Grooms Ruining Their Own Weddings

[@kurtisconner]

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[@I_get_sick_when_i_get_stoned]

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[@JeanJacket311]

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[@sodicious]

hi curtis cummer

[@pcpt]

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[@zaqxs]

The feeding each other cake is a symbolism of how you are going to treat and care for your partner. So smashing the cake into their face... says some words.

[@godofallwaffles2124]

How is there 1.1k likes and now two replies

[@CyberWarezz05]

Are you making this up or is that actually the true symbolism?

[@Sasha-gd7se]

@@CyberWarezz05it’s the true symbolism. It symbolizes the joining of humanity as far back as human civilization has existed. Think about it, sharing resources at a time when they were scarce and took a lot of effort to find and gather is like, the biggest show of acceptance to someone that is joining/creating a family unit. To smash the food into someone’s face would have been the ultimate insult to someone sharing their food with you.

[@gdulheflljasduhdzccvm9926]

@@Sasha-gd7se53 ppl for this i hate every single one of you

[@KattinIsBrocken]

​@Sasha-gd7se Exactly. I believe that to feed one cake and accidentally or playfully have a bit of frosting smudge their cheek means you are willing to be gentle and listen to the other, and be there. When you smash the cake into their face, especially WHEN they say not to however...

[@virfah]

Funny thing is that, alot of wedding goers and photographers have said that whenever a groom ruins the wedding (cake smashing and shitty vows), the chances of divorce is super super high.

[@matilda4204]

How STRANGE. What a WEIRD C O I N C I D E N C E !

[@HopeIsADrug11037]

huh i wonder why

[@daniboy4153]

Damn a lot of marriages could've lasted longer or forever if the groom didn't smash the cake

[@jessicatgrowl7614]

Good!

[@iwant2dielol329]

Wow i would not expect that!

[@TobinL1212]

Kurtis invited me to his wedding and then actually threw his wedding cake in my face and did a kick flip over me before feeding me to some wolves. Pretty solid wedding honestly 9/10

[@alpaca6462]

As long as he threw it at you and not Jenna things will be fine 🙏🙏

[@oh_dip_donkey_doug]

if he ever threw cake at me like that I definitely would of fought back that shits not cool and it's ultimately fucked up idc how tired you are that's not an excuse

[@TobinL1212]

y'know the weirdest part, she started throwing the knives at me@@alpaca6462

[@kzjha]

What's keeping you from rating it a full score?

[@TobinL1212]

@@kzjha not enough wolves

[@vincedevour2545]

Read about a bride who requested to not have cake shown in her face because of trauma. Her whole childhood, her family would ruin her birthday by pressing cake in her face. No matter how often she told them that it upsets her. So she begged to at least have her wedding day without a cake in the face, yet her husband did it anyways to ”get closer to her family”. She did not continue that relationship.

[@neyademon1021]

Oh my god that's absolutely heartbreaking... I hope she dumped the family too :(

[@FlowerSong606]

Literally the worst thing ever My family only did that sht to me once it's not even our own tradition they just wanted tp fit in I guess 😒 but I was so pissed off and threw a giant fit so I think they got the message cuz it hasn't happened since then ...

[@Lance-wn9dc]

Some people are starving with no food to eat, some are homeless and freezing in the cold, while some are in warzones not knowing if they will live to see the next day, but cake gives someone trauma. Overpampered Americans.

[@vincedevour2545]

@@Lance-wn9dc Not american. And sure there are people who go through way more terrible things, but that doesn’t mean our psyche will go unharmed. She continuesly has her birthdays ruined with people smashing her face into the cake and laughing at her. Despite how she clearly got upset every time. So yes, that caused a sort of trauma in her that yet another big event in her life would be ruined. It became a genuine fear that she worried about and begged her husband to not fullfill. Which her husband said he wouldn’t, and then did. Is it the worst thing that can happen to someone? No, not by a long shot. I’ve ahd horrible things happen to me, but I would never use my own troubles to one up on other harmed people. That’s a very gross view to have on the world and how the mind works. Healing isn’t caused by undermining others experiences. It won’t help the girl I talked about, and it won’t help those people who you mentioned.

[@neyademon1021]

@@Lance-wn9dc Everyone goes through awful and traumatic experiences and everyone deserves to be validated. It’s insensitive and immature to turn it into a competition.

[@dawn593]

my favorite part about the cake smashing stuff is that when the bride does it first you can actually see the moment the groom feels emasculated and decides to completely obliterate his new wife in order to establish dominance

[@dawn593]

and IMAGINE paying all that money for hair, makeup and a dress just to throw food on it 😐

[@BILLCIPHER8]

I read this comment in David Attenborough's voice 😭 Especially the establishing dominance part. Sounds like something off animal planet....

[@1808cowboy]

Exactly 😭 thats what i thought too, these man are just so proud and fierce they cant handle a silly joke they would 100% do their wife with a big smile, without caring abt theur wives feelings 😭

[@greyskymy]

@@BILLCIPHER8 That's true. These grooms aren't humans. They lost their morals long ago.

[@strictnine5684]

@@dawn593imagine assaulting your husband on the wedding day. Hmmmm

[@michellewilliams1342]

I remember mentioning to my husband before our wedding that I would not be okay with shoving the cake in my face when we cut it because my wedding dress was custom made and I had professional hair and makeup I did not want ruined. He was genuinely surprised that I would even mention that and said that the cake shoving was never even an option in his mind. I honestly do not know what is going through those grooms' heads...

[@Random-sk6hm]

it's honestly embarrassing

[@Janary08]

Good. Don't waste food 😫

[@MyNameHere101]

I can't imagine doing more than icing the tip of my nose like we did. And I did my own hair and makeup! You have to have very little respect for your partner to do this stuff.

[@misakistalker]

this must be an american thing bc in my country the newely weds feed each other cake with a fork, and sometimes they smear a little cream on their nose, but that's it, you never eat a cake with your hands wtf

[@biggestbeelstan]

@@misakistalker it is. its such an american thing that we americans sometimes do it to kids. they shove their faces into cake, which pisses me tf off and pissed me off when it happened to me. i even CRIED once because my cake was ruined so yeah its DEF an american thing lmao

[@kailiek2402]

The fact that that woman ran away and begged him not to, for him to proceed to do it so hard she hits her head on the wall and falls down☠️ I would immediately annul that marriage.

[@phastinemoon]

My prayers are that, for that one video, it was staged/agreed on beforehand as a joke. The way she ran felt a little too theatrical, so that’s my sincere hope - because otherwise… yeah, she’s marrying a serial killer.

[@bishielurfer]

​@@phastinemoon to me, it looks like it starts out kind of playfully like "don't push cake in my face I don't wanna get messy!" but him getting so aggressive and her falling looked very real

[@blueberreez]

@@phastinemoon Have you ever tried running in high heels? You can fall very theatrically, very easily.

[@christinegallo4983]

Honestly as a guest seeing something like that I’d be sincerely concerned for her safety in that relationship

[@Pohlmaster]

@@phastinemoonshe ran that way because she was in heels. Nothing theatrical. It is even more disturbing considering she couldn’t even run away and he saw that and took advantage of that.

[@4Mr.Crowley2]

The bride and groom at 10:25 - there’s no way that dude isn’t physically and verbally abusive. The bride wasn’t “joking” in any manner - he HITS her face with that stupid cake after literally cornering her. And she is displaying genuine fear, holding her arms out and pleading with him to stop - then he clocks her beautifully made-up face and hair with a fist full of cake. What an absolute creep.

[@Kimball042]

Definitely. It’s assault.

[@OpposumParty87]

It’s so refreshing to come to the replies and see not a single person trying to argue this, thank you all for being normal reasonable people who don’t think that DV is okay❤️

[@Princessbuttercupish]

The bar has been lowered so far down that having a guy not assault you with cake is considered a catch.

[@gladitsnotme]

This is why the marriage rate is going down.

[@randomtinypotatocried]

@@gladitsnotmeThat and how expensive it is

[@BelleAllBlack]

The bar is in hell, I hate straight men 💀 and I also hate that I’m a straight woman attracted to them 🥲

[@melissafraser2190]

nice one 😆

[@JalapenoBizniz]

Ah, the pressure of having to “be cool” about a crazy bachelor party yet the groom can super slam cake down your throat and out your asshole

[@jacobkalbfleisch5431]

As someone who's planning a wedding I can't fathom the financial decision of tossing an entire wedding cake at someone in a wedding dress.

[@hospitable_ghost]

It means they weren't involved in the planning at ALL and therefore have no concept of how expensive all that stuff can really be IMO.

[@Fen_Fox]

not to mention, what if they rented the dress? Those extra fees are gonna hurt

[@israsawyer]

With a full face of (probably) professionally done makeup! When there's still a reception to go through!!

[@jacobkalbfleisch5431]

@@israsawyer the cake is typically cut towards the end of the reception, after most of your photos have been taken.

[@brigade7678]

@@jacobkalbfleisch5431 eh before all the dancing and party fun parts of the night where theres often the less formal photos, sure, but still photos you want your dress & makeup to not be ruined for. & I've been to a few that had after party stuff for the adults after all the kids get cake and go home, still doing "candid" photos

[@wdymstupidmfisalreadytaken]

the fact that the couple from the shrek themed wedding probably have a better marriage than ANYONE who appeared in this video is astounding

[@bitchslapthesun]

Same thing for the couple that got married at the Taco Bell they met in

[@maximnicola4182]

​@@bitchslapthesunaw, that sounds actually really cute

[@ramentreee_5335]

shrek is love 😍 shrek is life 😍

[@happyderp2282]

Imagine the groom chucking the entire cake at the bride and her responding with, "This wedding is ogre!"

