Dr Elaine 在这里真的underated。我自己上过她的课。我在上课问的每一个问题,她都会回答我,很仔细和具体怎么操作。真的很受用,我自己有时候也会顶不顺喊我孩子。也有过一次unconciously扫了我孩子一下大腿。但事后,我肯定会反省下一次再发生我应该怎么应对。再者,time in真的亲测非常有效。真的不需要体罚。
My mom is a nanny with 3 kids under her care, she rules with full authority at home, what time to eat, sleep, play. That's her way, she can't change but the more I pay attention to my mom, she has a level of empathy and deep understanding towards different kids nature and she will communicate that to their respective parents and guide them as they are new parents. Throughout this debate perhaps they are to hang on to the meaning of words, which they think what it means. Authority doesn't mean lack of empathy, love doesn't mean without discipline. Less words more sensibility. Good luck parents.
@@SkyLee91 可能多数人都喜欢看online的农场文, 但是就事论事, 从医学角度来治病就必须要有足够的research and result to prove,所以才叫专家, 才叫professional or in their line some call professor (不管是外科,内科,牙科, 心理学科,等等),但是也有偏方是没医学根据的, 你可以去拜神请符, 可以相信某某术士说在家放什么, 怎样做, 家里人就可以怎样, 也可以听朋友说我就是这样教孩子, 但你就没办法可以complain. 医学意外也有专家鉴定, 分析, 来解答医生或专家怎样处理各个个案。 如果你可以拿你杀人说事证明你的想象力丰富, 不如看看你的孩子如何培养他的想象力, 和创造力, 还是你就希望用像中国式的教育方式, 只看高考, 只看成绩, 只看服不服从, 不服从就高压?
@stanleylaw11238 ай бұрын
@@SkyLee91 很多人都喜欢看online PO 文, 但是却很少看专家。 就像病人, 有research, result prove的, 你可以选择相信医生, 因为有足够多的research and result to support. 还有国际权威组织背书( 不管是外科,内科,牙科,心理学科,等等) 但你也可以选择相信偏方,就像某某术士说可以拜神请符, 在家安些东西, 或者跟着你朋友教孩子的妈妈经, 但就没人可以担保, 有问题自己负责, 如果去有认证的, 就算有问题, 还可以投诉, 还可以找到其他相关认证单位来以个案研究该医生/专家的方案是否合理。 如果说你都可以拿杀人来形容, 证明你想象力丰富, 倒不如放心思在如何培养你孩子的创造力, 想象力, 和潜能。 如果说中国式教育是好的,那就是只有注重高考, 注重成绩, 不服从就高压?
@bd19828 ай бұрын
please keep with such contents, these would help bring awareness and possibly change the approach to educate the young.
作为跟cindy一样强势的人,虽然她作为一个强势年轻妈妈,but我不觉得她的一些道理和concept是好的。我也强势,作为一个很理性、有逻辑思维的孩子,我就因为跟她一样强势,发现到自己很多到不好。自己也在虎爸的教育下长大,回想过去,想通了很多。cyndi要是有我这样的孩子,她必然教不好我,我依然自己成熟的长大。我家人从小没教过我什么社会的价值观、道理逻辑,我却能自己领悟到。这个经历给出的答案是,这个跟小孩天生的悟性很有关系。她孩子如果没有这个悟性,那她当然能教的好,也不会有挫败感。而遇到我的话,我还是会成长得很好,但她肯定会很挫败,因为我的主见在她眼里肯定是很不可取的。原因很简单,她要用权威来限制我,which is impossible。她孩子能被教得好,我相信很大程度那个主见和理性能力不会在一个很高的层级。就跟joe和儿童心理学专家讲的一样,你的权威会无形地影响孩子的心理强度,间接久影响到他的自主思考和理性思维的上限。换句话说,会死板一点,怕死一点。她说的什么国法和家规是一样的,这个我也不认同。人确实需要被规范,但不是以惩戒为基础。人确实未必是因为道德底线而习惯丢垃圾在垃圾桶里,可是这和习惯也不太有关系。 27:00 她对爱的教育有太大的误解了。我认同体罚,但不可以极端。因为对一个一岁多的孩子用爱的教育,但看他讲不听而觉得没用,自己不觉得矛盾吗?一岁多的他都未必每次都真正的知道你是他妈妈,你expect他能理解多深的人话?你觉得体罚有用,纯粹是因为他在那个年纪,身体的物理记忆会比语言记忆深刻。怎么说呢,你想想看,他从出生到一岁多,讲的话多还是做的肢体动作多?他当然会被肢体影响得更多,尤其痛觉会让他更容易记得。他并不是因为知道自己做错事而会被打,感到痛,而是因为他有时做了一些事,有可能被打感到痛,才限制自己不做一些事。你肯定也因为他做同样的错事很多次而打他,你认为既然这个体罚能让他知道他自己是因为做错事而被打,那他又何尝会一直重犯? 后续补充:你有在此之前立下规矩,给他一个习惯(some kind like that),他只做一次而被打,之后都没在做,确实可能有用。但我不认为完全是因为体罚奏效,而是权威和恐惧。
我是Cindy 的一派😊, spare a rod spoil a child, 父母應該拿回管教的權柄,如果父母自己不管教,以後就可能被社會”管教”,我也認為老師不應該體罰,是父母親的責任。還有,我認為管教應該從小嚴勵越大就可以寬鬆,小時不好好管教,大了才打就行不通了。那時他們已經有能力離家出走了😮。最重要的一點,要花時間和孩子們一起,他們要常常感到被愛和被關心。親子教育可以寫的很長。
can you do an episode with young present teachers and teachers as parents with their different perspective of cultivating the current generation and ways to deal with them, I think it will help parents to understand how teachers operate in and outside the school. thx
@Krisiki39238 ай бұрын
No offense but I feel that Cindy's "6 pillars of physical punishment" is such kink. I told you not to do it > I will punish you for doing it > I still love you but I need to punish you anyway? Tbh, parents often resort to physical punishment because the parents are the ones who need to clean up the mess aka threw eggshells on the floor. Instead of traumatizing the kid or build a foundation to a kinky habit when the kid grew up, you could always tell the kid to clean up the eggshells that he threw on the floor. Wouldn't that teach the kid a sense of responsibility of cleaning up their own mess? Be it eggshells or not. Of course, it will still be a mess in the beginning but eventually the kid will learn! (who knows the kid might grow up one day inventing hard-boiled eggs without shells) ;-) PS: I find it scary that a 1 year old toddler got punished for throwing eggshells.
long story short 严厉教育= 有法规的教育 叫国家别 立law, 爱的开导 国民 犯法别惩罚,要找正确的方式疏导
@CrystalTay-kh6wz8 ай бұрын
@@n0buddy919😂😂 can see that you don’t understand the statement. But it’s ok.. Or could be I don’t understand your😂😂 I can only say this 种什么因得什么果 Plant positivity you get back positivity. Plant negativity will get back negativity.. Cheers
@n0buddy9198 ай бұрын
@@CrystalTay-kh6wz 我没不认同你们的 爱得有原则的方式 我是叫你们 跟 国家 讲 set law 和 惩罚 是错的 国家对人民要爱的教育,人民才会健康 正常的成长 其实 爱的教育(废死) 和 严格教育(该保留死刑) 是一个道理而已