Grief Symptoms

Before you listen.. know that this was my first ever posting and I somehow managed to have the background music TOO LOUD!! Beginners error!! I have made sure it is closed captioned so consider turning the volume off and reading the captions.....My apologies... Such a learning curve this technology!! You can find the repost without the music here...
• Understanding the Symp...
Let's review the physical symptoms of Grief by understanding how our grieving brain works . How do Grief symptoms challenge the emotional work of Grief. Suggested tools to combat these physical symptoms of Grief.
#jomcrogers #griefsupportthatworks #grief #grievolution #griefsymptoms #understandinggrief

[@grieftherapist]

If you want to learn about joining my private online membership called The Grievolution Collective you can find information here. www.jomcrogers.com/grievolution-collective.html

[@Lizzy_333]

@@julesfarrell5724 your beloved son did not die because of you, please know that and seek help with a grief. Counselor please. I wish you the very best (I know it’s beyond painful) right now but I promise one day, you WILL be feel better and hopefully be able to tell your story to another early grieving mother. May god have his mercy on you sis 💕

[@DyanneGavin]

Thank you, I would love to join Jo's group but I cannot afford it, are there scholarships available?

[@richmilito5417]

Music in background is annoying, distracting and unnecessary.

[@judithkarpinsky8932]

Thank you.

[@fatimacorreia3221]

@@richmilito5417 sorry new at this, didn’t realize that the music was coming through.

[@kennethteo7974]

I am in another world. I cannot relate to my normal friends and they cannot understand me including family members. I only talk to those who lost someone they loved deeply. My threshold of pain has lowered. I cannot tolerate negative news, negative talks etc, I keep a distance. In short, loneliness.

[@sunshine-bs2jx]

I understand this

[@mattparr3038]

I hear ya mate.

[@melissatraficante503]

I feel this to the core rip my sweet mommy 😢😢😢

[@daisymay50kaufmann39]

I'm here for you, I literally just lost my mom and brother within 2 months. Why did they leave me here by myself

[@eric6242]

I’m feeling exactly the same

[@craigsirianni7272]

Oh my God! When you quoted the C.S. Lewis comment about how “no one ever told him how much grief feels like fear, I finally realized I wasn’t losing my mind. Thank you!

[@ry491]

I lost my wonderful wife 18 months ago after 56 years of love and devotion . I am no better now than on day one . I cannot accept she will never come back . I still have all her things just where she left them . I cry by the hour and don't want to see people . I am lonely beyond words and see no future without her . When I see people I try to be my old self because that is what is expected of me . However its just an act . I am broken in mind and spirit . I am no longer the same person . I often feel there is no point in carrying on . All I have are memories of the past and all they do is hurt me even more . I send love to anyone who reads this and I hope your personal pain eases .

[@adelaideoliveira8663]

❤

[@bevfaria3300]

I Grieve your loss sincerely .. I TOO have recently lost my husband after 50 years .. I liken my grief the same as yours .. sadly so .. the hurt .. longing .. are unbearable feelings .. the paralysis persists .. God bless us all at this terrible time of loss .. grief and mourning .. x

[@BUBBLESPOGO]

😢I'm so very sorry. I just lost my previous husband. Please continue to try

[@dianayano4828]

My Gregory died on July 18th of this year. I did not expect him to die, neither did he. We shared over 30 years together. I truly knew love because of him, never judgment, always love. I miss him beyond any sorrow I have ever known. I am afraid of everything now, and question everything I do. He made me always fear safe; I could always go to him. I love him so, and will always.

[@tarawehry7105]

Wish I had your channel 7.5 years ago when my husband passed

[@elaineking7]

Every word you have spoken describes where I am. My brain ruminates every minute of the day of my loss and I feel I'm in an eternal hell.

[@elineslone2443]

Omg this is exactly how i feel! I wish i could leave my body. I am literally staying strong just for my mum

[@cathsrq]

I find Joe Dispenza's work very helpful

[@friedaticer3156]

I lost my husband of 59 years in May and Iam totally frozen with fear of anything to do with paying bills,driving,and I don’t want any communication with people,except my sister.

[@marianhofmann6380]

I have no interest in anything. No joy in anything I have to get things done. Get my taxes done. Get my car inspected. I can’t do it. I feed my dogs. But that is an effort. I have no interest in food. I find it hard to watch TV. especially shows we would watch . Rob died Feb 22 so it’s a little over a month.

[@afraislam9147]

Hey, you're not alone in this.

[@Grungefan2018]

Oh you are not alone. Not at all. I know it feels like you're alone. I'm so glad you spoke up cause I feel very alone.

[@hestervanstaden6205]

Feeling the same. Lostmy Husvand 30 Dec21 due to covid. Find it very hard to except the way he suffered his last 2 weeks on the ventilator.

[@kelleymcfadden9675]

You are definitely not alone. Jesus loves you more than you can ever want to be loved and he knows exactly what you are going through. Let Him be your comfort through the scriptures. Please allow me to share my best friend's story. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5nSk5aHj5uEmJo

[@kelleymcfadden9675]

@@Grungefan2018 you are not alone. Jesus loves you more than you could ever want to be loved and He is waiting with open arms to help you and comfort you if you will turn to Him. Please allow me to share my best friend's story. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5nSk5aHj5uEmJo

[@marija2387]

I used to be an organised, orderly person. I'm simply not functioning as an adult anymore and am more like a demented old lady. I no longer have a daily routine, cook healthy meals, excercise, take care of myself. I find it difficult to validate reasons to live.

