Exposing Our Relationship: Dating, Meeting the Kids, Bad Habits... | S2 E15

[@kathleenchild]

Joel and Keegan, I love your dynamic when you’re together. You have individual life goals, you have couple goals and from what I can tell you communicate openly and honestly with each other. ❤️

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Thank you so much! We appreciate it!

[@julietarpey4216]

I’m so glad you found each other as you seem so perfectly suited. ❤

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Aww thank you!

[@homoerectus6953]

Well done lads. I meet my other half on gaydar 15 years ago last saturday. Which was years before apps. Just wanted to you all to know that you can find people on social media and make a go of it. Were 4 dogs in (two pass at the age of 15), 3 houses later and just upmoved from Manchester to the Welsh Border as were now in our 50's and want to plan for our retirement together. Life can throw a lot of crap at you so as long as you both are honest with each outher and chat regular, then you can make it through any situation together.

[@happyhealthyhomo]

This is so inspiring thank you!

[@theharshtruthoutthere]

@@happyhealthyhomo Verse to those who think and see human life on earth as daily mating/dating: 1 Corinthians Chapter 7 32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: 33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. 35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction. Know it: LOVE = SPIRIT, LUST = CARNAL. What do we want? - being daily lusted after and to keep living ourselves and keeping everyone else also in the sin of fornication? Or do we want and ask for to BE LOVED ON DAILY BASES? We are all commanded to LOVE one another, not lust after one another neither to abuse one another. 1 John 4:7 - Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. 1 John 4:20 - If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen? John 15:13 - Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. John 14:15 - If ye love me, keep my commandments. 1 John 4:8 - He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love. 1 John 4:18 - There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love. 1 John 3:18 - My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth. Proverbs 10:12 - Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins. Matthew 6:24 - No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon. Romans 5:8 - But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Ephesians 4:2 - With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love; 1 John 4:10 - Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. BIBLE speaks of LOVE, not of lust. In our brokenness have we transformed LOVE into lust and live daily confused, broken, hurt, blind, deaf, proud = all this is our doing, GOD is not to blame, we are. Souls, remember: GHOSTS = DEMONS. you and your loved ones ain´t demons. You and your loved ones are ADAM = mankind, created in the image of GOD. you and your loved ones stay not around to "ghost", we return back to dust and back to GOD. Genesis 5:2 Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created. Ecclesiastes 12:7 Then shall the dust return to the earth as it was: and the spirit shall return unto God who gave it.

[@asdt2858]

Love this! Thanks for sharing. Boring is Beautiful! I love that ❤ my husband and I have been boring together for 24 years and I couldn’t be happier 🥰

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Love that!

[@PhilipSteeves]

It's nice to see you together , you are relaxed and respectful!

[@mattimal0726]

"..you cover my blind spots". I love that guys.

[@jamesbenge1159]

I love the rapport you two have together. That's the kind of relationship I've always aspired to, but it hasn't happened yet. It's nice to see role models of what a healthy relationship could be. This is such a great podcast too. Lots of great advice, warmth and humor. Thanks, guys!

[@DevonGeorge85]

Loved finding out the background to your both. I had a equally long distance start to my relationship and we're now happily married. Distance isn't a barrier when the relationship is right.

[@j.b.abraham4175]

Oh my gosh. I loved this video! It's nice to see a more vulnerable side of you guys, but I understand your point in protecting your privacy. Thank you for sharing. I feel like a combination of each of you. I am all over the place, overthink, sigh, but also won't express my feelings, stone faced, internalize everything. My husband is just like Keegan. Likes to debate, rationalize, and analyze everything. However, like Joel, I think I calm him down and soften his edges, and he grounds me when I'm flipping my cracker jacks!

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Complementing your partner is part of a lot of great relationships! Thank you for sharing! We're so happy you enjoyed the episode this week.

[@j.b.abraham4175]

@happyhealthyhomo you guys make a great team. I wish you both the best. I watch you guys and think, "Man, that's so true," or "if I only knew.".. "I wish I could have"), I really appreciate your platform, I'm in my mid-50s now and struggled to be fully out and accepting even of myself in my late 40s. It was mental anguish. I don't wish anyone to go through that torment. I grew up very similar to Joel in a religious (Christian) background, so I hid my whole life. Anyway, you didn't ask for my life story. I just wanted to say that your channel is great, I appreciate it and both of you, thank you. Jeff

[@harmonydesroches]

I'm a sigher too. I feel like my need to sigh stems from mental illness. Sometimes, my mind is such a jumble that if I sigh it helps pops things into place. It helps to relieve stress. It helps me focus. It brings me into the moment. It's relief, joy, contentment. Sometimes it IS annoyance or anger, but mostly it's self care.

