Having a miscarriage…

[@_madelinepearson]

That’s not the reason people don’t share it typically. It’s all about how you handle grief. The first 13 weeks of a fetus’ life are so crucial, and if I were to have announced my pregnancy sooner and something happened, I would not want all of the attention such as people asking me about the baby if they didn’t know or reminding me of it such as asking how I am. However some people need that! If something were to happen to my baby I would only want to grieve with my husband and close family and then move on and not have others know. That’s just how my brain works. But if you’re someone who needs that attention and support then go ahead and share! There are no rules and it’s really just about that. I’ve never heard someone say you’re not a mother until 13 weeks or that if you miscarry you weren’t a mother. That’s crazy. A close friend of mine announced hers at 5 weeks! Everyone is different!

[@PolarBearVolcano]

Great response and agree!

[@helenageerts2115]

Yes!

[@hey.a5162]

Agree!! No one is told to shut up, announcing a pregnancy at any point is a personal choice. And also as soon as someone is pregnant they are moms 🤣 moms don’t need validation from anyone, it’s just a fact. Personally I have met women that announce their pregnancy before 12 weeks and they end up having a miscarriage:( but that’s because the first trimester is when most miscarriages happen that’s why most moms chose to wait

[@x-starlight-x]

Totally agree. Also the only other add on I have is it's really hard on children that may get involved, whether that's siblings, cousins, other extended relatives, close friends etc. I have witnessed myself the sad aftermath. Children have less knowledge on the subject, and depending on age they understand to some extent, but it can hit them really hard without them being able to comprehend what's really going on

[@kuroknight5103]

You're right, you can announce it whenever you feel comfortable. The video just encourages women to ignore people who tell them not to announce it early. Some people do tell us to wait on announcing and it's rude. You are in control, no one else! Tell the world when you are ready!!!

[@rachelmcgraw2037]

This is the most important message to give to someone who has ever been pregnant! They are now a mother because they are pregnant. This is undeniable.

[@mikehall1995]

Don’t bullshit them… be honest with them…

[@KAC.1111]

Yes this is key. In my family, I’m 7 months pregnant and they still tell me I won’t understand until I give birth. Lol comical

[@lyndaleartates4207]

This is soooo true....I had four miscarriages. When I lost the 1st ine it's hard for me to tell friends and families the 2nd to 4th because I was fully aware that I might lost it again until it did. And the sadness is eating me whole! The questions in my head that am I not capable or am I not a good mom for not protecting and keeping my babies alive in my womb is really ringing in my ear everyday. Then I finally have my 5th baby and it was really a delicate journey to watch him grow inside me that the only people knows about it is my 20 years old eldest ,my partner and me. I told my mom that I am pregnant again when I was 5months pregnant and the reaction is not good bcoz she's scared that something wrong might happened . But I really hold on to God I pray and beg and cautiously going to my appointments until the day my Ob gyn and the doctors from the laboratory section of the hospital told me that I need to have an emergency C.S. section for the babies sake. Amd this thing here that you're stating is really really true! That no need to feel less when you're in that situation of your life bcoz everything happens for a reason. And just be thankful and humble in everything that we do. God bless to your family☝🏼🙏🏼❣️

[@abella01123]

Baby's DNA NEVER leaves the Mom's body. Thank you for sharing this. ❤

[@s.h.harvey1656]

AMAZING! For the 1st time in my 57 years, I'm hearing exactly what I needed many years ago. My 4 losses, ranging from 5wks to 16wks were devastating for me. I still dream of those souls even though my living children (twins) are 23yrs old now.

[@laurynCzech1111]

I Love This.💔🙏🏼🌌 I have had 6 miscarriages... Four happened before 10 weeks. Then at 13, and lastly 15 weeks... Each were deeply painful & traumatic. May we all listen to our inner voice. Our inner Knowing. ♡

[@LlamasAreBest]

My wife had 2 miscarriages. We told everyone within a few days when we found out about both pregnancies. The worst part was telling everyone and seeing how bad they felt. The problem wasn't at all what you felt. It's not the same for everyone. We waited till 12 weeks for the 3rd pregnancy so we didn't have to break people's hearts again. It's a personal choice.