[@martinadanielova4867]

First four months after my dad passed away suddenly I felt like I was dying myself. I had high blood pressure, panic attacks, couldn’t breath, woke up in sweat every night to the point Iwas afraid to go sleep..so I had insomnia and my brain just stopped functioning. …I never thought I would be able to start sleep or working again. When I realised how much love my father had for me I started to feel that love all around me. It filled my presence and my healing started. Knowing my father isn’t looking for me because he is elsewhere but feeling him and his love allowed me to finally sleep..Accepting my physical symptoms and not fighting them made them to become less intense. I realised I started to avoid people. Not because I didn’t need them. But because I was afraid to be close to them and loose them. Losing a loved one is as traumatic as death itself. Living with the fear and grief is even worse. I am not over it yet and I still struggle to look forward to the future. Or be excited of any of it when it feels so uncertain and it’s as if the clocks are ticking. There is no happily ever after after finding out how life can hurt us the most. But the love we felt and feel is worth it. I know I loved because it hurts so much.

[@justine1271]

My daughter 30 (who had 4 children) and her friend 27 (who had 2 children) both girls were violently murdered in 2020. Me and my husband are now raising my daughters four children. I am trying so hard to remain strong for her children but sometimes it’s so hard.

[@lv5980]

my deepest sympathy- thank God those girls have you and your husband to care for them

[@fosagenespringer7757]

I’m so sorry for your tragic loss. Life is hard. God bless you and your husband for taking care of those two girls. Sending hugs and prayers for all of you.❤️🙏❤️

[@sharnelgezwint3990]

I still have to process the passing of my mother... November 1st it's 1 year since she's gone. I haven't dealt with it... I miss my mother.

[@jackieshearer1339]

I lost my husband 01/12/2021 to covid after 40 years … I’m now having a lot of muscle pain all over and so tired and even after having 2 new grand babies I just want to be on my own but I do love them all

[@louised9396]

I have lost my husband 4 months ago. It has taken me about 2 months to be able to cry. I was afraid of the sadness overwhelming me, but now I realise that crying is also a releasing of pain after which I feel somewhat more relaxed. But now I am feeling more and more depressed, not enjoying anything I liked doing before. Interesting that you mention fear as well, I am feeling the fear of loosing my sanity and also the fear of staying numb for the rest of my life. Knowing this belongs to a certain phase of mourning is comforting.

[@sunriseschubert4391]

My beloved mother died unexpectedly on October 6 2022 and I'm heartbroken 💔😭. I'm single and she lived with me my entire life. She was my mother, companion, best friend, everything. 😢. I'm praying to God for strength, healing, and resignation soon 🙏🏻✝️🕊️

[@melaniemcgee6272]

My mother passed on October 9th and I am still in shock. We were best friends and I don’t know what to do or how to move. I am still stuck

[@sunriseschubert4391]

@@melaniemcgee6272 What's helping me is prayer and the support of my brothers & sisters & friends. I know I'll carry this wound for the rest of my life, but I put my sorrows on Jesus Christ and our mother virgin Mary. 🙏🏻✝️

[@shauwiishiwhite521]

🙏🙏🙏

[@jleach3413]

Talk to her, she's living on through you. You get to speak life into her by sharing her character through you. I see parts of my dad that I mimic and that makes me feel closer to him. I'm always sharing how he's impacted my life and you can do that for your mom. Xoxo 💜

[@Dogandcatmom51]

I like the term, “grief hostess.” I told my daughter the other day that I don’t feel like telling people that my father died because it’s a lot of work for me to have to deal with everyone trying to make me feel better. I would rather not have to deal with it.

[@jasminsantiago1390]

Losing my oldest son it's been hard so hard going thru my emotions 💔waking up different and I miss him so much I Need to breathe at times

[@laurahigginsart]

I also loved what you said about how we turn inwards to protect ourselves from fear responses, and that affects our ability to make decisions, to enjoy things we used to, and to be curious about the world. That's SO good to know.

[@marceapardus6526]

I am so comforted by Jo’s Grief Support videos…Laura, your comment resonates with me ✨🦋✨

[@doresgonzalez1251]

I just keep misplacing things. Started to feel like I was going insane. your video really put things in perspective. Thank u so much

[@Indiah-fb2eq]

Pls help me I feel like I'm am going crazy 😢pls 🙏 😭 😔 😫 😢

[@lindajohnson9282]

I was already suffering work-related PTSD when both of my parents died in the same year. I was there when they both passed; Mum was in a nursing home so I was manually monitoring her heart rate and breathing, and was the one who called time of death. That was in 2008, and I’d already been living in a state of fear for the eight years prior. Have had so many problems with sleep (used to be able to sleep a lot, mainly due to the ridiculous medication they had me on… which ended up causing metabolic syndrome… great for someone with diabetes and heart disease strolling casually through their families). GI problems are par for the course; it’s an auto-immune thing, so I believe. Probiotics have been of immense help to manage the gastritis without the use of proton pump inhibitors. But I still have intestinal issues, which exploratory procedures have shown nothing unusual. It’s a psycho-somatic thing. Then there are all the other bizarre, one-off things, the two most notable are having throat problems, having an ultrasound and unsuccessful fine needle biopsy. Nodules in one side of my thyroid and microcalcifications in both. Wouldn’t have the biopsy done again, but went back for an ultrasound two weeks later and everything was normal. And my prolactin levels going through the roof, well past menopause, with no brain tumour in sight, and then bloods returning to normal after the scans. My personal take on this is that I’ve been locked in ever-increasing loads of grief, either primary or subsequent, and no-one can/will share my grief in order to diminish it. It makes me feel even worse because people get sick of me being depressed/sad/anxious etc. but they’re really part of the problem. Grieving people need to be with people who feel the same way they do, but preferably from within their own personal circle of loved-ones. And I also believe that grief is love with no-where to go. So I send you all much love and healing 🙏🏼❤️

[@robertoastorga1023]

The most challenging symptom at this point is the physical and mental response. I feel heavy and depressed.

