Gray Hair Isn't 100% Easy -- How to deal with yellowing, messy hair and a whole new style vibe.

[@sues.3527]

Not only have I gone down the rabbit hole of style, I’ve pitched a tent. I dressed very conservatively with the blonde hair and found it made the blonde more serious. Now, with the grey melange, I find that, and excuse the term, too old and stuffy somehow. I’m really into more of the Isabel marant vibe, bigger bolder geometric jewelry and just overall more modern and less classic. Although I still mix. Girl’s got limits, ya know. 😘

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

😂😂😂 I’ll come find your campsite, Sue! 🏕 Yes, I know just what you mean about stuffy. I’ve always veered toward the classics to balance out other elements of my vibe. Some of those styles just don’t feel as good now. I have always loved Isabel Marant, too, but that look didn’t quite work before. Now I’m very open to it.

[@sues.3527]

@@InfinitegardenbyBethK You mentioned in one of your other videos about being cat called, and I think the conservative look I was sporting, was part of that. It's like I wanted attention, but not the wrong kind. From an overall societal perspective grey, and ageing women, is somehow synonymous with irrelevance. And yet now, I feel more relevant and more like myself than ever. I look forward to being part of the solution and know that you're welcome at my camp anytime.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

@@sues.3527 I understand exactly what you mean!! I absolutely used conservative style to try to minimize a very specific type of attention.

[@lauriepowell3959]

@@sues.3527 Hee, hee! Today is my 70th birthday. I have decided to go for IRREVERENCE rather than irreverence and enjoy life no matter what. 😇

[@jmk1962]

I've found since going grey/silver/white that I have to wash my hair every second day as opposed to just twice a week because it only looks good for 2 days and then it starts to look darker and in need of a wash. I use purple shampoo and conditioner about every 3rd wash and so far have had no issues with yellowing. I do think that you need to keep your hair trimmed/cut into a style more when it's grey to keep it looking more stylish than when I was a brunette where I could just let it grow and it looked fine. I would love to be able to wear a short punky pixie cut but my hair is too fine for that and it would never stay up so I have a graduated Bob short at the back and longer at the front. Getting some height at the crown is my current obsession. Fashion wise I have been re-assessing my wardrobe and I've been wearing much more vibrant colours than before. I used to wear a lot more black but as I am 60 I find black too harsh for my complexion and navy is more forgiving. I think it's good to do a wardrobe "pruning" every decade and have a re-think about what still suits us and what we should discard. It's an interesting journey but I am loving my new look and would NEVER go back to dyeing every 2-3 weeks as I had to do because I have so much white/silver hair when I was dyeing it brown it was coming out a horrible orangey/brown colour which I absolutely hated. I now find myself looking at women with strange unnatural coloured hair and thinking, just go for it it's so freeing, and I would far rather age gracefully and stylishly than try and look 20 years younger because my face would not match my hair and wouldn't fool anyone.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Thank you for this thoughtful comment. 💗 I have also experienced the appearance of darkening in between washes. It’s so obvious right after I wash it and it’s brilliant again. I know what you mean about preferring bright colors. I’ve been obsessed with wearing black my whole life and I’m beginning to feel that it might not be my best color-navy is so much better.

[@anabelclarke8003]

Going through the grey hair transition myself and YES, it has triggered a style overhaul. With my natural hair colour now framing my face, my skin looks different and I realise the hair dye colour I had been using for years was the wrong colour. So, I am now trying new makeup and new colours to wear. But like you, Beth, I am questioning my overall style and am trying new things. It is fun and something I never thought would come with "growing out grey hair". Please keep making videos on makeup colours, jewellery choices and clothes you are now wearing as opposed to before. I think many women would be interested in this!

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Love this comment, Annabel! 💗 I would love to make all of those videos! It really has been a fun process to explore style again-for too long I was uninspired. Thank you for sharing your ideas. 🥰😘🥰😘

[@melaroper4126]

Love the content of this video. Please do more. I would like to add that a current and modern hair style is important if you have grey short hair.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Hi, Mela! Thank you so much for the kind words and feedback 💗💗💗 Great point about a modern hairstyle. A silver sister I follow on IG, BeautyDebut, just cut her hair in the trending butterfly cut and I was stunnnnnned. I’m due soon for a fresh cut and am considering that or something like it.

