Why So Many Black Women Are Single and Alone

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[@DanielDouglas555]

"only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally,” whereas “a man is only loved under the condition that he provide something." _ Chris Rock

[@unfortunatelyunfortunate]

That is so wrong😂😂😂😂😂

[@balancedlif3308]

Actually he's exactly right.

[@cthomp81]

The truth

[@kenpierre7898]

I totally agree with that wisdom bro when it comes to us men we are loved conditionally only what we have or processes

[@jeanniefelix6534]

A man is to provide, that's why he must love the woman, n she will love you if ur responsible n provide, it's always been that way, r u guys in a la la world?

[@deathsshadow1975]

Lost me at black men being intimidated by "strong" women.

[@jamessummers5936]

+Elboogie1975 He said SOME.

[@tamilashultz9194]

+Elboogie1975 Most black men are intimidated by women. Most of them want women that are submissive. She can't have any ideas of her own or he gets scared.

[@mrblackalchemist]

+Tamila Shultz That is untrue.

[@MsSteeldog]

+Tamila Shultz Complete nonsense. Good grief some of you have really began to believe your own bs. It's laughable.

[@DarkReapersGrim]

+Tamila Shultz A white woman speaking on behalf of Black men? White women really do live in their own fucking world. A bubble of white privilege and delusion. And by the way, I'm not a Black man (certainly not a Black woman).

[@e84fresh]

I'm not intimidated by successful black woman. The problem I have with a lot of them is they let their success get to their head. They throw their degrees in the guys face and have a extra long list of requirements instead of talking about what they bring to the table. Too much of a headache

[@itsmob4life]

Those degree equal student loan debt and most of them aren't successful.

[@mysociallife6]

They are telling you what they bring to the table most men wants a women who is doing something with her self so her achievement is what she brings to the table

[@itsmob4life]

+cattails nice what achievement?

[@mysociallife6]

+The King men want a women who can cook clean take care of kids be financially responsible usually educated to hold intelligent conversations with they want a women to work so she can help them with the households these

[@itsmob4life]

+cattails nice please let me know what generation of men said they need/want women who are "educated" BEFORE the women started to brag about being college educated. List the countries.

[@TheGCLASSTV]

this fool is feeding into there ego. he isn't opening there minds at all

[@straightsix306]

Exactly. Selling books

[@DScott-be7pg]

Derrick Jackson's older baby cousin...

[@YoutubeTeasipper7856]

Does it require for a man mind to also be open? You can't ask of someone what you are not willing to also give and do...

[@kylemathis1562]

Kevin Samuels is trying

[@extremeresponsibility]

I live in a mixed household. There is a real problem in the black community. Some how unmarried single parenting has become the cultural norm, something like 70%. In most cases single mothers dominate the household. The men are demasculated. This isn't good for children, it's stressful, and the isolated mothers raise another generation with unhealthy values. With each child it gets worse. One of the contemporary sources is 1970s welfare that paid families to break up.

[@KtotheG]

These forums never mention the real reasons for why black women are single. It's not their degrees, it's not their success, it's not their "strength." It's their obesity, single parenthood, and emasculating attitudes. Keep it 100 or be quiet. It looks like your audience is majority black female, so that's probably why you couldn't tell the whole truth. There is nothing that a woman can do or gain that will intimidate me. Black women, as a collective, just have a lot of problems that they need to work on before can they call themselves "wife material." Black men have their issues, too, but the question is... "why so many black women are single and alone?"

[@KtotheG]

***** Then when you bring these things up, they call it hatred. That's why it's impossible to have a dialogue with most black women.

[@fender1000100]

Kory Green EXACTLY! Black people are ALWAYS being told what they WANT TO HEAR not what they NEED TO HEAR and thats why nothing ever changes for the better. And wont until the real reasons you outlined are accepted and responded to. This guy is feeding them what they want to hear another yes man.

[@KtotheG]

Island Ninja Exactly, lol. If a black man has a problem with women who make more, it's because he knows that she will never let him forget it. Women abuse power quicker than men. This is why everyone, including women, hate having a female boss. Black women with cushy jobs and social status have large egos. That's the turnoff, not the money or status.

[@xaviar9]

Because they often don't speak against the bad ones. They stand under the banner of sisterhood or womanhood.

[@KtotheG]

***** Essence magazine just did a study recently which suggested that black women value looks above all other criteria when selecting mates, unlike other races of women, who value character, personality and the ability to provide before caring about looks. How often do you see beautiful black women with homely, nerdy and square black guys? Very seldom.

[@beautifulgirl425]

I am a black woman and I would rather be single for the rest of my life than be in a relationship and deal with all of these labels. I'm 28 and I've already decided I never want to bring a child into this world. Yes, I can raise my child to live with positive ideals and perspectives, but this "black and white" world just frustrates me. No one wants to see each other beyond their skin color. We say we're living in modern times but we're still walking around with primitive minds. We have to break free from the shackles of our own ignorance and fear and just give each other a chance.

[@softcrab3361]

Excactly

[@maxpowers111]

You: I am a black woman. You: No one wants to see each other beyond their skin color. You are a confused black woman. 😂😂😂😂

[@ContemporaryDomain--JREESE]

Been seven years… you still single?

[@mistyblue5255]

I went to a single event at my church and they were taking about dating and getting marry. I heard a few of the women say some thing that annoyed me. These women are very successful and they were saying they want a man or husband, but that they make plenty of money and can do everything for themselves and they just kept going on and on about what they have. I finally stood and asked them why are they here if they don't need a man, because they have so much money etc. They didn't say anything.

[@paininmydroid4526]

I just wish one person would point out that most of the positives he state for Black women such as good jobs, education, material possessions etc. and negatives when it comes to Black women finding mates. It's not intimidation, it's the fact that all of these achievements are the achievements that a man would present before a father when he was seeking a woman's hand. In short, there are many Black women that would make great husbands.

[@Advic77]

True...a more appropriate facetious title could be "Why are so many black women are without 'wives'? "

[@hassanmuhammad2799]

Speak on it! It may not necessarily be their fault, but marriage to many of our "sistas" is like a "HOMOSEXUAL "union. There's no MASCULINE and FEMININE union. It's like two men battling for power and leadership in the home.

[@paininmydroid4526]

@@hassanmuhammad2799 "A Homosexual Union" Wow! You hit the nail on the head Akhi.

[@backtothefuture2880]

Hahaha ha, that's funny

[@backtothefuture2880]

@Kat T pity the white guys, who u really want, aren't wyfing u guys up

[@G3TAcademy]

HE would be saying this crap in front of a room full of women. Any real brothas would debate him

[@Herset696]

Any REAL brother would accept the fact that black men have left black women to do it alone.

[@sbrooks904]

He’s literally being objective and you are still complaining

[@garymorris9611]

@@Herset696 ...BS .A lot of young women begin going down the shitty path of being a b!#!@ long before men are even part of the equation.

[@AfroMedic]

True so much misinformation

[@jerrejackson1973]

Why are so many black women alone? Because black men want PEACE of MIND and to FEEL COMFORTABLE in their home!

[@slytheron]

Now here's a man speaking to a wall. Women don't wanna hear anything unless its about how awesome they are. This guy is definitely on the right track, he just has the wrong audience.

