The Single Biggest Point of Failure In A Man's Life | Scott Galloway X Rich Roll Podcast

Rich sits down with Scott Galloway, NYU professor, best-selling author, serial entrepreneur, and podcaster, to talk about the multifaceted challenges facing young men, advocating embracing humility, emotional intelligence, education, support, and more. To read more about Scott and peruse the full show notes, go here👉🏾bit.ly/richroll826
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00:00:00 Intro
00:02:01 Challenges Faced By Young Men
00:04:06 Lack Of Empathy For Young Men
00:05:43 Factors Affecting Young Men
00:09:51 Impact Of Technology On Young Men
00:11:51 Winner-Take-Most Economy
00:13:35 Mission And Personal Experience
00:14:56 Impact Of Education And Support
00:16:19 The Importance Of Male Role Models
00:17:11 Challenges Faced By Young Men
00:18:49 The Decline Of Mentorship And Community Programs
00:20:50 Economic Challenges For Young People
00:22:48 The Impact Of Government Policies On Wealth Transfer
00:25:47 The Effect Of Economic Opportunities On Young People
00:28:42 Sponsor Break
00:30:06 Reforming Higher Education Institutions
00:33:11 Elite University Hiring
00:34:15 Professional Track Jobs
00:35:50 Masculinity And Fitness
00:39:06 Influence And Service
00:41:01 Defining Masculinity
00:44:36 Surplus Value And Purpose
00:46:43 Meaningful Work
00:48:30 Vulnerability And Emotions
00:50:19 Fear And Living In The Moment
00:52:26 Life-Changing Experiences
00:55:45 Overcoming Addiction And Rebuilding Life
00:58:09 Surrender And Seeking Help
00:59:40 Faith And Spirituality
01:03:53 Changing Relationship With Alcohol
01:04:35 Alcohol-Free Lifestyle Movement
01:05:56 The Algebra Of Wealth
01:06:24 Career Advice And Economic Security
01:10:57 Investment And Time
01:12:41 Developing A Savings Muscle
01:16:04 Midlife Career And Financial Advice
01:19:09 The Struggle Of Economic Security
01:20:02 The Myth Of Balance And Unrealistic Expectations
01:21:51 The Benefits Of Working Hard And Testing Limits
01:24:44 Exploring New Opportunities And Self-Crafting
01:26:55 The Importance Of Seeking Help And Mentorship
01:30:52 The Loneliness Epidemic And Its Potential Threats
01:35:05 Detachment From Technology
01:36:25 Positive Change In Individuals
01:36:51 Challenges In Influencing Young Men
01:37:39 Tactical Lessons For Young Men
01:40:15 Parental Influence And Role Modeling
01:44:00 Podcasting Landscape
01:48:59 Podcasting And Media Landscape
01:49:53 Acknowledging Impact And Mentorship
01:50:37 Reflection On Blessings And Success
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[@richroll]

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[@hexadecimal5236]

If we have another civil war, there won't be anything civil about it. They've been telling a generation of men they're subhuman trash for a decade, and they are going to ask these same men for mercy. Just like the movie civil war showed, I doubt mercy will be shown on any side, and I fully expect either mass exiles or mass purges to occur. Lefties cannot be reasoned with and the far right sees that and is acknowledging that reality. The central government is delegitimizing voting, which shows both sides that the only way to express is thru force. They are using the judiciary for political purposes which delegitimizes it. They are using the US Dollar as a weapon which had delegitimized it even to US allies such as India who is now trading in Yuan, Rupees and Ruble, not dollars. They're destroying every legacy system they have and acting like it's business as usual and acting like they're smart than everyone else. I have a Masters in Econ and I cannot believe the things they are doing. The US Government is smashing the windows in it's own house, slashing the tires on it's own car, ripping out the electrical wiring in it's own walls, and acting like it's normal. They haven't started pouring gasoline around the place yet, but I fully expect them to soon and then they'll start playing with matches. They're pushing diversity in major corporations qhich is destroying their productivity and marketing. Hollywood is pushing wokeness which is destroying the US propaganda machine. Other countries look at Hollywood like it's a joke as do American citizens. Evey system is breaking. US recruiting is at the lowest level it has ever been and falling.

[@guillaumefloatin91]

The irony of it is that podcast is sponsored with " the plunge " which give me a lot of shame because I can not afford it and feel like I am not cool. ps : I am being ironic because I love Richroll podcast... But I am still a broken man :-)

[@wangcheng5188]

A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient

[@paulinebricks3441]

There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without him, I love him so much. wish I can get him back I can do anything to have him back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

[@wangcheng5188]

Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Shelly renee white

[@paulinebricks3441]

This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks

[@wangcheng5188]

You wont regret it

[@neomacchio4692]

Did you have to pander to her and give up your hobbies and friends to make it work? Did you have to work less? Women are interminably “not happy.” They’ll always find something to say you need to change. Guys, don’t do it. Stand your ground on being who she fell in love with. You both will be better off whether it works out or not.

[@jlive1975]

Every man should listen to this regardless of age. I deeply appreciated this conversation. We need more of this.

[@oraz.]

This is feminist rhetoric being slightly rebranded to uncritical people/

[@udithawijeratne7361]

@@oraz. would you like to give more info on your comment?

[@rbz60]

both men and women, the problem is both lack eachothers understanding.

[@leoneldelarosaibarria]

It's so rare to come across individuals as accomplished as Prof. G that are willing to talk about their flaws, share their failures and spread the wisdom in the hard lessons learned throughout their life and that they do it genuinely for the betterment of society. Typically their egos get in the way. I appreciate him and his message so much. I try to distill as much as I can to my benefit raising two young boys in this challenging environment.

[@guru47pi]

My favorite part is his acknowledging the advantages he got that are now gone. He's not doing what most successful people try to convince themselves and others 'i did it all by myself' and telling the truth. He got cheap, accessible college. He got an affordable housing market, doors opened bc he's a white man. He gets massive tax breaks. And he's saying how we can fix it

[@kvk1]

I don't think I've listened a more candid, stone cold truth filled conversation around this subject. This episode needs to be shown in schools or something.

[@painunending4610]

If they showed me this at school I'd hurl a chair at my teacher lmao

[@tex959]

Completely agree that this conversation is important. I'm really hoping that our collective societies can course correct in a more positive direction. I don't know how that might happen but spreading this information is a good start.

[@riumudamc4686]

Go to a developing nation and people are hooking up like they did in the US 100 years ago. These conversations should focus more on the fact that people in the most technologically and economically advanced societies simply have less and less of a reason to have children. They are needed less and less for survival.

[@mrlorikeetmp3]

If only school would show the youth the issues men and women are facing. But no they are spending all that time on non binary people and trans people.

[@mizzounyc]

It's so, so good. Thank you, Rich for having this conversation.

[@j.phinnaeusmorgan7125]

Scott is a champion of not just young men but of young women. Everyone has a stake in this conversation.

