Is Dating Over in America? (EP 156)

In today's episode we have special guests Jimmy Zhang & Gabe Asgar! Is Dating Overseas Better than in America? Rizzing up women that don't speak English & Renting a Girlfriend in Japan!?
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Timecodes (Episode #156):
00:00 - Intro
00:18 - Skip Intro
15:39 - Rizzing In A Foreign Country
29:18 - Passport Bros
41:22 - Staying Safe While Traveling
47:38 - Eddie Fell In Love
58:03 - Dating Someone Who Speaks A Different Language
1:17:31 - Dating Outside America Vs Inside America
1:29:42 - Jimmy's Rent-A-Girlfriend
1:53:31 - Who Gives The Best _____?
2:13:13 - Craziest Travel Story
2:20:17 - Outro
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[@UnderTheInfluenceShow]

1. SMASH THAT LIKE BUTTON IMMEDIATELY. 3000 LIKES AND WOOTAK WILL COME BACK 2. We didn't get into all 7 Costco's in Hawaii immediately. It will roll out over time. Kapolei and Iwilei will be next up. Send "costco" to 844,624,0991 for details! 3. What should we put on the walls of the new studio? Give us some creative ideas

[@liyinchong4493]

Would like to see Bar Chemistry logo besides Nectar and picture of Jeremy and Wootak together in the middle. Respect the original founder of UTI ❤

[@El_Brandino]

Pictures from your group experiences would be pretty cool, maybe Brando can paint a Nectar Mural on the wall too

[@veeforvictoria]

Can you pleaseee add KZbin memberships n put the uncensored versions of eps there 🥹

[@shillysauce]

new set is cleannn. can’t wait for wootak to come back

[@Myhalamanz]

Ya looking so professional. But the wires a bit messy

[@Sanah93]

Agree..the wires need to go under the table

[@liyinchong4493]

Wish to have Eddie more in the podcast. Eddie asked mature, deep serious questions whilst Jeremy asked funny, cheerful and more straight forward questions. This made the podcast run so smoothly. The topic of spending quality time after work is so important for the team. Hope workaholic Jeremy will take note of this. Good for him and his team too. 😊

[@Freeflow32]

1000% honestly he is very introspective and a deep thinker, but he doesn't suffer from what most deep thinkers face which is getting tongue-twisted on his own thoughts. Hes very well spoken and speaks when he has something of value to add. Not to mention brodie a cutie frfr

[@liyinchong4493]

Totally agreed ❤😂

[@versaii5519]

Totally agree, bro

[@BTSLiveUploader]

Arghh I miss our Princess Woo! I hope he return soon! 😔❤

[@mehadtaha5567]

Lmaoo literally

[@tiatom221]

Who else feels like Wootak IS the bonus content lol?

[@tiatom221]

Y'all went from Dr. K to Jimmy Zhang, quite the leap 😅

[@jswis]

We love Jimmy over here, he's always welcomed😌

[@ayanayasmine5934]

Versatility baby

[@Freeflow32]

Jimmy is the scumbag we love

[@chevychateau8467]

I understand what they’re saying about dating in LA but I feel like they don’t take into account the social environments they are in. They seemed to be describing women who are/want to be influencers and that’s where their issue lies tbh. That also ties into Jimmy wishing his friends would hangout more. If most of his friends are influencers/KZbinrs then of course they are gonna focus on making content. Being someone who’s from LA and not an influencer, I can say I’ve experienced the opposite. In LA it just depends on the type of circles you hang around

[@gaymer-j]

Facts, people think LA is one way and it's always people from the entertainment business or who want to be in the entertainment business. They forget outside of that bubble are being who's families have been there for even thousands of years, who are rooted there, who work and go to school and not seek to be in the limelight. Because they are influencers, that's is who they are meeting - transplants like themselves.

[@Honey70708]

Lmfao literally !!

[@francescaestelle2886]

I couldn't have said it better myself. Well said.

[@XavierJamal2011]

As a 30yo black dude in America and I hereby give everyone permission to use the term "the itis"! It's not racially charged or anything. Love you guys!

[@ashtynduncan6351]

Hi! Resident black listener here. Getting the “Itis” is normally said after any type of big meal/ eating in general….I’ve never known this to be used when just eating soul food. Also, where I’m from, everyone says that as well! Appreciate the respect!

[@kylemaniego1383]

bro eddy out here dressin like ariana grande

[@lamma746]

Why this got me laughin SO hard 😭

[@kylemaniego1383]

@@lamma746 bro I cannot focus w the podcast cause eddy bout to sing one less problem

[@nmc400]

Bro thats so true, lookin zesty flashing shoulder.