[@stellamaligkoura4584]

Εxactly and it's not always the first 12 weeks The 20 weeks are crucial too as you have the uss for any abnormalities ... If you ever experienced a miscarriage or had to go through TFMR, then you will still be happy if you fall pregnant after this, but it's a whole different mindset to falling pregnant without this background ... You move and hope for the best, but you can't erase what happened Women who had those experiences can relate with me ...

[@elizabethbroncati6590]

If you lose a baby at whatever stage it is still heartbreaking. Some need support of others and I suppose some prefer to mourn alone. But shame has no place in the mourning process and we all have to release the shame as if we caused the death. Thank you for bringing this up.

[@kennyboswell5967]

Couldn’t agree more. We had a miscarriage 6 years ago, it still hurts and stings. I struggled for a long time if I was still a dad or not. I know that I am. Miss my little guy.

[@TiffanyCoffey-d5w]

You have no idea what this means to me right now. Mothers Day is hard. I lost my baby via ectopic 5 years ago 5/25. It's hard and I needed this. Thank you!

[@ashleyzucker22]

Thank you for this message 🙏 I didn't realize how much I needed to hear this!

[@gabrielle456]

Literally, the only reason people wait that long is because of pregnancy loss and grief. Check yourself girl.

[@cyndi795]

I know MY daughter waited because she is an extremely private person, and having to share her grief if she did miscarry would have been 100 times worse. She waited until after her 1st trimester to tell us. I would miss a period, and I would send out announcements (sarcasm) Thank God there wasn't Facebook back in the 90's. Lol We are all so different, and each of us has our own journey. 😊

[@canadiankellygirl]

I agree. Its a personal choice. My daughter waited until she was 6 months. All the grandparents of course knew and the great grandparents but no one else. It was her choice and we respected that.

[@patriciafleischer826]

Ever thought like that, I have 2 miscarriages and a stillborn and when we was ready to try again, they found abnormal cell in my uterus, I had an hysterectomy and all my dreams died, I couldn't see new borned without feeling depressed but my husband gave me all his support and we pull through. I never felt like a mother. I felt in disadvantage with my friend with kids and I part away from them. Now they are all grown up and I feel that I missed a lot from being away. Now listening to your words I realize that I was a mother of three beautiful babies! Thank you!❤❤❤

[@VelvetHammerV22]

Your message resonated with me. I've had 3 miscarriages (single & twins) in the last 6 years all in the 1st trimester. I went through similar thoughts (that were not my own). Then as I was releasing the shame and guilt to my heavenly Father, when a wash of His peace filled my spirit and soul. When the conversation comes up I always say Yahweh knows the Time and Season. I rest in that as should anyone that watches this video. Thank Holy Spirit, you always know what I need atm. 🎯💯💜

[@QynNaz]

This has me crying so hard, having experienced 4 miscarriages myself and still no babies after 9 years of marriage.

[@StealthBomber404]

I hope one day you'll have your rainbow baby. This takes a lot to share this, so I thank you for telling this with us 💛

[@brotatochimp]

My sister has suffered too many miscarriages, and i have a friend whose going through multiple now. It destroys me seeing them suffer the emotional stress and suffering. My sister may not have any of her children with her now. But we still celebrate her motherhood, and support her with it.

[@rachelleforbes8815]

Thank you for sharing and I hope you have a lot of love and support. I also teared up as I recently experienced my third miscarriage in less than a year after going through IVF and trying to get pregnant for the last 4 years. It’s extremely heartbreaking.

[@Wooptywoop4208]

You're like 15yo. How th you had 4 miscarriages?

[@trish387]

My best friend had 4 miscarriages early on and her 5th was gold. During those time doctor found out she was having blood clots so they put her on blood thinner that she took by self inject daily. She now have 2 children: 7 yr old and a 5 yr old girl. Dont loose hope.

