Making The First Move (With Low Risk Of Failure)

[@eddies8674]

Honestly, I don't think I will ever be able to do this again... The moment the girl gives me the slightest resistance I've already forgotten about her. That how you become after thousands of approaches. I never chase, never persist, im sorry but I just can't, it sickens my body and mind.

[@victorsuarez3]

+Ed Gill Same here.

[@eddies8674]

Victor yep glad someone agrees

[@woodensapphire4198]

+Ed Gill that happened with my first approach ... but the second i won, cuz i was sure

[@gonefishing6566]

It really does sicken the body and mind leave it to the manginas and simp

[@AlekNovy]

+Ed Gill DITTO I've actually laid a lot of super-hot girls using the persist bs... Let me tell you something. I felt sick to my stomach after every one of those orgasms. I didn't feel fullfilled. I was like "wait, your orgasm was much better, you obviously enjoyed this a lot more, you bragged to your friends are about hooking up with me, but you made me 'beg' - wtf kind of a scam is this!" I'd rather get laid 2-3 times a year effortlessly, than lay 20 girls a year with this perssisting BS. And I'm talking out of experience... I did get 20 lays a year using that crap. No thanks, not buying what women are selling, they can go and have a dildo with all their game playing crap.

[@MegaPhannie]

hayley you are so much better than all the other dating advice channels out there. You are so refreshing! thank you!

[@Mixinnitup]

Holy shit...This really does help. Not being rude or abrasive but just that bit of self-certainty and taking more of the lead not being all huffy and upset really brings about results!

[@DanTuber]

I think Haley's next challenge is to dress up like a guy and see if you can pick up women. Only then will you realize how difficult the task is.

[@Hamzak786]

I agree. 👍

[@lorenzofranco8406]

At the risk of sounding like a arrogant so and so, itubeutude, what makes picking women up so difficult for you? Me, personally, I put women on the defensive right away.What I mean by that is, I get her into a position whereby she needs the feel to impress me in lieu of it being the other way round. I make her question herself and make her feel like she has to win ME over as opposed to me winning HER over. You have to be confident with this strategy. There's no room for doubts. If you are successful with this strategy, you will find yourself with a women on top of you, riding you, trying to still win you over. Showing her worth and proving she is good enough for you. I studied psychology, when I was in prison 10 years ago. I ended up doing more research into psychology when I got out. It's almost reverse psychology on women, you could say.

[@DanTuber]

Lorenzo Franco what makes it so difficult is they are so damn lazy. But please tell us your tricks.

[@lorenzofranco8406]

From the get-go, act like you couldn't careless if she liked you 'that way' or not. Then, she will question her attractiveness. She'd think, 'Guys are attracted to me. Why doesn't this wanker feel attracted to me.' As soon as she questions herself, that's when you know you have completed 'putting her on the defensive' stage. It's psychology. It's natural for men to go out and try impress women so they could sleep with them. You ever thought of feeling tired of trying to impress women. Well, it does work, believe it or not. Make her question herself. Make her doubt herself. From there on in, the game is rigged. She is trying to win you over because she doesn't understand why you, out of all men, are not attracted to her like all other men do.

[@DanTuber]

Lorenzo Franco so in other words, play on her insecurities?

[@kingklouis3563]

I love the way you break down your exclamations a lot of women don't understand what men have to go through

[@WillS.TheSuperReds.]

Thank you Hayley for the great video on how to make the first move. I have subscribed to your channel. I have realised it's ok to communicate / reply back when building a emotional connection with her before making a move and while gettingto know her a lot more. However one of the main things you need to do while interacting , building a connection and communicating with her is NOT to stare at her , but look into her eyes as they are the windows to her soul and listen to her (80% of the time) as this shows your paying attention and your listening to what she's saying , so then you can reply to her in the correct way. I have come to realisation that is what matters a lot to probably every women when building a (emotional) connection and earning her trust. Also push and pull by giving her some attention and time , then pull away by concentrating on your own purpose / goals in life then push again and give her some more attention/ time by asking questions (20% of the time) about her and listening (80% of the time) to her when she is talking. Rinse and repeat. Keep doing that even when you have successfully got her as your girl / wife to give her some excitement with you in your relationship. It's not always easy to do so , but it keeps her on her toes. This is what I'm going to do more with my female (coworker) crush when i get back to work with her and build the rapport, make our connection stronger, bigger and better and most of all do as i wrote above to show her i care about her and want to get to know her a lot more then we eventually fall more in love with each other and I can eventually make a physical move on her when she is more comfortable.

