a year now . It was the HARDEST transition ever, with tease and not knowing how to take care. Going from little products cause it'll weight the perm down to making sure you get each strand covered. But I AM IN LOVE with my natural hair !