Gospel Hope for Self-Haters

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Desiring God

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@MegidramonX
@MegidramonX Жыл бұрын
Combine self-hatred with self-pity, and a habit of compulsive lying (especially at the work place) and you have one viscous cycle... That is what I struggle with. And even with that, God is above and more powerful than either one apart or together.
@eimymorales704
@eimymorales704 3 жыл бұрын
I never realized I have always done this. I often feel like God is going to punish me although he’s already forgiven me. Now I know it’s my own self condemnation.
@andrewmeester6869
@andrewmeester6869 2 жыл бұрын
I know my self hatred is sin, making me hate myself even more...it's a vicious cycle of pain. I really needed to hear this. Thank you.
@MM-dq1fq
@MM-dq1fq 6 жыл бұрын
Thru the power of the Holy Spirit, Jesus Christ my Lord & Savior, my Loving Heavenly Father I am set free! My self hate was Believing Satan's lies for years. Now I saturate myself in God's word, HIS TRUTH!! Finding MY identity In Jesus Christ daily, moment by moment!!! The enemy is a liar, theif, seeking whom he may devour. Our Mighty Jesus is life, truth, grace, mercy, my ALL!!! Don't listen to the enemies lies. Listen to the VOICE OF TRUTH ❤ GOD BLESS❤
@marypower1261
@marypower1261 3 жыл бұрын
That is a really good way of expressing it 👍🏽 self-hate is believing a lie, so glad all of yous are reminding me of that. I'm a fright for thinking I'm no good/ ugly/ a failure /unloveable etc. To others this may seem like self-pity. Thus it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. This is how Satan singles out those of us who choose NOT to follow the herd but try to think things out for ourselves. If we don't confer with a trusted friend (or check out our ideas against the Bible) we quickly fall into error. That is when we fall prey to delusions such as hating ourselves and thinking God doesn't love us etc. I get frequent bouts of fibromyalgia (a pain and fatigue + insomnia disorder) so get very frustrated and disheartened when i have to set aside beloved projects because of a flare-up. THAT is when the guilt and self-hate REALLY sets in. I see a trail of failures and unfinished tasks behind me. My only comfort then is God, and throwing myself upon Jesus' Mercy. He Himself felt utterly abandoned on the cross.
@godisgreat.360
@godisgreat.360 2 жыл бұрын
God bless u too, thankyou for this !
@godisgreat.360
@godisgreat.360 2 жыл бұрын
@@marypower1261 hey, I’m really hoping tht things r feeling r a lot better now. God bless & I hope all is well, if not then pls remember tht the Jesus is with you!
@blakekendall6156
@blakekendall6156 Жыл бұрын
I am emotionally shattered. All motivation is gone. I am a door mat. I have no self esteem or self respect. As much as I may die to self, moreso I feel I am merely dying a slow death internally. I don't know why. I believe. I had a distinct moment of conversion and I am a radically different person now, but I have no joy, no hope. For some reason, I don't feel loved. I don't know what's wrong with me, but it suddenly became dramatically worse. I know God will get me through this storm, I just wish I knew what exactly was happening. I would rather have a horrible physical ailment of some kind and be in pain and agony all of the time than this. For some reason all will to live is leaving me, and nothing bad has happened to me. My circumstances are fine. Please pray for me. Idk if I have mental illness, some physiological problem, or a demonic attack. I don't feel like I can talk to anyone about it but God. I am so ashamed for being so weak.
@voltagewing1283
@voltagewing1283 Жыл бұрын
Same boat friend. Seems like I'm going through the same thing my entire life, but then every few years for a couple days, God will pull my head above water but I can't keep myself up and end up drowning again. Gods gonna have to just carry me 100% for now on. I have nothing left of myself
@eaglesguy6501
@eaglesguy6501 5 жыл бұрын
This is a nightmare especially when you have depression anxiety and ocd.
