Goodbye, Minimalism.

[@LanaBlakely]

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[@NatureDaydream]

Yes! I can't wait for the next letter. All of them look like love letters 💌! Hopefully, your life will be more colorful than ever with different look into minimalism.

[@heeymia8761]

I still not receiving :( I signed up several times, it's not even in my spam box

[@billmcgoon9991]

Tell (Show) me!!!

[@manbeardogstar]

I would give up all the comforts of this life just to have what you have Lana because I realize that life is too short and it's the small things, like when you stop and look up to the sky, notice the flowers, hear the birds sing, smell the scent from the tree, the way your hair lifts up, how your mouth smiles...you remind me of the most beautiful things in life...🌹❤️

[@martynfosterqwan]

I've signed up (twice) but have only received one or two and they aren't in the junk/spam folder - I just don't receive them unfortunately!

[@roryl5942]

The idea of Minimalism isn't depriving yourself, its freeing yourself from "things" that don't enhance your life.

[@Red.Christopher]

I agree completely. Letting go of things that don't enhance my existence has done wonders for my mental well-being. It's as if a weight has been lifted and I am now mentally freer. I have even gone a step further and applied the same principle to people.

[@ferillionaire]

I think possessing a set of plates or glassess or coffee mugs (at least six😂) doesn't make someone extravagant. But maybe expressing yourself with the "things" you have, their price, their brands or purchasing products just because they are popular or "influenced" can make someone live in a distorted reality. For instance most of the beauty products, especially makeup products are not necessity. But if using highlighter makes me happy or makes me feel beautiful, why shouldn't I purchase it? I believe, determining what u really need, what u really should buy based on your lifestyle, desires, needs, which product is not suitable or unneccessary for you are much more rational than totally rejecting possesion. I mean there is no need to go extra. Yes we are spritual & energy beings living in a body but we came here to experience humanness. We don't have to go that far to purify our souls from desire (i.e. nefs) We can do whatever we want "in moderation" and in balance.

[@derekg5563]

@Rory Laubscher: Yes. Minimalism isn't about not enjoying an extremely large amount of luxurious things, it's just about not enjoying more of those things than what you want to.

[@roryl5942]

@@ferillionaire "..moderation and balance". Well said. :)

[@derekg5563]

​@@ferillionaire "I believe, determining what u really need, what u really should buy based on your lifestyle, desires, needs, which product is not suitable or unneccessary for you are much more rational than totally rejecting possesion." I'm not sure how you can say that, because the former is just a different stage/step of rational decision making from the latter. It's like saying "determining how much meat you want to eat is much more rational than just rejecting eating meat." Well, it all depends on how that determination goes, and what conclusion you come to, and if your action follows from that. If you determine from that determination that you don't want to eat any meat, then it _would_ make sense to totally reject eating meat. To totally reject something, to make any decision really, logically implies that you determined that this decision was right for you; that's why you made that decision. A minimalist could say that, because they determined that their lifestyle doesn't need anything extra, that they can totally reject possession of such extras. That determination that they made is what would make them reject possession. If you do something different from that, it's because you want more than the essentials in your lifestyle, not because you made a determination and they didn't. "But if using highlighter makes me happy or makes me feel beautiful, why shouldn't I purchase it?" Well, it might make you appreciate your natural beauty, foregoing your temptation to satisfy a craving to look a certain way. It might make you tougher and stronger in that you are building a tolerance for not satisfying your cravings which can make you better at not letting cravings or emotions in the future getting the better of you. That way if a time comes when you aren't able to satisfy certain cravings, there is no feeling of crisis because you are already comfortable without doing it and you still feel just as much like yourself as before, because you find it from looking within, something that is always possible for you no matter how much or little possessions you may have. It would just be business as usual for you in that scenario. You never have to ask yourself "what will I do if I lose x possession" if you are already happy without any possessions, and so you can live without so much fear of the future, and you free your mind to do less _worrying_ in the present and more _enjoying_ of the present moment. The more you resist distractions from being content from within, the deeper and more resistant to hardship that contentment becomes. Any time spent on something external involves attention being taken away from your internal relationship with yourself. Meditation, for example, is based on taking yourself away from as many elements as possible, so that, more or less, all you are left with is your internal sense of self and nothing is getting in the way of that. It is always potentially beneficial to train resisting temptations; sure, one can simply hope that when things get tough, they will find a way regardless of training, but when you train, you put things into your hands, where, more and more, you don't need to hope you will find toughness when you need it, because you live with it everyday already. Then whatever moment you do enjoy (perhaps a season, such as summer), you don't have to spend any of that energy worrying about when it ends, because you are already profoundly content with being without it. Ironically, when you are fully content with not experiencing it, it makes experiencing it feel so much better because you are using the present moment to fully engage with it instead of outsourcing some of your energy in that moment to worrying about it ending or worrying about some disaster interrupting it. When you can enjoy life in that way, it doesn't really matter what is going on -- whatever you are enjoying right now, you can easily replace it with something different as soon as it ends, and enjoy that replacement just as much. Such a process could make you feel happier and more beautiful in the long run compared to you satisfying a craving that will make you feel happy and beautiful in that particular moment. You want to make happiness more of a constant state, rather than as a fleeting event. It's ultimately up to you, and there is no one-size-fits-all answer, but sometimes what seems like what is best for you in the short run is not what is best for you in the long run, and it is always something worth considering before satisfying a craving or making pretty much any decision, ultimately. Instant gratification versus delayed gratification; when the latter comes, it sure does feel good, on a much deeper and comprehensive, and more existential level than instant gratification.