[@shanelaird9032]

Bravo, well said 👍

[@painunending4610]

Is he a champion for young men tho? Is he really?

[@tonyoramos1]

@@painunending4610he has no solutions that I’ve heard yet. Richard Reeves says we should start men in school later but until we have an Ozempic for men that makes you taller and richer, I think this problem will persist

[@shanelaird9032]

@@painunending4610 I'd say yes

[@cinemapigeon4898]

@@painunending4610 Better than Andrew "sign up for my university to online dropship" Tate.

[@sabastianswika-post1819]

This guy is hitting the nail on the head with so many topics. I’m 34, navy veteran, college graduate. I really felt I was struggling so much and had every type of vice you can imagine up until my thirties. Now I cleaned myself up, I have a decent job and very little debt but it still always feels like there’s that cloud hanging over me.

[@myronschabe]

Regarding the could...I highly recommend IFS therapy/paradigm...there is an episode on this channel about it...where don't have to be controlled by these clouds...you are inherently worthy. Good on ya!

[@tripleplatinumllc]

Same age same feeling brother we gotta be strong 💪🏻

[@ph318]

Better give your nation away to immigrants, in cel! As if people only oppose many of these things for the reasons he's stated. He's assigning cause without a true understanding of the world and society.

[@bakeraus]

I hear you brother, the best thing is just keep doing your thing. Stay focused on yourself and your health. Be a gentlemen to others and care for yourself

[@mitrahispana4119]

Thank you for your service 🙏🏼 I think it shows strength to admit challenges but also work hard to address them

[@Nick-rr3pv]

I'm turning 50 this June. When I was 43 I left good paying job in my country and moved from Europe to China. When I was 46 I found my new career and mastered it and in return it gave me all the freedom I wanted. Financial and physical. No office, no timezone, no bosses, no clients. To all you young guys out there, keep on fighting. Life is tough but can be beautiful. And it is constant struggle. It never gets easier. You gotta keep on grinding. Work on yourself. Workout, find some passion, create a business. Push yourself. And when you think nothing is going your way light will appear and you will break through. Don't give up on yourself even if everyone has given up on you. Take chances, don't waste time and do not blame others. You have the keys to your destiny.

[@manilabroker2672]

Great story! What's that new career, I wonder?

[@treygraphicsfte6747]

Did you stay in China with your new career? Do you enjoy China more than Europe

[@Nick-rr3pv]

@@treygraphicsfte6747 No, I was there in 2016 for a month working on a freelance project. It was weird experience and I was just waiting to leave but funny thing happened when I was leaving. On the airport I got a gut feeling telling me that this wasn't an experience I hoped for and why don't I try to come back and find a job there. I gave it a thought when I came back home and said why not. 6 months later I found an ad on LinekedIn and I applied and out of some 50 people I got the job. Moved there in July 2017. Was working as a creative director in media company. First 4 years until 2020 were fabulous. I had great friends and we had so much fun. Then covid came and by accident I watched a documentary about bitcoin. Decided to invest some 5kUSD. That was the first time I got introduced to trading financial assets. Instantly fell in love with it. Then in one day I lost all that money because I didn't know what I was doing. Then the journey of learning started and it took me 3 years to figure it out. I do not trade bitcoin anymore. I trade mostly forex. I am still in China but will leave end of this year. Plan to open my own prop trading firm in Dubai. Low taxes. China was fun but it changed. Not so fun anymore. Much less foreigners than before. It was huge life experience. Thankful for it but time to move on.

[@Nick-rr3pv]

​@@treygraphicsfte6747 No. I worked as creative director in media company. I was a designer for 25 years. I am still in China but will leave by the end of the year. My first 4 years here were a blast. Fabulous experience. I had great friends and it was lots of fun. Then covid came and all of them went home. Lots of foreigners left and situation in general changed. It's not fun anymore. But it was a lifetime experience. I cannot say I liked it more than back home but I did like it. I like my country. Life is easier back home. China is fun to live for some time but it is hard to settle down. There is no perfect country of perfect society. Everything has its positives and negatives.

[@matthewcaldwell8100]

Dude, honestly, f$ck off. We have been lectured our entire lives about how life is a struggle by people who have actively made things worse for everyone and count their luck as achievement. It's not whining to want a better world or expect the people who lead to contribute to it.

[@joeladams8506]

I joined the military right out of high school. Served for four years in 3rd Ranger Battalion. Got out, went to school at Colorado State University. Dropped out after half a semester and proceeded to blow all of my money on a joy ride around the US for a couple months. I remember looking down at my bank account one day and realizing I had about one more month of partying before the show ended. I recognized I basically had no money, I had some cool stories from the army and a few good friends, and due to my background in the infantry I had essentially no marketable skills, employment opportunities or dating prospects. At that moment I was faced with a choice - go back to school, which I hated the sound of, or rejoin the army and crawl back to my unit with my tail between my legs, which I hated the sound of even more. So I went back to school. I’m a year away from graduating now with a specialization in regenerative agriculture and permaculture design and I’m planning on attending a Master’s level program for landscape architecture in the fall of 2025. The journey from that moment of realization to now has been the most challenging, yet equally rewarding experience of my life. And everything these two are saying is true fellas. Once you get your shit together and have a vision for your life (that’s the big one - know where you’re going, and why) you will be tripping over high quality women. It’s sort of a sad state of affairs that simply having your shit together puts you in the top 10% of young men, but that’s where we are. There’s literally no excuses that are worth listening to. Get in shape, map out a vision for your life, and make meaningful progress towards your goals. If you want to go a step further find a way to connect with a higher power, get sober, and find a sense of purpose in service to the world. You’re only alive for 100 years at best. That means you have roughly 80 years to make the world as beautiful as possible for your children and grandchildren. The playbook for success right now is exceedingly simple, the hard part is simply making the choice to change your life and following through with that choice through your free will decisions everyday.

[@willzinc6137]

Well said!

[@kvk1]

Good luck with the graduation amigo, and graduate school!

[@sabastianswika-post1819]

I followed nearly the same path as you. Life was hard. I changed my life, outlook, goals, and vision and now life is much, much easier.

[@claudiagolden8348]

Well done you for taking accountability for the life you are creating

[@brianmeen2158]

I don’t know what to say to guys that have completely talked themselves out of even trying to talk to women or date .. there are entire channels aimed at talking about how terrible everything is for young men . I see more guys reaching for victimhood and that is disturbing

[@francoutah]

Thank you, gentlemen. As a divorced and childless Gen X man, I see my purpose on this planet is to help the younger people navigate this adventure and survive - hopefully thrive as well. That is why I am proud to teach at a community college. I've had many careers but most of them were selfish pursuits that were soulless. I've learned exponentially more from tragedies and failures than any successes. It has given me wisdom that has no value unless I share it. The young people who show up to learn at a community college need adults like us more than ever. For many of my students, I am one of the only truly gritty men in their lives. I don't just talk about service, I live it. I sacrifice daily to serve broke, young adults to the best of my ability. I take my roll very seriously and the thoughts you both share help me find clarity and to not feel so alone. Your honest heartfelt insights gave me a good boost on this sunny spring Saturday in 2024.

