Having emotional boundaries saves you a lot!

[@merisalvi3210]

I have zero time to Play games I LEFT AND NEVER LOOKED BACK IS COMING TO 3 years now praise God

[@SaturatedInLoveTarot]

❤

[@5Luckyducky]

Amen

[@AngelaToliver]

I mirrored him. I grey rocked n went no contact. I found peace in not having to deal with his bull crap, lying and manipulation.

[@LucyL]

This video is a game-changer for those dealing with narcissistic people. If you’ve had enough and ready to take your life back, (especially if you’re unable to leave) put what Leon’s teaching here into practice. Empathetic people must “learn” how to act the way Leon’s describing. It’s not natural for us to be cold, stoic and unfeeling the way it is for the narcissist but it can be learned like anything else. I’ve begun practicing this and it really does begin a shift in how they see you and treat you IF you don’t back down. It helps me to think of it as “acting” out a part. I stop, take a deep breath, remember who I’m dealing with, then step into my role. Afterwards, I step back out but have greater respect for myself and have more courage each time I followthrough. So it’s causing a change in how I view myself as well. A narcissist is completely void of empathy for anyone except themselves. Acting comes naturally to them and they do it to hide their true motives. Their greatest fear is to be exposed and their fake caring masks falls off. On the other hand, an empathetic person involved with a narc, has little respect for themselves and accepts their abuse. They’re transparent with everyone, brutally honest about their own faults and gives too much, too fast. Both these extremes stem from past childhood dysfunction/trauma and “both” people need to change. By backing down or giving in, I never provided any motivator for my husband to change. By turning the tables, I’ve created boundaries that he’ll test but he’ll only see himself in my face , it’s not that I’m becoming a cold, unfeeling narc as he is, it’s simply becoming the person I should’ve been for myself, minus the narcissistic component of hurting others. Now when I need to interact, I “unemotionally” state I’m not accepting disrespect, gaslighting, stonewalling or leftover crumbs he throws my way. As soon as I spot or hear any of those, I state my case and walk away. I am purposely “vague” and keep it to fact sharing, because adult conversations are futile and details are only twisted into lies or used later to hurt me. I stay “unemotional” because my emotional reaction will be used to entrap me with the narc’s “emotional reaction abuse tactic” played against me. I’m learning to keep conversations to a “few words” and that’s really hard for me but the more you speak the more ammunition they store away to use against you later. If he stays or goes it no longer matters to me. I realized I’ve been on my own in this marriage the entire time. He’ll never care enough to put in any effort to change but he’s changing how often and how far he’ll push me. I’ve become the only pushback a narcissist will ever respond to and secretively respect/fear. They fear your strength and self-respect as potential for exposure, so it becomes your greatest weapon for them to back off whether you expose them or not. As Leon said, I had to learn to become a narc, when dealing with one…but I couldn’t do that UNTIL I realized that I need and deserve the same respect and love I so easily give out to everyone else but myself. After that, it became the next natural step to accept nothing less. I’ve become an unemotional red line in the sand, a big grey rock that responds to my husband like the immovable, unfeeling narcissist he is. In doing this, he affects me less and less but I’ve become the rock in the room he’s stubbing his toe on more and more. I’ve become his own cold reflection looking back at him, so anything he tries to do or say to hurt me, gets zero response. I get up and walk away unaffected because I am breaking the cycle of my own abuse and it feels great. Now he sees me happy, enjoying life again and getting stronger all the time...all without him. I’m taking my life back again and there’s no going back. You can too with the help and guidance of people who have lived a life of pain and hopelessness of narcissistic abuse and found the way out. Leon may be an anomaly and one of the few men capable of change but he has done more to help victims of narcissistic abuse with his transparent honesty and direct approach than most counselors in this field. Listen to him and put into practice what he’s talking about in this gem of a video. ❤Much love to Leon and all out there struggling with this. There’s always a way out and God will guide the way there if you ask and trust Him🙋🏻‍♀️🙏…

[@jazzyj.693]

SHE WAS ME BUT WHEN I STARTED TO GREY ROCK IT WAS A DEAL BREAKER & I FELT GOOD ABOUT IT TOO NO GUILT AT ALL

[@balancingfaithandlife]

I set a boundary yesterday, and they just couldn't take it. Oh, well. I'm ten toes down for my conviction

[@leonrwalkerjr]

@@balancingfaithandlife yep, it gets very hard!!!

[@AnnetteMack-cl2ff]

I don't understand the behaviors of the narcissist that draws the other person to want to stay with him. This disorder, provides me with no words, speechless.

[@LennyLefebvre-qb6qx]

Usually the people drawn to narcissists are recognising patterns from their own families and it feels familiar, normal, what one deserves or the best one can hope for.

[@leonrwalkerjr]

Yes, it’s really scary to be honest.

[@redbone8844]

I love your honesty! I’m 2 years free from my Narc who’s still writing me letters from jail I haven’t responded to any of them and never will!!

[@Brenda-t5r]

Yes. There's been a BUNCH of people who haven't been treating me well for several years now. I'm done taking their abuse. I'm a Libra, the Queen of Swords, in tarot. Lately, I've been pulling out my verbal sword and have been "lopping off heads". It feels Grrreat!!!

[@mariecruze259]

I gray rocked, and violence followed. Be careful I was hooved on Christmas, divorced since 2013

[@leonrwalkerjr]

Wow!!!! Yes, I always tell people to be careful. They never get over losing you, EVER!!

[@williamdillard8330]

The thing that makes it really difficult to deal with a narcissist is that we, as normally emphatic people, don't think the way you do. That is the reason narcissists are successful in creating trauma bonds.

[@SaturatedInLoveTarot]

❤

[@leonrwalkerjr]

I agree with you on that

[@morganjones2666]

This message is Accurate in its Entirety

[@SaturatedInLoveTarot]

❤

[@ivonkwAn6443]

Yes💯

[@bklynqueen5928]

I notice that. He likes drama the back n forth the lies I treat him like he treats me. He stay out next day or that weekend I stay out too. He act like he does nothing. Kick him out he come dragging back to my door. Even got in the basement to get in when Ik I locked up the house smh.

[@DoobieDoo-u5e]

I mirrored mine for 2 years

[@Vegan1018]

What was the outcome?

[@DoobieDoo-u5e]

@ a broken nose

[@lin-dundunduunnn]

@@DoobieDoo-u5e Oh my gosh! Im so sorry.

[@DoobieDoo-u5e]

@@lin-dundunduunnn thank you but you have no need to be sorry. Had to walk otherwise I wouldn’t had the choice