Reacting to UGLY Say Yes To The Dress Bridesmaids Looks (COWGIRL BOOTS?!?)

[@verrrginia]

If you’re going to make your bridesmaids go over their budget, you should pay the difference (or be paying for it outright). This is a common problem and I don’t get how brides can be so inconsiderate to people who they’re supposed to be friends with.

[@KyraTheUnicorn]

For my wedding I asked my bridesmaids what they’re willing to pay and then when we went dress shopping, I only pulled out dresses that were lower than their budget. I can’t imagine not being respectful of a budget, I am very dedicated to my budget to I know how it feels

[@rachelwilliams9340]

I don’t understand why people force their bridesmaid’s to buy their own dress. In the UK we don’t do that

[@SwimmerPrince]

I don't understand the bridesmaid's obligation to pay their own dresses. My sister got married last month, my parents paid all the dresses for them (and hair and makeup job for the big day).

[@imitationporcelain]

If I am a bridesmaid on a tight budget and a bride demands I wear a certain type of dress I will stop been friends with that bride assap because she have no consideration for me as a friend or my budget especially if is an ugly ,expensive dress that I will only use once...like at least she should help me cover the diference If I must absolutly wear that dress I cant afford 😅

[@missstorrm]

Is that an American thing that the bridesmaids need to pay for their dresses? I mean... You want your bridesmaids to wear a specific dresses, you buy them for them. I mean, youdon't ask the guests to buy and bring specific flowers for their tables, right? Also, if they already pay for the dresses, are they still expected to give wedding gifts?

[@tasam.5501]

Its not that she doesn't want to pay 300 dollars for the dress - She simply can't. She keeps mentioning that she is a single parent and that is hard on its own. The bride that is supposedly really good friends with her should know all that, especially if they went through thick and thin as the bride says.

[@anastasiao4036]

As a child of a single parent who was reliant on food stamps for my some of my childhood, I know how it would be. A lot of the time, even with wanting to do something like get a good dress for a wedding, it can be hard for some people to pay even $100 for a dress for a special occasion.

[@theblondebiatch]

It's literally baffling to me that brides actually expect their bridesmaids to wear a certain dress that they'll only be able to wear to that one wedding, all while making them pay for it. Ridiculous! And definitely not a thing in other countries.

[@auntrori]

My main issue is why do they even try on dresses over the budget? That's inconsiderate. She'd have probably loved the dress they picked if they hadn't seen the one they knew couldn't work.

[@yolandapaulino5952]

@@auntrori well it is her wedding, but since the bride knew she should pay the difference

[@auntrori]

@@yolandapaulino5952 oh sorry I meant the store associate, not the bride. I should have been clearer! But I agree about paying the difference.

[@carolinatorres7575]

The bride is already paying thousands for her wedding, what's $300 more? Just pay for your best friends dress. I would never be able to ask someone who is financially struggling to buy a dress for a ONE time occasion, no.

[@elio6037]

In the UK where I'm from its usual for the bride and groom to pay for the bridesmaids dresses, I find it really odd that the wedding party have to foot the bill.

[@WhitneyDahlin]

Yeah that's what I was thinking as well! They kept like calling her out as she can't afford it every few minutes and I'm like ugh wtf is wrong with you guys. Or one of the other friends should have talked to the bride in private and said hey I'll pay for her dress. Just something other than expecting her to pay for it.

[@Sparrow-lh9qk]

I didn't even have any bridesmaids in my wedding... It was a small affair. I asked my brother to stand with me, my husband's dad and best friend stood with him, and a good friend of mine performed the ceremony. So I was the only one wearing a dress, but what we did was made sure the guys all had white button-down dress shirts, black dress pants and black vests, and I bought ties for them that matched our wedding collors. My brother had to buy his pants and best, but he said he wasn't upset about it at all, since they were all things he could easily wear in the future to other dressy events. I know most people DO spend money to be in other people's wedding... I've bought my bridesmaid dress for another girl's wedding, too. But it didn't sit right with me, personally, to ask people to do that, especially since we didn't want a big affair and decided to have a shotgun wedding.

[@LaynieFingers]

@@annetidwell4807 Right?? I bought my maid of honor's dress because it was important to me to have her with me. I knew it would be hard on her to make it happen financially, so I bought it for her. Why make her feel bad because she couldn't afford it?

[@siiiriously3226]

@@elio6037 IF they can afford that. in low income families the bride and groom certainly don´t pay for all the dresses.

[@erinbailey7940]

I can’t tell if I appreciated it or hated it when that girl was like “I’d pay it, but I’m not a single mother.” Like, it’s nice that she knows her privilege but also wow way to call her out

[@mandolen3317]

Imo she didn't wanted to pay 300 for that dress

[@hste99]

@UCvLjNLT76fFeJDc5FJPQ9AQ I don't think she intended to call her out but it was a little targeted and she could have said it a bit more tactfully. I would have just gone with yes I can afford this dress but it's not my decision to make.

[@sydneywilson3270]

Yeah honestly, the sentiment is nice, but the way she phrased it came across super snarky to me, the bit about being a single mother and especially the bit about having 2 incomes. It came across very sickly sweet

[@kaemincha]

As someone from the south, it def felt backhanded.

[@mandolen3317]

@@sydneywilson3270 yeah, but I can imagine the bridges mates discussed the price behind the sceen/entire show. And they clearly didn't wanted to pay 300+ for that monstrosity, so she used her friends financial status as an argument, people get nervous in front of camera and can easily say something they didn't mean or

[@mackenziematheson6070]

Unpopular Opinion: the bride should pay for the bridesmaid dresses. The bridesmaid didn’t ask to be apart of your wedding. It’s like asking someone to come over but bring groceries. I get dresses can be expensive but fit it in the budget.