[@virginiag5580]

My brain is in denial. Keep thinking my husband will come through the front door any minute. He suddenly passed 20 days ago from a Pulmonary Embolism, he was a healthy 42 year old man, we were together for 15 years. I cannot comprehend he’s gone. I’m heartbroken 😢

[@fosagenespringer7757]

I’m so sorry. Your husband was way too young, and I’m sure you were shocked by his sudden death. I know how exhausting and relentless grief can be. Hugs and prayers🙏❤️🙏

[@virginiag5580]

@@fosagenespringer7757 thank you. I’m still in very much disbelief, I cannot understand it. 😢

[@BUBBLESPOGO]

Awww. I'm crying for you. I'm so sorry for your heartbreaking situation 😢

[@virginiag5580]

@@BUBBLESPOGO thank you. It is very sad and for me as time passes it seems to become more real so it hurts more. Blessings 🙏

[@fromofftoonsasha1113]

lack of interest, numb, freeze, a lot of sleep, lost appetite/increases appetite

[@mapulemokgophi9980]

I went to a pastor to help ease my grief but the things he said was a pain in my eyes. I realised that I was seeking comfort in the wrong place. God is the healer of my grief.

[@happygirl532]

Thank you so much, my son was murdered on 4/23/ 2021, you have explained a lot, I’ve been tired, scattered, and fearful, and yes I need to take time for myself, I’ve tried to be available at all times for my daughters, but now I need to be here for me

[@kendratate4483]

My son was murdered 6-28-2021. My heart is shattered. Sending healing energy and prayers to you🙏🏾😔

[@grieftherapist]

Yours is such a recent and tragic loss....Sending hope for you to find some ease in your Grief Symptoms. 💟

[@grieftherapist]

Kendra, yours is also such a recent and tragic loss...Sending healing energy to hold your heart. ❤️

[@celiafodero7350]

Chronic pain, fatigue... grief HURTS

[@skyecutler8321]

The rumination and guilt. We had to euthanize our cat Stardust on 3/12/23. She had advanced axial osteosarcoma, in her neck and skull by the ear. It took over in only 2 months. We did at home euthanasia. I keep thinking I did not have a proper goodbye the day of, it all happened so fast. I regret not petting her at every single moment in her final days. And these thoughts just keep cycling. I already have issues with my prefrontal lobe with ADHD and the executive function has been impossible.

[@susankotchea3046]

Dad went missing 12 yr ago. He was 92 yo. How can he just go missing? He could barely walk alone. 2 weeks later we (not the police) found evidence he may have been harmed badly and died and buried somewhere. I feel angry at times the police did not take us serious. I'm suspicious of family members that were there at that time. I have anxiety and panic attacks, heart palpatatings. I miss my dad dearly. And often wonder what happen to him. Please pray for us. 😢😔🙏🕯

[@moirahill6397]

That is so awful on so many levels. My heart goes out to you and I pray you will find peace ❤

[@Birdwatcher67]

Thank you for your video. I’m grieving for my little 2 year old grandson who was lost to us suddenly when a tree bough fell on him. I babysat often, so I miss him greatly, but most of all, I don’t know how to help my daughter and son-in-law. It is so hard.

[@whitneysmith6752]

That loss is so brutal. I am so sorry. Accidental death of a child. I think that is the most challenging of all to process. I am so sorry for the loss to your family of a dear child ❤️

[@moirahill6397]

I'm so sorry for your loss of your precious grandchild. My heart goes out to you. ❤

[@daniellechekel8866]

Eating and sleeping has been hard. I forget that breakups result in loss and therefore grief too.. but I lost my granmda a few years ago. I feel like I will always be grieving her. Losing her felt like a nightmare come to life. I remember thinking when I heard the news..."this can't be happening...."

[@ruthsears7783]

Fear and indesiveness esp on wake. No appetite. I want to sleep but I can’t.

[@aaronhorvath3291]

Everything you talked about in the video is exactly what I'm going through. It is so tough. Prayers are the only thing for me that helps

[@lindsayziehl8937]

not wanting to do anything.....or mixing with people,,,,going out,

[@katescott5]

Thank you for this video. It has made me feel I am not going crazy. My grief is like a rollercoaster. I have really good days and really bad ones where my grief is overwhelming. Remembering to drink, eat I seem to now have under control, but sleeping and nighttime are the worst.

[@tammymullins1151]

I lost my husband a year and a half ago. 41 years together. I have experienced many physical symptoms. I was never sick but the first several months I was sick a lot. Insomnia is still a problem. I lost weight. Finding purpose has been important to me, but difficult. The loss of people I thought would be there for me but who haven’t. Trying to find out who I am now without the person who loved me the most in the world. Having to make decisions without him is also something I’m struggling with now.

[@mariatoth4673]

I so understand. My husband & I were together 40 yrs. He died in aug 2022. It’s a difficult scary awful feeling. I’m over the shock of losing the love of my life. I am grieving him all the time. I’m not sleeping, insomnia if you will. Although I have a great support system, I still want to lock myself in the house & be alone. Some days I think I’ve made it back to me. Most days I’m still lost. I try my best to go out everyday even if it’s for an hour. I have accepted the fact that the grief of losing him will always be with me. I keep waiting for the day it starts to become tolerable. I pray for all that are grieving.. May God Bless them. Always keep Jesus in your heart, knowing that He is healing us everyday, even though we can’t feel that healing. Many prayers to all throughout this difficult journey. 🙏🏻🙏🏻💔💔

[@tammymullins1151]

@@mariatoth4673 thank you. Yes without Jesus I don’t know what I would do. He is healing me slowly but surely. Sorry you are walking this path too. God bless you.