[@AriChem23]

Here in Italy, an empty kitchen is very sad. We love having so many kitchen tools: spices in small jars, pots, so many colorful cups and dishes .. because it reminds us that eating is a sharing moment, in which we share food and happiness. Remind yourself that you should own things that bring happiness to your life 🙂

[@angles4307]

Same for us Indians! You will never find a counter top which is completely free of clutter :D

[@kiki-ls6to]

I love this idea!!! a full and decorated kitchen will always show that it’s a very loved kitchen that hosts enjoyment and happy moments

[@irenesofiamauro8038]

Yes ! In Italy kitchens are very big...we spend a lot of the time there! 😂 Eating well, together, is very important in Italy.

[@shantcheetah]

So true, life is about being happy & sharing that happiness with others

[@poochesworld]

My husband has some Italian blood in him, I guess now I know why he loves kitchen stuff so much: plates, glasses, forks, pans, etc. 🙂

[@tamiawatson6807]

I am a minimalist, but remember minimalism is different for everyone. For example I may not have friends over so I don't need extra cups and bowls vs you may need more, so buy more. It's not about owning nothing it's about buying high quality items and less of them. Quality or Quantity. Don't deprive yourself. God bless.

[@tamaramegan2942]

Yes this!!! Im minimalist in my wardrobe its small but I love makeup/hair care so i have a sizeable collection of makeup and haircare products I love!

[@falistiq]

Yes that's right.

[@niyu4218]

I guess she deprive herself too much thats not the thought on minimalism

[@RocioGonzalezMeza]

Yeah! I love to wear black and white clothes, but I also possess some clothing and accessories with colors or patterns that complete my basics. I have very few clothes, but they satisfy all my needs. I just make sure what I have is what I use.

[@HarryStyles_01]

What a fantastic advice. 👏👏 I also believe "less is more".

[@drew8235]

Minimalism shouldn't be about having almost nothing, it should be about making the things you do have have meaning and purpose.

[@intentionalliving7326]

Meaning and purpose! Beautifully put!

[@gebbygebbers]

PS1 Hagrid!

[@drew8235]

@@gebbygebbers Nah that's just what I look like lol.

[@wangnam]

Meaningful & resourceful indeed

[@JessicaHyde199]

Minimalism isn't about having less things, it's about having only the things you really need.

[@trayfor]

I wouldn't say need per-say. If its useful, brings you joy and is basically not clutter its not a problem

[@sal2975]

What if I need to have some things I don't need for my mental well being?

[@JessicaHyde199]

@@sal2975 What’s the point having the things you don’t need?

[@sal2975]

@@JessicaHyde199 It may give an aesthetic that brings peace to your mind.

[@sal2975]

@Are You Going To Do The 'Ora Ora' Thing? Like with anything, excess isn't a good thing. Moderation is the way to go.

[@ngocarina]

It doesn't seem like you're breaking away from minimalism. It seems like you're breaking away from a certain minimalistic decor/asthetic.

[@LanaBlakely]

That’s right!

[@BAGS53]

I feel like she's breaking away more from the ‘religious/cult-ish’ expectations of minimalism. 🌱 This life is meant to be enjoyed. Just like a painting or two- sometimes that is a need. 🙏🏼 I need things in my life that make my body think, feel, question, appreciate and admire.

[@justinealajid7676]

this is what im trying to say

[@lemessycafé]

yes please

[@misseclair]

This!

[@Lea-ov8vq]

My father once taught me: No extreme is good

[@hyperspacejester7377]

Moderation at all times? Sounds pretty extreme to me!

[@silence8714]

Isn't that a little absolutist, or maybe ... extreme?

[@ChrisGaultHealthyLiving]

Sounds like a smart dad!

[@ojophoyimbo]

My dear friend has a saying, "Everything in moderation, including moderation.". You have to let go once in a while.

[@TomMarvan]

100% agree.

[@AntoniatheUniverse]

I always tell people to let go of the color and aestheticsn of minimalism - that was never what this, as a lifestyle, was about. I'm a minimalist with a colorful home and wardrobe and I love meaningful decorations and plants. Light and color are my go-to things to make my space cozy and special. Its out there!

[@kristaw206]

Yes I too practice minimalism the best I can and I still have plenty of texture and color in my home. I’m mostly just anti-clutter clutter being things that just give me mental noise and not good feels

[@falak4535]

Let's call it ''Essentialism'' and wrap up at that

[@ishalkiliyanni2334]

This comment is too underated

[@halloxhm6639]

Yes,we can have what we actually need

[@kimdoyoung4772]

THIS💯

[@SuperJustforonce]

It is your typical story of someone who thought Minimalism was more about aesthetics and fixed rules, than actually only having things you need and/or love. Honestly, to me Minimalism and Essentialism are pretty much the same thing, then again, where would all the "groundbreaking" self-help books and lightbulb-moment-videos go, if it where that simple?

[@Gina-ko3tr]

Let's just not put label on everything and every actions we decide to make in our lives 🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

[@eltondesa4152]

i mean, minimalism is about having what you need and what makes you feel good, if ya need more bowls, cups or anything else, get it because you're in need of it!

[@Zhune22]

True! She can put it in the kitchen cabinet if that's bother her many things.

[@AhmetKaan]

*“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending...”* *―C. S. Lewis*

[@emotionallesbian3503]

Great quote

[@MoonSun00]

That's a lovely quote! I needed that 🙌

[@mainenimalist5024]

Just in perfect timing. Not minimalism related. I have been spending my time wishing I could go back to years ago, and make better choices. But I know vfry well that will never happen. But C. S. Lewis is right, I can probably still change rhe ending by becoming more intentional each day.

