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Great that Keegan is on the way to a full recovery. Great news about HHO Manchester event can you add me to the list for 2 tickets please?

Hey guys. Good Keegan is doing so well. I love your podcast and love to hear you both speak. Is that a card? Or a sign (red.. boyfriend)

Here Here. Wear whatever you want to wear.

Grindr is a joke. I had a a fair share of really mean comments that make me feel severely depressed at times. The app is also full of men who ask if I am GEN. Like bro…. Get a damn job . I work! Why can’t you ? lol. The guys on the app are flakes and meeting someone is possible but just very very difficult. With all of these problems, the app is just one massive waste of time.

Yay. So glad Keegan had such a great surgery and is back and healing well. Here's to fully being able to breathe!!! Love the fun vibe guys. Keep up the great work. And what a great conference. I assume it'll sell out fast.

Great episode, and a topic we all can relate to, so thanks for covering it! I love the quote “Your body is an instrument, not an ornament”! More people should repeat that on the daily. 👍 And thanks for the plug to register to vote - it does matter, especially here in the U.S. Keep up the great work! ❤

Joel stop listening to internet trolls of all ages. Wear what you want. Your 75 yr old female American fan. ❤

Ok. This summer is a lost cause. Start working on summer 2025. Oh my. 😥

I love your new studio at home. Nice setup.😊❤

Great episode again. I think the thing with America is that most of the population isn't as informed/influenced by fashion (or culture, really) from London and Paris etc, and is therefore less progressive (is that the right word). This creates a delay in a lot of mindsets like, men shouldn't wear, do,, etc cuz it's only women or effeminate men who do those things. It's sad coz like you've said in purveyor episodes, the classy folks who do dress or act certain ways are not less of a man, they are more fully themselves and comfortable expressing themselves and it's not effeminate, it's just fashion. Those films are closed minded and if they lived over seas for a while they would realize they are the one who looks odd and careless and unattractive. Wear it skinny jeans if you like, Joel. They suit you just fine and didn't say anything about you except that you care about your clothes fitting you well. Your t shirts are NOT too tight. I don't get that at all.

I think the "I'm just gonna be single for awhile" is a good answer. Before i started being open with my sexuality and people assumed i was straight if the conversation of a girl ever came up i would just say "oh I'm happy being single" generally the conversation would end on it's own, if not right away it would come to an end pretty quickly.

This man is VERY handsome

Keegan so glad your surgery was a success. I can understand your words so much clearer. You guys have such a fun show and I enjoy the information you share with us . Gerry

Another fantastic podcast. Don’s letter about being at Stonewall during that pivotal moment was inspiring and heartwarming. Thank you, Don. In a show about body positivity, it was ironic that the ad that appeared on my KZbin feed immediately following your discussion was some shirtless 40+ gentleman with a hirsute and chiseled body hocking a brand of protein powder that when consumed would get you looking like him. I had to laugh because you two had just spoken about these shirtless influencers/brand ambassadors/salesmen. I’ve already decided that I’m going to improve my health and worry far less what complete strangers will think of my body. I am overweight, have bigs scars from accidents and surgeries, which cover my back and legs, and I have limited ambulatory mobility. However, I’m making it a goal throughout this year and next to become healthier physically, mentally and emotionally. I’m going to work on being confident shirtless at the beach, and to go to a gay nude campground or resort next year. I’m learning not to let the real and imagined opinions of total strangers dim my shine. Thank you again for a great podcast.

Keegan...feel free to take your shirt off anytime! lol

Oh my goodness. I just got chills and choked up when you read Don's review. Thank you Don for your willingness and courage to stand up to the police at Stonewall! Very important and impactful.

Great/interesting episode, Guys. Keep up the good work,.

6:19 this was so funny and endearing to me, how you both stared at the cricket sound 😂 love the podcast

Im a 42 year old gay man, that has no close blood family, no chosen family, no friends, no bf and i dont have intimate connections due to sexual trauma. i am truly alone and have no idea how to change it. im on a low income, several mental and physical health issues. Life is lonely and miserable. Lots of internalised homophobia. Avoiding my feelings is all i can do. im lost but ive accepted my fate. What will be will be will be. Apologies for my spelling.

Open gay relationships is nothing but cheating on each other. If you want to be in an ,open gay relationship ,then be single and be the cheater that you are by yourself!! YEP!!

Good Golly, the most handsome men ever! Cheers from Tallahassee! Greg

Even when I was skinny, I wasn't skinny enough. There is definitely an unrealistic expectation that you need to look like a porn star even if you have a day job.

How much of a Summer Ready body is related to age? Is it code for “I’m under 30” or “check me out at 40”? And is it sexually related? I just feel every year it’s to say something to others, but what exactly. Curious. Ready for that Circuit White Party is definitely sexually related because that party is all about sex. I went to a few and was never impressed because I only went because my friends went.

Where’s the list?….

I've been working out for just over a year. While I've seen some change, I'm fully aware I'm a year plus out from really seeing big results. I'm also in a much healthier place mentally. That said, while I'm good with myself and my body. It's difficult to remove the years of toxic thinking. At least in the context of what others think. So while I've come to terms with my appearance. I realize I still have a long way to go around confidence.