[@shawnpistol2221]

Facts

[@rotiman]

I think most black woman's problem is other black women(or other unsuccessful woman). I've dated a few black woman, and had loving relationships, but i notice they place more value on how the relationship is perceived to other people(mother, friends), rather then focusing on their partner. Actually this is ALL women, but i think the moral compass of a lot of their peers is unrealistic. They think its a man's job to "save" them from their poor choices, instead of working hard with someone to earn a more in life.

[@GAshoneybear]

Now I think this is more realistic than any other comment. I know a lot of my friends have avoided dates or ended relationships with Indian, Moroccan, Japanese, and Danish men because they were afraid of what their families would think or their friends didn't take it kindly. These were really nice men and they liked them a lot, but, like you said, family and friends were more important.

[@Atheismo9760]

There is not one single thing that is a benefit to a man, when it comes to marriage.

[@chaucerriley5233]

Atheismo you are right...we live in a matriarch state.

[@nwatson2773]

Atheismo really? Why is that?

[@Atheismo9760]

Because men can get sex without having a relationship and women these days don't offer cooking, cleaning and submission. What benefit is there for a man to have a relationship, let alone marriage? You tell me.

[@TheMissionOfSubmission]

If you married a submissive woman, you'd get the benefits. Refer to the Bible, where men expected the best out of women, and women provided excellent service. Today it's flipped...

[@ricardojernigan9019]

Way to sugar coat it, the truth is black men are tired of a black woman taking every opportunity to tear him down. And they all stopped listening to you when you started implanting the idea that THEY are responsible for their own problems.

[@marieljoed]

great point!

[@amalgamatewisdom]

This man gets it. Hell both of you do. But will women get it?

[@iam2ku4u]

agreed

[@davedass5340]

Ricardo Jernigan What percentage of black men are in prison, have committed a crime, have no education? Compare that to black women then come back and tell me you can still say black women are the problem.

[@amalgamatewisdom]

How many single black mothers exist in comparison to married black mothers? Now tell me who's raising the majority of black males in a single-parent household? Black women are breeding heathens.

[@jadexade2337]

im a black woman and been with a blackman for 9 years.. people assume that i must be single because im driving alone, shopping alone, working alone. Not Every black woman you see alone is single.

[@goscott2]

When I first started to watch this, I thought this was just a speech pandering to the single ladies to sell his book. However after listening to the whole video, this brother is completely on point with his analysis of black relationships. Very well thought out and articulated here.

[@Silkravage]

Catering to the BW to sell the book. Sad...

[@mopheousredpill7462]

Derek Jackson all over again, the hustle is real lol

[@704Woman]

"Everyone in society has benefitted from the strength of Black women, except Black women." Let me sit on this one. That was powerful and revealing.

[@blkyogi999]

Yes 🙌🏾🙌🏾… we need to change this

[@KwuNorthstar]

At the end of the day if you dont know how to depend on one another your relationship is doomed. When i got laid off shortly after me and my then Fiancee moved into a home and was supposed to get married that summer, she stepped up and worked 2 jobs as well as i did also i took a job paying a lot less to help out with bills as unemployment money wasnt enough, so i worked 2 full time jobs to make ends meet she worked a full and part time job. when she took a new position in 2014 and didnt work during summers i worked extra to make enough money to help her out took over some bills as i now had a full time way better paying job... its give and take my wife is strong but she is not independent we depend on each other as it should be in any relationship, marriage or friends... Blaming circumstances is a cop out we as black folks need to learn how to love one another first before we start getting sexual and fiscal with one another. Period!

[@yourmarriagevillage7204]

Profound!

[@ren_7308]

Amen to this 🙌🏾

[@CanadianMonarchist]

It sounds like you and your wife are both great people. ❤

[@blackwolverine1]

As a REAL Black man many and i mean many of you "other" brothers need to step ur game up and stop all the bashing of our sisters and playing the blame game.

[@flacoface]

Are you a blackwolverine as somewhat similar to "I'm a blackboilermaker?" If so...Go Big 10.

[@blackwolverine1]

flacoface u lost me?!!

[@AkaiKnight]

sounds like a brown noser.

[@flacoface]

blackwolverine1 Sorry about that. When I see Wolverine I think of the Univ. of Michigan. My bad.

[@44Blackjax]

"step your game up? So it's a game?

[@chri8067]

Ladies and gentlemen you are single because you don't want to put in the work be in a positive functional relationship. Work on improving your inner and outer selves and watch nature take it's coarse.

[@lyndapeoples8127]

Dexter Christian, as a confident, black woman, I totally agree with you 1,000.%

[@softcrab3361]

Exactly...

[@amandaalva3205]

Thankyou

[@SS-cp1gb]

I think a lot of commenters did not get his point. I think he is trying to say that black women have taken up the role of men but are still looking for a man she has taken the place of, so when looking for a man they are never good enough. He is not saying that black men are scared of powerful black women. They are scared off because she has lost the ability to be a woman and let him be a man in a traditional sense. It does not mean she needs to be a docile pup who he walks over but do not clown him because he does not hold the prestigious degree you do or make a little less than you at his job.

[@raquellittle4161]

WELL SAID HOWEVER LETS BE REALISTIC YHIS SOUNDS LIKE A POWER STRUGGLE THIS IS CRAZY IF MEN HAVE EXPECTATIONS WE SHOULD TO UNFORTUNATLY REALITY IS THAT MOST BLACK MEN WANTS US TO B DOCILE ANYTIME WE QUESTION THEM THEY GET UPSET ALL HELL BREAKS LOOSE MEN LEFT ALOT OF WITH KIDS AND WE HAD TO BECOME TOUGH FOR SAFETY OF THEIR KIDS.IT IS WHAT IT IS BLACK MEN WANT US TO B DOCILE TO THEM BECAUSE WE REALLY HAVE NEVER BOWED DOWN TO THEM THEY WANT THE SAME RESPECT AND POWER OVER THE B LACK WOMEN AS THE MASTER HAD THEY HAVE FELT THIS WAY SINCE SLAVERY BLACK WOMEN ARE NBO LONGER SLAVES TO ANY MAN WE REALLY DONT WANNA LISTEN TO THE BLACK MAN WHY SHOULD WE WHEN MOST OF THEM WANT US TO TAKE CSARE OF THEM BOTTOM LINE WE ARE WOMEN BLACK SUPPORT US AND NOT JUST FINANCIALLY STOP TELLING WOMEN THAT YOU ARE THE MAN OF THE HOUSE EVERYONE MUST LISTEN TO HIM OR HE GETS MAD I DONT CARE IM NOT THEIR MOTHER WOW BLACK MEN REQUIRE TO MUCH YOU ARE A GROWN MAN NOT A CHILD ALL WE WANT YOU TO DO IS WORK HELP AROUND THE HOUSE HELP PAY BILLS GIVE US THE SAME RESPECT WE GIVE YOU WE ARE EQUAL WE ARE NOT BENETH YOU YOU FEEL WE WERE FOR SLAVE MASTER SO WHY KISS THEIR ASS TO BECAUSE WE DONT HAVE TO SLAVERY IS OVER I LUV MY BLACK MAN IM SINGLE NO KIDS SERVED THISD COUNTRY 20YRS MEN ARE SUPPOSE TO DO THINGS LIKE THIS ITS LIKE THEY JUST DONT WANNA WORK I LUV BROTHERS BUT THEY HAVE DONE NOTHING BUT TAKEN FROM ME I FEEL IF I BRING THINGS TO THE TABLE YOU SHOULD TO DONT THINK WOMEN ARE SUPPOSE TO TAKE CARE OF A MAN WE ARE WOMEN MEN SHOULD BE PROVIDERS FOR THEIR FAMILIES AND WOMEN WILL STAY IN HER PLACE BUT AS LONG AS THESE MEN FEEL A WOMEN SHOULD PLAY BOTH ROLES WE WILL CONTINUE TO HAVE THESE ISSUES WOMEN LET YOUR SONS GO THEY ARE NOT YOUR MAN BECAUSE THE LONGER YOU HOLD ON TO THEM AND DONT LET HIM BECOME A MAN HE IS NO GOOD TO ANY WOMEN HE N EEDS TO STAY WITH YOU BECAUSE YOU SPOILED HIM AND I DONT HAVE TIME TO JUMP THRU HOOPS HEADACHES FROM ARGUING ABOUT HIM WORKING AND SO FOURTH UNDRSTAND HE MAY NOT HAVE TO WORK IN YOUR HOUSE BUT HE WILL IN MINE AND ITS LIKE PULLING TEETH ladies TEACH YOUR SONS TO WORK AT ,LEAST BECAUSE BY THE TIME WE GET YOUR SONS WE HAVE TO PLAY MOMMY AND THERY GET MAD AT US FOR TELLING THEM OR ASKING THEM TO DO THINGS LADIES TRAIN RTHEM AT HOME YOU KNOW U WANT A MAN TO WORK DAMMMN STOP PUMPING OUT BOMBS AND THUGS WE DONT WANT THEM AND WE DONT WANT A MOMMAS BOY YOU KEEEEEP THEM FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIVES BECAUSE THEY ARE ACCUSTOM TO YOU SO KEEP EM NO ROOM FOR MOMMAS BOY OPUT HERE