[@shelley37]

The Kibbe body typing sounds fascinating. So much more involved than pear, apple, triangle, etc. And the terms you used to describe body shapes make it seem more flattering than being compared to a piece of fruit!! 😅. I would love to hear more about this.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Shelley, yes! What I like about it is that it doesn’t suggest that your body is wrong and needs to be corrected. It’s more like, “you are short, so you might like the way shorter lines look on you” or “you look tall or long and therefore a long monochrome dress might not overwhelm your frame as it would a shorter person”. That’s super cursory but kind of the idea. It’s about seeing yourself and working with what you have, not trying to fix it. I think that’s a better way to go in general, plus it helps you to avoid jumping onto trends that might not flatter your unique beauty.

[@mysocalledreality]

☝🏼Square this thought! I am so curious and want more about this and the rediscovering your closest! I have been looking at capsule wardrobes and that sounds super helpful!✨

[@jessicacollins9033]

I just found your channel a few weeks ago and I am LOVING your videos!! I am fully transitioned to my gray hair and I find that I struggle sometimes with accepting that I’m getting older. Your videos are helping me a lot through this whole process. Thank you so much, Beth!

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Congratulations on completing your transition, Jessica! 🍾🥂. Thank you for the kind words, I’m so glad you’re here.

[@phyllisdenevekostelnik3421]

You have the most gorgeous silver hair… You are so blessed! Mine is coming in salt and pepper and streaks of dark brunette and streaks of white… I’m only three months into this, so we’ll see what happens as it continues to grow.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Thank you! Now that I've grown out my hair, I regret that I dyed my hair through the salt & pepper phase. I wish I had gotten to see what that looked like.

[@pilifonseca6583]

Its been 3 years since I stopped dying. I'm 57 and it happened the way you just mentioned.. I feel the need to compensate the "older" vibe of the gray hair, with a careful look at the way I dress ..forget my english if I write mistakes. I'm spanish and in europe just now it seems to be a whole new breed of young women that have thought over the dye issue and found it to be very freeing to just let the true colors of their hair to just show up. I'm very happy with mine, unruly and difficult some times, but to me unique and beatifull, and much much healthier. I enjoy your content very much, and find your hair gourgeous!

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Pili, thank you for the lovely comment! 🥰😘 I am so glad to see this generational shift, too. I have seen more videos like this from women in their 30’s, which makes me so happy. I agree- unruly and difficult at times, but so worth it. 💗💗💗

[@jmk1962]

Your English is amazing.

[@maimiw788]

Reading your comment late but wanted to say how good your written English is

[@ninasundell6925]

😊great information regarding grey hair. I’ve studied Kibbe for a while now and it’s been “life changing” as they say. I’m a soft classic and feel more confident when I dress this way.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Wonderful! I'm pretty sure I'm a dramatic classic and it was absolutely life changing! So much makes sense to me now, including why clothes often felt like the were "wearing me."

[@mululisanework2095]

Your silver hair is very beautiful and inspires me

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Thank you!

[@jewbesixty3212]

Beth, your hair is beautiful, great video!

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Thank you so much for being here, Jewbe! 💗💗

[@beyond50skin]

My decision to go Grey a few years ago at 55 was based on my assumption that caring for Grey would be easier. I do love my grey; but it’s definitely not easier 🤪. I’m blonde so I colored at home @3mos. My Greys tend to turn yellow with any heat or UV so keeping them gorgeous is a challenging - balancing heat exposure and experimenting with various purple shampoos and conditioners. I also feel it’s a trade off of having a unique look which I like and having a style which is slightly aging. To stay stylish I cut it short and modern … but with my short cut I can’t cut my hair at home any more. My salon bills have gone way up since short cuts need to be kept in shape every 4-6 weeks to look good. It’s all a trade off I guess. So far I don’t have any plans to go back to blonde … and my hair stylist refuses to do it 😂. Can’t wait to hear what others are thinking about this. 💜👩🏼‍🦳

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

I adore your short cut! It’s so chic and stylish. 🤩🤩 But of course short cuts are notoriously demanding. I feel like every time I use a flat iron it’s practically *instant yellow*. This is not a minor detail for me since I have coarse, textured hair. Again, I just love your channel! So happy you’re here.

[@beyond50skin]

@@InfinitegardenbyBethK 🤗💜

[@cathietonkin5577]

Going on 6 years with my gray! I decided I was done with the endless dying and the price doubling when I’m in Florida. My hair was 3/4’s down my back and look great! But I still love long hair and I’m just now letting it grow out after 5 years of short/short…. I also love wearing scarfs too. Thanks for the idea to get some new scarfs!!!