[@conflictionated387]

Such a relatable comment. I'm also a childless Gen X professor at a very working-class university. A handful of lovely long-term monogamous relationships somehow never led to making my own family. I used to think of teaching as a paycheck and way to fund my creative work. Now, I regard it more as a calling to serve, particularly when young people become ever more lost.

[@BruderAdrian]

As a Zillennial, thank you! Although few men are courageous and selfless enough to take on the responsibility you have. I can equally say that I remember a few men & women who were my teachers and saw I needed guidance. Particularly a teacher who would buy me comic's in exchange for the completion of my coursework and good grades on tests. During that period of my life at home my parents fought all the time and my Dad wouldn't give me the time of day so I could tell him about what I learned at school. My macho Dad was also an alcoholic. Never once did anyone take interest in my proper development as a kid. Except for a few people. I learned almost everything myself, how to shave, ride a bike, swim, read, etc... into adulthood. it was because of those few people that I learned I was capable, capable enough to overcome challenges & learning obstacles and achieve my goals. Not going to lie though, most gen X males were macho - toxic masculinity type kind of men throughout my life like I remember this one college chemistry teacher who gaslighted me in front of the whole class. When I would raise my hand and asked questions. 1 time I asked about methane being a greenhouse gas and affecting the climate potentially. I found out He didn't like me and would put me down by lying to me and telling me Ihe didn't know what I was talking about and it didn't exist. He was gaslighting me at 19 and he was in his mid 40s. At the time I thought it was because I ask too many questions but now That I'm older in my late twenties. I realize it's because, I didn't fit his ideal of how a young man is supposed to be or look like and it threatened his ego. So he had to put me down and he didn't care if it was the expense of my education. Which was sad because he should have not been a professor holding a PHD & use it to feed his ego. It's crazy because he would say there's no such thing as stupid questions except for when I asked them. Please talk to other men your age. Toxic masculinity is a huge problem.

[@myronschabe]

Right on! in many ways. Yeah we used to tribal, nowadays the fierce individualism is revealing its cracks.

[@mercedesb2299]

@@BruderAdrian There was a major shift in personality style between Gen X and Millenials. I am not saying it is right but a lot of what Millenials take as Gen X being mean or disliking them is just the way Gen X, men in particular, talk,. I am at the younger edge of Gen X and I had older Gen X and Boomers as college professors and they were all like that at the beginning of every semester. They were pushing your buttons, trying to push you out of the childhood high school mindset. They were always much nicer and more like friends by the end of the semester when the class that had started out as 60 - 70 was whittled down to ~15 students. That's why they did it. They knew that 3/4 of the class was going to say it was too hard and quit. Pushing on you to see if you'll stand up for yourself is just a Boomer & Gen X personality trait. They really aren't doing it out of malice but I get it that they should recognize that the generations don't behave the same...well to be fair, Gen Z really doesn't have any qualms about standing up, but again different generations. I stopped arguing with my Gen Z daughter when she was around 17 because she is far more ruthless than I am.

[@BruderAdrian]

@@mercedesb2299 thanks I appreciate your insight. Perhaps you're right although I won't lie I pushed back too lol He ran a study with students in Organic Chem and I was the only one in General Chemistry for stem majors that participated in the vape juice study lol Just to annoy him more or so I thought. Haha with what you said in mind it makes me think that perhaps he played me right into being more involved somehow. Interesting 🤔 perspective.

[@richroll]

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[@WealdWold]

I'm a 29 year old guy who is just now finally starting to get his life together and, for what its worth, one of the biggest stumbling blocks in my life has been the push for everyone to go to college. I'm not an academic. That was never going to be my thing, and my grades reflected that. My guidance counselors let me slip through the cracks because apparently if I wasn't gonna be able to go to university and get my Bachelor's or something, I was a waste of time. I'm taking classes and trying to get into a union and pick up a trade and, honestly, I'm kind of in mourning for all those wasted years, and also worried about the fact that I'm starting so behind. I just try to stay grateful that I found a path forward now and not in 10 or 20 years, but its crazy how quick society is to throw you away as a man. None of the girls I hung around with in high school, who had grades just as bad if not worse than mine, went to their counselor and got hit with a shrug and were told, "I dunno. Try community college, I guess, and see what you can do from there."

[@bootstrapstylerich]

It's guys like you and woman too - you've got to get out and vote for local officials, local prosecutors as well as Governmental officials at BOTH the state and federal level!

[@betawolfhd]

I'm in a similar spot myself

[@johnd8596]

I'm 31 and feel the same. I'm currently working as a mailman for the post office. Women are repelled by the uniform. It just screams loser. I need a new job but at my age getting into the trades is harder.

[@realjoedee]

Banning access to all social media for those under 25 would be the best thing in history. Also banning all p***. You do those two things and this country with thrive.

[@Brian-vk1hm]

So China

[@NickyDiamond44]

Social media is extremely unhealthy for adults as well.

[@thegratefulsteve]

Banning? Authoritarian much? Not the solution mate. Perhaps holding social media companies liable for doing nothing to control the negative health effects of there products is a more suitable solution.

[@jasonolinger7585]

Forget China, you are playing in to politics and talking points. Just because one country does something another way doesn’t mean it’s wrong.

[@mikemike2750]

I grew up in a poor hood with plenty of drugs and some violence. I’m a chemist in my 40s with a bachelor in engineering and happy life experiences. From my perspective, this is the key… -good parents -curiosity for science and learning -elementary school Elementary school will define the rest of your life. If the kid is interested in learning and his friends are relatively good, he’s 80% there. The rest will just follow.

[@jspeed04]

Scott is truly a one of one. It's rare that you have a successful person who isn't afraid to admit that alongside their lust for working hard, that fortune, good luck, "blessings", timing, etc. have also played a pivotal role in helping them to attain their status. Scott is a role model that many of us should aspire to emulate and be more like. We all have to acknowledge the people who are not in our circles, not in our bubbles, and speak up for those of whom don't have a voice because we live in a society, and society breaks down when inequality persists indefinitely.

[@thru_and_thru]

Yeah I appreciate his humility here. So many wealthy successful people have a sort of God complex around how they view their achievements. There is a grossly inflated sense of superiority around their abilities and very few admit that a large part of their success was plain old luck. We all need luck in life and luck takes many forms. Of course their hard work and skills should not be overlooked but there is always more to it that just that. If everybody who was hard working and talented got rich there would be nowhere near the level of wealth disparity in the world.

[@adamthornton9117]

I’m sure Scott is quietly thinking to himself… “look at this son of a bitch… with all his beautiful hair”

[@certifiedday1]

This is the most powerful and accurate speech on the state of the country that I have heard in years

[@BodyByBenSLC]

As I was listening to this on 4/25/3024 and I gotta call from Anchorage Alaska P.D. My brother's body was found under a bridge. He was a lost soul, alcoholic, homeless, in and out of jail, baby mommas all over the place. Our dad was around did the best he knew how. He was the guy they are talking about, just no direction, no purpose. I don't know if society could have changed him but maybe.