[@shantcheetah]

Beautiful quote & very true

[@julliuschrist8006]

OH MY GODDHHH I LOVE THAT QUOTE

[@shujaathahmadi1202]

What if minimalism is just one part to a long journey of discovering a little more clearly about what we really appreciate and need?

[@intentionalliving7326]

This!! Yes! Beautifully expressed✨

[@msizziekay]

Well said! :)

[@sharon5259]

Nicely put.

[@bhagyashreepanchal5702]

"Physical photographs are the closest things we have to touching memories." - Lana Bakely This quote is beautiful!

[@intentionalliving7326]

Thank you for highlighting this! It is beautiful 🤩

[@wilderacosta9151]

Camilo

[@briannab5296]

Yes i agree. . . However in our older ages photos become a physical burden. They are heavy and take up a lot of space. Even wìth some of the memories associated with them. A FEW special photos are fine but boxes & boxes of a lifetime of them becomes a burden not only for ourselves but also to those who inherit them.

[@msizziekay]

Beautiful quote, indeed. That was one thing I could never truly wrap my mind around in minimalism: when people kinda forced themselves to throw away beautiful memories/sentimental items or photographs that would allow them a nostalgic glimpse into their past. I think we should certainly draw a line and not keep everything, but going too far can probably be just as detrimental. It's a fine balance after all, like most things in life (including diet, work, etc.).

[@Neta303]

There is something about minimalism that although it is wonderful in terms of attempting to reduce clutter and decision fatigue, it also hinders your expressivity. Most minimalists have neutral colored furniture, neutral colored clothing, and decor. In a way it is bland and deprives yourself of colour, creativity, and of your uniqueness. As much as I love the idea of minimalism, I think there’s a way to de-clutter your home without getting rid of your “personality”. It’s about making your life easy, not hard and induce more decision fatigue, which I think minimalism has turned into, unfortunately.

[@LanaBlakely]

Greatly put.

[@Neta303]

@@LanaBlakely there is actually an article about this written by a psychologist. I forgot which one but if I find it, I’ll post it for you!

[@jeanetteyarbrough3286]

Agreed. I consider myself a minimalist and most of my clothes are bright colors because that's something that's important to me. I can't do black and neutrals.

[@olive0eyes0]

Eloquently said, agree variety is the spice of life.

[@lemessycafé]

Agreed, the aesthetic that built itself on minimalism took away all the colors and secret gardens of people's houses.

[@Sisu]

Minimalism is not about how many possessions do you have, but about lowering your life’s requirements to the essential while being able to answer one simple question: what is important to you?

[@klaudinegarcia8932]

Exactly! 🥰

[@intentionalliving7326]

Yes! It is becoming clear of your values ✨

[@jessie9653]

Amen

[@theunscriptedsuccessstory8898]

And this is why I steer clear of a lot of labels. They tend to place you in a box, in your own mind and in the mind of others. I live what others would call a minimalistic life, but because I don't identify as that, I never feel obligated to limit myself to those principles all the time. Sometimes I do get things I don't need and that's ok.

I've rarely seen such pointless and limiting self-set rules of belongings; this can't possibly feel freeing, but rather stressful and restricting.

[@spinstercatlady]

I am definitely a "maximalist" who loves a cozy, cluttered English cottage style at home. Tbs, the decor I buy is mostly antique/vintage rather than mass produced junk. To me, part of life's joy is surrounding myself with things I find lovely and that make me smile. It's hard for me to wrap my mind around the pleasures of austere minimalism.

[@meh5069]

🙌🏼 I could have written this comment word for word. I agree!

[@nnocosa]

i mean,, but if having all those things and knick knacks makes you happy, then they aren't wastes. I know it was seen as more of a fad, but I think the whole Marie Kondo "If it makes you happy, then it serves a purpose" thing was really nice

[@spinstercatlady]

@@meh5069 glad I'm not the only one haha!

[@spinstercatlady]

@@nnocosa yes, absolutely! My home is my sanctuary and the things I surround myself with are an extension of me and my personality. I'm a total homebody so decorating/homemaking ARE a huge part of my life.

[@SpiritualySpeaking1]

I agree, I personally go for the hygee style, hygee is a concept of coziness and everyone defines cosiness in their own way.

[@rootedro]

As long as you’re buying things that ACTUALLY benefit your life and doesn’t hurt the environment. “Stuff” isn’t inherently bad

[@hyperspacejester7377]

How many KZbin satellites before the environment takes priority?

[@MoonSun00]

Is there any good stores that are good for the environment?

[@Tex_Killer]

Minimalism is trend based on an empty ideology. I have a few ideas to practice instead for a better life, those have been tested by people such as Luther, Aquinas, Socrates and many great people. 1) Don't base your life choices on politics 2) Get rid of ideologies, they are a doutrinary rules made by faul people 3) Study Philosophy, not politics, read Aristotle instead of Focault 4) Seek the truth and only the truth (the truth is a person who loves you) 5) Make friends

[@purpleXpotion]

Everything that benefits our lives hurts the environment.. And since that’s not a practical or reasonable thing to go about concerning myself with.. I honestly couldn’t care less. 😄 (At least not without killing myself with guilt over every little thing.) So consumerism wins!! 😜

[@les471]

@@Tex_Killer well, 2) kinda is a paradox, because trying to not follow an ideology is, in itself, an ideology that you follow.

[@ChrisGaultHealthyLiving]

I moved across the USA a little while ago in a smaller house. I had to get rid of a lot of stuff. It actually felt liberating! Thanks, Lana, for the awesome video!