[@ksndra]

I literally had all these thoughts. 😢 My partner and I have been trying for over a year. All the stress of tracking ovulation, eating and sleeping obsessively well… every month a negative test or your cycle starts just crushes you. I finally decide that I need a break from it and to enjoy life again. I stop stressing and find gratitude in other things. As soon as I did that… BOOM I was pregnant. The joy I felt hearing my baby’s heartbeat. Seeing their little blueberry beginning…. Only to lose them at 8 weeks. I was so heartbroken and felt like maybe I overreacted or got too excited. “Waiting 12 weeks” was so harsh and limiting. But I find joy in that my baby came from being stress free and letting go and letting God guide me. I had so much self doubt in things… but my baby gave me conviction and strong voice to live my life fully. Every day is different still. It’s only been a few weeks but I’m hopeful for the future. Sending all my aloha and light to all the mommies out there. Mahalo Kat for all your content and holding space for us. 🌺✨

[@amandakent8821]

Couldn’t agree more. The idea that you can’t share a new pregnancy with anyone until you are past 12 weeks tries to rob the joy that comes with finding out you’re even pregnant. I always share way earlier than I probably “should” by a lot of people’s opinions but I want those who rejoice with me to be able to know that in the case I had a miscarriage that I would want them to be with me mourning too. Anyone who has been pregnant in any capacity or amount of weeks IS a mother.

[@LlamasAreBest]

That's the thing. Not everyone wants attention when mourning. On my wife's first two pregnancies, both ended in miscarriages, we had to send out messages to 70+ people saying we lost the baby. It's a constant reminder when those people reply. They obviously only mean good, but not everyone wants that attention and constant reminders. Not only that, but those people also feel hurt. So why not just wait till you're out of the zone where most miscarriages happen? It's a personal choice. No one is right or wrong.

[@keriissovery9566]

What do you mean You can’t share it? You can do whatever you want. It’s a personal preference. The first trimester is such a crucial time for miscarriages. Most people don’t like to announce it out of fear that they will then have to tell everyone they miscarried.

[@TiffARMY]

Thank you. This made me cry. My husband and I have been trying for a while. I have only ever gotten pregnant once. I only got to carry my baby for 7 weeks before I miscarried. It was very traumatic. That was about 6 years ago now. I still think of what that baby might have been like. What our lives would have been like had I carried him to term. It makes me feel guilty because a cousin got pregnant at the same time. Carried her little boy to full term and I can't help but feel a little jealous and very sad when I see him. We just saw him last night randomly and it was like a knife to my heart. But I know I can't voice that out loud because I feel like it makes me a bad person. I don't begrudge that she gave birth and is raising a healthy little boy. I just miss what never came to be and I miss my Angel Baby.

[@PoetryInMotionXo]

Yes yes yes… I had to go through this talk with my brother who lost his first child. And he took it hard. He kept having ppl say he wasn’t a dad… yes he was and is and I make sure to tell him happy Father’s Day every year and send him a card. He will someday have his rainbow baby and I’m so excited for that day to come for him. We need to remember also that men experience the loss as well. And they feel that loss too.

[@LlamasAreBest]

Who on earth told him that? Who is he hanging out with? He needs to cut them out of his life. I can't think of anyone who would say that to me. Makes no sense.

[@Robin5957]

People care WAY TOO MUCH what other people think!!! Stop caring more about other people than you do about you!!! You will have loads less anxiety!!!❤❤❤

[@CoCo-yv3hl]

Agreed it’s debilitates ppl

[@dorab2402]

The reason some people wait is because it’s hard to go through the heartbreak of telling others of your loss when it’s so difficult to cope.

[@alwaysfreezing130]

Wise words. Even if your baby isn't physically here, they will always be in your heart ❤ My mom and I feel the same way about my twin sister that passed during my moms pregnancy. She might not be here in person, but we will always love her and she will always be in our hearts.

