Hair loss and dating | how can I tell someone I wear wigs?

[@CarolSmith-u3g]

Totally relate. My hair loss started when l was very little and being sexually abused. I was pulling my hair out and that continued until well into my 50s. Now 67 and through years and years of therapy l realise this was self harm due to the abuse. All the shame, fear and constant worry the child experienced about the abuse was transferred to my baldness and efforts to hide it. Sounds simple but it took most of my life to be able to face the demons and realise what was happening. These things can't be rushed or forced through until your own psyche or inner healer knows it is safe to do. Recently a group came to the Cancer Center in our isolated rural town with a selection of wigs etc to help patients. The time was right for me and l made an appointment. I also told my sister whom l am very close to and the man whom l have been seeing for 3 years. Huge leap as l have never spoken of my hair loss to anyone, not even my husband who passed away after 30 years of marriage. The world didn't end ! Sister was just interested in how toppers etc., worked and excited to see the result. Man just said "oh OK" as if l had said l let the cat out. So much fear - and not a ripple. I Love my toppers and couldn't believe how Normal l felt walking out of the fitting. I don't know whether he knows when l am wearing it or not, but it's obviously not on the same level of importance as farming or the footy. The strangest part of all this is that l now couldn't be cared less if someone knows its a wig or topper. What a load to finally put down after all these years. Thankyou for your post Denise. The fear and embarrasment is all consuming.

[@marialeach8960]

When I finally told my husband I was thinking of wearing wigs (because I HAD TO wear them), he started singing to me: "They say time takes its toll on a body. Makes the young grils brown hair turn gray. But honey, I don't care. I aint't in love with your hair. And, if it all fell out, well, I'd love you any way...." I love my husband so! Lyrics by country singer - Randy Travis :-) Thank you for being so honest Denise. God bless you!

[@heywigsister]

I LOVE that song and I love that your husband loves you so much! This is fantastic!!!

[@anniematthew2608]

Aaaww! Your husband's song brought tears to my eyes! What a wonderful guy you have been blessed with. 🙌🙌🙌

[@nleem3361]

That is so very sweet. It just made me cry happy tears because its so beautiful 😍

[@judedeprey6831]

Just saw this…you are blessed with the truth, love, and a story that will touch the heart of any person who reads this. Thank you ❤

[@KarenGaylor4712]

I, like you, had gradual hair loss. I first noticed mine in high school. I didn't start wearing wigs until I was 44. Fortunately for me, my husband never had an issue with my hair loss. We started dating the summer after high school graduation. We hadn't dated long when he suggested if I didn't like my hair loss to wear wigs. His mom wore them many times and she had enough bio hair for both of us! If someone truly loves you, they'll support you. It's wonderful to know others face what you face and we are a sisterhood. My husband went home to Jesus in 2017, but I had 40 glorious years with him.

[@forty2alz22]

You are 100 % Truthful...Thank you for your wise advice .

[@anniematthew2608]

So very sorry for your loss & thank you for sharing. 💕

[@Mexicobeanpole]

I’m so sorry for your loss, but so happy for you that you knew such great love.❤❤

[@venusmiranda9898]

I had already been losing my hair for 15 years when I met my husband. It was thin but I covered it well. He had no idea. We had started to live together and I have been suffering from multiple autoimmune and neurological diseases and getting sicker every passing year and losing more hair. He has been so super supportive and patient taking on the role as my husband and my caretaker. My appearance had been changing not just hair wise but my face and body all from being so ill. I found wigs online and was inspired so I ordered some wigs and when they arrived I just announced that I was sick of looking sick and my hair falling out and I will be wearing wigs and everyone needs to get used to it. Up to that point we had only spoken about some hair loss occasionally as I was seeing a dermatologist who tried to treat it. After my sudden announcement he just said "ok" and we moved on with our life as if nothing changed. He told me even if I shaved my head he would be attracted to me. He loves my long wigs but told me I look more confident in them and that if I was happy then he was happy. My husband never tries to dictate anything I want to do as wrong so it was an easy transition. He knows it's an accessory, just like my makeup, jewelry etc. He gets excited for me when I get new wig mail. Fully supportive with not any fuss. It would have been easy for me to imagine how hard it would have been coming out to him and all the worry. I just ripped off the bandaid quickly so we could get on with it and I haven't turned back. If you seach KZbin there are many videos of men talking about how they feel about wig wearing and hair loss in a woman they would potentially date. Most of the men are super sweet and supportive and really it doesn't bother them. Good men want to be supportive of their partner, especially when they have a good connection. Hope that helps ❤

[@Kessie4102]

Not stupid! You will never know just how many people you have blessed by your testimony, not just this subject, but your ongoing research and devotion to finding answers for yourself and others who are struggling in life. Love you, Denise, and I’m so blessed to have found you here.