[@anandamonge1756]

My condolences to you and your family.

[@toddlloyd8495]

Very sorry for your loss. Hopefully you sharing your story can inspire someone else to avoid this terrible outcome.

[@mikeborrelli193]

Biologically, evolution wise, your brother was a far more successful man than you are.. in another 50 to 60 years you'll both be dead, but he spread far more of his genetic material throughout the world than you did and will live on in far more people.

[@lesterdiamond6190]

As a late-boomer, born 1963, I compare my life to what these young guys are going through and the contrast is shocking. I can hardly believe how easy it's been and how much fun I've had, and I'm just a regular guy. Nothing special.

[@Kevin-kj5th]

Yea it's kind of like the Great Depression today for men in multiple ways if your young. If your average in salary and everything else your screwed today. Only thing to do is to try to be great or quit. And quitting a not really an option once you realize where it leads

[@lesterdiamond6190]

@@Kevin-kj5th I've had 35 solid years of hunting, fishing, camping trips, road trips... just a blast. I'm at the point where I can just sit in my back yard and feel like I'm not missing anything.

[@betawolfhd]

​@@lesterdiamond6190I've had none of that, but I find it all so hopeless that I do the same but at a table in my apartment.

[@lesterdiamond6190]

@@betawolfhd I'm sorry to hear that brother.

[@2011hwalker]

White male boomers had an amazing ride as adults in the US from 1980-2000. Its a very, very different world for young men these days.

[@rgomoffat]

These two should do a series. Their comments on podcast advertisers is honest and informative.

[@pjkaup]

I’ve listened to hundreds of riches podcasts over the years and this one is an instant top 10. Solid start to finish.

[@thomasmainecoon]

What a great podcast, and something we need to hear more about. I'm 45 and just got divorced for the 2nd time a week ago. I made some bad choices, and my partner had/has her own things going on, but I'm 100% in the boat of feeling like a failure and not having a ton of hope. I've worked my whole life, from 15 till now, but I didn't make great educational choices nor financial decisions. I'm not a fuckup, in that I don't get arrested, no major societal issues, I'm tall, considered good-looking (though I have trouble feeling/saying it), but I'm not good material on paper. Do I have another 30+ years of this ahead of me? Sometimes I hope not, and other times I think sure, I got this. I may not be your typical disillusioned male, but I am indeed disillusioned. Life is fucking hard, man. I love hearing good, positive, sensible voices like these two, so thank you to them.

[@Matanumi]

You have money and a career. Its not that bad for you. Don't male dumb romantic partner choices again

[@thomasmainecoon]

@@Matanumi thats good advice. Responding negatively to anyone's comments, especially a stranger, has always struck me as odd. Good on you.

[@rid.h.tom.4296]

As the other person noted, you don’t have it that bad. I am slightly older than you and have gone through my own insecurities as such. What I would say though is that focus on you. Meaning, set some fitness goals and start doing it consistently. Preferably not all by yourself, but join some classes etc.. If you do this, it won’t be long before your outlook sharpens up as you start feeling better and more accomplished. Finding another relationship gets a lot easier, and dare I say you you will have a better chance to find the right person too. Good luck! Life is what we make out of it.

[@thomasmainecoon]

@rid.h.tom.4296 I understand what you're saying. Perhaps my comment is being taken differently than intended. I am physically fit and quite active. I do have a good job, a roof, etc. I guess that maybe I was being too honest in stating how I was feeling and what my current life looks like. I appreciate that your comments are intended to help versus shit on. I was voicing my feelings much as one might in an AA meeting where you're not typically going to get someone telling you what to do, etc. But rather by you, in this case me, voicing your problems, fears, etc you're helping others. Again, perhaps I was just being too honest in a forum that isn't meant for it. Thank you for being positive though!

[@jamesdean5095]

@@thomasmainecoon Ignore them, you weren't crying poor. The statement "you don't have it that bad" is a pretty weird take on someone just sharing where they're at and how they feel, especially in the midst of a major life shake up like where you're at. Good on you for sharing your current experience and thanking the generous men in this discussion. I note you have many more likes on your comment than commenters who chose to minimise your experience for no apparent reason.

[@blairmil.1712]

The level of admiration, intellectual exchange, vulnerability and mutual respect is something to be lauded here. One of many brilliant conversations helmed by Rich. Thank you gentlemen for making the time to share this dialogue. Peace and more peace.

[@EntertaningAmerica]

The moment you stop caring about other’s opinions (not people, but how/what they think of you), the quicker you realize what’s important and how to pursue your goals. I learned that in middle school… most men won’t figure that out until 40 if at all. Social media makes breaking that chain even harder for the newer generation.

[@donjuliuswilson5387]

Man he’s really, putting it all on, the table. We are living, in a unfair society.

[@ZTempudl]

"The most dangerous person in the world is man that is broken and alone" - This is incredibly topical at the moment, especially down here in Australia after we had a stabbing from a male at a shopping centre targeting women. Something that needs to be looked at more.

[@painunending4610]

Telling those people they're dangerous definitely sounds like a great idea. Thats definitely gonna reach then

[@mercedesb2299]

There are a lot of women out there who have done everything within their power to try to be partners to these men. They push everything away. My husband and I have been best friends since we were 14 years old. We are 49 now. He had a string of bad luck. It was no big deal. I am a writer and make more than enough to support us. I told him it is not like he is sitting at home and I am going out and breaking my back working. I work from home whenever I want. But, he has spiralled into someone I don't know anymore. He has regressed back to a 15 year old. There is no convincing him that this path leads nowhere good especially when you are months away from 50 years old.

[@kainickname]

@mercedesb2299 you're not wired to understand this. Have a great life.

[@painunending4610]

@@mercedesb2299 sounds like you've got some work to do

[@canadaclub8920]

@@mercedesb2299 sorry your (ex?)husband reverted to being a juvenile

[@carakerr4081]

Our 17 yo son is in an apprenticeship to learn a skill. He may attend college. But I agree this lack of emphasis on learning a valuable marketable skill and over emphasis on college is hurting our young men and women!

[@myronschabe]

I live in a first world foreign country, without the US status culture, and it is perfectly acceptable to not go to college and learn a trade...Also, a lot of countries have working holiday visas for folks mostly under 30...so you can live AND work in a cool foreign country for like a year...it is so valuable just to get into a different culture such that you start to learn to discriminate 'the voices' in your head...whose are they?

[@user-xu6bv7yh2j]

Maybe just maybe kids are different - some should go to college, some not - maybe stop speaking for everyone and get used the idea that people are different

[@matthewcaldwell8100]

How the f$ck would you know? Do you know what's being taught in colleges? Have you even set foot in one in the last two decades?