[@diannamacdonald3716]

You two have such a healthy relationship. Others, gay or straight, could learn a lot from you. Thanks for sharing a little bit of your lives.💕

[@happyhealthyhomo]

SO sweet of of you, thank you!

[@andmichaelt]

I couldn't agree more. They have such a great relationship and although they say it is boring, it is a solid happy relationship which we would all love

[@lelandpeck4585]

This was very special! I'm so happy for you both!!! Your relationship seems to be very unique and mature - especially in the gay community. I think of a couple who started dating in the university years and I personally think they were too young and immature to have a lasting relationship and time has proven me right. But you both are in your early 30's and "have been around" so to speak, and now have started a mature, loving relationship. So happy for you!!

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Thank you so much! Glad you enjoyed hearing us chat!

[@ajaxon319pldunbar]

This was another great episode. Thanks for sharing these aspects of your life. You two keep me hopeful that my special someone is out there anticipating on us finding each other sooner than later. And I would hope that my future in love self would readily accept & cherish a grunting (Keegan) or sighing (HRH Prince Joel) disruptor to my day.

[@happyhealthyhomo]

That's too sweet of you! Thank you! Glad you enjoyed the episode :)

[@DawnDittberner]

Loved getting to know you both better. A softer side of Keagan is nice! Thank you for sharing more intimate details and letting us in a little bit more❤️ Joel, I find you hysterical! Thanks for the laughs!

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Aww you're too kind Dawn! Thank you and we're so glad you enjoyed the episode!

[@michaeljohndennis2231]

Keegan is gorgeous - he’s like a big cuddly teddy bear 😍😍😍😍

[@keeganandjoel]

He’s not

[@PetieSabala]

U2 crack me up so much. I can listen to you guys all day long. I’m so glad that you guys found each other much love from the states.

[@happyhealthyhomo]

So happy you find us funny, we're happy to entertain! Thank you for supporting us 💛

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Both of you are the legends in waffling ❤

[@happyhealthyhomo]

We'll take that as a compliment!

[@PokhrajRoy.]

@@happyhealthyhomo It is a compliment. I love the waffling

[@orielwiggins2225]

Love a good. Personal Q&A interview kinda episode. I'm so like you Joel, more sensitive and at the same time analytical and used to be easy more black and whole. Glad you two feel like you're helping make each other better.

[@happyhealthyhomo]

We're glad you enjoyed our waffling!

[@orielwiggins2225]

@@happyhealthyhomo always. I love a good waffle.😁

[@brigidweidner5392]

Two lovely souls. Thank you for the vulnerability. Love seeing the two of you achieving your goals and doing life together.

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Thank you so much, that's very sweet!!

[@jeffwolfe5264]

You guys happen to pop up your podcast on my KZbin feed it is so refreshing to hear you guys actually met online and hadn’t met in person. There’s something to be said about getting to know someone through discussion you really get to know someone I think it’s a wonderful thing in fact, I’ve met my fiancé online and the nice thing about that is that you get to know the person you’re not infatuated with the looks or anything you were just getting to know the human soul and for me at my age having similar values having similar interests, makes it all the more evidence to me That you guys are on the right track I think too many dating apps there’s so many things you have to worry about being catfish at stateside is really bad over here. I don’t know what it is like in UK but just getting to know someone through discussion kinda like a good old-fashioned date where you actually talk, and you’re not looking for a hook up or anything of that sort it’s when I wasn’t looking that I found my soulmate. We actually haven’t met yet. We’re planning to when he gets back from deployment but I think you guys are spot on.

[@happyhealthyhomo]

What a lovely story, we appreciate you sharing it with us!

[@damianleah6744]

Me and my partner met on a dating site in 2000, actually met for real in early 2001. Had a civil partnership in 2007 and very happy.

[@happyhealthyhomo]

That's so sweet! Thank you for sharing with us 😆

[@damianleah6744]

@@happyhealthyhomo I must say we kissed a lot of frogs before we met the right prince. 🤣

[@fredreubens89]

Just found your podcast, and really enjoy them. Have been going back and trying to watch all of them. You seem like a very nice couple. You are so lucky to have one another. Best of luck in all that you do.

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Oh, thank you! That's so kind 🥰 we are so glad you enjoy our ramblings!

[@fredreubens89]

@@happyhealthyhomo Wish people and shows like yours were around when I was your age.