[@heywigsister]

Thank you so much. Please know that this encouragement means so much to me! God bless you ❤

[@sueroberts6193]

God bless you...think of your wig as something like a sweater...when youre cold, you put on a sweater, when your head is cold...you put on a beautiful wig! Frankly, there are some stupid, ignorant men out there. If when first chatting, you mention you wear wigs...a great sensitive guy will ask why. A stupid jerk will laugh and slope off. What a great empowering way to sift out the weeds so to speak! Go girls...im 67 now and just started on my wig journey. Not to meet jerks or good guys...but just to feel excited about being alive! Good luck! 🎉

[@heywigsister]

Yes!! This is it exactly!!

[@kimberlyemery7839]

Girl, you are amazing! The respect you have for your audience, your own journey, and especially your kids…wow. The insight you have about how your story belongs to your kids as well, is so thoughtful and wise! Keep doing what your doing. 🙏🏼

[@heywigsister]

Thanks, Kimberly. We went through a lot. My oldest remembers but my two youngest, not so much. I would just HATE to share stuff that might hurt them or the memory of their dad (or even his parents who are still alive and in their 80s). No matter how bad things were, he was still their dad. I have shared my story 1:1 when it was appropriate and to help someone experiencing something similar, but a public forum is a very different story.

[@paralegalerika_s6389]

Love your story! If my boyfriend comes home and I am wearing a new wig, he'll say, "Nice hair, where did you get it??" I will say, "FEDEX delivered it today!" I knew he was the one!

[@heywigsister]

LOL, that's AWESOME!!!

[@carolynnmathisen8754]

I’m going through hair loss for a second time. After chemo my hair grew back much, much different from my normal hair. Now, for some reason I’m losing my hair in a Mohawk like pattern, absolutely not something that I can hide. I’ve just started wearing wigs, they are less obvious than the scarf head coverings I wore before. It’s been difficult to adjust but I love the help you and other “sisters” reach out to help us

[@LS-lr7xl]

This was a beautiful, direct from your sweet, compassionate heart, video. My heart aches for you and everyone else that is or has experienced hair loss and has felt like it makes you unworthy, inadequate or somehow unlovable. It's just wrong and untrue. People can be so cruel and unkind, it's shameful how people are judged by their appearance more often than by their actions. I agree with Denise. It's better to know the true heart of a person before making a relationship commitment to them. Imo, if your hair loss is an issue for someone consider yourself lucky to move on from that person so you can find the one that truly accepts & loves you for who you are. I believe their issue with your hair loss just shows their insecurities w/ in themselves, it's not really about you. Heartfelt prayers for each & every one of you that are struggling with this issue right now. Thanks, Denise, for once again supporting your sisters & sharing your heart. 🤗❤

[@sheilasheila2959]

Denise thank you so much for this!!! Something tragic happened almost 2 yrs ago and about 3 weeks later I realized my hair was falling out from the sudden impact of the stress. Firstly I'm so thankful that I found you when I finally understood what was happening. Secondly I was scared to death about all of it. Lastly I will say you are incredibly correct, real men of worth do not care about our hair. WE care about our hair... and of course we want to look and feel beautiful, but a good man really does not want to be with us because of our hairstyle. A good man of worth wants to be with you, just you:-) Bless all of you ladies here! I love you so much Denise. You are an amazing lady!

[@heywigsister]

I just want to send so many hugs.... to lose hair over what happened, it must have been incredibly tragic. A man who is with us for superficial reasons NEEDS to be weeded out early, that is for sure.

[@Pack.Leader]

What a great video about something so relevant to anyone in this situation. You are such a darling, Denise. God's light shines through you and you bless all who follow you on youtube. I'm so glad I found your channel. God bless you so much.

[@heywigsister]

Gosh, thank you so much! What a wonderful comment, hugs!!

[@midllifecrisis50pluss20]

You’re fortunate to meet such an understanding man. Thank you for sharing your personal story. I’m now very comfortable with my hairloss and change up my styles daily. The last man I was with, was awkward and uncomfortable with my wig wearing. I became paranoid about it with him and became too much invested in the relationship with him and became a people pleaser towards him. I think I become that way because I desperately wanted to feel valued by him. He knew he was in control of my emotions. It’s my fault for allowing myself to basically become a doormat to him. He told me I wouldn’t find a better man than him and no man would want to be with a woman like me. Since then, I’ve been on my own for a while now and I would like to date again, it’s now a matter of finding a way to meet decent, genuine, kind men that are not judgemental? There’s hope as you found a wonderful partner which is wonderful.

[@twyla2575]

Denise, your story about the acceptance of your hair loss and your husband's true love for you brought tears to my eyes. Joyous and heartfelt. You have provided your viewers great insight and advice on the importance of compassion and commitment in choosing a partner. Wise words from a wonderful wig sister.

[@heywigsister]

Thank you, Kathleen. I know what the alterative is like and feel extra blessed because of it. HUGS! You are such a wonderful support to me.

