Guessing ~Strangers~ Sexualities (aka testing my gaydar)

[@marliesd5830]

It's Alayna's gayest outfit, because it's one of her favorite outfits and when you're feeling great in a fit, your gay power increases by ten points

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

you get it

[@martinsakmens8352]

Good morning alyana yoy❤❤❤

[@JayHendrixx]

Hey! I’m the trans guy in this video!! 😆 love your content - thanks so much for reacting to us ✨💖✨ Also yeah all of us had the same reaction to the girl with the undercut 😂 she’s the most bisexual straight girl I’ve ever met 😂😂

[@Steertanzer]

My first reaction to her was "100% straight, but also 100% weeb or video game nerd". Shame I'll never know 😂

[@Lolajoy27]

Before I've watched the results, I think the Magenta Suit Lady (MSL) is either a chaotic Bisexual or a chaotic Ally. Either way I love her, LONG LIVE MAGENTA SUIT LADY!!

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

LONG LIVE MAGENTA SUIT LADY INDEED

[@zhenia2511]

The lady in magenta suit is so sweet. Her presence would brighten up everybody's day.

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

giving gay aunt

[@2nd3rd1st]

"Blocking straight people is for gay rights" hell yeah edit fairy!

[@kdkorz10211]

Honestly, I wish real life had an option to not see or be seen by straight people sometimes.

[@flerblomshonung]

I always thought the writings in Alayna's videos where her own thoughts after filming but now I realized it's the editor commenting on what Alayna is saying. How cool! :D

[@skallywalla502]

Loved this, especially the editor's commentary 😂

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

he's an editing genius

[@rebeccawiens4224]

As an asexual person who fits into all the most common Ace boxes, I love seeing diverse Ace experiences. The Ace spectrum is a lot more broad than most imagine. Also, I wear black and white rings (when I'm in a safe environment to do so) to represent my Ace and Aro identities. To most people it's just jewelry, but to people who know, it can mean everything.

[@arzutarannum4543]

Being a straight passing lesbian teenager, I had to cut my hair short to feel gay and to present like one. But as I have grown up, I realized I'm gay Regardless. I did feel comfortable and confident in my short hair but I was feminine regardless cause people be forgetting it's a lesbian person regardless. I'm growing my hair out now and I love it

[@gloomysunday9534]

i dont know if you ever did one but it would be cool if you guessed your subscribers sexuality 😅🖤

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

oh this is a hilarious and dangerous idea

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

@@AlaynaJoyOfficial No cheating by reading the comments or profile. Just from submitted pictures. So people can either try to help you guess right or try to fool you.

[@hi-yo1kq]

That’s such a cool idea!

[@UltraPrimal]

8:39 True. HRT can change your sexuality. And it's not just testosterone. For example, I'm a trans woman. Before being on estrogen, I would have considered myself more bi/pan. After being on it for a year and a half, I'd still consider myself pan, but I'm definitely leaning more towards the lesbian side/attraction to femme people. On the other hand, the trans woman at my trans clinic had the opposite experience. So she was more attracted to women prior to transitioning, but became more bi/attracted to men after transitioning.

[@MarioEstevez-re1us]

Let's pretend we don't have any established institution of science and live in a tribe of 100 ppl. we want to develop spoken language , and so we use language to map on to material reality. out of the 100 ppl it seems like the biggest difference is split down the middle, so you adopt the terms male and female. 1000 years later ppl get really confused and they make up a word that describes the "societal roles of men and women" divorced from material reality. well you have a problem in that the terms male and female and all other terms that are determined by this binary refer to an observable material reality, not chromosomes because in this hypothetical we don't have science. so you use the terms to refer to the societal roles of people or rather something that is not based in material reality, but the problem is that those terms are based on how someone looks and thats the only thing they are based on. Therefore you cannot get past the fact that any terms that refer to ppl's "sex" DO actually indicate societally imposed roles--and the roles are that you look either male or female. the "social construction" IS the social construction of the sex binary, absent of any scientific findings. there is nothing else to these terms. if you are a male the social construction of your identity is that you are male, so strictly speaking it's categorical so being transgender makes no sense . for example, you could play for the Lakers and then later go play for the Miami Heat--the social construction of you is that sequentially you played for the Lakers and although you would go on to play for the Heat, at no point prior to that was the social construction of your identity that you were a Miami Heat player, even if you wanted to play for them your whole life.

