He Only Goes For HOT Women But He Ain't Attractive Himself

[@Kyutie.]

beep boop

[@lovelia69]

hope you are too!!!

[@jungwoniz]

you too!!

[@hooney_bear]

You toooo (:

[@Cashhh4]

You as well Kyutie!! 🤭🤭

[@Nicholaspimpinsohard]

I am doing great my dear sweet friend!!!

[@pickachu45]

I don't think op was wrong in the first story. He brought gifts for her kids, he could have just thought about his own siblings and not get them anything but he brought gifts for them too. Like kyutie said it'll take time for op to consider his step siblings like his own. Joy talking to him that way is wrong too she should feel happy that he considered buying gifts for her kids Second story: Good friends always make you realise if you are on a wrong path and push you towards the right one so op was not wrong because he wanted good for his friend, if hai friend considers him a good friend then he'll realise whatever op said was for his own good .

[@kaileychambers6969]

First story: Joy is clearly just entitled. She wants to automatically become the OPs family without earning that. You don't just waltz into their life and expect to replace their blood family/immediately be treated the same as blood family. Not to mention she's acting entitled to their money, despite the fact OP didn't have to buy her kids anything. Second story: I think OP was right to bring up his friends standards. It's a tough love kinda thing. Sometimes you need someone to point out if you're being unreasonable or having a blind spot in the reality of a situation. Clearly he brought it up to try to help his friend, not to bring his friend down a peg for malicious reasons. Third story: I can understand not wanting to clean up after someone else like that, but it's his pregnant wife, who he knows is struggling. Like it or not, part of having loved ones is having other people to care for, and that can mean a lot of things. Having a baby or very elderly family member for instance means there will be limitations on what that loved one may or may not be able to do for themselves, and you should be there to help when reasonably possible. Sometimes you don't want to do something but you do it anyways because that's part of loving someone. Dude is wrong for the way he handled it for sure, especially at the end mentioning he was telling people he knows about it smh.

[@lunarialoonatic]

Also the fact that in the third story he went back to bed 😭 boy didn’t even stay to make sure she got up safely

[@kaileychambers6969]

@@lunarialoonatic That's a good point too that I forgot to mention. Like if she has told him he was free to do that or didn't want help it'd be one thing, but he straight up ignored her asking for help and knowingly left her to struggle alone. Honestly seems like he doesn't even really care about his poor wife

[@valeriebrathwaite8541]

I'm 43 in a wheelchair partially paralyzed due to brain and spinal cancer. I have to use a diaper because I can't always feel when I have to go. I've had accidents but I'm lucky my friends understand and help me, so does my mom. I live with her and recently had a bad gastro bug. She cleaned up everything without me even asking her. She knew I can't do it. The woman is pregnant and doing stairs then is very hard. In fact when my sister was pregnant she was told not to do any stairs. He should definitely have helped her. I'm sure she do it for him if needed. It's not the end of the world, when you love someone you help them.

[@cheesecakereligion22]

I do agree that Joy is in the wrong, but I dislike the way he basically says “I don’t really know what I got them, but it was cheap”. I understand spending less, but it sounds like OP put very little thought into the presents.

[@natashamathews6182]

@Red Fern Finch and to add to your point, the kids were so young like what big gifts would they need? It's not like they'd even require anything much at that age.. And even if they did, maybe stepmom could have told op something about it or just bought it herself because hey they're her kids after all and why would she expect a 16yo to do so much for her kids when they prolly don't mean much to him... Honestly she should just be grateful that op even bought her kids some gifts though he didn't have to..

[@froopster3425]

Story 3 got me really upset!!! Apart from not helping her clean up, WHY is he discussing such a sensitive situation with coworkers? Grow up dude 😡

[@winniethepooht5776]

Exactly!!! He just wanted validation that he was right. Also, she's pregnant and stairs are dangerous. He didn't even stay up to make sure she was safe?? The uterus is pressing heavily on the bladder during pregnancy, so it's common for pregnant women to have accidents.

[@blueroses4373]

Right . She can't even see her feet and isn't supposed to be bending down . What a a$$face

[@watersheep9587]

i saw the same post the other day and the dude literally compared it to peeing himself cause he was drunk too

[@lucidfangirl1030]

@@watersheep9587 yea she skipped reading that part i saw it in the video

[@watersheep9587]

@@lucidfangirl1030 ah i usually listen to her videos while i make dinner so i never really read it on screen

[@shadysunflower2099]

For the third story, he’s completely wrong. That’s his wife, his spouse who he’s clearly intimate with. They should have little/no embarrassment between them in sharing things. It’s already strange that the wife felt embarrassed from a situation that she has no control over(tho it’s understandably normal). He’s also allowed to feel icky towards the mess, yeah but he should have no hesitation in helping her. At least, she told him honestly how she felt afterwards too. He definitely needs to put in more effort and understand better. Like, he’ll only clean after things that can’t do it themselves? That kinda implies he’ll stop after the child reaches a certain age. But a child is still a child even if they’re potty trained, they’ll occasionally need assistance just like his wife.

[@jademarin4206]

and what if he haven't woken up? she would have had to clean up herself anyway. it's not like she would have to get down on her knees to clean up, moppe the shit out of that piss. Nowaday, pregnacy is almost a disease, "i can't! i'm pregrant!" so?

[@shadysunflower2099]

@@jademarin4206 you’re really pressed about this 😐 like, she was on the floor crying in a puddle of pee, she was clearly just exhausted and needed help. She wasn’t whining about her pregnancy. If he didn’t wake up, then of course she’d clean it herself. She was embarrassed for god’s sake, so she likely wouldn’t have left it laying around. But he *was* awake and so she asked him 🤷

[@lucidfangirl1030]

True, even after being potty trained, alot o children still pee themselves from time to time

[@meiuzumaki7440]

@@jademarin4206 I do agree with you to an extent because even when I was really sick threw up and made a mess, I cleaned after myself. My mom was there but I simply didn’t want her stay up cleaning after my mess. Even if she was exhausted so was he. And he even offered to get her clean PJs. She should’ve just done it herself and not ask him in my opinion.

[@lunarialoonatic]

@@jademarin4206 okay but he could have at least helped out in some way. Given her cleaning supplies or at least waited up for her with new pajamas. Instead he didn’t even wait to help her up the stairs?

[@ericlindgren212]

Good men help their partners. That's why they're called good men.

[@PokeFan-tk1iu]

I don't know what the mom in the first story was on about because in my family the younger kids generally get less expensive gifts anyways because most of the time the interest of older kids are generally more expensive.

[@ericawoods545]

Hospital workers like nurses and sitters have to clean up strangers “mess” all the time. You mean to tell me a family member/husband won’t help clean up his own wife’s mess? Like what the hell! It’s not a big deal. Help people when they need help!

[@amateurflor13]

dude is also 16 and makes his own $. what the heck is he supposed to do? why not tell him what the kids even needed or wanted beforehand? she's lucky he even decided to get them gifts

[@siddhianishkala4543]

their* they* them*

[@laurensmith7573]

The guy from the last story better hope he doesn't become incontinent when he's older because he won't get any help 🤷‍♀️ although his wife might be a better person than him and help him

[@cheyblake2475]

What mess was he talking about?

