Honestly, I don't think I will ever be able to do this again... The moment the girl gives me the slightest resistance I've already forgotten about her. That how you become after thousands of approaches. I never chase, never persist, im sorry but I just can't, it sickens my body and mind.
@victorsuarez38 жыл бұрын
+Ed Gill Same here.
@eddies86748 жыл бұрын
Victor yep glad someone agrees
@woodensapphire41988 жыл бұрын
+Ed Gill that happened with my first approach ... but the second i won, cuz i was sure
@gonefishing65668 жыл бұрын
It really does sicken the body and mind leave it to the manginas and simp
@AlekNovy8 жыл бұрын
+Ed Gill DITTO I've actually laid a lot of super-hot girls using the persist bs... Let me tell you something. I felt sick to my stomach after every one of those orgasms. I didn't feel fullfilled. I was like "wait, your orgasm was much better, you obviously enjoyed this a lot more, you bragged to your friends are about hooking up with me, but you made me 'beg' - wtf kind of a scam is this!" I'd rather get laid 2-3 times a year effortlessly, than lay 20 girls a year with this perssisting BS. And I'm talking out of experience... I did get 20 lays a year using that crap. No thanks, not buying what women are selling, they can go and have a dildo with all their game playing crap.
@MegaPhannie7 жыл бұрын
hayley you are so much better than all the other dating advice channels out there. You are so refreshing! thank you!
@Mixinnitup8 жыл бұрын
Holy shit...This really does help. Not being rude or abrasive but just that bit of self-certainty and taking more of the lead not being all huffy and upset really brings about results!
@DanTuber9 жыл бұрын
I think Haley's next challenge is to dress up like a guy and see if you can pick up women. Only then will you realize how difficult the task is.
@Hamzak7869 жыл бұрын
I agree. 👍
@lorenzofranco84069 жыл бұрын
At the risk of sounding like a arrogant so and so, itubeutude, what makes picking women up so difficult for you? Me, personally, I put women on the defensive right away.What I mean by that is, I get her into a position whereby she needs the feel to impress me in lieu of it being the other way round. I make her question herself and make her feel like she has to win ME over as opposed to me winning HER over. You have to be confident with this strategy. There's no room for doubts. If you are successful with this strategy, you will find yourself with a women on top of you, riding you, trying to still win you over. Showing her worth and proving she is good enough for you. I studied psychology, when I was in prison 10 years ago. I ended up doing more research into psychology when I got out. It's almost reverse psychology on women, you could say.
@DanTuber9 жыл бұрын
Lorenzo Franco what makes it so difficult is they are so damn lazy. But please tell us your tricks.
@lorenzofranco84069 жыл бұрын
From the get-go, act like you couldn't careless if she liked you 'that way' or not. Then, she will question her attractiveness. She'd think, 'Guys are attracted to me. Why doesn't this wanker feel attracted to me.' As soon as she questions herself, that's when you know you have completed 'putting her on the defensive' stage. It's psychology. It's natural for men to go out and try impress women so they could sleep with them. You ever thought of feeling tired of trying to impress women. Well, it does work, believe it or not. Make her question herself. Make her doubt herself. From there on in, the game is rigged. She is trying to win you over because she doesn't understand why you, out of all men, are not attracted to her like all other men do.
@DanTuber9 жыл бұрын
Lorenzo Franco so in other words, play on her insecurities?
@kingklouis35637 жыл бұрын
I love the way you break down your exclamations a lot of women don't understand what men have to go through
@WillS.TheSuperReds.3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Hayley for the great video on how to make the first move. I have subscribed to your channel. I have realised it's ok to communicate / reply back when building a emotional connection with her before making a move and while gettingto know her a lot more. However one of the main things you need to do while interacting , building a connection and communicating with her is NOT to stare at her , but look into her eyes as they are the windows to her soul and listen to her (80% of the time) as this shows your paying attention and your listening to what she's saying , so then you can reply to her in the correct way. I have come to realisation that is what matters a lot to probably every women when building a (emotional) connection and earning her trust. Also push and pull by giving her some attention and time , then pull away by concentrating on your own purpose / goals in life then push again and give her some more attention/ time by asking questions (20% of the time) about her and listening (80% of the time) to her when she is talking. Rinse and repeat. Keep doing that even when you have successfully got her as your girl / wife to give her some excitement with you in your relationship. It's not always easy to do so , but it keeps her on her toes. This is what I'm going to do more with my female (coworker) crush when i get back to work with her and build the rapport, make our connection stronger, bigger and better and most of all do as i wrote above to show her i care about her and want to get to know her a lot more then we eventually fall more in love with each other and I can eventually make a physical move on her when she is more comfortable.