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Hey, Cathie! You are absolutely a trend setter! Congratulations on 6 years 🥳🥳 I like seeing more long gray hairstyles. 😍

[@kathleenb7241]

Hi Beth! Great video. Even though I went silver quite young, I’m definitely relating to your style vibe comments. I have found that I cannot get away with certain colors or styles these days because, combined with my silver hair, I simply look too grandma-ish. (Nothing against Grandma!) For example, I love baby pink. I can no longer wear it. Same with lace. 😂 I just see my grandma in the mirror if I try things like that. I wish I could wear scarves, but they are really unflattering on me. Would love to see more on the topic of body and style. Also, love your ficcares. My hair is tailbone length and there’s just nothing better than an elegant and versatile (and high quality!) clip.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Hi, Kathleen! 😘😘 Do you use Ficcare clips, too? They are a bit pricey, but worth it to me for their strength and beauty. I can absolutely relate. I am liking lace on me, but it’s really about the cut-it has to be sharply tailored and somewhat light weight. I’m finding anything boxy or bulky isn’t helping me at all (partly because of my frame). Side note: your hair sounds lavish and glorious. You must take great care of it. 🤩

[@kathleenb7241]

@@InfinitegardenbyBethK hi! Yes, I have a few ficcares. I’ve had them for about fifteen years, and they have been great. I mostly wear my hair in a bun held with a fork these days, but you’ve inspired me to break out the ficcares. My hair like is my identity, if that makes sense. I stopped dyeing in my 20s and it was one of my best life decisions, honestly! Then I decided to grow it long because I wanted to inspire other women to ditch the dye. It isn’t always easy to deal with long silver hair, in my case, it’s much more finicky than it was when it had pigment. But I wouldn’t feel like myself if I kept it short, even though it mostly lives in a bun. 😅 I love your style and how you present yourself. You are an inspiration to many women, and a reinforcement to me to keep working on evolving my style. ❤ Have a great day.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Thank you, so much 💗💗💗💗💗

[@lauriepowell3959]

I stopped coloring my lush, healthy, long, thick hair right before Covid hit the US. However, too high of thyroid med made it start falling out! It’s growing back, but very thin. I love your words of wisdom and it’s helping. Luckily for me, my young niece accidentally left some Aveda Pure Abundance volumizing shampoo at my house. It is working perfectly for my new hair personality: now it’s fuller, healthier, and not so oily looking between shampoos. I checked on Amazon and they have it, but be sure and look for the $25 one because some sellers marked it up way too much! ❤ Thanks

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Ooo thanks so much for your comments about Pure Abundance-I haven’t had a chance to try it. I wish you a healthy and speedy return to your hair health. 💖

[@Mexicobeanpole]

I don’t know if I have already said this, but your hair and face are beautiful. Even the way you speak-enunciate is attractive.🌸 Edit: oh geez, just saw your body shape too. Your entire look is goals!!

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Thank you!! I’m blushing 😊

[@tomcocanower1937]

Hi Beth. This landed in my mailbox yesterday. Happy 4th of July Got my hair trimmed about 5 days ago. My stylist likes your suggestions Ido too. My hair is getting longer and continues to look better. Thank you dear friend 😊❤

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

How lovely! I’m so glad you’re loving your long, silver hair. Thank you for the kind words. I have a trim scheduled for next Friday! 🩷

[@karenley7356]

Beth I've just found your channel and love your videos. I too have transitioned to may silver hair (actually very similar colour to you). I am playing with colour and style and the points your made about silver/grey hair being linked to maturity is a really valid point. I'd love to see more content on the kibble system and perhaps a little more about your colour choices in clothing etc. Thanks again for taking the time to make these videos, I appreciate your generosity it sharing your knowledge/experience.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Welcome, Karen! I’m so glad you’re here. 🥰😘. Please check out my two most recent videos about the Kibbe system. I hope you find it interesting and possibly helpful 💗

[@hawkeyeannieful]

I enjoy my white/light silver hair, and I’ve now let it grow very long. Now I can towel dry, and wrap in in a heartless curl wrap, wake up, and shake out the long flowing curls.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

That sounds divine. Linda! 🥰😘 I love this method for my curls, too. They come out soft and shiny ✨

[@TYapril]

The best channel about grey hair!

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Wow!! Thank you, Lianne! 🥰😘🥰😘

[@dianesgardeninspiration]

Love your videos and yes now that 10 months in I’m noticing that I’m not drawn to black clothing around my face as much as I used to. I appreciate your input on gray hair challenges and agree it’s still better than dyeing every 3-4 weeks. For me I’m dealing with little “fly always” would love a recommendation to “tame” them. And YES! Would love to hear more about this rabbit hole…

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Hello, Diane! Thank you so much for kind comment. 🥰😘 those pesky flyaways!! I struggle with them, too. I’ve had some luck with light hair spray when my hair is completely dry, but I haven’t mastered it either. As they grow longer it gets a little easier.