[@vegahunter8]

To the comment about not a lot of opportunities for young people not having an "on-ramp" to a liveable wage, here is an opportunity: professional trail building. The skills involved with building trail systems involves an incredible number of different skillsets that carry over into numerous other types of jobs. Entry level wages are typically much higher than minimum wages. Bigger Cities and counties now are hiring trail builders as full-time staff as well. Hope this helps at least one person searching for something that they may not even know this is even a job that you can get paid to do. Right now, today, there's really no end in sight on the demand for skilled workers that are willing to travel (it can be seasonal). I'm in the Southeast and we build year round, usually.

[@_nebulousthoughts]

As in hiking trails?

[@meowmix1569]

Love watching top 1% men pontificate on what's wrong with men

[@safetythirdified]

Imagine earning your master electricians license or welding certification from Stanford or UC, or any university. The pride and positivity men would display for being a part of the above-cloud community as an equal contributer to society.

[@mariabaca3941]

In New Mexico we have CNM, it's a great school for vocation or college.

[@flobba123]

Well i was depressed and alone my entire 20s no jobs no friends no girlfriend no reason to be alive its a miracle im still alive. In my 30s now im aiming to finally get my first job and mabye even my first realtionship

[@mr-iz8cx]

Go for it.

[@ninarenee3956]

My husband was born much later in ‘87 but he was an extremely talented and smart young boy. In fourth grade he received the presidential award for writing from Bill Clinton and was shuffled around grades his entire life. Then when he should have stayed in middle school they bumped him up to high school and he was only 13/14 and was much too immature. He also was smaller than everyone and everyone picked on him. He rebelled and got kicked out. It wasn’t his fault ? But the schools that pushed his mom telling her that he needed to be in higher grades to be successful. He dropped out at 16 but did get his GED by the time he was 18. If that hadn’t happened to him and he had a regular school life I think he would have been in a much different situation economically today than he is.

[@stephenrose9157]

All of that wisdom, and for free. SG was on fire in this one.

[@carakerr4081]

My husband and I support an agency that offers sober housing for men coming out of prison who have a hard time finding housing. As Catholics we have a traditional view of marriage and roles of men and women. My prayer is that we will start to care for our young men and young women coming up in society. It’s not popular to be religious these days but we find so much joy in Christ and our goal is to love all people in our lives especially the young people. May you both be blessed 😇 ❤

[@micmor517]

But to access the heart compassion generosity love these are feminine traits.

[@user-xu6bv7yh2j]

Traditional ideas of men and women do not jibe with current science - just speak yourself - not for men or women - just for yourself - no one elected you spokesperson for women - I certainly didn't

[@matthewcaldwell8100]

@@micmor517 No, they're not. They're human traits.

[@Maxrotor1]

My life parellels Scott's. While i wasn't a great student, i went to college on Pell Grant and graduated with no debt. With some certifications, i am wrapping up a 40 year career in the IT industry. My kids are ok, but there is little hope for many kids like me.

[@Beyou1262]

Fascinating conversation. Unfortunately, there’s a sub-generation of older folks who need social security, which we paid into. This is my money, not a transfer or entitlement. We are the parents who paid for sports and education, who will work longer to support kids in this upcoming generation. We will welcome kids home who can’t afford to pay rent, let alone buy a home.

[@RemarkableSean]

I had to stop the first time I was listening and then I ended up giving it another try with a more open mind. I'm glad he didn't actually say that social security itself is a problem. And even if he thinks that, he can be wrong about some systems and how to change them. Overall, I think he's actually correct in the point he's trying to make but I don't think it was helpful for him to use social security as the example.

[@Beyou1262]

@@RemarkableSean exactly. I think I was objecting to his using Social Security as an example. Criticizing people who he believes don’t need this money that they’ve been paying into all their working lives. I am the mother of daughters, and I think everybody needs to listen to this point of view.

[@dera2910]

That's not how social security works. People like you mistake it as some kind of government mandated savings account and that is simply not how it works. Your generation is taking more out of social security then you put in and most of you are spending it on things tou dont need like cable tv

[@that_heretic]

100%. If anything SS isn't doing enough.

[@broderickblocker7106]

Somehow, in the rarified world of moneyed people, they seem to believe there are a lot more of them than there are of us. I've got news. I'm 65. I am far from wealthy. If I lose my Social Security - which I've paid into my whole working life - I will be homeless. The fact is, there are legions of us who have earned our Social Security income and now desperately depend on it. This is our retirement fund and it needs to be acknowledged as such.

[@cgrsworld]

Wow. As a senior white female with no son, I still found this deeply insightful and so necessary. Sharing this with any friend who will listen with a son or grandson. Hell, sharing this with everyone I know. 🙏

[@timothyflynn1758]

lots of good relevant points but this guy seems overly focused on external rewards as central to happiness (probably because he believes that / admits to being narcissistic) when internal rewards (internal meaning, health, fitness which don't require wealth) are more central to happiness

[@Voyzeck26]

14:29 That was a tough moment, when he was reflecting on the lack of prospects... but it was "America [that] loved me."

[@cpdoorbell]

This is my all-time favorite RRP episode out of the hundreds I have heard. Every single RRP episode is super interesting, so the bar is high. I have shared this with many friends, educators, coaches, our kids, and my son's college lacrosse teammates. Scott Galloway addresses the many reasons why we all should pay attention to how boys and men struggle. Supporting boys and men benefits all genders. What a great conversation between two emotionally courageous men who openly share their fears and doubts while acknowledging their privilege and success. Thanks, fellas. I have listened to this three times.

[@XenoviaM]

You’re my favorite podcaster, inquisitively curious, open, well prepared, interesting, hard working and it shows. Thanks for keeping this free in apple podcast where I prefer to listen to your podcasts , I hugely appreciate it and hope you continue to offer this for free!

[@Bahamut3525]

As a European, this American discourse makes me laugh a little. Galloway, an extremely privileged person, says things like "We of the left" and then "don't get me wrong, I am an ultra-capitalist". Love the entire podcast, but this highlights the fundamental disconnect between Western elites and the common people. Historically, the left wing was never capitalist, nor protecting the rich. The left wing wanted to regulate the rich to make the majority exist in decent conditions. The fact that the left wing morphed (in the West) into this elitist rich wealthy club, not only shows that the left wing is DEAD, but also that its open ground for the far right (which cares about the working class) to take over. This is why the far right is powerful all over Europe. The socialist parties are no longer parties of workers, they're parties that want to replace the workers with immigrants so their shareholder electorate make profits on their investments. It's totally disconnected from the reality of people. Then we go back to the Marxist beliefs: Capitalism in its extreme form always leads to tyranny and fascism, because that's what the working class fights back with!

[@kevinwilson6270]

Real people Real talk great structure and the openness these two men show to not be right is mind bending. Much love

[@bootstrapstylerich]

Coming from a family that had a Bishop, a Priest, a Benedictine Monk and a Nun = being religious is different than being spiritual. I am spiritual...I believe in a higher power, and I believe in the power of being able to forgive! You need to believe in something greater than you!