[@twildabuckingham]

I thought gender and sexuality were completely different things. If you feel comfortable to share more, please do. I'd be curious to understand a bit more. Thanks!

[@Steertanzer]

Also a thing that often changes for people during their menstrual cycle! It's common to be more attracted to "masculine" traits during ovulation, for example. (For me personally, it means I am attracted to men literally only ONE day every month 😂 But for many it's more subtle, like being more drawn to deeper voices or things like that) Being on birth control pills can also change your attraction pattern!

[@Luke-Rick]

8:32 I'm also laughing in "trans man liking SO many guys" 😂😂

[@TransGuyShane]

I'm glad they included the trans guy tbh ❤️ It's super interesting to me (as a trans guy) the whole testosterone and attraction to guys thing that you spoke about. I originally came out as bi , then a lesbian, then a straight trans guy, then I realised I was on the ace spectrum, but eventually I figured out I was bi the whole time , just I was a bi guy not a bi gal lol I am a proud trans man who is demisexual bisexual and it took a while to figure out but I am so much more comfortable within myself now I figures it out ♡ This video was great as always ❤❤

[@user-324-v3e]

I always feel so validated as a bi ace. ✌

[@ArtichokeHunter]

lol no one would say indigo girls and melissa etheridge unless they want to be perceived as queer

[@kapowjam3462]

I stan Alayna stanning asexuality. Also the black ring on the right middle finger is definitely a thing! Although I went with silver bc I really just like silver rings so much better than black 😹 it's my biggest asexual failing.

[@Becca-llama]

My ring is the asexual flag, it's OK! Black is just a starting point :)

[@MarioEstevez-re1us]

​@@Becca-llama asexual is not real but ok

[@_asantesana_squashbanana_]

@@MarioEstevez-re1us mind your manners bigot.

[@clairebriggs4333]

I literally have the same hair as the blue haired person. When you said "come on lesbian, lesbian" I have never been so seen. 😁 Thank you 🤣🤣

[@Mandyb05]

I like being educated and this taught me something I didn't completely know about asexuality(and it made total sense) , so thank you Alayna for opening my mind a little more today.

[@sorapokeball]

Miles McKenna put out a video on the T to liking men pipeline; I'll do my best to relay the info, I'm sorry if I don't word it quite right. The leading theory is that being with men pre-transition ties into gender dysphoria (since it's expected of them to be with men because of their AGAB). So once they're further into their transition and dealing with less dysphoria, they can explore more without feeling like they're betraying themselves. Also! Dysphoria causes a lot of depression and that suppresses so many things about yourself.

[@xoyouaremysunshinexo]

This is my letter to the editor: thank you for letting me know OKC allows you to block straight people lmao. That's great to know

[@AndreLei1982]

Alayna doing the Oprah thing: You‘re gay, you’re gay, everyone‘s gay!

[@dominiqueeden]

10:39 “you’re lying about the he!!” it’s giving Alayna taddling on her sibling (person in the video) whose vehemently denying any wrong doing to her parents (us viewers) 😂💀

[@knitwitchcraftingpodcast]

thank you for the asexual elaboration, i feel acknowledged

[@Rainbow_Warrior_Princess]

That was not right though, of course asexual people CAN have sex, but they DON'T, because they DON'T WANT Sex - that is why they are ASEXUAL aka NO SEX DRIVE. People with a LOW SEX DRIVE that just don't often or rarely have sex are NOT ASEXUAL !

[@mikrokosmos1887]

it's not giving gay it's giving ex-mormon I'm screaming

[@luizpedrodasilvaabruzzi565]

I appreciate you too Alayna.

