Gay Relationship Milestones: How Soon is Too Soon??! | S2 E3

[@PKScoop]

Well, I was 21 when I met my husband, we jumped in quick, he was supposed to be my 1st one night stand and in January we will celebrate 33 years together legally recognized marriage for 8. When you know, you know.

[@ScottRosenquist]

My husband and I moved in together after 5 months. And we've been together for 20 years now! Just go with the flow.

[@butchie54]

I met my partner it was at a gay bath bar. We both stopped in for a coffee/tea before heading out to our own places, mine being out of town. We were in our 40's, previously married with children. At Pride in the summer of that year(2021), he was working as security and I felt these hands around my chest from behind and that was the start to our dating etc. Go forward and we just celebrated 22 years together. Do these things when the time is right. ❤😊❤😊😊

[@strongeroutcome713]

Hi Keegan Hi Joel, the two of you together is a pure bliss to watch. Just get married whenever you want I am sure both of you want that very much. Met my husband 25 years ago I was 27 he was 24 we move in very quiclkly bought a house a second one and married since 6 years. The marriage has not changed anything it just makes you Stronger Together.

[@TimLatimer-s3z]

You boys are so cute. Clearly suited to each other. I wish you a happy life together. My partner of 27 years recently passed and I’d not trade in one second of those years. Hold on to each other and cherish every minute

[@orlandohinojosa8497]

I love your show , let’s me know I’m not alone in the gay world with gays that want a committed relationship

[@h0mbre299]

Yeah! Content like this gives me hope. Like, why am I searching for superman when I'm probably walking past clark kent everyday?

[@hoangvu3121]

same here!!

[@ramongoncalvespina9474]

I was about to say the same thing, it’s almost like we’re forced into hook up culture

[@nateloish3309]

So true! I am looking for something exclusive. I want a husband, not a hookup

[@orielwiggins2225]

This was such a great episode. I love these topics. And thank you for making the serious things fun. Keegan impersonating a high school girl was priceless! "Chad and I are Ex Clu Sive!" 😅

[@anvoeske]

LOL! Can we get that line "We're exclusive now~ me and Chad we're exclusive~" on repeat ROFL! 16:22

[@Myplop]

This pod cast is heartwarming ❤

[@Brooksie603]

Pet peeve of mine is ending a call with “ I love you”. Unless it’s someone you don’t see all the time, then it’s ok but otherwise it becomes repetitive and less meaningful as much as saying hello or goodbye. I do say it anytime I end a call with my mother, but she lives far away and I rarely see her. When I say it to her I think about it more as if it could be the last time I talk to her. I would rather it be said to me less often and at a moment that is special. For many fathers I feel like it’s implied and doesn’t require to be said for whatever reason. I don’t remember my father ever saying it to me but I know he did.

[@barbarasherwood-rt9ty]

I cannot express to you how much fun it is to watch the two of you. Listening to your banter had me smiling so much throughout the show. Love the way you joke with each other and the "devils avocado" comments. Love how you look at each other too. I know, that's a lot of "love" I'm sending your way, I'm one of those people.

[@justgreta1796]

I loved this one! You two have such a great relationship. All of the banter is great fun.

[@davidoran123]

Good to see you two. Married for 28 years here. Happy together.

[@jthulan]

I am a subscriber and have watched many of your videos. This one had me laughing the most. When you guys banter back and forth (like discussing Keegan's schtick) it cracks me up!

[@kev2020]

Traveling brings out a whole different side of people depending on how they handle different environments and cultures etc. My partner and I probably get into at least 1 argument per trip. I love to see different countries and solo travel while he has insecurities about certain things and would explode before I'd even registered what had happened. I value my peace and almost walked after our first trip but I've learned how to help him through it and it has made me a much more patient and understanding person with others in my life vs my normal GTFO mentality. A partnership might be 50:50 in an ideal world but it will also be 75:25 or 40:60 at times. That's when you really learn what you're made of as well as if your partner will catch you when you stumble.

[@SpunkySandiDee]

Hi Guys. Really enjoyed these discussions. Your interactions are both real and entertaining. You guys seem to have communication down between the two of you. Your listeners will relate and take a lot of positives from you today. And here in Nova Scotia, Canada, it’s very normal to say “Love you both” 😊

[@ajaxon319pldunbar]

I really enjoyed this podcast. Your banter, cadence and stories were very engaging, funny and insightful. However, as for me, the milestone issues you discussed are merely wishful and wistful thinking as I'm just trying to nab the first date! There's a big learning curve as an 60-year-old guy just stumbling out of the closet. Your vlogs/podcasts make me hopeful that someday I'll connect with a happy, healthy homo bloke and be able to create and live my own milestones. My future self eagerly awaits the day when I can write to you about having to go to the police station to lodge a formal grievance because the most wonderful, incredible, loving man I've ever met in my life has stolen my heart and irrevocably changed the trajectory of my life forever.

[@hoangvu3121]

26:10 wait? people clap on airplane upon landings?? thank god i have my noise canceling headphones on i dont pay attention to that much, danggg haha.