[@Somebodyelse141]

I'm pretty sure most brides can't afford that. The happy balance is working with your bridesmaids to stay within their budget and hopefully find something they can wear again, or the bridesmaid can just turn down the offer

[@kristystephens1255]

In the United Kingdom it is the norm for the bride to pay for bridesmaids dresses- It would be highly unusual for a bridesmaid to buy their own!!! Well actually it would be considered weird af tbh 🤣

[@stormwright8300]

@@Somebodyelse141 I would say stay within a budget if the bride can't buy them outright. Or pay the difference for your bridesmaids

[@tmolusable]

@@Somebodyelse141 Then the bride shouldn't have bridesmaids. Have the wedding you can afford without your loved ones to subsidize your choices for you.

[@Somebodyelse141]

@@stormwright8300 yes, I mentioned staying within a budget, paying the difference would also be nice if they went over budget or had a bridesmaid whose budget was less than the others

[@SpiderLily2024]

It's almost like some brides would intentionally choose the ugliest dress they could find in fear of being upstaged

[@screamingbanshee1282]

I think it's about 50/50

[@Tenshikichi1]

I think the fact that the dresses should be uniformed affect the looks too. Also it's one person choosing the dresses based on what they like. Not based on what fits each person.

[@alecoloxa]

I'm still impressed that the bride choose the dress but doesn't pay for it.... what???!!

[@teijaflink2226]

Yeah and specially when her so called best friend isn't well financially, how can anyone expect someone who lives in a one bedroom appartment to be able to buy a ugly dress for 300. I felt so bad and angry that she was put through this pressure and guilt, priviledged people just don't understand how hard it is to not be well financially.

[@mariaah3073]

@@alecoloxa right? That sounds SO wrong to me. If the bridesmaids' dresses are gonna be part of your wedding's decor, then pay for them like you're paying for the rest of it.

[@natalieszerwinski2933]

Maybe I’m a control freak but I’d want to vet my groom’s groomsmen’s suits, so I think it’s entirely understandable that the groom would want some say about the bridesmaid’s dresses. Refreshing to see a man giving a shit about the details of his own wedding…

[@nathalie3601]

i agree!!! it is his wedding too, no reason why the bride should be the only person to have a say

[@clairegee822]

@@nathalie3601 Yeah, especially as they're both paying and dresses are much more varied than suits

[@heath2671]

I honestly hate how people think that straight guys can’t have fashion sense. I love HauteLeMode, but he is perpetuating this stereotype. He deserves the right to an opinion, especially since he is paying for the dresses.

[@justlola417]

And in the end she looked like she chose different from the groom just because she didn't want him to have an opinion...

[@clairegee822]

@@justlola417 which is just rude as he is paying for them

[@sculpturesquid]

guilt-tripping awfulness aside, I just can't understand how those dresses are so expensive. You'd never pay $300+ for a dress that looks like that in a normal store :/

[@jackieelizabeth8614]

They look like $30 from Shein

[@Eloraurora]

Wedding markup. Any given dress listing gets a 50%+ price bump if they add 'bridal' to the description.

[@meeeka]

I don't know where you shop for "party dresses" but $300 is almost a reasonable price. But when one stops to think about the workmanship, etc. on some dresses, they could go WAAAAY higher, really.

[@tugst547]

Keep in mind these styles and prices are more than ten years old so $200 back then is even more now.

[@moonstoneblues8512]

People talk about the one girls attitude and general comments about that "Perfect lace dress" but it's so disrespectful that Randy goes over budget when the whole point is that one bridesmade CAN'T afford it

[@stormwright8300]

Well he did tell the bride it was overbudget. She decided she still wanted and liked it. It's not like he kept that info from her

[@martaf3222]

When they picked that dress I just assumed that they would see if they liked the style and then pick a similar, cheaper dress

[@FullMoonOctober]

@@stormwright8300 Both of them were assholes about it. He only wants to make a sale, and she doesn't care about her friend's financial situation as much as she pretends to. They totally planned to show it and get the group's approval before telling the price, and then pressure the friend to go over budget by putting her on the spot.

[@stormwright8300]

@@FullMoonOctober I understand him wanting to make a sale. It's his job. I think she's more at fault for not considering her best friend's financial situation or even offering to help when she couldn't afford it, as she knew she couldn't. He said it was overbudget, she said that was fine. I think she's a bigger asshole than him

[@halloween482]

@@stormwright8300 bullshit, ppl like him are a major part of why the wedding industry is ridiculously overpriced.

[@grayson5000]

I don't get the weirdness about the fiancé coming. I mean, it's his wedding too, regardless of if he's paying. I hate the mindset that weddings are all about the bride and what she wants and the groom's opinion doesn't matter. He obviously cares about the wedding and wants to be involved, shouldn't that be encouraged?

[@Mothman_In_a_T-Pose]

I definitely agree. A wedding is a union between two people. A bit of pomp and pageantry is fun, but it should be collaborative and what _both_ people want. If the fiancé/fiancée wants to be involved in bridesmaid/groomsmen outfits, they absolutely should be if their intention is to be helpful.

[@Odontecete]

@@Mothman_In_a_T-Pose And supportive of the person they will partner with in life. I too agree that more attention needs to be paid by both parties for the wedding and leave off the "oh it's only the bride's decision" stuff. If a couple can't decide or agree on what their wedding is going to look like and be like....how about the really BIG decisions down the road? Starting a family, what schools, what house, what car, how much debt...etc...etc...etc. When you decide to partner with someone, BOTH of you approach the world together, you aren't "along for the ride".

[@oddxdB]

Yesss, as long as he's respectful and stays in his line what's the problem with him showing interest?