@philu35 жыл бұрын
Almost every girl: "sick of guys playing games" Also every girl: let's not say what we mean, and mean what we say...
@apurvavskr7 жыл бұрын
Awesome tip, Hayley. I've always let women go whenever they weren't sure. Now I realised that pushing a bit further would have closed things. I hope this works for me the next time I get a chance to use this. Thanks!
@williamnorwood97697 жыл бұрын
Hayley thanks for your great advice on being more direct and upfront about asking a woman out for a first drink/ coffee and making her aware how I feel about being in her company, and making me respect myself more and know I am loving caring person and having a confident approach in my human relationships, your a genuine lovely person and I love all your videos, William.,
@TheAbcoffer9 жыл бұрын
Totally have that problem with being assertive with making a date because I always give the girl the obvious out. Thumbs up on this video.
@pujaparekh30035 жыл бұрын
It’s a guy at work and I can’t take my eyes off him 🤦♀️🤦♀️I don’t know how to ask him out x please help
@soutram123455 жыл бұрын
Yes I will think on you...
@RedArrow20079 жыл бұрын
I don't drink coffee but I get the idea, I got modify it for the situation I am in...Thanks Hayley! :)
@Jesuslily5 жыл бұрын
If a woman likes a man she will definately say yes to his invitation the first time around. If she doesn't know if she likes him, she might hesitate. She can still be won though.
@mikest4688 жыл бұрын
So many times I've been thrown back because of a female's indecisiveness, that I kinda of felt that was an indication of a lack of interest. But I had no idea that I just had to stand firm and just roll with this"feminine resistance" so to speak. Thanks Haley Q, I can't wait to put his into action next time 👌🏾👍🏽👍🏽 😉
@Jake.The.Snake. Жыл бұрын
Hey how's it been working for ya, Mike?
@shubkale3763 жыл бұрын
I m going for it this week . This is all I needed .
@Matthew_Scan9 жыл бұрын
It didn't work for me :(
@enniswhalen24285 жыл бұрын
. . .. . .and THAT is why guys just wait to be asked out.You better be CERTAIN that she is actually interested. . . .
@tonystark55436 жыл бұрын
Firstly, I want to say that your work is excellent. Would you be able to create a video breakdown of how guys are approaching women in the street, having a conversation and then asking for numbers? Or how you would use your communication knowledge to apprach a woman in a public place and engage in a genuine and friendly conversation? Thanks once again and I look forward to watching your channel grow!
@u235u235u2355 жыл бұрын
way overthinking this. just chat her up for a few minutes and ask her out. if she rejects you, move on. you'd be shocked how many girls say yes or later say yes if you're staying in the same environment. don't overthink your approach. just talk and be natural, make the girl feel relaxed and force her to make a decision. yes or no. rejection is great actually, saves you a TON of time. ton of fish in the sea.
@zosterinski8 жыл бұрын
all these unnecessary games... what is so wrong in showing some interest for a guy. also, what is so wrong in wanting to go out with a girl just because you think she's cute and you want to get to know her, see how she's like.. it's just 15 mins and a coffee, like you said but anyway, thanks for the insiders
@pkramerable4 жыл бұрын
Never, EVER approach ANY woman at the gym. She'll more than likely complain to the management that you were "bothering" her, and guaranteed you will LOSE your gym membership.
@davidrichard43639 жыл бұрын
Thanks Hayley...never knew about this "feminine resistance" reaction before.