[@debraenglander9317]

You are truly a beautiful person in and out. You deserve the good person your hubby is. Thank you for your helpful words

[@heywigsister]

Oh, Debra.... what a kind thing to say. THANK YOU SO MUCH. 🤗❤

[@gbmarie836]

Denise, I am an older woman (82) who always had a really healthy head of hair until about 8 years ago when like you, I started losing a really lot of hair. Illness has been ruled out and Dr says nothing he can do, just accept it as alopecia. I have gone the hair pieces from the store and Topic but now I am binging on your videos and getting ready to go with wigs. At my age they will need to be thinned so I don’t look ridiculous in piles of wig hair (lol). Thank you for sharing your story and educating us. I can’t tell you how grateful I am. I have several family members losing hair and every time we have a get together I see more loss in all of us. I am sharing your videos hoping the family members will overcome the aversion to wearing a wig. You look so beautiful in every wig you put on and I’m convinced it is so important how we think of ourselves. I would love to attend a family event and see at least 5 wig wearers ( including me) sharing our wig experience. I have admired black women’s attitude and bravery to wear many styles of wigs and they do it well. I want that for my segment of society as well. Thank you.

[@heywigsister]

Oh, Marie... sending you HUGS!! What an amazing attitude you have, and I am so grateful you shared your story with me. Praying that you will find great wigs, and that you will have fun with family on this journey! What a blessing that would be to everyone! No one in my close friend group or family wear wigs, but I am grateful for THIS community! It helps me, too! And I've been blessed to meet a number of local wig sisters in person, which also helps so much. HUGS!

[@bomisosatori9906]

I love how authentic and genuine you are

[@melissalynn6680]

I think men are very understanding if you get married. though they think a wig never wears out lol my hubby gets frustrated having to keep buying them and all the product that go with them...it is a very expensive luxury to be able to wear wigs..thanks lady gosh now I'm wanting to hear your story god bless you girl!

[@starmanda88]

My husband is so supportive and wonderful about my wig wearing journey. He’s thrilled I have a new hobby!

[@paddypaddy2834]

Beautiful perspective. To take my hair loss and think of it as a blessing. My hair loss sounds similar to yours. Mine has been very gradual, starting in my mid-30s and I had thin baby fine hair to begin with. I’m now 45 and have been managing with extensions and fibers this whole time, but it’s reaching the point I will soon have to transition to full wigs. I’m terrified. As a divorced woman hoping to find love again, finding someone who won’t judge me for my looks feels like an uphill battle. And I struggled with self esteem long before losing my hair. Sometimes I struggle to feel is life even worth living.

[@sherrybatson2451]

Not rambling. Very touching. I have appreciate you.

[@frontporchwigchat6260]

We have almost identical stories. Of course, I married two weeks after I turned 19 and my hair loss didn't really start until after my second son was born at 22 years old. Still married to the same great man almost 46 years later, as you know, and we've been through many stages. He's always been proud of me, even when I gained a lot of weight when my thyroid malfunctioned, which took me literally years and years to lose again. Now, he says wigs have made me a happier person, but he's always thought I was beautiful. And Chad is a keeper, too. Love you! ~Cynthia

[@heywigsister]

I love you my friend... we've got good men, that is for sure!

[@janemichael9433]

I finally told my husband of 12 years. He is my second husband. He was and is so supportive. I still can’t believe it. You are right, it just cemented in my heart how good he is and how great my God is. All I can say is that my first husband of 30 years would have made fun of me until the day I died.

[@amysrealityroom2784]

I started dating after a twenty year marriage ended! I have always been very open about my hair loss and wearing hair toppers! I am now married again but when I realized I was getting more interested in my now husband I just told him straight out before we got serious! I felt with all the things girls do to look the way we want wearing hair is no different!!! He has never had a problem with it at all!! Just be beautiful being you and loving it!!!

[@heywigsister]

LOVE THIS! And so happy that you found a great, supportive, guy!! HUGS!

[@texanadeb]

I wish I could give you a big hug for sharing your story! I know this video will help many. You are a beautiful person inside and outside and your husband is also very blessed to have found you. God bless you and your family.

[@DorisHayesGibson]

Denise, your story is so touching and lovely. Really happy you found a mate who loves you for you! Thank you for sharing with each of us. I finally just gave up many years ago. Time has swiftly passed and I'm still alone. I was in many abusive and damaging relationships that I lost hope. Seemed I lost every ounce of the slight amount of confidence I may have ever owned, and hair loss didn't help. Throughout my adulthood, I've been alone longer than I've been in all my relationships combined. Now that my health has been declining so quickly, I'm in my senior years, and there's a pandemic, I just feel I must have been meant to be alone...and it still hurts. But I have accepted it as I continue to trust and understand that God knows the plans He has for me. He never fails but unfortunately, we as humans do. So grateful for your videos. You're such a beautiful soul! Much love to you and your family. 🙏 ❤️ 😘 💕

[@heywigsister]

Oh my sweet friend, my heart breaks to hear what you have been through. I am SO GRATEFUL that you love the Lord, though. We may have trouble here on this earth and may not love the challenges we have to face, but knowing Christ and what our future holds makes it bearable... most of the time. So many hugs!

[@glendaduncan5608]

Denise you have such a big heart and you are a blessing to so many. Thank you for all you do for all of us.

[@melissalynn6680]

I always just blurt out to people I know that I wear wigs..I guess I just like to rip the bandage off and let the chips fall where they fall.😍❤ I feel blessed to be able to afford hair hugs lady.