[@annekebrinkhof991]

I so understand what you mean It could be my story Wish you strenght and peace of mind

[@mariatoth4673]

@@annekebrinkhof991 Thank you 🙏🏻💔

[@mysterydiaz5302]

Inward focus! grief made my body and mind turn on me. I’ve been incredibly physically I’ll. Taking pharmaceutical drugs for fibromyalgia. All this indpite of more than 25 years of consistent and excellent diet and exercise. I was short of breath couldn’t and still can’t sleep came down with Fibromyalgia You just described all I have been through and am still experiencing. I need a Trauma Specialist and can’t find a real one. I need to tell the story I have experienced.

[@daleschmelke7545]

i lost my son to suicide 7 months ago. Not handling it well lost 30 pounds , DONT want to get out of bed .THANKS

[@jenniferflores3360]

Dale Schmelke im so sorry. I lost my son feb.2nd. Overdose. He did attempt suicide in the past though. My god, this is just unbearable.

[@truthseeker3773]

Husband of 32 years died over a year ago. I still find motivation/ passion difficult. Still hard to feed myself. Still spend way too much time in bed. I'm nearly 60. People say I'm young and have much to look forward too. Would another companion/partner bring me joy again? Dunno, I think the work is to be done inside myself. I can speak gratitude, but the world is still grey. As someone with an artists heart, I find it difficult to look at this 'grey' world. The tiniest of things remind me of our future plans together. Yet life had other plans for me. I'm just broken, sad, mad, and tired. Send prayers of encouragement and faith in the future. Bless all of you who are grieving.

[@shauwiishiwhite521]

prayers for your strength during this loss. I pray you start to see colors in the world again and that your artist heart will create beauty.

[@przzuscomoditty]

So true. So true. I feel this. I cannot offer any words of consolation. I worry about losing my husband, after losing my mom a short while ago. But stop those thoughts quickly bc it only causes more unnecessary pain. I will send you my prayers.

[@Mranstedsf]

I know exactly what your going through.My husband left last Feb I call him my space cadet. I visualize him exploring the universe.I talk to him in my prayers. Hope he's having fun as he waits for me. I believe we'll meet again. I'd go nuts if I didn't hang on to that I often see him in my dreams I have a hard time looking at places we planned to travel to They say God.has a plan I keep.asking to be shown what that plan.is Why was.I left behind alone We did so much together Queen Elizabeth said with love comes pain. .All the best.to.you ...Nati A

[@debrabatson6678]

Thankfully, I just found your channel. I am in deep grief and do not know what to do. Always a go-getter, this is horrible to feel.

[@oliviamarie4590]

For me, I’ve been experiencing all of these. September 24th I lost my sister to Covid. It was sudden and unexpected and by far the hardest thing I’ve ever experienced. I found myself wanting to do things but lacked the follow through.. like my mind and body are not aligned. I shut off the entire world. I’m normally a social person so it took me by surprise to see just how much I rather shut everything out. I love how you mentioned getting back into your body because that’s what it feels like. I’m trying so hard to do that and get back to life. I am scared and without realizing I’m scared. Everything I knew I feel I’ve forgotten. I just miss my sister. The expectations part was the best part for me to hear. Thank you!

[@reverenddeborahedwardsdth5460]

My sweet baby girl, I know losing your sister has been the hardest thing you have been through. Janelle would want you to go on. No matter how much pain we are in I am always here for you also. She isn’t suffering anymore she is with her brothers and the rest of the family that has gone before us. Thank you sweetheart for showing me this video I have subscribed to it. Janelle may not be here physically but she is always with you hold on to the beautiful memories of an amazing sister that loved you so very much. This video has been very helpful, it doesn’t make the pain go away as we both know. The 1 thing I know is I am here for you always. I love you sweetheart.

[@jacquelinebrutus8297]

I lost my mom a month ago, she had breast cancer. I was her caregiver for 4 years, saw her deteriorating. I feel lost, depressed, loss of concentration, sad. Im crying all the time. I miss her so much. We were very close. Im trying to deal with grief on my own. Thanks to this video I’m learning that I’m not the only one who feels the way I feel. 🙏

[@dawnholoboff3578]

I am sorry you lost your mom. 💔my mom and I were very close too. I lost her 3 months ago. I am feeling heartache, sadness and loneliness. It’s unbelievable

[@jacquelinebrutus8297]

@@dawnholoboff3578 sending healing prayers 🙏

[@jacquelinebrutus8297]

@@dawnholoboff3578 I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you healing prayers 🙏

[@lavonnhunter402]

Feeling lonely and lost.from the lost of my son.

[@robertabuddin2407]

The pain is uncontrollable we were married 53 and a half years.

[@lisabennett1253]

I am so sorry Roberta. I wish I could fix it for you. Thinking of you!

[@richardmcguinn732]

😒☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will want to see us happy wherever they’re. I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown in a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.

[@donwalls8192]

My most difficult grief symptom is anxiety. It comes and goes since the end March when my partner died. It greatly affects my decision making. My sleep time has changed. I waking up at 6-7 am. I’ve always been a late sleeper waking up at 9am. Lastly, I have no appetite. I’ve lost 20 or so pounds. I was 210 and I’m down to 190.