[@acuriouswriter]

Your baby’s fetal cells stay in your brain for at least the next 10 years after carrying them

[@genpakusugita8503]

really?

[@princeofrance]

Yeesh thats kind of.. disturbing i guess?

[@keriissovery9566]

What do you mean?

[@aliciagracekuendig]

Wow, I totally agree with you. Thank you so much for sharing this! Greetings from Berne, Switzerland 😘

[@jumariano6995]

I'm pregnant.. but in the last ultrassom wich were at 7 weeks we couldn't hear the heartbeat. I did it again and again and again ... none of ultrasounds i had came with the heartbeat. I'm 9 weeks.. waiting for my doctor appointment. The ultrasound technician said.. you are pregnant.. if you take a pregnancy test at home you still have a positive! Your hormones are very high.. while you have a gestational sac with the embrio.. you're pregnant! I already cried so many times since then... I'm deeply sad.. I was so happy.. my husband and I wanted this baby so much. Thanks to God (literally) I have a very strong faith about what God have for us .. He is in our lives control. And no matter what I have to pass through.. I'll always in His hands. Praying for having another one... So I would be very happy with 2 child because God already gave us one little boy. He's 2 yo and is our joy!

[@CoCo-yv3hl]

I think it’s up to the woman to decide how she feels not others. I was “R” in college by a friend gave the baby up for adoption. About 12 years later I told two friends & the female kept telling me I’m a mom I’m a mother no one can take that away but my trauma was so deep I could NOT separate the baby from the trauma & I couldn’t be a mom even if I wanted to. The night it happened I just gotten back to college from burying my father that passed on my birthday during a dinner party & I had to keep things together for the party. I was 19 turned 20 processed it all then to finally share & ppl had so many words for a situation I couldn’t change was too much & I was from that moment selective on who I tell ❤

[@Thea_Panda]

Thank you so much I seriously seriously needed to hear this 😢 I’m so sorry for your loss also

[@zarikepunzulis4238]

I announced mine at 8 weeks, I always say why care what others think or say, also my faith in God is strong, I was not going to wait because I felt that theres a possibility of losing my child, no I believed my baby will stay and be healthy. Im 38 weeks 2 days now, almost time to meet our son ❤

[@GloryToGodAlmighty]

This is everything. God bless you

[@aloysiusamepou.tapora219]

I really do understand and feel your pain.

[@cristinarodriguez5941]

I think the moment your body ...your womb conceives ...you are a mom ❤

[@helenpaul67]

Interesting during my time about 30years ago, my late mom advised me that the first trimester is the most vulnerable stage so best to keep 'quiet' and not announced it. I was lucky that my belly was small that only by the 5th it started to show. By then the crucial part is safely through. Today's world is all about 'sharing and announcement' from everything to anything.. Nothing can be private no more. If you don't share, Others will think ooh why the secrecy??? Tx goodness that was 30yrs ago

[@stayathomemarine]

As someone who lost a baby at 20 weeks, I fully agree. Babies also die after 12 weeks.. 12 weeks isn't magical.

[@nafeesahabdullahmuhammad9359]

This is absolutely true and I’m happy she said this! But ❤🕊️

[@WALKERWOMAN100]

Miscarriage - It doesn't matter if there isn't a baby in your arms. There is most certainly one in your heart.

[@KittyKat-xg4tx]

I felt stupid and just made myself look dumb when i announced i was pregnant. A week later i had a miscarriage.. i felt like a failure because my husband's family was excited and counting on me to have kids. I waited till i was 20 weeks pregnant with my next before i told family and friends. I felt with my first pregnancy that because i didnt go very long or had my baby full term it didnt count. Being pregnant is hard enough.

[@managerof3monsters]

I’ve needed to hear this for many years.♥️

[@halee9696]

I lost my twins at 12 weeks and it was the most heartbreaking experience. I had already told family and it still feels like I'm the only one to acknowledge they ever existed. I carried them for a short time but I'll carry them forever in my heart.