Doing exercises and classes one after another is considered exercise bulimia.

Love you guys ! Needed this

The living room is very cozy and welcoming. Definitely not flaccided 😂

You choose the best topics 👏🏽

Thanks guys!!! Well Done!!!

I loved this; it’s so wholesome & is something that I’ve been looking for in the gay community ❤️

Some in open relationships talk of boundaries. Boundaries? This is how screwed gay relationships are, even we ourselves can't sometimes perceive of an honest monogamous relationship. Just sow your seed before deciding to permanently plant a crop.

I think it’s easy to say it’s a “cop out” to say partner and not boyfriend, but as a clearly very strong buff, rugby player build if anyone attacks you as a result of you declaring your sexuality, you can defend yourself. We are not all built like that and we don’t all have safe spaces where we can always be out and proud in front of everyone.

Sounds like garden variety biphobia. Sometimes homosexuals really aren't much better than heteros

The gym has been the weurdest for me. I've encountered a lot of proudly closeted men at my gym it's so hard to tell at times especially uf its someobe i fancy.

Such an important topic! Having previously worked in Banks, Financial Abuse is alot prevalent than many would assume. Definitely a topic that needs to be talked about more. So good you guys are giving our community a safe space to raise awareness ❤

grindr is not the worst app for gay community and neither do other dating apps. The main problem is the hypocrisy of our time (which does not even spare the gay community). A large portion of people on apps actually already are in relationships ( and not always open relationships).

Birds of a feather flock together 😊

Oh please. If you're in an Open Relationship you may have the apps. I've made 2 great platonic friends on Scruff. So do you and screw others' opinions and judgments.

If he’s between jobs then he needs to get a job as he has too much time on his hands

Florida is very gay friendly and so is Desantis! They just don’t want books teaching sex acts to children under 10 in school libraries

No open relationship. Not good.

I think straight women are more likely to admit to abuse and also stretch the truth

you two are both so lovely and expressive and charming! love the conversations, i just found your channel yesterday so im hooked obviously. I have a particular interest in not changing my behaviour when out in public with or without a date or other gay/queer friends of mine. there is a lot of awkwardness that is placed on gay peoples bodies and being able to negate or ignore that awkwardness and remain free and expressive and not take on other peoples judgements in your own body or mannerisms is really satisfying and an important skill for any gay man.

spend your money where you want, go on holiday where you want, you don’t need to justify where you spend your money. But you can’t say that gay people in Florida have the same rights that straight people do. The question is do you go and enjoy yourself on holiday while the gay kid in the school down the road won’t be free until they can escape the state.

I've never understood why gay people travel to Islamic countries. Islam is incredibly anti-gay and needs to be criticised.

I agree. RESPECT is key. We are all humans- even sex workers don’t want to be inundated with these messages of «how big are you » or log in to an app with an inbox full of just booty shots or just dick shots. I mean, just because I indicated top or vers top on my profile doesn’t mean I am only interested in a physical part minus the person attached. This kind of thinking and interaction just makes my skin crawl. Do better men!

Open polyamorous person here, and my relationships are exceedingly fulfilling with deep emotional bonds with my polymates, have the freedom to explore for all of us is liberating and we all come back to communicating openly, clearly, and honestly what we are doing, how we have felt about our in poly and out of poly partners, and what our needs are. Have no jealousy, no need for possession as any one who becomes part of the polycule may leave at any time their consent may be withdrawn without fear, no need for control except in the scope of consensual DBSM, interdependency instead of codependency, honesty instead of dishonesty as there is no need to hide what we are doing from each other, no gaslighting rather providing validation and emotional support to each other, our respect for each other a beings with full agency is one of the foundations of the relationship, there is never a desire to isolation a polymate rather we take joying in their joy and share their sorrows, we seek to grow with each other in the ways that best suit each members needs. When a member finds someone outside the polycule that they feel a connection to whether physical emotional, spiritual, etc., the member of the polycule is encouraged to explore those feeling and the potential relationship that may arise and reminded they need to be honest about the polyamory and accept if the interest is not comfortable with the poly life. Cheating only exists if there is a lack of communication about the activity otherwise it is fully consented to. We seek to resolve conflicts that arise in a loving, informative, and validating manner, in a timely way to prevent the development of resentment and deeper emotional wounds. Financially we are responsible for our own needs and share in those that are shared experiences (dating expenses) this prevents powerplays in the financial space, the autonomy is fully honored within emotional the interdependency. My current polymates may change from time to time. Almost all prior polymates have remained friends even after romantic and sexual interactions end as the emotional bond is still present and I continue to nurture the friendship. I would welcome most of them back as polymates if they so sought to reengage.

There is NO total devotion in an open relationship as some naively proclaim. Devotion to whom? Certainly not the one waiting home while you're screwing someone else. Open relationships are just an ongoing hookup with the convenience of a fool waiting home for you. If and when my long-term partner was to express interest in an open relationship, we are OVER.