[@live4salsa]

Gamine here... can't figure out if I'm flamboyant or perhaps soft, but definitely gamine. I'm up for some Kibbe 👍😊 Your hair just keeps getting prettier and prettier, love the length 💯😍

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Mai, so great to hear from you. I love your updated profile pic 💗 so cool that you are into Kibbe as well. I love the gamines! Thank you so much for the kinds words! 🥰😘

[@sheilaslaney2575]

Thank you for your video. I've been playing with different purple shampoos and so far I find the olaplex quite good. I have also found a good clarifying shampoo, once every couple of weeks, is helpful as well. I went grey at 54, 2 1/2 years ago from dark brown and love my hair. I just wish my colourist hadn't talked me into low lights in July 2021. Worst decision ever! Now i'm growing them out. If your salon tried to talk you into jushing up your grey with colour, run the other way. With regards to colour; you are correct you need to find what colours look good on you now. I tend to stay away now from beige, brown and off white. I am in love with the more vibrant colours, as they don't wash me out. A lot of red and pink in my wardrobe, as well as black and navy blue. Keep up the great work, I love watching your videos!

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Thanks so much for this comment, Sheila! Sorry to hear about the lowlights. 😫😫 I hope you don’t have too long to wait. Thank you so much for the kind words. I will be making more style content in the future and more with colors, too. I’m still learning through this but I hope people can relate to that. 💗💗💗

[@dianesgardeninspiration]

Thank you for this comment. I’m 10 months into my transaction and was contemplating lowlights. My gut was saying “no” this solidified it. Thank You

[@muriellecurcio1494]

Yes I am also interested in the kibbe body typing.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Awesome! I have a couple of videos I’ve made since filming this one and I plan to make more.

[@reneklein6049]

Though I don't have gray hair, I find your content so very interesting and informative. I would probably love my hair gray, but I only get gray at my temples, and a few in the roots. So, I guess I will continue to dye the gray parts. My mom was the same. She had very little gray when she passed at 72. Keep on doing what you are. Your hair in just absolutely fabulous, Beth! Have a great week❣🥰💗

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Hi Rene! I always think about you when I post gray hair videos. 🥰 I think, “This might not be interesting to Rene!” Thank you so much for watching 🥰😘 I hope you have a fabulous week!

[@reneklein6049]

@@InfinitegardenbyBethK totally not true. I love your content, whether it pertains to me or not. 😊💗💗

[@gigikc6503]

i don’t have that much grey, i also have at the temples but also at sideburn area, so basically that came in where i have grey streaks which my son says i look like a superhero - i love that description. the rest of my hair is dark with just some grey sprinkled in, very salt and pepper with streaks. you really never know what it will look like until you grow it, you may be surprised

[@louisealain780]

Hi Beth , I’ve been lucky so far no yellowing in my silver hair and I do use purple shampoo every second wash or mix it with white shampoo so it’s less intense. I also do this with purple masks. Love wearing hair accessories too. You look gorgeous and love your silver hair. I would be interested for the styling video ❤ have a great day 👩🏻‍🦳💗

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Thank you, Louise! 💗💗 it sounds as though you’ve really been careful with your toning routine. I’m sure your hair is stunning 💗 (BTW, I asked to join the silver sisters Facebook group!) thank you so much for watching 😘😘

[@louisealain780]

@@InfinitegardenbyBethK that’s awesome 😎 you can see how short my hair is but feels great though 👩🏻‍🦳💗

[@tuckerdesignswv]

I ditched the dye in 2020 and my hair is very white. I started graying at 16 years old. I struggle daily with yellowing. I have tried nearly everything but have not had much success. I’m going to try the Karastase heat protectant you mentioned. I will never go back to the dye again though. I get way more positive comments on my white hair than I ever did with dyed brown hair so that helps me mentally deal with that dang yellow. 😊

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Hey! Congratulations 🎉 the compliments were surprising to me, as well. I generally think people are nicer to me now. If you like, check out my recent video about L’Oreal’s Metal Detox shampoo. It’s helped me with yellowing.

[@tuckerdesignswv]

@@InfinitegardenbyBethK I will definitely check that out. I’ll try nearly anything. I keep waiting for that one magical product to come into my life. 😉

[@annielingray111]

Interesting video. I let my salt and pepper grow out during Covid. It is freeing ! I too had to relook at my clothing and makep. My hair is curly and I don't straighten because it stays healthier. I use colourful scarves too : coordinating with a brighter lip. My challenge is messiness - it gets wilder as the day goes on !

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

I fully relate!! Thanks so much for the kind comment.

[@katscotty]

Yes I would be interested in knowing what's best to wear for my shape. Thank you!

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Great! Thank you!