[@annak7598]

I loved this podcast. Good to hear about your relationship more in future podcasts

[@scottross8578]

Great video. I never understand the word 'boring'. Life is such an adventure that the concept just doesn't make sense to me. Sure there are things we prefer over others but please don't equate contentment with boring. There'll be a day you'll crave the regular, mundane, run of the mill things as beautiful beyond belief. Be well.

[@iandingle3640]

Getting caught on my watching - this was a great video

[@irishameenah]

🥰🥰🥰. And then the stove extracted fan! “Vroosh! Vrooh!!” 😂😂 Such a lovely chat guys. 💕

[@irishameenah]

Oh! And thanks for the book rec!! Inspired through the ACOTAR series (Joel, Cherry is still not finished per her GoodReads!) My fave was ACOMaF, Wings & Ruin, & Silver Flames- but on the re-read (ya) the human journey in ACOTAR reads with more boldness and physical danger/fragility. Love tue book recs!!! ❤❤❤

[@davidharry9390]

Great episode. Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing. 🎉❤

[@ezelldaniels6064]

Love is love. 💚💙🧡💜❤️ This was such a great and inspiring episode.

[@happyhealthyhomo]

So glad you enjoyed it!

[@sophiaamundsen9142]

I love hearing you two talking! 😻 And your story is amazing. Keep up the good work🤗🤗

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Thank you so much!! Will do!

[@PaladinesAngel]

I love it when my other half is in the house. It feels much nicer and safer when he’s here. But we don’t have to be even in the same room all the time. We do our own thing. I just find i am more comfortable when he’s near. :)

[@happyhealthyhomo]

It's always better to have them near!

[@PaladinesAngel]

@@happyhealthyhomo totally. Which is really all kinds of lovely isn’t it. We have been together coming up for 21 years and it just doesn’t feel right without him around. I mean he drives me insane obvs, 😅, but I wouldn’t have it any other way :D

[@daniellerichard1385]

Major couple goals! x

[@jimnelson519]

Love you guys and this podcast! It’s amazing how wonderful life is when you meet your person. It happened for us 5 years ago. Cheers and best wishes to you both!🥂❤️

[@PhillipGiosio]

Love your relationship guys abd great advice too p

[@Thorn99855]

I actually love the sound of the kitchen exhaust fan. Maybe because my father would put it on and it gives me that vibe. Speaking of being "devil's avocado." Just saying Keegan. It can be a pleasant noise too.

[@kenbutler9240]

One your all-time best this.

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Thank you so much, we're so happy you enjoyed this week's episode!

[@brandonlang6567]

Ohhh my god, Joel! I found someone else who does what I do! I forget to breathe when I’m concentrating/stressed or busy or even talking a while so then I breathe hard and sigh hard lol. I’ve even had managers who I’ve had to explain that to and they’re like ohhh ok I thought you were being rude. Oops

[@jeangenie1240]

Oo-er, my cup overfills - you two and Tyler and Todd in one morning!

[@Myplop]

Oh I like Tyler and Todd too 👍

[@frankiejmtz]

Thank you guys for sharing! *hugs*

[@joemalick]

Behind on some watching cause of the holidays, this was a good one, thanks for sharing more of your story! Joel, you know we always love to hear more about the day to day stuff, so this was fun and interesting. Question for Keegan, after coming out, did you date anyone seriously before Joel? Just curious how much opportunity you had to be your true self in a relationship before Joel. Love you guys! ❤

[@Garcia-bo7lh]

Hi Joel am Thomas very fun to chat with and kind in person

[@liner2]

Beautiful people.

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Thank you, you're too kind 💛

[@6dewinter]

You are a great team

[@okorochukwunonso2563]

I love you two!!

[@trevisyoung802]

Hello Joel and Keggan!! Another awesome Wed. video!!

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Thank you! It was a fun one for us too!

[@Dragonmoon1598]

I would very much want my boyfriend/husband to be my best friend. First off, you can have more than one, best friend. But more importantly, I would want to be with someone who I can't wait to spend time with, that I can share things with ,and who's company I enjoy having around. Not everyone has to agree. But why would you want to date, love, and share a life with someone you wouldn't want to be around outside of a romantic scenario?

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Very true! But to each their own at the same time!

[@GregM-pf8pq]

OMG i sigh a lot too. Usually when I’m about to put effort into something that takes more energy than i believe I have. LOL

[@Brooksie603]

Great podcast!

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Thanks for listening

[@paulwj62]

this I's so enjoyable

[@happyhealthyhomo]

So glad you enjoyed it!