[@ayuksylvia2296]

This is so me. I lost my twin sister less than 2 months ago. I can not even begin to describe the way I feel 😢

[@ButterflyMcCoy]

I have experienced eight deaths in 18 months, from my father and grandmother to my best friend/mentor, meditation teacher, a musician friend and a beloved dog, who was hit by a car and died bleeding in my arms. I am shellshocked to the point where it never occurred to me as I take care of all the memorials, that I might be having effects. I’ve never been guided on the subject of grief at all. It’s a relief to learn that my complete lack of interest in my creative work could be related. A real relief because it’s extremely unlike me. Usually I am incredibly inspired and motivated, but right now I feel like I’m just trying to find my way out of a tailspin that I didn’t know I was in till I saw this. So thank you. I subscribed . 💖

[@maswartz8689]

I feel you. Sounds like my story, mostly my dead puppy in June about killed me after losing everyone else. Peace be with us. Thank you. Subscribed.

[@angieprior7315]

This is amazing! I am just 6 years out and am still.. STILL. right in the deep of it.

[@ReneeTourville]

It's been 5.5 yrs...everything i used to enjoy...all is not...I have isolated all this time...perception of life so much changed...beat myself up...

[@moirahill6397]

Same ❤ I hear you 😢

[@brookecarlock]

I have experienced almost all of these, and still am. Love to all those struggling. ❤️

[@1jandavis]

The background music was jarring to my already torn nerves.

[@T.Pink.]

I don’t know why many KZbinrs use background music for these type of videos. My brain fogged mind struggles to focus on what she’s saying with the competing noise/music.

[@Steffi.EchoGraphix]

I have been overcome by extreme fatigue and hopelessness. I never had the ability to grieve because I felt that I needed to be everyone else's support through their grieving process. Then my husband suffered 2 strokes just a month from losing my mom and I needed to be there for him. After that, I was needed to support my children the next year through losing their father; and then in helping them get their children to school age. Now all that is done and I'm it's coming up on 13 years and I'm suffering physically because I've been stuck in a depression I can't escape for more than a few weeks or days at a time; and this latest bout feels like I may never find my way out.

[@IILuckySe7eNII]

You can get out of it. Please seek help. Sometimes the most unselfish people struggle the most. You owe it to yourself to to heal.

[@carmenmyer8985]

You will find your way out! You are strong for everybody else and that exhausted you so get plenty of rest and start doing something kind for yourself everyday whether it's a walk a drive a meal out calling a friend lighting a candle and just taking a nap! I know this to be true you sound like me ♥️

[@joelburdsall9308]

My wife of 35 years passed away in March 2022. We did everything together including raising a child into a great man and running a business together for 15 years. I was my wife's 24/7 caregiver for the last 3 years. I feel the loss, yes, but the heavy feeling in my chest is really something that is new to me. I now know what heartbreak feels like. So meditation and deep breathing are helping for a while but I still have the underlying feeling of loneliness and loss.

[@lisabennett1253]

I am so sorry your wife passed away Joel. It is so painful and I hate for anyone to feel what we feel. Thinking of you and so sorry you are hurting.

[@soime5849]

I am sorry for your loss, Joel. I hope you find peace and healing 💕

[@soriavanwyngaardt16]

On the 25th May, my son (22) passed away 4 years ago. 4 Years later and I definitely still feel I have the inward experience. The lack of interest and excitement of the future. It’s like I sometimes feel numb. Certain areas have only started to thaw and it feels like life is slowly coming back bit by bit. I still have 2 stunning daughters and 2 grand babies. But there is always happy moments with shadows of sadness that my son is not physically part of our new memories and present.

[@fosagenespringer7757]

Now know why I freeze and eventually throw out food give. To me.I also don’t always want to socialize. I get the feeling most people don’t get what I’m going through.

[@johannadavis7594]

My husband unexpectedly passed ten weeks ago. Im.guessing I was initially in shock as before the funeral I was functioning. I was crying and devastated but I was doing what needed to be done. A few days after the funeral it all came to a screeching halt and ive mainly been in my bedroom since. At first I kept waiting for that day when I'd feel better. I realize now that's not happening. I'm trying really hard to get it together but I just don't know how. I don't know how to fix this. I was prescribed some medications Some didn't help and others made me feel worse so the medication route isn't for me This isn't me. We've have traumatic incidence happen in the past and I've always been able to stay calm and do what needed to be done. So this is foreign to me and I have absolutely no clue how to get out of this cycle If I had all the money in the world I'd gladly give it all away to feel better. To be able to get some sense of normalcy back.

[@busmom6543]

I lost my husband too. January 10.

[@richardmcguinn732]

@@busmom6543 😒☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will want to see us happy wherever they’re. I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown in a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.

[@tammygonzalez4144]

Want to hide from people

[@thankyou62]

I want people to be compassionate and understanding and stay away from me all at the same time.

[@sharonlujan9497]

The loneliness is crushing.

[@AnnapolisGirly]

I lost my son. I love what you are doing but the music distracted. Probably because we can’t handle too much at one time.

[@ceeleemetcalf2780]

Since I lost my daughter I want nothing to do with anything in the world and its been along time. I know there is no time limit all I want todo is be alone.

[@heidevanness2788]

Me too...

[@moirahill6397]

Same. My son died ❤

[@Roselady8361]

Thank you, so helpful. I just lost my husband of 61 years. The grief has been overwhelming and devastating, I can’t eat, sleep,or think straight. Haven’t been able to concentrate on anything. It was a wonderful long marriage, his death was unexpected and a shock.