[@cosmicreef5858]

because people who chose what they want is what makes them happy Lot of the people in the video do not want to be there and the grooms are acting like assholes

[@JeantheSecond-ip7qm]

Dude on his phone better be texting his mom who’s in the hospital and telling her how happy he is to married to his wife.

[@jessyjulie5506]

I heard he was buying tickets to a game

[@neyademon1021]

I feel like that one was staged, at least I hope so...

[@thesilentassassin1167]

That’s how IPad kids will be like in future

[@adamtheownerofyourpassiona3879]

no that could wait

[@aniyilator]

​@@neyademon1021Didn't get those vibes at all, it was just genuinely embarrassing for the wife

[@Simbley]

the "post cake smash clarity" is so fucking funny like the bride is just bewildered probably saying "why...did you do that" and he's just shamefully like "uh...idk"

[@rosered5485]

My fiance's birth mom accidentally did that to her husband. It sounds so embarrassing for both of them! Her husband is from a different country that doesn't do cake smashing and didn't know that he should tell her that he didn't want to do it. He was completely taken by surprise when his new bride smashed cake in his face.

[@laurahazeleger4287]

What really scares me is how quick the groom goes insane. In all of those cake smash videos, the bride only puts a tiny piece on the groom's face, yet the groom immediatly yanks the whole cake and throws it at the bride. Like, what is your problem? They're so quick to turn to violence instead of just laughing it off and throwing a tiny piece back

[@Daftsy]

Exactly. It's so terrifying. I would not want to go ANYWHERE with a man after he did that to me, especially not on a honeymoon where it's going to be nobody but us.

[@Random-sk6hm]

It's because he feels emasculated and it's desperate attempt to assert dominance. It's scary how quickly the embarrassment turns into anger then into physical violence

[@camtyto0777]

im not seeing enough comments about this! im genuinely terrified for all these women. like kurtis implied, if these men are willing to treat her like that in PUBLIC, how are they treating her in private?

[@txiczmbie1077]

@@Random-sk6hmthats so fucking barbarik, these men are so immature that they act like actual wild animals

[@laurahazeleger4287]

@@camtyto0777 exactly! If they behave like that in front of a huge crowd for 'laughs', and thus getting a sense of validation, imagine what could happen behind closed doors

[@vyrarose4773]

When I got married (am now divorced) the groom insisted during the entire planning stage that he wanted there to be cake smashing involved at the wedding, despite my protests every step of the way. My dress was the most expensive part of our wedding, and I put so much time and effort into my hair and makeup that if I got cake smashed, the reception would be over. I'd rather leave than try and recover. We eventually decided to have our guests put donations in jars with our names on them and whoever's jar had the most money when we went to cut the cake would get smashed. That way it was a 50/50 shot and he would have to take the risk of losing instead of it being guaranteed to be me. He lost, despite spending a lot of time at the reception convincing his family to put money in my jar. I don't know why it was so important to him, it's not even funny, but I'm grateful that at the end of the day, he was the one with cake on his face and he realized exactly why that isn't a cute, fun, nice thing to do.

[@jadewolf22]

Hopefully you are happier post-divorce, he sounds like an asshole…

[@thesleepydot]

clever solution that backfired on him. I’m glad he could finally at least somewhat see things from your perspective!

[@pocus2740]

Glad your divorced

[@plant7464]

Glad you divorced him ❤

[@roberteli5235]

It can be cute to gently put a dab on the tip of the other person's nose as a playful gesture but the smashing is just stupid.

[@itsrewindtime5994]

On my moms wedding my stepdad slightly pished the cake on her nose a bit and she was smiling the entire time and did the same to him. There is absolutely no reason for your bride or groom to be on the floor from it

[@MademoiselleRed1390]

Exactly, I think the issue with these guys is that they overdo it unnecessarily. Like she's doing it playfully, just put some frosting on her nose or something, don't double down by smashing the whole cake on her face WTF.

[@VintagepaperdollcuttingC-wq5ql]

Yah, gently put a dab of frosting on the nose and kiss it off. Or just feed each other cake.

[@Ashlyn-p1r]

She's also (likely) wearing heels, meaning it wouldn't take much force to cause her to fall on her wrists or something more severe. A man that careless doesn't deserve to be anyone's husband.

[@Acheron-IX]

aw that’s cute

[@semi_dott]

That's so cute

[@breannajones5595]

These men absolutely HATE their wives. Them being physically violent to the bride for a laugh is such a red flag

[@billcipher3946]

I’m a male and seeing these men doing this, at the wedding is pretty disturbing. One time it was a bride, that was aggressive with the cake, so my cousin Alec saw the red flags that day.

[@parkchimmin7913]

I think they’re trying to test their s/o’s boundaries. Idk how to explain it, but essentially it’s like “oh, if I can get away with this on wedding day, what else can I get away with during our marriage?” Which is so… ick. Basically a precursor to a potentially abusive/toxic marriage.

[@seanceknowles2911]

@@parkchimmin7913the beginning of distroyjg her self respect, humiliation ritual in front of the people that care for her to see what he will ever get away with and family and friends will tolerate.

[@parkchimmin7913]

@@seanceknowles2911 THIS! Absolutely spot on.

[@growingwiththewades8093]

I don’t even think they were doing it for laughs I think they literally hate their wives

[@littlestarsprout]

the fact that kurtis just uses his green screen to make him marry himself instead of just asking jenna is so fucking funny man i love him his humor is the best

[@ciciamanda.]

dude this and the blood related video, its so fucking funny. Jenna? no. Jacob in a wig? YES

[@KaelWrit]

it kinda seems like she's just not that into being on camera, and he respects that, and that's really healthy

[@littlestarsprout]

@@KaelWrit yeah exactly!!!!!! it's sweet and respectful and mindful and aa

[@Oneissnart]

Kurtis x Kurtis

[@lhzoz7]

Fr that's hilarious

[@sznnitty]

God, the cake shoving thing makes me incredibly annoyed. Not only is it horribly disrespectful, especially since the wives are usually trying to get away, but having your makeup professionally done is EXPENSIVE

[@lunaskisses]

ITS ALSO DANGEROUS!! if that was a tiered cake, there are often wood rods (dowels) to hold the tiers together. people have lost eyes (and likely worse) and sustained severe permanent injuries from careless (abusive) cake face smashes. these men going overboard with it are ABUSIVE. this quote describes it best, "it is a chance to (publicly) humiliate and/or physically assault your partner under the guise of playfulness."

[@poke-talia268]

​@@lunaskisses if you hadn't mentioned this, I would have.

[@toxic_195]

I get so worried about the dress cause damn they ain’t cheap

[@cebolinhacalvo7393]

That got me fuming lmao. It's so damn enraging.

[@xavierplymptonstongue54]

@BusylilBeaOr you do the thing where you feed each other a little bit. Both are cute. I’ve just never got the whole cake smashing thing.

[@kinleybrault9642]

The man that said “keep my balls empty”, I would divorce immediately. That’s clearly all he wants. And when the woman said it’s his “humor” is ridiculous. It’s disgusting and inappropriate, especially with children there. And their OWN children.

[@kyleglendinning9414]

Yeah, like I could get making one joke like that, but even then not something so vulgar and gross

[@mastermarkus5307]

You can maybe make a "he's just got a dark sense of humour" excuse if he says that around your friends at a party or something (though even in that case, I think it's worryingly gross), but at your wedding with family and children around, there's no excuse to basically be like "Thanks for fucking me constantly, work on your cooking. I don't want you for anything else."

[@theseagull-36]

It's his sense of humor to degrade her as a human being in front of everyone while she's wearing the white dress. It's pure humiliation, even bordering on exploitation.

[@jozefienvoets2744]

Any time a man says something super inappropriate and someone tries to justify it by saying “that’s just his personality :)!!!” I hear nothing but alarm bells in my head

[@indigopher1583]

yea, they have terrible personalities lmao

[@negligible_reality]

yeah, always a huge red flag. i used to know a guy back in high school who always made super gross sexual remarks and jokes about people, and his friends and his gf would write it off with "He's just joking/It's just a joke" "That's just his sense of humor" or "That's just his personality/He's just like that sometimes lol". unsurprisingly mans went to jail for SA only a few years after we graduated high school. 🙃💀

[@Aster_Risk]

My old boss at McDonald's hit on underage girls and slammed my fingers in my till when I didn't reciprocate and pointed out how disgusting he was. The other supervisors said "That's just his personality."

[@magentatime]

cause its NEVER helpful to the situation either, like how do people not realizing that saying "its just a joke, its his personality" not only immediately dresses up the person defending them in a clown suit, but also immediately makes the person in question look WAAAAAAAAY worse. Like, oh so this wasn't a fluke? He's just like this you say??? comically, and concerningly, NOT a flex.

[@Random-sk6hm]

Fr

[@EarlyBirdie82]

Fun fact, the cake smashing is a sign for future abuse and/or divorce. At least in the case where the bride specifically asks the groom not to do it and he does anyway. It shows a lack of respect for boundaries and a need to display dominance. It’s a BAD sign unless it was planned or gentle.

[@starflurries]

i feel so bad for the bride who literally ran away from and got cornered and tackled by her huge ass groom like what the fuck is wrong with you dude she was literally cowering from you and u used that to display ur dominance

[@biggestbeelstan]

@@starflurries exactly, like wtf?? literally took her down wwe style like holy shit??

[@felixargyle20]

​@@starflurriesshe looked like she was pleading for him to not smash the cake

[@speed0spank]

It's like when you BEG your family or friends not to tell a restaurant its your birthday because you have anxiety or whatever and they do it anyway because it's SO FUNNY.