[@shortcake66]

Absolutely- it’s BOTH of their days (regardless of who’s paying for what.) I’m sure she had thoughts on what the groomsmen were going to wear- why shouldn’t he have thoughts on what the bridesmaids wear? As long as they don’t steamroller each other into something they’re not happy with, it’s just another thing they need to come to an accommodation with each other about. Like they will for many things throughout their whole life together.

[@irisastrom]

"i don't care how much it costs" because you're not the one paying for them-

[@itsjakia2759]

My exact thoughts!

[@kiram.3619]

Yeah. And if both dresses are a ten, why not have the groom (who is also paying) make the decision. It was such a "I'll demonstrate my power & control." move. Like showing she doesn't need to care about his opinion, because he loves her.

[@rosemali3022]

I mean.... they are both paying for the dresses. When you get married you tie your financials together.

[@kiram.3619]

@@rosemali3022 Most people still have a basic respect for who earned the money though.

[@melz6126]

I feel as being a stylist myself it is extremely shady and cruel to get the ladies to try on dresses way beyond their price range UNLESS they are all very insistent. It’s wrong to “surprise” anyone with an expensive cost. I would feel incredibly guilty being a part of someone’s sadness during a fitting

[@FullMoonOctober]

Yeah, the whole "let's just try it on/not mention the price/see what happens" mentality is manipulative, because it tricks them to approve of something and then immediately forces them to make a hard financial choice on the spot with peer pressure. So gross!

[@alyssa6156]

definitely agree with this, but I have to think that in this case it was just done for tv to create drama/interest. I'd hope that for any non-tv appointments all the bridesmaids are made fully aware of the dress prices

[@gothboithick]

i always assumed the point of that was to literally just see what they say about the dress, y'know, what aspects they do or don't like, to help them find a better dress close to or within the budget. like, they can just take the features the ladies like and find another dress with those features, as there's clearly quite a huge, varied selection to choose from.

[@FeralKobold]

My entire extended family are hicks. I don't think I've ever been to a wedding WITHOUT cowboy boots. It's either cowboy boots or barefoot

[@imnaynay]

I’m from Montana and same

[@licketysplit5008]

Ew

[@sakurasai781]

That’s interesting

[@oreoreo1534]

Barefoot is the way to go!!

[@RealElongatedMuskrat]

That sounds fun, as a non American I find that image quite sweet in a bit of a chaotic way. Be rootin, be tootin, and by God be shootin, but most of all be kind. I respect the cowboy boot vibe.

[@brittsNAY]

Am I the only person who can’t comprehend forcing your friends and family to pay money out of their own pocket for a dress you are picking out and making them wear (especially if they can’t afford it)? Personally, if I didn’t have the budget to cover all the bridesmaids dresses, I would let them pick their own...

[@mariaah3073]

RIGHT? And if you can't pay for them but are worried about them not looking cohesive, give the bridesmaids a colour palette to follow and let them pick whatever they can afford and/or fits them the way they like.

[@vic6091]

I’m a firm believer in just picking the color and length and just letting the rest of the group pick what they want to wear

[@livismith5007]

I agree somewhat. I would pick the color and let them pick a style, whether I’m paying or not.

[@ckee8437]

My two sisters picked a dress that matched the color scheme (which they approved) which they would actually wear. They both wore their dresses several times and cost under 99.00

[@ende3988]

i think if as a bride you choose a colour and your bridesmaids choose a dress of that colour, it's totally fair to have the bridesmaids pay - they can buy a dress they like and will wear again. or if you buy the dresses with their input and a budget, it makes sense for them to pay. also many give their bridesmaids the option to decline being a bridesmaid, so if they don't want to pay, they don't have to lmao. that being said, if you really want someone as a bridesmaid and they literally cannot afford to buy a dress, imo not paying is incredibly rude (e.g. the single mother in this video who had a tight budget)

[@hannahl5306]

Lori: "I don't like grooms" Jerry: "I'm paying for the dresses" Lori: "Well come on in!!!"

[@MorwenAncalime]

Fashion aside, cowboy boots are way more practical at country/outdoor weddings than heels! And lace + country vibes was definitely a wedding trend a few years back when this episode was filmed. It was kind of an offshoot of the "shabby chic" craze.

[@mylitttleemilyjayne9]

Dude I'm wearing ankle boots for my wedding and you bet your ass I'm going to do some light hiking on the shores of Lake Superior.

[@stormwright8300]

I feel like lace + country vibes always goes better with a more flowy style dress. Almost like a sundress but lace. Always feels off to me when the lace dress is sort of skintight

[@kellyriddell5014]

lol yeah, I was cracking up at his hatred of all things rural or Southern :) Except the girl's adorable accent, of course. I'm from the South and I love pretty much all of the things he hated, but fashion is subjective and the world takes all kinds of people :)

[@lamoskgr]

If you are in the countryside. But not in the Mediterranean for example.

[@brontehow1310]

These all stress me out so much. My bridesmaids (and my fiancée’s bridesmaids) will pick their own dresses within guidelines we’ve provided. We’re giving them $100 towards it and if they want to spend more that’s their prerogative. They’re our friends and we don’t want to bankrupt them for our wedding, while also keeping costs down for ourselves.

[@solesuna]

That's a great idea!

[@jforsyth287]

That’s a really nice idea.

[@madeleinefitz1508]

We're planning on doing the same!!

[@etherealsky7078]

Tbh I’ve been to a couple of weddings when I was a kid, and as far as I remember none of the bridesmaids had the same dresses (so they probably chose them themselves, and hopefully bought something that they like enough to wear on other occasions). I assumed that was how it was done for every wedding. Maybe the bride choosing THE SAME dresses for all the bridesmaids (and making them pay for it) is very american? Idk

[@Kristi__xo]

This is what my friend did. She gave us money towards it and a color and we all chose our dresses. It looked really nice and we didn't look like carbon copies of each other.