[@gingeroo5765]

Denise, I couldn’t agree with you more about EVERYTHING you had to say here. It’s SO uncanny the way you think and speak about the way you feel about things of importance and the heart because we seem to be virtually IDENTICAL in our beliefs and viewpoints. It’s not only that we’re wig-sisters but, it’s as if we’re heart-sisters as well!! 🥰 Guess it makes some sense since we’re Christ-sisters,too❣️☺️ Anyway, GREAT JOB 👍with this vid!! Gotta run but just wanted to tell you that stuff. Bye🙋🏻‍♀️ Julie in Tx

[@heywigsister]

Thank you so much for sharing this!! I just LOVED reading it!! 🥰

[@shelly410]

Hi Denise. Thank you for being so open. I am single and do date occasionally, and while I don't always tell a man on the first date that I am a wig wearer, I will make a point of telling them before or during the second date if the topic hasn't come up organically by then. For me, it really depends on the person and the conversations we have. Some men know before we go out for the first time, because I was able to segue into the topic during our telephone or text conversations. Many times the subject of cancer or other illnesses gets raised and it is an easy jump from that into the wig wearing topic for me. I know how scary it can seem to a wig sister to broach the subject, but I totally agree with you that it is better to know very early on how the other person will react to this information before you get invested in that person and a relationship develops. You are a blessing to all of us. Sending you many virtual hugs, Shelly

[@molektra]

Heartfelt words of wisdom

[@michellediekman4873]

It Was Very Giving of you to Share your Experiences, God Bless your Kind Heart 😙❤💐

[@MultiLisa10]

I started loosing my hair gradually when I was 19 and I would always do things to help hide that fact. When i was 22 my current boyfriend noticed it one day when we were watching t.v. and he said "hey babe it looks like your losing your hair" and I said "your nuts"! He then says " if you lose your hair I'm leaving you"! 😟 He said it in a joking manner but what I beleive he was serious and I just laughed it off! Well, we ended up breaking up because we just didn't get along but now I am married for over 22 years and my husband knows and even helps to pick out wigs for me its no big deal for him, lol! P.s. My ex is now totally bald, lol!

[@kathiee.2013]

Karma! Lol

[@pattycarosi9618]

Oh that's funny!

[@wendystewart1867]

Lmao

[@TheIcePrincess3]

Funny! I had the exact same experience with my first boyfriend. We had been dating for a few years when he said something about my hair loss. We ended up breaking up over something completely unrelated. I met a friend we have in common not long ago. She told me I look at least ten years younger (I'm in my late 40s). She also told me that prince charming is now a bald guy 😂

[@paddypaddy2834]

This comment made my day!

[@paulamulcahy1541]

Denise I just think you are so inspirational and thank you for sharing your life stories❤️ I lost my Mom suddenly in 2008 also and I still cry sometimes, she was my best friend. So true about good relationships if someone lives you they will love you with or without hair! i lost my hair and had to shave my head. My husband is such a good man he could careless! My hair has grown back much different and its very curly, he still says “you don’t need a wig you look great”. Well i love that but I feel so much more confident with a wig on these days. My husband also likes my wigs which is very supportive😊

[@pamelasauls2414]

Thank you for your words of encouragement and opening your heart. It blessed mine. I’m new to all this wig wearing and single at 62. I have been in the same situations you have been in so many years. I missed a lot of life because of my hair. It’s sad but true! Now the thought of dating someone after years of being divorced and wearing a wig makes me feel very uncomfortable and strange.?! I don’t know the word but you understand. You really helped with your kind words so thank you 🙏🏼 and God bless you. I will just keep praying for the right man/Gods choice, for me and they will understand the circumstance.

[@kimberlysnow1465]

I recently started dating sites after being single for a decade. At first, I got so many messages and went on so many dates it was overwhelming. Then I decided one day I would be transparent and put on my profile that I suffer from hair loss and wear wigs full time. I am not exaggerating, I have not had one single message since. I have come to the realization that I will live out the rest of my life single. I had to come to terms with that fact.

[@heywigsister]

Oh my goodness, that is terrible! Even though it is awful, better to know up front. I don't believe you will have to be single forever.. but dating sites are rough!

[@paddypaddy2834]

This scares the hell out of me. I’m 45 and wanting to get out there. But how when this is the environment we’re facing??

[@debm460]

I’m late to the wig wearing scene, but a veteran to thinning hair. It started in my early thirties. (KZbin was just starting and there werent as many resources.) Always felt self conscious but went about my business being me. I have met some very nice and cute men. (It was the women that were mean.) Wasn’t looking or trying. The problem was me not feeling good enough. Just bought a wig and have been wearing it at home. Planning to debut the wig in Jan.2024. I’m in my sixties and it’s time I accepted all of me. There’s a guy at work who likes me and he knows what I look like with thinning hair. Don’t worry, just be you and he will find you.