@elizabeths7700
@elizabeths7700 5 жыл бұрын
Yep 😢
@ta6531
@ta6531 4 жыл бұрын
me too.... ruminating.... ruminating... I say things over and over that someone said to me...I call it emotional torment
@tammylutz7877
@tammylutz7877 4 жыл бұрын
But we cant give up the good fight! Thru Christ anything is possible🥰. I love you guys! But more so God loves you!. Let us pray for eachother and seek the holy spirit💞🙏🙌 God bless!😊
@braindeadfred1801
@braindeadfred1801 4 жыл бұрын
Agreed. Its a every day struggle to remind myself that he loves me. I cant do anything to save myself i am learning, it is the grace of jesus that saves me. Im litterally starting this journey of learning to rely on god when i start to "spin" and think i am worthless. I have to remember that the little voice that says "your not worth a boot kick from god" is a lie. My mother reminded me of the story of the prodigal son. In jewish tradition, the father did not have to accept him at all when he came back. He was going to ask to be his slave but the father stopped him, fetched the best cloths and slaughtered a calf in celebration! All my life i have not belonged, when i was saved, god spoke through the woman by holy spirit that "You Belong" and she repeated that. Never told her my life story and never seen her again. But i know i belong, but my work is just beginning. Ill be praying for you. Pray and ask for peace from god and he will prop you up.
@anniec4867
@anniec4867 3 жыл бұрын
Ocd 😢😢
@ryansims519
@ryansims519 7 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this! Very beneficial to a self-hater like me.
@Lazarusrizing
@Lazarusrizing 2 жыл бұрын
I still come back to listen to this conversation again. It does help me. Thank you. Praise God.
@honorablevessel
@honorablevessel 5 жыл бұрын
Throughout my life I had always done a good job of not caring too much about the judgments of other people, but when my wife left me I fell deep into a pit of self-loathing. It seems nearly impossible to not give weight to the judgments of the one person who ever really got to know me, and then utterly rejected me. This message was very helpful to me.
@Juliana65
@Juliana65 3 жыл бұрын
Perhaps your wife left you because, as you have mentioned in your comment, you have always done a good job of not caring too much about the "judgments' of other people...... likely including your WIFE. Perhaps you didn't give a crap about listening to wifey poo when she was trying to REACH YOU!!
@honorablevessel
@honorablevessel 3 жыл бұрын
@@Juliana65 Unlikely. The last thing she ever said to me, before she utterly ghosted me and I never saw her again, was "if you were rich, I would marry you". We were married 10 years and it only took her six months to shack up with a rich guy (he had a real nice sail boat too). I am also a Christian (she supposedly became one after getting together with me), so it has always been a very high priority to make my marriage work, and communication is a key part of that. But I do thank you for your harsh judgments against me (a total stranger), it was very nice of you :-)
@heresthadude1080
@heresthadude1080 3 жыл бұрын
@@Juliana65 this caustic tone is misplaced, my friend
@VaiScion
@VaiScion 3 жыл бұрын
what is wrong with you?
@honorablevessel
@honorablevessel 3 жыл бұрын
@@VaiScion What exactly do you mean by that?
@4.43acrehomestead
@4.43acrehomestead 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing! I've lived through struggling with self hatred for over 20 years. This teaching has shed light on a dark area in my life that I know will bring forth spiritual growth in accepting Gods love in these areas I struggle in.
@jesus4life402
@jesus4life402 4 жыл бұрын
sometimes its easy to forgive others than to forgive ourselves
@beam3819
@beam3819 6 жыл бұрын
Very much needed. Satan is acusing us day and night. Do not belive him. Belive God. And that it is not about me, og is about Jesus be that He took all my blame away. Thank you. I see a glimpse of The Fathers Love and Light towards me, now, because of your teaching of wisdom! I am a wreck but in Jesus I am made right with God
@deebeedraws
@deebeedraws 7 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. Words cannot convey how much this has helped me and encouraged me in my walk with God. This was a real blessing.
@Tei_022
@Tei_022 3 жыл бұрын
I feel as if I wouldn’t hate myself as much if I didn’t know what sin was. I hate myself because of my sin and because I can’t control whether I can focus or not on my work.
@jewishbride5010
@jewishbride5010 4 жыл бұрын
Hate is the refusal to discern between what is evil, unnecessary, unwanted, unclean and good, pure, necessary, wanted. Hate is also exercising judgement upon another before judging oneself. Hate is also not accepting no for an answer when you are not in your right. Hate is crossing ones boundaries time after time, willingly and purposely. Abba Father, please take all the hate out of my life to never return, in the name and by the blood of Jesus Christ at the foot of the cross of Calvary, amen and hallelujah! Annelies Bakker, the Netherlands.
@zapazap
@zapazap 2 жыл бұрын
God hates.