[@philu3]

Almost every girl: "sick of guys playing games" Also every girl: let's not say what we mean, and mean what we say...

[@apurvavskr]

Awesome tip, Hayley. I've always let women go whenever they weren't sure. Now I realised that pushing a bit further would have closed things. I hope this works for me the next time I get a chance to use this. Thanks!

[@williamnorwood9769]

Hayley thanks for your great advice on being more direct and upfront about asking a woman out for a first drink/ coffee and making her aware how I feel about being in her company, and making me respect myself more and know I am loving caring person and having a confident approach in my human relationships, your a genuine lovely person and I love all your videos, William.,

[@TheAbcoffer]

Totally have that problem with being assertive with making a date because I always give the girl the obvious out. Thumbs up on this video.

[@pujaparekh3003]

It’s a guy at work and I can’t take my eyes off him 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️I don’t know how to ask him out x please help

[@soutram12345]

Yes I will think on you...

[@RedArrow2007]

I don't drink coffee but I get the idea, I got modify it for the situation I am in...Thanks Hayley! :)

[@Jesuslily]

If a woman likes a man she will definately say yes to his invitation the first time around. If she doesn't know if she likes him, she might hesitate. She can still be won though.

[@mikest468]

So many times I've been thrown back because of a female's indecisiveness, that I kinda of felt that was an indication of a lack of interest. But I had no idea that I just had to stand firm and just roll with this"feminine resistance" so to speak. Thanks Haley Q, I can't wait to put his into action next time 👌🏾👍🏽👍🏽 😉

[@Jake.The.Snake.]

Hey how's it been working for ya, Mike?

[@shubkale376]

I m going for it this week . This is all I needed .

[@Matthew_Scan]

It didn't work for me :(

[@enniswhalen2428]

. . .. . .and THAT is why guys just wait to be asked out.You better be CERTAIN that she is actually interested. . . .

[@tonystark5543]

Firstly, I want to say that your work is excellent. Would you be able to create a video breakdown of how guys are approaching women in the street, having a conversation and then asking for numbers? Or how you would use your communication knowledge to apprach a woman in a public place and engage in a genuine and friendly conversation? Thanks once again and I look forward to watching your channel grow!

[@u235u235u235]

way overthinking this. just chat her up for a few minutes and ask her out. if she rejects you, move on. you'd be shocked how many girls say yes or later say yes if you're staying in the same environment. don't overthink your approach. just talk and be natural, make the girl feel relaxed and force her to make a decision. yes or no. rejection is great actually, saves you a TON of time. ton of fish in the sea.

[@zosterinski]

all these unnecessary games... what is so wrong in showing some interest for a guy. also, what is so wrong in wanting to go out with a girl just because you think she's cute and you want to get to know her, see how she's like.. it's just 15 mins and a coffee, like you said but anyway, thanks for the insiders

[@pkramerable]

Never, EVER approach ANY woman at the gym. She'll more than likely complain to the management that you were "bothering" her, and guaranteed you will LOSE your gym membership.

[@davidrichard4363]

Thanks Hayley...never knew about this "feminine resistance" reaction before.

[@imzzaudae]

Love this Video Rule # 1. When you approach any woman, or you ask a woman out. If she turns you down or shows any signs of disconnecting from the conversation , say have a nice day and walk away! Get the hint that she does not feel it for you. Don't be a stalker. Check out Coach Corey Wayne. Thank you Hayley always great stuff.

[@sulti1274]

You remind me of this woman that I have a crush on who I always see on the train whenever I'm going to the university. Too bad she avoids me anytime she sees me

[@TheTiger881]

I asked a girl to meet me for coffee. She said she's very busy and she likes to catch up with friends business networking. She messaged me on Facebook to invite me at a masquerade ball. When I offered to buy champaign once there (being unsure of her intentions), she says "aw we your too sweet but I'm going with my boyfriend ". What do you make of that? Should I still pursue her? Is she just being feminine? I did see her at the party and she did arrive with someone.

[@thisghy8126]

Michael Cole that, my good man, is the friend zone. have a good stay

[@TheTiger881]

I'm afraid I'm not being totally candid. She's actually married. What makes me think she is attracted to me is she's taking an interest on what I do (I'm s speaker) and she's giving me invitations to attend events. She's very "touchy". She touches me with her hands on my shoulder. I'm "smitten" with her and I am on the verge of losing control -)

[@b.bigdaddy]

As much as I appreciate your efforts there Hayley.. what about those who give all the signs that they're interested, and once we ask them any simple question "not even asking them out" they back out, say no or refuse?!