[@winniethepooht5776]

@@cheyblake2475 pregnant women usually have to pee alot because the uterus is pressing on the bladder, so it's pretty common for them to have accidents. Pregnancy can cause stomach trouble, too, but it's most likely that she wet herself.

[@meiuzumaki7440]

Older people sometimes can’t clean up after themselves. Just like he said that he would clean up after his baby because the baby can’t do it alone. Pregnant women can clean up after themselves without help most of the time. That’s the difference. Is not that she couldn’t do it herself she just didn’t want to, because she was tired and in pain.

[@pandorasangelxx]

@@meiuzumaki7440 The fact that she was tired and in pain is a good enough reason alone for him to help her.

[@meiuzumaki7440]

@@pandorasangelxx yeah but he was tired too and he didn’t want to. Just like her. And he did offer to help by getting her clean pajamas, he just didn’t want to clean the mess. Either of them could do it tbh.

[@im_just_vidu]

I wonder if that man said "through sickness and health" in his wedding vow. Because pregnancy isn't even a sickness and she carrying HIS child inside her. If he's not going to help her when they're still young, I wonder if he'll take care of her if she actually gets sick. Imagine getting terminal illness with a husband like this. He would either ditch her or won't look at her at all.

[@SecretlyTwoFrogsInATrenchCoat]

The pregnant lady can't even get down the stairs very well and he thinks she can just easily clean it up off the floor??

[@nancyomalley6286]

The second story with the delusional friend: OP basically described George Costanza (Jason Alexander from Seinfeld)

[@gwynethsarmiento2742]

the husband who didn't help the wife is so annoying because dude, she is literally carrying your baby? what if (not wishing for this but) she or he gets sick and can't fend for themselves in the future? like when they grow old and stuff? taking care of each other is the priority and if u can't help her by simply cleaning? that is NOT love and i would consider a divorce right immediately

[@PhantomMagician1846]

IDK about considering a divorce over this. the guy was 100% in the wrong and should have helped. people make mistakes and his mistake needs to be called out and they need to talk about it. but if one is going to consider a divorce every time their husband/wife makes a mistake then one will have along life alone

[@ellieroth1309]

In response to story 3, I have a story of my own: In late 2019 my husband had become incontinent due to medicines he was taking. Sometimes he would make it to the toilet, and there were times where he wouldn't. I never expected him to clean up his own mess. He felt horrible having me clean up after him, but I knew that if he tried to clean the floor, he wouldn't get back up, so I told him that it wasn't a problem. And as his health declined I continued looking after him, and cleaning up after him until he was hospitalized and passed away in December of 2020. There's no reason not to care for your partner like that. When you say those vows, it's a lifelong commitment. For better or worse.

[@flawfuljinx]

TLDR. Some people have a warped sense of reality sometimes, some not their fault but some definitely at fault. Story 1. Joy is completely missing the idea that OP's blood family has been in his life much longer than his step-family. Family isn't made in a day, it's made over time. Story 2. OP said everything right, even if suggesting therapy was a bit far. His friend needs to realise that having "reasonable standards" and being good-looking doesn't really matter at some point. I have a feeling he's going to end up with any gold digger who tells him what he wants... Story 3. OP kinda the AH but understandable not cleaning up another person's mess. The thing is, it's his WIFE who's struggling because of THEIR baby. He could have spent just one night being uncomfortable and actually comfort his wife instead of putting emphasis that he needed to get up in "three hours to go to work to provide for them". Again, understandable, but he'll eventually realise that when the baby comes there will be more mess, more exhaustion, and less time for either of them to clean up for themselves. It might be fine now but not being supportive of each other is going to hurt in the long run.

[@winniethepooht5776]

The last story had me heated. Notice how the husband mentioned everything that *he* does around the house before he told the story? He wants to beef up his own image so others would agree with him. He mentioned he does dishes and laundry and takes care of the cat because she can't. Those are all good and fine, great even. But they don't compensate for not helping take care of your wife. During pregnancy, the bladder becomes more and more compressed as the baby grows in the uterus. Accidents are common for many pregnant women. Your wife already had to deal with living in a house with stairs, which are very dangerous and should be avoided when pregnant because the woman is at a higher risk of falling. She was already feeling humiliated, but your reaction made it so much worse. She's PREGNANT, you smooth-brained jerk, she can't even see her own feet. Bending down would be difficult and even dangerous for her to do. It's perfectly normal to be disgusted with having to clean the mess, but you should suck it up and help her anyways. He just went back to bed without even making sure she was safe climbing the stairs?? On top of that, he had the NERVE- THE COJONES- to tell his coworkers that his wife wet herself??! Not just one, he went around the office asking opinions. He said they were mixed, but I doubt they were that mixed. He didn't come to Reddit because he wasn't sure he was wrong. He came to get further validation for what he did. If he thinks that way about his wife's accidents, he's not ready for a child. They have diapers to be changed, they spill, spit up, puke, they have accidents during potty training, babies are messy! Way messier than a little puddle. This guy better hope he doesn't have anything like this happen to him one day.

[@ItsOnlyJenN]

That was not the first story

[@winniethepooht5776]

@@ItsOnlyJenN my mistake😅

[@meiuzumaki7440]

He did say it has happened to him before, he just cleaned up after himself. And the wife could just mopped the floor she didn’t need to bend down. I get that it’s difficult for her but things are also difficult for him, she could’ve just done it herself. But he shouldn’t have told his coworkers.

[@winniethepooht5776]

@@meiuzumaki7440 you still have to bend down to mop it up. You have to wring out the mop. Even if you use a Swiffer or something you still have to bend down. Even so, she's pregnant, he was drunk. Everything is so much harder when you're pregnant, the poor thing can't even get in and out of bed without a struggle. Husbands struggle during pregnancies, too, but not like the wife does. It's *her* body going through extreme changes, he just has to deal with the outside effects. Even if there is extra mental and physical strain on him, he can still walk upright. He can just hop out of bed. He can go down stairs with ease. He can shower without worrying about the higher risk of falling and hurting himself. If he needs clean laundry, he can just pick up a basket without worrying about toppling over. Being drunk and being pregnant aren't even on the same plane. A good husband would have enough kindness to help his pregnant wife clean up and get up the stairs safely. He didn't care at all and he humiliated her.

[@gazoontight]

First story: Joy is wrong. Period. Second story: on the one hand, you should never be afraid to introduce yourself to the most attractive person. On the other hand, going only for the supermodel type means you miss out on opportunities to date women who might be compatible with you. If you want other people to give you a chance you need to give other people a chance. Third story: that is an embarrassing situation, but accidents happen and she’s pregnant. Husband should have cleaned up. She’s pregnant with his child. She is his wife. He’d better understand that he is a married man and he is going to have a lot of sleepless nights and it was terrible for him to make his pregnant wife clean up.

