Stop Calling Your Kid "Defiant"

[@amitramlall4235]

I’m not even a parent and I find this quite entertaining. Thank you Dr. Becky

[@jmfuller19]

Amazing. Great ideas to stay connected to my child and help him develop the skills he needs in life. This is exactly what I needed in helping me parent my 2 1/2 year old when he’s being “defiant.” I love how you changed the framework for that. Thank you, Dr. Becky! ❤

[@bdowiemama3310]

My 6 year old constantly wants to negotiate. Glad it's not just him, but it's so frustrating. Today he said he wanted to leave the park and walked to the car. Then I said okay we're leaving and had his little brother walk to the car (he listens well). So my older changed his mind and refused to get in the car. I sat in the car with my younger and waited for him, top of 5 min bc he doesn't want to play alone. Then he got in the car screamed/cried and lied saying he never said he wanted to leave. I yelled bc it was all I could take. Apparently the boundary was kept which is good to know. But I still feel like he's not learning appropriate emotions or actions. It just seems like something is missing. Do I give consequences or was leaving the park the consequence? What is a consequence for blatantly lying?