[@intentionalliving7326]

That’s awesome! It feels like a new beginning, holding on only to what is aligned with what you value

[@ChrisGaultHealthyLiving]

@@intentionalliving7326 true!

[@superbettynow]

Sounds like you're saying goodbye to asceticism. Minimalism comes in many forms. If you have visitors, but cannot serve food for them because of insufficient crockery, they are an essential for your lifestyle. You could buy some new plates and sheets and still justifiably call yourself a minimalist! Or not, as you choose. :-) B x

[@rebeccab_bwlt]

I came to say this. It sounds like she wants a more colorful minimalism that is a solid level (or several) above asceticism. If we define minimalism as reducing what we don’t need so that we can enjoy what we do (more like the William Morris “beautiful/useful”test) there’s nothing that would require anyone to eschew loveliness and color and texture and life in our homes - or anything truly useful (like a toolbox or four-piece place setting). I’m a big proponent of “enoughism”.

[@troycayias695]

Things break. You definitely need a toolbox.

[@LanaBlakely]

Yeah, I learned the hard way haha.

[@JLUXEE]

You stated exactly what I know this new age minimalism idea is doing to people. People who label themselves as a minimalist for aesthetic and egotistical purposes only do so because a lot of people in society are taking principles from the East and inter-grating them in their lives. They do it because it is believed, or an idea-form, is created that to own less brings peace to ones life. Now of course this may be true to an extent and people will tell you, “yea omg I’m a minimalist and I am so happy now”, but yet it is just a facade and another external ramification upon the many things today society does externally to try and make themselves feel better internally. In a higher truth they are just playing themselves and are temporarily experiencing peace, True Ro does not come from adjusting our external world but rather coming to realization of our higher inner realities of self, other-selfs, and nature self.

[@dimonddust4318]

Not quite new-age. A similar concept is outlined in the Bible. Jesus said to sell your positions and to follow him. There is plenty in the Bible that says not to get attached to things in this world..however, no mention of that everything must be black and white and cut like a box.

[@Izabela-ek5nh]

My home is still cluttered. But after over a year of illness and having totally no energy for any homework I am so tired. I am better now for a while and I've chosen to get rid of most of my stuff because I simply cannot manage to clean all that stuff around me when I feel worse. I sometimes don't eat, cause I'm unable to go and make some food for me. So there are more reasons for becoming a minimalist then just a fashion. I am overwhelmed and promised myself never to let my too many things make me cry helplessly unable to even leave the house to feel some free space......

[@5olveForX]

To attain balance is difficult, but always worthwhile and rewarding.

[@nososm3710]

Minimalism to me is owning what you need rather than owning what you want, but at the same time it's not depriving yourself it's freeing and it makes your belongings easier to manage and makes everything feel tidy and spacious. being a minimalist can either save you money (works well specifically for greedy people lol) or get you a few luxurious items instead of a bunch of cheap stuff (more like quality over quantity), or both honestly it really depends on what you want in this case.

[@ssnabell]

i love colors. I painted my living room ceiling yellow and the wall green. And every room has their own colors.. I love the pippi longstocking style of colors rather than boring hospital white

[@aditi1729]

The changes you’re making still count as minimalism imo, because it brings you joy. I relate to everything you said in this video!🙃

[@majamojo9973]

Severe minimalism and hoarding are just the same = MENTAL PROBLEM

[@aneelop2]

“I don’t want minimalism to own me” thats such a profound observation

[@AndrewGeerlings]

To me a far more relevant qualifier then "is it absolutely nessesary" is: is it useful? Will it save me time, will it help me in my work or endeavors, or just simply: will it make me feel better and thus improve my quality of life? Minimalism is a means to prevent overcluttering, and certainly not an end in itself. Good to see thats becoming more your approach as well.. makes life that much more enjoyable :)

[@genesisansbro4936]

I love walking into someone’s space that tells a story... many times minimalism is very dull. Convenient but dull

[@laurahopper4988]

I will forever appreciate this channel "LANA BLAKELY". My husband and I have been able to be minimal, conscious in spending,saving and lnve,sting wisely. Saving to invest has been my smartest move so far 🍾I'm so happy to join you today too❤️😊

[@emilie6399]

‘Pushing things too far will only pull you back’

[@HelennaPierce]

Getting rid of a few things : Stress relief Getting rid of too many things : Stress increase XD

[@strangerdaysss]

people need to realize that minimalism you should cater it to your own life not deprive yourself of things you love, enjoy, need.

[@davidwilliama.7296]

Minimalism doesn't always have to be so extreme. You can be minimalist with only certain areas of your life. Some people are Minimalists with a non minimalist spouse/children. If you need/want more dishes for guests, it's perfectly fine. If you enjoy more decorations or more colorful clothes, you can have them. From what I've learned, minimalism isn't about having the least amount of things and being bland, making you not happy. It's about getting rid of the things you definitely don't use/want and not bringing things in that are unnecessary. I've heard of people who are minimalist with only certain things, but they might have a collection because it makes them happy or they have a variety of their favorite clothes. Yes, some of them like having a tiny amount of things, but it's more about making you happy and less stressed about the things you own. By the way, I am not a minimalist. I just had a minimalism obsession for a while and wanted to do it. However, I think I could only do it if I were living in my own/with someone who also wanted to do it. I also have an issue with wanting to buy things all the time. I love spending money, shopping and getting packages. It would be hard to give that up, but I would like to try minimalism at some point to see if I like it.