[@TheTrajcin]

sounds like a women with broken heart, that she wants to say yes, but she afraid to be hurt again.

[@skalderman]

Tricks of the mind

[@sbotros]

you're giving some of the best advice online. thanks!

[@joelhamaker1346]

You present the ideas quite well. Congratulations

[@ouman81]

Hey hailey do a cold approach and film it to show us how it's done

[@804archie]

Yea imma stick to rsd but thanks

[@adrianstefan5418]

What is their point of view on this?

[@jeffloflin6316]

to funny..love this line..'No ones going to die if we get a coffee". Its a very positive statement.

[@CellGames2006]

Except unless it's a nightclub in Istanbul...

[@robertfife5686]

Great advice! Works like a charm. Thank you.

[@marciosalvador685]

Is the juice worth the squeeze?

[@philcoles1096]

Hey Haley you're kind cute - I think we should grab a coffee sometime :)

[@jpalpharo4304]

Phil Coles smooth

[@MaxSk8rr]

Fail, u didn't have a conversation yet ;)

[@mafnpafn]

man, you're gooood! with so many comment likes you have already shown some alpha traits

[@mmaxeator]

...and no one is going to die

[@skalderman]

Switch it to beer if you are already in cafe

[@peterblanc7595]

it is still okay to say that women are women and men are men in 2019 or it's sexist ? I'm very confuse.

[@renearredondo9496]

Pure words of wisdom

[@davidheisler3010]

Thank you Haley. You're insights have been benefitial and fun. Yes..women resist. Expect it, It's fun to overcome it for her as a man Be a seducer. Don't buy her doubt, ever. It is disastrous. If she refuses..she is just afraid if some loss. She is simply refusing an offer, not you man.

[@Jalinns]

I love your videos!! awesome advice, definitely will keep this in mind in future interactions

[@Matthew_Scan]

I asked the girl out and she got me kicked out and my membership cancelled

[@tilfrie]

Great advice. How would you suggest making it clear that you want to meet for coffee in a flirty way not a friendsy way? I've had people recommend that you actually refer to it as a date so that you don't end up with a 'yes let's meet as friends' response, but I'm not sure I like that approach because you're putting the pressure on them before giving them the chance to develop any attraction. Do you have any tips for avoiding the friendzone?

[@raymason3580]

What about us older Men who like younger Women in their 20s ? Any advice other than be a sugar daddy which i can't do.

[@dablackpimp3955]

Seems like she legit made this up on the spot

[@lionheart051droid]

Nice video but in my country we don't do the coffe thing, anyone got something light and casual that can work in any country?

[@michaelk487]

you are right I will try it

[@TheSager07]

Certainly one of your best videos... keep up the good work Luv :)

[@keithmcwilliams7202]

HQ - Haley Quinn or Headquarters for dating

[@t.boscojr.5718]

I had a crush on this girl in my school, I asked her out and she said well.. you're very sensitive and good guy, But I don't feel same way as you about. Damn I almost fainted in class, but immediately, I ran to the nurse's office. And nurse asked me if I was reading books or watching horror movie. I told her yes, i was watching horror movie, But I wasn't And she asked not to ever watch horror movies. Then she asked me to sleep for 4 hours to get my heart on normal race. Well... next day, I went to my counselor to ask her if I could just change my 1st lunch to second. My counselor denied it, but she changed some of my classes. 6th period was one of what my counselor changed for me. Well guess what happened next. In that class there were a girl who's a best friend to that girl rejected me. Damn she kept looking at me, plus she sits in front of me face to face. We kept looking at each other for several times. After 3 weeks, I noticed that I'm in love with her. Which is what I was not except it to be. I've told my friends what's going on. And They asked me to wait for couple weeks. Since in September until now. I'm afraid to go in front of her & say how I feel about her. I'm afraid to do that because I think these. (Theres not way I can like someone & get rejected then soon like someone's really closest friend, I think its doing correction on them, I think its weird) but basically I'm surely that I really like her a lots. Becausei cannot even move on while I still see her around, whenever I try to make a move to another girl, I feel like she's looking at me, and for me just end up give up. I'm so confused, I can't make a move to another girl, and I can't ask her out! Damn what should I do for really?! please help me before 20th of December The question is (Should I ask her out, or just forget about it?) Just make choice for me and explain please. Look, i can't even make a move, whenever I tried to make a move to another girl. I feel like she's looking at me and feel like I'm cheating. And I end up give up. I dont know what to do.