[@gingertunstall7739]

I have shorter wavy/culy hair that I dont "fix". I like it as it naturally falls and I get so many compliments. I use Malibu C as a clarifying shampoo and Rusk Platinum Strong Hold Gel made for silver, grey, patinum hair for some extra body. It does brightening without a purple cast.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Hi, Ginger! 🥰😘 Let your gorgeous hair live its best life! Great tips for shine without the purple cast 💖

[@tomcocanower1937]

You and your grey hair 😊 awesome.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Thank you!

[@sassysally625]

I have been wearing my natural white/gray hair for 7 years now and I do notice yellowing around my face. Took me a while to make the connection that apart from sun exposure, this was likely from my daily SPF moisturiser or the few times I do wear foundation and it touches my hair. Just putting it out there as a possible contributor to yellowing.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Thank you for this super helpful tip, Sally! I’ve definitely noticed more yellowing around the face, so this makes perfect sense.

[@pamelap.123]

I'm just starting the grow-out at age 66, my hair is sun-bleached "blorange". I'm discovering mostly salt and pepper with some white streaks in the front, it's not going to be an easy transition -there will be many scarves and hats.Fortunately I've retired so don't have to worry about professional attire. I found OGX purple drops, they can be added to shampoos and conditioners. I've used it once in conditioner and it seems fine.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Hi, Pamela! So glad you're here. Isn't it surprising to find out what's actually under the dye? Take lots of photos! It's both a slow and fast process. I want to experiment with those drops! Thanks for letting me know.

[@tracyvision]

You’ll find your way through it, whatever it takes. I’ve been transitioned for 5 years now and it’s been the best decision ever. For many of us the journey is about much more than hair color. Hang in there - this phase is temporary and there’s so much good stuff waiting on the other side.

[@jassodraramroop9785]

Your silver hair is aewsome❤❤

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Thank you!!🙏

[@rregina418]

love that vintage scarf

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Yes! So cheerful.

[@melinakoufalis281]

Love this content.. i love your research and analysys and assessment of the greying process and how society perceives women who are greying . Fashion and style tips from you are really useful even if you dont have grey hair. There i a bad attidue that grey means old but all it means is your body needed minerals and vitamins. For example did you know B12 deficiencys for people(mostly under 39)results in grey hair.. low vitamin d deficiency contributes to going grey too. It's not just age.. i have been researching the reasons for grey hair. A lady who had kidney problems went white but after kidney dialysis she got her natural dark color back. There is people who go grey at 17. And some people never go grey. More men than women go grey before 50. There is a lot to learn for us about going grey. I can't wait for the grey hair stigma to be gone as its just another color in people's hair. We need to be more understanding of what happens to our hair and be nicer to each other and accept each regardless of hair color

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

This is so interesting! I have an ancestor (great grandma) who went gray young and died in her forties from a kidney disease (which would be treatable today). It’s possible my gray hair is due to genetics, but I think severe stress when I was younger (and maybe some insufficient B12 and D) could have been at work for me. I really appreciate your thoughtful comments, Melina! 🥰🥰😘

[@melinakoufalis281]

@@InfinitegardenbyBethK exactly.. people say genetics but then why did that ancestor go grey too? What was happening for you back then.. so much stress for one so young...thank you for always responding

[@gigikc6503]

i decided no more dye 2.5 years ago (yes, i’m a covidmademedoit dye ditching convert) and WOW i feel so free! no more coloring every 4 weeks and highlighting every 2 months, i added it all up and including tips, i save, SAVE, $3600 a year, but thats just the side benefit, i feel i look so much better with my natural hair. i’m glad i found your channel, feel like i found a tribe member 😊

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Hayyyy, Gigi! So happy you’re here. 🥰😘. I relate to everything you say!!

[@amyd4462]

Purple toned products don’t work for me but when in the UK I found Lee Stafford BLUE products and they’re wonderful

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Great suggestion! I’ve never tried blue products, but it makes perfect sense.

[@Healinglove]

Tresemme Blonde Purple shampoo and conditioner is really good, and very affordable! ❤🎉

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Awesome tip!! 🙏 thanks!