[@shelbylee242]

I'm sorry, the fact that Lisa's supposed best friend Jenna hasn't automatically pitched in for Lisa when Jenna knows her situation and is picking over budget dresses tells me all that I need to know about her and how she treats her friends. If she cared about her friend, in my opinion this would have never been an issue. Either she would respect the budget through and through, or she would have said to Lisa, 'Hey don't worry, I got the difference. I want you to be at my wedding and look great with everyone else.' Idk I just know personally with my own best friend from 6th grade, I would never do that to her.

[@bergen-schmidt]

LITERALLY!!! That's exactly what I was thinking. I would've pulled her aside and been like I appreciate you so much for being there for me and being a part of my big day. I will take care of your dress expenses. Like what???

[@Mothman_In_a_T-Pose]

Yep! I’m a bridesmaid for my brother and SIL’s wedding, and she was determined to stay on budget since most of us are 19-27 and a lot of us don’t have a ton of money to toss around. She found an affordable boutique where the most expensive dress fitting her criteria was $250. She and her MOH have updated us each time there’s a sale and my brother even offered to chip in as I was between jobs at the time. As a broke college student working retail, I was still able to afford and participate in this part of the wedding. I spent $150 on my dress. My friend’s sister is getting married and she has a similar approach-and she’s way more uptight and picky than my SIL. It really isn’t that hard to accommodate and respect your bridesmaids and their needs.

[@rachaeldiviney712]

I think something important for Luke to know is the colour of the sample doesn't actually matter. Each brand has a book of fabric swatches and they do the same dress in all the colours they have. They bring it out in some episodes when the bride is serious about the colour

[@hollystiener16]

This true. The second girl said the dresses will be black

[@Ellen-jo1dt]

would love to see a eurovision fashion review :))))

[@mariafranchi2351]

omg you read my mind

[@nancyhi8357]

Me too!

[@tinam2892]

YES!!!

[@WeWofficial]

That would be incredible!

[@RealElongatedMuskrat]

AHHH IT WOULD BE AMAZING. I'd also just love to see lukes reaction to our nonsense batshit tomfoolery, like as an American how would he interpret the euro trash fabulousness.

[@lovesplus3879]

Idk if it’s just me, but if you can and willing to pay more. Just buy home girl the dress, say I got this and she’ll put the coin. At least pay the difference.

[@stellabella3337]

Exactly

[@RachaelTheRed]

Being from Texas, I can confirm that cowboy boots and lace dress is an aesthetic of its own for every occasion from foot ball games to dances to weddings.

[@sheaerin]

From Dallas area and I can definitely confirm.

[@thewordshifter]

I'm from Texas and this was pretty much the exact outfit we wore for my sisters wedding.

[@kellyriddell5014]

As it should be! :D

[@idrabohm3678]

Why are we being so aggressive towards this groom for wanting to be involved? It's his wedding too!

[@RachelAnnPotter]

Seriously, we should encourage the groom to be involved 🤦‍♀️

[@stefaniebraun3319]

If I understood it correctly, he was going to pay for them. If he is the one paying for it, he should definitely be there.

[@maddieb926]

I absolutely agree. I do not diss my boyfriend's fashion taste because he is a straight man, I will tell him something looks bad because of my opinions. We should support calm discussion between the sexes and sexualities, as long as in it ends with good compromise or agreements and does not harm anyone at the end of the day. It makes no sense to start so hostile since the beginning towards Jerry just because the heteronormative idea of it being the "bride's day." It is both of their's and we should respect when couples have healthy and equal relationships.

[@rg9991]

Yeah I felt like Luke went a little too hard on him for just wanting to be there and help out

[@angrybidoof847]

traditionally it's meant to be bad luck?

[@collyflower6623]

Luke: "I will say no more" Luke 1 second later: "Let me just say-"

[@gabyb.812]

“Breeders can’t be choosers” - Haute Le Mode, 2021.

[@EruditeGayming]

I SCREAMED!

[@xxfree-forevloverxx9325]

Sorry i don't understand 😭 explain pls

[@crayonburry]

When he added “love is love etc etc” to the end of it I was on the floor.

[@marytc2714]

@@xxfree-forevloverxx9325 breeders is slang for straight people , he wasn’t trying to be offensive tho

[@halloween482]

@@marytc2714 lololol, come on, "breeders" isnt a term of endearment, and is offensive. Let's call a spade a spade.

[@roselynmvm]

“It’s hard to see my dream dress walk away..” like WHAAAT Like Luke said, pitch in $15-$20 each, bitches! Wtf. Way to make unnecessary drama for tv. This is why I don’t watch these shows in the first place.

[@SammyP038]

Also I’m pretty sure I see that EXACT dress in Walmart, Sears, or any business attire store for women. It may not be the same quality, but it would for sure be cheaper and last for the one day it’s needed

[@roselynmvm]

@@SammyP038 yeap. That dress for $310 is way too cheap looking for that price. You’ve seen it for less at Sears. And I’ve seen at Macy’s in the clearance section for a quarter of that price or less 😂 Literally manufactured drama for tv.

[@malloryg4251]

@@SammyP038 That's what I was thinking. $300 for that Windsor wannabe dress??? Hell no. It probably cost them $30 to make that thing, gimme a break.

