taking myself on a date in NYC + why it's important to be your own best friend

[@Darklink7884]

We don't walk to Hannah's videos; we RUN.

[@immagrander1]

This!!

[@rencywinski]

yeeesssssss🎉🎉🎉

[@BethGould]

Periodddd

[@ReggyCupcake]

This is long, but its important. I promise. As I’ve gotten older (I’m almost 29) I’ve had many people come and go. MANY. I always tried to figure out why SO many people always let me down, hurt me, took advantage of me, or just never showed me the mutual respect that friendships should have. And then I remembered what Paul Rudd said in Perks of Being a Wallflower: “We accept the love we think we deserve.” I always wondered if it was me, that I was doing something wrong, because I was the only common denominator. Then i realized it WAS me. I wasn’t choosing to surround myself with people who actually gave a shit about me. I was only seeing the good in people and ignoring the bad. In turn, I think I was only seeing the bad in myself. There’s another quote from Rick and Morty that applies here as well: “But I know how it goes with us. I lose who I am and become part of you. Because in a strange way, you're better at what I do without even trying.” And that really stuck with me too. Hannah is right. At the end of the day, all we have is ourselves. We wake up with ourselves, care for ourselves, and at the end of the day, are alone with ourselves. Its so important to not base our self worth on other people. Its okay to be alone. And its okay to love yourself and who you are. And if you don’t, find out why and see if there are steps you are willing to take to become a version you will. I wasn’t comfortable with myself until a few years ago. But it’s worth it. If anyone is reading this and having a hard time, or feels “completely and utterly alone” (TVD reference 😏) you aren’t. Because you have yourself. Okay i’ve exhausted my inner Emily Dickinson for the day. LOL have a great week everyone🖤

[@Simplelivingslowliving]

That’s absolutely right . I’ve felt that way until I decide nope I’m keeping friends that have something good to add to my life and I have something good to add to theirs . There’s respect and genuine care . So I have 3 friends that are regular humans . I made Jesus Christ my best friends and never looked back.

[@ReggyCupcake]

@@Simplelivingslowliving yeah I have my man who is my best friend and a couple REALLY close long distance friends, and a couple where i live, but everyone else ive had to just let go. You feel so much lighter

[@HannahElise]

This is so beautiful - thank you for taking the time to write this. I needed to hear this and I'm sure a lot of others did as well. ❤

[@ReggyCupcake]

@@HannahElise Thank you Hannah 🖤

[@mo-ft3ml]

have you published a book yet😭😭😭

[@tamarajovanovic3769]

Dates with yourself are so important! After finishing my last exam for January today, I went to the bookstore, picked up a book I've been meaning to read for a while, and then headed to my favourite caffé for a coffee and pastry. Honestly, it felt amazing. Love having your vlogs as a constant to end a week on a good note ❤️

[@HannahElise]

that sounds like an amazing treat. you deserve that! ❤

[@accordingtokristin2031]

It took me 29 years to finally be comfortable enough to do stuff alone. I used to never do the things I wanted to do, if my friends wouldn't do it. But last year was a big turning point for me after being forced to going into NYC alone. I'm from Jersey and had to go into in Brooklyn for something. I had never been to the city alone and was so nervous. I invited all my friends but none were free considering it was a week day. My plan was go in pick up the item and get home. I ended up spending the entire in the city. I had the best day. I hit up a good amount of places I've always wanted to go but never had time for while I was in city. I started doing a lot alone now and have been loving it.

[@nutmeg9593]

I just took myself on a date to see avatar this week and it was totally worth it. Honestly, I get tired of waiting for everyone's schedule to mesh up. I go to concerts and even vacations myself. If I wait for other people I wouldn't get to do anything.

[@HannahElise]

AGREE 1000% on "if i wait for other people I wouldn't do anything"

[@brittanyarchived]

hannah please turn this topic into a podcast please!! i’ve been so obsessed with listening to you!!

[@HannahElise]

adding it to my list 🫡

[@Hollymodz]

watching your videos is like a Sunday tradition!! thank you for posting

[@HannahElise]

awwww yay :) thank YOU for being here!