[@ALEZANDAR]

In my experience we gays don't give friendship much thought or time for that matter, as it being a strong and solid foundation in getting to know our partners before making a long term commitment. Love your show!

[@GarySmith-cp8mp]

My husband and I moved in after 2 months. We were together 17 years before we got married mostly due to gay marriage not legal. We now have been together for 23 years just an old married couple and still enjoy each other. Enjoy your show

[@thomasbanaszak2688]

The most important thing is the daily commitment to each other and it’s obvious that you love each other and are totally committed to spending the rest if your lives together. ❤️

[@Dragonmoon1598]

Just a guess about why gays rush into love, but I assume gay peole who come out later in life, somewhere in their 20's plus, and then begin to persue dating and other activities, are trying to make up for lost time. While simultaneously feeling they're behind everyone else, primarily straight family and friends, and feel a societal pressure to meet relationship milestones: Kissing, intimacy, moving in togeather, marriage and possibly kids.

[@doughmestic-bliss]

That's exactly how I was, thought I had to make up for lost time and just succeeded in making myself miserable rushing things before I was really ready. In the end I pulled back from dating completely because I was making silly choices that weren't in my best interests and if I had my time to do over again I would slow it right down and let things develop naturally instead of trying to push it.

[@Splat55099]

Yall are so cute. This was a good episode. Could you please do a talk on dealing with family memebers who are very against you being gay? Or other important people in your life who you cannot just cut ties with.

[@calvind2054]

Guys, I actually love this topic. Not looking for a relationship in my near future. Not as fortunate as the 33 years of at least one couple in your comments. But these are definitely tools I could have used before now.

[@JamesWood-ef1rg]

Well for starters the reason a lot of gay men not all though rush into relationships is because a lot of women and men are very insecure, or its lust till the honeymoon period is finished then it is like actually what do we have in common. There is more to relationships then sex! But sex is very important too. There is never a right time or wrong time to start or end a relationship just enjoy the moment whatever happens will happen. I totally agree with Joel when he mentioned people clapping on a plane it is like get a grip! Another amazing episode keep up the good work guys.

[@andmichaelt]

Love you two so much. You have such a great relationship and love the banter

[@belisariobenites1091]

Keegan, just drop to your knee a propose. Give Joel a big surprise. Don’t waste your time philosophizing about time or love. Love for each other is so obvious that all you need is to start the process going. Give us us a huge surprise! 💙💙

[@orielwiggins2225]

So much good stuff in this episode, I hope you release several smaller ones, or else I'll just have to blow up the comments here with all the things I love.

[@jdharstonjr]

Great video guys! I really enjoy your podcast!

[@candidolopez1131]

This is BY FAR my favorite episode!!!!! Met my partner in a bar, kissed like crazy there - (drinks) went to my place - had sex... moved in 2 weeks later, said I love you at the same time -became exclusive immediately - then finally had our first date. Took our first trip together about a year later - hated him on the trip. First and last. Never again. His mom refused to believe we were together but was fine with us sleeping together and always asked for us to take good care of each other. Ok mom. We've been together for 25 years now. I ask him if he wants to get married - he says, "Whatever you like" then conversation ends. Not a deal breaker - obviously. As for the plane - mom made us clap from NY to PR all of my childhood existence just bc the wheels touched the ground safely. Now I look around and see if anyone is clapping, if so, I clap under my seat - very low of course. Just bc I'm afraid my mom is watching from above. Give me a break mom. So in other words - my life with all of this - was all over the place - and I love it...and you guy! Tx for the freaking laughs! ps...I think saying i love you to family and friends is overrated...If they don't know it by now then move on and we'll meet again some other time.....

[@okorochukwunonso2563]

I agree. One of my favorites too.

[@RCanadian]

I moved in with my husband (RIP) a few months after we met. We were together for 10.5 yrs (married for 5.5 yrs before he passed).

[@bridgetisjonesing5007]

Yo… lol 5:53 when this part of this podcast was exposed! You can see how fast that topic was changed 😂

[@pppexplorer]

This podcast was funny and interesting. 👏🏽🌈 I disagree with Joel though about people clapping when a plane lands safely - I love it! 💙 It's people being thankful for the wonder that is a safe flight, and showing appreciation to the pilot & crew. ✈😃

[@stephenhawkins1913]

Very good broadcast today thanks

[@jimnelson519]

Love you guys! Do you think you would have moved in so soon if you didn’t have the distance to deal with? Had you both lived in London it may have been different. ❤

[@Gina-lw3yw]

Straight woman who loves you guys. I feel like a lot of people meet on dating sites so you could put your relationship expectations on your profile and hopefully weed out people who aren’t like minded. Just my 2 pennies..!lol. Reg from NY.

[@nateloish3309]

Im 31 and haven't come out to my family yet, but i had my 2nd dates with a guy yesterday. We went AX throwing. I am just trying to figure out my feelings, seeing ive never been with a woman. This vid is so helpful. I just am scared because I know ill lose my job and family after they find out. ANY suggestions?