[@gwenjulianna2372]

In regards to attraction changing when you start T, it's also a similar experience for trans women starting E. I don't think it's our sexuality changing, so much as we feel more comfortable in our bodies once we have the right hormonal balance. For me, I was kind of attracted to men before hrt, but it didn't feel right while I was living as a man. Once I transitioned, it felt so much more right to be a woman attracted to a man. Not to mention just feeling so much more comfortable in my sexuality in general.

[@isabellemyzer1807]

Lol I'm goth-punk and straight. I think people just feel more drawn to dressing boldly if they're used to not fitting in just in general. Or again, everyone likes something different, it doesn't have to mean anything

[@octoberrose243]

WHAT HAPPENED TO THE COUGH? HOW LONG HAS IT BEEN GONE? AM I THE ONLY ONE JUST NOTICING NOW?

[@aquamarine3699]

OMG UR RIGHT

[@majesticwyrm]

Not gonna lie, when you said "He's not giving queer, he's giving...ex-mormon" I lost it.

[@moonlit.luthor]

Alayna has easily become my comfort KZbinr!! Ty for the good content!! 💓

[@emilyd4230]

I didn't know that about blocking the straights on OKC! informative :)

[@Orange_creamsicle]

I appreciate that they have asexual representation, but for many some still have a separate orientation of homo, hetero, or pan and could also look different for romantic v sexual attraction

[@tutcarmoon]

Thank you for the Ace rant Alayna! Feeling seen 💜🤍🩶🖤

[@jenniferw5648]

Straight but loves cartoons 😂😂😂😂😂

[@Happynick88]

These videos are always great! I appreciate, as always, you commentary! (Including pausing to talk about how being ace doesn't necessarily mean the person doesn't have sex.)

[@canadianicedragon2412]

As someone with no... skill... I'm glad I'm not guessing online and waiting to see Alayna react to the reveals... The Alayna-isms in this was well worth the watch.

[@leolovsen1448]

The volume in the clip and the volume of Alayna was much better ~evened out~ now, thank youuuuuu❤

[@tremkl]

Alayna: Because someone has sex multiple times a week doesn’t mean they’re not asexual. People are all different. Also Alayna: Look at those shoes. Gay! 😂 I gotta say, including people who are still exploring their sexuality hugely ramped up both the trickery and the education. Remember, folks, sexuality isn’t set in stone. People are always changing and learning more about themselves. 🏳️‍🌈

[@Steertanzer]

For the first time, I got all of them right! Mormon guy and pink suit woman were a bit confusing at first glance but made total sense when you heard their experiences!

[@scubagoldfish45]

IT'S SCIENCE

[@swiftie4856]

I learned a lot abt asexuality today. Now that I think abt it makes a lot of sense but it never really crossed my mind

[@lydiacochrane706]

Alayna you’re so funny I was crying laughing at the ex Mormon joke

[@suzanne8024]

YES ACE REPRESENTATION!! 🤍🖤💜

[@Steertanzer]

THANK YOU for speaking up on misconceptions about asexuality! 👏❤

[@pipinghotcoffeee]

"i better get insurance" 👀🤣🤣

[@tall_redhead4940]

Ashley would be proud of the end of this video 😂

[@sierralynn4021]

THE VALIDATION FROM "SUPER LESBIAN" AS A LESBIAN WITH THE ENTIRE UNDERSIDE OF HER HEAD SHAVED SURPASSES ANY OTHER VALIDATION IVE EVER RECEIVED😂

[@mailyak442]

17:43 omg I really thought you would’ve known that! Learn something every day 🤩

[@dominiqueeden]

19:20 People pleaser Alayna rearing her beautiful beautiful head. Alayna if people missed the deadline they missed the deadline that’s okay. 😅❤

[@kaixavier2]

Yes, I have been on T for a year and 3 weeks. I knew I was bi before T, but I had a stronger attraction to women. Now, being on T my attraction towards men has skyrocketed(I HATE IT, not literal but literal iykyk). It sucks because being NB/trans masc I’m TERRIFIED of pregnancy and I don’t trust condoms or birth control pills either so💀😭

[@octoberrose243]

Alayna at 15:40 is the exact same Alayna who's always asking Dani (spelling?) to cut stuff off the pod.