[@emiliita]

We love you, Hannah! Thank you for being such an inspiration and to everyone, don't forget to take care of yourself and treat yourself to something worthwhile! (:

[@HannahElise]

thank you 🥺❤

[@morenaailin2470]

ABSOLUTELY, COMPLETELY, 100% LOVED THE VIDEO. Maybe you should talk about the importance of going on solo dates on your podcast, I'd love that. ❤️

[@HannahElise]

THANK YOU :) adding it to my list rn

[@jasmijnheck]

hey hannah! i just wanted to say that u r a big inspiration for me. ur so comforting and really my therapy. that might sound heavy but i just love you! 🤍 just wanted to let u know ily 🫶🏻

[@HannahElise]

hi ❤ thank you so much - you are so kind. I'm so happy I can bring you a lil happiness 🥹 thank you for being here and ily more

[@BethGould]

The video hasn’t even started and I’m already obsessed

[@katiebhull]

I live by myself but I still find it so hard to go out and do things by myself like going out to eat or doing something fun. but this was really inspiring and I hope I can use this energy to take myself on a date sometime soon.

[@HannahElise]

omg I'm in the same boat. I get into such a comfortable routine being at home by myself that leaving to do something by myself feels like a chore. I'm actively trying to combat that and teach myself that it's okay to go out and do something fun alone out of the house :)

[@Aprilhojazz]

One mind trick i do is to consider myself as a solo tourist in the city or on a work trip. I feel less awkward when i buy in to that mindset.

[@katiebhull]

@@HannahElise that’s great advice! i think seeing other ppl “struggle” with it makes me feel less alone in that situation and gives me the power and confidence to do it!

[@mayer7777]

Self-dates are so underrated. Loved this vlog!! Thanks for bringing us with you

[@HannahElise]

Thank you so much :)

[@Simplylakesha]

Yes!!! 2023 Dates with myself is my theme! Love this, for many years now I’ve given so much of myself to others, leaving barely anything to give to myself! This year that changes Love God first then myself ❤

[@anna__vandezande]

taking youself on a date is just some selfcare

[@HannahElise]

VERY true

[@ruienchua2637]

i've made it a goal this year to become more comfortable with myself, and that I should do the things I want instead of waiting for my friends to accompany to do it. i guess this video came at the perfect time:) thank you hannah, it feels like talking to a big sister

[@melodybucker3803]

Such wise words. At 43 years old, I can say with 100% certainty, she is SOOO right.

[@pheonixr03]

I love when I can just click on the video right when I get the notification, my favorite part of my Sunday's 🥰🥰

[@loganu4664]

Some of my favorite days are when I don't have anything to do, so I go to my local bakery to get myself a pastry, and then I go wander around Barnes and Noble or my local second-hand record store for a couple hours. Dates for yourself should be more commonplace, because they really are a special type of therapeutic

[@alisonking6910]

Just wanted to drop by and tell you how absolutely gorgeous you are! Inside and out. So happy for you and this journey you’re on. Sending love always 🖤

[@HannahElise]

thank you so much. this is so kind 🥺❤

[@maddieisaconnecticutblonde]

i recently moved to CT and basically use your vlogs as a guide on where to go in nyc cause it’s so overwhelming and idk where to goooo🤪 so bring on ALL the nyc vids and recommendations pls

[@HannahElise]

omg I spend so much time by myself and at home idk if I'm the best person for this HAHAHAHA but I will try

[@samantharittenberg9917]

I love how you got an ICED chai latte even though it was snowing and omg a chai latte plus a cardamom bun equals heaven!! I’ve never actually had a cardamom bun before but I love the flavor of cardamom and would looove to try one. Your outfit slayed today Hannah, I’m absolutely obsessed with it. 😍😍

[@maggie5706]

i love normalising being alone! I've always liked doing things alone mainly bc I was doing it my way haha but especially now when I moved out for uni I find it so important to manage my time alone so I still have fun cuz jeez uni's haaard. but I remember once someone saw me alone in a restaurant and came up to me saying "omg why are you alone? are u okay?" and I was so stunned by their reaction cause I was having a great time and they thought I'm being lonely. Threfore lets just all normalise enjoying our own company cause its a sign we like ourselves and its such a confidence booster!

[@marcoakastallion8621]

I did this today, I live in San Diego, and I drove up to Venice beach, and stayed there for a few hrs. Then I went to the grove. It was amazing. Love me friends and fam but solo time is the best time.