[@toastandbutter7367]

@@starflurries if i ever had a partner feel the need to cower in fear at me like that i'd be so fucking disappointed in myself. i just can't understand how they get to that point and think "yeah this is okay".

[@Billie12208]

A groom freaking out about a little cake on his face and going ballistic is the epitome of “women are afraid men will kill them, men are afraid women will laugh at them”

[@casie6609]

True

[@gautman-t7w]

kind of insane to think 2.7 thousand people agreed with this

[@Curiosity_R]

​@@gautman-t7wIf you got any argument to defend a guy making his own wife bleed on their own marriage we're all here to hear it. But if you just wanna bitch around because the comment hurt your ego then you're kinda proving their point

[@yves555]

@@Curiosity_Ryou devoured that😭‼️ pop off because you cleared them easily in one paragraph omfg 😭

[@onethatdoesart5650]

​​@@gautman-t7wbecause it's true 😔 congratulations on not having to experience it yourself 👋

[@spinningindaffodils]

The cake smashing thing bums me out. Feeding each other is the simplest gesture of trust between two people.

[@GabrielPerez-br5mm]

Yeah, there’s a big difference between feeding your partner cake, and shoving cake up their nostrils

[@amyzerwas4211]

As a professional wedding cake decorator smashing someone’s face into the cake is incredibly dangerous. We put supports in there to hold each tier up shoving someone’s face into that cake could very well lead to a hospital visit. You spend thousands on cakes, makeup, dress, hair etc. don’t start a marriage by ruining any of those for a laugh. Trust me, no one’s actually laughing.

[@Random-sk6hm]

There's been multiple occasion when it actually has led to hospital visits it's honestly insane how stupid these guys are

[@baby.nay.]

Thank you I have never once heard someone talking about the fucking cake supports. I’m not even a baker I just really love cake and I’m aware of this.

[@aleenathammasorn9007]

I've seen some photos of a girl getting injured from cake support and they still haunt me to this day, please don't smash cakes everyone

[@rumaisakhan5583]

and we all saw the comment on here where the bride got hit in the eye with a cake dowel and spent the night in the hospital while the groom partied ;-;

[@Mypenisissmallbut]

Fr also cake is delicious I’d just be mad they wasted it I wanted to eat that shit

[@axxwqw3117]

there's nothing like being physically overpowered and humiliated by your husband on your wedding day

[@mex6569]

the entire cake smashing part of the video makes me so sad and honestly like... dissappointed?? how are some men so fragile....

[@deadboi8989]

Me must KILL WIFE for putting cake on my face.

[@NutyRiver]

@@mex6569yeah it’s like they’re insulted that their wife might’ve somewhat embarrassed them so now they need to “win” the food fight by chasing her down and physically overpowering her to the floor.

[@strictnine5684]

@@mex6569why do you feel it’s fragile to do it to the bride but not fragile to do it to the groom?

[@khadeejones1136]

@@strictnine5684Its supposed to be a fun and cute little boop of icing to the face, the men in the video were quite obviously talking it to far.

[@SaltyRxtech]

There’s a huge correlation between the cake smash and divorce. I remember reading wedding photographers tells if the wedding will last. And all of them said if the groom smashes the cake on the brides face it’s over. It’s absolutely to humiliate her in my opinion.

[@jacklow9611]

They don't all end in divorce, and sometimes it's the bride who smashes it into the groom's face (and in my sister's case, she got it right back, along with a dressing-down from our parents).

[@kia6433]

@@jacklow9611what’s yours point here? Oh it’s not all bad and women do it too?? That’s bullshit and you know it. Men do this 99% of the time, women like your sister are an anomaly. Women who stay after being humiliated like that have been manipulated enough to accept abuse. Sure there are couples who do this for fun but most times it’s not and to pretend otherwise is either willful ignorance or plain stupidity.

[@aaljustaal1890]

@@jacklow9611 There's definitely a difference between agreeing to throw cake at each other vs. "my spouse said 'no' but I'm gonna do it anyway because I think it's funny" and the difference is communication and consent

[@kimielle]

Almost like cake smashing is bad no matter who does it.

[@kia6433]

@@kimielle but it’s not no matter who does it because it’s overwhelmingly men who do it to their wives. Obviously I agree with the sentiment that no one deserves this and any woman doing it is awful as well but let’s not ignore who the main problem is

[@winnie9994]

When my mom and my ex-stepdad got married he shoved a whole cake in her face. She ran to the bathroom and cried while the women in my family tried to fix her hair, face, and dress. I ran to my then stepdad and told him he hurt my mom while I myself was on the verge of tears for her (I was like 6). I still think about that moment occasionally. He turned out to be a drunk and abusive...so I guess it was foreshadowing.

[@neyademon1021]

Wow, you were a brave little kid. I'm glad you were there to stand up for your mom, you must've been a huge comfort to her in such a dark time. I hope you both are doing much better now ❤

[@Jupiter-T]

That sounds like a terrible memory. :-( Think about it - a literal six-year-old knew better than this grown man?? Says a lot about what kind of awful person he was. I'm sorry you had to be around such an excuse for a human being.

[@robinoconnor553]

I read about a bride and groom where the groom shoved a huge piece of cake into his bride's face. She had asked him not to do this and he promised her that he wouldn't, but he did it anyway and laughed at her. The bride then announced that reception was over and everyone should take their gifts back as she was getting an annulment. AND SHE DID! That very smart lady dumped his lying ass as fast as possible. Major props to her!

[@Muni_Puni]

FINALLY! AMEN, PROPS TO THE GIRL

[@Jackieeeisvibing]

I REMEMBER THAT!! I think I saw the video too!! She had trauma from being in a car crash and he knew that she was incredibly claustrophobic and it would’ve made her freak the fuck out so he promised not to, but he did it on their wedding day anyway completely disregarding her

[@zestytriss5282]

She is ready to divorce him at the wedding if he does a despicable behavior.

[@mimo__.-]

Does anyone have yhe link to this

[@Freccjjbb]

​@@Jackieeeisvibinghonestly 100% fine if someone asks just because they don't want cake shoved in their face, but these reasons make it 1000% worse

[@trohpi]

as a baker the only thing i can think when i see those men throwing entire wedding cakes at their wives is that its dangerous as fuck. wedding cakes have wooden dowels and supports to hold their weight, they can take your eye out (and yes, people have legitimately been stabbed in the eye from this before)

[@EternalCrimson.]

This should get pinned it's very informative. I had no idea about this. 😢

[@Gorgalathan]

i made a wedding cake and had to carry it about 200 meters. i’m a baker first, rock climber second so i don’t say this lightly. wedding cakes are HEAVY too. those ladies were probably sporting a sore neck the next day, and not from consummation of the marriage, that’s for sure.

[@rainerwells1573]

@@Gorgalathan😂😂😂

[@karenamyx2205]

I was wondering this. I know its a cake but... do they think the entire, like 3 foot structure, is made of icing? Im no genius.. but, structural integrity is a thing.

[@dakota7314]

​@@EternalCrimson.Just don't throw cakes at people 😅

[@adoresessy101]

The ones where the bride is literally backed up into a corner, clearly asking the groom to stop, and he smashes the cake into her face hard enough that she falls back and he's still smearing it when she fell, GENUINELY triggers me. That's quite literally assault, idc what anyone says.

[@emmaruth223]

yeah and its crazy how everyone is just acting like its normal cause wtf

[@mike90317]

Remove the cake and it clicks.

[@fobo3361]

Its not even playful its just straight up "im going to fuck you up cuz you got cake on me/i wanna fucking humiliate you with or without force cuz i think its funny and dont care about you"

[@DeezN00tz99]

@@fobo3361 that's what these all are, their "manlyness" is threatened and they react with being rough and violent

[@fobo3361]

@@DeezN00tz99 yea its beyond infuriating, my dads one of those special types of man children, and he never fails at showing me how NOT to be a man everytime i see him lmao

[@livtempleton]

That poor woman excusing those horrible wedding vows… the way he belittles her and publicly degrades her and she defends it as “his sense of humour”. It will take time to recognise abuse in a relationship. I hope she gets there soon.

[@razztastic]

The first thing I thought when she claimed to love his vows was "No you didn't." She wouldn't have made a video addressing it if she really didn't care that he made such pigheaded statements lol

[@jes6427]

She just wanted to quial some of the public humiliation and help it blow over. If ppl think shes ok with it its suddenly less of a specticle.

[@wa_akii6873]

honestly i hope the guy actually is nice and she never has to go thru all that but i know the world isnt that sweet ;-;

[@lebowskisrug]

okay i wouldn’t go that far to call that abuse. he’s just a sleaze ball and she should know her worth and that she’s better than that.

[@ultraboombean]

This guy is a major pervert. For sure. Red flag

[@Luka0420]

This just goes to prove how much men act on pure emotion. “Women are so emotional” *a man throws a cake at his wife after she stuffs some in his mouth*

[@VideosForYou90]

true but a lot of men still don't see "anger" as an emotion like who's gonna tell them...

[@IL_M3n]

FRR like you could actually see his whole face shift from happy and loving to fucking pissed as soon as she shoved the littlest bit of cake in his mouth

[@Random-sk6hm]

You could see how he felt so humiliated that for once he doesn't have complete dominance and how quickly that embarrassment turns into anger and physical violence.

[@magentatime]

if it walks like a duck, it MAY be a goose, sure, but its more likely just an abusive duck.@@GuzzlingDuck

[@Vanessa-xx3yz]

I was thinking that too 😂😂 they must be some red pillers. They are total cry babies.