@vaughnlonganecker986
@vaughnlonganecker986 3 жыл бұрын
Dalo, Amen to your wife's observation, it's actually scriptural. How much attention did Jesus put on improving your self worth, self esteem, none. No, it is as you have mentioned, when we serve God, are about advancing the Kingdom, giving up, proclaiming the gospel, sacrificing we are in the center of God's will and there's no more satisfying life then that. Get your attention off your self and onto Jesus Christ and His glory.
@Tonkajoe69
@Tonkajoe69 3 жыл бұрын
wow, I've carried those built over Time voices of hatred for fifty years. I never saw before that they have remained and rebuilt into my own voice all these years. It no wonder I can't hear God. How do I stop hating at myself now?
@Chirhopher
@Chirhopher 4 жыл бұрын
i really Appreciate my Brethren for making and sharing this. CHRIST'S Gracw upon grace be with You Brethren.
@JulieJewelzKvasnicka
@JulieJewelzKvasnicka 3 жыл бұрын
This hit me hard. It's so "Me". God Bless You for sharing this. I absolutely needed this! Psalm 51 has been a new favorite of mine. Aside from Matthew 18:20
@JulianCaesaro
@JulianCaesaro 4 жыл бұрын
Listening to a bunch of these podcasts/videos has been really helpful. I’d been putting off watching Biblical videos for a while, and I needed to hear the information within them. May God Bless this ministry and KZbin channel forever! 🎉😄😁
@BoldJoshua19
@BoldJoshua19 5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for posting this. This particular message speaks to exactly what I'm going through. This message was sent to me by God.
@WendyRedeemed
@WendyRedeemed 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this. God is much bigger and more able and willing to free people who are their need of Him 🙏🏽
@AWalkingHat
@AWalkingHat 4 жыл бұрын
Very helpful. I think God made me come across this on purpose.
@forCHRISTJESUS14
@forCHRISTJESUS14 7 жыл бұрын
Dang, exactly what I'm feeling.
@mirandataylor6385
@mirandataylor6385 5 жыл бұрын
What about for those who are still in an environment with narcissistic abuse? We go into the world thinking everything is a lose-lose no matter what you do. Creates a lot of inner hate.
@no_321
@no_321 6 жыл бұрын
Does satan have a play in this...seems the more I love the Lord. That I don't feel that I am pleasing to him or even family... Sometimes I just wanna go .. to sleep n not wake up.
@brokenvieehs9361
@brokenvieehs9361 5 жыл бұрын
I feel you.
@krizhanne23
@krizhanne23 5 жыл бұрын
The truth is, It is pride to look at oneself, focusing on your own imperfections/problems and getting the focus out from God. John 3:30, and it is also disobedience to not rejoice, Phil. 4:4 I am not sharing this to simply correct. I struggle the same thing. I am diagnosed w/ depression myself. However, i consider myself as just "physically" depressed. My mind and soul is joyful because of the Lord. Yes. It is possible. Once the enemy attacked your head w/ His lies, always go back to the Lord. He already saved you when He died on the cross. We can never perfect the law, that is why there is "grace" Eph. 2:8-9 May you all find peace and joy from the Lord even in the season of suffering
@7EmpathicBeauty
@7EmpathicBeauty 5 жыл бұрын
Me too and I can't understand why God would love me. Everytime I give an issue to God, another pops up and I feel that I can't handle any more. The battle is draining and I feel like I haven't made any progress so I'm trapped in a despair cycle. How do I get out of it? When will I find rest/peace? It seems I was born just to struggle and find peace when I die.
@thebananacracker248
@thebananacracker248 4 жыл бұрын
Phoenix Butterfly we are children and are to come to GOD as children. How often do you have to tell your child not to do something or correct them? We are always going to struggle but when you mess up confess it to GOD and run to HIM. If you child made a mistake would you want him to hide it from you or just to come to you so they can help you? This is why GOD says When you confess your sins GOD is faithful and just and will cleanse you of all unrighteousness. HE died for you knowing and planning/taking into account for every mistake. HE has plans to Jeremiah 29:11
@thebananacracker248
@thebananacracker248 4 жыл бұрын
Phoenix Butterfly by HIM bringing up things shows us we NEED HIM. We literally can’t do life without HIM. You can do it alone or with GOD and I am scared to do it alone. Very
@leonard9636
@leonard9636 Жыл бұрын
It's gotten so serious it's literally starting to permeate throughout different areas of my life, i can even find love or keep it for some reason
@AFewPages
@AFewPages 4 жыл бұрын
I love all my brothers and sister in Christ.