[@itzeleno]

leave his fine ass ALONEEE 😭

[@Freeflow32]

Why Eddie just looking so handsome fr

[@LamasajorJalloh]

Hey, its one of my favourite podcast people, I recently found your guys podcast and I just wanna say that I love yall!!!

[@erikachae]

such a fun episode! this group together makes for a good dynamic!:D

[@mermeclo]

my personal opinion- i think most americans have a really screwed conception of dating and relationships, they came up with all sorts of concepts that just make everything more difficult- situationships, talking stages, dating more people at a time, sneaky links, no commitment. logically, you date because you want to find someone to be in a relationship with, but now you're so afraid of picking the wrong person to make it official with, that you would rather do relationship stuff with a person or more for more weeks/ months and have no label. how it worked years ago and how i think it should still work- you go out with one person for a few weeks and decide if you genuinely like them (hence you get official with them), or not really (you break things off). i've met many american men that say they want a more traditional & pragmatic girl, but once they find her, they don't know how to act, they start playing games. everybody wants a real connection, we're all human, but not many people know how to behave to find one

[@gaymer-j]

The thing is, men want it easy like it was before. You make money, you get a wife of your choosing. black and white. Now, because women have more autonomy, men have to do a more work - since women can make their own money. So they go to 3rd world countries to have it easy once again.

[@Honey70708]

Do you genuinely believe these are only American things…😭

[@mermeclo]

@@Honey70708 nope, they spreaded worldwide. but americans were the ones who started them

[@assassin7250]

This is why majority relationship fails because no body understand how to communicate to each other properly anymore.. they just like to play fantasy playground until it hits their soul and social media makes it worse..

[@michitakadouglas4130]

​@@Honey70708OP is right, the problem is American culture. Most people who who go overseas to find love spread that trashy culture to other parts of the world instead of changing themselves.

[@m.103]

Please put Eddie in front of the camera more often. His presence and POV brings so much to the table

[@ruhpreme]

Damn, Jimmy and gabe is back, no snow mountain around to hurt jimmy this time 😂

[@CalifTawny]

Congrats Ester you def deserve 100k 🎉 🫶🏻

[@carbee123]

Oh today’s panel is gonna be SO funny 😂😂

[@endritamusa4919]

This podcast brings me so much joy and laughter💖We miss Viets wife (Wootak) hope he is well and comes back stronger

[@bonjoursophie]

I agree with Eddie on almost all counts, wow. If you need your own space to focus on what you're doing, your true friends would understand. It IS sad, as Esther said, but it is what it is. Your true friends will always understand and be there for you no matter what. And vice versa.

[@lauraschellerup6869]

It was a great episode, I had a great laugh and didn't even see the two hours pass. Love from Belgium

[@andreamurillo1309]

the new ad LOL!!!

[@Myhalamanz]

Lol dialysis is for kidney dysfunction not liver

[@user-tk4vn3bq6w]

i love how jimmy gives credits to taiwan

[@Offlineee_]

love that wide shot

[@sydnaps1995]

Go ESTHER! I’m proud of you girly ❤

[@drezaa.1]

Yea this podcast needs another girl…

[@aizensama9141]

That statement about "Nice Guys" finishing last. Is all kinds of wrong. Nice Guys don't finish last, they're not even in the competition. They're in the Development League, that no one is watching while the females are at the NBA Playoffs seeing who's gonna be the champ.

[@Sallyslays4ever]

Just what I needed after a long day 💕 ✨ ♥

[@MissPiggy3]

Love the new get up, yoooh yah need an updated group photo on display.....(definitely need to hide them wires, just a suggestion) ,its pretty neat how yah made a lil shelf space on the table which i would think would be a display spot for promo products??? Anyway i thoroughly enjoyed the ep, so good to see jimmy, gabe and eddie on the pod again....i need friends like jimmy.

[@skylar9098]

idk i’m from the south and we have very community-oriented spaces and open parks in my city. america is holistically more individualistic for sure. but I think some points of what jeremy is referring to is specifically more of an la issue

[@kevinto8955]

I've been using Itis and the first time I heard it was in the Boondocks episode

[@Alexxanndraa00]

wooootak we miss youuuu

[@clos2965]

Jeremy insinuating the sharing of memes run relationships 😂😂

[@mclovin6537]

Girls outside of America are just better, period. Coming from someone who’s lived outside of America for the last decade.

[@queenofthepote]

I agree with Eddie on the whole locked-in thing. It's tough to be locked in professionally and maintaining friendships/relationships simultaneously. It is very possible but it requires effort and understanding from both sides. I have a very close friend that Im so locked in with and have been for years. We haven't hung out ever and really only saw each other in grade school. However, we've kept in contact, text very regularly, and everything. We are both very focused on our goals and getting where we want to be in life so we have a mutual understanding of one another's personal focus when those times come where we don't speak or hang out or anything like that. It's never personal but we both know what we want out of life and are putting in the work to get there. He does a better job of having that work-life balance than I do but yeah lol. Overall, a work-life balance is important to have to some degree though.