[@rebeccapena9251]

Hello I just found your channel yesterday. So, I just had to subscribe. Yes, please post of video about clothing for us silver-hair women. I am 59, and although I now work from home, I still like to dress when I go to dinner, church, etc. Becca in S. Texas.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Hello, Rebecca! Welcome 🥰😘 I did just post two videos (one long and one shorter) about the Kibbe body typing system. I think this can help each unique person find their special beauty outside of trends and fashion industry pressure. I hope you check it out! 💗

[@Kate-448]

i love your style! That blouse is lovely ♥

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Thank you! 🥰😘

[@lauriewarner4848]

I want white, but natural white hair. No blue at all. Any suggestions? I notice that my yellowing comes around my face. I wonder if it is any treatment from my face products. I am new to your site. Love you! Will be watching you often. Happy Holidays ! The new year will be great🙃

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Hi, Laurie! 🥰😘 I’m so glad you’re here. Honestly, I’m navigating this anti-yellowing space myself. Right now I’m testing L’Oreal’s Metal Detox shampoo and not using any purple products for a while. I’ve been more careful about using colorless hair products. I think you’re right to think about your face products as potential causes. 💖💖

[@leanneb7788]

That all rings true for me too as I come up on 3 years dye free 🤗

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Congratulations , Leanne! 🍾 🥰

[@joellenklemek138]

I’d be very interested to learn more about the body types. I also have long grey hair. My body has a very short torso with very broad chest and shoulders. Also a pot belly. For style I would like to dress for making myself happy. But I tend to love wild artistic looks. And I don’t want all that attention. I just want to go about my business - live and let live. So I have 2 wardrobes. One for home, when I am all alone, and one for public. I definitely need a style overhaul.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

I know just what you mean about 2 wardrobes! When I’m in private-life mode, I want to be comfortable and warm. When I’m in public I want to look polished and coordinated. Based on what you’ve said about your shape, I can totally see artsy tunics and fun swing dresses.

[@FreshGrey-pm4vw]

I am recently all silver- not too happy that somehow my blond hair seemed to forever conceal all the gray hair under it for many many months. I decided to razor cut it into a shag which thankfully I like. The gray hair texture is so foreign to me. I dont dare put any purple product on my hair bc when using it over blonde it dried my hair out terribly. Every time I catch my silver hair in the mirror its a surprise - still adjusting to it. The freedom from dying my hair is worth all the struggle. I still dress the same way I did in highschool - boho mixed with classic blazers and funky skirts, fun jewelry. But my make up has changed and its fun to mix new cooler shades now.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

I love a good shag haircut-so chic 🤩 I’m glad you’re feeling as though the freedom is worth the adjustment period I totally know what you mean about the double take in the mirror🪞

[@nancygreen4201]

Thank you for the video ❤ you answered a lot of great questions! It’s been 8 months since I’ve colored my hair my little whites are coming out 😊

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Nancy, thank you so much for your question and for being my inspiration this week. 💗💗. Congratulations on the new hair growth! It takes awhile but I had the same experience. You’re doing so well! 💗

[@michelleej]

I'm interested in the styling for your body content. A few years ago, I watched a few videos about it. It was new to me.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Thanks for the comment, Michelle! What I like about the Kibbe approach is that every body and every style is valid and good-nothing to “correct”. It’s about training your eye to see yourself.

[@micheles501]

Would love to hear more about Kibbe! Excellent video! 😊

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Okay, great! 🥰🥰

[@ruthier2699]

I love your channel! How often do you wash your hair? It looks so good.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Hi Ruthie! I usually wash my hair about twice a week. 🥰😘

[@rregina418]

I would love one on clothes and colors. I feel the same way.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Sure thing. I have a couple videos in the mix but I do plan to make more. Appreciate the feedback.

[@marinemom-jq3xu]

I'm still fascinated by the Color Me Beautiful movement from the 80s. A mix of body structures you mentioned in today's video and the specific colors & tones that naturally flatter us as individuals would make a wonderful addition. I've also noticed that treated water found in both urban and rural areas creates other issues in cleansing & treating natural toned hair. I love your content, your silver locks are stunning

[@amkul9552]

I would love to learn more about the Kibbe method ❤

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Hi! I did upload two Kibbe videos-one explaining the system generally and one showing how you can use the system on yourself with the clothes in your own closet. I hope you enjoy!

[@fundamental1020]

Gee I’d love to learn about the architectural direction of selecting a style or many styles. I am white roped with a light grey back to my long hair. Much like your hair i have noticed how it changes the texture and colors that flatter me. Working at home I also go for comfort but I know I have gone too far 😂. I hate wearing a pony tail so often and my scalp hurts from them but grey hair feels so different “ down”. do you spend more time styling now? I have very dry hair and wash it once weekly now with a mask following the shampoo. That helps. Thank you, I like you channel.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Thank you for the kind words, Jean 💖 I do find that I spend a little more time styling my hair now for sure. Your hair sounds really pretty! I’m working in a hybrid context now, and I do like to style my hair when I know I’ll see people in person. If you would like to learn more about body architecture, I did post a long but (I hope) informative video about the five main Kibbe categories. I plan to make more videos in the near future.