@imzzaudae8 жыл бұрын
Love this Video Rule # 1. When you approach any woman, or you ask a woman out. If she turns you down or shows any signs of disconnecting from the conversation , say have a nice day and walk away! Get the hint that she does not feel it for you. Don't be a stalker. Check out Coach Corey Wayne. Thank you Hayley always great stuff.
@sulti12749 жыл бұрын
You remind me of this woman that I have a crush on who I always see on the train whenever I'm going to the university. Too bad she avoids me anytime she sees me
@TheTiger8817 жыл бұрын
I asked a girl to meet me for coffee. She said she's very busy and she likes to catch up with friends business networking. She messaged me on Facebook to invite me at a masquerade ball. When I offered to buy champaign once there (being unsure of her intentions), she says "aw we your too sweet but I'm going with my boyfriend ". What do you make of that? Should I still pursue her? Is she just being feminine? I did see her at the party and she did arrive with someone.
@thisghy81267 жыл бұрын
Michael Cole that, my good man, is the friend zone. have a good stay
@TheTiger8817 жыл бұрын
I'm afraid I'm not being totally candid. She's actually married. What makes me think she is attracted to me is she's taking an interest on what I do (I'm s speaker) and she's giving me invitations to attend events. She's very "touchy". She touches me with her hands on my shoulder. I'm "smitten" with her and I am on the verge of losing control -)
@b.bigdaddy9 жыл бұрын
As much as I appreciate your efforts there Hayley.. what about those who give all the signs that they're interested, and once we ask them any simple question "not even asking them out" they back out, say no or refuse?!
@TheTrajcin7 жыл бұрын
sounds like a women with broken heart, that she wants to say yes, but she afraid to be hurt again.
@skalderman5 жыл бұрын
Tricks of the mind
@sbotros8 жыл бұрын
you're giving some of the best advice online. thanks!
@joelhamaker13467 жыл бұрын
You present the ideas quite well. Congratulations
@ouman813 жыл бұрын
Hey hailey do a cold approach and film it to show us how it's done
@804archie9 жыл бұрын
Yea imma stick to rsd but thanks
@adrianstefan54185 жыл бұрын
What is their point of view on this?
@jeffloflin63168 жыл бұрын
to funny..love this line..'No ones going to die if we get a coffee". Its a very positive statement.
@CellGames20067 жыл бұрын
Except unless it's a nightclub in Istanbul...
@robertfife56865 жыл бұрын
Great advice! Works like a charm. Thank you.
@marciosalvador6855 сағат бұрын
Is the juice worth the squeeze?
@philcoles10968 жыл бұрын
Hey Haley you're kind cute - I think we should grab a coffee sometime :)
@jpalpharo43047 жыл бұрын
Phil Coles smooth
@MaxSk8rr7 жыл бұрын
Fail, u didn't have a conversation yet ;)
@mafnpafn6 жыл бұрын
man, you're gooood! with so many comment likes you have already shown some alpha traits
@mmaxeator6 жыл бұрын
...and no one is going to die
@skalderman5 жыл бұрын
Switch it to beer if you are already in cafe
@peterblanc75954 жыл бұрын
it is still okay to say that women are women and men are men in 2019 or it's sexist ? I'm very confuse.
@renearredondo94965 жыл бұрын
Pure words of wisdom
@davidheisler30109 жыл бұрын
Thank you Haley. You're insights have been benefitial and fun. Yes..women resist. Expect it, It's fun to overcome it for her as a man Be a seducer. Don't buy her doubt, ever. It is disastrous. If she refuses..she is just afraid if some loss. She is simply refusing an offer, not you man.
@Jalinns9 жыл бұрын
I love your videos!! awesome advice, definitely will keep this in mind in future interactions
@Matthew_Scan6 жыл бұрын
I asked the girl out and she got me kicked out and my membership cancelled
@tilfrie9 жыл бұрын
Great advice. How would you suggest making it clear that you want to meet for coffee in a flirty way not a friendsy way? I've had people recommend that you actually refer to it as a date so that you don't end up with a 'yes let's meet as friends' response, but I'm not sure I like that approach because you're putting the pressure on them before giving them the chance to develop any attraction. Do you have any tips for avoiding the friendzone?