[@carmeneusebio563]

I think it’s hard if your young or older. Prayer is esencial, especially for me. But it was a matter about praying to accept what I could not change. It still is, but I just thank the Lord for being alive and see the so many blessings God has given me. And finding wigs as a temporary solution is great, Because I want to be me!!! Thank you for guiding me to the wig world alternative. 🙏

[@heywigsister]

Prayer is definitely essential. It does help to know you are not alone as well.... HUGS!

[@coastdaze748]

Timely subject matter, thx Denise. I've wondered about how the subject could be brought up. The Bible speaks of a woman's hair being her glory and also speaks of the shame of a woman with a shaved head. So I can see where the shame comes from. But losing one's hair is not a reason for shame (easier said than done). Even men go through the shame when they start losing their hair. My take is that humans feel shame because God created man & women perfect. After the fall we started to age, get wrinkled, lose our hair and our spirits instinctively know that's not how we were supposed to be. So we fight the aging process in various ways. I thank God that we will have new bodies in the kingdom that don't age, aren't subject to pain and we'll have the great hair we were meant to have.

[@Travelgal23]

Thank you Denise for being so personable and sharing your life stories. I think losing our Mother is the hardest to get over. Not being able to call them and chat was so hard for me. My heart is with you for sure. I lost my Mom in 2018 and I still have days and think I can’t call her when I need to talk. So I pray ❤ Now going through a 23 year relationship breakup and having to deal with age, thinning hair is devastating. I watch for the inspiration you share and funny stories too! 😊 I am learning to use heat to my toppers now and watch ever chance I get to create something different. Your journey has been hard and you’re such a strong person , I wish love , peace and joy for all your years to come ! Thank you wig sister , glad I found you ❤

[@peppys25]

You are a gift to all of us as well as an inspiration to your children and wonderful husband. Your love and energy in wanting to help others is profound. Keep up the wonderful work you do....

[@heywigsister]

Thank you so much!

[@aylinkoksal8649]

You're such a beautiful lady, inside and out. Your heart and compassion is wonderful. I'm certain you've touched many women sharing your thoughts and experiences. Awesome video

[@cathydunevant9584]

Great subject. I offended wondered how this could be handled. Has to be difficult

[@BethsBestHair]

I loved this video Denise, your heart and compassion really shines through and you had me tearing up at times when I could see that you were, especially talking about your mom. We lost my dad in a tragic accident 12 years ago, and like you said, even now, there are times when a song will come on the radio and I have to pull over and cry! 😥😥😥Your words of advice to wig sisters out there in the dating world is spot on and I would have to agree that if they can't handle this, then they'll never be able to handle something bigger! Such true words right there! Thank you for sharing this little part of you! Sending hugs and prayers to you and everyone who is struggling right now! 💗💗💗

[@heywigsister]

Thank you so much, Beth. So many hugs on losing your Dad... how tragic and difficult. 💗

[@BethsBestHair]

@@heywigsister Thank you! 💗

[@sara35ish]

Thank you so much for sharing your experience when you were single and with hair loss. It helps

[@pattycarosi9618]

Denise I loved this video. Your kind sweet heart shows in every video. Thank you for sharing. I was divorced when my children were young also. My hair loss was from stress. I am so thankful for my wig's. I am still learning so much about them. ❤

[@heywigsister]

I think we will always be learning.... so thrilled we are learning together, though!! I am so grateful for your support 🤗❤

[@mariaknutsson2343]

Thank you so much for this video! You've helped me to look differently at my situation, being single still at 58 and having hair loss. You are doing a great thing with your videos - it is truly a blessing!

[@heywigsister]

Thank you so much, Maria!! Sending you hugs (and apologies that I never responded to you when you first left this comment)

[@judedeprey6831]

Yep, our imperfections are blessings.

[@taporter1]

Thank you for talking about the emotional side of hair loss..it really is a struggle but hearing you and your story it feels better thats im not alone in my struggle..thank you

[@heywigsister]

Sending you huge hugs!!

[@sapat664]

I feel your frank, honest sharing from the heart is a unique gift. You're a very special person. My husband knows how frustrated I am, and even angry at myself for feeling like I'm defective. Why is this happening to me? Moments probably many of us have, or had. Thank you. (and this talk wasn't stupid at all). ;)

[@heywigsister]

I always remind myself that we ALL feel so differently about these things, and to try to approach everyone with extra compassion. Hair loss is usually just part of the story for people with it, and often just compounds other challenges and emotions. HUGS and thank you so much for the encouragement and support.

[@sapat664]

@@heywigsister Sending big hug.

[@ohnoudidnt125]

I met someone when I was a few months into wearing wigs. On our first date he jammed his hands into my hair and my wig slipped and he felt it slip. He told me it was all just "too weird" for him and we sat there awkwardly until the end of the date. I get that he wasn't a very nice or polite person and that's fine but I'm still not over that experience. I haven't been on a date since. That was in early 2020 before the pandemic.

[@heywigsister]

Oh, Jen.... I am SO SO sorry... I wish I could give you a huge hug. I can completely understand how you fell... of course it is good to find that out early, but it doesn't make it any easier, and can honestly cause a bit of PTSD going forward. I will pray that you find a man that is worth your heart and makes you forget about this experience. HUGS!