[@Michaelneiss]

Who’s to prescribe to anyone else how to live their life?! I've told my partner right from the start that I am not into open-relationship experiments. Since then, we've been in a monogamous relationship for 23 years, although we still live in separate apartments. My partner’s brother, on the other hand, moved in with his now-husband after just a few dates. And yet, they still fancy themselves living in an open relationship… though I’m very doubtful they have the time to put this theory into practice, especially with two toddlers in foster care. 🤷‍♂

[@scottyh8494]

I don't think I would like to be in a relationship and then having to share him with someone. I think in the long run it just makes it easier to say goodbye. If others do this of course that is their business.

[@dzmitryhartsuyeu507]

cant wait

[@joemalick]

OMG, that was a funny podcast, the banter was on point! 😂 But good advice as well, and I think communication is the key to basically all those questions. Assumptions cause issues, and issues cause breakups. And I had to mention my favorite quote by Keegan: “Marriage is like a dick measuring” … 😂😂😂 Love u guys. ❤

[@terrywildish8048]

You two ARE married !

[@cloudofreverie786]

The only reasonable clap in an airplane is if the pilot was able to save you from crashing the plane. Some people clap for landing from a very turbulent plane ride and I don’t mind it. But clapping merely just for the heck of it after the plane landed, side eye lol.

[@Giacccomo]

Moved in together with my partner after being together for just a few months :) I think it's fine - when you know you know

[@CindySchoonover-i4s]

Not going to lie I am one that claps when a plane lands, but only when it was a very turbulent flight. Like you think you might fall from the sky. That has happened only once to me. But even the flight attendants clapped.

[@calvind2054]

Joel, going on a trip, close or abroad, no recording videos. It could make or break, not my words.

[@simonfriend839]

Obviously very envious of you’re relationship, haven’t had that since the 90s xxxxxxx now I’m own my own till I die 😊

[@okorochukwunonso2563]

Hugs to you!

[@jamesromaine4321]

You both are the bests

[@OuranMom101]

Just go as fast or as slow as you guys want!!! 😙

[@cindysin2347]

Please marry Keegan so we can stop fantasizing about marrying him ourselves!

[@kathleenchild]

Entertaining video 😂

[@patricksweeney1088]

I'm putting you on my calendar for July 26, 2026.

[@nateloish3309]

Is joel and leah still a channel?

[@mikiewifnoe360]

Sex: I never wanted sex unless I loved the person. I did, of course, have sex with someone I did not love, but not often. It was totally unsatisfying, I assume, for both of us. My husband and I have traveled with friends many times, and after each journey, we say, never again,

[@okorochukwunonso2563]

why never again?

[@mikiewifnoe360]

@@okorochukwunonso2563 We find that our travel style is much more intense than those who have gone with us. We want to do what we want when we want, and trying to make others happy is a lot of work. I enjoy my husband, and he is the only one I want to ensure is enjoying life. We get along quite well and never have conflicts in travel. What it boils down to, I am selfish. But as is our history, when someone asks if they can join us, we say okay. So saying never again is kind of a fantasy.

[@okorochukwunonso2563]

@@mikiewifnoe360 I understand. All the best to you and your husband.

[@marcathens2951]

No moving in. Each guy had his own place 👍

[@rjrod1326]

I met a guy on grindr and within a month we became roommates in my one bedroom apartment. We sleep in the same bed and are intimate, but are not boyfriends. 😅🤷 technically dating...

[@scottsaunders5087]

I’ve not been on a date in 5 years I’m doing so well😂

[@scottsmith516]

Guys your sound system really sucks you have to up the volume big time please my phone is at max and still have a very hard time to hear you🌈 ❤🧡💛💙💚💜

[@rasferrastfarian739]

We're coming up to 21 years this Nov; not really interested in "marriage"; it's just a piece of paper at this stage! 🙂

[@kodyduclos5845]

Free mumffs ago! 🙈😘 you knoo noothin John Snoo

[@onyxmoon4843]

Aquarius vrs Libra 😉

[@samdave3368]

I want to marry him 😇🥰👑💃🏼

[@Hotspot87]

I have a friend who moved in with her boyfriend after a month, they've been together for YEARS and have three kids now. But they're also in a poly relationship because he has to do alot of work trips, so she's allowed to have a boyfriend or girlfriend, mainly girlfriend because he's the only guy she's ever really been into. (It was sad because her last girlfriend dumped her to be with another man and she was heartbroken and her man was like, well atleast you still have me! And she was like, you're right! lol) On the contrary, there was a gay influencer couple who moved in and got engaged after three months, and no surprise they broke up. They're friends with Fish and Sparrow, who is another gay couple and I think they're really cute together. It really just depends on the people involved, just don't rush things and do what feels right.

[@harvestmoon_autumnsky]

23/7/26... got it.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

In India, I could hypothetically live with a partner but it wouldn’t be recognised by the State and I’d have no claim over them if their family decides to intervene.

[@johnbelfort8423]

Get your kit off, boys!

[@michellecaseygalloway780]

❤❤

[@philparisi9175]

Joel, did you put on a few lbs?

[@bartholomewmozart2978]

Who cares