[@mixer14316]

Raquel Little Umm, other than the fact you lose most people, and I mean almost ALL people, with the capitol letters, you may want to actually use English and correct spelling and grammar. Your point would be taken with more levity if you tried it. Sheesh.

[@raventakayama]

I've never been in a situation or witnessed a couple suffering from the woman makes more than me issues. Most of my friends make more than their women and hold higher degrees. And even still, we've had a hard time finding black women who are secure enough to let us lead. Its hard to deal with that, and when you're in a major city why bother? There's too many women out there to wait for a particular woman to come around or mature beyond her insecurities.

[@MrPositivelypositive]

Raquel Little The words you use are "bow down" and "Docile" no man wants this...I..Me Personally want to receive the same love and support I give out. Also respect. The respect level isn't there. Im not going to stay in a relationship that im not being respected in.

[@MrPositivelypositive]

Liber8 Equally yoked isnt used in the right context there. Its ok for a woman to make more than a man ...at the end of the day they should be yoked equally. A yoke is a guidance device used for oxen which keeps them in line so they walk in a straight line and wont stray...so If you and your partner are working together towards the same happiness none of the BS degrees and statuses should matter.

[@CherokeeMoor]

This whole blame game thing is tired, distasteful, immature and utterly embarrassing. The entire world laughs at us. We have brothas thinking as long as their on the winning team (whites) they are in the clear. Sistahs thinking we are superior to the black man because of the opportunities the white man gives us. Both parties disregarding the long term effects on ourselves and future generations. It hurts me so much to see what we have become, looking at where we started. I am ashamed. Hurt. And angry. Angry at myself for unknowingly playing a role in the destruction of the black family. Angry at the causes of the trauma. But we can't continue going to war with each other. We must heal each other. We must reflect and understand why we embrace and perpetuate the very things that aid in our destruction. We all need to heal. Stop blaming each other and self reflect. P.ositive E.nergy A.ctivates C.onstant E.levation

[@VentusK]

you have white privilege

[@CherokeeMoor]

Ventus K I'll be sure to tell both of my black parents that. Just as soon as I find my father who's been on drugs and missing for 20 years, and as soon as I can find the time from my mother who's too busy trying to find a father for her other 3 children. I'll be sure to thank both of them for the white privilege they gave me too.

[@highinsights]

Yaa Serwa why did she pick a drug addict? again-the worst element. Just watched a video "black women choose the worst first' , go check it out, I've witnessed the same thing also.

[@EpicXXProductions]

Ventus K Really? That's your argument?

[@VentusK]

EpicXXProductions Who's arguing? You've displayed ignorance beyond that of a normal human being; there's no need to argue with you as you've already ripped your foot off and shoved it through your esophagus. I mean, maybe when you stop using blanket-language you'll start to gain an audience. (BTW, for proof against black communities, list me at least 100 communities that are totally in shambles, complete with slaves and the like [you said mini Africas!])

[@funguy29]

There is no African-American problem that can’t be solved with a time machine

[@gregorycampbell4]

As a successful man of color, I can tell you you’ve missed the mark. Rather than focusing on introspection, you’ve placed the focus on externals. Men like feminine, submissive, young and attractive women, doesn’t matter if you’re white, black, yellow or brown. Women go wrong assuming that the same thing they’re attracted to is the same thing men are attracted to. Women look for success and status, men prize youth and beauty. It’s that simple.

[@JuliusCaesar888]

Black women: apparently they're all so strong, educated, and intelligent that it's actually causing their whole demographic to collapse. Yeah, I don't think I've seen a larger coping mechanism than this in my life.

[@TheAdrienne8585]

im so in love with this!!! Its so true we as women talk so much about not needing a man, but in reality everyone need somebody! I had to give myself that reality check. Noone wantd to be alone and I am tired of being my own superhero. Its nice to say ur independant and u got this, but in all actuality its more tiring than u think. If a man offers u assistance and is willing to be there for u out of his own goodness, take it. In the past year I have had more help from my friends than u can imagine. A man steps in my life to help, I will be more than grateful. We are our worst enemy. Like he said to strong for our own good. Yes I have done a lot on my own and have my own placd great job, but having someone to share it with is priceless.

[@yousatrick11]

He's telling the truth. I think it's too late. I doubt they will listen. Their pride has become too strong !!

[@newyorkmets7359]

Well all I can say is that I am single because I am happy with being by myself and I haven't quite found the right person yet. I am also not in a rush to be in a relationship.

[@qweej9890]

Exactly

[@hippityhoppitus]

@Lance Connor's yeah we need updates lol

[@sheldonspider86]

Still single I bet lol

[@iwearduncecaps]

personally I would say it's because weave and mindstate

[@thadevilzadvocate]

Well my guess was because so many of these women have children out of wedlock and no one really wants anything to do with them

[@isoevstheindustry8362]

#1 reason is.....ATTITUDE...ding ding ding.

[@Carameldamour]

This gentleman presented his point with objectivity, but people manage to still judge.... Listening is great, but comprehension is key!

[@simeon310]

Bad Attitudes Crazy Love Drama Schizos 10 kids and 100 baby daddys Don't need a man complex but want baby daddys Thug Passion (RIP Tu Pac) Anger Issues Confused Mental circuitry isn't wired correctly etc. etc.