[@TiasTravels]

"straight but loves cartoons" RESONATED as a queer person who works in animation 😂

[@genderisahoax06]

"straight but loves cartoons" hehehe :)

[@Sanne78]

I aspire to be just like Magenta Suit Lady, she's amazing 💓

[@LexiBear99]

I know about the ace black ring thing (I'm bi ace), but I didn't notice it on her hand haha.

[@texasproud3332]

Alayna you are hilarious thank you for the video

[@lovelight8722]

Alayna, you were so chaotic this video 😂. Your gaydar was ALL OVER the place 😂

[@2nd3rd1st]

I actually learned something new today, thanks

[@alexelion7084]

I knew about the ace ring, I just didn’t see it 😅

[@veronica_sawyer_1989]

@NotVille_ what

[@conlon4332]

8:10 The way she says "I didn't know" really sounded like a 2 year old. I'm sorry, it just did, but it was really cute!

[@XimeNox]

Loved the video! Loved the ace representation! Just wanted to add that non asexual people are sometimes called zedsexual (just like a and z are opposite in the alphabet! So even if the guess was wrong, I liked that comment). Also Ace Ring!!! Love it 💜🖤🤍

[@hi-yo1kq]

Was not expecting the mom joke at the end🤣

[@abigailwebb101]

My best friend is trans and he just recently started T at 14 and he’s gay. He’s always been attracted to guys, he has had 2 girlfriends but always considered them as friends in his mind when it’s not what it looked like on the outside. So idk what that dude was talking about 😂 luv you Alayna❤ your videos always make my day ❤❤❤

[@sorapokeball]

Me, glancing at my mom's ashes whenever someone makes a "your mom" joke.

[@marly24]

Alayna not knowing the indigo girls is criminal im gen z and even I know their stuff babes listen to closer to fine asap

[@felixhenson9926]

Queer person who uses OKC mostly bc it's way queerer than lots of the other dating apps (ESP Tinder but maybe not Feeld or Bumble)

[@beauregarden]

13:39 😂 stop attacking me please 🤣 When I came out and my mum said she already knew I was gay and I asked "how?" the first thing she said was "the hair." (the second was "the cats." 😂) I dunno though, I had a fair few friends who thought I was 100% straight before I came out (in spite of the overwhelming evidence to the contrary). So in answer to your question Alayna: 'Not all undercuts...' 🤣

[@cove_mallak]

Alayna you feel like home. You’re just so safe when you talk to the camera (us/me) being super validating. You got me through all the rough days when my surroundings were unsafe. Random video to say this on I know but thank you. ❤️‍🩹

[@joojoobeez]

Loved the sex-favorable ace representation in this, and love seeing all the comments talking about how they learned something new!

[@sake3857]

"Lesbian! ... super lesbian!!" xD

[@drskelebone]

I love @12:11 when the guy, Alayna, and I all come to the exact same conclusion. XD

[@SarahParrilla-ti3uz]

i'm a non binary lesbian who's debated if i want to go on t & you just made me realize NO from that comment that it can cause attraction to men. I was leaning towards no since I don't want to turn into my dad and just be more androgynous but i can't effect the results i'd get and now I know for sure NO lmfao

[@rain.742]

red flags, green flags? Alana, RAINBOW FLAGS

[@mpk1731]

indigo girls are like the most lesbian band to ever lesbian!!!!! (also I know you know an indigo girls song because you've seen the barbie movie--closer to fine is the indigo girls!)