[@maggie5807]

To me I loved that my baby had so many people who loved them even tho they were here for such a short time. My husband recently shared how hard it is to have people ask how our baby is and then have to disclose the loss and relive how difficult that time was for us. I was so depressed for a long time and it was so hard on him to not be able to help me.

[@minettesv1205]

It is up to the person what she wants to share and what she wants to keep to herself 🙂

[@ruqayaalgabbas6594]

This is so true like im a muslim and in islam when a mother has a miscarriage her baby waits for her at the gates of heaven to enter with her and even if the mother didnt have a muscarriage but lost her baby after birth,the baby still waits for their mother at the the gates of heaven that is just so beautiful.it doesnt matter if you havent physically held your baby or felt it kick but you had a baby and you were a mother and nothing or nobody could ever take that away from you

[@Nil2none]

Lost my son after 6 months of being carried. She lost the baby and it destroyed me inside. Wasnt her fault. Just didn't happen. I was scared being a 24 year old at the time and wasn't ready but then it hit me. Imma be a dad. Man the joy I felt. When we lost him I was broken for awhile. Im Now 42 and have no kids and that's the one thing I wish woulda happened to me. Alot of great memories I missed out on and didn't get the chance to create. Man 18 years goes by fast. Woulda been graduating from school this year.... still breaks my heart but you swallow the pain down deep. What could have been I guess......❤

[@mandimorse2606]

That's specifically why women don't announce that they're pregnant until they're in the third trimester. It's because so many things go wrong in the first and second trimester. And back in the day people would end up losing their babies and they would have all these things and it would just remind them of losing the baby and that would end up throwing them into a deeper depression. Or into a depression to begin with. I had the same question to when I got pregnant and asked my mom and she told me that's why.

[@LlamasAreBest]

Corrrect. But woman don't wait till the third trimester. That's 27 weeks. Most couples I would say announce anywhere from when they find out at 4-5 weeks to about 16 weeks.

[@karengoga2592]

But the thing is doesnt matter if your 12 weeks or 20 weeks things can still go wrong i told my family and friends with all my pregancy straight away and i lost too baby at 9 weeks and 5 weeks i dont bealive in waiting to tell people i have too kids my daugther whos 19 and my son 17 and i did same with them somtimes it can happen but it shouldnt mean you dont tell somone before 12 weeks

[@mandimorse2606]

@@karengoga2592 Yes I understand that I was a paramedic and my mom was in NICU nurse. I was just explaining the reason why people wait until the third trimester to announce their pregnancy because by then the odds of losing the baby has gone down dramatically. It doesn't mean it's not possible things always can happen.

[@mandimorse2606]

@@karengoga2592 I didn't mean wait to tell people that you're pregnant until you're in the third trimester I meant don't have a baby shower until after you are starting the third trimester because if you have a baby shower before then and something happens because the odds are higher when your earlier on in your pregnancy then you'll be stuck with all those gifts and it's just a reminder that you lost your baby

[@carlh42677]

I've never heard of people keeping their news for that reason. That's such bizzare conclusion to come to. It usually because they're anxious about the possibility of losing the child and don't want to go through the trauma of telling people and celebrating and then having to tell everyone it's over.

[@edf18]

Only tell those that are willing to support you if something should happen before the 12 weeks. It is overwhelming for everyone to come up to you about it too.

[@em-hw3cv]

It’s so lonely in those first few weeks and when announcing early to even those closest I 💯 had feeling of shame come up thinking and hoping the pregnancy would take and what if it didn’t 😢… so sad we feel this way

[@Taylor086]

Exactly. Just like how everyone has a mom and a dad, who made them, regardless if their parent(s) passed away or not. Everyone is still someone's child. Just like any woman who's had a baby inside of them, whether baby/child has passed away or not, still makes you a mom, and still makes father a dad. I'm so deeply sorry for what you had to experience. Your angel baby is watching over you guys from heaven.