[@richardmcguinn732]

Oh I’m really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will want to see us happy wherever they’re. I lost my oldest daughter Annabel on February 24th 2020 during the lockdown in a car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unluckily for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 God and time are indeed the best healers.

[@debbiehaferkorn6259]

Lost 4 family members in 2020. I cry at least 5 times a day. Crying so deep my heart feels real pain. So sad and alone. Does anyone cry and hurt so deep, after 2 years? I have times that it is hard to find a reason to continue.

[@danielstocks6943]

It's been 2 years and I feel it still. Especially the fear

[@judygrubaugh5424]

I lost 4 as well in 2020 and 2021. I cry every day. Not a crier by nature it took some getting used to, but I find I need these tears

[@happydays3678]

You're traumatised as well as grieving after such a devastating loss. Please, if you haven’t already, seek help from others. Speak to your Doctor about your desolate thoughts. Blessings 🙏❤

[@annlazzeri618]

My husband of 35 years passed away last month and I didn't realize how much fear is playing a part in my grief....

[@jamiewilliams8107]

My fiancee died a few days ago and I was with her when she passed,if it wasn't for the support from locals and our cat don't think I'd cope,pets are a great distraction for grief.

[@bonniebikowski7478]

Dear beautiful souls. I just lost my little baby boy Saturday 3-26-22. I am in unbearable heartache pain to the core of my soul!💔😢😭 please pray🙏 sending love and light from my heart to yours❤🙌🌈💜

[@bhupinderbrar5567]

May God bless u

[@nakeacallender8267]

I lost my son too Almost a year ago. I'm praying for us. I love you

[@insideoutbeauty3170]

i cannot imagine your loss, my heart is with you, sending you love and light.

[@j.aolani]

🙏🏽 Praying the Lords comfort and strength over you. In Jesus mighty name♥️💔♥️

[@kelleymcfadden9675]

So sorry for your loss! God bless you. I know grieving over the loss of a loved one can often seem unbearable to the point where you don't even know how to function at times. I'd like to share my best friend's story with you because she offers such wonderful hope. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5nSk5aHj5uEmJo

[@CK-wc8ow]

This one just got me. I find my friends mean well and seem to want to fix me and really end up saying those things which just makes me want to retreat

[@williamclymer1602]

Lost. My wife of 53 years February 12th 2022, have 100% PTSD from Vietnam. Every day seems like never ending despair.

[@moirahill6397]

It sounds like you're having a very difficult time. I'm so sorry 😞 Sending hugs, praying for peace to come into your heart and soul and thanking you for your service because it's people like you who have kept us all safe. God bless ❤

[@luwaneharris3322]

I lost my eldest sister 3 months ago. I couldn't stop eating sweets and I just wanted to sleep. I think I've turned the corner. I now don't want to eat but at least felt like getting out today with my daughter. She knows how my depression is and helps me.

[@MsChimerical]

Yes, grief causes us to behave in many different ways. I never imagined that in response to my loss I would be frantically cleaning the house, often in the early morning hours. That phase lasted a few months and now I am mostly dealing with feeling alone and on my own. It's tough when the one person who truly understood you is gone. But anyways, this video was nicely done and very calming.

[@grieftherapist]

Thank you Ms. Chimerical! Early morning hours are a vulnerable time. I hope you find some ease in your grief. 💞

[@e.m.n6032]

I am grieving the loss of my husband. He passed away this January 2022. The physical I feel is pressure on my chest and hard to breathe. I don't like to leave home or do anything because it's not the same without him. We did everything together to the point I didn't have to ask he just knew. Crying just comes it hits and you can't stop. He was my world... What I lived for, my reason for living. I miss him so much especially in the evening when he should be walking thru my door. I still talk to him as if he was here... It gives me some comfort. Loneliness, emptiness and lost is what I'm dealing with more. I miss him so much.

[@gknowles5415]

I will pray for you and your peace of mind.. Take it one step at a time. I have been there.. Cry as much as you need. Find comfort with those that mean a lot to you. You're feeling this pain because this is REAL.. just always remember that ..

[@e.m.n6032]

@@gknowles5415 thank you so much. I appreciate it very much.

[@gknowles5415]

@@e.m.n6032 You're welcome. Its ok to cry, its ok to feel sad, its ok to miss them, its ok to feel lonely... This is ALL apart of the grieving process. Dont run away from it and dont get scared.. Embrace it, you will feel so much better

[@lindaosborne1617]

hallo EM I lost my husband last October. I feel for you. so true that grief is different from one person to another. I have felt many things. It is a challenge. safety and control is essential.

[@toniwaugh1823]

Hi E.M.N. My husband also passed away in January 2022. Just a week after we celebrated his 55th birthday. I could sense that my beloved husband wasn't himself since the Fall of 2021 after having a terrible fall outside of our home. We did everything together for 21 years. I miss him terribly as well. July 20th,2022 would have marked our 20th wedding anniversary. That day will definitely be a difficult one for me. I feel cheated but at the same time I'm comforted that his severe pain of osteoporosis and his congenital heart disease is now long gone. Take baby steps . One day, one minute of a time.

[@przzuscomoditty]

Overwhelming fatigue. Overwhelming brain fog, so I have no desire to make decisions (I am usually the one in our family making all plans and decisions). Appetite is lower. Sleep is totally disrupted. I am going on 5 months of death grieving, but 2.5yrs of illness grieving, prior to mom's death. My head hurts from the waterfall of emotion coursing thru it. I crave hugs, affection, conversation, company, someone else's smile to distract me.