[@whatisupbruh2738]

I really don’t know how they’re struggling to find a simple lace dress within the budget that was set. Like there are tons of department stores that sell all those dresses and more at a reasonable price and it’s strange to me that they’re making this woman feel bad for not being able to afford a 300+ dress🙄

[@sashkalembowitz203]

Honestly, this is exactly what I was thinking. Not sure about the States but here in the UK you can walk into most stores which sell womens clothing, and you can find lace dresses between 10£ and 70£, so about 14 to 95 bucks :/ I feel like wedding stores overprice really basic shit all the time and 80% of the time it doesn't even look good 😂😂

[@keirarush9505]

2nd story: He came to shut Octavia down. That's why he's paying for them. That's why he's there. She is probably a bridesmaidzilla. Brilliant way to handle that

[@bucketobviously5499]

he seems really cool

[@alzinahahmed803]

Love the Octavia girl's confidence, but sis you need to sit down and let the bride shine on HER day. Let the girls out any other time tho

[@wilsonpug1752]

When my sister got married, she actually made the dresses: pale pink taffeta with big poofy sleeves as required by the '80s aesthetic and perhaps a little bit of a nod to Princess Diana. My other sister bitched about being a gigantic cupcake, but I was so impressed. And they all got repurposed for another wedding so win-win.

[@min_nad]

Omg that sounds amazing!!

[@randomchica23]

I LOVE that!!

[@maddi6081]

Not luke thinking Georgia is “the bayou” 😂

[@erinwhipple4666]

That’s yanks for ya

[@lamidene8139]

It’s definitely bizarre because yeah we have Okefenokee swamp but I feel like Georgia’s much more known for the coastal colonial towns, Atlanta, and the mountains.

[@RealElongatedMuskrat]

I'm from the UK, I've always been under the assumption that the phrase "the bayou" was referring to the Louisiana kind of area? Whereas Georgia is more over towards the Carolinas?

[@lamidene8139]

@@RealElongatedMuskrat yep, you’re pretty much spot on

[@ReptilianTeaDrinker]

@@RealElongatedMuskrat I also thought that too. lol

[@teijaflink2226]

There are so many nice dresses in regular stores that fit a country wedding for much cheaper, 300 is insane for such a regular looking dress. It looked nice but nothing special about it. But I like that the bridesmades can keep on using it but they shouldn't expect a woman who lives in one bedroom appartment with her kids to be able to pay that much for a dress, the awful pressure and guilt she must have felt, specially as it's her best friends wedding. I really hate that that pressure was put on her but priviledged people just don't understand how it's to not be well of financially.

[@JamieRoseLincoln]

When he thinks a vintage lace cowgirl boot aesthetic is unique and never done before😆😆 literally every “southern vintage” wedding is that exact aesthetic

[@margaretsolomon5053]

It’s like thrifting in the south, it’s all the same shabby chic.

[@pinkpandamiranda]

"cow person". I love it.

[@alliway470]

Lisa already said she can't go over 200, wasn't right for the shopping assistant to put her on the spot and ask if she could afford the dress

[@thehannaawsome]

Do you think they intentionally pick 2 ugly dresses and 1 okay dress so that the one dress can really shine and look a lot better than it really is when compared to the 2 ugly dresses?

[@TackyHistorian]

The “antique” lace and cowboy boots is really popular with basic southern women who have phrases of “live, laugh, love” on their living rooms.

[@jacquelinelugo5518]

😂, omg I'm so glad that I grew out of my live laugh love phase of my life. But because I grew up in New Orleans there wasn't much cowboy boots around here.

[@emilyfanti9099]

Don’t tell Jerry but according to My Big Fat Greek Wedding, “the man is the head but the woman is the neck and she can turn the head anyway she wants”

[@CampbellStudio]

😂😂😂

[@Ishizu09]

As a Greek i approve! This is so true!

[@mmclennon]

YESSSSSSS!!!!!!!!

[@emmabruh]

This honestly is such an American ? thing, I’ve never been to a wedding in Europe where the bride actually forced the bridesmaids (if there even are ones) to wear dresses and also pay for them themselves

[@Lim0n41k]

yeah I also never heard of such thing anywhere besides USA

[@skinlesschickennugget2411]

Jes me neither. I m from central-europe and i was very bewildert by this cpncept of americans

[@collinea8300]

Same. I'm from western Europe and the only 'special' guests would be the two official witnesses to the wedding. I think an equivalent of the maids of honour somewhat exists here but those are little girls who carry the flowers, and they are very optional.

[@stormwright8300]

@@collinea8300 in the US, we call those flower girls. The maid of honour is usually the one who organizes the bachelorette party and, unfortunately, incurs the most work and cost

[@halloween482]

Lolol, so if you'd heard of this outside of the U.S then the concept would be more legitimate? I'm really confused by ppl being surprised by Americans having a different culture as if your culture doesn't also have things we don't have. Like what so bewildering about this?

[@bbgaana]

Tbh this is why I think bridesmaids should be allowed to pick their own dresses. Just give them a theme and a colour if you want and let them shop for themselves and in their own budget. If u r particular just ask to review their dresses before finalizing. Simple.

[@clairegee822]

I would choose because it's my wedding but I would pay

[@dikshabishtsugda8763]

Me laughing how westerners have to pay so much for bridesmaids dresses they'll wear once, then also realising I'm South Asian and I have obligation to buy a new dress everytime one of my third cousin gets married. 😂🤡

[@vanik1505]

But at least those dresses aren't ugly

[@nosound5903]

I got one churidaar at 15 which looks like a different colour under different light and have managed to wear it atleast once every wedding season and gotten the "You look great; I couldn't even recognize you" in it every single time but now it's gotten tighter in my 20s and I'm running out of the lights and I don't know how I'm gonna deal without it anymore 😞 (The dress was a shade of pink btw)

[@khuranapriyanka]

Gurl just steal a sari from your mum each time and you'll be set

[@dikshabishtsugda8763]

@@vanik1505 😂 true that

[@komal146]

That's why i stick to salwaar kameez or fusion styles. You can mix and match for other weddings and fusion dresses are good for normal day parties too.