[@gypsywanders]

No, its BC it is heartbreaking and some do not want to deal with everyone while coping with loss

[@marylee2732]

In Asian culture, It is easy to have a miscarriage before 12 weeks because it takes that long to attach itself and 160-20 weeks to fully attach itself to the womb. Ppl don’t talk about it before then or until they are showing because they don’t want to jinx it away. It is our way to be respectful.

[@alliepowter8977]

You are such an inspiration to this world !

[@vickyg6182]

A very powerful message! My mom had teo miscarriages after me (1 was a set of twins) and it really bugs me when people diminish its existence. Those electing for abortion should recognize it as it is. Yes scientifically it is a bunch of growing cells but I believe it already has a soul and thats what makes it different from say, an H-mole growth

[@Jjlavids]

Sort of unrelated but my son was born a couple weeks after Mother’s Day. But on Mother’s Day, even though I was 2 weeks from having him, I was SO excited to celebrate. I felt soooo happy, and everyone and their mother tried to tell me I couldn’t celebrate because I wasn’t a mom yet. As long as there is a little life in there, and you’re doing everything to care for baby, yes, you are a mom. I wish I wouldn’t have said anything and just celebrated on my own. Unfortunately as a new parent you always find yourself justifying yourself. 🤦🏽‍♀️ I finally saw that and I no longer care what others say! Congratulations to all the new mamacitas. Follow your gut HARD, it’ll be most noticeable now more than ever. ❤

[@shessupersalty]

I was completely alone. First person told me I wasn't a real mother .. so I refused to tell anyone, including my fiance that I was pregnant. I got to take 1 test. My only positive.. and then 3 days later. 😢 I'd have a 5 year old..

[@RoMaMa923]

I feel it doesn't matter when to announce when you're pregnant. Honestly, no pregnancy is guaranteed. I had a stillborn son when I was 7 months pregnant. I questioned if I was a mom. I then had my Rainbow daughter and then another daughter, and my last I miscarried at 8 weeks. The fear of having lost a child made each pregnancy hard. If the baby didn't move, I would go into panic mode. I had to think about my unborn baby that I might be stressing her with my anxiety. Thankfully, I worked at a hospital and allowed to use their doppler to listen to my baby's heartbeat. The poem I wrote about my stillborn is called "Am I a mother"?

[@MissSweetKisses1313]

I needed to hear this ❤

[@jnp444]

I think it's a norm because you never know what will happen. I was so excited when my mother was 7 or 8 weeks pregnant with a sibling, telling everyone at work... then she miscarried. My boss came to me a week or so later saying congrats, and I then had to explain that the baby didn't make it. I felt bad, but I can only imagine what my mother was going through while having to get condolences from people she told. It can be overwhelming when you're already going through a hard time

[@cerianne2783]

We tried for 4 yrs I got pregnant and told everyone. Then I lost it at 12 weeks and I had to go through the whole process of telling everyone and it was one of the worst experiences of my life. I quit my job because of it. It broke me... so do what you want if you don't want to keep reliving the pain and the story,, kept it to urself...

[@stellamaligkoura4584]

I had to leave my job too as they would not give me more time off - even with no salary ... Also, I didn't want to tell my story to every single one of my colleagues as I was 20 weeks and less that a year ago I had suffered a miscarriage on week 8. Life is not always black and white, and if a woman chooses to keep sth to herself, maybe there is a reason and let us all respect that choice ... Everyone is different

[@crystalfrost9868]

I waited until I heard a heart beat to announce then found out at 12 weeks, the baby was gone. It was extremely hard having to tell people over and over about the miscarriage. Even months later a person asked me about my pregnancy - and it hurts every time. If I ever get pregnant again, I will wait to announce, but thank you for reminding me that I am still a mom to my child that I love so much to this day.