[@anamazing2297]

The first story irks me, because it's the _adults_ responsibility to care equally about all the children. The kids, however, should not be _expected_ to show the same level of affection. Especially if they're older, they may have trouble accepting -- let alone loving -- new people calling themselves family. Forcing it just pushes them farther away.

[@Musicalsfangirl]

Story 2: The ‘attractive’ people who are out there are either one of 2 things: 1.) they are already taken, and will reject you. OR 2.) They’re attractive but their personality may suck, or they aren’t smart. Looks fade with time as you age, but personality and intelligence usually last the longest. That’s what really counts. The last story is horrible. I was staying the night at a friend’s house when my then boyfriend started throwing up in the kitchen sink. The friend had gone to work, so I ran around finding stuff to clean it up with while my boyfriend laid back in bed feeling awful (as you do when you’ve just thrown up). What’s more, we’d been together for only 1 or 2 months. I was in a house that wasn’t mine, clearing up sick that wasn’t mine. This dude needs to get over himself and be there for his wife, even in messy circumstances like this.

[@meiuzumaki7440]

But when I make a mess I don’t expect people to clean up for me so I sorta understand how the guy feels.

[@pandorasangelxx]

@@meiuzumaki7440 But his wife is pregnant. She is already going through a lot as it is. His wife didn't explicitly say that he had to clean it all up, just asked if he could help her. The least he could've done is thrown away the paper towels or dealt with the towel she used to clean it up. And the fact that he went IMMEDIATELY to bed after giving her PJs is pretty messed up. He didn't even bother to check to make sure she got up the stairs safely. I know that cleaning up somebody else's mess is pretty gross, but that is his wife. He already cleans up after the cat and will have to deal with all of the messes a baby and a kid makes, so helping clean up a puddle on the floor seems pretty easy to me. Your partner is supposed to be there for you no matter what, and pregnancy comes with a lot of issues like this. He is responsible for getting her pregnant, so he should be responsible for helping her deal with it.

[@meiuzumaki7440]

@@pandorasangelxx but you have to understand that the guy is going through a lot too having to work long hours and do housework and then also help her too. He is not responsible for getting her pregnant. They did it together no? So it’s the child she is having is the responsibility of both of them. I feel like asking him to do all that is a bit selfish, I mean cleaning a little mess like that hardly takes more than five minutes and it is not difficult. So either of them could have done it and go back to bed. But putting all the blame on the guy seems wrong to me. They are supposed to work together…

[@pandorasangelxx]

@@meiuzumaki7440 I wasn't trying to put all the blame on the guy. If it came off that way, I sincerely apologize because that was not my intention. Perhaps I worded it wrong. Of course they both agreed to have a child, but she is the one who has to carry that child and deal with all of the problems that come with that. I know it can't be easy for her emotionally and physically, especially with all of the hormonal changes she is going through and at such a late stage in the pregnancy. I do sympathize with him too because, yes, he does have to deal with a lot as well, like working long hours, doing housework, taking care of her, etc., which I know can't be easy. At the end of the day, they are both going through a lot so they should be working as a team.

[@meiuzumaki7440]

@@pandorasangelxx exactly, they should be a team! That’s what I am saying! Also I am sorry if I misunderstood you! I do think he should have helped her a little more but I also think people are being too hard on the husband who is also doing his best. Even if he did handle it wrongly…

[@PhantomMagician1846]

The 1st story is a reminder why I am not a fan of Christmas. The Holiday should be about getting together with friends and family not about who gives what gifts to whom and how much they cost.

[@brellie763]

This is so true. Man it's sad how materialistic everyone has become. Getting more expensive gifts and comparing what everyone got is all so many people care about and not about being with friends and family and having a good time.

[@PhantomMagician1846]

@@brellie763 The true Christmas spirt is lost on allot of people

[@AngelPyra]

Joy sounds kind of entitled in the first story. On one end, I can understand her position, but I also understand op's. On one hand, you would think the trust would have been more there before they got married so she probably felt the op should know them better by now. On the other, op clearly doesn't see them as family yet. That pivotal moment of, "this is my family now" hasn't fully kicked in yet. This will probably eventually put the father in the position of having to choose between Joy and his son if they fail to properly reconcile. I think that while the second op probably wasn't wrong in intentions, the approach could have been done better. I would have dug up some golden ratio calculator sites to give him a more objective idea. I then typically say date within 1 of your rating. So if you are a 7, you can date 6s to 8s realistically. The third story is less about her being unable, and more about how embarrassed she felt about it all. In addition... when pregnant, it enhances sense of smell. This means those accident smell like 10x worse. There are parts of marriage in which it's less that your partner can't and more being there for moral support. That's like if your best friend calls you for a ride so they don't do anything stupid and you tell them to walk because they can without actually understanding why they want the ride to begin with. It's less about the mess and more about being there so they can trust you to be there for them later. If you can't handle helping her when she's uncomfortable, it means you won't be there for many other things. To her it was an emotional need more than a physical need.

[@robertvirnig638]

In the last story, I'm sorry since he is half responsible for getting her pregnant, to be fair he is half responsible for whatever struggles she is going through with the pregnancy including this mess. But if you are keeping score like this there are some issues with the relationship.

[@rmmoonchild1473]

My favorite type of video 1. An am I wrong video 2. Kyutie is the one doing it 3. Like before I watch cuz I know its gonna be good 4. Life is better immediately

[@rmmoonchild1473]

@Luna the Pug 루나 🌸 oooh those r good too, I just like unbiased judgement so I guess that's where I get the love for these more

[@GabbyGaburieru]

ya that guy should've helped his wife that's awful that he didn't help her better!

[@kristalparsons5473]

Even if you DO consider 'the steps' as real family, you STILL don't know them as well as your OWN family. Besides, has anyone ever considered that when stepmoms are trying to FORCE Dad's biological kids to get along with theirs, they may be trying to set up a situation that sort of 'levels the playing field' when it comes to the point of inheritance? If Dad leaves his money to the bio kids, if all the kids are close, the bio kids are more likely to SHARE. Also, if she wants OP to buy HER kids more presents, she should fork over the cash for that. You cannot say, "Get a job!" and then in the same breath, "Oh, by the way, this is what you have to spend your money on." It's his money, he can spend it how HE chooses.

[@Levi_Yuki]

The second story, I think the best way to explain what the guy was saying was that his friend needed to be more open minded.. Because that kind of mindset he has is pretty unhealthy..

[@katiarodriguez5015]

I don't think people realise what a toll on the body pregnancy takes. Some women end up having incontinence in their 30s because of what it does to your pelvic floor. The LEAST he could do is help her out what a dick lol

[@Hope-fv3kf]

#1 Mom & Dad should be responsible for buying the children gifts. It is NOT a siblings responsibility to buy gifts that do not come from her heart.

[@gingko6495]

Third story: When my mother gave birth to me, I heard that she can't get up from bed for a while. She pooped and peed on the bed. My father cleaned everything.

[@tardismole]

So, the last story. The bloke has already forgotten his marriage vows after just one year? In good times and bad times, for better or for worse? Not ringing any bells? Also, people get old and their bodies fail, or they could have an illness or have an accident that leaves them debilitated. If he can't help his wife when she is pregnant with his child, then what use is he going to be if something worse happens and she is left bedridden? He's so in the wrong, he's pathetic.

