Harvard Psychiatrist Fixes Trauma Victim (EP 155)

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Timecodes (Episode #155):
00:20 - Skip Intro
10:01 - Net Negatives
27:51 - Filters Ruin Self Esteem
52:23 - The Psychology of Failure
01:13:45 - Getting Over Your Fears
01:42:09 - How long can you last?
01:46:47 - How dangerous is that one website?
01:53:54 - Perfect First Date
02:02:36 - Outro
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[@UnderTheInfluenceShow]

We had to censor the end of the episode because youtube keeps demonetizing our videos. Don't worry, this is only temporary. We are sorry and appreciate you guys sticking through it

[@TheBhopali1]

Damn this you tube!!

[@wiljaxbrantley342]

use beeps or sum next time the cut without noise making my brain hurdid 🥴

[@ArCgon]

What was even the censored word at 1:02:56 ? Sounds like Dr K said "guiding light" or maybe "guiding gut"? Even that had to be censored?

[@Lyper15]

The censoring on this one made it a really hard watch. In the porn and sex segment I had a hard time understanding anything. You guys should work on keeping the start and end of a word... like most people do when they censor stuff. Good episode still!

[@tiggersrevenge]

Is there an uncensored version somewhere? The drop in audio is taking me out

[@HealthyGamerGG]

Had such a great time thanks for having us on. Don't rub your bellies the wrong way everyone!

[@UnderTheInfluenceShow]

Viet has never been the same. TY fixing him, Dr 🥲

[@kinageez]

Huge fan of your work doc thanks for coming on it was so nice seeing you in this setting!!

[@Mizzlezzlee]

Just watched your two episodes on Graham’s The Iced Coffee Hour. Hope to see you next on JKNews!

[@gtALIEN]

goat

[@Hoopladoopa]

@@MizzlezzleeIf Dr. K got on JKnews that would be so entertaining

[@Asnerlicious]

Watch how Dr. K Listens actively, then asks questions until you realize something, and then explains what you just realized and gives a summary of how you got there on your own. He is giving you a save point so you can more easily load in that revelation. Love this guy so much.

[@PatterizeCore]

I love DR.K honestly never thought i would see this crossover

[@paytonsample]

fr i love dr.k so i'm so shocked seeing him on here 😂

[@nmthanita]

same!@@paytonsample

[@ngeowngeow]

I love how Dr. K made everyone felt heard and was actually curious about what everyone has to say. It made me so happy when he kept on asking Ester to speak her mind before he starts talking 😭😭😭❤❤❤

[@toompie69]

Timestamp?

[@Federico-1]

1:18:00 to give a totally random one

[@robertjr8474]

its refreshing to see dr k get interviewed by people who arent pretentious self help gurus

[@lodz8666]

lol are you joking

[@BJack0]

calling social media influencers who have a podcast "not pretentious" is crazy

[@mzippy]

this whole comment is an oxymoron lmao

[@italkgory99]

@@BJack0podcasts make a lot of money my man

[@WHOMEGALULz]

​@BJack0 I think the main point was the "self help guru" part but go off on your own if you want 😂

[@wetsber]

no disrespect but this is not my usual crowd, I was ready to write off a lot of points yall made as irrelevant to the overall discussion but Dr K managed to find a very human truth at the core of what each of them was expressing and clarified beautifully when it was a bit scattered. I need to practice active listening like this.

[@prakharanand7012]

thats exactly what happened to me as well. when i started watching him, the first thing i realised is he NEVER judges ppl, hes trained himself to , not even on the inside and he really tries to look at things from their perspective, cuz every human is where they are because of a reason. did they have a responsibility as to where they ended up? ofcourse they did, but its not just that, "everything has a reason" is smth i hold very close to my heart since very long ago.

[@lamma746]

Please invite him again or someone like him 😭 I was expecting to see tears, but the entire podcast felt insightful & funny.

[@phantomberzerk9486]

Why not go to his channel?

[@reerariree]

I actually love it when they invite people like Dr K and Victoria to the podcast, two of the few episodes where I actually focused from start to finish

[@bigheadrhino]

I want to see a 1 on 1 between Viet and Dr. K

[@jkleins2869]

same that would be amazing

[@TheStarrySky-sb9df]

Yes!

