Have We Gone Too Far?: The Male Gaze, Pick Me’s & People Pleasing ft. Adella Afadi

When it comes to social movements, humans tend to swing from one extreme to another. Today we sit down with our good sis Adella Afadi to ask the question, have we gone too far with some of our responses to internet trends and conversations on the male gaze, being a ‘pick me’ and recovering from people pleasing?
💌 Introducing our guest
Adella Afadi is a social commentator, KZbinr and host, with a unique skill of bringing deep, nuanced and fun conversations and theories to the internet.
KZbin: / @adellaafadi
Instagram: / adellaafadi
TikTok: / adellaafadi
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Welcome to the conversation with Adella Afadi
03:02 Asking Your Questions: Marriage, Celibacy & Self-discovery
13:25 Finding Balance: The Male Gaze, Pick Me’s & People Pleasing
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[@lastnamebase]

Such a lovely convo! It also reminded me of how often times Christian women want a guy who knows God but not per se a man of God because of the lack of roughness and the "cringe".

[@tomysisters]

Everyday 'Christian men with edge' 😭 how about the edge of the CROSS!!!

[@ChatowaMuzumara-dr7iw]

🤣🤣

[@Valenciaatmako]

Look who walked in 😂❤

[@ibimax-harry]

This was such a wholesome episode. The chat about the male gaze was great but the mutual encouragement at the end took everything to another level. I feel like I eavesdropped on a great conversation between two great women! Thank you so much for sharing!

[@dw1533]

Adella inspires me, and your relationship with your husband inspires to look for something worthy and worthwhile. Hope I'll find it someday. Thank you for the grace God's given you to be you. Thank you for being you.

[@gl0hen]

I WAS SO HAPPY WHEN RENEE SNUCK INTO FRAME!!!!!!

[@jenniferavila2703]

Literally!

[@aliceshambamuto3100]

Lovely conversation. When Adella was talking about the hate towards women who hv reached an 'untouchable', what came to my mind as a psychologist is a concept called relational aggression. I think it can helps us understand why we end up being that way. But thoroughly enjoyed listening to you young ladies ❤ Courtney love you mucho ❤❤❤

[@Cryonic7740]

omg, my two favorite channels coming together!? This feels like when you used to watch Disney and your fav character from one show features in an episode in another show ❤❤ edit to add how funny it is Courtney also said this!

[@tomysisters]

Great minds think ALIKE ❤❤

[@Rareisbeautiful]

So funny and loved the conversation ❤

[@apollosmartyn]

Great work hope to collaborate with you on KZbin one day ❤❤❤Namibia 🇳🇦

[@mykeajohnson3060]

My favs! ❤️❤️❤️

[@rochellea7042]

I enjoyed this episode soo much. I came across both of your accounts around the same time at the beginning of the pandemic in 2020. This collaboration was dueeeeee. Much luv

[@itumelenglelosa4627]

My faves 🥰❤️

[@famat.6447]

Haaaaa love Adella so much ! Excited for this one 🥳🥳

[@tomysisters]

Haha we love her too! Hope you enjoyed❤

[@rochelle1199]

Excited for this one!! Love Adella

[@cosmiccrush22]

Same she's a gem, they all are, I follow both ❤️

[@rochelle1199]

@@cosmiccrush22 me too xx

[@jenniferavila2703]

I missed Renee. Idk, Adella. Obviously I’ve been under a rock. It’s very nice to meet her. I enjoyed everything about this. I’ve never really thought about the male gaze 🤔 thank you

[@tanyciagrace9556]

Love the guest's openness! Courtney, hopefully the guest you've had on will help you to be vulnerable about yourself on this channel about how you perceive yourself, your thoughts on the male gaze and your celibacy journey. You've never shared. Great conversation today girlies!

[@tomysisters]

Hey sis! Thank you for your thoughts and glad you enjoyed the episode 🥰 we tend to allow the guest a bit more space to share their thoughts - esp because Courts already has so much content out on her own journey on the male gaze, desirability, and celibacy and in past TMS episodes. Good to know a reiteration may be needed ❤️

[@gloriakanani1026]

Love Adel’s, she is so pretty and funny❤❤❤❤❤

[@tomysisters]

Isn't she just the best!!! ❤❤

[@Cairo21]

I get what Adella is talking about people hating on influencers once they get to a certain level and I have seen it happen to those influencers she named, its so vile.

[@tomysisters]

It can be so disillusioning 🫣

[@ChiChiorWura]

OMG It’s Adellaaa

[@jae-annedanae4512]

Yesss from Jamaica, living in the US now, I definitely followed her as Cornflakesnosugar 😂

[@aakshi.]

YOOOOO THE TMS JUMPER ON RENEE!!! 😮😮😮😮😮❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@tomysisters]

GREAT SPOT 🥰🥰🥰🥰👀👀👀👀👀👀

[@aakshi.]

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[@samiardias]

I noticed it too!!!

[@ntamieborty]

When I am rich, I am rich!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Sincerelyprisca]

The collaboration I didn’t know I needed to see. Love me some Adelle 🫶🏾🙏🏾.