[@leahcox2661]

Story 2 he needs to remember that beauty is only skin deep but ugly goes clear to the bone. Some people may not looks like what he has in mind and in putting off everyone else. There are a lot of really good hearted, kind and loving people out there that would put the beauty to shame in the long run

[@FunSizeSpamberguesa]

Blended families have to blend naturally; trying to force it just ends in resentment and deliberate distancing.

[@riel4553]

Story 3: ooooof he told people at work????? KZbin has been bombarding me with "Coworkers are not your friends!!!11" videos, and this guy told something private and embarrasing about his wife? Good luck at the next office party!

[@lovelia69]

i love your hair ellen! your voice is so sweet! you're so entertaining!

[@shellecebusiness7244]

The first story hits home for me my dad moved in with this lady that had two kids before my dad and my mom had kids after one Xmas I got my brother a gift he asked for and got her kids gifts too but I don't live with or know them so I just got random things same amount of stuff but not as expensive turns out my brother and her oldest goes are in the same class and she went home to complain to her mother that I got my brother brand name things but got her stupid dolls that she doesn't even like then my dad calls me complaining how I got blood family better gift i told him straight i don't know those kids nor do I care and me and their mother hate each other anyways so they should be lucky I even thought of getting them anything. Haven't gotten them anything since and lady cheated on my dad multiple times after but he still won't leave her

[@luvsachkash]

The step siblings,step mom's ,step dads wow.. common on kids can't keep accepting the new mom's or dad's family as their home. It's rude to expect it also

[@scarletfokx1449]

I wouldn't have waited so long to tell the guy that he is fguly and all the girls who have settled for him only needed him for one thing and never wanted anything more from him anyway.

[@persephone3309]

He also wanted successful beautiful women so he weren't even going for broke beautiful women he just wanted the whole full package

[@tanishakeny6629]

the inputs ellen gives between the stories are so therepeutic. imagine her and wizardliz being friends omgmgmg

[@katechiconi]

I'm wondering what Joy's kids will be buying for the OP and his blood siblings? After all, they're now family too. I bet it's nothing. Interesting how it only goes one way...

[@valeriebrathwaite8541]

Exactly! Especially considering they're 5 and 7 and have no money. With time maybe they'll get closer. If it was me I'd treat them equally but that's because I know how it feels to be rejected by family. All my siblings are half siblings and way older, they resent my dad had me and took it out on me. Kids are innocent and should not be punished. Now as an adult we have a little better relationship.

[@jocelyn_thomas]

Joy's kids are (I forgot) like 5 and 6 something right. What do you expect them to buy?

[@jellyjasmin9496]

The guy in the second story is exactly same as my step bro . My step brother is like below average looking guy nd doesn't have a good job also but when the family suggest him to go for blind date he just wants the ethereal looking girl which obviously say no to him then he get mad about this nd also criticised people so much like this girls nose is big, her skin is tone is not that good, her eyes doesn't look good though he has tons of flaw

[@tanajhtrinidad2047]

Being drunk is totally different from being pregnant😭

[@umasvlogsanddisabilityreso9377]

Second story: I read the thumbnail and title alone and I know way too many people that are like this. Maybe even worse, there’s one in particular I’ll talk about. I go to college with multiple creeps that want nothing but a “soulmate”. They’ll ask the first person they find physically interesting without even talking to them probably EVER beforehand and ask them to be their boyfriend or girlfriend. The dude I know that I’m about to talk about background: Let’s call him Bob. Bob is a creep that is SO desperate for love that he’ll go on people’s instagram profiles and look at their following pages and then he’ll DM that friend to see if the person they follow has their standards (which are nonexistent, I know that’s contradicting but you know, anyways.) Bob will look at the pfp without even looking at the bio or even knowing to what extent the person that someone follows that he is “interested” in knows them (internet or irl friends). When it comes to friends, he’ll be nice til he gets bored, then consequences happen (blocked, reported, etc) then he’ll beg for amends til you call the campus safety staff because he doesn’t even realize that everything bad he’s ever done has had a consequence. This dude is charming, girls get bored of him /break up with him clearly at 5 days because he gets bored that quickly. He will go 3 days before moving on to someone else. It’s disgusting how some people are, when they think so highly about themselves that they won’t think of other people’s feelings and standards. The dude in the second story needs to suck it up, I hate to say so but he does. He’s a manchild

[@littlemschat1052]

Ew i wouldnt think of asking a kid to fork out money, especially for her own benefit (her own kids). Get a job Joy

[@oshawottblue5648]

I agree with OP in the first story but it also makes sad because I got reminded of the first Christmas with my new step cousin who was 10. My bio cousin (18) got all his bio siblings (13 and 16) really great gifts for them, and he gave my step cousin one Hot wheel car, that he apparently already had because my step cousin likes collecting Hot Wheels cars. Now imagine my step cousin's face he see all his new siblings get big expensive gifts from he's older sibling and he get one Hot wheel car he already has. Not to mention my step cousin did a lot of chores around the house so he could save up money to buy them gift they would like on Christmas.

[@icequeen8736]

Step cousins should not be a thing. He is even less related to him than a step sibling and he really didn't even have to get him anything.

[@icequeen8736]

I see no problem with giving the kid a litle car especially since you say the guy collected them meaning it's in good condition.

[@erzsieke]

@@icequeen8736 no I think the op means that it was her cousin’s step brother

[@oshawottblue5648]

@@erzsieke yes actually

[@Hope-fv3kf]

Unattractive...I hope the guy would spend time with a woman like the one he wouldn't give his number to. He might find out she could be a wonderful person to spend time with and possibly find he could fall in love with her. Beauty is skin deep

[@spinasoul]

I do hate the family behaviour on the first story, you cant force a kid to buy stuff for those who they dont want to and I hate how this also goes into all your family, like if I hate who my aunt marries I have no obligation to gift him the same quality and quantity as I would gift my aunt

[@TokioHotelMeow12]

My mom and aunt regularly make each other laugh so hard that they pee themselves. I joke with them that they need to carry extra pants whenever they meet up. My mom peed herself laughing at the dinner table. I did not hesitate to get up and start cleaning the chair she was sitting in as she went to jump in the shower. Another time my aunt peed herself laughing in the car. A FAMILY FRIEND, who only met my aunt a few times before, immediately started wiping down the leather seats. She had no relation to my aunt and zero responsibility to clean anything let alone pee, yet she willingly did it. If a stranger can clean someone’s pee how can a husband not help his wife clean up? I question if he even loves her. He sounds very selfish.

[@_ristchein_8451]

It was an accident. I just couldn't hold it anymore. I pissed myself once and my cousin saw me.😭🤦🏻‍♀️ I told her not to tell anyone and here I am🧍🏻‍♀️ lol

[@ravenmindful673]

In the first story I can see how Joy is entitled, but I can definitely see how the step siblings would feel left out and simply not loved. Hope their relationship improves because if it doesn't I definitely see a future of resentment. At least they got cute toys.