[@AnnaHansford]

Hannah’s channel reminds me of Ashley AKA Best Dressed. Only Hannah would never ghost us EVER 🤍

[@blueb2343]

I live in texas and I have been by myself for a LONG time, am talking years. And I am totally fine, i have friends also but i listen to my inner person and love me first. I haven’t really watched a youtuber in a full video for months and your channel really encourages me back to watching. Thanks for making this video, extremely important for us young people. “The only person that you can always rely on is YOURSELF”. That’s it!! We love you Hannah! ❤❤

[@itsharneet]

You have no idea how much I needed this today ♥

[@HannahElise]

that makes me so happy ❤

[@felipetavares245]

My God, i really loved this video. I’m from Brazil and searching some videos to learn English. So, besides learn English, you show how it’s important to date yourself, we have time for ourselves. Thank you for sharing your experience 😍

[@saradsilv305]

I’m glad I clicked on this video; seeing how happy you got in all of those little moments put a smile on my face 🥺 this might sound weird but seeing how happy you got, the complete context of the video, it all reminded me of a poem I’d written last year, towards the end of it - to put it simply - it says; “you’re worth your own time” and just seeing how happy you got in all of those small moments - again, sorry if it sounds kinda weird - it inspired me to be happier and do things with myself, somewhere inside me I do want to do things like this but I never end up going through with it, but I hope I can start this year 🥺

[@ninarosarodrigues7340]

This video really encouraged me to take myself on dates, going out by myself can be really hard for me 💌

[@nutmeg9593]

I hope you have fun! You'll wish you started doing it years ago!

[@HannahElise]

YAYYY that makes me so happy. You can do it! You'll look back and be so happy with how far you've come

[@ashtonheardthat]

love the ending!! it’s okay to spend time by yourself & to spend time with friends! perf

[@HannahElise]

we love ✨balance✨

[@serenemccormack4175]

waking up on a Monday morning (in Australia) to Hannah's video is the best start to the week

[@HannahElise]

ugh I would love to visit Australia

[@meglovessims6030]

Loving your podcast! I always look forward to your Sunday video

[@HannahElise]

thank you so much :)

[@myahasarah507]

This is so off topic but Hannah’s eyes are so beautiful 🥰

[@HannahElise]

THANK YOU OMG

[@charlyloh2656]

your videos put me in the absolute best mood hannah

[@HannahElise]

thank YOU for your kind words & for being here :)

[@joules734]

I'm a new follower, I discovered you from the podcast and I already feel like you're gonna be one of my favorites! You're soo gorgeous and inspiring! Love you so much 🥰

[@HannahElise]

HIII omg WELCOME ❤ so happy to have you here

[@yulissadamiana9161]

Needed a video like this today, it’s like you read my mind Hannah 🥰 love you

[@HannahElise]

love you most ❤

[@guacamolee408]

hannah! i feel like a podcast would really suit you and your content (wich i love😌) there are many of us that would be thrilled to hear you podcast lots of love from argentina,xx

[@HannahlovesStories]

I’m so jealous of you!!! I wanted to see The Music Man so bad but wasn’t able to make it to NY before it closed. I bet it was phenomenal!

[@HannahElise]

It was legitimately one of the best shows I’ve ever seen

[@fernandapantaleao29]

watching your videos is literally a tradition to me

[@HannahElise]

thank you for coming along :)

[@LaurynAmini]

I’ve taken myself to the movies a few times for solo dates, but this makes me want to take myself out to a restaurant!! I’ve never done that one before and it seems like it would be really fun 🥰

[@HannahElise]

YESS DO IT! "table for one" club helps you gain so much confidence I highly recommend

[@booklover2.0G]

Dates w myself are the best thing and everyone should do them, actually its required.

[@_____liah]

i was scrolling through random travel vlogs, specifically ones about Italy, and luckily, i stumbled upon your channel and i am currently binge-watching your videos to calm myself during my midnight ‘me time’ and i ran into this video and as an introvert, i appreciate your words on how we can all enjoy our own presence. sometimes, i also realize that even though we have other people to keep us company, the company we can give ourselves is indeed irreplaceable and that there will always be sooo many ways for us to enjoy our own selves and treat ourselves as our own best friends! 🤍

[@brandon00257]

Such a great video! You look amazing Hannah!😍 I love the dates with yourself, something we should all do.

[@briannadestefano2461]

This was suchhhhh a good video! I loved the editing and the video idea! Good job!