[@cardonadarlene4650]

Don't give this videos give hope I pray for us the world every thing n every one is just so much I am scared my self so I pray 4 us but I for sure would keep trying ❤

[@ginawhite3399]

This means so much. I’m about your age and I lost my mom in 2006. She was only 64 and passed in her sleep. Still hurts to this day. But now I can look back and remember with so much love and feel blessed to have had the time I did with her even though I’m in tears writing this. She was a loving mom and she was worth every moment of grief. Great love requires great grief 🙏

[@melissalynn6680]

I think you always look pretty so natural

[@heywigsister]

Thank you so much!

[@jacieeeeee]

Denise, you are such a blessing to me. The way you open your heart up to your sisters is such a beautiful thing. I just passed the three year anniversary of my husband’s passing, and am ready to move on. I remember you talking about looking at this as an opportunity before and it is such a wise perspective. Thank you for sharing your story. God bless! ❤️🙏🏼

[@heywigsister]

Jacie, I still pray for you occasionally. Time moves on and each new season brings new challenges. I will keep you in my prayers as you tiptoe into this new season. HUGS, sis.

[@bs7157]

i have very thinning hair. and it's making me feel so conscious of it. it's affecting me more every day. and it's getting that i don't want to go out any more. i wear a hat now. and am pleased in a way that winter is coming, so i don't feel silly wearing a wooly hat outside! i used to have thick curly hair. but now it's very thin and losing the curls i had. i hate my hair. i am buying wigs to cover up. but not yet found one that i am really happy with and feel confident enough to wear outside. you have a heart of gold Denise. i always watch your videos. thank you for helping so many people.🙂

[@heywigsister]

Oh gosh, I am so sorry to hear about this... it is so very hard to go through. I'm sending you HUGE hugs and lots of love!

[@JB-vi6cd]

Your a doll. Love your spirit ❤.

[@heywigsister]

Thank you so much, hugs!

[@kathleenbeauchemin8146]

Denise, thank you so much for making this much needed video. Our stories are similar in so many ways regarding hair loss. How I wish there was a video about this subject when I was younger. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m so sorry you had to go through such a difficult time 😍. You are such an amazing and compassionate woman! Hugs and prayers 😘

[@heywigsister]

Thank you so much, Kathleen. I use what I've gone through to remind myself that we never know what someone is experiencing or has experienced and so we should be compassionate always.

[@melissalynn6680]

Wigs and makeup make me feel really put together love it.

[@reneewelch6774]

You are the best. I have been dealing with hair loss for quite a while due to cancer

[@oruginsllidobradysndsteve8781]

Oh WOW!!!! I love your heart ❤️ thank you for sharing....I love "wig sisters" I have been wearing what I call "fake hair" for 5 years and struggling with my confidence....you put a God given spin on how to tell people....what great insight for relationships....X O wig sister❤

[@heywigsister]

You are so welcome! Thank you for taking time to share this with me!! HUGS!

[@SH-fb7gw]

Very uplifting. Thank you.

[@carolynbranch3937]

What a precious outlook. I love your heart. Wonderful advice!

[@heywigsister]

Thank you so much! 💗

[@rosemarymasselas9890]

Thank you for sharing your story, Denise. Definitely words of wisdom that will surely bless those who hear it❤️

[@victorialantini4046]

Blessings to you Denise, you are such a sincere sweet woman.

[@heywigsister]

Thank you so much.... 🤗❤

[@mikezervas2912]

Joyce Z, Denise, this video was the best ever. Everything you said was so true. We all love you. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@heywigsister]

Thank you my friend. I am so grateful for you!

[@ranaz4248]

Very inspiring. Thank you

[@susanferguson6030]

Hi Denise, thank you so much for sharing your story, it touched my heart and is so relatable. You are such a beautiful, genuine, compassionate and caring person, I really appreciate all that you do for us wig sisters. ❤️❤️

[@heywigsister]

Thank you so very much, Susan. I appreciate it more than I can say. 🤗

[@angelaautrey5237]

I feel like this video needs to be recognized and played again and again! What you said about 'where is this persons' heart' was so meaningful. I think often the hardest part of something is the "right before" part. I like to think of the kids book The Monster At The End Of This Book. It's silly but it makes me laugh and reminds me I am probably making a mountain out of a mole hill. Much love to all the wig sisters! You are more than just your hair.♥

[@sallybiondo9180]

Oh, I LOVE YOUR HEART, Denise!❤️🙏🥰

[@heywigsister]

Thanks, Sally! HUGS sister!!

[@sallybiondo9180]

@@heywigsister 🤗😘🤗😘🤗

[@nancyti2354]

So well said. Such a good life lesson. Thanks.

[@roz8723]

Wise words Denise, as always.

[@heywigsister]

Thank you, Roz. ❤️

[@donnaq7626]

Oh no, such a sad story Denise. So so sorry you had to go through that with your mom and 3 young kids. I had the same thing but my mom and dad both were there for me and still are at 89 and 92. I think I would tell a new date before a first kiss because the guy is bound to touch your hair. Thanks for sharing.