[@MrBarksdale149]

Man please BLACK MEN need to first take care of themselves. I have my own house and car NO woman can emasculate me

[@gregcampbell7972]

No men is intimidated by a woman period..

[@galilee19]

The single because the strong and don't need a man💪😩

[@shantiyah]

im currently married but i realized i myself have inner issues when it comes to having the independent mine set and also i talk alot so im trying to pull out my flaws and replace with them some.act right

[@everafter2611]

I read his book. It's beautiful and it really opened my eyes. Black women have litterally been conditioned to believe we are ugly, unloveable, and completely wrothless.

[@jt3409]

Yes!! This book really helped me to understand the roles and stereotypes that were forced onto our image. Black women are forever misunderstood, but this book is helping me move past that and work on myself.

[@patrickjohnson8516]

Strong, independent, successful, educated black woman. . . I keep hearing that. "Why is it that these strong, independent, successful, educated black women can't blah blah blah..." Whoever said that is what a man wants in woman? Where do we get that idea from? Personally I would take softness, femininity, beauty, and charm over those other things ANY DAY! Who wants to be in a relationship with a rough and tough strong chainsaw of a woman? Men want flowers. Let the man be the tough and let the lady be the flower . . . or keep on being the chainsaw and watch your men reject you for that lady who will be soft and supportive and delicate and beautiful and charming and feminine.

[@M77-s3t]

So true patrick!!

[@cjzanders5430]

The group of black girls in prive highschool I grew up with and tried to get at didn't have this, "strong black woman," mentality and didn't come with all this baggage. Some black girls were a bit messed up, and I can see it especially their single mothers, but not many of them were like this. After highschool I realized that a lot of black women grew up in a "differen't" culture than I did with crazy "independent soul sister" thoughts and such. Black girls used to be my first choice with more stable black girls I met in highschool but looking at these black women of the world, It's sad. I've always had really pleasant relationships with white women though even in highschool when they weren't my first choice. At this point I don't have a prefence based on "race," I just as get along with the women who arent crazy.

[@cjzanders5430]

***** Yes. I didn't grow up around that environment as stated. Why?

[@beautifulfreespirit4313]

Blk wmn with baggage usually is a result of dealing with the low caliber of blk men. Which is overwhelminly low. PERIOD!

[@missebene2007]

+Trius that is their favorite motto and that is why they end up alone in theirs lives

[@beautifulfreespirit4313]

Most aren't like that, they just way stronger than you will ever be. You brothers are not even .1% better than blk wmn and have no room to talk.

[@ngomapa]

***** like I said, its soo fun to watch you idiots wonder why majority of you are attractive,but yet single. pride has blinded your eyes.economically, you are probably the lowest group of women out there, but yet the proudest and loudest. ain't no man wanting that shit, Mrs "i am a strong woman". I like my black sisters, and want things to change for the best. Prove, i am married to one from Africa. I think most of the black american women who fit them selves in the "i am a strong woman group" should learn from the good black women who work and still cater for their families. An idiot like you fall in that list. Prove,women who are actually strong don't talk about it. In Africa, the Caribean and Brazil, the measure of woman's strength is how good and successful her home is. if you cant keep one, stop bragging about a stupid career that's too common. strong people handle challenging stuffs, and Marriage is a challenge for both the man and the women. divorce rate in africa and the caribean is about 10%. now these women can call themselves strong. not you skanks

[@nursekalonie9952]

Omg!!!!! Thank you so very much!!!! I know I'm not mean, I believe in catering to man, I'm submissive, I work hard, I'm determine and goal driven. I keep a clean house and I take care of my kids by myself while attending schooling. I excerise, I have my own money but yet and still I couldnt figure why I couldnt keep a man. Now I know. Equally yolked its so simple, stop fixing and building men who dont want my help.

[@GungfuRichard]

What if I don't need a woman to build me or fix me? I never needed a woman for that. I needed a woman to just be a woman. Be my friend and partner and lover.

[@UFOsAreRealArea51]

+Akasha Oneheart You are so beautiful to me!!! Can't you see? You are everything I hope for.....LOL

[@nursekalonie9952]

Lol!!! Awwww. Thank you!!!

[@VAIO294]

+Akasha Oneheart .. It''s not your job to "fix" a man.. It your job to honor and RESPECT him.

[@MukoroJr]

Beautiful black woman u are

[@TGA2010000]

That intimidation aspect...hits home...my step mother was a corporate successful black woman...and I wasn't intimidated by her success nor was my father...we adored her and her drive and it translated to my father and i...it's interesting 🧐

[@SomerKnight]

Black women have too many issues starting with CHILDHOOD. Most blk girls in the last 2 generations were not born into love much less marriage. They don't know how to be wives because their unwed mom is still hitting da club well into her 40's. Because so many were not in the home with their fathers they were often abused by mom's boyfriend or a family member who seek out fatherless kids. I heard a DJ say over 10yrs ago that he made a conscious decision to only date women born into traditional marriages. He said u can dog me, say what u want but I found a good wife that know her role and that is all that matter.

[@beautifulfreespirit4313]

Let's not forget or pretend that you brothers probably have more issues. The truth is difficult to swallow. I know!

[@SomerKnight]

+Re- silient I am a black woman. Black women are raising 80% of the young black men of today's generation. The finish product after 18yrs is horrible. Something wall street could not get a penny for. Now we don't know how this generation would be if 80% were raised by single men. All I know is the handful of men I personally know that are single fathers put women to shame. They raise men not spoiled, over emotional madden kings

[@beautifulfreespirit4313]

Somer Knight I agree but it's not ALL their fault. It's both men and women and men leaving after the woman have kids not wanting to stay after that. A LOT of them leave after that.

[@beautifulfreespirit4313]

+Somer Knight I bet if men were the majority provider/custody, we'd STILL have plenty of atrocities in our community. It wouldn't change the effects of oppression. We'd have a ton of men on PUBLIC ASSISTANCE!

[@beautifulfreespirit4313]

+Re- silient Wed have a ton of men showing them how to be players lol. I've witnessed a dad doing that.

[@lastchance8142]

We used to get married before we had children. Society believed in the family as a sacred trust. Now we just have sex and babies whenever we want and pay the consequences, including being alone in the end.

[@konraddobson]

This actually applies to white male/female relationships too. Lots of good points!

[@chantelphassions8399]

Thank you ,id say it applies to all races.

[@smsbackupcarlos]

+Konrad Dobson Yeah, most men of any race don't want a combative female, no man wants a woman who is manlier then he is, across the board, regardless of race and certain races know it well and check themselves before giving attitude, fighting and cursing, and so on,

[@konraddobson]

+Carlos Backup What sane person would put themselves through that? The home should be a place of rest, and a relationship should add value to your life, not take any away. It's a shame a lot of women these days assume everything needs to be a competition or a chance to prove themselves, and like he says, a lot of attitude comes along with that because those types of women havn't learned to balance themselves out yet. (generalizing, obviously) The thing is, that can take generations for the gender roles to balance themselves out again. (and it's unlikely they'll ever go back to the way they were unless there's an economic collapse, which history shows resets things almost immediately)

[@rightmyvision]

+Carlos Backup define combative verse a woman who has standards and a man who simply does not want to be held accountable. Now the word of Yaw talks about a Nagging woman and a man that cannot be trusted or how sexual promiscuity destroy the heart of the woman.. And when men and woman grow up in an out of wedlock situation neither male or female do not understand nor communicate with there opposite sex. Let me emphasize a healthy marriage as an example for children is key to further healthy relationships.