[@HannahElise]

thank you so much 🥺 this made me smile

[@bellardqe]

ugh i love ur vlogs

[@CamCity98]

Hey Hannah, this vlog looks really amazing I’m glad that you had a lot of fun. I also enjoyed the third episode of your podcast it was great. As always you’re the real one 🙂

[@autumnleaves8984]

Your videos are the highlight of every Sunday

[@HannahElise]

posting them is the highlight of mine :')

[@julianowak541]

That was so inspiring!! Thanks for taking us with you ❤

[@HannahElise]

thanks for coming along :)

[@jerichamarie]

Girl, your makeup is always stunning, but you also look so pretty without it too!! 😍

[@HannahElise]

thank you so much 🥺 you are too kind

[@tami1468]

this really inspired me to get out my comfort zone. And you're so right, growth is not comfortable that's why we must do it in order to grow ❤️ I loved this and it has totally inspired me to do more solo things and enjoy my company!!

[@HannahElise]

YAYYY I'M SO GLAD! you got this

[@cherylzink3612]

Loved this video Hannah! So glad you had a great time!

[@HannahElise]

thank you 🥹

[@Lucy_gth]

Always looking forward to sunday! You look so great girly, it makes my day seeing that you just live your life. Keep going! 🤍 And I love you too, so much! I love the message of the video so much and it reminded me to get up again and take myself somewhere nice. 🥹

[@toneloc3372]

Hannah loved your vlog a self date in NYC very nice the outfit of the day looked so good self care is such a great thing

[@jelizabeth3672]

I saw Music Man last year around this time! so so much fun and yeah when Hugh appeared everyone lost it lmaooo

[@samantharittenberg9917]

You are amazing Hannah. You are an amazing human being and I love and appreciate you so much💖💜

[@drippyyy]

OMG IM LATE BUT AHHHHHHHHHHHH I LOVED THIS SO MUCH HANNAH ILYSM!!!!

[@einavtabibi6725]

This is so wholesome 🫶🏼

[@juliamrossi]

This is part of my Sunday funday ❤

[@cridtiins]

this is what i needed to hear right when i needed to hear it, thank you hannah

[@HannahElise]

thank you for being here

[@cristinacindric]

Best part of every weekend !!!! ❤

[@DJ-unome]

I’m glad you changed it up. Really nice video.

[@samanthaholland3136]

Harry Styles is coming to Australia in March and none of my friends wanted to go so your girl is going solo because there was no way I was going to miss that ✨

[@kdonaker1]

Love this! I’ve gotten better with doing things myself but sometimes it’s still a little hard so I think the ending was perfect! 😁🎉

[@sarahdixon4234]

can you please do a notion tour

[@madisonterrell9805]

This was the best pick me up on this dreary Sunday

[@AshleighBee]

The way I Gasped at the Music Man! So jealous you got to see it right before closing! I’ve always wondered if you like broadway because I’ve never seen you go! I always take myself on broadway dates I just got tired of trying to book with others and this never going now I’d rather do things alone

[@eringallachermusic4884]

First🤩🤩🤩 I love your videos so much ❤❤❤

[@lucylawley7674]

my fav vids of yours. thanks for teaching me to enjoy my own company 🫶🏽

[@HannahElise]

THIS MEANS SO MUCH. ❤ i believe in you always

[@lucysterloff]

this was so lovelyyyyy 💌

[@katherinelibenson1798]

“I’m just gonna grind it out” was my fav line

[@gracemorin]

i love you and the new podcast it is AWESOME

[@lexleuenberger2667]

I love that you had all the “supplies” for your outfit. I am totally borrowing that next time i put an outfit together 😆💗

[@HannahElise]

HAHAHAHAH I always refer to everything as supplies idk why 😂😭

[@lexleuenberger2667]

Because you’re crafty!! 😄

[@emilyjarvis7155]

hannah i need a best places to go when visiting NY for the first time video cause i’m coming in may and i’m so excited!! (of course la pecora is on that list lol)

[@aubryfonseca]

the highlight of my sundays (and now tuesdays)

[@alex_flamer]

I go on dates with myself all the time. Too much, actually! I wish I had as many friends who were easily available to have a dinner with as you do.

[@HannahElise]

Trust me, for the first 22 years of my life I didn’t have that 😂😅

[@Banyo__]

I used to be so afraid to go anywhere by myself because of perception. I didn't want to look like the lonely loser girl with no friends or no boyfriend, but that's such a stupid way of thinking on my part. Of course, I started with going to a place alone where no one would see me, which was a movie date, but then I worked my way up to a solo vacation to NOLA, and other than the night time where things were a little scary safety wise, I had THE best time just being able to go, see, and do what I wanted. At the hotel I stayed at, there was the nicest woman at the desk who just understood the assignment and just validated the need for vacations like this in the best way. I am forever grateful I changed my mindset because now the irony of it all is, I have so many more memories, and adventures I've gone on because I'm not staying at home like a sad little woman hoping that someone would ask me out or waiting on a friend to be able to find and do what I love.