@1503granrey
@1503granrey 4 жыл бұрын
Wow! What a great explanation on the self-hate topic. This has helped me!
@sethtrey
@sethtrey Жыл бұрын
My favorite cycle is the "I will fail so I don't do so I fail." What do you do when all the evidence seems to be on the self-hating voice's side?
@isaiahpalone5073
@isaiahpalone5073 7 жыл бұрын
God Bless you guys this is really really helping me
@valerieminster1626
@valerieminster1626 3 жыл бұрын
I wish I had seen this video even a year ago. I would have loved to share it. I think a lot of people will benefit from seeing it.
@omarvazquez2802
@omarvazquez2802 7 жыл бұрын
Can you please give me the pod cast script. This would be good to study.
@omarvazquez2802
@omarvazquez2802 7 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@researchtube9035
@researchtube9035 4 жыл бұрын
Self hate usually stems from complex trauma and it IS a battle everyday.... only God can help and redeem this and it can take forever. There’s also A LOT of wrong counseling- for those interested, Diane Langberg is where to go as a woman who’s endured demonic evil so covertly executed, your isolation is on a completely different level of normal human understanding.
@elstinepolin2979
@elstinepolin2979 5 жыл бұрын
A being of light told me...we are not God to judge others....and !....we are not God to judge ourselves....we are to forgive others daily and ourselves as well...
@randallsmith525
@randallsmith525 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks.
@Brudder7
@Brudder7 26 күн бұрын
I struggle with this
@bonnieclark5979
@bonnieclark5979 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Thank. You.
@iluvfigs4712
@iluvfigs4712 6 жыл бұрын
+PASTOR JOHN---THANK YOU, SO MUCH! I, TOO FEEL MY PARENTS WERE VERY DESTRUCTIVE TO ME AND MY LIFE. TOXIC, HURTING ME AND DELIBERATELY SETTING ME UP, TO FAIL. THOUGH I KNOW MY SELF-HATE IS NOT THE TRUTH, I BELIEVE IT CAME FROM TOXIC PARENTS AND 2 TOXIIC HUSBANDS. THE 'TAPES' ARE ALWAYS PLAYING IN MY HEAD. I DON'T KNOW HOW TO HEAL, GET HEALTHY, FORGIVE- REPROGRAM MY WHOLE VIEW OF LIFE AND PEOPLE. IVE BEEN WITH ABUSIVE PEOPLE ALL MY LIFE - FOR NEARLY 50 YEARS. WHAT CAN YOU TELL ME ABOUT THIS? YOU'VE NEVER ADDRESSED THIS ISSUE - AS FAR AS I KNOW. MY ENTIRE FAMILY AND MY CHURCH HAS BEEN TURNED AGAINST ME. IM ISOLATED, IN POVERTY, TRAUMATIZED, ANGRY, BITTER, IN SELF-PITY?, SELF-DESTRUCTIVE. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO! I WORRY MY THEOLOGY IS WRONG. I WORRY SO MUCH THAT I'm NOT SAVED. SINCE MY ENTIRE LIFE WAS A LIE: IF I COULDNT TRUST MY PARENTS, HUSBANDS, OR CHURCH, PASTORS- WHO CAN I TRUST? WHAT ELSE WAS I LIED TO ABOUT??? PLEASE ADDRESS CHFISTIANS RAISED BY FALSE 'CHRISTIANS' WHO HATE THEIR CHILDREN AND ABUSE THEM : SET OUT TO CONTROL AND DESTROY THEM???
@ravenraven966
@ravenraven966 5 жыл бұрын
Iluvfigs47, I'm with your suffering too. I can't believe no one answered you. So very typical. True suffering seems to be ignored, even amongst believers. This results in all those emotions you have shared with me. A lifetime of abuse and lies. No wonder we feel the way we do.
@tammylutz7877
@tammylutz7877 4 жыл бұрын
We live in a fallen world. We must not give up. I can relate to what u are saying. I can say forsure when I tried to do without the lord I failed and hated me more! I am now working thru this as hard as it can be at times. We must never give up ! And always seek Gods direction. Pray in the spirit. The evil one will try to separate you from Jesus for as long as we live. Plz dont give up on God. I am praying for you both.