[@moongem4489]

I wasn't expecting to see all that deep, dark blue and purple with the cowperson aesthetic. I was expecting blues that were closer to denim, or red, burnt orange, or browns. Anyone else?

[@mylitttleemilyjayne9]

Stock dresses. They all come in a wide array of colors. You can get all these dresses in multiple colors

[@moongem4489]

@@mylitttleemilyjayne9 ahh ok

[@teijaflink2226]

Same to me it's more flowers and pastels or like Little house on the prairie. Comfortable, flowy fabrics too but lace would fit.

[@bigsiskrishere]

Country weddings I've been to (which is a lot because all of my inlaws have cowgirl country weddings and most friends in my area do the same) have usually been a mint, pink, red, or sunflower yellow, and there's a jean jacket on top. Or they try to do another theme (such as winter, black tie, or beach theme) and shoehorn the boots in. 😂 The boots are always there. And burlap and white lace is passed from friend to friend at every wedding.

[@dixychickx123]

I just love how hes talking about a country wedding like a straight person talks about gay people. "Its not for me but there are all walks of life"

[@TheCOnassis]

I will never understand how someone can have a wedding and expect their wedding party to incur any cost whatsoever! If you can’t afford everything, then don’t have it. Have what you can afford.

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

That doesn't really make any sense though. You're asking people for help in organizing and creating the wedding. They can decline. If you could pay everything, then they're not your bridesmaids. They don't have to pay for the actual wedding but they're supposed to throw your bachelorette party and everything.

[@rachelneblett8215]

it’s very commonplace for the bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses! it’s important for the bride and bridesmaids to get on the same page financially beforehand for sure, but bridesmaids are 100% able to decline the position bc of finances.

[@romeoslover817]

Traditionally in many cultures, the bride’s family paid for everything except for corsages, many times the groom would pay for a honeymoon. Now, families come in different sizes and incomes, so bets are off.

[@rochelle178]

Unfortunately it's the norm here. Some may say "they can decline being a bridesmaid" but that's a lot easier said than done, due to social implications and hurt feelings etc. One should be able to support their friend without breaking the bank out of obligation... Bridesmaids are expected to pay for their own dresses, hair, makeup and accessories most of the time, and foot the bill for the bachelorette party, maybe even throw a Bridal Shower and pay up front costs for a Jack & Jill Party. Not to mention pitching in on doing DIY's for wedding decor and helping to arrange/schedule things for the ceremony if asked. And probably end up giving the couple a wedding gift too. There's travel (and possibly accommodations) for things like dress fittings, and then of course travel and accommodation for the rehearsal and wedding itself. Personally hoping I don't have the "honour" of being in too many wedding parties.

[@judeiemccormick]

@@rochelle178 Where I live, in the UK, it's commonplace for the bride to pay for the bridesmaids dresses.

[@elvirasalaverri8864]

The green Dress was made with "mikado", a type of silk (quite heavy and great texture). Great video!!! Loved the way the first bride respected her friend's budget.

[@blerdygal]

Was coming here to say that hahaha

[@Jess-bd6fq]

In the second half Brandon's jacket is giving me anime schoolboy 'gakuran' vibes I can't take it

[@Sarah-ll5hr]

was waiting for someone to point that out!

[@quinceyclouds3208]

whenever Luke mentions a brand or style or basically anything about fashion I nod my head and go “mhm” as if I know a single thing that he’s talking about

[@stephaniejacobs2281]

Love the groom being involved. I would want my wedding to be a reflection of my spouse and I, it is both of your day! It used to be the woman's day cos the woman got no choice in who she married and she was basically sold off by her father to a man she barely knew. In most places it is now a choice by 2 people who know it is what they want. Make the planning and the day reflect that.

[@Heedy770]

Could you PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do more coverage of historically significant fashion shows for important designers...i.e. Azzedine Alaia's shows, Jean Paul Gaultier shows, early 2000s Chalayan shows, Paco Rabanne show, Yohji Yamamoto shows, Gianni Versace shows, Issey Miyake shows, Tom Ford's Gucci shows, Marc Jacob's LV shows, Nicolas Ghesquiere for Balenciaga shows...Iconic pieces from the legends like Pierre Cardin & Cristobal Balenciaga...if not full review shows, then more like an overall "highlights" pieces of their careers..PLEASE!!

[@erin6320]

Ok well pink collarless jacket with the fake gold buttons…… pay for everyone then!!!

[@pritika5968]

When they knew that she couldn't afford the 300 dollar dress why did they try it in the first place. moreover they weren't even willing to chip in so loooool

[@wheeinthemood4190]

shout out to skill share for keeping luke’s lights on for like the past 2 years

[@hautelemode]

lol we really do stan skillshare!!

[@sveme5450]

do i care about wedding attire or think the dresses are especially fashionable? No. i do however enjoy a bride who actually communicates with the bridalparty and doesnt peddle unrealistic exoectations when it comes to bridesmaids dresses

[@juliannesmith4348]

As a Carolina southern, I can throw a little light on the Southeast aesthetic. Vintage lace is generally Southern, but the cowhand boots tend to be Southwest (Texas and over), while the other side of the Mississippi is definitely more sandal/espadrille/woven wedge type thing.

[@tiffanybaby13]

The husband really did not have horrible fashion sense, he picked three different styles to help jumpstart the process that didn't look horrible, I'm impressed!! Thumbs up!