[@saharshams2497]

Thank you Hannah! That was so fun to watch 🦋

[@HannahElise]

thank you :') also how did I not know this emoji existed brb using it w everything

[@cococow3695]

Wow! You’ve definitely inspired me to try this out Now looking forward to my first solo date next monthhh❤️

[@HannahElise]

YAYYY I'm so excited for you!

[@patriciafuchs5970]

This is fun! Alone time is wonderful.

[@HannahElise]

agreed :)

[@cappuccino_please]

11:40 looks like you sat on a single table. That is something that I miss in most restaurants. Because if I go to a place alone and block two seats during rush hour, I feel like the restaurant employees hate me for reducing their revenue by 50%. And at this point, I don't even want to go alone to a restaurant, at least not in the evening. But at noon it's just not the same at feels more like going to a canteen. Also, it just feels different if you are the only one just sitting there without someone to talk to (in a normal restaurant) or if there are others who sit alone (which are almost never).

[@NeonOstriches]

Why’d that last message make me tear up 😭

[@melanie98d]

Always the real one we love🥰

[@lilimatyas7633]

Hannah, I loved this video so much❤️🫂

[@juliejames3338]

hi hannah;brilliant video; great that you took yourself out on a date; you inspired me to go to the gym, on my own;hubby is depressed so to make sure i don't follow him.......need to get out more: walked through broadway a long time ago, but didn't get to see a show: lovely that you are making the most of your life in ny

[@biancajc]

My hubby also deals with depression... when he's really down, I like to make plans by myself to do things he wouldn't normally like to do anyway (like go to the mall, or to a restaurant he doesn't like and I do)! It's a small treat and I feel like really helps

[@elenaholtz247]

Hi! Here’s a video idea for you (and us😂). Layover in NYC by yourself? I’m flying in super early in one airport and have almost all day to spend in the city before heading to another airport for the overnight flight to Europe. Would love your ideas on things to do this time of the year (not like touristy things!)❤

[@anchalgiri2482]

The t shirt with visible stitching suits you really well, i thinks clothes with some character looks good on you !

[@MuskaanAroraa]

need to go on one of these dates ASAP 🤍🎀

[@rencywinski]

WE LOVE YOU HANNAH❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@ashleyp.5411]

Thank you for this

[@officialsimplyspencer]

freaking PREACH IT GIRL ❤

[@ruebennomura9143]

You are the best vlog on KZbin like this video

[@LE123LE123]

I’m laughing at the ISO-toner. I LOVE those gloves-isotoner (eye-so-toner) is one of the best brands out there! I haven’t seen them in my area for years, This is such good advice--to be able to enjoy your own time/do things on your own is so important-and fun tbh.

[@aasiyahhasan7664]

You make me want to fly to ny just for that pasta😩 it looks SO good!

[@edubzz14]

You NEED to try Thrive causemetics! Their tubing mascara is bomb and won’t smear! I live in Houston and it’s humid af here. And the brand is a big supporter of women Also. love that you do solo dates. They are so important. Next step for you is a solo vacation! My first solo trip was Boston. Then I went to the Grand Canyon and Sedona the next year!

[@sammykeane]

yay happy sunday!!! thank you for always being so real and letting us follow along your journey being in new york🤍 i'm so glad you were able to spend the day doing the things you love, with your own company and the people you love!! hope you have a spectacular week, lots of love xo🫶

[@alexisbas10]

I generally find it hard to go out and do stuff by myself, but since all of the shootings in the US I have no drive to put myself into those positions and it sucks. I know it could happen anywhere but it’s scary as hell

[@FashionChaletNET]

LIVING FOR THIS RN! I'm in my 30's and can't do things alone 🥴😵‍💫😭

[@HannahElise]

omg yes you can. I believe in you.

[@ftmbytalita]

Love this so much!❤

[@mansoor3159]

Hey! Hannah your vlogs makes me so so so so happy and I really love your vlogs so so much you are my inspiration and I wish you reach 800K Subscribers very very soon!☺️💫💞