@brilurz
@brilurz 3 жыл бұрын
I needed this
@MrMrscoffey
@MrMrscoffey 5 жыл бұрын
I have struggled with the thoughts of suicide because I feel so hopeless and totally unlovable....come out of abuse .... A HELL LIKE NO OTHER MUST MUST FIND SOME ONE ELSE TO SERVE!!!! THE ENEMY OF MY SOLE HAS DRIVEN ME DOWN... AND MY SELF AND SIN
@annpotato3079
@annpotato3079 4 жыл бұрын
hey love, are you okay?
@gracegotthis3704
@gracegotthis3704 3 жыл бұрын
How are you doing today? I can relate and wanted to reach out to you.
@MrMrscoffey
@MrMrscoffey 3 жыл бұрын
@@gracegotthis3704 ... praying and trying to die to self and hope in this world.... it is all fruit of dispair... loneliness
@gracegotthis3704
@gracegotthis3704 3 жыл бұрын
@@MrMrscoffey we sound so alike.. Praying for you and your not alone.( even though it feels like no one could understand). I wish I had an idea of who I really am. May God wrap us both in a love that transcends our deepest anguish. Big hugs to you
@thetruthshallsetyoufree2040
@thetruthshallsetyoufree2040 2 жыл бұрын
Amazing!
@foolishdrunk2181
@foolishdrunk2181 4 жыл бұрын
Those who suffer cruelty in their earliest years will carry some degree of self hate no matter what the person's spiritual life is like
@semaj4324
@semaj4324 4 жыл бұрын
We have the ability to overcome through Christ
@foolishdrunk2181
@foolishdrunk2181 4 жыл бұрын
@@semaj4324 Honestly, I don't think you understand the serious nature of harm that occurs early in life. Christ can work a miracle in our lives but he can't change the past. That would violate free will
@bxndo5ive
@bxndo5ive 4 жыл бұрын
Yep
@sofiabravo1994
@sofiabravo1994 3 жыл бұрын
@@foolishdrunk2181 He CAN but He chooses not to!
@JulieJewelzKvasnicka
@JulieJewelzKvasnicka 3 жыл бұрын
I would love to be able to talk to Pastor John
@jessicak781
@jessicak781 3 жыл бұрын
God judges not us - self righteous is my sin
@duke4384
@duke4384 2 жыл бұрын
Not only is the story of Adam & Eve true but as I wrote in another post on this web page, as I said an amateur archaeologist in the 80s found, that will shock most faithful. Ron Wyatt discovered the exact spot where Christ was crucified, it was Golgotha, the Romans had a square slot in the rock to put the crosses in & Ron Wyatt found the spot that had a crack in the square slot after the Lord died, there was a earthquake, a Roman centurion pierced his side & blood & water came out, blood went down the crack & behold fell on the mercy seat of the ark of the covenant that lie below 20 feet under the cross, there is a cave under the spot where Christ was crucified. he took some blood off the mercy seat & took it to have tested in Israel, the Jews asked, “Where Did You Get This Blood” ? He replied with tears in his eyes, “From Your Messiah” the blood was missing the Father's chromosomes, AB positive blood type, the same from the samples from the shroud of Turin, the Sudarium, (Face Cloth) in Spain, the vile of Veronica. The Jews have the ark of the covenant, it was recovered in the 80’s. thanks to Wyatt. Jesus died of suffocation, as he had to push up on his feet everytime to take a breath, they found edema fluid on the Samarium, which came from his lungs, when Joseph of Arimathea & 3 others took him off the cross, carried him face down & put the face cloth around his face because Jews believe blood is sacred & carried him to the tomb. the most fascinating thing I didn’t say because I didn’t want to overload the mind was the same cave below Christ’s cross was also the cave where Adam & Eve were buried or placed, they give tours in Israel on this fact, if you just sit & think about it, it all makes perfect sense, the blood of Christ fell on the ark of the covenant & Adam & eves grave.
@HearGodsWord
@HearGodsWord 5 жыл бұрын
That was a long APJ but lovely to hear.
@KevinKurzsartdisplay
@KevinKurzsartdisplay 3 жыл бұрын
I used to hate myself because I was annoying people and I couldn’t change it because I didn’t have the will
@graywarden8340
@graywarden8340 3 жыл бұрын
What was your journey in changing?