[@peaceindaheart]

who is heavy breathing in the mic 😭 i thought it was me at first

[@isabellacorbin8591]

My only joy after work 😢

[@johnb6861]

viet said like 3 things this whole podcast

[@peterlongac]

Jimmy bout to make toast 🍞

[@YourOwnSwagger]

the itis just means you ate so good that you get sleepy. commonly when you eat soul food, you get that way. the mac n cheese, yams, greens, chicken. you can get it from a christmas dinner or thanksgiving. it sticks to you. it's just slang. not ebonics. it's not offensive. but yes black people came up with the term. you're welcome, your resident black internet dude.

[@heidiwluv]

as a canadian, i think we’re nicer overall LOL and more polite 😅

[@Tyswife0154]

I love you all but the pod just dont feel the same without wootak cant wait for him to come back 😢❤

[@bonjoursophie]

I like Jeremy a lot, but he's trying too hard here IMO 😭 Despite the "disclaimer"

[@JackShiro92]

Gabe usopp lookin ahhh 😂

[@Elizabeth-ev8jm]

heyy i think itd be better if u guys cld place the mic stand thingy on the floor or something if possible...the one jimmy had cover eddie at times nd kind looks weird in the middle??.

[@arelyrodriguez8117]

a city a lot of people don’t rlly think of to visit first but has some rlly cool genuine people is def chicago ..i get what he saying lol

[@tylerjuneson9030]

W guests

[@Sainte-adresse]

I think everywhere, regardless of where a person lives, they will always think it's better somewhere else. Like, yeah you can look around your country or your city and say "it's so much better in Canada, its so much better in Colombia" meanwhile you have people in Canada that want to move to the Unites States. Maybe some people from Colombia look at the Unites States as if it's some Utopia. The reality of it is that we all just want to experience other places an we just build them up to be so much better than our own homes.

[@TheTinyOrc]

i relate to eddie's story.

[@user-qq2ve5ig1z]

i miss wootak maannn

[@jacobjandee]

We need woo back

[@jinyinyangseer1542]

Ayo this is fu?kn hilarious in an uncomfortable but oh so comfortable wayy b🤣🤣🤣🤣💯🖤🏆

[@timizuokumor122]

Brazil has the biggest Italian population outside of Italy so their Italian food should be good.

[@Larevolucion95]

"Surprise, it's Brazil!" What you mean? He came to eat foreign food, obviously its not good. the only Brazilian thing he eaten, he liked. I'm a Brazilian fan and I feel a little bit hurt with this. 😢

[@rebeccaazevedo7096]

He went to the wrong places... missed a great opportunity as br fans are the most engaged 🤭 I was ready to start the "come to Brazil" revolution with UTI as I'm a fan since viet got in the show... Guess I'll just have to wait a little more😢

[@Kencival]

Its cool if you are open to find love everywhere but then these passport bros straight up say women in America dont have value or are not wife type. Its pathetic really because we know a lot of these guys dont have game and aim for the countries where they are "valued" and act all crazy.

[@Kencival]

@jaumartinez9006 ain’t no one crying. I cringe every time I see one of you guys.

[@DiamondFlame45]

Thank you! Someone said it! Passport Bros are the equivalent of being a big fish in a small pond. Of course you can feel high and mighty when you are comparing yourself to men in a 3rd world or developing country.

[@gaymer-j]

Interesting how the younger generation are doing what older generation first gen immigrants or American military have done for decades - flash the US passport and US dollar. And now they think they scored...... in 2nd and 3rd world countries.... If you can't compete in the 1st world, you move a step below. (not that the people are beneath US, I'm speaking in regards to economically). Low hanging fruit to capture your prey. rather than put in your work here in US. immigrant families know of this

[@portlandGTR]

I have no issues dating in the states, however over the past 5 years I just have no interest in American women anymore. The culture has been so polluted and it seems you can’t find a woman over 25 without 20 bodies cause it’s now just what it is. In other cultures family and accountability are very strong. Many countries I’ve been to feel like places I would fight to protect. I don’t feel that here anymore. Sure there are great women here still, but having to do all the work to sift through so many girls to finally find a woman with values is just too much work for someone with a life like mine. I run my own business, have my dream car, have a top tier physique in the top 5% easily, and I’m not ugly by any means. With dating I will choose the path of least resistance. And that happens to be in 8 other countries I can think of off the top of my head.