[@kez-uk5hx]

Your hair is so pretty! You are gorgeous ❤️

[@lilicorn7963]

I was 18 when my half brother was born. I have always considered him my brother because my step dad has been a dad to me instead of my biological father who's an asshole who abandoned us. I've seen the kid be born, I bought him diapers and clothes and my mom loves us the same. I would totally understand that somebody would need time to get to know and love added people in their family, and even though they are living together for a long time, they might never consider them the same, and that's okay. You can't force love on anyone

[@slytherin_shadow6940]

I think we need more information on the third one. My cousin is highly afraid of germs and I'll admit that I am too, the thought of cleaning up someone else's mess, no matter who they are, grosses me out. My cousin lent her sister a pair of pants and she made a mess in them, my cousin burnt the pants after six months because despite washing them she couldn't get over what happened in them. It is possible that OP also just gets really uncomfortable with that kind of thing and therefore I don't think he's the asshole, you have to experience it to understand it but the fear of germs really is overpowering and if it is between having a panic attack (during which I will likely accidentally hurt myself; I often shake uncontrollably, lose my balance, claw at my own skin until I bleed or scrub my skin raw to "be rid" or the dirty germy feeling) or the other person having to clean up themselves I'm choosing the second option. I know that sounds really bad but I also know that as a female, even if I was pregnant I would clean it up by myself because I would never want to put someone in that position.

[@Thatgirly777]

It's different between a friend and a wife bc you made a life long commitment to them "in sickness and in health "

[@Jinx_of_Nyx]

How do you expect your pregnant wife to clean up a mess on the floor when you’ve already established that she’s too pregnant to even clean your cat’s litter box???

[@Nikita-wj1ls]

The fact that he compared it to when he been drinking a few to many beers to her being pregnant smh 🤦‍♀️

[@kurapikakurta1997]

Story 2: if he wants to only go after attractive women, let him. It’s his mistake if he gets rejected. Someone shouldn’t need to go to therapy because of their preferences.

[@zebnemma]

If you can't date anyone less than model level attractiveness that's not a preference lmao. There's already a word for it and it's called being shallow.

[@kurapikakurta1997]

@@zebnemma then nobody needs to go to therapy for being shallow

[@autumn99312]

In the first story, I think if Joy is that stepmother who treats them all equally, then I can understand why she got pissed at op for not considering her kids as equals. Not saying op is wrong cause everyone takes time to adapt themselves and accept change. Op can't be forced in accepting them as family. I am just saying that if Joy herself is non-biased when treating the kids, then op being biased is bound to make her angry.

[@drummergirl2319]

First story: While you can't force a kid to accept a stepfamily, I do think this teen was thinking selfishly in buying his or her younger stepsiblings one lousy gift each and buying his or her own blood siblings multiple awesome gifts. I mean, I get it, teens are so narcissistic in their stage of development that people can't even be diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder until they're 25. But there was a lesson to be learned here, and this kid didn't learn it. It's not about him or her. It's about how his or her younger stepsiblings will feel only getting one gift while the others get more. It's not like they'll be opening presents separately. These kids are going to see they got way less than their older stepsiblings. It doesn't matter if this teen can't accept his or her stepfamily. That doesn't mean he or she has to perpetuate this you're-not-blood-so-you're-not-family idea to the kids. Second story: Oof... and op didn't even tell the guy he was unattractive... just that he needs to lower his standards for women and he went nuts. That dude's a mess. He needs to stay single. Third story: If your idea of marriage is "I'll do all this extra stuff as long as I'm not uncomfortable, but the minute it's actually self-sacrificial, you're on your own," then you shouldn't get married. Dude was an a-hole. Women in their third trimester can barely bend down to put on their shoes, and he wants her to clean up her urine in the middle of the night? She needs to know the accident doesn't matter to him and he'll take care of her no matter what, but he embarrassed her more by acting like a middle schooler about it. And then he goes and tries to make the excuse that he's a great husband because he does all these other things that don't bother him! I'm siding with mama on this one. Hope he has a son that pees on him the first time he goes to change the diaper.

[@ghostofthemoon]

they are part-time working and don't even really know their much younger step-siblings. They are so much younger so they don't have a lot in common so it makes sense they don't actively spend a lot of time together with them. You can't throw around NPD with a kid that doesn't want to spend a lot on people they consider strangers when they barely make money and saved for months just getting things for the siblings they are close with. No, this kid isn't that entitled. They need time to adjust and accept the new family. Forcing that on someone too quickly will only push them away. Also, the part of the brain that NPD affects isn't fully developed until the age of 25. That's why they don't diagnose it before that age.

[@barbara-annperry5941]

Give the guy Shallow Hal dvd and tell him to watch it.

[@andreaherrera9017]

I love your vids sm 💗😭 been here since 2018

[@louisejohnson6057]

First of all, let's stop rating people on their looks. How about we concentrate on what kind of person they are.

[@Crimsonzs]

I only go after Australian women who's KZbin channel is named 'Kyutie' 😳 LMAO I'M SORRY FORGIVE ME

[@Nicholaspimpinsohard]

What Joy doing complaining about the gifts that he bought, for your information he bought those gifts with his money so he can do whatever he wants with his money. Joy saying they're family well what if her and their dad were to get a divorce one day, then their automatically no longer siblings because their not blood. In this second story, when I go for a woman, I go for her because she is kind hearted, and plus I care way more about their personality and if we click right away. If you fall for someone just because of their looks, then that relationship will not last very long. I am very strongly looking for love and not just some fling. I would tell him to stop acting so cocky because on a scale of 1 to 10 he's 4 so reel your ego back. You're going to make it where you're an easy target for women to pick on. Of course your mom said your handsome and you look good well news flash that's what all moms tell their sons in order to boost their confidence. In this story, why would Dani feel embarrassed? She's married that husband so the time for embarrassment was back when they were just dating. She's pregnant that's a normal and completely natural thing. He's a punk ass for saying that to her to her because she's pregnant with his child so he should do everything in the world for her because that is his wife and she's pregnant. I love you!! Stay safe!!

[@melizabernardo3124]

I love your looks today 🤩 simple yet gorgeous 😻🥰 happy holidays kyutie 💞

[@jeanetteandersson7152]

I would show the friend “Shallow Hal” with Jack Black and Gwenyth Paltrow,(don’t kill me, I’m dyslectic) and the guy that plays “George Constanza”, maybe it would make the rusty, slow wheels in his head spinning...

[@melissahenry4730]

I absolutely love new videos :)

[@nikkiralaniakea9527]

I can’t believe how annoying and entitled the step mom is in the first story. Even greedy, be grateful he got them anything at all just to be nice.

[@12anichi]

In the last story, I totally agree with the guy unless it's pee. I can't see myself having kids because I know I can't handle the blowouts and projectile vomit. I get triggered by the sound of people blowing their nose. I'm not a germaphobe by any means, but I would throwing up attempting to help.