[@sparklingcyanide3519]

i also read about this woman who divorced her husband a literal day after their wedding because he smashed her face into the cake *even after* she repeatedly insisted she didn't want him doing that, and honestly? i don't blame her one bit. the wedding day is the one day where you can shine not only for your beauty, but also for the love a couple supposedly shares for one another, so if your partner can't respect that you don't want any shenanigans happening that day, maybe you're better off without him!!

[@juliawillett3264]

Yo I just read that one on Reddit

[@chocolatecake742]

@@juliawillett3264can u link me the post?

[@MsCuteangel44]

Is that the same one whose mom smashed cake in her face at 17, called her a brat for being upset (rightfully), and the soon to ex knew about it and did it anyway? Of course he gave the "you can't take a prank" excuse

[@Mizushimeee]

Exactly. Wedding day is to be respected. If you don’t respect your wedding day then you don’t respect the marriage or your spouse 🤷🏻‍♀️ especially if one partner specifically told you to not do anything weird and if you still do it anyway then… in the words of Adele, “divorce babe, divorce”

[@thecamelchannel1467]

based as hell, it's the only correct decision really in those circumstances

[@mitch8697]

I dated a wedding photographer years ago. She would check in on couples afterwards to see if they wanted to do another shoot, and genuine interest. She said that 100% of the couples she worked with who smashed cake into each other's faces got divorced.

[@druidriley3163]

There was a 50/50 chance they would anyway.

[@mitch8697]

@@druidriley3163 factsss

[@karabartley]

My ex was married once, the only photo where hes happy from their wedding day was when hes aggressively shoving cake into her face while she looks visibly upset. They also got married on April 1st and he immediately left the reception to work on his truck, idk how many signs that girl needed 🤣🤣🤣

[@user-lt1jd1ye3v]

Hey kara , ^^^ the red flag is him marrying someone he didn’t love in the first place BTW ! it’s not her fault he made the decision to marry someone he didn’t love ! Just in case you needed some clarification on that point ☺️

[@ShawnaBordelon]

@@karabartleyima just say he proposed to her most prob and he decided to stay have that wedding and marry her clearly he wanted to at one point and her fault he just was shit 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@S0P-529]

I think a lot of people forget that in most tall cakes, especially wedding cakes, there is a SHARP STICK IN THE MIDDLE to hold it up. At least two of the brides in this video could have had to go to the hospital

[@Messwithmitchie]

My mom always had this sort of superstition that couples who smashed cake in each other’s faces would end up getting divorced and in our experience she hasn’t been wrong about that

[@JaneDoeValentine]

It’s not a superstition actually. A lot of wedding photographers/planners say the same thing lol

[@word_on_a_wing_]

bit random but there's an old music video for a song about a man "putting away with" his new wife -- and they feature a lengthy cake-smashing scene...

[@peytonsturdivant8392]

I just saw an article saying there's statistics that support this actually. It was about how people who feed each other cake usually end up breaking up if they smash it

[@It-is-me...Melsie]

If my husband had pulled such a stunt I probably would have immediately lost a lot of respect for him, so yeah... makes sense.

[@phishcatt]

I mean it goes without sayin that marriage between two very immature people will fail. No superstition needed.

[@cee8ch]

My aunt had her cake thrown at her during her wedding to her now-ex husband. One of the wooden dowels in the cake hit her in the eye, and she spent her wedding night in the hospital while the groom partied.

[@miisa_]

omg he still partied?? what an asshole I'm glad it's now ex-husband

[@goobypoo7815]

He injured her and he PARTIED??? Just let her go to the hospital and left her alone??

[@boomerangswingsbothways]

Wtf poor aunty :(( Very glad that she got away from that shithead

[@hownottoadult1014]

“The dowel hit her in the eye and she spent her wedding night in the hospital” oh maybe a moment they can look back on in years and laugh…… “While the groom partied” aw hell nah

[@Mydogslove2laugh]

Wow

[@KitbogaShow]

Two weddings? This guy really does know a thing or TWO.

[@LoganPAILLL]

No.

[@starshapedsprinkles]

No.

[@thesteef77]

Kitboga! Anti Scammer Hero! Nice to see you here man!

[@TheGh0st_Cat]

No wonder Kurtistown is so safe; Kitboga was here all along!

[@BB-bw8tk]

kitboga?????????

[@Gayonetta5000]

I’m so glad that people are calling this out as abusive. People love to say that people are “over using” the word, but they just fail to understand that purposefully ignoring someone’s boundaries for selfish reasons very often is indicative of abuse.

[@luizabschmitt6203]

The groom's one job: don't mess up the wedding. It's like being handed a glass slipper and accidentally turning it into a pumpkin

[@AwkwarddFoxx]

that's quite an accident

[@Stardust20741]

@@AwkwarddFoxxa true piping mishap!

[@actually_a_wyrm]

I guess the slipper beat level 2

[@MayvaAva]

Well no, but the joke is funny

[@MylaMMIX]

@@actually_a_wyrmthat is such a deep cut reference

[@KaterinaRebecca]

I work in weddings, and I’ve heard vendors say that if a groom smashes a cake in the bride’s face, it’s a telltale sign that the marriage won’t last

[@msjupiter5]

what about if they throw the whole cake😅?

[@reaverkai]

​@@msjupiter5divorce the next day

[@anstupid4093]

​@@msjupiter5She's too scared to leave him and the father will go on to raise more kids like him!

[@aspenisthebest]

also a sign that they're abusive. A loving husband wouldn't want to smash a cake in your face. Playfully smearing frosting on her mouth or nose is one thing, but it's definitely not okay to smack your wife with a piece of cake in your hand.

[@bibianaguadalupeislasherre9880]

​@@reaverkai Or an annulment.

[@terrajhauger5847]

Former wedding industry worker here: most grooms I encountered do this bc they feel invincible on their wedding day and think since they got the bride to marry they can do whatever they want and she won’t leave him

[@claire.182]

That’s so shitty, especially since they usually don’t. People don’t see just how mean this “tradition” is

[@scanbbb]

yeah no this never happened

[@terrajhauger5847]

@@scanbbb happened when I worked in the wedding industry. Some grooms just have no care for their brides and embarrass them bc they think they’re will be no consequences at their wedding day. Like no one is gonna interrupt a wedding to call out the groom so the guests are just gonna be uncomfortable and have to go along with it

[@cherilynsarts8845]

​@@scanbbbhappened a lot actually. My dad turned into an ab*sive a s s hole when he married my mom. Ab*sers can manipulate specially in my country where divorce is illigal...

[@jijitters]

@@scanbbb It's actually a pretty common mindset, sorry to tell you. A lot of people think that once they get married, they've locked everything down and it'll be too inconvenient to leave each other so they stop trying to be as nice. A lot of shitty partners expose themselves this way by acting extra good long enough to get married and then letting the façade slip.

[@Lou-ls7ln]

If I were a bridesmaid in these situations the groom would have to square up… you already made a scene and disrespected my friend or sister, so I won’t mind acting a fool too.

[@whitney2354]

yes! i cant believe how far i had to scroll to see this comment! like no my guy, just no. your abusing my friend? I wouldnt allow it at a bar let alone at a wedding.

[@juny476]

YES

[@RedRox224]

The friend/sister every girl deserves!

[@avalonfey]

I think the bad groom behaviour is a mixture of the man-child 'pay attention to me' and a 'for the bros' mentality where weddings are deemed to be another frivolous girly thing (and like all girly things, inherently silly and wasteful) that grooms are forced to endure, so they "joke" around "for the bros" to win their social approval, establish a sense of dominance and get to be the centre of attention while also punishing their wife for her "silly girly indulgence". Especially with the cake smash where they ruin her expensive makeup, dress and any later photos, as well as the expensive cake, which are all still considered to be feminine things. They don't ruin the booze or the rest of the reception, or prank their best man or ruin the buck's night, which are just fun guy stuff. Even during the wedding, these guys don't respect their brides

[@rachelwakefield1039]

Oh my gosh this is so accurate

[@venusstv]

This is a very good analysis!!

[@darbypants5591]

nobody is gonna say it better this guy did it everyone go home

[@bunny44489]

holy shit right so it’s almost an act of saving face, like yes I’m participating in this dumb, girly thing but I want you guys to know I also think it’s dumb and girly

[@greyskymy]

Fck misogyny honestly, if they are doing in front of the bride's relative who takes no BS, then their alpha balls popped.

[@alm6029]

I once went to a wedding where the bride’s father passed away so she danced with her brother and as this nice and sentimental dance was happening, the groom ran up to her and smashed cake in her face. the bride actually laughed it off but I was disgusted. and yes they are still together

[@sillygoober.01]

bro how is that groom even getting married with that childish sh*t

[@sun_cattle5008]

Do you know if they're still together cause not for nothing, I hope not

[@yukinanamine6459]

seriously, is smashing cake on the face in wedding day actually a thing? I'm spechless :'

[@melz4766]

No way- 🤢 ARE THEY STILL TOGETHER?!? My mental health needs to know 🙏

[@yukikanegawa7470]

Did she still marry him 😮

[@sasaboomn]

Really sad to see these women dealing with bullshit from their partners and feeling like they have to rationalize and defend their husband's behavior. 🙄

[@adrenalineactivate]

That's just the standard for women through out history. Your husband cheats on you with a 14 year old girl? That's just how it is with men it's not their fault they don't have the ability to control their desire. The standard is h3ll

[@Mizushimeee]

Yea cuz they don’t wanna be seen as irrational or “can’t take joke” kind of woman… or they don’t want to ruin their husband’s fun. And i’m 100% sure if women get mad, they will be called some sexist stuffs and like “irrational” “women can’t take jokes” “always ruin the moment/fun” and men can get away of course cuz well they’re men… when did men ever take any blame right 🫤 they can always do things without thinking of others while women have to endure everything to not ruin their “fun”

[@FocusedFighter777]

Yup. Always protrct the weaks: those dudes. Again, people, dont wed and better yet dont date men. You'll find one with a brain at some point, but you'll end up with LOTS of garbage before that, so not worth all the mental and physical pain

[@PAL5041]

This is what the "cool girl" has in store for her. I'd rather not be that😂

[@marcelacavalheiro2412]

@@Mizushimeee Thank you!! I'm so tired of the lack of empathy for women!