@KevinKurzsartdisplay
@KevinKurzsartdisplay 3 жыл бұрын
To become normal like everyone else but I couldn’t and didn’t really have the will power
@graywarden8340
@graywarden8340 3 жыл бұрын
@@KevinKurzsartdisplay No I meant, what made you get that will power cause your statement is in passed tense... like, you no longer hate yourself and you were annoying but not anymore (which is wonderful news) how did you get there? if you don't mind sharing that is😅
@KevinKurzsartdisplay
@KevinKurzsartdisplay 3 жыл бұрын
Oh I guess I just changed a bit or something, what’s it to you?
@graywarden8340
@graywarden8340 3 жыл бұрын
@@KevinKurzsartdisplay Oh I see. It's encouraging to hear from people who where once in bad positions but have been moved out of those situations. Or even if they still struggle,knowing that they aren't alone is a blessing. I struggle with self hatred too and sometimes it gets rough but I'm still fighting so that's why I was asking. If you still are too, I pray we both don't lose heart.
@paulgcasso6279
@paulgcasso6279 6 жыл бұрын
So helpful!
@zapazap
@zapazap 2 жыл бұрын
To loathe something is not to think it condemnable. I loathe strong mustard, but I accept that people can appreciate good wasabi. What had this to day with self loathing?
@Amanda-gr6qg
@Amanda-gr6qg 5 жыл бұрын
What is the name of this book? and where can I buy it?
@chibiwan11
@chibiwan11 4 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately the audio isnt very clear, being a non native speaker, it is quite hard to hear or understand. But i need hope
@brobro3944
@brobro3944 3 жыл бұрын
Realize that we belong to God Sometimes we can find what causes it can become our temporary fix, and makes it worse What’s the condition (eating disorder) ^ Not true identity Self hatred is pushes us greater self hatred. We are led into a trap of calling ourselves a failure and self condemnation creating a looping self prophesy that over time gets more damaging God is the only escape from the loop To people who think God would only push them into further condemnation God is not bad and condemning, but caring and loving, and who came to die for our sins There’s Grace for us My takeaways from the first 20mins, I am not that great of an interpreter or listener, but I hope this helps
@gracegotthis3704
@gracegotthis3704 3 жыл бұрын
Praying for you IJN
@angelagholston5128
@angelagholston5128 6 жыл бұрын
When you have such a deep hate for your self and how others think of you, how do u get out of that?
@nicklikesYT
@nicklikesYT 4 жыл бұрын
My own advice even though I'm kinda doing the same is they did hate Jesus and Joseph's own brothers hated him and he became human
@WeWantYouToStay
@WeWantYouToStay 4 жыл бұрын
Hey, I'm sorry to hear you're dealing with that. I can really recommend the book 'when people are big and God is small' to you :) bless you
@DebbieSparrow
@DebbieSparrow 4 жыл бұрын
Who is this speaking?
@jslumor
@jslumor 4 жыл бұрын
David powlison I think
@cmullenmusic
@cmullenmusic 4 жыл бұрын
💜✞🕊
@eoinMB3949
@eoinMB3949 3 жыл бұрын
This dude sounds exactly like HAL9000
@iluvfigs4712
@iluvfigs4712 6 жыл бұрын
Why is my question crossed out?
@gmac8586
@gmac8586 3 жыл бұрын
That happens to me when my computer misunderstands and thinks I want a strikethrough when I typed a hyphen. Just make sure you add a space after you type a hyphen, then continue typing.
@jessicak781
@jessicak781 3 жыл бұрын
8:00
@shanichamachan6036
@shanichamachan6036 6 жыл бұрын
This doesn’t help me at all. You can’t just clear away the type of hate that has been created. All I here is babbling, and assuming things, mind reading. The only way for me to not hate myself, is to undo all that has happened to me, that’s the only way. Give me back my childhood, give me back my right to choose to give my virginity to someone I love! Give me my grandfather back! You can’t help someone who is beyond help. Everything already has been done. Isn’t help supposed to be before something bad happens? Well you’re too late.