[@mollypapazian4423]

I understand stand this reaction. It is such a unique and personal decision, though. We did everything to no avail. And then just "gave up" I naturally conceived and found out i was pregnant at 12 weeks.( I could have been on that 📺 show)I didn't tell anyone deliberately until I was 7 months because of trauma and every expert said" well....."I was 46. He is now 6 and perfect. I am now 52. (I was an o.g. preemie and have cerebral palsy). 🌈 #7

[@momteacherlessons7296]

I waited because i wanted to be sure i was past the higher chances of miscarriage phase. I couldn't bear the though of telling everyone amd hearing one after another ask about it or what happened. People shower with gifts. I didnt purchase until third trimester just in case.

[@juju_daughteroftheKing]

We will see them in heaven one sweet day🙌💯🥰

[@blue_is_not_sad]

Dude hearing you talk about this is crazy

[@kainak5493]

I've never thought of it this way. I can understand where you're coming from. Each person is definitely different, I know I'd tell my parents/grandparents as soon as I knew, but wait for the rest of the ohana/friends. I'd want the emotional support from my immediate family if something were to happen, but would hate to be bombarded by everyone else during a grieving period.

[@rosemarycorral28]

You are so right in saying your still a mom. God almighty is taking care of your baby in Heaven until you meet . God bless you and everyone whis list a child. 🙏🙏🙏

[@xJellyMx]

…..who the hell associates their identity with their reason for being private about the first trimester? Since when do women only view themselves as mothers after the first 3 months? A miscarriage is an incredibly sad event and many women would spare their loved ones the grief, and that’s why they stay quiet about it in the early days. There is nothing wrong with that.

[@donnadsmith853]

I has been 39 years since I lost my child. It was early in the pregnancy. I never told anyone. I Carried this every day. What would he/she looks like. I think of names and what our relationship would be like now. My Son is 36, and my daughter is 34. I have taken anything from my children, but miss my child

[@richardrybicki749]

Thank you. I kept both pregnancies I miss carried both.Have never considered myself a Mom

[@lauranunley2101]

Yes, as soon as u conceived that baby, u are a mom. Doesn't matter if u only carry that baby for a few weeks or months. God sent u a baby, but sometimes God knows something is wrong, as takes that baby back Home to be with Him. U will see ur baby u lost when u go Home to be with God and Jesus. It is heartbreaking to lose a baby, and the grieving period is different for each woman. Be grateful God brought u a baby, and know He will bring another baby that will be carried full term. If not, there are so many babies needing a forever home. As for the women who do wait the first trimester, they are scared of telling everyone, then losing their baby. Each woman is different in when they want to announce their pregnancy. As soon as I found out, I told everyone with all 3 of my children. God Bless u for speaking about so many subjects. I just found ur channel and have been watching pretty much nonstop the last 30 minutes.

[@cree878]

People don’t want to tell others till they are by the 12 weeks in case they lose the baby , bad enough that happening without having to tell everyone that you lost baby

[@ByeByeBelly]

Yeah but some people wait because there's an abnormality and they're considering termination

[@laurenskee2665]

You're 1000% missing the point. 1 out of 4 women experience a miscarriage in the first trimester. It is way more common than people think. I am so glad I didn't announce because it gave me time and privacy to process everything and to heal.

[@alexrader5822]

I get it but I’ll probably follow that norm when I do get pregnant, not to shame other moms but to save myself the added hurt of having to retell it over and over

[@babypink204]

I had the fear of this happening so i never announced my pregnancy ever...my unborn child became the pink elephant in the room to my close family & a huge surprise to my extended family once he was born🤷‍♀️

[@mrsmarvl]

Some people don't say for superstitious purposes. The Native American cultures are like that

[@karenwium7376]

I'm on your page. I would tell people to celebrate with me. There should be no shame abt a miscarriage, your body was just not ready. And everything happens for a reason. We should all be happy and sad with each other and support each other happy or sad.

[@smarternow]

I had 2 miscarriages at 11 weeks so I don’t blame them for waiting!!!! Let people do what THEY want and don’t judge!!!!

[@lourdie12]

That’s the reason you do not divulge your pregnancy to people. You do not know who is truly happy for you. You wait even after the 12 weeks to tell them.