[@persephone3309]

You'd be surprised how instantaneously you can change the way you react to gross things once you've had a child. It's like a switch is flicked and you don't see any of the gross things you just see your love for your baby and are willing to do anything for it. I've seen it with people I know literally faint and vomit over blood from a papercut or cleaning their dogs mess up. But for his baby that just changed without him having any control over it.

[@frozenbeer1324]

Dang I'm too early, I can't read the comments about people's opinions on the stories 😕

[@caineal8298]

Thank you for all the hard work you do kyu 😭🥺👏🏽🖤🖤Hope to see sum more divorce stories!😂 going thru one so ☠️

[@ihavetwoturtles8166]

Honestly the op in the second story sounds delusional I mean the whole thing is superficial but idk all that seemed stupid

[@begonefeather9608]

Everyone hating on the last guy. Which I understand but honestly? I can barely clean my own throw up without gagging and getting uncomfortable. If that’s a limit for him then I should be respected and compromised on. He holds the trash bag and brings her the cleaning supplies. She cleans it. He throws it out. Yes, his attitude and response was disrespectful but he wasn’t wrong for having a limit. Throw in pee and that’s a different ball game with the same reaction and response. I wouldn’t want to touch others pee, especially if I didn’t have gloves or other so I understand him but he could have reacted differently.

[@WittyRoseKoi]

Shadow boxer im I second

[@shadowboxer1]

Not tonight. Third.

[@WittyRoseKoi]

Yesssss thank you shadow boxer i always wanted to be third

[@kristenswanepoel1449]

9:17 If I was the guy.. I would still help...but I would still not be happy with having to clean it up...But I'd still help.

[@WittyRoseKoi]

I love your videos kyutie

[@shadowboxer1]

Third! Here's your bronze medal! ====> 🥉

[@kellycowley3535]

Unpopular opinion but I somewhat agree with Joy on the first story. Like he didn't just spend more, he made it obvious in his gifts that she viewed the step-siblings as 'lesser' or 'not real family'. He got at least 3 different gifts for her teenager siblings and can't even remember which toy he got the younger step-siblings which shows absolutely no effort. It's one thing to not view Joy and the step-siblings as family but it's another to make it obvious and point it out at every given opportunity. In most of the story that's what he was doing.

[@riel4553]

It's not that weird that he doesn't remember what he got the step siblings: they're 5 and 7, he got him little kids toys. There's around a 10-year difference between them and I bet they barely talk; he probably got them whatever looked popular at the toy store.

[@kellycowley3535]

@@riel4553 It is considering how much detail he went into about the presents he got his biological siblings. Not remembering the name of said toy is one thing but to put down that you don't remember 'which toy' implies that he doesn't care enough to even remember what there toys looked like. (Although I don't know when this was posted, it sounds like it was posted close to the christmas it happened/is happening). Also if Joy wants them to be a family then they probably talk. (From the situation it sounds like they are living together. Even if they don't) Joy and the dad probably puts them together (Like eating at the table, purposefully putting them in the same room, telling the step-siblings to talk with him, etc).

[@Elevenfortyfours]

OH MY HOD I HAVE NOT WATCHED U FOR LIKE 4 YEARS HI?!!

[@tr_in]

hi kyu!

[@melissahenry4730]

Gahhh your so pretty!

[@Nico-on6us]

❤❤

[@ATM2306]

Hello! I hope everyone is doing well :)

[@blobbythepotato7062]

Hope you’re doing well too 😊

[@ATM2306]

@@blobbythepotato7062 Thank you :)

[@shadowboxer1]

Second! Here's your silver medal! ====> 🥈

[@ATM2306]

@@shadowboxer1 Thank you :)

[@laurawilliams1090]

Maybe the guy in the second story is self-sabotaging because deep down he doesn’t really want a relationship, but feels the pressure of expectation from his family and friends. There’s nothing wrong with being single. Just leave the poor bloke alone!

[@gurglequeen433]

Except the dude is the one coming to OP complaining about women turning him down.

[@blobbythepotato7062]

❤

[@noondayfair]

First off, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It's just an opinion, not a fact. Everyone sees every person differently, so I don't know why people act like they can rank people. Declaring your "friend" unattractive is just as self-important and meaningless as the friend declaring women not in his league. He recommended therapy, but maybe they both could benefit from it and work on not objectifying people. Most could.

[@PhantomMagician1846]

Good point

[@lnaph]

Yes, but I have known guys who don't even take care of themselves, weight, clothing and general appearance and want girls who do. They need to either step up their game or lower their standards.

[@jessicawidmeier2862]

I have cleaned up my Husband's mess when he was alive number 1 and number 2 and cleaned his bum as he was handicapped and even before that had trouble walking, I hated doing it, but that was my Mate, I choose him and he felt awful and whereas I feel like your Wifey is milking the Pregnancy a little bit, I do think you should have at least helped her out as I imagine it is hard to get down there to clean unless you brought a mop to her.

[@valeriebrathwaite8541]

It's not milking it has been shown doing stairs and having to bend and clean things increases the chance of losing the baby. My sister was ordered no stairs and strict bed rest, her husband didn't listen she fell on the stairs and lost the baby! The next time she got pregnant she did what the Dr said!!!! Everyone handles pregnancy differently. Some women are high risk and have to be very careful not to lose the baby or their own life. I lost my daughter because I did too much. I'm in a wheelchair so my mom has to clean after me too. She has a colostomy bag so doesn't bother her. She is just happy to help me out. Good for you taking care of your hubby. I know how hard it is.

[@islajadepierre9060]

Uh what, are you joking? How is she "milking" her pregnancy by asking him to help her? She is in her third trimester, which is pretty far along in the pregnancy. It's very dangerous and difficult to physically do things at this point. Where does the milking it come in at?

[@jessicawidmeier2862]

@@islajadepierre9060 because he already is doing a lot for her and offered to get her PJ's and she can't even take a mop and clean up after herself and got selfishly pissed at him because he didn't want to clean it up. I just think there are mops in the house, you can't tell me being pregnant means you can't lift a mop and clean up your own mess, that is why she is milking it, asking him is ok, but getting pissed because he doesn't want to clean your piss off the floor and you are capable of using a mop and saying he won't clean up after the baby to make him feel worse is wrong, I could see him helping her into the PJ's but it wasn't going to kill her to mop up her own piss without making him feel guilty for not helping.