[@laurenc4138]

This makes me so mad, I’ve offered to help pay for my friends other bridesmaids if anyone needed it and I barely know her other friends. Why are they making this woman feel like this? Like the woman bragging about being a DINK could’ve helped out with the $50-100 difference... good lord she really chose violence for this fitting. Stop bragging and making this woman feel sad, you just look trashy and jealous of her friendship with your sister. Edit: I hadn’t gotten to the Jerry part yet but yes groom! Pay for those dresses babyyy! That was super kind when he said he just wanted to make them happy, loved it

[@eringemini7091]

I say thank God its not the 80's anymore! I was the Maid of Honor in 2 weddings, & Bridesmaid in a 3rd wedding, and all 3 dresses were satin nightmares with massive poofy sleeves, donated all of three when the parties were over!

[@romeoslover817]

Picture a size 18 with G cups in a red station spaghetti strap number. HeeLs dyed to match red that hurt like hell and that I could not walk in well. Charity box as soon as I got home from the reception. Bride: You can wear it again on New Years Eve. No thanks, my sweats and t will be just fine watching the ball drop.

[@eringemini7091]

@@romeoslover817 😁

[@amwelty]

I jut wanna say, Luke - you are THE BEST! Your narration is fabulous.

[@sya286]

I feel like the “two income” family member is mean. Plus, that dress looks like it costs $80 at Macy’s.

[@laurenc4138]

I’ve been binging wedding stuff for the last 2 weeks in prep for my best friends wedding, so Luke thank you for your impeccable timing (and taste) ❤️

[@kathyboschen6719]

Literally raging here! That’s food in child’s mouth! Why are they making her feel that way!

[@katiegrace1027]

Mikado is a type of silk, she definitely didn't say avocado lol

[@Kasiarzynka]

I clicked as soon as the notification popped up and gotta say, the mix of talking fashion and genuinely positive "not fan of this but I realize that's how people live and what they like and I respect that, I'm happy for them" - haven't watched your channel for maybe a few weeks but this makes me so happy for no reason. We need more people like you in our society

[@lolzam4108]

The black and fuchsia dress reminded me of that one mini black dress lady wore on mean girls

[@rekhyt_in_the_tardis]

I prefer it when the bridesmaids are all wearing dresses that are different styles but the same colour. Keeps it cohesive but allows different body types to flatter themselves, and personalities to show. Also helps if some people have a more limited budget, and can mean the dress is more likely to be reworn as the maid actually likes it

[@DensieBaxter]

I love watching the bride shows. I feel like I’m watching them with you. I have watched them alone but it’s so much more fun watching with someone. Please keep making them. Oh and you are much nicer than I am at home

[@jessicaable5095]

I feel so sorry for that friend and no sympathy for the bride. She was saying how she couldn't ask her friend to go over budget but them went on to say that it's a shame she had to let her "perfect dress" slip away. The friend was already feeling SO bad about it. If it was such a perfect dress, then she could have chipped in for the extra 100. But no she just decided to sit back in self pity, letting her friend believe it's her fault when really it isn't.

[@missladymo]

Speaking of “joy” your videos bring me so much joy. You have really taken pains to educate us in fashion terminology without being patronizing and that’s what really sets you apart from other fashion forwards KZbinrs. I’m so glad I found you!

[@sweetbeachbeauty]

Currently a bridesmaid in 2 different weddings and I send them these videos and thank them for not making it difficult like this and for considering our budgets (also I appreciate how cute the dresses are that they chose for us). This makes me extra grateful for my friends during this wedding season haha

[@Rosebud0801]

I’m interested to know why Luke has a Nebraska shirt lol

[@nakedlauging]

Me too! I'm from Omaha lol

[@marekz7682]

I think it's a Raf Simon's Shirt.

[@nn6404]

Lady gaga moment

[@tunabarrett7384]

Because there's only three men that Luke is going to serve in his whole life.

[@marleyobrien12]

It's his favorite Bruce Dern Movie

[@mommabierman5168]

Oh Luke.....more of these please!! You have so much to work with, mixing fashion with drama! You make me smile the entire video!

[@katelynkaboom]

one of these dresses was definitely my prom dress and i feel honored to be roasted lol that being said, at 29 i can still fit in it and i think it looks pretty fire on so...oh well haha.

[@sweetestbeeb]

I'm engaged. And one thing that I will never understand is why the bride makes the bridesmaids pay for the dress? like this is your wedding and you get the final say no matter what so your bridesmaid might end up wearing something that they don't even like and you're going to make them pay for it? Make it make sense. I'd rather pay for everything myself and then just have them all give the dresses back to me and resell them

[@hollystiener16]

agreed

[@stormwright8300]

@@hollystiener16 I'd rather pay for them and make sure they chose something they could wear multiple times. So that way, I know I didn't waste my money and they are happy too

[@princesstruc2005]

20:54 Mikado is a type of silk that uses ancient Japanese silk processing techniques resulting in bright and luminescent fabric

[@nicolesavoie]

Exactly ! I came to the comments to see if anyone else knew what mikado material was :))

[@kaylenfreeman3862]

"is vintage lace and cowgirls boots a country aesthetic?" apparently he hasn't seen what mississippi moms put their kids in to take family pictures that they post on facebook also trust me it's never cute

[@springy9959]

I paid for my bridesmaid dresses and hair/makeup shoes everything. Its me asking them to celebrate my wedding day - I'm honouring them for being supportive in my life. I don't agree with people asking bridesmaids to pay. Bridesmaids/family and attendees pay for the bridal shower/hen do and bride covers everything else IMO. x

[@winterlynn1190]

My best friend is getting married this year and putting me (and the whole bridal party) in cowboy boots. Not my thing, but it’s her day so I’m not about to argue. Our dresses are floor length anyway and her venue is an old barn with rickety floor boards so I’m not too bothered about it 😂