[@melissaeastridge7402]

People always mistake my name for Melissa Etheridge but it’s Eastridge😭

[@lilithjesus7718]

I always up my gaydar vibration when i watch some Alayna Joy content 🌈 😇 😈

[@katpocalypsemeow4554]

I'd be horrible to have do something like this lol. I'd answer "I don't know" to every single person. And if that wasn't an option I'd guess queer for everyone cause fuck heteronormativity 😛

[@randomscr1bble]

first! I love your videos so much

[@stephtaylor6292]

We all took that as a W ..😌 we all took that as a W! .... Btw may I say you are looking luminous Alayna.

[@LycorisWebb]

This isn’t really the same thing since I’m not on HRT, but I’ve noticed that ever since I’ve started figuring out I’m enby, my attraction to men has skyrocketed. Before when I thought I was just bi, I had a major preference for women and femme presenting people, and had a hard time being attracted to men at all. Now that’s almost completely flipped around.

[@gingercore69]

found my new favorite channel... to think i found you because of your jiujitsu video... i wonder if you will do more martial arts too, it looked like fun

[@ausyg2182]

I’m ace and I actually put my black ring on the middle finger of my left hand

[@gaming_g0ddess518]

Before watching: alright another video to brighten my day 😁

[@gaming_g0ddess518]

After watching:Ah yes nothing like watching one of Ms Joy's video's to get me in a good mood to not sleep tonight

[@fragayzeichen]

17:37 the ace rings are really neat but did you also know that there is a similar thing for aro folks? Just with a white ring on the left middle finger instead

[@lilchihuahua7753]

16:11 I actually teared up a little bit, I think I needed to hear that ❤

[@bonesbeans6053]

the black ring on the middle finger on the right hand is ace and a white ring on the middle finger of the left hand is an aro thing :D

[@lincymoonen228]

Okay so for the trans man liking guys after starting testosterone. I am a queer trans guy and i can almost definitely say it has to do with being comfortable enough to actually allow attraction to men to be an attraction instead of only jealousy. The classic do i want to be him or be with him? The answer for transguys that are not comfortable is be him. But after they get comfortable 😏

[@jackson01357]

I mean, Koach isn't exactly incorrect, because he didn't say they don't exist. He said he doesn't meet trans men that likes guys. Aka, his experience.

[@louisejohnson6057]

Since Covid, I don't shake hands anymore. I always hated it, and now I can use Covid as my reason for not doing it anymore!

[@Stile4aly]

Straight but loves cartoons is officially a sexuality now. Edit - And so is Straight but ex Mormon.

[@tiffanyleenders3370]

Just broke up with my girlfriend 😢very happy with you video. It’s a happy distraction from al the sadness 😢❤

[@aerie_rei]

The femme in pink... 😍

[@emmablitch8949]

You are so stunning!!💗💗

[@randytracy1742]

Are you having fun with this,Alayna? I liked the video-kooks looks like some people have the mistaken notion that other persons are who they are but By their clothes but are told otherwise-it’s a great lesson for us To learn- good video, anyway!!😊😊

[@aliviafletcher8926]

BAHAHA THE OUTRO IS KILLING ME

[@austinwayne8137]

As a trans man, can confirm testosterone has heightened my attraction to men ten fold. I was fully into woman only before transition. I am with a woman but definitely find myself being very physically and sexually attracted to men. Would like to add I am still full 100% attracted to women as well, just feeling bi. I guess.

[@nokiddingbrainless]

My first guess about the guy in the purple shirt was: that's a bisexual woman's fluffy haired gamer boyfriend. I'm so confused about Koach not having seen trans men who are into men irl? I know so many trans men and literally all of them are bi, and the one who isn't is gay lol. I'm sure straight trans men exist, I just haven't met any of them lol

[@MossyBear]

I love these videos, and I'm wheezing over you hanging your head in shame. Yes, Alayna, sometimes queer women marry men and stay with them for over a decade!!!

[@candycopeland3625]

I have a weee teeny tiny request that maybe the hilarious text on the side could be a different color I’m so blind I can’t read it I have to put a lot of work into trying to see it I love the videos tho and have watched for a very long time I just I can’t read it and it hurts my soul