[@brellie763]

First story: The OP is literally 16 and a grown ass woman in demanding a kid to get expensive gifts for her kids like wtf. She should be grateful that he even got her kids gifts in the first place. Her kids are not the same as his own siblings. She and her kids just came into his life, he has been with his own siblings since they were born and they are actually his parents kids, she can't expect same love and treatment from OP for her kids atleast anytime soon after she married the dad. It takes years to accept step parents and a parent and their kids as siblings and it is earned not demanded. And he is only 16. Woman get over your self. Second story: I just hate when people think only good looking people are good enough for them and that they are too good to be with average looking or physically unattractive people. No matter how attractive a person is or how rich they may be, if they says they'll only date people who are super attractive that's a very big red flag already. Physical attractiveness fades. It's never permanent. OP was completely right in calling the friend out and he even said it in such a polite way trying to help him realise he's wrong. My man listen to your friend or you're going to end up alone for the rest of your life. Third story: I can't say OP is entirely wrong. He has been working extra hard and extra hours for his family while also doing chores. In every other way, he has been as helpful as he can be for his pregnant wife. Yes I understand this situation is embarrassing for his wife and it might be hard for her to clean up after herself, but honestly it's not like the husband has been completely negligent of his wife. He has been extremely helpful with other stuff. Although it would have been nice if he could help, it is understandable too. If I was her, I'd honestly not feel comfortable even asking someone else to clean up my mess, pregnant or not. Of course it would be a different story if she was handicapped or injured where she physically can't do it herself. I feel like sometimes pregnant woman just act entitled to get extremely special treatment from their husbands. Even when they do their absolute best to make sure their wife is mostly comfortable and take care of them, many women still get mad and make a big deal out of everything without being appreciative of all the efforts their man is putting in for them. The one thing I didn't like that the OP did in this is tell his co workers about this. Like dude, why would you share this stuff with people like that? Do you have no respect for your wife? She was already embarrassed about what happened and you're gonna go tell your co workers that your wife peed herself.

[@ghostofthemoon]

She is at the point of pregnancy where she might as well be disabled. She can't do stairs and she really shouldn't be bending over if, she even can. If a pregnant woman in the third trimester tried to do a lot of things the average person could, she could lose the baby. Some people are high-risk pregnancies and are encouraged by doctors to bed rest until they give birth or else they could miscarry. I don't think you realize how crippling pregnancies are in the later stages. Especially when it comes to how the baby is positioned. A lot of women may ask or expect a lot more when they are pregnant but you're not the one with a growing human inside you. I really do think she may have been struggling more than the average woman. For crying out loud she full-on peed herself because she couldn't use the stairs which at her stage she should be avoided altogether and should be living in the bottom half of her place. The fact he isn't comfortable cleaning up after his wife the one person he chose to spend his life with and love unconditionally tells me he shouldn't have married her. My boyfriend and I clean up after each other all the time when we are sick. Being pregnant is like being sick except with the added bonus of losing the kid if you push too hard. For some people pushing over limits happens a lot quicker than for others and it's best not to find out what that limit is.

[@brellie763]

@@ghostofthemoon Oh god. I already know everything you said bruh. Is it mentioned anywhere in the story that she had a high risk pregnancy or that the position of the baby is making her uncomfortable? No. She's fine. Pregnancy is not even close to being disabled. There are so many women who still workout and do so many things in their third trimester without any problems whatsoever. And yeah she can't bend down but I wonder if you've heard of something called a mop that can actually be used to clean floors without bending down. It's just a little pee that would take a couple of minutes to wipe with mop and some water and floor cleaner. It's not like he made her to do some huge freaking job that could make her lose the damn baby stop being so overdramatic about it jeez. Just because a woman is pregnant she can not expect her husband to do everything for her. There are some things which they gotta do for themselves instead of using pregnancy as an excuse all the time. I have seen so many pregnant women who manage so many things on their own and don't ask their man to do everything for them unless they physically can't. Mopping up some pee is not a freaking big deal.

[@ghostofthemoon]

@@brellie763 Ok you seem to be coming off as passive-aggressive and I don't like that so I'm going to make this brief. I'm not sure why you are, maybe I said something and it came off as possibly aggressive. If it did I apologize. I also apologize if I'm interpreting the tone of your comment. The fact she's having trouble with the stairs tells me she may not be as able as you think. Not all women during pregnancy are the same or still able to do the same things as other pregnant women. And ok using a mop may not be a big deal to you but she asked for help I think not for him to do it for her, I will check. From what I understood it was a full-on accident and not just a little dribble. Maybe I misread or misheard. It happens I'm autistic I can handle being corrected and I can and will apologize for my mistake in what I misheard or read and move on. It's no big deal with that part. She doesn't seem to be asking for help or demanding more than I expect from a third-trimester pregnant woman. She asked him for help with it, not to do it for her. That much I'm pretty sure I heard correctly, and the fact he didn't help and didn't even comfort her bothers me a bit and it clearly bothered her too.

[@brellie763]

@@ghostofthemoon Please stop making a big deal out of this. I only used a bit of a harsh tone because it annoys me that people are so quick to blame the husbands all the time when they are doing so much. Just because she's pregnant, everyone is on her side even when she can do it herself. I also didn't like how you are explaining stuff about pregnancy like I didn't know all of that. Obviously I know pregnancy can be hard and sometimes you can't do things an average person can do and all that but none of that applies to cleaning up her mess when she has a perfectly healthy pregnancy. I'm pretty sure she doesn't have problem actually using the stairs but just to walk up and down it at a normal pace and that she needs to just be more slow and careful and hence she couldn't make it. And he did comfort her and get her PJ's. I said this already and I'll say it again. Pregnant woman can't always use that as an excuse to get people to do everything for them when they can do it themselves. He is already doing a lot for her and the family and she's making a big deal out of not helping her clean her own mess. It's not a big deal at all. And if he didn't wake up and come downstairs, she would have cleaned it up herself anyway.

[@ghostofthemoon]

@@brellie763 Ok wasn't sure if you knew all that about pregnancy for all I knew you could be 14 and not have a clue. I try not to expect that people know certain things in case they don't. I actually prefer people talk to me like I don't know something in case I actually don't. I get extreme anxiety if people talk to me like I know about something when I don't actually have a clue on the subject. So my default is to talk to people the way I want to be talked to. Some people appreciate my wanting to explain because I like having things explained to me. Others take it as if I think they are stupid. I usually get that type of response from neurotypical people. I am not going to assume you are neurotypical but you kind of seem it. I hope this doesn't come off as offensive. I understand where your opinions come from, as well as Ops, and Ops's wife. However, it seems Ops's wife is in the most distress and could use more emotional comfort, and by that, I mean from therapy. It seems to me her husband has too much on his plate to give her the amount she needs. Personally, I think if they both communicated better her accident wouldn't have blown up as much as it did. Everything you said about the stairs and stuff does make sense. From my experience having physical help with things helps me mentally. I know with pregnancy that some women do everything on their own. I feel bad for them because a lot of them probably do need help and put up a strong front. Others seem to need a lot more help and it's true that some are probably lazy and expect everything for no other reason than just being pregnant. In this situation, it's hard to tell if it's the second or last.

[@Silencer796]

Damn

[@buck99]

💋🌹4U 💖U

[@RaidenMeii]

Hry

[@shadowboxer1]

First! Here's your gold medal! ====> 🥇

[@ms.andeedill280]

First story: he should just set up a savings account/trust for his step siblings and put small cash gifts in there just in case his step mom doesn't have college funds. Even $25 twice a year will add up by the time they're ready for college

[@islajadepierre9060]

Umm what Why? Why would a 16 yr old child need to do that for children that he is not close to and are not his who have two able bodied parents?