[@smsbackupcarlos]

HeLa A woman who is quick to fight for any reason, at the drop of a dime, be it verbal, or physical way, and doesn't care if you are a women or a men,

[@BlancoDeNegro]

I haven't dated a black girl in over 6 years

[@itsmob4life]

Good job brother

[@YouTuber-mf9wc]

And we thank you for that! Please continue blessing us with you're absence.

[@YouTuber-mf9wc]

I'm not bargaining for acceptance. I don't think that any man should be where he doesn't want to be. His disgust for black women is obvious.....cool. That's one less black woman who must be mistreated. If you can't celebrate us, stay away from us plain and simple.

[@YouTuber-mf9wc]

I don't ask why they are single because it's well known that a lot of black men hate the idea of commitment and they refuse to settle .Black women are moving to men who want to be committed... problem solved. see the thing is that black women have been so blindly loyal to black men for so long. It's not that other races didn't want us, its that we did not give him access to us. But now some of us are wising up. Now I'm not going to say that I don't love black men because I'm actually with a black man right now but I don't feel that black women can only find happiness with black men. I think the same way that men are dating out women need to do it also. I actually don't even think that the single rate is as high as the media states that it is but it's cool. black women should go where they are celebrated. We don't want to have to work with black men to find out why they date outside. with all of the issues that black men have we have still been loyal as a collective. but enough is enough. Let them do what they want to do and let them leave knowing that they would not treat a black woman right if he had her anyway. Time to move on and live life.

[@YouTuber-mf9wc]

at the beginning of my reply I meant to say black women are refusing to settle. Sorry.

[@tamisha8577]

Man how my heart needed this today because as a single black woman it can get so discouraging. I'm here in 2021. When he said "we've become the men we desire" my heart sank and smiled because that's so true. Only if men understood that. 😫💕🙏🏽

[@Legend354.]

You see this is a class for women right? Literally a class for "black women". Black men don't have problems getting married we have problems marrying black women born & raised in North America.

[@tamisha8577]

@@Legend354. not sure if this was meant to be under my comment.

[@Legend354.]

@@tamisha8577 yes it was meant for you.

[@jt3409]

@@tamisha8577 yes, black women are very misunderstood, but that is something that we must move past from. I enjoyed reading his book, I learned a-lot of forgotten history, I even cried while reading it. The author really loves black women, and I appreciate that.

[@YahSedQanu]

relationships became more about competing then relating. Being in love and love took a back seat. the ramifications of capitalism?

[@sayeedbarksdale5244]

Got damn. How blessed I am to be a black Male. I really want to show one woman one day that I'm a good Man

[@king1ut275]

The reality is there a stronger love for money than another hueman being. Many black women have adopted the European mindset of " I have more therefore I am more. " If money gave you power then you never had it.

[@mieshacanb6967]

He makes soo much sense as far as the focus of each sex. But it does matter how you are brought up as well. I wasn't brought up how to be a wife or how to master the role of a woman for a man, I had to observe through friends and their marriages. So it took me longer, I didn't dream about having a husband at a young age I just focused on my life. But ,most black men don't get into long term relationships until early mid 30's because they feel they have to get "everything out of their system" where as most other cultures seek their partner early in life. Black men do feel they have a heavy responsibility to bare as far as not failing, so I can empathize with the situation. BUT when you have a lot of black women out here who are educated AND ride or die for our men, there is no excuse. Not saying there are some black women who whine, who can be "ratchet" BUT the same goes for black men as well. The fear and the unknown has to stop with our brotha's, if a woman has your back don't be scared just roll with it. Ladies we have stop saying we want a "man" but state we want a husband. What comes out of our mouths is what we get, "a man" which transforms to "any man". At that point men will stop taking advantage of us because there is so many of us to men ratio, then finally we will get the respect that we deserve when we bring greater to our lives.

[@noahhester7052]

Whatever one's circumstance at some point on time you are responsible for the quality of your choices. And yes don't blame God nor 'the white man.'

[@cphillips2711]

Noah Hester Yes you are absolutely correct that people are responsible for their own choices. I totally agree with you and do not blame neither god or the white man for the current state of black people. I do understand there is a historical context to everything. Cause = Effect. The choices that people make are based on their core beliefs which are ingrained deep in their minds/psyche. They produce automatic behaviors that most people don't even notice or know are wrong. Beliefs are developed over a lifetime of experiences, environment, perceptions, people, religion, and media. Beliefs tell us what is right or wrong, good or bad. The current situation in the black community was not the case 60 years ago. Most black people who had children were married and the husbands dared not ever leave their families. What do you see that happened in just 60 years that led to the decline that we are faced with today? Where an alarming number of black men are not afraid to honestly and publicly admit that they hate black women?

[@marcsingletary3897]

Blonde FemLez what ? Every black man is not a gangland et or a killer . 20 percent of the American military is black males . 70 percent of the metro Atlanta police force is black male . The president is black . I'm a former marine , former police officer and I'm black . It's idiots like you I don't like ! You know why alot of women are single because they need to be . You are so insignificant and you don't even know it !

[@subee1818]

Want about common sense did you have that....oh well guess we all can't be Virgos.

[@mgheichert]

BS Women, especially LIBERAL women want to marry well off successful men. Men don't usually start to become successful until they are in their mid 30's. How many women in their 20's want to date, have sex and fun with OLDER MEN with apartments, cars, careers and money? Look in the mirror. How many women don't even start looking for a husband until they are in their mid to late 30's when their CLOCK IS TICKING?

[@manweller1]

Telling them what they want to hear. Ego stroking

[@mopheousredpill7462]

Derek Jackson all over again, the hustle is real lol

[@stopbeingahypocritepeople4437]

THIS GUY ON THIS VIDEO IS INTELLIGENT, SMART, AND GORGEOUS, HE NOT BEING RUDE WITH DRAMA AND YELLING AND DOING ALL THAT CARRYING ON LIKE MEAN BLACK MEN AND TOMMY SATAMEYER , IT TAKES INTELLIGENCE TO DO A MANS WORK, AND THIS MAN DO IT WELL, GOD BLESS HIM

[@earthlingcrusader1529]

A lot of placating and ego-stroking going on here.

[@markb9488]

yes, this guy is trying to sell books...or get a few phone numbers afterwards...lol

[@amalgamatewisdom]

Otherwise the women will lash out at him, most likely physically due to close proximity, because he'd be telling them what they needed to hear and not what they wanted to. Women can be excessively violent in both physical and verbal capacities.

[@coldtundra1794]

exlensic Just like Steve Harvey!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! j

[@MrRayplumer]

Black society has to re-invent itself. The family is the first place you learn life's lessons. Love, sharing, caring, discipline, responsibility, team concept etc...the men do not know how to be men, women have lost their total femininity.