[@jaimetan]

It’s great to reassess how we’ve been living every now and again as we keep evolving and growing as humans. And if it hadn’t been for your minimalism journey, you probably wouldn’t appreciate all that colour now. So - you can’t have one without the other! You are still living intentionally and consciously, picking out what stuff you really want/need more in your life- and to me that’s really the point of minimalism (not just having less for the sake of having less). Enjoy the journey. ❤️

[@oboemoboe]

Many people confuse "minimalism" with "minimalist aethetic". You can still live a minimalist life with more than two cups! You're alowed to wear colouful clothes and still be minimalist!

[@bollywoodbaddie]

as a supporter and believer of maximalism, I'm actually inspired by this video.. although you're talking about letting go of minimalism.. but it has inspired me to reduce the chaos in my life! for a long time, I romanticized having a large magnitude and volume of the most random things- whether it is stationery, my number of social media accounts, the number of friends I have, the number of photos in my gallery, or the number of files on my laptop - and things got out of hand so fast. I am living in a beautiful mess, but it gets so hard to organize everything. I have the mentality that having narrow margins and narrow line spacing on my documents makes them seem longer when I submit them... I add so much content that I lose conciseness so fast! I always think - more is better. But your video taught me, less can be very peaceful... That was definitely the exact opposite of the message you were trying to convey, but considering my lifestyle, I have taken away a great lesson I also like to believe that we all have our vices- and some parts of us are just inescapable. you could try escaping your minimalism.. I'll try escaping my maximalism.. but I know I won't be able to give up my lifestyle so easily.. so I won't reach the depths of minimalism that you had reached. hence I'm sure I'll find some balance :) THANK YOU FOR SHARING

[@desexplicando]

I feel you. You don't have to deprive yourself to the point that you don't see yourself in the life you've been living. Life is about trying new things, so don't you ever be ashamed of taking up something new.

[@Phushprada1]

To me the idea of minimalism is not owning less but owning what you really love!!! It’s not necessary about having less of everything, it is more about having things that I actually use and make feel happy!!!

[@l.s.11]

Minimalism is often taken too far, almost as a cult. Maybe calling it "ESSENTIALISM" would be more beneficial.

[@williamshevr]

It's taken too far by people who don't even understand what minimalism. Minimalism =/= minimalist decor/home/aesthetic (it can be if that's your style but it's not what it is), minimalism is not having nothing or almost nothing either. You can be a minimalist and have colors in your home, have some decorations, have pop culture figures, have tech etc. anything as long as you either need them, use them and/or they make you happy? Minimalism is getting rid of things you don't like, don't use, don't it and to declutter your home and life

[@ritalynb7070]

I am a practical minimalist. I also have a family and have to make space for them and their things. Personally, I like color. I keep my base neutral but all my blouses are colorful. It allows my items to all mix & match while still enjoying what I wear. I keep a small wardrobe, so feeling comfortable & like myself in each piece is important.

[@lucidity8509]

We need colors and textures. If you have company once in a while, you need chairs. What you’ve done is a wonderful experiment, but I’m glad you are bringing in some things that make your life more enjoyable to live. Thank you for this thoughtful video. It’s good to remember we can change our perception of minimalism as we grow and change.

[@hellobecky84]

I can deeply relate to this. I had thrown myself headlong into more strict, earth-toned minimalism years ago (the book "Goodbye, Things" was a particular catalyst). in the past year as we got through the pandemic, though, I began to buy little things that gave me joy - a scented candle, a set of beautifully printed pillowcases, physical BOOKS. I now realize that 'm a person who lives in color. So I'm still really mindful and intentional - much more likely to purchase experiences than things - but I'm loving the adjustments. Good luck to you and thanks for your openness!

[@Senny841]

I think you haven’t known minimalism. It isn’t depriving yourself. Depriving yourself is just as damaging as being materialistic and having many things.

[@jacquelinemcgowan8164]

Hi there thank you for sharing, i realised all i was doing was eliminating my things but also removing myself, it felt like i was disappearing until i wasn,t sure who i was any more. I have learnt alot of things that i am grateful for, my word for the year once was ENOUGH and that taught me so much but, i have come to realise possessions and things are there to enjoy and give me pleasure and joy, its nice to wear a piece of jewellry thats specifically chosen or given, its nice to shop for some new clothes and new bedding, its not a crime. Life is short and to enjoy and i really needed to get some balance and not have my self imposed strict rules, minimalism is not a religion its there to serve me. i am glad its helped me make some better choices and not to be greedy and so wasteful and the less helps me keep things clean and simple which for me is less stressful, so i have reached a happy place now and thats great.

[@Larissa_view]

Her videography skills is top tier!! It’s like watching a movie 🎥

[@LanaBlakely]

Thank you!!

[@helgedell]

Bokehlicious :)

[@hillystudies487]

The Beauty of Freedom is Immeasurable The Satisfaction of Dignity is Divine You Do Not Need to be Someone You Are Not JUST you are FINE The world Needs You Because There is Only One You And Only You Can Be You, Like You Do LOVE from Cappadocia!

[@JustNicole6400]

I don’t think I’m a minimalist because I have pictures everywhere and trinkets from friends and traveling places all over my room. Plus all of my plant babies 🪴 It makes my room feel cozy. All of these things make me happy so I guess that’s what matters right?

[@naisa9705]

Yeah

[@naisa9705]

Having what makes you feel good is absolutely freedom

[@roberthoffman3]

A minimalist lifestyle is keeping what truly makes you happy while removing things that do not. Its more about removing that inkling feeling to purchase things that you do not truly need or will not truly make you happy. So you can be a minimalist even if you collect trinkets and pictures if thats what brings you genuine and lasting joy 😊

[@JessicaGrey]

Your apartment reminds me of an Airbnb where they have just the basic things that you need for like a two day stay

[@kristaw206]

It’s all about the practice and not the aesthetic for sure, sometimes people confuse them.