@raymason35805 жыл бұрын
What about us older Men who like younger Women in their 20s ? Any advice other than be a sugar daddy which i can't do.
@dablackpimp39558 жыл бұрын
Seems like she legit made this up on the spot
@lionheart051droid9 жыл бұрын
Nice video but in my country we don't do the coffe thing, anyone got something light and casual that can work in any country?
@michaelk4878 жыл бұрын
you are right I will try it
@TheSager079 жыл бұрын
Certainly one of your best videos... keep up the good work Luv :)
@keithmcwilliams72028 жыл бұрын
HQ - Haley Quinn or Headquarters for dating
@t.boscojr.57185 жыл бұрын
I had a crush on this girl in my school, I asked her out and she said well.. you're very sensitive and good guy, But I don't feel same way as you about. Damn I almost fainted in class, but immediately, I ran to the nurse's office. And nurse asked me if I was reading books or watching horror movie. I told her yes, i was watching horror movie, But I wasn't And she asked not to ever watch horror movies. Then she asked me to sleep for 4 hours to get my heart on normal race. Well... next day, I went to my counselor to ask her if I could just change my 1st lunch to second. My counselor denied it, but she changed some of my classes. 6th period was one of what my counselor changed for me. Well guess what happened next. In that class there were a girl who's a best friend to that girl rejected me. Damn she kept looking at me, plus she sits in front of me face to face. We kept looking at each other for several times. After 3 weeks, I noticed that I'm in love with her. Which is what I was not except it to be. I've told my friends what's going on. And They asked me to wait for couple weeks. Since in September until now. I'm afraid to go in front of her & say how I feel about her. I'm afraid to do that because I think these. (Theres not way I can like someone & get rejected then soon like someone's really closest friend, I think its doing correction on them, I think its weird) but basically I'm surely that I really like her a lots. Becausei cannot even move on while I still see her around, whenever I try to make a move to another girl, I feel like she's looking at me, and for me just end up give up. I'm so confused, I can't make a move to another girl, and I can't ask her out! Damn what should I do for really?! please help me before 20th of December The question is (Should I ask her out, or just forget about it?) Just make choice for me and explain please. Look, i can't even make a move, whenever I tried to make a move to another girl. I feel like she's looking at me and feel like I'm cheating. And I end up give up. I dont know what to do.
@mrBDeye8 жыл бұрын
That is great advice. I like it.
@lulu90309 жыл бұрын
I think this is very good advice. It's pretty likely to work on a girl (like me.)
@rickwarren1008 жыл бұрын
Hayley, I can really appreciate your advice/tips, but here is another quandary I face: I am 51 yrs old, very secure and confident in myself, BUT, what about an older man who is interested in younger women? (not like 18 year-olds, but even just a few years younger)...how to go about asking her out without her thinking of the whole "creepy old guy" syndrome that seems to be prevalent today? Thanks!
@munzekonza48618 жыл бұрын
+Rick Warren lil cash will get u long way ;)
@rickwarren1008 жыл бұрын
smh...figures.
@aliekilliko53388 жыл бұрын
+Rick Warren smh figures that you'd want a way younger girl when you "51". Jesus Christ.
@munzekonza48618 жыл бұрын
so what,he should die cause he is 51? or he should date only old ugly women ,or he shouldnt date at all..?
@rickwarren1008 жыл бұрын
Alie Killiko - if you can't read my comment correctly, please do not bother replying...I said, a FEW years younger, NOT "way" younger...wtf is wrong with you? Can a 51 year old not date a 35 year old???
@millerelex7 жыл бұрын
I watch your videos just to watch you. Lol, the popular psychology aspect is interesting to tho. Thanks for the vids!
@sriraagsridhar20119 жыл бұрын
you are awesome !! I am so gonna try this....
@youmarc117 жыл бұрын
I will try that Haley. Thanks.