[@RachelAnnPotter]

Floor-length dress and cowboy boots?? 😬

[@melodybales2038]

I'm currently a bridesmaid so I'm relieving any bridezilla related stress through binging these videos. Thaaannnksssss

[@elizabethstewart4578]

LOL THE EXTRA FABRIC HE WAS TALKING ABOUT AT 12:30 I literally think is the mic pack

[@Jettachan]

i was hoping you'd make another video on bridesmaid dresses! i'm so happy

[@valeriyadedushkevich4308]

From Nebraska here, the shirt was the last thing I expected, but love it

[@Aubz47]

Former bridal stylist here, just throwing this out for future reference. Most of these dresses come in multiple colors so they are focusing on style and they would order it in the color the bride wants for the wedding! Love your commentary!

[@machazychaz]

Bride: i love both dresses equally and cant decide Groom: Well how about the cheaper one if its no difference to you? Bride: No.

[@FreshSalad645]

When I watch these, I'm reminded that I have been in multiple bridal party (bridesmaid/maid of honor) and every time... brides where chill AF. Never had to wear an ugly dress I couldn't afford !

[@hallowedbethymelancholy8299]

I paid for my MoH & BM dresses. I didn't realize it was standard to make them pay for it. It felt wrong to make my friends pay for something they were going to wear once that they didn't even get to pick.

[@potatotomato0606]

my youtube recommended has been nothing but say yes to the dress videos recently and i've really been craving a haute le mode reaction yayyyyyyyyyy this made my day

[@ariel4742]

I don't expect my bridesmaids to pay more than $50 lol. Of course we're all in our early 20s, but you can find dresses on shein for $20 🤷🏻‍♀️ I couldn't imagine asking them to spend over $100 😬

[@skinlesschickennugget2411]

I got mine for 35 bucks from the thriftshop. The people often only wear their dresses one time? Two Times?? Better for the enviroment, and most of the time cheaper

[@luciel234]

i was in such a bad place when this video popped up in my recommended, it seemed like everything in my life was falling apart, but your videos always help me relax and laugh despite everything that's going on. thank you

[@mathildedlihtam382]

Cowgirl boots do extend sartorially into the Bayou, even if not practically. Side note: let's examine the classism that plays into the ridicule of traditional rural/country/southern aesthetics!

[@sarahc8862]

Yes!

[@missmelodies52]

Thank you! If people wear stuff like that ironically it’s cool but not when those who originated the look wear it

[@melz6625]

don’t get the ridicule. Wouldn’t be my choice just because it really shortens the legs optically.

[@kellyriddell5014]

I agree that there's classism involved in the distaste for Southern styles and habits and such. It's easy to write off anyone and anything Southern as uneducated or ignorant and no one really questions why we think those things or how regions became poor and disadvantaged to get that association. As I'm sure you could guess, I'm a Southerner who loves rural life and most things about living here. But I'm also trying hard to keep an open mind to the fact that a lot of things are genuinely just preference and I probably wouldn't like a lot of things this KZbin's loves :) And that's okay too.

[@mathildedlihtam382]

@@kellyriddell5014 As another Southerner, I totally understand that sometimes things boil down to preference rather than mere prejudice. But by and large, people see Southern aesthetics as trashy, or a gimmick or, dare I say, "camp" rather than a part of a real culture. I'm not saying that Luke has to LIKE cowboy boots! Lol. I just think it should be acknowledged to the audience that laughing at a bride for having her bridesmaids wear cowboy boots is NOT a joke... harkening back to Iman on Project Runway: it's a *legitimate look.* And it deserves all the same careful critique and consideration as any other aesthetic from any other culture.

[@paigecarissa9526]

omg first of all, loved this. You need to react to an episode of what not to wear, that was my show.

[@SP-wm8cu]

I can't imagine picking a dress and then making your bridesmaids pay for it. In my culture we don't have the concept of bridesmaids, but we do buy outfits for all our close relatives who are attending the wedding.

[@MiyaMam948]

Joy, Octavia, and their friends have GORGEOUS skin oh my God it's GLOWING

[@GrayAtNight]

Omg YES I love this series of your videos!!

[@LaynieFingers]

You're absolutely right... When I got married, my maid of honor couldn't afford the dress I wanted, so I bought it for her. I wasn't worried about it- having her in my wedding was important to me, so I made it happen. And with 6 people in the bridal party it would be like $20 for people to chip in and make it happen.

[@oliviac295]

I love how the bride said she was going for a black dress, but picked the grey one. I know it probably wasn't like that, but it seemed like she just picked it because her fiance picked the black one😂

[@RachaelTheRed]

The grey dress is just a sample. The floor samples are usually only available in 1 or 2 colors and a couple of sizes just so you can pick the cut and fabric. From there they usually make the dresses to fit the bridesmaids in the color you want.

[@oliviac295]

@@RachaelTheRed ah ok that makes sense :)

[@cattincandy2576]

I just love your commentary, I learn so much about fashion and I love snickering at your comments. 10/10

[@puurplephoto]

Bridesmaid dresses are expensive. I wish US would adopt the idea of renting bridesmaid dresses (even wedding dresses) vs buying them like a lot of other countries do. 🤔

[@racheljackson4144]

I appreciate you rocking the Nebraska shirt in honor of how well they did in their series against Arkansas at the NCAA baseball regionals. They may not have won, but it was a good showing.

[@gigitastic90]

I'm 30 and whenever I hear people my age or younger are getting married I still feel like "Oh no! A child bride situation!". Fully aware I am insane

[@samantha-uw3ky]

the black one jerry picked out is cute.