@nathonfleming6631
@nathonfleming6631 5 жыл бұрын
Hey sis❤hope youre doin well🙏🏼 Theres nothing thay youve done or that others have done that got cant wipe clean. That shame you feel inside doesnt have to stay. Youre secure and loved in jesus.... yeah, youre a mess and im a mess but jesus alone will make you beautiful. Rest im him. I reccomend the book "when people are big and god is small". PLEASE give it a try. Its so good. It talks about shame, self hate, insecurity, identity, fear of people... and the ways in which we feel it, why, and how God redeems us and saves us from these things. I really hope you consider getting it. Much love :)
@gmac8586
@gmac8586 3 жыл бұрын
Sounds like you're still angry. You need healing and healing is never too late. Sometimes for healing though you need to forgive. Forgiving sets YOU free. Looking back and longing for time lost is a waste of time. It has to be mourned and released in order to move on. It can never come back. But God can give us freedom for the rest of our life and all the time in the universe because it is eternal life! Sometimes God will give us a choice between holding on to anger and wishing revenge or trusting God forgiving and receiving healing. God can make new. Vengeance is mine says God. Holding on to anger can result in trapping ourselves in self-hatred. Give it to God, trust him. A childhood is such a short time compared to eternity. So don't give up. Don't give up on God. He has all the time in the world and he can give that time to you. He can heal anyone. Look at his Son...so abused he was KILLED! and God raised him up. What matters is what you do with the abuse and the pain -- what character might you develop because of it. God will help you transform that pain into being someone who can understand and comfort others. Let him heal you. I hope you let God into your pain and let him love you and bless you and make up for what you lost. He promises this to those who turn to him.
@nickdietz4367
@nickdietz4367 7 жыл бұрын
There is not much written on self hatred because it's not in the Bible. The fact is, and the only problem is, we love ourselves too much. We are so self focused and less focused on Christ. That's the only way to solve this issue is to change our perspectives to biblical perspectives. Christ said we must love Him and others as we "already" love ourselves. There is absolutely no such thing as self hatred. You are using self pity which is actually a pride issue and ultimately idolatry. It's crazy how our hearts can be so deceitful.
@buckobucko3938
@buckobucko3938 7 жыл бұрын
Nick Dietz No man, this is a real struggle. Some people genuinely do HATE themselves, despise themselves. You can't deny that.
@streamylc
@streamylc 6 жыл бұрын
Brother Nick, halfway through this interview he specifically names prides as being one of the driving factors of self hatred.
@cecivelazquez3908
@cecivelazquez3908 6 жыл бұрын
this is so true
@shanichamachan6036
@shanichamachan6036 6 жыл бұрын
If you went through a lick of what I did, you wouldn’t want to love yourself either. So many people have had a hand in molding me into this pile of toxic mud. My own father, has taken my childhood, MY FUCKING CHOICE TO GIVE SOMETHING SO SPECIAL AWAY! Then the one person I didn’t expect to hurt me did the same thing! Not long after that another adult in my life whom I loved like a father did the same thing. No one is going to love someone who isn’t clean, I’m filthy, I am them. I am what they made me. My family does nothing but constantly belittle me, my own fucking mother makes fun of time. I have never had anyone that has cared in a way that wasn’t sexual. I’m not feeling sorry for myself, I am hating everyone, I am taking out my anger on everyone! I have no pride in being used up garbage, I could have said something to make all of it stop, but I didn’t. So I brought this on myself! That is why I hate myself. I hate myself because I can’t truly give anything to the person I love, because I didn’t get to choose. I can’t make friends because I don’t know how to talk to people, because growing up I was taught to stay away from them, I don’t know what to do when I’m getting felt up on the bus by a stranger, because I feel that it’s happened before, So I must endure it till the end. I have all of these memories, all of these thoughts, and this burning rage that will follow me to my grave, I have been robbed of my eternal life with God, because I am so angry. Don’t you dare, say that it’s because of pride, or self love. Because that is far from right. I wish my childhood upon you, and everyone so they can understand, why I am the way I am. May all my thoughts, horrible memories, happen to you, I pray, that you or someone else has to experience what I had to. I hope someone robs you of your childhood, and your right to choose, EVERYTHING! Curse you!
@Leeyum961
@Leeyum961 6 жыл бұрын
So do you think, Nick, that Jesus was lying when he said whoever humbles himself will be exalted? How can you say those that feel worthless, knowing their sin and humbling themselves before God are unjust? Some people have issues, whether it’s the enemy or whoever. They seriously can’t see their own worth and don’t understand Christ’s forgiveness to them. It’s OUR jobs as Christians to let people know they’re loved, not that they’re worthless...
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