[@millerbiz]

I loved this. I have 3 daughters and am fascinated by this issue. The generation of boys today is a worrying prospect

[@4787fhjjk]

As a mother of two boys, ages 9&10, I really appreciated this discussion. I am trying to raise these boys to be strong, kind and successful men. They are not going to be shamed because they are male or because they are white. They are my beautiful boys who deserve respect and happiness like everyone else on this planet.

[@brianmeen2158]

“They are not going to be shamed because they male or because they are white” The fact that you even have to say this shows just how warped modern culture is. Jesus Christ how did we get here?

[@Eserr7856]

Boys need good male role models and mentors to teach them how to be men.

[@shoutatthesky]

Hopefully their father is in the picture. That is what boys really need!

[@stevenelson25]

Your purpose doesn't matter. Every person and circumstance you come across, will attempt to give you a new purpose. Real purpose comes from understanding yourself, and learning life lessons.

[@mux-fo2ek]

This episode is deep. This is one of the top best 5 podcast episodes I've ever heard. Young people need to listen to this. We all need to listen to this. Thank you for this. It's a podcast episode to save for my child when he's 16. Thanks again.

[@brettvictory4606]

Sent this to my friends who are raising boys like me. I learned a lot. Best advice..find a filed that you can work in with 90% employment, and work hard to move up in that field.

[@jameslove-vani797]

Had three separate instances of broken men (2 were homeless) pick fights with me in public, in a span of 10 days this year. Not for any real reason; they just seemed at their wits end and wanted a proper climax. I'm Canadian. This is not normal.

[@lukefisch9483]

There might be some victimization there, please code urself in away that makes people leave u the f*ck alone, u are absolutely not safe, when I move through public spaces I’m like a flash, I’m wearing neutral grayish colors that blend in, im moving quickly and with purpose, I don’t really enter peoples awareness, if u can see something it can see u right don’t look at people don’t see their bad side, their distress, u don’t see anybody your just going where ur going u don’t stop, or pause there’s almost a “zoning out, a dissociation that comes with kinda seeming kinda vulnerable, seeming innocent, concerned on getting where ur going, that intuitively u would associate with someone who’d be more likely to be pickpocketed, Mugged, jumped or some other altercation, but the point to which ur extremely comfortable in the social space and view at as familiar, recognizing to a homeless dejected or outlaw type thief or figure, this person is literally at home in this space, they live in transit, presenting as uncomfortable in this space creates a divide between u and them, they can empathize, they can see a part of themselves in u if u incur the state of mind, the struggle to get where ur going that intense focus, it codes u as one of them. It’s like putting on zombie flesh so zombies don’t eat u lol (gotta love walking dead), like literally that focus that pull away from the environment that comes from what I assume is years of subjection to weather events and lack of social support creates a pretty gruff individual, leave them alone unless ur gonna be able to provide resources to them, this is how bums operate

[@shoutatthesky]

Did you vote for Castro's son, Justin Trudope?

[@jameslove-vani797]

@@lukefisch9483I think you may be onto something; people tell me I stand out all the time. I do the opposite of what you're suggesting and call it out' most of these guys are hurt and looking for one of two things. Violence or recognition, Probably not the most sustainable response, but I gotta be who I is.

[@Matanumi]

Canada is stranger then America- the erosion of the middle class hits the country harder than the southern border counterpart IMO. Canada was always "go along to get along" and "we don't do as well but we protect our middle line workers" and that has completely fucking eroded in the last 30 years. Also we are weak on crime, liberal courts (unless if the defendant has went after the government) and we've abused the poors in the world in TFWs in trading for feeding our upper rich economy and keeping wages low. We are more fucked then America is and nobody cares because we are tiny in comparison

[@Matanumi]

Your Canadian- welcome to your new normal. Trudeau doesn't help, but he's only a tiny portion of a greater issue- Harper made it worse in many other ways

[@niledunn1542]

I have a lot of sympathy for these guys. If it wasn’t for my family and friends I would either be them or I wouldn’t have cancelled myself I long time ago. Loneliness is the toughest thing I’ve ever dealt with and I’m black in America. I love Scott because he truly cares and is looking for situations.

[@damiangonzalez7876]

Cannot agree more with all comments about it. It is true. There is polarisation even in masculinity. We need to go deeper into this conversation. The REALstuff

[@direwolf6234]

yes being a 'member' of the top 10% economically (what galloway focused on) extends beyond just men's issues .. the top 1% controls 20% of the wealth and the next 9% controls 60% for a total of 80% .. leaving just 20% for the 'bottom' 90% of us .. and no radical change in policy to help men will change that fact .. and as long as that exists women will not lower their 'standards' and men will struggle .. the correlation between economics and the 50% divorce rate is clear and we see that those at the top have much lower rates because their lives are easier ..

[@danieldunst9937]

Scott Galloway is the Gran Torino Clint Eastwood 2.0 that young men need these days. Podcast of these two is a treat.

[@brianmeen2158]

Scott is great but I think it will be very hard for him to reach the doom and gloom black pill crowd. By Galloway own admittance he came from a pretty privileged background and the economy was in a much different place. How do we instill hope in men that will most likely never own a house..? Plus with AI booming I can’t see that helping down the road…

[@ShadyRonin]

This is one of the most important and least talked about subjects. Thank you guys for this conversation!!

[@dk1828]

I thoroughly enjoyed this conversation. Two mature adult men having an honest, deep conversation. Why do we not see this more?

[@tomcoop9750]

Because the media shuts it down

[@oraz.]

It's just rebranded feminist rhetoric and masculinity punditry. It's actually underhanded, but I guess no one sees that?

[@oraz.]

@@tomcoop9750 this is The dominant narrative. It's basically the masculinity studies premise from institutional feminism

[@RealHufflepuff]

That stuff he said about emotions around the 50 minute mark was profound A minute later he talks about death, mom died when i was 22 and I remember that feeling of "finality". totally changed my outlook

[@JK-cz1km]

Momento mori

[@j.davila4523]

What do you mean finality? What do you mean exactly?

[@RealHufflepuff]

​@j.davila4523 ive had friends die in the past, and they were sad experiences, but nothing came close to when my mother died. I have a lot of good friends in my life, but i could only have one mom. There must be a small circle of people in ones life who hold specific roles and when theyre gone, youll never have any relationship like it again. There are a lot of realizations that come with a loss like that. Youll never speak again, never get their advice, theyll never meet their grandchildren, never see how your life and career choices play out. Then you notice all the things you appriciated about them, all the little things that they showed you how to do as a kid that you likely can't even remember, from learning to read to tying your shoes, to financial support. Then you see the physical and personality traits you share with them as their child. You appriciate all these things and realize its too late and youll never get to thank them sincerely. Like scott says, the silver lining is that you become more empathetic and your worldviews evolve, but it's a hard thing to accept.