[@CBlake-xy5cm]

Hi Beth! I'm a relative newcomer to your channel. I stopped dying my hair four months ago. I've found your KZbin content so helpful. I really appreciate the details you've chosen to share about your life with silver hair. I look forward to watching some of your older videos as well as your future ones. A quick suggestion. I see that you have a few things in common with another KZbin influencer I love, Hannah Loiuse Poston. She's mostly known for her makeup content, including occasional no-buys, and a focus on "fewer nicer things." I believe her hair remains naturally brown, so that's not the point in common. But she used to sew clothing professionally before the pandemic, and she's started adding fashion content to her channel. She reminds me of you because she's talented at explaining what is on her mind regarding personal adornment, and because she's thoughtful and values kindness. I'm so glad to have found your channel! All the best to you! 🦋🧡🦋 PS I'm watching one of your makeup videos now. I see you and Hannah both use green color corrector as base products for your olive toned skin. 🫒

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Hello! I’m so glad you’re here. 🥰😘I am HUGE HLP fan-she’s an absolute Queen. I found her when I wanted to learn more about No Buys, and I have just loved her work. Thank you for the spot-on suggestion and the kind comparison 💗

[@mariagismo699]

I'm very interested in the story line about different styles :)

[@agnessymon8869]

I would love to see more fashion videos. You look beautiful as always. You have such a

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Thank you, Agnes! They are coming your way 🥰😘🥰😘

[@pamkrugman8991]

Just found you. I've felt much of what youve spoken of. I'll research Kibbe as I'm not familiar with it.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Hi, Pam! I'm so glad you are here. I did make two Kibbe videos here on my channel, if you are interested. One is a bit long, but I think it clarifies the main 5 categories and you might like it! kzbin.info/www/bejne/pmG1nWSVgM-egKc

[@msmith8863]

Quick question… do you use a purple shampoo every time you wash your hair, once a week, once a month? Your hair is gorgeous!

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Thank you, Michelle. Great question. 💗I should have shared this! I use a purple toning something maybe twice a month. I do not wash my hair every day-maybe twice a week. So I would say every fourth wash? Approximately and definitely as needed. 💗💗

[@kathym7538]

Another great video, Beth! Thanks for the product mini-reviews. I fell down the Kibbe rabbit hole during Covid lockdown, but had to cut myself off. It became too complicated and I threw my hands up and thought "forget it...I'll stick with the fruits!". However, I would love to see more on the subject from you since your videos are always fun (and easy and uncomplicated!) to watch.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Kathy, thank you! Okay so I’m not the only one! 🕳🐇 It didn’t really click for me until I tried on the representative category clothes and took pictures of myself. I might show in a video. For me, I realized that I already naturally gravitated toward my (self-assigned) category, but it helped me learn how to shop for clothes on-line or from a catalog. I’m going to think about how to make a watchable/helpful video. 💗

[@lindaguerra638]

Love it! Thank you, so much!

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Thank you, Linda 🥰😘🥰😘

[@adderlypetit4143]

Beautiful Beth

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Thank you, Adderly 💗

[@M.A.D494]

Thank you so much, how can I remove the yellowing from my bangs? I only use heat on my bangs, heat and products. I use heat protection and yet, still have a lot of yellow. And for the future how to prevent it from happening ? My hair needs to use hairdryer to style the front bangs and sides , I wash my hair every other day or every 3 days. Products stay in my hair when I use the dryer. Help me to follow the right routine. Thank you so much 😊

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Hi there! 💖 Your question is a good one and I’ll try to help, but it might be good to ask your stylist, too. I would make sure your products are white, clear or lavender. Drop anything you’re using that might have warm colors. Also, it’s good to use both a clarifying shampoo and a purple shampoo.

[@M.A.D494]

@@InfinitegardenbyBethK hi, I do use clear products and blue shampoo. I use best quality brands from ULTA or Sally’s. But, even though I use clear product when I style my hair using hairdryer, heat cause this problem. . Heat protection .

[@jewbesixty3212]

I am interested in your styling content. My hair is very short still in the uncomfortable stage. And my style is at a stand still, lol!

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

I know exactly what you mean about the “uncomfortable stage”, Jewbe! I’m happy to make more styling content. 💗

[@robsbabiesmomma]

You put into words everything I have been experiencing since I quit chasing that white line. After 25 years of "Debi Dark Brown" it ditched the dyes and a huge weight is lifted off. It was so nice to throw out all those sticks and powders and sprays. I want to change my style too. Please post more about how you are going about changing and more detail about learning our body types

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Hi, Debi! Thank you so much for your fabulous comment. I’m happy to post more fashion content-I just love it.