[@lindycollins7225]

This video was so comforting for me. And valuable. Put my grief on pause just for a moment, in which case, I was able to take a breath. That one breath now and again is what one needs to keep going, otherwise we could easily drown in our sorrow. Literally. I thoroughly enjoyed watching this video as it gave me useful insight that I can use and practise on a daily basis. I encourage anyone who is grieving to enlighten themselves by watching and listening to this presentation.

[@Bluebalicious]

My. Life stopped. I wouldn’t drink, or eat my life became surreal and as if I was in a movie. I’ve become something I’m not. Grief has become a very serious, critical place for me. Grief is a killer.

[@debraweaver1130]

I have no interest in things that used to make me very happy and fulfilled.

[@normavelez9945]

I lost my dad a month ago… 😞.. Grief is so hard… loss of appetite… panic attacks.. anxiety… Everything you said I’m feeling.., I feel as if I’m sick… It’s something new everyday …. It’s so hard .. I don’t feel myself… I just want to feel normal again…. I miss my dad so much 😞… THE FEAR is real ..

[@insideoutbeauty3170]

my heart goes out to you, i loss my dad suddenly on the 14th of february. I also have anxiety at times, fear of loosing everyone i love. What helps me is to reach out , talk, and cry about it , stay connected with loved ones. I am sending you so much love. I also miss my dad immensely

[@freethinker2381]

Same here. I lost my dad 10 days ago. It hurts so much 😢😭. You are not alone. Stay strong 💙

[@normavelez9945]

@@insideoutbeauty3170 so sorry for your loss.. & Thank you for your words.. I’m doing much better now.. I’ve got a daily reading routine & praying & talking to God & walking daily.. Talking about it helps too.. crying if you need it .. ♥️🙏🏽

[@normavelez9945]

@@freethinker2381 so sorry for your loss.. It’s so hard.. Best thing to do is keep busy and get a daily routine going to keep our minds busy…

[@insideoutbeauty3170]

@@normavelez9945 xxx sending a big hug

[@raew5263]

My whole life got hijacked. All I do is cry 😢- the sorrow is heavy most days. Grief is a thief, imo. Time doesn’t heal really. The loss becomes more profound. We are changed forever. 🙏🏻 Blessings to all

[@Bluebalicious]

You are giving me hope and you are making sense to me. I did not have a good support system yet eventually that changed. I have been grieving since 2000, 23 years of pain, confusement, longing and exhaustion. Both my children, parents, a sister, my niece, close friends enough already. My oldest sister is in the process of passing right now. I can’t. I just can’t do this. I have never reached out to talk or be with others who have lost a loved one. I am beginning to feel I should have done this long ago.

[@idahospudgirlidahospudgirl4998]

My numbness wasn’t strength as some people around me thought , daughter lost 1/17/23

[@mylissialawrence2464]

I'm so sorry I know exactly how you feel I loss my daughter at 29 two weeks Kay's 30th birthday in 2020 November 30 I will keep praying for the both of us my friend 😊❤Stay strong 💕

[@cecpartygurl]

I lost my blind brother. In August of 2022. He was my everything, 54 years together. I took care of him. Now I feel dead inside. I don't know what to do with my life. I just can't find anything that pleases me. I just want to be with him.

[@cassandraheard7811]

❤

[@BernadetteOntong]

Hugs💞🌹

[@moirahill6397]

My heart is with you. Sending hugs 🫂

[@jillmontgomery4856]

I think I have all of the symptoms of grief. Frozen, totally withdrawn, sitting in my room..I had been married for 50 yrs. I see no future.

[@moonglow7303]

I sit outside in my car with the heater on in freezing rain 🌧 during the day, and sunset in the eves. I write notes to myself to drink water and eat something, anything.

[@moonglow7303]

I never married. Currently feel withdrawn as well and isolate myself.

[@joanneconte1942]

I couldn’t watch TV alone. It was something my spouse really liked. I’m thought it was my poor attention span, but I think it just doesn’t seem “normal.”

[@chrisjuarezjr958]

I am going in circles throughout the day. In the morning I am in the depression stage with very bad body aches. My mothers passing hurts very bad. It’s been only three weeks.

[@grieftherapist]

Grief wears many masks.... including aches and pains...Your loss is still so recent. 🙏🏻

[@nicolecupples5644]

My mother died of cancer 3 yrs ago..the first year was sombre and I ached for her to come back and she was my number one emotional support. I wish I could call her in heaven. Take care and stay strong. Don't allow yourself to be dragged down for too long because that's not a good thing either..xx

[@mjs499]

I feel disconnected to people places around me. Loose interests in things I enjoy. Feeling lonely. Sleep a lot.

[@kimlinford3484]

I can’t get my self to focus . It takes me a very long time to do anything. I’m late to everything. I don’t care.

[@thankyou62]

I can relate to that ❤ I was already like that because I have ADHD but now it’s like I have a double or triple dose of ADHD.

[@myheroesofamerica719]

I lost my Dad a week ago. I'm going to find a grief support group and one on one therapy. Your youtube is great. Thank you.

[@BugzBunnywazaHare]

My fellow people, im suffering massive emotional loss from losing My Baby Speckles - 12 yr old Chihuahua/Rat Terrier, who was my entire world, life, soulmate and the only part of my life that made me want to live! March 05, 2024 @ 12:20p was the day my life was turned inside out. I cried myself to sleep last night, after crying for more than 4 hrs. I screamed outloud to have my baby talk to me,to tell me what to do, now that she's gone. I kiss her urn every day almost every hour and i know im slipping away, struggling to tell myself, life can go on. Everyday is a bad day because I miss her so much and my heart can/will never heal from this massive trauma. I want to be with My Baby Speckles and now I know, we will be together forever!!!!!!!!!!!!😢😢😢😢😢😢 Speckles - March 04,2012- March 05,2024

[@lawrenceroberts6674]

Well this has been so useful, it really helped explain the mess I am in, I am very frightened, now my wife of 35 year has passed with cancer on the 17th of October after an awful 25 month battle. Lonely, not eating, not drinking, little hope, I am just 60 and I actually thought I was dying too. Thank you for such well presented advice, so concise, really made my think this evening, about trying to have a relationship with my grief.