[@simba720]

What's wrong with going where you are appreciatet? I personally don't wanna talk a bunch of extra game or jump through hoops and loops just for some entitled wester female to have slight attraction to me. Id rather go where the girls are easier to impress because their standards are realistic. Most of the time not all the time ofcourse

[@PloopPlab]

Jeremy holding down the podcast with wootok gone🙏

[@jaszmynex]

When is wootak coming back!!!!

[@yasmeennassar704]

Hi 👋🏻

[@jerickorduna1332]

You guys sometimes have better episodes than suburb talks, kinda surprised you guys arent close to their views

[@DEATHxTHExKIDx1]

Audiences are a little different There's are more casual. Possibly they had a more viral start.

[@honorrollhoodlum]

Hawaiian poke is undefeated

[@shayyleyyy]

Yo I heard run clubs are the best places to meet people

[@thiccfork8664]

1:53:38 Jimmy said that shit from the heart lmao

[@divinemukenyi2185]

Early! Y'all should have tarayummy

[@bambamyong]

I got “itis” from Dave Chappelle

[@jacobmorres9817]

Finally

[@kevinsheng8775]

Yes it is

[@johnfernandez2330]

I miss ms.piggie

[@TheTinyOrc]

When yall gonna throw a big ass rave event

[@xXReconGH0STIDK]

“Itis” in med term is inflammation

[@kiarademoner]

So early. Let’s go

[@audrajade]

Wootak gone frfr huh lol 😭

[@carolinem3210]

59:37 was I the only one who noticed the nectar sign fall?? I went to see the new video and it's still down😆

[@itznotz]

When did they come to AUSTRALIA ??

[@zooch_]

Finally some mainstream love for jazz, that's what I'm talking about! Also I think y'all would be surprised by the South if you give it a chance, just saying

[@bridgetbenoevil]

Esther is so fucking beautiful🥹😍❤️‍🔥 if Jeremy doesn’t wife her up soooooon😤😤

[@Honey70708]

Mind you..:international women don’t like American men but💀💀

[@user-vu6un9oq6b]

Canadian mean is like “ oh nice to meet you” in here mind they thinking loser don’t talk to me . We are fake nice

[@nessss.69]

WHHHHYYY ARE THEY EXPOSING EDDIE LIKE THAT OMMMMMGGGG 💀💀💀

[@ميلاد_ف]

Viet spoke like 3 times the whole 2 hours

[@Colin-ji9hu]

but hes a baddie fr so its ok

[@jswis]

Noo!

[@lamma746]

I mean a lot of the convo was a lil cringe tbh

[@elifece9676]

if you dont have anything nice to say don't say anything at all ... lol i dont blame him for not fucking with the convo ... questionable content

[@AZjesse1]

The Uk is a great place to travel abroad first.

[@xbeauxyeux]

where is wootak

[@nessss.69]

imyyyy wooo !!

[@theWatching-md4gl]

Wheres wootak?

[@HelloJoanne1994]

Taiwan 🇹🇼🇹🇼🇹🇼 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

[@JonathanAlessandro]

Wootak😢

[@brioblancaflor3662]

Y'all should go to the Philippines :))

[@yasmeennassar704]

🥰

[@alejandrafimbres2473]

❤

[@rigo5603]

eddie boy missed him👊👊🙏🙏🙏🫶

[@taeminsgf4275]

Eddie 5th host?

[@poochieshomeplanet1649]

2:06:28

[@whateven9407]

Low-key… idk if this observation resonates but Eddie seems like a Wootak mini me but like the bad parts like the sassy and the big ego and the gaslighting.. when he said he “remained calm” in the arguments with his girl… I feel like it was probably gaslighting lmao. He used to be the sweet guy but the more he talks on the pod these days… the fact that he’s a Virgo man makes more and more sense lmaooo. Still a cutie patootie tho I’ll give him that.

[@elasu8590]

Viet with the mogu mogu

[@zantelb1287]

eddie lookin out of it af

[@christmas9lights]

You need to be inside a Trader Joe’s

[@jacobjandee]

What’s the discord

[@missashleylon]

The conversation of work and building relationships was worth getting past the dating topics in the beginning. Thank you guys love 🤍

[@clos2965]

I miss wootak

[@Sainte-adresse]

Lmao Eddie sounds super cold at 1:12:00 "you need to be locked in". Understandable that everyone has goals and you are adults who have to support yourselves financially but what's all the hard work gonna be worth 10-15 years down the line when you're super "successful" but have no friends or family because the pursuit of goals/money led you to fully neglect everyone in your life? What's the point of working towards that good life is its gonna be spent alone

[@destroyermaker]

I don't understand why the entire show didn't become about why the guy can't bust from head

[@davidchung2203]

The USA is kinda crazy