[@lancegoodman9903]

It's very annoying, disrespectful, non fact based, wreckless, unthoughtful, narrow minded, ignorant, judgemental and illogical how people can't separate someone's JOB from the PERSON. It's sickening! We are literally labeling people, giving them titles and judging them based off of their jobs, material possessions and education. But not taking anytime to look into and focus on the PERSON that they are, which makes no sense, because that's who you're getting into a relationship or marriage with. People are basing the value and worth of a PERSON off of their job and material possessions. Delusional ! Anyone who claims to have common sense or is over 30 yrs old should be ashamed about this way of thinking. We're saying Joe is "AVERAGE" ,"UNATTRACTIVE" , "UNQUALIFIED" and "INCAPABLE" of dating certain women just because he makes $35,000 a year, has no degree and lives in an apartment complex. We say John is "GREAT" "ATTRACTIVE "QUALIFIED" and "CAPABLE" of dating certain women because he makes $55,000 a year, has a degree and is a renting a house. And the TRUTH of the matter is. We don't know which guy is more qualified or in position to have a good relationship with a woman because you don't know anything about them as MEN personally. After browsing around KZbin and watching numerous videos from a variety of different people talking about why relationships and marriages are failing and why having a strong, positive, healthy relationship has become more difficult. It blows my mind, how NOBODY is addressing the obvious problems. The hosts on these different platforms miss the mark and people in the comments. THE WHOLE FOCUS IS ABOUT HOW MUCH MONEY SOMEONE MAKES, HOW MANY DEGREES THEY HAVE, WHAT KIND OF HOUSE THEY LIVE IN, WHAT TYPE OF CAR THEY HAVE, WHAT THEIR CAREER IS, WHAT TITLE THEY HAVE. WHAT'S THEIR IMAGE. HOW ARE THEY PERCEIVED BY FAMILY, FRIENDS AND THE PUBLIC. STATUS AND EGO. Meanwhile people are leaving out the easiest and biggest no brainier to begin with. #1 - You have to GOD at the top of the list PERIOD! This goes for men and women. It shows a real lack of maturity and how screwed up everyone's priorities are. I don't know how you plan on anything being successful in your life without God being attached to it. So I'm not sure that people are even properly aligned in their own lives to begin with because I find it hard to believe that people are in tune with themselves, their inner being, God, their spirit and the universe on a daily basis and are in constant prayer about things they want to manifest and succeed in their life. But then completely forget about and leave God out the equation and thought process when it comes to finding people to date. And then other values and qualities. I mean that's all you want in a relationship or marriage? I never hear women say FIRST! I want a man who is led by God, a man who will pray with me, a man that will help me become a better person, a man to show me new things. Nothing! And I don't hear men saying FIRST! I want a woman who is led by God. A woman who prays, a woman who knows how to lead a house but is still submissive. This is real life. And when it's death in the family, when the kids need guidance, when it's time to make important decisions about what to do with your older parents when they can't care for themselves anymore, when someone loses a job or takes a pay cut, when it's time to open a new business, time to sell the house, help your kids get a good start in life after they graduate, being supportive of your mate during a tough time, being a good listener, effective communication etc. The list goes on and on and on and on. AND YOUR JOB TITLE, THE TYPE OF CAR YOU DRIVE, YOUR COLLEGE DEGREE and CONDO YOU LIVE IN HAVE ABSOLUTELY POSITIVELY NOTHING TO DO WITH IT ALL! At that point, your degree in life skills, problem solving, coming up with solutions, not panicking or stressing. Staying composed and calm. Love, support, comfort, trust. That's what's needed! GOD IS NEEDED! Also as black people, we all had the same cards stacked against us from the beginning. We all had the same titles and labels put on us about "not being good enough" "not being qualified" "not being capable" "not being human" JUST BECAUSE WE WERE BLACK. And then we turn around and do this shit to each other? We really need to cleanse our minds, souls and spirits out. We are doing ourselves a real injustice by dealing with each other in this way.

[@pammyb1316]

maybe some people prefer to be alone Noone considered that option

[@pammyb1316]

Izidora Unleashed very true not everyone wants marriage they need to take that into consideration also some people in general prefer to stay single .There is nothing wrong with that

[@dcunited1511]

No one wants to be alone, that’s not human nature. God didn’t design us that way. So that’s a complete lie

[@pammyb1316]

@@dcunited1511 You are entitled to your opinion as that is your right. We can agree to disagree. Have a blessed day.

[@nylabellinger7779]

@@dcunited1511 yes they did tf god didn't say no shit like that

[@househome3654]

I’m a single black female and my parents were wonderful when I were grown up/ my children’s are grown/ and my choice is to be in relationship/ and yet I’m allergic to the word married and no more papers cause of master/ I’za Free/ I got to trust shacking up/ and Congrads to any that’s married and on the way to being Married 🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂

[@9xxxxxxxxx]

Why do people bring up slavery? Black people were the most married people in the US until the early 1960's.

[@redcrossman9014]

"Some men are intimidated by strong independent black woman"....yea a small minority and very small minority and that wouldn't cause the majority of black women to be single and alone. The only thing you got right is the hypergamy of women of how they date up, but you refused to talk about it you just tip toed around it.

[@raventakayama]

The question is, if you're perceived as undesirable... Why? Could it be that everyone else around you has it completely wrong? lol Doubtful

[@juseph29]

brilliant comment

[@king1ut275]

As a black man you have yourcellf.... don't learn this too late.

[@abisolaabisola7357]

Its funny how everything I was inadvertently taught to hate about myself as a child, I now absolutely Love! I hated my dark skin. I hated my big lips. I hated my kinky hair. I was constantly teased as a child. I even hated my "ghetto" ethnic name! I hated everything that made me "me" One of the factors that led me to this way of thinking was my peers, particularly the Black males who wanted nothing to do with the Black girls who looked like me!

[@mr.nyceguy7800]

Dress Size?

[@BlackAtticus]

I think it's very pertinent to notice that he had to go all the way back to slavery when describing the conditions that lead up to our current state of "black relationships". for so many men to feel, act, and be the same way, that TO ME equals "conditioning" and "training". Same for black women. we have a lot of traditions we need to question, research, and break away from IF the goal is to have happy TRUSTWORTHY relationships then we have to have healthier dialog and call things out for what they are, and at the end of the day, it's not OUR (black men or women) FAULT it's how it is, it's only our FAULT for choosing to not CHANGE it.

[@greshaunperkins4112]

I love this!

[@jerrejackson1973]

As the Hindu proverb states, "Three things drive a man from his house; smoke, rain, and a scolding wife."

[@ced2smooth]

This is a good video. Very well articulated. The amount of division between the black man and the black woman saddens me. Although the future looks hopeless, I'll never lose hope. I know we can do it. We just have to walk in the spirit and not in the flesh. That alone will solve so many unecessary problems. Read Galations 5:16-26

[@invisiblehatednotwantedforever]

Now listen to how many "mmmhm's" when about what some men do.. But HOW siiiiilient it is when what some women do from women.

[@aquamarine4355]

They would date the girl who acts black but never the actual black girl...