[@longrifle.]

Different Circumstances, same grief. I thought the death of my father, my hero, was hard. But this is debilitating! As men we are taught if you do certain things in life it makes you less of a man. I am at the point i dont care what it takes, man or not. I have to do something. Its obvious i cant find my way through this on my own, i can barely care for myself or most times form a complete thought. This has convinced me its time for therapy, as hard as that is to admit to myself. In my grief research i came across the national widowers organization. Perhaps those that have been through what you have can offer some help. Good luck

[@janebryant9890]

I’ve got no patience what’s so ever, snapping at people, want to be alone all the time, can’t cope with loud voices & people that talk loads, temper is awful, can’t think straight, just really tired all the time and want to stay in bed, it’s been nearly 8 months.

[@alisoncarr3722]

It consumes my thoughts all the time. My mum collapsed and died suddenly and unexpectedly. She was 80, I don’t feel her age is relevant though. The loss is enormous. I’ve lost her and in a way, I’ve lost my Dad too as he is a broken man without her. They did absolutely everything together. I think about her all the time, I feel sad that she is missing out on life and I look to the sky and ask out loud where she is. The overwhelming loss and emotion is huge. It’s so final, nothing I can do to get her back and I miss her more than words can describe. I’ve lost interest in everything. I’m not living, I’m existing.

[@lv5980]

my sincere condolences - it is so hard - I hope you can find a support group to share with - I am going to one this week looking to share with others

[@terryhenson3350]

I loved my husband very much and miss him so much. He died a year ago. We were married 45 years. I go around sad a lot, but am functioning alright. I have resumed some of my interests, but not all of them. The thing that has caught me off guard the most is that I haven't cried as much as I thought I would. Certain music makes me cry, but I don't listen to it much to avoid crying. A group of friends contact me through texting and sending cards, but they all live out of state. My son has moved back home and he is a comfort to me and he helps me with things around the house. Our kids all took the loss of their dad pretty hard. Our son takes me to the cemetery whenever we want to go. Many friends just don't know what to say, so I think a lot of them don't call. I feel so lonely often times.

[@zhannaallen4391]

I experienced all physical symptoms. I lost my beloved husband almost 2 months ago. I liked everything that was said in this video. I also understand, how difficult it is to deal with a grieving person. It requires a special touch.

[@jamiegrove3849]

This video was very helpful, thank you! It really helped to understand more about why I've been feeling so much fear.

[@daphnemuga6588]

I pull away from church I can't share what I feel with the people I love I don't enjoy church or anything to do with God I feel nobody understands me I go through my grief alone because I feel nobody understands how I feel

[@ib4359]

Please don't turn away from God; I did the same and regretted it. Also, everybody is going through or will go through something/s. You aren't the only person who is in pain. Let people see some of your pain. Been there. Irene

[@margrobinson8534]

I feel frozen in time since my daughter died on Mother'sDay 2021...I've lost my desire to do my usual daily activities...grief is a lonely journey...😥

[@grieftherapist]

You are right Marg.. grief can be very isolating. Maybe consider a peer support group or some on line support to try and meet that loneliness . I also want to be clear that this is still so recent of a loss.... be gentle in your self expectations. I am sad for your loss... Your Momma's Heart must be very tender. 💞

[@Mranstedsf]

I was in the hospital with COVID My husband was murdered I never saw him again until he was ashes I can't listen to music we listened to together I keep his pictures under my pillow It's hard for me to look at them I can't cook anything he loved.I constantly look at cloths I'd normally buy for him He was so handsome and we'll dressed.We were going to travel but it's all gone now I'm 70 to old to start over Our only son is too important and busy to be botherrd .

[@AfricanSpiritChronicles]

Am so sorry that you are in pain. I pray that you find peace and comfort from the least excepted places.

[@Mranstedsf]

@@AfricanSpiritChronicles thank you it's veryhard

[@AfricanSpiritChronicles]

@@Mranstedsf 💕💕 sending hugs.

[@lindavernon8051]

Very helpful. Especially the Grief Hostess part. I was feeling so guilty because everyone was expecting me to have a big memorial. I can’t even begin to face that. And then I feel guilty because I think that’s what he would have wanted . . .and on and on. But this was so helpful. Also it’s been a month, but I feel sick to my stomach a lot. I am able to eat (protein drinks have been very helpful) but I’ve got to make another Pepto Bismal run.

[@RC2214]

I had to listen to this a few times because the music in the background was somewhat destracting and had a hard time keeping focused all the way through

[@DeniseMcMillan-gv3mz]

I experience all of the above 🙏♥️

[@roxiehogge5045]

Hello my name is Roxie I am 70yrs old and widowed 6 months aga not sure how to start life over after 47 yrs with David.

[@triciahird8986]

Thank you Jo. Your videos are very helpful. Something that has helped me enormously deal with my grief was to choose to do only the things that felt helpful to me. This gave me permission to not do a lot of things and also gave me power in a situation where I felt very powerless.

[@mariederice1260]

Not enjoying the things I use to. Not wanting to socialize.