[@ladybug3380]

@@j.davila4523 it means a piece of himself left with her. Death became inevitable. It’s the same thing that happened to me.

[@andrearobinson7526]

This was grounded and clear (in a world which is rarely that). I shared it. Some of what I found to be missing is that the advice wasn't directed towards creative disruption and innovation (the more right-brained thinkers) and it was more packaged to being a follower of the system the way its currently structured. I think that 'program' works more for Neurotypicals or 'Follower' generations and I believe that loneliness also comes from being someone who doesn't feel authentically aligned with the way the larger system is defined and designed. Thank you for both of your angles. Very sobering and important, even though grim in many ways too.

[@steve19811]

It's about your vibe/energy. Trust me... I'm fasting, practicing gratitude, no fap/no pmo. Feeling old feelings....letting them go... It'll work....Men need to just rise their vibes, thought by thought, and trust a loving universe.....

[@dmitryc760]

This is absolutely brilliant podcast! I can relate as a citizen who came from abroad (legally) 18 years ago (I'm 40 years old now) with $400 in a pocket. However after this is insane grind I still feel like this "great wealth transfer" is outpacing me. Which prevents me from ability to provide much needed "safety" to actually support a family, therefor I'm walking alone and absolutely hate it! It is a tough race indeed. Even though I'm educated, well versed, fit and understand this economics well in depth, once this insane printing had began i knew middle class which i was, will be wiped. Last 4 years all im trying to do is figure out how to beat it and come ahead. Thank you for what you doing.

[@jchowald]

Scott G nailed it here. More people need to touch this subject before it’s too late. So much obsession with demonizing men is a classic FAFO situation.

[@sebastianb.1926]

Guest: "Social media tells young people they're absolute failures for not owning luxury items" Ad break: "Consider buying a sauna" Satire is meaningless in our era. It's like living in Robocop.

[@KirkMillerShow]

lmfao they did just straight up advertise like a hot tub didnt they 😂 well watever pays to get the message heard

[@dlvau]

Wealth is becoming more concentrated which means most men have no chance to compete or simply give up trying. Jobs are less secure. Women also don't want to struggle and want security so even if an average man succeeds in building healthy relationships, it often does not last. After being burnt once or twice, it becomes a game that's no longer fun to play.

[@SirGalaEd]

Wow! A balanced, thoughtful, well considered discussion on how to help our young people, both boys and girls. We are practically symbiotic species who need the other sex to be as healthy as possible. Love this!

[@MelodyProsser]

These kinds of inspirational conversations are the reason I look forward to Monday mornings! Thank you both!

[@mikek6098]

As men we gotta help each other out. Especially the young bucks. Personally, i feel like its my purpose to be a mentor to the younger gen z. However I can.

[@hawaiianmango4556]

I loved the time/ investment I spent listening to you two. Genuine and down to earth advice. We need MORE of this in the world we have today. It’s hard to block out the noise, calm the everyday stresses and just lean in and listen to great, helpful thoughts. Thank you

[@theresawaveyme4482]

Thanks Scott for giving credit to all the little things we do to raise our kids. Just the simple (but not so simple) practice of being present with our kids is so important and a gift to them. Man, this was such a good talk. It's all the things I have been contemplating as of late and trying to support my teen because we can't go to Stanford...Keep yelling this topic from the rooftops. It's our future. Take Easy T

[@rgomoffat]

And manners

[@Lock8484]

Two of my favorite people talking. I love it. Thank you.

[@jimparsons4312]

Great morning surprise! Thank you Rich!❤️❤️❤️‼️🙌

[@user-hr3cz2ym4y]

“Women are ready for more emotionally and economically viable men” Scott Galloway. Yes. Yes. Yes. It’s not about getting defeated emotionally by the success of someone-male or female-do try and find the support of other equally smart emotionally and mentally men and women to be around them and they cheer you and you cheer them.

[@paulallen6992]

I've been following Rich for nearly 10 years now. I *think* I originally found him through Casey Neistat? One thing that stands out to me is his persistence. There were periods where he seemed to really be gaining traction, only for things to fall quiet. I would forget to check in on his content for months, maybe a year a time. It appears that he's truly solidified himself as one of the top players in this space over the last 16 months or so and I couldn't be happier. I really appreciated this conversation with Scott. I'm 29 in a month and wasn't as efficient with my 20s as I would have liked to of been. With that said, I'm currently in better physical condition than 99% of the people I graduated high school with, I'm finishing the college program I dropped out of at 19 (dumb idea), and I have no debt. Things could be worse I suppose. Have Scott back on some time. There's true value in these conversations.

[@user-qg8ic5ex5z]

A couple of great men. Can’t wait for that book on masculinity to come out

[@shoutatthesky]

What would this gay lover know about masculinity?

[@reneespring834]

Fantastic topic, thank you so much! Mom of 3 sons and agree 100% with Prof G

[@painunending4610]

Jesus I feel bad for those sons

[@alexanderfrank1712]

This was such a damn good talk! I’ll be coming back to this for sure. We need more folks speaking out about MEN and what that means. What a candid and honest conversation. 💯

[@BobBob-jc9mj]

The guest is really honest! Good advice. He been around the block a few times for sure!

[@ozarkcyn1]

The question should be how do we level up OLDER men not just younger men because they have the SAME issues as younger men.

[@brianmeen2158]

We need to get women to change a few things too

[@shoutatthesky]

Maybe it's women that need to stop acting like slüts?

[@Matanumi]

Older men have more resources and money to figure it out. Should've figured it out by that "older age" Men today have less meaningful opportunities than they ever did before in modern generations

[@ozarkcyn1]

@@brianmeen2158 You are so right!

[@jonathongoodwin]

MGTOW boys until family laws change. Work on yourself, protect your emotional health and your assets. There are good women overseas. Build yourself and move to a better place, for a better life.

[@CaliRyezup]

Not even 10 minutes in…pure wisdom.

[@peterharper6592]

Phenomenal podcast! May be my favorite of all! I have shared with many friends and agree with other comments that this episode is universal for all (men, women, parents, young and old).

[@Mtnshell56]

There might be a lot of money going towards a certain sector of old people but there's a whole lot of homeless old people and old people who have no way to take care of themselves because the system doesn't

[@matthewcaldwell8100]

I guess they should learn to code or whatever the latest cruel dismissive cliche is these days.