@kyleat179 жыл бұрын
I love you so much hayley, great advice as always! (although I've been in a relationship for two years and I won't be using these tips anytime soon :] )
@Morbutt5 жыл бұрын
The whole "being assertive when she seems unsure" thing is crap. If a girl can't say even muster out a "Sure" or "Okay" and instead "Oh, I don't know..." then she isn't worth pursuing any further. Don't chase women that aren't interested in dates that last 15 minutes. *she will ghost on you*
@skalderman5 жыл бұрын
Dwoprus what do you mean by that ?
@Morbutt5 жыл бұрын
@@skalderman you shouldn't be chasing women. At the very least you shouldn't be going on dates with women that aren't enthusiastic about spending time with you. Find a woman who will gladly fit you into her schedule.
@NetKnowHow16 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing you knowledge.
@allsearpw38293 жыл бұрын
Hi, sorry that was me over head with my chopper making the noise ,if I had known it was you , we could have flown under the bridge and ask you for coffee .
@KeikoFXDesigns8 жыл бұрын
Thanx for the advise. Aloha.
@rickwarren1008 жыл бұрын
p.s.-I seem to have noticed that you don't really reply/respond to these public posts...how can we then trust your advice?
@defblo20007 жыл бұрын
what if she already has a boyfriend and pregnant?
@lemon49677 жыл бұрын
defblo2000 Avoid getting your ass beat by her spouse.
@mistagunther85698 жыл бұрын
Hayley my dear....you are awesome!!!!!!!!! Thx!😄
@Rachmanfan4life6 жыл бұрын
FYI guys… If you have to play this hard have a game to get a girl who is lukewarm about seeing you for coffee… She’s not into you. Point blank……Girls who are into you don’t act that way… It’s an automatic yes let’s go… More importantly though… You do not want a girl like this… You do not want to be out on a date with a girl who is obviously gilded into having coffee with you… You want to be out with girls who are into you only… Otherwise you are simply wasting your time
@nafism69699 жыл бұрын
Thats a beach??
@kay-p84499 жыл бұрын
+nafism6969 haha it was a joke bro
@lalind93937 жыл бұрын
This is GOLD ($_$) Thanks Hayley you're awesome!
@adamfindlay70917 жыл бұрын
this IS pretty sensible, HQ.
@performancewithoutlimits30937 жыл бұрын
Classic - good advice xx
@sloebone73997 жыл бұрын
Coffee date? I have no doubt it'll work but then you've got a coffee date, big deal. And it sounds like you may have to beg for it. "Please give me 15 minutes. I'll buy you a latte!" Because her time is precious and yours isn't. At least that's the message many women will take to heart. If she doesn't want to go grab a drink with you, you might want to walk away.
@u235u235u2355 жыл бұрын
only ask dinner dates. make it 100% obvious you want a romantic relationship. let her reject you so you can move to the next girl.
@allnotathome5 жыл бұрын
Yeah, who doesn't have time and money to pay for a dinner with a flaky woman and then have them reject you after that... dumbass.
@skalderman5 жыл бұрын
Number of dating coaches rising big. Whats happening in western world?
@dinomacak18424 жыл бұрын
I will do it haleys
@colinrodgers89407 жыл бұрын
Good advice.
@timharris68659 жыл бұрын
i highly doubt i will get a reply for this but im going to ask anyway, but what advice would you give to someone with aspergers syndrome?
@PhilHarmonicus9 жыл бұрын
Tim Harris People with Asperger's or ASD (Autistic Spectrum Disorder) should not be put off by having been labelled as being 'different'. Having ASD just means that you (we) look at the world in a different way from people with very low ASD (everybody has it to some extent). Please consider any advice about masturbation or watching porn as suspect, Masturbation is normal and a healthy outlet as long as it doesn't become a habit. With regard to electromagnetic radiation from monitors, if that were true then there would be warning signs on every monitor. Your question was about how someone diagnosed with ASD should approach a girl. Well, Hayley's a girl and what she said was good advice for anyone because it describes an approach that is non-threatening or confrontational. Just remember not to push things if the girl says no. The difficulty you might have is in reading what she really means when she doesn't say yes. It might be that she says "I can't right now" or "some other time". In which case you suggest a time. If she still says she can't make it then she probably means 'no'. If she really can't make it and she likes you then she will suggest a time, which is a great sign.