[@kinageez]

I SCREAMED when I saw Dr.K he has literally saved my life with his videos never thought I’d see my fave doc on my fave podcast 😭 best episode so far 🔥

[@UnderTheInfluenceShow]

if you enjoyed this episode, plz like, comment, and share. Also, go follow Dr. K (see description), thank him for coming on the show. Tell him we need a part 2 when Wootak comes back 😎

[@xshahad25]

the way that ik wootak would defo eat this up if he was here 😭😭😭　we need a part 2 asappp!!

[@clos2965]

I cant even hear the podcast every other word is bleeped

[@xshahad25]

@@clos2965 REAL

[@syd3456]

@@xshahad25 no

[@ThatGmoney]

When I see VIET twitch like that (btw, VIET being so vulnerable with his past and what his TRIGGERS are regarding FiFA, will VIET realize triggers are very normal? Ya!! Will it take time for VIET to get there? Absolutely). You can still see Viet fidget-btw fidget as much as possible this is your body trying to find it’s direction, Reality is A) Age and B) Viet is still working through his childhood and very valid May everyone and anyone know your past, good and bad is what makes you a complete human being. The day when Viet is able to manage his emotions not as a MAN when it comes to his reaction to FIFA players but more so observe himself as human with other humans in-the-moment of a game. That honesty with Viet. Touching to know how resilient and how far Viet has come! and so as the rest. Love that Alok was able to just be human not a Harvard trained Physician, but just human with flaws like Viet, and the goos looking other two, Esther, Jeremy on this podcast. No pressure, takes wisdom and conversation and curiosity to see in a different perspective like VIET, Esther and Jeremy all from different walks of life but still maintaining whether you have big vocabulary or small, at one point addicted to people’s liking to the point where you’re not yourself to FINDING yourself. No one has done wrong, no one can do wrong it’s more like can did it work out for you in that moment in time? Just like the Target, it’s all just feed back.

[@itsdmplngs]

Hi. I'm currently a middle school English teacher and I had to hop on to write a comment. I wanted to stop and applaud Dr. K for the comment that he made on failing exams (56:00). I LOVE that he explained one of the many flaws in our education system.. Many teachers are accustomed to "teach a chapter, give out a test, then move on." It's rarely taught or emphasized to give students chances to REDO the test for a better grade or for teachers to RETEACH a lesson if most students failed a test. Most teachers are focused on getting through the material, rather than making sure that the students are, as Dr. K mentioned, competent and actually understanding the content being taught. I just thought that it was so awesome that he brought this up because I feel that it does need to be addressed. I had one colleague tell me that he used to put a plaque up in his room that read "Failing is not an option" because he would always give students chances to make-up or redo their work by the end of the semester. Unfortunately, so many students this year are so apathetic about their grades or school or education in general.. but that's another topic for another day. With that said: schools should focus more on competence building and skill-based learning. Wish I had a chance to learn from my mistakes in school. We need to help the upcoming generations build more stamina and resilience! Which I feel like we have a lack of...

[@Maelthorn1337]

It's always nice to see a teacher that really cares. Thanks for doing your best.

[@S3verance]

Well said. I also agree with the first reply, great to see a teacher who is actually passionate about teaching and wishes their students to have a positive outcome from school.

[@saltiestsiren]

In high school and middle school we were sometimes able to retake tests thank god. We were required to attend a study session sometimes, which was a review on the test's content, and it wasn't too long. Then we basically got one more chance on the test/quiz. Final exams were different, and of course state standardized testing, SATs, stuff like that have no second chances. This is the USA btw but I know all places are different. And in college there were fewer chances for doing that in my case, however I did drop out in my first semester 3 times lmfao, but I remember there being fewer tests/quizzes in general. They also didn't count for as much of our grade as they did in high school. The whole class was very dependent on the midterms and finals, and any related projects or theses. Edit: Again it was the same deal where by the time you retook the test, all that knowledge escaped your brain because you either didn't care about it or didn't have the energy to keep caring about it. You had to put all your brainpower toward the next chunk of stuff you had to memorize.