[@JenniferKlumpp]

He did that to that cake on purpose, his expression doesn't change until the guests react poorly, going silent and making a "what the hell?" type comment, /then/ suddenly he changes his expression to "I have no idea what I did!"

[@fairy5668]

I felt PHYSICALLY uncomfortable at the groom on his phone... like I think my soul left my body I feel so so SO sorry for the bride. She reminds me of my mum smiling through an obviously terrible marriage to an inattentive husband while everyone can only watch

[@seanhubbard6033]

He had to do his two attacks in clash of clans or he was getting booted from the clan

[@cinza.6164]

If someone had smacked that shit out of his hands I would have been sooo happy

[@jaejae_0099]

I'd drop his hand and race to get that annulment done so quick.

[@emagalociova]

Well, she is the one that chose to marry that man. There were signs there before FOR SURE

[@azrobant2390]

She was so beautiful too. The dress was gorgeous and her hair and makeup were amazing, she looked so happy before seeing him on his phone. I feel so sorry for her.

[@Linalinaanil]

It’s kinda ironic how when it comes to weddings, it’s mostly the brides who are seen as the crazy, insufferable ones, that stress everyone out, just for wanting to have a nice wedding, while it’s almost always the men who are out here acting a fool

[@odile2odette]

ironic? it’s pretty damn infuriating

[@alteregobruh]

Like, maybe they’re pissed off because they had to do everything and the groom was fuckin… playing CoD or something. Like, yeah, the bride often is stressed and on edge, because she cares about her wedding and is doing all the work. And he’s just like “I got a suit I wore to my grandma’s funeral last year, I’ll just wear that. Hey, dear, you have everything right? Me and the boys are gonna have a gaming night with pizza at Jared’s house.” Like seriously. Weddings vows being about only sex, being on your phone walking with your wife for the first time, fuck, even just wearing those… tuxedo shorts. Like, guys. You’re getting fucking married. Both of you. DO something. Hell give her a massage and do the house chores. God knows she isn’t going to want to after taking care of everything.

[@firestarhk3875]

Or blame gets deflected on her. I read about a bride who was stood up at the altar. She and her bridesmaids went out and like splattered paint on the dress. Some dude commented “wow she’s so immature - no wonder he left her.” But it was sooo mature of him to just not show up for the wedding as opposed to ending things in person?

[@thatrandom_canadian]

@@alteregobruh I mean, how often do they _want_ help? You always hear "MY" dream wedding rather than "OUR" dream wedding.

[@roberteli5235]

You should see how big of a diva the father of the brides can be. Yikes.

[@Megatron9145]

imagine pouring your heart out to your spouse at your wedding and they're staring at baking videos like your one of those ai voices telling a reddit story on youtube shorts

[@Megatron9145]

does this make any sense please guys i need validation edit: yippee clout

[@scarletMOM]

@@Megatron9145 yes it absolutely does! I love those videos!! 💀

[@Megatron9145]

@@scarletMOMSAME they're a guilty pleasure of mine it's like my brain is getting taking out for a nice dopamine dinner

[@scarletMOM]

​​@@Megatron9145yuuuupp!!!!! They truly are!

[@HopeIsADrug11037]

i am validating you, i in fact, did laugh (that sounds sarcastic but i actually did LOL)

[@JustMeJustJesse]

Fun fact about the smashing cake in your face. I found out that there was a study done on that. They found out that if the couple smashed cake in their faces most of those couples ended up divorced

[@riribeasley4741]

There’s is something so violent & disturbing about the way these men are SO forceful over a bit of cake

[@Random-sk6hm]

It's about feeling emasculated and desperately trying to assert dominance

[@buriedinbooks881]

@@Random-sk6hmif you feel entirely emasculated by getting a dollop of frosting out on your cheek you are the weakest person of all time

[@ingloriousbaxter]

The “bloody cake smash” guy is scary. You can see him going to grab her either by the sides of her head or the neck before remembering where he is.

[@chewy9936]

Ruining an almost painfully expensive cake, full face bridal makeup, bridal dress AND your reputation on your wedding day?? We love a husband who lacks financial, social and emotional awareness 😍💗

[@Lolalolo1996]

Hell I swair that I've seen a video of one of these cake smashes where the bride ended up bleeding from how rough the groom was smashing her face into the cake and just walked away laughing as she bleed onto her really beautiful wedding dress. Add in the fact that all hetreosexual men are expected to do at their wedding is show up not drunk and ontime while the brine must be perfect at all times just adds another level of what the fuck to all of this.

[@DungEnjoyerr]

​@@Lolalolo1996its the truth for straight men tho, i know this because i am an empath

[@Lolalolo1996]

@@DungEnjoyerr oh so your a narcissist who can mask well good for you I guess.

[@KairiMorin]

​@@Lolalolo1996Empaths are an actual thing. Chill.

[@okiokipo]

dude dont demonize npd, theyre literally just people with a (most likely) trauma based disorder trying to live@@Lolalolo1996

[@snailart14]

SAFETY WARNING: a lot of cakes have toothpicks or rods in them for support and people have gone blind from blunt force trauma of a support to the eyeball

[@poopybutt1913]

@TheJosmanthe toothpicks are usually only found in cakes with multiple layers to act as support so it doesnt cave in. birthday cakes are safe to smash your face into, so theres no physical damage you need to worry about lol

[@amandamandy3970]

this was my first thought at the cake smashing stuff. wedding cakes are one of the main culprits of having rods in them like wtf

[@koiifsh]

yeah i watch creators who make cakes and when they have multiple tiers the cakes have skewers in them. one of the reasons i won't get multi tiered cakes for events where other people are around, in case they smash my face into it

[@ghoultooth]

⁠@@koiifshBig wooden dowels too in the larger cakes! I feel like it should be common sense to not smash someone’s face into their cake without their permission :(

[@koiifsh]

@@ghoultooth oh really? ive seen people use boba straws, but i feel like those could do significant damage too

[@emerencecrow]

So I work at a historic place often used for weddings every weekend. Not even a week ago, a groom personally accused a number of staff for stealing two gold candelabras he brought. He demanded to watch the security camera recordings himself only to witness himself pack away the candelabras into his own suitcase not even an hour prior.

[@mastermarkus5307]

@emerencecrow I hope, but don't necessarily expect, that he was apologetic, afterwards.

[@laurenquinn4716]

Okay okay but can we talk about how fucking cool Jenna and Kurtis look? Like their photos look like an aesthetic 70s glam photoshoot and I’m HERE for it

[@MiotaLee]

It literally could never be me 😭😭😭

[@milamaus]

i was looking for this comment! they slayed and im so happy for them

[@kayisbored1030]

@@whoaitsdanny wdym ”fine”😭 jenna looked amazing. that limo dress was everything! they both looked so dope

[@caseys2698]

THEYRE SO FUCKING GORGEOUS they ate left no crumbs and I hope all their days together are great

[@ytlokop]

RIGHT!!! They looked amazing 😭 I want to dress like that if I ever get married (either outfit would be fine w me)

[@trasheditzz]

Imagine paying that much for a wedding and shit like this happens💀💀💀

[@HumanPerson_final]

Imagine being a guest. Taking a whole day to dress up and travel and be around people you mostly don't know for a wedding you may or may not really care about, but are socially obligated to go to, and the bride and groom themselves openly disrespect the whole event. As someone who hates weddings, I would be so annoyed. I'd be annoyed being there, so double annoyed.

[@CanIswearinmyhandle]

@@HumanPerson_final if the groom did any of this shit at a wedding I'm attending that bride is going to become a widow real fast

[@sierrajohnson717]

Some of those cake messes look like they make a splash zone. I go all out of my way for your special day, Hair makeup and outfit, and then YOUR husband gets cake all over MY DRESS?? I’m fighting your man and then sending a bill for dry cleaning my clothes

[@ReallyNotokay]

Off topic, but omg a kitty pfp

[@trasheditzz]

@@ReallyNotokay OMG emma

[@iLikeBigBotsAndiCanNotLie]

Imagine you’re waiting for a slice of cake you’ve been waiting hours to try and then the groom completely obliterates it

[@EatyourfaceThomas]

I'm going home at that point

[@biggestbeelstan]

@@EatyourfaceThomas fr. mf just put his whole arm through the damn cake??

[@failingbeautifully8139]

I'm walking out. Especially when the groom tossed the entire cake. Like why?

[@daniellecowan459]

See this would actually break my fucking heart like maybe it’s not a good thing but cake is part of my personality. Everyone since middle school knows that I fucking love cake I’ve joked with everyone I’ve dated seriously or non-that we have to go to a cake tasting and pretend that we’re fiancé so I can get some free cake like if you know anything about me you know this particular thing/comfort food is important hell the other day my partner got me extra cake because I was sad that we were waiting for a cab and it was the happiest day of my month. If someone’s did this and I didn’t get to try a cake I’ve been waiting for for fucking years I would literally cry and annul the marriage on the fucking spot. These women need a lot of self-respect or maybe they’re just being classy because guests are around.

[@biggestbeelstan]

@@daniellecowan459 exactly. if anyone did this shit to me the fucking wedding is CANCELLED.