[@Rondu01]

I for one, 100% support interracial relationships and marriages. 70% of black women are single, What? What percentage of them are single parents? Because, I cannot date any women who has children. Don't get me wrong, I've tried it and I don't like it! I just can love a child that is not mine, like I would love a child that is mine. When I see a single mom I always ask myself where is that child's father and why are they not together. I understand that in some cases the father could have past away via accident, society or military. However, I'm assuming the 70% excludes those scenarios. Another thing, I've searched the net for four days now and American black women are the only women complaining about there being no good men of their own race! I've also narrowed the time frame where things started going downhill for ABW (American Black Women) to the 90's, yes 1990-1999. I've tried dating ABW when I was younger but they would tell me things like, I was too nice or I couldn't handle them. Conclusion: I believe that many of the 70% ABW have met good black men but turned them down like in the above scenario. It's plausible that you ladies may have inadvertently pushed good black men to explore interracial relationships and we are loving it.

[@pinkblush2220]

You're right I have seen a lot of nice good black man get turn down by black women I hate to say this but it seen as if they just don't want a good man. Maybe it's because a lot of women grow up without a farther and they don't know how they suppose to be treat them so I'm guessing it go a little deeper

[@paulsharp7857]

"THATS FACTS" I just dont see how you can call a FEMALE you dont know and never met before a"LADY", like how do you know? Lady/Woman I don't give FEMALES that benefit to give them the same title I would give my great Grand Mother, which is a WOMAN/LADY, Her generation made sure they kept their roles in a relationship in chekc, and thats why their generation 50's on down, majority kept a MAN/HUSBAND, wasnt nothing about H.I.V/AIDS, CHILD SUPPORT etc. Now soon as FEMALES start doing their own thing, everything falls apart! ESPECIALLY children"FACTS"

[@isonovoso8312]

yep!

[@luly2369]

And you are part of the PROBLEM

[@Rondu01]

@@luly2369 We are not the problem. We are not contributors to that very unfortunate statistic of single ABW mothers.

[@almaott6135]

THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! Mr. Hasani Pettiford, for not putting all the blame on black women, which is what a LOT of people do (particularly Black people). There are other factors that come into play that people don't talk about. For example, 43% of black males are also single. (Why?) Also, it has been said that black women outnumber black men by 1.8 million. On top of that, black women tend to prefer black men rather than dating or marrying outside of their race. This limits her opportunity for marriage even more.

[@latoyawithanr9675]

+Alma Ott Well said, it's sad to see all the black women bashing, like a blanket statement pertains to all...it's really, really sad and demeaning...

[@FallonFace]

He makes a lot of sense. Runs deep. Thumbs up brother!

[@lawrencejones9880]

PREACH BROTHER!!!

[@MrPositivelypositive]

Jay Bartgis lack of male role models and bad decisions.

[@jashaunhuggins8718]

Jay Bartgis mass mind manipulation and indoctrination

[@ryanstones4433]

I'm 14 an a black girl so is your saying I'm going to end up single an alone cuz I'm black

[@martymar74]

No, just don't act with a shitty attitude, act ladylike, no cussing and fighting and let your man be a man. You'll be alright young sista just take that advice

[@floraline7153]

No. The real world will show you that women end up single by relying on a pregnancy, welfare, or the court system to entrap a man then get rid of him and then live off the government and/or his child support checks. I see this in all races but especially blacks, and that is because of the Democrat party and other factors working to keep black people down. My advice to you is hopefully not too late and it is, use contraceptives religiously, get a higher education preferably in a trade, and be independent by buying only what you can afford. That will attract a serious, loving person, not a player.

[@softcrab3361]

Don't listen to them.......just be you and be careful on who you choose and think carefully. And find someone who is willing to love and respect you regardless of race or ethnicity. And also give that person the same amount of love and respect. You just need a mutual bond

[@jshuabrown9968]

@Traci AM aww are you hurt or are you sexist do you hate men

[@carmenblacklock788]

I'm so exhausted and disgusted with these over generalized stereotyped debate.

[@georgialife1976]

Black Men get your passport and travel!!!!! Stop being fools. There's nothing wrong with dating out; however, I disagree with hating black women while doing so. If you're going to move forward brothers, you should move forward in peace because that's the only way to make sure the negative energy doesn't carry over into your future relations.

[@stevenschmitz8901]

Very well said. These principles apply to every race and both sexes. males have a desire to protect and provide for his family. that doesn't mean dominate. it's actually a serving state of mind. If he is with a woman who does not need (because of her own wealth or welfare) or want (because of how she was taught) his help then he doesn't doesn't commit to marriage.

[@faa1412]

Look at the end of the day it's about how you make a man FEEL. Do you make him FEEL good or bad. Do you talk to the king in him or the fool in him? Do you nitpick at everything he does wrong or appreciate the things he does right? Do you make him laugh, can he be vulnerable around you? If he cries to you, do you make fun of him, tell him to man up, or simply hold him and let him cry? Can he trust you with his most inner fears and insecurities ... will you use these against him later on in an argument? Can he count on you to support his goals and dreams? Do you talk to him like a grown man or a little boy? Do you ask him to do something (versus telling him?)... Do you let him know how much you appreciate the little things (thanking him for taking out the trash, going to work, putting in applications to find work, going to see the doctor and taking his health seriously)? Most importantly, do you RESPECT him? Most men and people don't care about your accolades, your success, if you make them feel like crap. Most men (well the respectable ones) will move mountains for the woman who treats him like a King.

[@pantherb]

Amazingly good comment here.

[@beautifulfreespirit4313]

And vice versa, I see a lot of boys regularly all over the place, not men.

[@tropicvibe]

MGTOW!!!!!

[@rapaddictsupreme]

Right, eventually you might just have to leave them alone period just to have peace.

[@sbrooks904]

Pathetic

[@florentinamcleod4159]

You were going good until you started to lie to make them feel good. Stop going to the past to make excuses for their bad behavior

[@michaelgreen776]

The lure of having your own house or apartment and having someone to love them for them (a child) is very strong!!!

[@ArmyVet-Nikki46]

I'm not understanding why staying single is such a bad thing? Not every woman wants to marry and have children. There are some of us out here that are quite comfortable and happy being single. I'm 37, never been married, no children, celibate, and very successful. I am single by choice, and it's not because there aren't good men (I believe there are) or that I can't find or keep a man (because I'm sure I can). I am retiring from the Army this year with 20 years of service. I have a Bachelors degree in Human Services and will obtain my Masters in Mental Health Counseling. I have never desired marriage or children. I love being single! I feel sorry for people who are constantly looking for love and can't find or keep it.

[@MrSuckafree247]

"She watch channel zero" - Public Enemy

[@sharonmax6968]

This brotha goes deep but he is on point. This is very helping and informative information.

[@norrisb0616]

Tell the truth my brother, I wish you were here in Chicago I'd invite you to speak at my church !!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@hasanipettiford]

I can speak for your church. Let's set it up. Contact me at [e-mail] 404-661-8381

[@MinecraftSoldier1000]

hasani pettiford To get on here and speak out against and for all black women is just another reason our race is in the state its in. Only our race has men consistently downing their women over everything from hair to skin color and it's sad. Relationships are not that hard and every black man or women doesn't want the same thing. Its about two like minded people coming together and how can one man speak for all or one woman speak for all. If a woman works and goes to work last time I checked it is called being an adult and does not mean a woman does not want a man and if she does not want one then its her choice. A lot of black men want to control black women and disrespect and dog them then turn around and say oh you worked to hard, you didn't respect me.. grow up and stop blaming women for your issues. And can we please stop stereotyping all black people? I love being a black woman and love our race but the putting each other down and hearing men do it consistently, is weak. Do you hear any other race that does this? I have yet to see it.