[@user-th1pv6ks5o]

How can you do that with the whole "no child left behind" act??? I mean aren't their laws, and funding that make it almost impossible to do that even if it is objectively better for students??

[@itsdmplngs]

@@Maelthorn1337 Thanks! I want my students to have a positive experience and memory of their middle school English class... That's one of my ultimate goals. I appreciate your words of encouragement.

[@bella-hi2ii]

NO WAY YALL GOT DOCTOR K ON THE SHOW OHHHHH MY GOD

[@arnavrawat9864]

Haha I have the same reaction

[@cgirlie]

as someone w cptsd the part where he assesed viet and analysed his situation was extremely helpful. the sad thing is that i have to CHOOSE to get better and do better, but I'm so familiar with the chaos that I'm uncomfortable even trying to change it, so I make excuses. Big shout to doctor K and UTI ❤️

[@logan2113]

it's a youtube comment but like, it's still a step in admitting the truth to yourself out loud. there's power in that. i hope you keep chipping away at making the life you want :)

[@Ky0Mii]

As much as I miss Wootak I'm also glad his absence kind of allows more room for Viet & Esther to be hard more. Usually him & Jeremy dominate the conversation so much (I do love hearing them talk don't get me wrong) whilst Viet & Esther just listen... But yeh kudos for allowing yourselves to be so vulnerable on camera. Very enjoyable & insightful episode ^^

[@LIGHTISBURNING]

I love that Dr. K can talk with ANYONE about anything. He is everywhere and I love it.

[@ShenobiYT]

I just love seeing Dr.K's side of being chill & laid back personality in collaborations like these, great episode!

[@liyinchong4493]

Wow! Dr K reminded me of Johnny Chang. Johnny Chang always told us not to trust our thought and do not over thinking. Dr K questions to Viet and Esther basically help them to think deeply which is also aligned with Johnny Chang's advise. Amazing ❤

[@lamma746]

Ong my two fav guest. Very insightful and emotionally intelligent.

[@MoneyMitrovic333]

37:58 “You can see it in his face (I’m sorry)” dr k that was CRAZY🤣🤣😂

[@arhantkhullar578]

💀

[@looee___]

had me rolling lmfaoooooo

[@mewtwo-ber]

1:33:32 "you just went from child abuse to phones?" Yeah Jeremy's segue was crazy bro 😭

[@2PMalwaysforever]

Honestly a big brain move to have dr K on the podcast. Loving what uti guys are doing bringing in comedy AND insightful thinking to ur audience. Thanks again for a wonderful episode

[@sherinj8974]

I genuninely loved this pod episode. The points that Dr K brought up made me truly understand what the topics were and i loved how he kept mentioning that he wasn't the smartest but he still got into med school. I also loved how viet brought different aspects of trauma into the discussion that aren't too talked about.

[@snuggies8037]

My god I needed to hear him talk about giving control to an addiction/something so bad. I suffer from really bad major depressive disorder and I use the excuse it’s so hard to get out of bed everyday or even use the restroom. However playing into and reinforcing that is literally me giving control to my disorder. I’m playing into it and it makes it worse. I really really really needed to hear that so thank you doctor. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@oikawascursedplushie9912]

recognising the problem is already a big step. hope things get better for you. I promise you, life has so much to offer to you. keep fighting no matter how hard it may be, your future self will be so so proud of you. sending you online hugs :)

[@N22883]

Hey I would check out HealthyGamer’s trauma videos, and Addiciton 101 If you check out some of the playlists on my own channel, there’s a link on the playlist description for a website that has notes on the videos!

[@peepeepoopoo8498]

Do the opposite of negative thoughts that’s the only way to rewire your brain. Make promises to yourself and stick to them to build trust within yourself too. Which will make good habits easier to maintain

[@TheBhopali1]

Love Dr. K's range of understanding human behavior!

[@SuperJasmineUniverse]

Shout out to Viet for the vulnerability and being so real. Been there, still working through.