[@PerseveranceMama]

So helpful! Thank you!💜💖~Julia

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Thanks for being here, Julia! 🥰😘

[@melinakoufalis281]

A hairdresser told me my face is too young to go grey.. which is interesting as i have noticed since my grey hair change i have been confusing people and finding people dont relate to me the same way as i am used to. Its like they decide i am old because of my grey. And its not cheering me up.. i end up feeling low after the encounter.. i guess it's the journey. I had a silver peep out from my root and 4 younger people noticed it in one day.. very strange the impact it has bugs me.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Well, it’s can be so uncomfortable to receive comments if you’re not sure you are happy with what you see. I have found that people I’ve known for a long time do perceive me as older than they used to (like much older) and I’m okay with that, but it can feel weird.

[@melinakoufalis281]

@@InfinitegardenbyBethK but you look young.. you look at least your age which you said was 42.. yes but people think i am 60.. and i used to pass for 40.. infact i get people in their 20s getting confused lol. I have a baby face and a young voice.. i am young at heart as are you

[@spirituallysafe]

Do you really want to interact with shallow people anyway?

[@sharonsvendsen6959]

Do you clip scarves down when you wear them in your hair? I find that silk scarves slip off so quickly it's not a workable solution for me. My hair was not something that I ever really was complimented on until after I was fully done with my gray hair transition. I have received more compliments from men and women of all ages about my hair than I have about any other aspect of my body/hair over the entire preceding 50+ years. Yes, I am interested in Kibbe related content. Thanks.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

It’s amazing to hear that you’re receiving such positive feedback! It has really surprised me, personally. Sometimes I do use a Bobby pin to secure my scarves. I’ve experienced slippage, too. Some of my scarves are grippier (the inexpensive, bright & long one, for instance).

[@sharonsvendsen6959]

@@InfinitegardenbyBethK I am going to give the scarf trick a try again. It looked so good on you!

[@tayd.7373]

Freeing is the exact word to use.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

I can’t believe how much dying my hair used to run my whole schedule!

[@chantalbanon9518]

Oh sista, I love the messy look, especially when I dry naturally because mine curls also.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

I need to get on your level, Chantal 😍😍

[@chantalbanon9518]

@@InfinitegardenbyBethK you will once you hit 60. 😉

[@adelaalbarillo1916]

Hi, I need a recommendation for a hair mask. I did my gray transitioning for almost 2 years now. Few days ago I’ve notice that my scalp is dry and I’m shedding. It is also itchy. I do hate I! I’ve been using olaplex purple shampoo and I do live In conditioner. Hope you can help me. Thanks

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Hello, Adela! I’m not a dermatologist or a hair dresser, but if I were you I’d switch to a super gentle, nourishing shampoo and conditioned asap. I’m a devotee of Aveda’s Cherry Almond, but all I can say is that works really well for me. I have loved Sisley’s Clay Mask but it is quite costly. I find it is both purifying and nourishing-it doesn’t dry me out. I might also try reducing the frequency of your shampooing. Do you wash every day?

[@treelore5100]

how do you stop the scarf from moving?

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Great question. I find heavier silk will resist against my coarse hair, but if you have silky hair, you might need a Bobby pin.

[@treelore5100]

@@InfinitegardenbyBethK no silky sadly ! your hair is stunning. I grew mine out but most of the gray is on the very top section. Wish it was that all over gray! mine got more course and straight only in the gray hair. It's a bit odd overall.

[@lmv2003]

Do hair oils stain gray hair or make it yellow?

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Yes, they can. I’ve been focused on trying to find clear oils.

[@lmv2003]

@@InfinitegardenbyBethK Me too…there’s always good old coconut oil but sometimes I want to try some of the formulas out there and am scared. Thanks for the recommendation on the Lush product. I love their stuff.

[@jujubunnybea]

Moroccanoil brand now makes a purple hair oil 😁 Just an F.Y.I. ~ coconut oil is not good in everyone’s hair… it can make it dry and stiff, just to let you know 😉

[@michaelromero3985]

Hair Straighteners I find with my 100% white must NEVER use…hair goes yellow. You can only use a white dress or blouse once then it needs to be washed, the same when your hair is white you need to wash your hair daily. Charo

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Interesting. My texture makes it challenging to wash daily but I can see your point.

[@antonioaparecidoreis4070]

Linda

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Gracias!

[@missmo3451]

The only reason I would dye my hair is the increase in crime directed at the elderly, or whoever appears older even if not all that old.

[@InfinitegardenbyBethK]

Miss Mo, you bring up a very serious and good point.

[@LiliVanilli248]

Is this a thing? 🙊 Wow - I'm over 2 years in and had no idea!