[@Ratleen]

The guy at 4:24 pisses me off so much. It’s such a blatant display of him saying “look how unimportant this is to me!” Like, my brother in Christ, why are you GETTING MARRIED if you don’t care?!

[@jjmetrejhon1743]

I'm sure I saw an AITA where a woman talked about having asked her husband not to smash the cake in her face at the reception. He did it anyway she immediately filed for divorce. You have *got* to be able to trust your spouse, no matter the situation. Very much feeling the wedding-day-behaviour-is-a-litmus-test statement.

[@SpeakNow99]

I was about to reference that same story! Or at least, I think it was the same. I believe the bride had issues with claustrophobia because of an accident she was in when she was younger and that's why she requested no cake smashing. Which was clearly discussed before the wedding, so I can't blame her for getting mad when the groom did it anyway. She had every right to divorce him, honestly. If you can't trust your spouse to keep his word with a little thing like that, how can you trust him at all in the future?

[@Vampress09]

Yes I saw that story too!

[@levar6618]

What is aita?

[@purplehood8418]

@@levar6618it’s best if you don’t know, stay innocent

[@LaurenOliviArt]

@@levar6618it means am I the a**hole?

[@OldManJenkins_]

Kurtis is evolving from an 80s dad to a Barbie movie pony. All with love keep it up man

[@LemonOutOfHell]

Fr tho-

[@KingOfGaymes]

@SafouTop10gkfyou didn’t even spell his name right

[@lletterstomilena]

I love this comment

[@lletterstomilena]

@SafouTop10gkf umm its actually carpet 🤣🤣 spell his name correct

[@OldManJenkins_]

@@lletterstomilena why thank you

[@madisonwood3379]

As a wedding videographer and editor, I am subjected to the worst of the worst of vows and cake cuttings. I also see it as a massive sign when the guy basically makes his wife do the cake cutting alone (like not holding the knife and helping pull the slice out of the cake and onto the plate) and you could say "well he doesn't know what he's doing" But do you think SHE has ever cut a wedding cake either?! That and if the grooms act like they were basically dragged along to their own wedding when uh hey bud, YOU are the one who asked HER to marry YOU!

[@diamondlaviscount8672]

⁠​⁠@damienwonder which still doesnt make it ok. if you have the balls to give someone a "shut up ring" then you should also have the balls to shut up and suck it up for your wedding and for your wife🤷🏽‍♀️ i mean ffs its one day

[@CyberGirl1234]

i feel so sorry for all the brides in this video and in the weddings you've worked. i hope they get out safely.

[@jacforswear18]

⁠@damienwonderit’s a lot easier and cheaper to break up with someone and go live with your mom.

[@siryarianthefirst3360]

for the last point you made, sometimes the groom doesn’t want a wedding and would like to keep things on the down low, but the bride insists on it and so he is basically forced into it. sometimes the groom isn’t the center of attention and the bride doesn’t respect those wishes, other times is the other way around.

[@diamondlaviscount8672]

@@siryarianthefirst3360 so that gives them the right to give awful vows, be aggressive with the cake (and sometimes the bride themselves), and ruin the wedding for both the bride and the guests? if you know that youre not gonna be able to give the person you love a wedding they would enjoy while also being in a good mood, then respectfully you shouldnt be getting married to them. find someone whos on the same page as you🤷🏽‍♀️

[@emilykinsey3810]

i hate the little "haha i'm in trouble" at the end of that cake video. like she's not your mom, she's your wife, and you just assaulted her.

[@MrAshleyjo]

i took a marriage and family class at my college and fun fact: people who smash the cake in the partners face are statistically wayyyy more likely to get divorced

[@666_cthulhu]

not surprising. if a groom can’t even respect his wife in front of dozens - sometimes _hundreds_ - of people, then he probably has no sense of boundaries in private. i find it especially worrying when i see a groom cornering or physically overpowering his wife in order to smash cake in her face cos that’s like…weirdly violent?

[@youtubeuserdan4017]

​@@666_cthulhu It's a straight up disturbing and concerning sight.

[@NadiaSeesIt]

Makes sense. My husband and I gently fed each other small bits of cake and it was really cute. Our guests loved it and the pictures were great. My sister in law told me it was a waste to not smash his face with it. I won't be surprised if she gets divorced someday, honestly. They have a terrible relationship

[@Sleipnirseight]

Uhhhhh.... The man forcefully throwing an entire cake at his wife's head is actually scary. You could see his expression change to actual rage after she smushed the little slice on his cheek. I'm actually concerned for how he is behind closes doors.

[@IHEARTCOQUETTECLOTHES.777]

Yeah like dang chill lol

[@bettedavis45]

By the looks of him, he is likely a steroid user and yeah, no surprise he is aggressive

[@Pragabond]

Yeah I definitely also immediately got the vibe that the guy was somehow legitimately angry about it. Like what a baby bitch dude holy shit

[@cheezbiscuit4140]

Men be like that

[@meowntown69]

Hey, I rewatched this and there's another angle where you can clearly see he's smiling. It's definitely a joke! still not very safe tho

[@PaintingWinterMusic]

He left out step 1 for a successful wedding: find a partner. As far as I've heard, that's an important step.

[@PaintingWinterMusic]

And as someone who's never planning on getting married, this was a great tutorial. Also--shameless plug--I'm hoping some of you might like the music I make too :)

[@Bunny_Bill]

As someone who has never dated I can confirm that finding a partner is required for a wedding

[@avr7120]

sue sylvester would like a word

[@deen7530]

It's not required, though. I threw a successful wedding without finding a partner first, and it worked out great! One of the guests decided to join me at the altar, and we've been married for fifteen years now

[@jessicatgrowl7614]

As someone who has never found anyone I wanted to do that with, it’s important. And not easy. Apparently.

[@emma_nutella58]

If my partner shoved cake in my face, after in specifically told them not to. And ruining my dress and make up, I got all nice and done up for the day. I’m getting an anullement straight up. And they can pay for the wedding they ruined and not getting. That’s a massive red flag and they can deal with the fact they ruined their chances at love

[@hopscotchenthusiast]

Sometimes, it’s okay to not invite the people you love to your weddings. Including the grooms and brides. The show must go on 🤷‍♀️

[@keylies]

LMAOOOOO

[@uglysongsforuglysouls]

Indoor husband

[@big_sea]

yes

[@yukikanegawa7470]

​@@uglysongsforuglysoulsAttic Husband

[@mike90317]

HAHAHAAHAHA

[@TheMakeupChair]

When they throw the cake/wife and then they walk/run away and bridesmaids and mothers usually have to come in and help the bride, I dunno but it makes it so much worse to me when they run away like ‘not my problem…that I just cased…’ the fact that it’s always women coming to the aid of the bride, tells you a lot I think, that’s the life those women will have with those guys. It’s not even playful it’s aggressive, those cakes have pins in then for support, I’m surprised a bride hasn’t lost an eye!

[@zyerkos]

i read an article a few years ago about a groom shoving his wifes face in the cake, straight onto the skewers. it missed the important bits of her eyes but she had to go to the hospital for stitches.. i would not put it past men to literally blind their soon to be wife on their wedding day unfortunately :(

[@omerlatif8109]

do u know what the groom's reaction was or what the article was?@@zyerkos

[@AdamIshak01]

I think people forget or just don’t know some cakes have wood and even metal dowels and plates holding up the layers of cake- especially if it’s a character cake like a popsicle or dolphin they’re going to need hella support without ruining the image of the cake. I haven’t heard of any brides actually being blinded yet (thankfully) but unfortunately it happens alot on birthdays

[@Princessbuttercupish]

@@zyerkos that's legit horrifying.

[@curlyqween34]

I see why women are opting to stay single

[@emmathompson7133]

If my new husband felt comfortable enough to shove me to the ground to be able to get cake on me in front of a group of our closest family and friends I would immediately be out of there. That is not someone who I’m going to be safe with for the rest of my life

[@be_couragous]

yeah like this is a clear indication of what that marriage is gonna be like also abusive for sure

[@FloppityFlopFlop777]

🎯 If he's that aggressive and disrespectful in public on her "big day," you can imagine how badly he must treat her behind closed doors. I seriously doubt these "pranks" are the first time these creeps have done stuff like this to these women. And if they're brainwashed enough to stay, it definitely won't be the last time. Guys like this escalate to worse ab*se.

[@sivialove475]

Exactly lol

[@staceymccann8340]

Men NEED to realize how dangerous smacking cake into a persons face can be especially if it’s a home baker or a large cake. I’ve seen a wooden dowel go into a persons eye! And a girl get a gash on her face from the support between layers when he threw the whole top smh

[@babybutton]

The cake smashing tradition is low key concerning cause anytime I see one where the wife clearly says "Please don't smash cake on my face" and then they still smash the cake in there face it shows me the husband has no boundaries for consent.

[@kimielle]

I'm glad it's a mostly american one, because if someone tried that in my family we'd tie them to a post in the outback and leave them there.

[@babybutton]

@@kimielle yeah I think it’s a cute and harmless tradition if both spouses agree to have it done to one another but it’s definitely an odd one for sure especially if ppl aren’t familiar with it.

[@Widdekuu91]

Also, there is such a difference between smearing some cake on their cheek or nose and kissing it off again, whereas some of these just look like a highschoolbully on meth.