[@writeitdown2013]

I believe you can still be a minimalist and own plenty of things. The key is that if push comes to shove, you can just get in your car and leave it all behind and be ok with it. The only thing that needs to be in that car is you.

[@CrapE_DM]

So it's not that you're leaving minimalism, but that you're truly understanding what's "necessary" within it and therefore truly understanding minimalism. But this is a great video for people who are looking at minimalism so they can see what the extremes are like.

[@BluuKiss]

Experiencing the joy of minimalism is kinda like purchasing something new. We are happy with it for a while (for example, a minimalistic closet makes choosing an outfit effortless and looks aesthetic) but then we get used to it and it no longer sparks the same joy, we then find that spark in something else. People are built this way, we need variety to keep us from being bored. We go through changes and phases, many years later you might find yourself back into minimalism and decluttering. And there's nothing wrong w that. People are not meant to be like stone, change is the only constant. :)

[@belle2046]

A lot ppl misunderstand the behind concept of minimalist, it’s very individual. A minimalist can have 70 camera accessories while travelling. Minimalist = didn’t mean less is good Minimalist = focus on your real need (Example: I always have friends come my house, so I have tea set for 6, sofa for 6) (example: I have all white tops in my daily closet for work to save my time, meanwhile I have another closet where keep all my colourful clothes that I like to wear in occasion) Minimalist = should not feel any guilty of keeping things or buying Minimalist = buy and keep things that make u feel good. Focus on quality doesn’t mean it has to cut down quantity

[@claudiat.business7468]

Also, having a puppy (at least for me) requires having a couple more extra trousers or tshirts and bedsheets because those get dirty or ruined quicker.

[@LanaBlakely]

Oh yes! I’ve also just had to accept the fact that my place is going to look a bit more cluttered and messy with him. And his happiness (toys etc) are far more important than my “minimalism”.

[@claudiat.business7468]

@@LanaBlakely oh yes, absolutely. Actually, having a puppy has made me become more of a minimalist (selling clothes, books, videogames and random stuff that I was not really using or enjoying) in exchange of my puppy toys, blankets and such :) Puppy life is the best life ps. is your puppy going to stay that same size or he will grow eventually?

[@mauricioazcona9547]

I've finally summoned the courage to comment on one of your videos. I relate to a lot of what you're saying, maybe because we're around the same age, mid twenties? You know the loneliness, the insecurity, the introversion, the awkwardness that we all feel, some more than others, but also the acceptance and upside of all these things. For a while, I was very into going on bicycle rides. Nothing too serious or hard, and while I enjoyed it and still do, there were times that I felt like I could not _not_ go on rides even when I felt tired or wanted to do something else. In some ways, it became a big part of my identity, but then one day, I stopped. Looking back I might have been using them as a form of escape, something predictable and easy and of course fun to do. I guess even good things can consume us; it hadn't for me, but I was seeing a pattern. I still go on rides, but now I am better with the idea of not doing anything at all and being ok with that. One last thing, and I hope not to come off as strange, but I wanted to thank you for sharing your thoughts and introspection. It's introduced me to a quieter and more peaceful part of KZbin that I didn't know of.

[@farhiyaa4880]

I thought minimalism was get rid of clutter, buy the essentials. I never imagined empty room and everything in neutral colors. I learned something new. I am ok with my colorful home...just reduce clutter, keep tidy. I get where they say reduce dishes - some of us hoard mugs and have 8 sets of silverware + dishes. I entertain people in the community room of the apartment - not my actual place. I have temporary plates, cups, and silverware for when people visit.

[@mauriciocordoba952]

I totally agree, I sometimes see myself being deprived of so many things. Minimalism can be a great starting point, but then you start listening to your own intuition. The perfect balance between reason and feeling. Its a never ending challenge, but a very fun and interesting one. Life.

[@Zahra.alturabi]

That’s why i do not call myself a minimalist, i just say i have my own way of consuming.

[@capturedbyannamarie]

I am pretty sure most minimalist say to be in the now, and have right now what you need and what brings you joy. Sounds like you are finally adding things that bring you joy that give value to your life. Good for you

[@a.inesfidalgo3367]

I'm a vintage collector and minimalism gives me anxiety 😆

[@intentionalliving7326]

😂🤗! I enjoy beautiful tea cups, but in other areas I apply minimalism. I feel it is about honoring our own unique life ✨

[@sarapowell46]

Loved this video. I’m pretty minimalist but I give myself permission to buy things that are very important to me and bring me a lot of joy. For example, I buy physical books and holiday decorations (I am obsessed with Halloween and Christmas and have a party every year!). I think it’s about finding a balance between being an intentional consumer without deprivation. Good luck!

[@jeremymarshall7273]

Lana has the most gorgeous hair! Her hair is always perfect!

[@intentionalliving7326]

🤩 yes!!

[@user-so7bw7yd6u]

It's Persian hair that's why.

[@patrickisles4570]

My perspective on minimalism is to buy things but only buy things you need and focus on quality. Never ever deprive yourself of what you need but please get rid of the stuff that you don't need.

[@essraabdelsamed8815]

Essentialism is what you need to adapt to

[@cybertteoki]

Exactly what I was thinking. Either way no extreme is good. I'm looking to move into a hyrbid of essentialism and minimalism.

[@intentionalliving7326]

You are right! That word resonates!! It honors the individual, not the dogma✨✨

[@jukio02]

LOL, what is essentialism. Now, I need to do some research on this.