[@asylumlights4345]

Quality time is better than this suggestion. Not a kids job to financially gift out to other kids. Getting to know them, care for me and socializing is preferred over monitory gifts

[@Zarra52]

Hello

[@helendelgado2296]

I’m going to get hate for saying this but I can understand from the third story. Because one of the example my mom who is delicate cannot see vomit or bad smell she will have nausea all day or vomit. So I can understand some are delicate cleaning after someone else and I know people will say to get over it since it’s helping someone you care but some people cannot handle something’s like this . She had hard time cleaning us when we were baby and even got worse if one of us vomit as a adult. I don’t blame them some our not built to look after someone.

[@Thatgirly777]

That wasn't disclosed

[@tacobell1299]

Im the 701th like on this video

[@babymama406]

The 3rd guy is rude about it, but being pregnant isn’t an excuse for not doing anything. Unless he left out a debilitating problem that’s making her pregnancy high risk, she can definitely clean herself up. He’s doing a lot already and if you CAN clean up after yourself, then do it. If she literally couldn’t do it or was having a medical issue, that’s completely different. Clearly she could clean it up because she did. Why did she want him to clean it in the first place? It’s a strange thing to ask if it’s not necessary. Equating it to caring for his child is also weird to me. She’s not his child, she’s his wife and if she can’t clean herself or go to the bathroom without help, then how is she gonna take care of this child?

[@brellie763]

Thank you. People fail to see this and keep saying he should do it for her. No. Pregnancy is not an excuse to get people to do everything for you. There are some things which you need to do for yourself unless you have a condition because of which you physically can't. Cleaning up her mess is not a big deal at all. Oh and she was embarrassed about it and even more that the husband caught her hmm so I wonder what she would have done if he didn't wake up and come down. She would have damn right cleaned it up herself anyway. But now that he did come down, she's using that as an excuse to avoid having to clean up her mess and making a big deal out of it.

[@pandorasangelxx]

She is in her third trimester which means she is WELL into her pregnancy, so she isn't able to do normal things as easily. I understand being grossed out by somebody else's bodily fluids, but that is his wife. I also understand that some people are grossed out more than others. The least he could've done is thrown away the towels she used to clean it up, or done something like that without actually touching the mess. If she was using towels to clean it up and didn't have a mop then she DEFINITELY shouldn't have been cleaning it up because she would've had to bend down to pick up the towels and that isn't a good idea when you are that far into your pregnancy. I know that other people have different ideals, but personally, if my significant other had to deal with something that caused them to have accidents like this, I would want to help them out because I know they are already going through a hard time.

[@vintereventyr_]

I personally don’t think the guy in the last story is wrong… like at all. Why would he be? Like, yes, she’s pregnant, but she is also capable of doing it herself. If it had been puke, then sure, but i personally wouldn’t be able to go back to sleep before showering atleast twice if i touched someone elses… waste like that. It’s disgusting. He should have been there with her, but touching a fully capable adults waste shouldn’t be a need.

[@jeanbean_bc]

She's already having trouble going down the stairs, so how on earth is she supposed to mop up a mess on the floor? I looked up what 3rd-trimester pregnancies look like, and I wonder how they get anything done with that massive bump in front of them. She seemed tired and frustrated, and he could've helped ease the emotional burden by helping. Like yeah, it's gonna be gross, but she needed him at that moment.

[@persephone3309]

@@jeanbean_bc trust me I struggled to even tie my laces on my shoes because of how awkward it is having my bump in the way. Don't think people realise how hard it is having a massive bump in the way of everything. Yes we can do some things but a lot of things get more and more difficult and the symptoms we experience only add to the difficulty, back pain, constant need to pee, constipation etc. Honestly I can go on the amount of basic things that are so much harder especially during third trimester.

[@kawaiiamarii2240]

No, I acc think op's the AH for the first story. It's like saying that your adopted sibling is somehow less than your blood sibling bcuz you don't relate by blood, which is complete and utter bs and just downright mean. Siblings are siblings, and you should treat them like such. Yh, op gave them a gift at the very least, but compared to what he gave his bio siblings, it's not even slightly the same. Yh, he's the asshole.

[@ghostofthemoon]

Op saved up for those nice gifts for other siblings over a period of months. It takes a while to adjust to new family. Op needs counseling. it takes a while to view someone as family regardless if they are blood or not. Being considered family is earned. Some of my blood family has earned that others have not. Clearly, her other siblings did. You can't force a kid to buy for someone they still consider strangers. Siblings are siblings but bonds are what influenced their spending. I do the same for all my blood related siblings. I don't get anything for most of them because I don't see them for literal years. I only know the name of one of them and nothing else. I'm not close to 3 of them so I do something small like what op did, and I do a little more for the 2 I am close with. I have 12 siblings in total and most of them don't reach out to me and vice versa. They are all my siblings and I love them equally, I will not spend money on people I am not close with though. I probably make as much if not less than this kid so that also influences my decision on what I spend on someone. Also ever hear it's not about the money but the thought behind it? I put in the same amount of thoughts for the gifts I do get regardless of the price tag. The kid just needs to be taught that as well so even if they don't want to spend the money they can still give something just as nice.

[@kawaiiamarii2240]

@@ghostofthemoon idk, maybe it's because my love language is gift giving, but it's incredibly odd to give ppl you claim to love equally different gifts that painfully show how much regard you have for one or the other. It really doesn't make sense to me, it's like seeing your siblings getting full meals and what you get are just scraps. Like, yes, you made the effort to give me something, but compared to theirs, it may as well be nothing, yk?

[@r1aa664]

Last story: Nah I don't understand why people are mad at him for not helping his wife he said he wasn't comfortable doing it. If it was another story about someone else saying they aren't comfortable with what someone did they that person wouldn't be the asshole I get am SUPPOSED to be on the pregnant wife side I just can't be because if she said she wasn't comfortable with something I'm sure the husband would respect that. But the part where he was the asshole was when he told people about this but not the part where he wasn't comfortable doing help her with that mess

[@Thatgirly777]

But he made wedding vows

[@chenelagerwall409]

And he still provides financially,washes dishes cuz she pregnant,does her laundry cuz shes pregnant..is understanding of her emotions cuz shes pregnant..but hes not allowed to feel a little grossed out by needing to help her? I understand shes embarrassed and hes not once took the oppertunity to embarress her futher. Hes done everything in compliance to her pregnancy because he cares and i think shes being a little irrastional because he didnt want to help her. Hes not saying shes gross for pissing herself by accident he just doesnt want to have to deal with cleaning it up. I do agree he shouldnt have discussed it with coworkers. But she should get her pregnancy emotions in check too. My mom was mopping floors and doing laundry till the day she gave birth to each and every one of me and my siblings.

[@demonknight5617]

Damn, and not all women are the same when pregnant. Majority of women when pregnant have a difficult time doing basic daily activities. Your mom most likely had help from other people, and you probably don’t know that

[@chenelagerwall409]

@@demonknight5617 my mom litterally did everything herself. She wouldnt need to lie about somone helping her. Just like you said some women carry diffrently. But still being pregnant doesnt give u a lisence to be a d**k or unreasonable.

[@Thatgirly777]

Yh but he vowed through sickness and in health