[@mrBDeye]

That is great advice. I like it.

[@lulu9030]

I think this is very good advice. It's pretty likely to work on a girl (like me.)

[@rickwarren100]

Hayley, I can really appreciate your advice/tips, but here is another quandary I face: I am 51 yrs old, very secure and confident in myself, BUT, what about an older man who is interested in younger women? (not like 18 year-olds, but even just a few years younger)...how to go about asking her out without her thinking of the whole "creepy old guy" syndrome that seems to be prevalent today? Thanks!

[@munzekonza4861]

+Rick Warren lil cash will get u long way ;)

[@rickwarren100]

smh...figures.

[@aliekilliko5338]

+Rick Warren smh figures that you'd want a way younger girl when you "51". Jesus Christ.

[@munzekonza4861]

so what,he should die cause he is 51? or he should date only old ugly women ,or he shouldnt date at all..?

[@rickwarren100]

Alie Killiko - if you can't read my comment correctly, please do not bother replying...I said, a FEW years younger, NOT "way" younger...wtf is wrong with you? Can a 51 year old not date a 35 year old???

[@millerelex]

I watch your videos just to watch you. Lol, the popular psychology aspect is interesting to tho. Thanks for the vids!

[@sriraagsridhar2011]

you are awesome !! I am so gonna try this....

[@youmarc11]

I will try that Haley. Thanks.

[@kyleat17]

I love you so much hayley, great advice as always! (although I've been in a relationship for two years and I won't be using these tips anytime soon :] )

[@Morbutt]

The whole "being assertive when she seems unsure" thing is crap. If a girl can't say even muster out a "Sure" or "Okay" and instead "Oh, I don't know..." then she isn't worth pursuing any further. Don't chase women that aren't interested in dates that last 15 minutes. *she will ghost on you*

[@skalderman]

Dwoprus what do you mean by that ?

[@Morbutt]

@@skalderman you shouldn't be chasing women. At the very least you shouldn't be going on dates with women that aren't enthusiastic about spending time with you. Find a woman who will gladly fit you into her schedule.

[@NetKnowHow1]

Thank you for sharing you knowledge.

[@allsearpw3829]

Hi, sorry that was me over head with my chopper making the noise ,if I had known it was you , we could have flown under the bridge and ask you for coffee .

[@KeikoFXDesigns]

Thanx for the advise. Aloha.

[@rickwarren100]

p.s.-I seem to have noticed that you don't really reply/respond to these public posts...how can we then trust your advice?

[@defblo2000]

what if she already has a boyfriend and pregnant?

[@lemon4967]

defblo2000 Avoid getting your ass beat by her spouse.

[@mistagunther8569]

Hayley my dear....you are awesome!!!!!!!!! Thx!😄

[@Rachmanfan4life]

FYI guys… If you have to play this hard have a game to get a girl who is lukewarm about seeing you for coffee… She’s not into you. Point blank……Girls who are into you don’t act that way… It’s an automatic yes let’s go… More importantly though… You do not want a girl like this… You do not want to be out on a date with a girl who is obviously gilded into having coffee with you… You want to be out with girls who are into you only… Otherwise you are simply wasting your time

[@nafism6969]

Thats a beach??

[@kay-p8449]

+nafism6969 haha it was a joke bro

[@lalind9393]

This is GOLD ($_$) Thanks Hayley you're awesome!

[@adamfindlay7091]

this IS pretty sensible, HQ.

[@performancewithoutlimits3093]

Classic - good advice xx

[@sloebone7399]

Coffee date? I have no doubt it'll work but then you've got a coffee date, big deal. And it sounds like you may have to beg for it. "Please give me 15 minutes. I'll buy you a latte!" Because her time is precious and yours isn't. At least that's the message many women will take to heart. If she doesn't want to go grab a drink with you, you might want to walk away.

[@u235u235u235]

only ask dinner dates. make it 100% obvious you want a romantic relationship. let her reject you so you can move to the next girl.

[@allnotathome]

Yeah, who doesn't have time and money to pay for a dinner with a flaky woman and then have them reject you after that... dumbass.

[@skalderman]

Number of dating coaches rising big. Whats happening in western world?

[@dinomacak1842]

I will do it haleys

[@colinrodgers8940]

Good advice.

[@timharris6865]

i highly doubt i will get a reply for this but im going to ask anyway, but what advice would you give to someone with aspergers syndrome?