[@callmepj4333]

I was so hurt when I learned I was going to be an auntie three months into the pregnancy…and that shit went downhill fast from there..

[@tinasoblessed6350]

In my family, we always wait to at least ¹6 weeks of pregnancy to tell everyone, for safety reasons. 👍🏼🙏🏽💐

[@skybueg469]

No! It’s because then you have all these people asking later so you have to “y tell” them. It’s heartbreaking. Worse than the removal of a bandaid

[@BLUEMOONinDECEMBER2]

You're a mom at conception. And you'll always be a mom even if you have miscarried. I agree with everything you said.

[@strawberryme08]

It’s personal preference. People can do whatever they wanna 😅

[@louiseisaac3124]

The reason why is because during the 1st trimester the body is most likely to eliminate the embryo, and we have no idea how mamy times it happens and think we're just having a heavy period. So i prefer the norm thank you.

[@bethanybouley2990]

I miscarried my only pregnancy on valentines day 12 years ago at 5 weeks. It was the most intense time of my whole life.

[@thehauntedhive]

Just bc you have a miscarriage, you are still a mom. Once you become pregnant, you are a mom. If you have an abortion, if you put your baby up for adoption, or if you raise your child, you are still a mom either ehich way.

[@captainknapton]

I don't think that people wait because they're not a mom before 12 weeks . I think it's to save you from going through a possible miscarriage publicly....I announced my pregnancies right away too though , because why not ? Either way we were gonna be fine....

[@melissajahn151]

I had a miscarriage 8 weeks in and this thought has tugged at me for 18 years. I was not able to get pregnant after and you made it ok

[@amiliabriseno5925]

I wanted to share with everyone when I first found out but some relatives and in laws told me to wait until I was in my 2nd trimester in case I have a miscarriage, & I DID not like that way of thinking at all and only made me anxious for my baby

[@allisonbridgman1664]

Yes you are a mother when you first become pregnant but some ppl with announcing their pregnancy wait to tell the internet because there telling there family and close friends. Another reason ppl wait to tell is because there scared of having a miscarriage like you said but they are still a mother.

[@helenageerts2115]

Noooo to me it’s because i do not want all the pitty When they don’t know they won’t tell me things like ‘i’m here for you’ ‘it’s going to be okay’ ‘you’re still young’

[@tiiredDolliiee]

People wait because there's high chance first three months of misscarage. It can make the loss harder with a million people asking or knowing. Sometimes I think that's also why people wait because at three months its more secure youve hit second trimester. Your odds of healthy baby aren't 100 percent But are higher then it was in first term. All stages matter for sure i agree.

[@bluewhale2600]

I agree with her, I’m sure NON pro life say it’s not true. They probably say it’s not a baby if you don’t want it or something stupid like that.

[@MissSweetKisses1313]

After having 3 miscarriages and people tell me sometimes I am not a mom because I did not give birth just angers me so badly

[@jaye282]

From a Christians perspective, whether you lost a baby to miscarriage, abortion or death, you WILL be reunited with your baby in Heaven. God loves you

[@SowingSeedsWithChristy]

I never thought about the title of mom or mother after a miscarriage. So sad.

[@brittanynichole7129]

Do you happen to know the name of the song that's playing in the background?

[@jadoresophya]

How about we encourage couples to do what is best for them. If you want to share at 8 weeks or 8 months do what's best for your family!

[@craftyjoy9]

I don’t think that’s what women are thinking when they don’t tell anyone except close family! It’s more of a superstitious thing! Ya don’t want to put the kabash on it! That’s how it is in my family! 🙋🏼‍♀️🙏🏻

[@jacquelinegrace3]

You are a Mom the minute you learn your baby is growing inside you!❤ If their Spirit only stays with their body a few days or weeks… that just means they didn’t need to be tested here on 🌎 Earth- they obtained their body- and now their Spirit can move in to the next level of existence ✨ when you pass you’ll see that child again in Paradise! 🌈💫🙏

[@TRAJW]

Thank you for this!