@ricky28068 жыл бұрын
this was awesome....and it works to open minded guys..so if it dd not work for you try again...It was a great video lady
@jrrs49717 жыл бұрын
Hello Hayley!Could you make a video about what do women think about politeness? because it seems in Brazil women take advantage of you or simply avoid you if you treat them politely however,if you are rude you get more atention from them...plz I would like tô know if that happens only in Brazil or not.btw I really like your tips They have been very useful for me
@ghostrider26647 жыл бұрын
It's universal.
@jonatan01908 жыл бұрын
kiss on 2nd date?
@thecoldhardtruth13903 жыл бұрын
No coffee, you need to do something reasonably long in the length of time
@jolsonator8 жыл бұрын
this is golden guys.
@alirezaz.mofrad32354 жыл бұрын
You are great.
@lokinsea6 жыл бұрын
Why does this place look so cold.
@notlookinforahug9 жыл бұрын
This is so not true lol. Betas start conversation... Alphas say what they want, are experts at countering objections, and move on when she decides to play cute or coy... fuckin hell
@NehemiahDC6 жыл бұрын
Don't go on coffee dates. Have fun at night.
@KenRuan7 жыл бұрын
My date dipped her chin in ice cream. #whoa
@aetomota85046 жыл бұрын
this is gonna lead to the guy getting accused of sexual harassment
@ghmonroe98728 жыл бұрын
Quite frankly Hayley, I think you and I should grab coffee sometime ... KIDDING, KIDDING!! Sorry, I just couldn't help myself.
@NetKnowHow16 жыл бұрын
I like what you said in your tube vid. I build landing pages for my marketing and I have blogs for authority building. I will be looking at your channel.
@thecoldhardtruth13903 жыл бұрын
I'm going for lunch at the ???? Restaurant, would you care to join me? Perfect and simple
@virus13759 жыл бұрын
Your a Badass woman Hayley Quinn!
@Vanessinha91Pucca7 жыл бұрын
Actually the secret that you haven't said too is that you guys need to sound natural when say that.
@pauloricarddo84147 жыл бұрын
thx for the tip...but now I fell in love with you
@miuyiyuyo8 жыл бұрын
i love your videos i would love to see some more of women resistance, and how does it works..........
@selfelements80377 жыл бұрын
Are you british?
@lloydlarmond75879 жыл бұрын
lol, dwl!!!! you r so interesting got to watch again
@PrasunPalit9 жыл бұрын
You are awesome :) You remind me of my best-friend. :p
@CivilAviation17 жыл бұрын
3:55 that's the most stupid thing I've ever heard. "Not asking out a girl you've never talked to" haha, only in britain, lads.
@Baldoxxx40007 жыл бұрын
thats some dirty water!
@TheBeautyGamer18 жыл бұрын
You are so much better then kezia noble
@fiammag848 жыл бұрын
I want the opposite, same advice but for women!
@gerRule7 жыл бұрын
Holy Flame men won't say no
@tpc2000-v6p6 жыл бұрын
Goddammit, just get to the point.
@guydecervens9 жыл бұрын
Women really do put up resistance. Never take 'No' for an answer. 'No' is the new yes. 'Yes' means yes. ''No' means yes.
@guydecervens9 жыл бұрын
Dominic Lobban Nah, it's ok mate apparently we live in a 'rape culture'. A feminist told me so. Brilliant ain't it?
@supaflylob9 жыл бұрын
guydecervens you know better than to trust a feminist
@RedArrow20079 жыл бұрын
lol, you think too much like a guy, you can generally tell, by their tone, and facial expression on whether yes is yes and no is no.
@caitlinmcclintock45739 жыл бұрын
No means no and yes means yes
@guydecervens9 жыл бұрын
Caitlin McClintock So why do dumb feminists say ''yes means no''?
@gerRule7 жыл бұрын
Just offer her a line of Coke and she's yours
@RingJando7 жыл бұрын
Hayley, you have a mic on your shirt and you're smashing your hand against your chest - bad for sound! I think you're lovely . . . how about coffee some time? (lol)