[@heywigsister]

Yes, that is a great point!!! Definitely would remove the fear from what is already a nerve wracking situation (first kiss, eeeeeeeee!!!).

[@helenbianchi2831]

I feel much less alone in this (insert J word) after hearing this. Many thanks, Denise

[@heywigsister]

Hugs, Helen! 🤗

[@susanaitken6655]

I thank God for your giving, loving heart. You always make my day better when I hear more of your story. God bless you, my Sister in Christ! ❤

[@heywigsister]

You are so welcome - HUGS back you!!

[@MrsDanner2023]

I so needed this video. I recently got back together with the love of my life. During the 15 years we were apart, I was diagnosed with Lupus as well as a severe case of anemia and low hemoglobin, which caused me to lose almost all my hair. I have invested in some very good wigs, that I wear full time now, and a year into out relationship, he still has no idea this isn’t my hair. He wasn’t a part of my life during this time, so he will be the first person I have to tell this story to who hasn’t watched me go through it. I’m absolutely terrified he will leave me or see me differently. It’s absolutely heartbreaking to imagine someone not loving you or finding you unattractive because of something like hair or lack of it.

[@heywigsister]

Oh gosh, I can completely relate! I am sending you hugs and prayers that when the time is right, you will be at peace with telling him, and he will prove that he is worth your heart!! HUGS and more HUGS!

[@tojoinbobdylan]

How did it go for you?😮

[@MrsDanner2023]

@@tojoinbobdylanI told him in a lighthearted way and he took it so much better than I ever could’ve imagined, focusing more on my health concerns that caused my hair hair loss, than the fact that I wore wigs. I’m happy to say we got married on 10/15/23 and my hair has started growing back…I still wear it up while it fills in, but I haven’t worn a wig in about 6-7 months now.

[@angeline.w8075]

Love you❤, you're so right💗

[@maudey53]

I've been married for 45 yrs., but I can imagine, that telling a guy about your hair loss, could be a very anxiety provoking situation. I feel for anyone dealing with this issue. Bottom line though, if he cares enough for you, he will accept you for who you are. If he doesn't, better to not waste time with that kind of person. Hopefully you, as a couple, have already established an open dialogue about anything, from the begining. Make the debut a fun event, maybe do a hair/wig runway walk with different styles, colors and clothing, even add music. He'll realize it's you he wants, not what's on top of your head!!!

[@maudey53]

I am so sorry about the loss of your mom and your divorce. Terrible things to go through for all concerned. Hopefully, the kids especially, are good. Thank you for telling us this story. It makes people more human when they talk about their lives. We are all in the same boat really, all just trying to survive and do the best we can for our families and ourselves. My mom used to say...."Be like a tree. Bend in the wind. All the rain, snow and wind will make a tree stronger and the sun will shine on you soon!" Love you!

[@blazingseven7254]

God Bless you sister Denise 🙏 I’m suffering with hair loss from weight loss surgery. Been wanting to take the plunge & get a wig, but scared to getting one online. What style / length would you recommend for a full/round face? Love ❤️ your videos, you’re a sweetheart!

[@forty2alz22]

Oj honey. A WIG Is WONDERFUL...fresh hair all the time...I'd like to day that you will be experiencing a big volume if you are in a bug amount of loss of hair. I suggest that same style of hair cut you have ..color and no permatease or little permatease..it feels less poofy..then when you get accustom to wigs wearing go to different styles or colors..Denise Has many toutube videos about the correct wig for your face shape.. I LIKE ROOTED COLORS.. YOU CAN DO IT..SYNTHETICS ARE FUN... JUST STSRT WATCHING VIDEOS AND LEARN. TRY ONE.

[@heywigsister]

Hi!! I think something just below chin length or longer can be a great length for a full round face... I think my face is like that. Curly wigs that have curls and fullness on top are better than ones where all the curl and fullness are on the sides only because they just make an already round face look wider.

[@brindlebailey]

What a beautiful video! Thank you so much for sharing this! ❤️❤️❤️

[@jnewman3920]

Omgosh. The same thing happened to me. Unbelievable the stories we could tell. Thanks for sharing. I thought I was alone in that journey. Great job in saying is the person worth trying to have a relationship with. Exactly what I had to come to terms with.

[@heywigsister]

Hugs, Wanda. I always remember that people have stories I know NOTHING about and it helps guide how I treat them.

[@ES-iq2wb]

You're a very good person. 🥰

[@heywigsister]

That is really kind of you, thank you 🥰

[@michele6740]

Now we can think like the youts. Arianna Grande: 🎶 Lashes and diamonds ….. I buy myself all of my favourite things. Been through some bad stuff Think it turned me into a savage My wrist, I stop watchin', My neck is flossy, my gloss is poppin' You like my hair? Gee, thanks … just bought it

[@lizag8708]

Thank you for sharing so much of you in this video. Thank you for such beautiful words and your heartfelt story. My heart breaks for what you went through but I'm happy to see that it has made you stronger.

[@heywigsister]

Thank you so much!

[@donnanerell8170]

So well done.