[@worksofhands]

Minimalism is not only external. Material minimalism is only a physical manifestation of what is in your internal.

[@apricusnorth9593]

I like your transparency here Lana. This is an eye-opener that minimalism is not about having less and depriving yourself of things that actually makes you happy.

[@manaudia8]

You have a lovely calm way of speaking. God bless you.

[@bulletarmorstudiosm4615]

You're the most beautiful person I have ever seen not only physically but also mentally you're beautiful

[@LudmilaT.]

I would say this is more about refining and understanding minimalism better than about saying goodbye to minimalism. Minimalism isn't about having the absolute bare minimum. It's about having only things that have value, function, purpose. If you love having people over so you have 50 plates, you are as much of a minimalist as someone who gets by with 2 plates, as long as those plates serve you. You should have just as many as best serves you - not too many and not too few but just the right amount for your specific situation. And, the situation changes as well so what worked 5 years ago doesn't have to work now. It's still minimalism.

[@AhmetKaan]

It is truly amazing that most of us walk this planet Earth, being a fraction of what we are capable of being.

[@seervisual]

As a growing Artist, after I learned more about Colour and Light, my life became less minimal gradually as I started accepting colour into my life (previous wardrobe of dull colours) which eventually became part of my 'minimal' life. I have not only gotten more creative in my work but also more loose and flowy (away from my rigid and clean process) which has let me experiment a lot without self judgement! My personality has also grown by being more accepting of situations that are normally out of my control, learning to love relaxing more and taking thoughtful breaks as well as being more playful. All of which I wouldn't have normally thought of when I was strictly minimal. It's awesome to see how you're growing through this transformation and I hope you find your new 'minimal' life :P ! Also didn't realise you literally had only a few plates and cups haha, that is quite extreme! Thanks for all your videos so far Lana :)

[@syedzohair]

Title: Goodbye, Minimalism. * *uses a minimalist thumbnail* * I love it😂

[@LanaBlakely]

Yeah literally makes no sense lol.

[@aliceviele3670]

I will forever appreciate you Lana Blakely. You’ve helped my family a lot, since the pandemic till now your advices and lessons are inspirational and helpful to us. My Husband and I have been able to be minimal, conscious in spending, saving and investing wisely. We have been able to earn on a weekly basis and it helps the family a lot. You’re such a blessing to this generation. We all love ❤️😊

[@DK-th5nt]

Whatever life philosophy you choose you shouldn't go into extreme.

[@LivingWellMedia]

I feel like your message is always so timely for me personally. Thank you for sharing how your thoughts have evolved along your minimalism journey. Lately I've heard a lot of "minimalism is dead". However, I think the rigidity and expectation of perfection within the minimalism movement is dead. Minimalism itself is very much alive we're just bringing it back to a middle path a more balanced approach.

[@laura-valas]

loved the end, proud of you for buying more bowls:) having stuff is not bad, it´s only bad when it´s TOO much or when you feel bad around it. I´m happy that I took a break to watch your video. my week has been very hard for me mentally and I really needed a moment. even though I wasn´t busy, I wasn´t taking time for myself. as for minimalism, I have been trying to declutter. I have faced a lot of guilt and doubt. some stuff I´m not sure if I wanna keep. in some moments I feel bad of getting rid of things. I´m going slowly, trying to listen to myself. one step that I decided to take is to sell my desk and get a smaller one because I´m just making a mess on this one because of the space I have. I´ll get a smaller desk that will be neat and something else for storing things, so I don´t have clutter around my space. I hope I will be making progress with my decluttering because I sometimes feel like I can´t breathe around my stuff and that it maybe makes me less happy.

[@TheCaptainYurk]

Your videos help me focus on things i take weeks procrastinating to do. You're my background music.

[@GurlPlz4321]

Minimalism doesn’t mean depriving yourself. Just buy the things that essential or manage your money better

[@botortamas]

After living on the go and moving around so many times 30+ places in 5yrs, I became a complete minimalist and shedding more and more stuff till the point I eventually learned there’s only 1 thing of any real value and function that you don’t wanna lose is your clothes your phones and wallet. Anything else is disposable. Everything else you can get back when your life or budget allows you to finally settle. Personally I could never become a hoarder, settled or not. Just not healthy for a persons mental health to have stuff and clutter weighing you down. Like Tyler Durden said “the things you own, end up owning you”.

[@melaniegodwin8791]

Best comment yet!!!

[@MihaelaClaudiaPuscas]

You can still be a minimalist without being a minimalist (if that makes sense)! I feel a minimalist but I never counted my possessions (not many btw)! I feel like that because I only own things that are useful or meaningful to me, all the rest are out! Big kiss from Italy (Florence)!

[@wahana3115803]

yeah i actually didn't really understand why all these minimalist concepts would always ends up with white,grey,brown,black.cant you be minimalist but still have some color in your life.