[@xot3rmxo]

When he said you're uncomfortable with peace, I felt that 🙏🏾

[@chicharita8544]

I'm dead at Jeremy covering up bar chemistry with all the nectar boxes 🤣

[@UnderTheInfluenceShow]

was unintentional, you drama queen!!!

[@pho-sachi]

ahah that made me notice bar chemistry even more😅

[@anarchistsalute]

​@@UnderTheInfluenceShowIt's all good man, he ain't on the show anymore

[@ajthestudent551]

@@anarchistsalutehe’s not? Where did you get the info?

[@liyinchong4493]

@@pho-sachi Haha! This was what happened to my friends and I. We focused on it even more!

[@zeeisall]

The over censorship is wild, literally a doctor talking about sexual dysfunction being censored for saying sex 🤣

[@jessicas253]

"You went from child abuse to phone addiction?" - Facts Viet! That weird move actually made ME angry!🤣

[@lesliehoang4741]

Yes!!! Was looking for this comment

[@kathunt2083]

Viet looking fresh in that suit 🫦

[@brandonchin9873]

pls pls pls marry me

[@kathunt2083]

@@brandonchin9873 I considered your offer of marriage and I’m flattered, but my heart belongs to another …

[@CapsLock33]

I am so glad you guys brought on Dr. K! That man speaks the truth! Big fan of him!!

[@rainacorona9657]

This was one of my favorite episodes. Some of the topics that yall were going through really spoke to me. I will be trying to observer my breath without controlling it more often especially when I’m mad.

[@bloodychaos3471]

HOLY CRAP! 1 of my favourite podcasts (UTI) and Dr K doing a collab. This will def be sick.

[@Gustmazz]

This guy is one of the most admirable professionals on this platform. Exceptionally intelligent

[@dew7946]

OH MY GODDDD GUYSSSS DR.K?!?! THE CROSSOVER EPISODE I WAS NOT EXPECTING DAMNNN

[@jwinnnnnnn]

My two favorite corners of the internet combine! This is amazing!

[@EmilyLe2909]

Part 2, 3, etc please. Love hearing discussions with younger generations

[@jaredhead9503]

i love how well you guys listen and let Dr. K talk because he is so insightful! Also great questions

[@downbaddad5447]

Wow. One of my favorite Dr. K interviews I've seen yet, and I watch so much of his content. This was a great interview and the openness and rawness that you guys shared made it so powerful. Definitely going to check out more of your content.

[@HH_Julius]

Oh wow Dr K really making the podcast rounds. Glad to see this happening!!

[@ketchupOW]

this episode was so thought provoking. I really appreciate how professional and cool Dr k. is

[@ngl127]

I LOVE DR K SO MUCH OMG THIS IS SO CRAZY, LIKE MY FAVORITE STREAMER AND PODCAST😭😭

[@d7mes33]

the most wanted collab . amazing to see dr.k with you guys 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@Leonlion0305]

This is such a cool podcast episode. Seeing Dr. K interacting with different people and that gave him a medium to bring up different topics. The discussion with Viet is very insightful and even useful to my personal mental health journey. This is the type of content that makes me truly enjoy KZbin. Thank you guys for making this episode possible!

[@paris7465]

this was a collab i did not expect 😭😭 DR.KKKKKKKK!!!

[@dathunderman4]

Dr. K is amazing. I resonate with him so much as someone who did poorly in high school but turned it around later on.

[@annolaya2740]

Congrats on the new studio ! 🍻 to more stories to unfold.

[@MiaRose02]

Dr.K is my favorite person ever. Love!

[@robertohiguera8832]

I wish the video could have gone longer. Dr. K is the best & unpacking emotions and explaining concepts in a digestable way.

[@seempl3]

This episode is 🔥🔥. Y'all gotta do this kind of content more often

[@monica9351]

I have been listening to dr K for years now and also to your podcast and this collab is such a dream for me omg❤❤🎉

[@JennJadeTran]

Love this type of content! Over listening to party stories all the time

[@amadeus5491]

The best episode yet. I listened to it twice.

[@iloveyouskii]

i never expected this collab, i love dr k man

[@ChrystalIrene]

i never expected this collab and I'm here for it

[@pho-sachi]

yo Dr. K is 🔥it was nice to hear him on this podcast

[@mambaforever24.]

this Dr. is awesome, he just gained a new fan.