[@maaslc]

Thanks for sharing your experience. It's really encouraging to hear this. ❤️

[@heywigsister]

I'm so glad! HUGS!

[@beajannis2968]

Beautiful video. Thank you. ❤

[@DianneStuckey-cw3po]

You are such a beautiful soul and a blessing ❤

[@heywigsister]

Thank you so much ❤️

[@DianneStuckey-cw3po]

@@heywigsister I have a question. Have you ever ordered a wig from Amazon that was the same picture used in some of the more expensive wig companies, but in the 20-30 dollar range?

[@heywigsister]

@Dianne Stuckey I haven't... I've heard from many women who have, though, and the wig they receive is never what the picture showed. I've yet to hear someone say it was even decent.

[@DianneStuckey-cw3po]

@@heywigsister I ordered a couple just to see. I will let you know

[@melissadefalco1]

So true. You are absolutely right! Thank you, this video was a blessing....

[@heywigsister]

You are so welcome! HUGS!

[@IMOO1896]

During my time of hair loss, when I went out, I changed up my wigs, color and style. Only the blind missed the fact that I wore wigs.

[@mariagalbraith9838]

Thank you so much for sharing ❤

[@pamelakrueger7353]

Lovely video Denise. So happy you found a fabulous man!

[@laurieschultes9922]

Thank you for sharing your compassionate story!! Can some ladies share what they wear to bed our around the house when they don't want to wear their wigs??

[@heywigsister]

That is a great question! I will post it on my community page for you and see what people say. I just wear my bare head but I know that doesn't work for everyone. Do you know how to find my community page so you can see the answers? Just go to my main KZbin page and at the time you should see "Community".... I've been told that people can't find it on an iPad, but on an android device your computer you should see it.

[@771blahblah]

Thank you so much for sharing this… ❤️❤️it helps so many of us

[@heywigsister]

You are so welcome!

[@auraaurora9815]

Know that all that you are is enough. Bravo Denise!

[@heywigsister]

Hugs! We are fearfully and wonderfully made!!

[@marybonnell9617]

Hi Denise thank you for your support , My hair was always fine but are the years have gone on I now have bold patches through out my hair, I was using hair topper but my hair wont hold the toppers anymore . I have purchase my first wig now and its great to know im not along on this journey . My kindest regards Mary from Ireland

[@heywigsister]

I'm so sorry I never responded to this comment, Mary! Sending you hugs!

[@julienne2463]

You are amazing!

[@heywigsister]

Thank you so so much!

[@janemanesss3878]

You are such an inspiration to so many of us.

[@heywigsister]

Thank you so much.... it means a lot to hear you say that.

[@dacool4396]

God bless and your family ❤

[@bonniecorsalini6793]

I love all your video and learn so much from you I really want to thank you

[@heywigsister]

You are so welcome! Thank you for taking time to share!

[@wilmajerry5066]

Hi Denise I love your videos and I love that you’re a Christian . I am coming up on my 75 birthday and I have stuffed with my weight all my life with too many health issues to mention. I have tried just about every diet plan out there l even surgery. That helped for awhile but eventually got right back to where I started. I have been trying keto for awhile and have had some success but I can’t seem to be able to-hold the weight down. I fell like such a failure . I have been seeing adds about keto gummy’s I was wondering how you felt about them. I would appreciate any information . Thank you so much and you look amazing!❤

[@heywigsister]

Hi! First of all, hugs for all you have been through. I understand being discouraged, and will pray for you on this journey. I don't have any experience with Keto Gummies, although Dr. Boz (the woman who wrote the books that helped me with Keto) does recommend Keto drinks to help in the beginning. Honest, here is how I feel about "keto" supplements. I think people should try to do Keto without the help of special products in the beginning. I think they should track their macros, and make sure they are truly keeping the carbs low and the protein and fat high. Consistently. Then, after doing all that for at least 2 weeks, if they need a little help then I think it is OK to see if those things will help. When I started Keto I didn't use anything, and I didn't eat any special Keto treats or snacks. I ate meat, eggs, and full fat dairy. I put heavy cream in my coffee and a little stevia liquid. I didn't shy away from butter, sour cream, cheese, cottage cheese, etc. I completely avoided sugar (all types), alcohol, all grains, and even fruit and veggies. I did this for 3 months without cheating. A few times we went out to eat and I would order burger patties with cheese, mayo, and in those cases I would allow myself onion, tomato, and lettuce. I had never ever been that strict with my diet and it worked miracles, but I know that for some that may not be enough. I didn't track my macros because it was working for me, but if it wouldn't have worked then I would have tracked them and maybe even tried some Keto drinks or gummies... so I say, if you have done all that and it still isn't helping, then it couldn't hurt to try the gummies. Dr. Boz's book Keto Continuum is wonderful, and she also has a workbook. If you haven't gotten these I recommend you do and follow her Keto Continuum to a T and see how it goes. Sending Hugs!

[@lisaknieriem5852]

Thank you so much for this. ❤️🙏

[@heywigsister]

You are so welcome! Sending you HUGS if this is a concern of yours right now. You are not alone!