[@StuartAtkinson4467]

16:00 Living in Pontefract personally I think this over logic element comes from the pub culture combined with the previous generation being Thatcher's personal nemesis. It created a generation of parents that are very definite about what is right and wrong and considerations for others. Partly because there was a divide amongst people just about at the poverty line and people well beneath it. Always consider the impact on others, behave becuase of how it indicates you were "Raised right". But never the luxury of disengaging. I'm guessing Joel comes from a... ah a southerner. Haha I joke I'm ASD and I've never got the whole regional bs lol. 26:00 Fantasy books are the best has Keegen read Ian Irvine's Three Worlds Cycle? Or Terry Goodkind's The Sword of Truth?

[@colleensnyder8943]

I enjoyed getting to know you both better…sad you don’t get to know us on the same level. 🎄

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Well, there are rather a lot of you! But we try our very best! If you would like to chat to us more, let us know if we can help you with anything at [e-mail]!

[@dubon9999]

❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[@jeffsailer2091]

This was a great podcast ! But let's get to the really nitty gritty... who's top, who says " let's go to the bedroom" ??

[@keeganandjoel]

Grow up

[@michaelkline884]

That’s NEVER anyone else’s business kid, ever Real mature gay men respect each other’s privacy

[@Skylerthecat18]

weird.

[@horabeles]

hi, there is one thing that as a foreigner I don't understand. you always say “boyfriend”. When I hear the word, I think of teenagers. Do they not say in England, that's my "man"?

[@ralphcherry617]

What about "I like you because you're cute"???? Along with all those other worthy things.

[@SY-tn2io]

Joel is such a Libra and Keegan is sooo an Aquarius!

[@dianegilchrist677]

I must tell you gay or straight we all have our habits! So funny. My husband grunts & I sigh! We have been together so long yo just can read each others tones & signals.❤

[@Myplop]

I agree with the extraction fan comment, can’t they make it quiet?

[@frankskovgaardpedersen6668]

Have several times thought, have you more than 24 hours a day where you live, thought you achieve so much in a day, or is it just good planning.

[@happyhealthyhomo]

Mostly down to good planning and trying to stick to our goals I guess!

[@caesaranthonyrnrnt7330]

Great episode lads! Joel, I hope you grow out of those ‘grew up as a fat kid’ mannerisms like always covering your stomach or fluffing your shirt when you sit cos you didn’t want people to see your belly. I used to it so much too, so def understand how it can be a tough habit to kick. Especially with being gay and all.

[@J33-k3s]

My partner does the same devil's advocate thing! Its very annoying. But i still love him. Lol

[@happyhealthyhomo]

They have an annoying habit of being right sometimes too 😂

[@J33-k3s]

@@happyhealthyhomo Not mine. He's usually wrong.

[@Mahmah476]

As far as clumsy, seems I remember someone spilling a drink on the other on an airplane. 😂 Thanks for this episode.

[@diegohidalgo6302]

I love that you guys exist 🫶🏽🫶🏽

[@andrewvalentine8759]

Is it weird that I would like to hear these two have a healthy argument while I sit one table over eating my breakfast crossant, cup of coffee, and a smoke in one hand? Strange. Just listening to there tell all has me curious.

[@kennixox262]

So glad that your relationship with Keegan's kids are on great terms. So important for them and you. My own mother's same sex relationship, that woman was a total horror, a "step monster" and generally evil person. I believe that she was bi-polar alcholic caused decades of misery. I was 11 years old when she came to live with us and the mutual hate was quite obvious. Thankfully, was sent to a boarding school later on. I have a rabid hate for her to this day.

[@happyhealthyhomo]

That sounds terrible! So sorry you had to go through that. Thank you for supporting us and getting some comfort from our chats!

[@kennixox262]

I enjoy your chats and channel(s). I got the last laugh however after my mother died my bother brother and I received the bulk of the estate leaving the other "woman" nearly penniless. Now, she is in her late 70's, living in a small rental apartment. What comes around comes around in my book. Therapy has helped me get over all that mostly. Then there was 25 years in the military hiding in the closet. @@happyhealthyhomo

[@Ameroff1982]

Petition for Keegan and Joel to start an Onlyfans together? Sigh, joke, joke.

[@nickconder6272]

my God, the abuse of the english language! Where is Professor Higgins when you need him?

[@FullFiguredMermaid]

oh is it offensive I watch you because you are cuties? Is it objectifying that I find you handsome? I feel guilty.

[@ShivamKumar-fy6gh]

Hi am indian 20 years old boy I want a cute boyfriend same age.Indian government does not allow same sex marriage Friend help me in search of