[@blossm1]

gotta say one of the better episodes recently, I really peeped it

[@nandikanair5655]

One of my favorite podcast episodes ever! Thank u guys

[@auhdriana]

unexpected but really amazing collab, loved it!!

[@KayKrazie]

Im loving this concept!!! We need professionals in the mix.

[@theuser810]

I've been listeningt to a few interviews on Dr K lately, and I've grown to respect him.

[@karimartinez12310]

Great episode. So much that was discussed resonated with my inner child and helped me catch some of the things I'm doing out of self-preservation.

[@jaysal_dies]

Longtime Dr. K fan here, never watched UTI before, but I absolutely loved how open and vulnerable everyone was here. I love how Dr. K combines both a medical and holistic perspective, and it's even more interesting to watch him apply it to people on an individual level.

[@lariatte]

Def one of the best eps this was such a good watch!

[@kevinnguyen9596]

What a great episode! I actively listened for the whole episode!!

[@diinoomyte]

the crossover we needed 🔥

[@PloopPlab]

Love the new set

[@JacquiCuff]

I love this guy. Has helped me on my adhd journey

[@toompie69]

Dr. K can make any topic interesting.

[@NailzbyKaren]

So exciting seeing the new settt yayy🎉❤

[@caracroix]

loved this, start to finish! dr k so good!

[@trinityym21]

This was so good, only 20 min in and just amazing

[@bibojamz]

Dr K is the goat i love his content

[@ddvjbh]

This was a great episode. I love hearing Dr. K.

[@bssdwnsntn]

We definitely need a part 2

[@Kimberly-xv4is]

New set up looks great!

[@constanzed.3481]

Love this collab! This was unexpected 😍 Great episode!

[@Xxsasuke51797xX]

WOW I called it, love DR K!

[@veyane]

Honestly an amazing episode, learned so so much.

[@schmelaee]

Can we make this a regular guest or a separate second podcast, please? Liked the Symbiose of each individuals input, perfect watch!

[@trevorrivas1463]

Love Dr.K! Hadnt heard of the podcast or the drink before seeing him here! Would love a second appearance!!

[@sophie1420]

I miss wootak but this was such an amazing and insightful episode!!!

[@lilithlee73]

new set is very pretty. i like the wall color, very distinct

[@juandeloera9924]

Finally I been asking for this for so long

[@personalGoogle]

This was such a good Episode.

[@AlissaRivard]

I love the new set

[@autumnbronze7]

Great video, love Dr. K!!

[@chelsiecoleman65]

New studio is amazing

[@monique_6]

This was an amazing episode!

[@neverearlyshow]

If you’re someone struggling with change in your life, this is the podcast episode is for you. Once you listen, you’ll know why. Thanks UTI and Dr. K!

[@demxntia]

this might be the best collab

[@marianopompa2342]

Fell for Dr. K, great episode

[@Toembo]

Guys this is one of your best decisions ever, Dr K is truly insightful (if not the smartest man in the world 😜). The part where he talked about Viets addiction to chaos because of his upbringing was sad but somewhat relatable, I’ve felt an addiction to stress just to put myself in a certain state. Even though I’m feeling peace that stress that tries to find problems in anything lurks up behind me. Bring Dr K back to the show guys! ❤️🙏

[@radiantphoenix3845]

This one was amazing 😩🔥🙌🏽💛💛 I wish wootak could’ve joined this one before his break I think it would have been refreshing! And Jeremy asks really good questions!

[@CalifTawny]

Obsessed with these shade’s mint & aqua on the walls, perfect back drop it’s a great beginning for new set 🩵 now throw up some purple 💜 to bring in the passion shade to balance out the calming vibe 🧘🏻‍♀️👍🏼🔥

[@777kelly]

I like the lil part of you guys at the end! Very unique and cool

[@thekangaroo42]

Wow. One of the best videos on KZbin.

[@Abhi-SN]

Usually don't watch any videos with Viet in it but ngl this one was great. Hats off to Dr. K 🎉