[@eileensnow6153]

@@babybuttonto be fair, there are a lot of customs in American weddings that I, as a born and raised American, don’t understand myself. Like the part where the groom is supposed to duck under his new wife’s dress and remove her garter with his teeth…in front of all of your friends and family?? 🤢

[@saipat9118]

I just saw a comment that said the cake feeding is suppose to signify how the couple will feed each other and that makes it so much worse😭

[@annelixa9]

There was a groom that shoved his bride's face INTO the cake. He didn't know that there were wooden skewers in it to hold up the layers and he nearly put her eye straight through one. It missed by less than an inch but they stabbed her face in several places. She was bleeding like crazy and I think needed stitches. She divorced him when she was out of the hospital. The pictures of her face were BAD.

[@JuliaEDahlgren]

Yes, there have been cases where people are literally blinded (either from wedding cake or birthday cake skewers). It's just an awful prank. If you want to prank/surprise your spouse I swear there are better ways.

[@user-tu2qb3fk9t]

do you have a link to an article or something? i always get curious hearing stuff like this and want to see the pictures myself :p

[@krisrunedelta]

Ever since I heard that story, I've been too scared to watch any cake face smashing videos😢. Never liked them but that's so scary

[@marcelacavalheiro2412]

Jfc, fuck men like these. They deserve to be alone forever. Women deserve better.

[@wwxluvr2643]

@@user-tu2qb3fk9tayo? 🤨

[@aqua_lala]

My husband and I very gently and respectfully (because we love each other, go figure) fed each other cake at our wedding, and I kid you not - everyone was mad and made sure to tell us how disappointed they were that we didn't have a cake fight.

[@girl-fromthemoon]

Yall need better friends lol 😢

[@EyelessAugust]

Throw cake in their face next time you see them :) Not so fun when THEY experience it

[@gabrielaharries8149]

​@@EyelessAugustomg that's such a good idea, anyone who complains gets his cake personally delivered and gets his face smashed in, by cake of course

[@alexisb3829]

My mom and dad have been together for 28 years and they very lovingly fed each other cake. No smashes. It’s the key

[@firestarhk3875]

“You guys have a healthy relationship why did we even come” 😞🍰 👊 Seriously though, that’s obnoxious 😐

[@ShuggaMug]

I told my husband when we were preparing for our wedding, " I really don't like that cake smashing tradition. Can we please not do that?" On our wedding day he still smashed cake in my face. I was so shocked. Many decades later it came up in conversation and I asked him why he did that even though I had asked him not to. He just said "I felt like that's what everyone wanted." Our marriage was awful for a long time and it's a miracle we are still happily Married today. And I'm not exaggerating... It's a real miracle

[@jupiter_jazz]

wedding cakes are like $1000, i would be so pissed if my partner smashed the whole cake. not even a “we have to have a talk later” type of mad, a full on “i’m saying fuck in front of grandma” mad. i just can’t even believe the audacity of these men ruining their celebration like that, like what runs through their heads? are they too lost in the sauce or what??? great video kurtis, glad that you had two lovely weddings and i wish you and jenna all the best, as usual ❤️

[@genericname2747]

If my husband ruined our cake I'd cut him up and serve him as dessert instead

[@LeilaleilaZ]

My thoughts too! When he said the cakes cost hundreds I went, oh no, go a little higher than that. Multiple thousands lol

[@xletragedyx]

Saying fuck in front of grandma lmao. I would be "finish the wedding and reception then not file the marriage license" mad

[@ghoultooth]

Most cakes I’ve seen have been in the $200-$300 range, no idea where you’re seeing these really expensive cakes. Tbf though, I’d be happy with a caterpillar cake at my wedding 😂

[@liviwaslost]

I would be pissed because my makeup and hair got fucked up. Also I absolutely detest any food on my hands and face. I’m a very forgiving person generally but I could never forgive this kind of sin.

[@becca53444]

What I pictured the cake smashing tradition to be: Cutely smearing a dab of icing on each other’s noses and lips. Reality: Wrestling the bride to the ground and throwing the entire cake at her head.

[@evieblue959]

I have witnessed the version you imagined. It was adorable. Some people do manage it.

[@Sticker_By_NCT_127]

This is kinda unrelated but as a half Mexican, at almost every kid's birthday party there is a similar tradition where you shove the kid's face into the cake. Growing up, it is embarrassing to me that I found this kind of stuff entertaining because not only is it actually dangerous, but now that I think of it, most of the time the kid just falls to peer pressure by family members chanting... so I am _beyond_ delighted that these idiots do the same thing 🙄

[@anna.owo.]

This!!!! This iss what i imagine, something which is cute, easy to clean and then you can give a small kiss. Not destroying the make up and cake.

[@howfantastica]

I have to admit, reading that the first time was a little funny, but i do genuinely agree; just somewhat smearing cake around the mouth or nose is obviously fine and adorable, not assaulting your wife or partner with the ENTIRE DAMN CAKE

[@Lilian040210]

Smash cake to establish dominance. Quite literally I'm afraid. Took 30 years and hours upon hours of horse videos for me to make sense that all the bullying behaviours are literally just an instinct to show dominance

[@rawrlette33]

This gives me the same energy as the dads in gender reveals looking either disappointed or completely ignoring their wives to celebrate the reveal with the boys

[@aA-hq4km]

Yeah I personally think that people who are so interested in the gender of their child before it's even born and even worst are disappointed if its not the gender thy hoped for should just not have kids at all

[@Ally_.271]

“BLOODY CAKE SMASH 🇬🇧💂‍♀️”

[@rosemary3029]

BLOODY CAKE SMASH(literally)

[@kewl_wizard4305]

I want to mention how dangerous smashing or throwing the full cake can be. My aunt runs a business that makes wedding cakes and I’ve helped her a lot growing up, and if some cakes or decorations are so big they need to have dowels, (which is basically like some small poles to help support and distribute the weight on the cake). Some are made out of harder materials than others obviously, some of the main dowels my aunt used for a while were made out of wood. There’s also different thicknesses that dowels are used in depending on the size of the wedding cake, so it can be dangerous smashing or throwing a cake because of the dowels.

[@lunaskisses]

YES! can take out an eye or kill someone. all these cake guys are abusive. punching, pushing, and throwing things at people is assault and they could all be charged.

[@goosehonk6097]

This is a great point I hadn’t considered. I was mostly thinking that so much money just pissed away

[@soulgazer11]

It's like the whole, don't throw snow at people's faces cause there could be a rock in the snowball.

[@callmedisappointment]

Some cakes even have toothpicks to hold in fondant flowers or even real flowers, My mom started telling the customers to avoid biting into the cake “MORDIDA” so they wouldn’t hurt themeselves

[@gaygrim]

​@@lunaskisses completely agree

[@kathrynclaire25]

Interesting how the women are playful and the men are AGGRESSIVE. How are these behaviors overlooked to the point of agreeing to marriage?

[@mintyhippo8125]

Many times the guy will say, “it’s just a joke.” Or “I didn’t hit you that hard” or “you should’ve made me angry.” And blame the partner, and if a close friend or family member says something, the abused partner may get defensive and explain away the behavior using the abusive partner’s reason. It’s not that it isn’t noticed before, but it is minimized. (Sometimes even the people the abused partner goes to for advice will normalize it and minimize it too) It is possible that it changes over time or they only dated for a short period.

[@CodenamePrince]

Gaslighting is an art form

[@squidee]

Super duper red flag

[@grazielaalmeida8438]

This is the concervative values wich ocidental world was built upon, men are supposed to be nochalant or agressive and women are supposed to be lovely and emphatetic, those are the differences that complet each other.

[@keepingupwithkye]

@@grazielaalmeida8438you couldn’t be any more WRONG. People need help ! They shouldn’t be getting married! No emotional intelligence AT ALL!!

[@nobodysXghost]

The husband giving the newborn a swirlie is too spot on… most dads like this are their kids first bully

[@brehdude]

my dad just made me play pokemon fire red and made me watch him play final fantasy 9 (not against my willl)

[@minazire]

@@brehdudeomg my dad loved to play ff9 too

[@cosmicreef5858]

that is horrifying and disgusting

[@amymak93]

Thank god my dad is the sweetest, most respectful guy. I’d hate to have been raised by someone like the men in the video.

[@Foreverbabironi]

My dad was my first bully, bulling became somewhat of way to show love for me. It’s some unlearning I’m still working on 😢

[@leto1596]

7:28 that is a ridiculously cool photo btw

[@clawdibabe7949]

It's because these men do not love their wives, they do not care about their feelings or costs/efforts their wives go to for the weddings. I'm genuinely terrified for these women.

[@womenstriving8960]

They hate women, just want a live in maid and sex toy

[@felicitydeikos5250]

When marriage isn't taken seriously.

[@Vivi_Pallas]

Of course not. We're not people, we're just tools for their masculinity and status symbols. I love being treated as an object!

[@sparkierss3189]

i think thats a very large leap in logic to make

[@womenstriving8960]

@@sparkierss3189 give an explanation for this then.

[@jarancrane2462]

My cousin ruined his wedding before it started. He was telling his groomsmen how he doesnt 'go down' on her because he's a king while the bride was getting ready. Word got to her, and the wedding was canceled within half an hour.

[@666_cthulhu]

he totally deserved it 💀 disrespecting your bride isn’t very kingly behavior if you ask me

[@specializedchemicals6669]

deserved. she dodged a bullet w t f

[@MattJDave]

Why tf would you brag about that lmao 'My imminent wife ain't ever getting sexually satisfied because I'm a dick! Pretty cool amirite?'

[@OhHiNebulae]

can't believe she would agree to marry a man who wouldn't go down on her in the first place tbh

[@jessieg1300]

Is your cousin dj khalid 💀

[@ajthewildwolf]

I once heard this story of a bride and groom that got divorced on their wedding day after the reception. She asked him specifically not to shove cake in her face and he decided it would be hilarious to shove her head into the cake. She was lucky that it was a fairly simple cake because people have gone blind after being shoved into cakes with dowels in them

[@alexwyatt2911]

That story was disturbing. He held the back of her head to make sure she couldn’t get away. I was nauseated by the look on his face while he did it.