[@strangeosity6896]

I did all my parts in regards to dating. I got the college degree, job and own place and very fit (six pack abs). I kept myself in very good shape for a good 15 years. I got zero interest from women. I got on the out in public and public is unwelcoming and making moves is inappropriate. I go on dating apps and swipe on a couple hundred women only to get 3 matches all from very fat women. When I was in my late thirties, I quit alcohol and now I just have pot every day. That really hurt my limited social life, but alcohol-free is better overall. Occasionally I'll go out in public or on the dating apps only to alleviate the guilt I feel from isolating and getting high every day. Whenever I log on to dating apps or go out, I am like "oh yeah, this is why I don't bother with dating apps or going out or trying to be social." I got the college degree, the job, my own car and own place mainly so I could start dating (this was back in my twenties). That didn't work. What else do I like doing? I like getting high. If I wasn't getting high, then I would have to face my empty apartment all alone and stone cold sober every night it's doable, but it just makes for a very long night followed by not sleeping worth a damn. I am not that great-looking in the face and am going bald...I can't fix it and women just won't have it. It might be that or something else, not sure. I have brainstormed and scoured the internet and books for solutions, but I just cannot seem to solve this problem. Women just don't want to date me and I can't fix that nor can I change the fact that that leaves a giant void in my life that I have to fill with pot or just actively resist filling with pot. Now that I am 40, is it even worth trying anymore. If I couldn't find a date as a younger guy with hair, how the hell am I supposed to get a date as a balding 40 year old? I can't. I know, I know...be nice (but don't be a nice guy), be assertive (but not aggressive), take a shower, save more money, buy a nice car/clothes, work on social skills, acknowledge my white male privilege, hold the door for her (but don't because that's old gender roles), pay for the date (but don't coz old gender roles), buy nice shoes, have a purpose, find God, confess sins, make more money...sure I'll do all those things for a fraction of the attention that women gave the "bad boys" for doing none of those things. Just be good-looking and you can bypass all that bullshit...that's the conclusion I have come up with.

[@strangeosity6896]

And no, Scott, women are not dating older men. Older men are not as physically attractive as younger men. The reason women date older men is money and nowadays women make their own money (often time more money than men). They are dating good-looking men and sharing the good-looking men in polygamous and serial-monogamy relationships.

[@joseph6243]

You mentioned all the things that nice guys do that bad boys don't, but there's also the one thing bad boys do that nice guys don't - embrace their masculinity. "Bad boys" know how to use their sex appeal as men and they emote that to women. It's not just looks (although having abs is sexually appealing in and of itself). But it's more about the attitude and the energy of masculinity.

[@kenpe1455]

​@@joseph6243you're right

[@MorrisLydiaP]

There is a myth that doing the bare minimum these days-job, education, fit, good looks, “good guy”-is enough to attract a quality woman. I can see how it would be frustrating for a young man trying to find his way. Today’s women want and need more than the bare minimum. You have to climb the ladder of Maslow’s Hierarchy to attract today’s average woman.

[@renatapaschoal7605]

Such a great episode. All I can leave is my gratitude for the host RR and SG. ❤

[@lisablanchard8915]

Another thought provoking brilliant conversation to be had ..even though I am female...in my 60s and have no children I can relate to so much of what is being said here...Thank You Rich for your podcast. I learn so much from listening to your guest ..always delivering a great interview

[@ShaneHarveyMusic]

Buckle up folks… at the 1 hour mark it gets superbly Rollian…. Often brings me to tears. Thanks RR. A true warrior.

[@ellebellebehring5329]

As a boy mom I loved this and I’m sharing it with everyone. Thanks Scott and Rich!

[@brandonmorin1179]

Something that really stood out to me was how Scott's earlier points about being set up for success by a generous social spending apparatus and relatively cheap access to assets (housing and equities), pointing out how fortunate he was to buy big tech names at double-digit share prices... only then to scoff at the idea of young people wanting more compensation to be able to have the same wealth building opportunities he had and then suggest we just buy index funds... at the same aggregate sky-high prices he pointed out were asinine for us to buy into earlier in the interview. I think he's missing a lot of nuance here.

[@EduDworzecki]

Thank you so much for this!!!

[@matfrazer]

Thank you for supporting and valuing men. Men greatly benefit from a traditional right of passage, something lost in our modern society.

[@Matanumi]

Because it got eaten up by a combination of many things

[@manuelpineda9067]

That was a hell of a podcast

[@mrmidwestguy1496]

My 2 cents 1. Best way to improve young men or fix “Peter pan syndrome” is to create responsibility. You do that by having kids or being a productive member of your church, community, or family group. You will naturally want what’s best for these people, for most of us anyways. It gives us purpose. 2. I 100% regect the term “toxic masculinity”. It is not masculine to beat your wife/children, it is not masculine to verbally abuse, it is not masculine to overpower those who are weak. These evil things are outside of masculinity and these things are not and never have been attributes of masculinity. Masculinity is a GOOD thing. It’s like saying toxic good, it’s just not possible to discribe good or masculine with toxic, it just doesn’t work

[@Dusty_617]

Man I really appreciate Scott. I needed to hear this today

[@adelb7897]

About the value argument. We can't change the fact that society still judges men on how much money they earn or their status BUT we can make the change in our own judgement and those around us. Let's work on changing the narrative. We need to judge men AND women on how much value they bring to the world in a more holistic way. Maybe a man might be earning 30k a year but he is an amazing cook, very organized and a kindergarten teacher who is absolutely talented with taking care and nurturing young children. We should work on viewing those types of men with the respect they deserve. About bringing more value to the world than you take. We should also hold women to that standard as well. It's not 'as a man'. As a functional and healthy adult (man or woman), there should be a time where you should strive to give more than you take. Maybe women are better at this (because the mother argument) but regardless I like to make it clear that we should hold women to the same standard when it comes to this.

[@matthewcaldwell8100]

You can't even get outside of the language of the market here. I hope you appreciate the irony. "Bringing value" is a business cliche. Contributions to society are not accumulations of "value."

[@The-Happy-Bricker]

At the moment I can't watch all the episodes and I don't know why but man... lately I think about EVERY single video that comes along: I want to see that! all very interesting topics! Now I need a 2 week holiday to catch up. Keep it up Rich! Wish you nothing but the best! ❤❤

[@TheAl2kas]

By modern standards, i only started succeeding slowly from 28 years old. I am 28 years old. Hoping for mental health help exactly when government in the UK trying to cut down on people like me.

[@chrisjeanneret5091]

I'm about the same age and as a kid I remember seeing ads for big brothers. I know that they are still around, but most people nowadays think the term refers to a reality show.

[@willnotquit]

Just like all men before them, this new generation of young men will only become what is needed when they have no other choice. The mother of invention is necessity….the accountability will happen naturally when there is no other option.

[@jessee7334]

Is that why you waste so much time in the comments?

[@MrMark595]

There's always one prick in the comments section, at the least.

[@willnotquit]

@@jessee7334 absolutely…that’s my deal

[@brianmeen2158]

I agree with you willnot but these younger guys are just gone mentally.. they don’t want(or even expect?) to have to work a job or put effort into attracting women.

[@corygall2340]

​@@brianmeen2158 it's probably all factors that stem from their successors mistakes in teaching or apparently lack there of. My teachers are books the old people within earshot are dumb and don't care honestly it's like they are in denial of what's going on.

[@Apexlifestyles1]

Rich this episode is so needed! Thank you for talking about this.

[@luisladino6162]

Thanks for this beautiful episode. Love from Venezuela

[@johncarey7154]

This is phenomenal-sharing with my men friends and women friends who are concerned.