[@PhilHarmonicus]

Tim Harris People with Asperger's or ASD (Autistic Spectrum Disorder) should not be put off by having been labelled as being 'different'. Having ASD just means that you (we) look at the world in a different way from people with very low ASD (everybody has it to some extent). Please consider any advice about masturbation or watching porn as suspect, Masturbation is normal and a healthy outlet as long as it doesn't become a habit. With regard to electromagnetic radiation from monitors, if that were true then there would be warning signs on every monitor. Your question was about how someone diagnosed with ASD should approach a girl. Well, Hayley's a girl and what she said was good advice for anyone because it describes an approach that is non-threatening or confrontational. Just remember not to push things if the girl says no. The difficulty you might have is in reading what she really means when she doesn't say yes. It might be that she says "I can't right now" or "some other time". In which case you suggest a time. If she still says she can't make it then she probably means 'no'. If she really can't make it and she likes you then she will suggest a time, which is a great sign.

[@ricky2806]

this was awesome....and it works to open minded guys..so if it dd not work for you try again...It was a great video lady

[@jrrs4971]

Hello Hayley!Could you make a video about what do women think about politeness? because it seems in Brazil women take advantage of you or simply avoid you if you treat them politely however,if you are rude you get more atention from them...plz I would like tô know if that happens only in Brazil or not.btw I really like your tips They have been very useful for me

[@ghostrider2664]

It's universal.

[@jonatan0190]

kiss on 2nd date?

[@thecoldhardtruth1390]

No coffee, you need to do something reasonably long in the length of time

[@jolsonator]

this is golden guys.

[@alirezaz.mofrad3235]

You are great.

[@lokinsea]

Why does this place look so cold.

[@notlookinforahug]

This is so not true lol. Betas start conversation... Alphas say what they want, are experts at countering objections, and move on when she decides to play cute or coy... fuckin hell

[@NehemiahDC]

Don't go on coffee dates. Have fun at night.

[@KenRuan]

My date dipped her chin in ice cream. #whoa

[@aetomota8504]

this is gonna lead to the guy getting accused of sexual harassment

[@ghmonroe9872]

Quite frankly Hayley, I think you and I should grab coffee sometime ... KIDDING, KIDDING!! Sorry, I just couldn't help myself.

[@NetKnowHow1]

I like what you said in your tube vid. I build landing pages for my marketing and I have blogs for authority building. I will be looking at your channel.

[@thecoldhardtruth1390]

I'm going for lunch at the ???? Restaurant, would you care to join me? Perfect and simple

[@virus1375]

Your a Badass woman Hayley Quinn!

[@Vanessinha91Pucca]

Actually the secret that you haven't said too is that you guys need to sound natural when say that.

[@pauloricarddo8414]

thx for the tip...but now I fell in love with you

[@miuyiyuyo]

i love your videos i would love to see some more of women resistance, and how does it works..........

[@selfelements8037]

Are you british?

[@lloydlarmond7587]

lol, dwl!!!! you r so interesting got to watch again

[@PrasunPalit]

You are awesome :) You remind me of my best-friend. :p

[@CivilAviation1]

3:55 that's the most stupid thing I've ever heard. "Not asking out a girl you've never talked to" haha, only in britain, lads.

[@Baldoxxx4000]

thats some dirty water!

[@TheBeautyGamer1]

You are so much better then kezia noble

[@fiammag84]

I want the opposite, same advice but for women!

[@gerRule]

Holy Flame men won't say no

[@tpc2000-v6p]

Goddammit, just get to the point.

[@guydecervens]

Women really do put up resistance. Never take 'No' for an answer. 'No' is the new yes. 'Yes' means yes. ''No' means yes.

[@guydecervens]

Dominic Lobban Nah, it's ok mate apparently we live in a 'rape culture'. A feminist told me so. Brilliant ain't it?

[@supaflylob]

guydecervens you know better than to trust a feminist

[@RedArrow2007]

lol, you think too much like a guy, you can generally tell, by their tone, and facial expression on whether yes is yes and no is no.

[@caitlinmcclintock4573]

No means no and yes means yes

[@guydecervens]

Caitlin McClintock So why do dumb feminists say ''yes means no''?

[@gerRule]

Just offer her a line of Coke and she's yours

[@RingJando]

Hayley, you have a mic on your shirt and you're smashing your hand against your chest - bad for sound! I think you're lovely . . . how about coffee some time? (lol)