[@TWLogik]

MinecraftSoldier1000 a lot of black men also dont want to commit to a relationship bcse they think they are every womens sexual fantasy and why b tied dwn to one person. I see black women who pretend to b married to a man bcse they r in long term relationships but their men will not marry them. One is bcse we don't demand it like other women and ironically when they have been w this person and the kids are now grown then he wants marriage. Now in their 50s they want marriage seemingly when their sexual prowess starts to decline. Is that a coincidence? I suspect they were cheating all along hoping something better may come along but leaving their options open. They don't look at it as cheating bcse technically she his not his wife.

[@MsEliteForever]

Mark Gable Why are black men aggressive?

[@MsEliteForever]

You mean tight curls? And if thats the main reason maybe men who care about a womans hair more then she does is gay?

[@JosephWax]

I live in Los Angeles and all the black women here and I do mean all of the date outside theirs race all if them nobody talks about that.

[@marcsingletary3897]

If a person wants to judge you , put you in a box with all the others , give you an attitude for no reason and act like they are above you why would you be with that person ? We are all just human beings and deserve mutual respect . If a woman can't give you respect as a man then leave her alone . I don't care how she looks , if she is black , where she works , her education level ...it all means nothing ! Every minute in your life is significant so don't waste it on the wrong people !!!

[@hartm-the-man4387]

Because they are too argumentative. Too mean. Too much of a problem. When you go home you don't want all that drama.

[@jross1391]

I will tell you why I am single and alone.....its called preference...I maybe alone but I am not lonely though. Sometimes people dont understand the difference. I never wanted kids or a husband and til this day I dont regret it. There is nothing wrong with it but it is not a desire everyone has..I dont mind having responsibilities... just not that kind. I had a couple chances to be married if I wanted to as a black woman, so you cant throw all of them into one bucket like that...just my little tidbit..take care guys

[@samane549]

When a woman say that she don't need a man, she is saying I don't need God.

[@MAYWEATHERFLOW]

From reading the comments..this is a real issue. I love black women...and experienced pure hell with most of them. Exactly why I'm here..something has seriously went wrong.

[@beautifulfreespirit4313]

And vice versa trust that! Y'all always been that way though. Playa playa! I wonder if that has something to do with it. Hmmmmm.

[@Rubberbandman04]

Is this guy simping

[@kayele]

A little. He brings it back though, hard to get through in the beginning

[@sbrooks904]

No he’s realistic. The truth is in the middle and neither men or women seem to get it.

[@NINJA1442]

Slavery is not the problem. We live in today and the problem is their attitudes and lack of respect of black men.

[@lauratracey1405]

There some BLACK MEN THAT A WOMAN CAN TRULY RESPECT AND HONOR. BUT THE MAJORITY OF THEM. WHAT AN EYE OPENER.

[@MrSosa35]

The term "black women" is a broad one why not instead state "some black american women", rather than the universal term black women which applies to black women globally. The term black is not exclusive to Americans when describing black people worldwide, this annoys me especially as most black Americans have little to no experience of having met black people from outside of the US. #Ignorance

[@chosenoneyahpeoplehebrew9807]

I totally agree, because my girlfriend is black and she is from south America, Colombia, and believe me, she doesn't actually like any of these black American women at all !!!!

[@donnab.333]

+R Sosa I don't know where you live, but your statement is false; myself, as well as other Black people I know have met blacks from other countries, via, through school; through the military; through job opportunities; through travel; etc. I've met Blacks from Europe, from Latin American countries, African countries, etc. either through school (attending HBCU), through the military, through travel, & living in a diverse state-CA.

[@MrSosa35]

Original Hebrew Most Americans don't even travel outside of their domestic region i.e. the US. By comparison black people from other countries not only travel but study and work abroad that is common place. Hence why most Americans seem to assume that America is the be all and end all of life and hold a limited perspective of the world. It's obviously a generalisation but true nonetheless.

[@donnab.333]

R Sosa Not true. My experiences at school & being in the military show & tell me otherwise. I met many Americans, particularly Black Americans that were nonmilitary that were living abroad, some being my own blood relatives who either worked for the US government (nonmilitary job) or a private company in the country I was stationed; there were also other Black Americans who lived/worked in this country (again, nonmilitary), & this was over 20+ years ago. There are too many websites, which show many Americans, now living abroad, still receiving their retirement benefits, etc. from the US (this includes Black Americans); there are many websites for travel clubs for Black Americans living abroad; I mean heck they got facebook groups (closed groups) for either Blacks traveling abroad and/or Black Expats (including from the US); & there are many videos/websites from Black Americans who are permanently living abroad & have been doing so for years. Again, disagree with you there is too much evidence to prove otherwise. All you have to do is research it.

[@MrSosa35]

Original Hebrew I'm not saying some Americans do not leave the US maybe many within your profession and social circle do but the vast majority particularly those within the black community don't. The geographical knowledge of many black Americans I've experienced even those considered rather intelligent was very poor. Many travel internally but externally not so much although I must say this is starting to slowly change. You would be hard pushed to find say a black person in Europe who hasn't left their particular country of birth or who hasn't visited at least three countries by the time they're twenty.

[@abrothaspeakspage]

Good stuff here my Brotha but these events (Single Black Women) ( Black Women Head of Household) ( Black Women making more money) are not random, these are calculated events. Like you said with tracing it back to the beginning, it is found that once the Tribe is broken that group will no longer exist, on its own. This is a heavy subject but I just wanted to note that it is not and accident, the things taking place are calculated events that have been going on since the defeat of Africa. You don't just defeat a Tribe, you also have to ensure it Never rises again. Peace to You My Brotha

[@ALC111Saint]

Don't knock him, he is pointing out the facts. All you have to do is remove the hindrance and move on up. A lesson for both sexes. Why do we so much like to knock our own, when they show us our faults. Keep lecturing Mr. HASANI.

[@jacqwataywalton6820]

I here some women saying black man have hate toward black women if so, so sad! HATRED COMES FROM SATAN IT IS NOT FROM GOD WE KNOW WHO IS TRULY RESPONSIBLE FOR HATRED SATAN HIMSELF SOWS HATRED IN ONES HEART, IF ONE WANTS FREEDOM FROM HATRED THEY WOULD NEED TO CONFESS THE SIN OF HATRED AND GOD WILL DELIVER THEM OUT

[@samclark8042]

Your problem is you listen to women that can't get a man and I bet you don't have one, just someone for booty calls.

[@boobzac]

Amen Sister

[@jainell_all_day6887]

LMBO, this room is filled with "silly women" who are eating up everything he is saying. No man or woman is intimidated by each other when they are equally yoked. If you are a man/women of God and abide it what scripture teaches you will have wisdom in selecting and dating a mate.

[@lawrencejenkins8103]

This is EXACTLY what I been trying to say for years. If more black women heard this message, I think we would have more loving dedicated marriages in our community.

[@rockster0192]

I need a Proverbs 31 type of woman.

[@MrRonaldlee5467]

amen

[@Always_Leveling_Up]

I would say you and those who agree with you are the only ones who are #REAL MEN commenting on this vlog with any ounce of good sense. The most logical statement of the day that shows real strength and character💪💪💪👏👏👏👏