[@secretlybees]

@@alexwyatt2911 Didn't he also hold her there for an uncomfortably long time, some light suffocation

[@noriii]

where can I read this story I'm curious now

[@Deduco]

​@@noriiiFor me, i found the article in The Independent. It was called "Bride asks for divorce a day after wedding due to groom's cake prank"

[@jadewolf22]

I feel like that article title could make people think the bride was just being too sensitive or something which is a bummer because to me it’s not just about this one small cake incident- it’s about the fact that you give someone who supposedly loves you a firm boundary and they literally trample all over it and in fact go even further than normal just to spite you and your boundary. And that to me, is the part worth the divorce, not the cake messing up my makeup or hair

[@AsheReads]

My partner and I make spicy jokes to each other a bunch, but if he did shit like that during our wedding, i'd be walking out before saying "I do"

[@marielhaynes]

i would be horrified if the man i just married, cornered me and then TACKLED me to the ground. my heart goes out to all of these women

[@chrystianaw8256]

Same

[@gokuxsephiroth4505]

I couldn't even imagine my fiance doing that in our upcoming wedding. Like, it would not even cross his mind, I'm pretty sure.

[@MaryArts]

If my partner would be so afraid to run away from me, my heart would drop. I would never want to see them like this.

[@marcelacavalheiro2412]

Mine too!

[@marielhaynes]

@@MaryArts another really good point! no sane person would see their partner in that state and continue doing what's making them feel that way.

[@HeisenbergFam]

Hearing Kurtis had a nice wedding puts a smile on my face, nice to see wedding expert on the topic

[@-Z-th2rq]

I love you heisenbergfam

[@indebt098]

I swear if this isn’t a bot, they just comment on videos all day. But it’s definitely a bot

[@ecliiipsssse]

@@indebt098 must be a really good bot

[@bunnyhopped4327]

GET OUT OF MY HEAD

[@hannigram_canon]

omg its you

[@yeehaw357]

As an event/wedding captain and coordinator, you can always tell how long a marriage is going to last based on cake cutting alone. Cake cutting ceremonies in weddings can be very controversial and this is well known in the wedding industry that cake smashing is a bad sign. Typically (based off of my experience and what I have seen and heard from couples as well as wedding photographers), the more a groom tries to humiliate a bride during any part of the wedding, but especially during the cake cutting, the more toxic the relationship is. So far every single wedding I've done where the cake smashing was any more than a little frosting on the nose, the couple is now divorced.

[@Random-sk6hm]

There's actually research on this which shows a direct correlation between cake smashing and increased likelihood of domestic violence as well as an increased likelihood of divorce

[@sharpeningtheaxe]

@@Random-sk6hm where is this research? Link it, please.

[@sharpeningtheaxe]

I’ve seen someone else say this, too. Is it typical for event coordinators to keep long-term tabs on every marriage of people they coordinate for?

[@ragged2233]

@@sharpeningtheaxeI remember hearing stories of wedding coordinators and venue staff being able to determine a wedding just by the cake cutting, so pretty common.

[@tonycowin]

I guess as 50% of marriages fail you could say weddings cause divorce.

[@lauryncortiaus9767]

1:47 Just wanted to add that bro didn’t even bother actually making a vow to his wife, he deadass just said what he wants her to do as his wife for him💀

[@toothcruncher]

someone else pointed it out in the comments but i’d like to echo it: isn’t it funny (infuriating) how brides are typically portrayed as unreasonable during weddings, like bridezillas, but theres no equivalent for unreasonable, awful, borderline to straight up ab*sive grooms, even though this kinda stuff is like.. super common?

[@colleenorourke6934]

🤔 ...Brozilla?

[@oliverfulayter5515]

​@@colleenorourke6934Groomzilla?

[@demo2823]

I was my sister's wedding planner. It was an outdoor wedding and I was having trouble getting the wedding arch fabric to stay in place. The photographer had put pressure on me because the wedding walk needed to happen on 'golden hour.' So here I am trying to tie the cloth to a flower basket full of stones, but the wind shakes the basket around. "Why don't you put rocks in the basket?" the photographer asked. I was panicking and trying not to cry so I slightly hysterically said, "I already did!" He took such a shocked, disgusted step back, muttered, "bridesmaidzilla," and left me there. Maybe instead of calling people irrational for being overwhelmed, the person being Paid to make the wedding look good should help out?

[@vampirecat8256]

​@oliverfulayter5515 there's an option to translate this to English and all that changes is the space??? Like how can a space be language specific😭? It's not even like the space shrinks, it just becomes more space

[@beekute8216]

when you think about it bridezillas most of the time are just women who don't want the +32k dollars they spent on their wedding to go to waste, so they're very stressed because they want everything to look good

[@greatestever247]

This makes me really sad…. I am currently going divorcing my soon-to-be ex husband , & this just brought me back to my traumatic marriage.. ladies. Please, never ever ignore the red flags. Marriage never fixes problems, it makes it worse.

[@TheSuperNats]

I’m so sorry that you had to endure a horrible marriage. Happy that you’re freeing yourself!!

[@GenderedMess]

Hope you're doing okay, glad you're getting a divorce.

[@kingofpizzarolls5693]

I hope things are going well now

[@you_ok186]

Exactly! Marriage never fixes problems for anyone, it should be based on compatibility, orientation and kindness. Marrying wrong someone can give unbearable trauma forever. I hope you are doing well, your mental health is ok. We can't change/fix others and ourselves for them either. This is a very big misconception nowadays that leads to many abuses.

[@stanktaint15]

Yeah same here, but it was with my ex-wife The most traumatic experience she gave me was when she said she didn't want to sign a prenup

[@DollfaceLizkah]

Theres actually a study on these people and cake smashing proves a greater risk of DV in the marriage. Men like this are abusers who know how to keep it covert. I cant even imagine treating my soon to be husband like this and i know he'd never do it to me either. Its really sickening

[@Victoria42armstrong]

Not sure they were covert

[@kb7633]

Congrats on the engagement, by the way!!!

[@Random-sk6hm]

No way that's actually so interesting. Also congrats and good luck!

[@sonorasgirl]

I was a DV counselor, and tbh that was my first thought - the “if they’re doing this in public, what’s it like in private?” Didn’t lead me to home alone shenanigans….

[@sharpeningtheaxe]

Please link the study or edit your comment. If there has ever been any research on this it isn’t easily accessible, and spreading misinformation is not ethical.

[@xiletelo]

The cake smashing thing is actually very dangerous. Because bakers use wooden dowels to hold together tiered cakes. If you smash someone's face into a cake like that they could get impaled in the face with one of those dowels. I believe someone lost an eye that way.

[@augusthawley5504]

my aunt and uncle did a pre-planned cake smash because they're both very big on extravegant jokes and just messing around, but my aunt didn't have professionally done makeup for her wedding and they were both in different outfits for their reception. they had discussed it from the very beginning because it was something they wanted to do for pictures and just for fun, but avoid ruining the expensive cake, expensive clothes, etc. i understand why some people find it funny if both agree on it, but to me so many of these videos just scream "i don't actually want to get married". normally the brunt of wedding planning is pushed onto the bride and then to purposefully throw a wrench into things when you get to the part where the stress is finally supposed to be ending is just so mean. i just don't understand why anyone would want to purposefully upset the person you're marrying

[@FileCode1459]

now that you've mentioned the thing with the bride usually planning the wedding, i suppose those guys also don't understand and don't really care about all the effort that went behind each thing, including the cake. plus, it must be part of the "joke" to ruin something your partner has worked so hard for, even though that's such an asshole thing to do (genuinely it pisses me off, i really don't udnerstand why you'd want to upset someone you're supposed to love)

[@laurtheonly4980]

I told my husband I really didn’t want cake smashed in my face at our reception. He’s definitely the joker out of the two of us but I trusted him to respect me. He did; but he did squish a cupcake on our daughters face. I was so worried she would be upset but they had talked about it beforehand. Get you a man that respects boundaries y’all.

[@uselessmonster8985]

honestly a cute homage to the cake smashing tradition while respecting everyone's boundaries. good on your husband

[@demo2823]

That's actually so cute (if you talk to her about it earlier) because not only is your daughter getting a moment to feel like a bride when the tradition was spent on her, but a little girl probably isn't wearing makeup, and also wouldn't mind licking sweet stuff off her face. I think we should start making flower girls face the cake smash if they want to.

[@RenopunkJo]

The bar is in hell

[@Random-sk6hm]

@@uselessmonster8985 Wait cake smashing is a tradition?

[@joslynk9951]

@@RenopunkJoright like y'all cannot be serious 😭

[@2yearsentence968]

I recently got married to the sweetest man I’ve ever met and on our wedding day when it came to the cake cutting, everyone was yelling at us to smash the cake on each other and it was the most obnoxious thing ever. We just cut our cake and gave it each other without having to ruin each other’s clothes or makeup and everyone was so disappointed, kind of funny though

[@nk-62782]

Aww, congratulations!!

[@caffeinatedkatie4696]

Someone yelled that out at my wedding and me, the groom and my sister all said in unison NO. That cake was GONE. We didn't do the anniversary piece, which I kinda regret

[@catdownthestreet]

Social pressure is quite an interesting phenomenon.

[@whitedogsblackcats]

I think that shows off your strength though, neither of you to not give into peer pressure and not give a f if it disappoints guest. Congratulations ❤

[@LuvFearlessly]

Why do people think something so disrespectful is normal and funny