[@나는한국인이아니-l6g]

At first i was very impressed about minimalism but slowly i realized it s not for everyone. When i put my mind to become this kind of person it really troubled me because i tend to collect a lot have a lot of stuff especially clothes cosmetics idk everything. The problem with minimalism is i never knew where to stop where to put at equal to make a balance so i can be happy and enjoy the process. Since i already have a lot of stuff it was hard and such a waste to get rid of thwm and my parents always stopped me and god thx they did. Not only that i was unhappy that i couldn’t reach the goal but i was unhappy not having even more. I found my balance now and o truly believe that u shouldn t have just less. Everything but fewer but of good quality. Always quality over quantity. Even tho i still have a lot of things, those thing i use and are important to me. It s not like i depend on them like necessary like food but in terms of cosmetics and clothes i only have what i wear, good quality. Ex i used to have a lot of makeup some stuff maybe i didn’t even used it that often and probably not even something that can make a good difference. Now i reduced to just what i use and i am happier. And u know about skincare? There i have quite a lot but when i m thinking what should i stop buying then i basics can t get rid of since is so good and has it s own little role. It s complicated but having boundaries it definitely improves life s quality

[@JLUXEE]

Today in modern times in industrialized cultures such as the US people have taken this concept idea of minimalism from the East. The original idea of minimalism comes from Buddhism where the people who are trying to reach Nirvana have this idea that to have less is to have more. And getting rid of all attachments is necessary therefore owning less things is needed. But this is an old-aged idea and is not necessary at all to achieve “Nirvana”, or enlightenment. It’s actually more difficult and a greater test to possess things and not be affected emotionally or mentally when they don’t exist materially exist. Anything that can be stolen or taken away is truly not yours, (everything here on this Earth-Existence) this leaves only One thing that truly matters.

[@TheLifeTidy]

For me, minimalism is simply about not having too much stuff. More stuff than I need. But if I need six dishes or three pairs of scissors I allow myself to have them, because minimalism is supposed to be about making your life easier, and as you so aptly pointed out, not having enough plates for the people eating at your house does not make life easier. It's finding that balance between having more than you need and less than you need. It's weird because this is the first time I've seen one of your videos, and it popped up in my feed along with a couple others about being done with minimalism. I think you guys are just paying attention to the wrong minimalists. 😊 There are lots of realistic minimalists here on KZbin as well! May I recommend Erica Lucas? She is probably my favorite realistic minimalist. I have some videos too. In fact I just put one up last week about the multiples I have without apology even though I'm a minimalist. 😊

[@LaureninGermany]

Definitely treat yourself to a beautiful welcoming home! But I think you’ve achieved something really worth having, in achieving such a state of minimalism that you need to add possessions. When I moved to Germany I had one suitcase of clothes and a small car full with everything I needed. Now, I find myself resenting how much time I have to spend- waste- taking care of things I can’t seem to let go of. I know that I‘ll get there, but I wish I could do it faster. I see the danger of getting extreme about it, but I honestly believe it’s better than the other way around. Extreme minimalism can be fixed with a shopping trip. (At least the physical part).

[@VK-zk1jl]

I love the idea of having things that you can love & appreciate. No point in having a closet full of clothes that you will not wear any time soon (1 yr)...I feel moderation is the key. It has always worked for me and in all areas of live...food, party, clothes, furniture, essentials too. You deserve a comfy life esp. if you're working and earning. I can't think of depriving myself of something I need (not want). It will lead to stress ....but to each his own.

[@FlorianCoeman]

Minimalism can be surprisingly addictive

[@LanaBlakely]

Yep - it can easily go further than one intended.

[@lindamusser7370]

You described what I thought minimalism was about. Wow, was I wrong. I've watched several minimalists who've since shown me it's about keeping what you love and getting rid of the rest. The old idea was asceticism. Keep journaling!

[@sliceofalice]

I feel so relatable to you when my husband and I were holding a house welcoming party when we first moved in while we were trying to be minimalistic. "Sorry, we don't have paper towels. Sorry, we only have 2 cups”. Also, all the guests were just sitting on the floors because we didn't get a sofa because we don't think we need it. LOL Soon we discovered that minimalism isn't for us because guests were just using one-time plastic cups, one-time plastic spoons. Having these are actually creating more harmful trashes to the environment.

[@ayush302]

The thing is- when u limit yourself, u don't grow and learn enough that u could, I have experienced this myself as a 16yr old infj ! I thought u could have learnt this thing much earlier in life! Stay going, stay learning! - INFJ

[@ruqaiyyabohari9630]

Okay but can we appreciate her script? The flow of words is admirable 😍❤️

[@Mini-Toast_]

I'm late to this, but I never thought of minimalism of being strict or rigid. It's just a mindset we should cultivate in a consumer driven, materialistic culture. A culture that hurts us and the planet. I always saw it as making your life simple and sustainable. How is getting rid of essentials sustainable? How is stressing about every little thing detracting from your minimalist lifestyle simple?

[@SophieCViolin]

such a well thought out video and journey! balance is key- there’s nothing wrong with keeping things simple nor keeping a little bit more than “needed.” Love your insights and reflections always!

[@NatureDaydream]

I definitely agree with you Sophie.

[@Tentsuh]

Important message! Don't let labels define you, and with minimalism one really should be the one to define what minimalism means to oneself. The main point is to strip down all the unnecessary things in life and preferably live more sustainably.

[@tenestetubo]

Hey Kiddo, you gotta do what yuo have to do. I Don't see why you feel guilty for adding a few material conveniences into your life. I don't believe in excesses either, but it boggles my mind when individuals try to make Philosophy out of a life style. I mean you don't need to limit yourself to focus on what's important in your life. If you can afford it, go for it enjoy it, share your blessing with others . Because in this life nothing, absolutely nothin belong to us not even our decaying bodies.

[@mlykke]

When you get attracted to minimalism it's very easy to take it too far. It then ends up being more about the number of items you have, instead of the true purpose of focus. Minimalism is about being focussed and conscious about the choices you make, not just about getting rid of things. It's about optimizing your life and surroundings. Removing things from your life that doesn't add value, whether that is physical items, people or other things that doesn't improve your life. Great to see that you're done with taking it to the extreme and allowing yourself things that bring value. Love your videos. :)

[@jerrylee3887]

We are all proud that your journey is evolving. As humans, we grow out of habits and ideas at the moment.