People Who Spotted A RED FLAG On The First Date

[@islajadepierre9060]

This was awhile ago, but this guy asked me out to dinner. When we got there he kept cutting me off during conversation to talk about himself, which was very off putting. Then when we were ordering, he talked over me and ordered a salad for me and steak for himself. I was pissed. So was my waitress. She rolled her eyes and asked me again what I wanted. I ordered ( chicken, rice and veggies). He looked at me disgusted and said I should have ordered just a salad to impress him because that’s what he prefers. I said “well I’m not trying to impress you, you asked ME out. And how is a salad impressive?” He started raising his voice at me and I told her to cancel my food and left. I took a cab home. He texted me saying I didn’t deserve him anyway. Ummmm…WHAT! One of the biggest douches I’ve come across.

[@thottusthottusxoxo]

Because it’s what HE prefers?? Uhm sir.. if you prefer it so much, why not get your own? Oh wait you just want to police what goes into my body while having total control over your own.. messed up. Swear these kinds of men have the most fragile state of mind when it comes to their masculinity

[@Maya_hee]

@@goyangi4143 Wouldn't be surprised if he tried to physically assault her for saying that. That's just the typical reaction for these men, isn't it.

[@gayladybugnotmlb1743]

@@Maya_hee I would say the typical reaction of assholes in a man’s body

[@Kayenne54]

1:43 Monologued means he just talked about himself, most likely. What he wanted, what he did, where he went, who he knew. He's the kind that goes "Well, enough about me, let's talk about ME".

[@alexjohnson9877]

i wouldnt have a problem if the 2 year old was brought along. even if unexpected. like...i get that finding a babysitter is unexpected but jumping into wanting to buckle down my personal life and not getting to know the kid first is a red flag. i told myself that if i had kids, my partner and kids would have to get along. if my kids did not like my partner, then the partner had to go. i hear so many of my friends sad or afraid of their parents step partner its heart breaking. like you wouldnt want it to be a happy safe and a healthy family

[@CrazyPoodle]

Yes but most of the single parents wait at least 6-8 months before introducing them. Because it can be very traumatic for both parties if you do it too early, only to break their hearts into pieces when you break up. Kids get attracted very quickly.

[@tardismole]

Was dating for the first time after being widoed. A guy dumped me during our first date because my kids had gone missing while playing in the park and I had to go and look for them. He said it was a huge turn off for someone to care more about their children than the person they were dating. He saved me the bother of dumbing him.

[@mohsinAli-hq1nd]

yeap. that man is a walking red flag

[@princesserika9899]

I don't get this guy's "turn-off" like what's wrong with caring for kids?

[@Scarlett.Granger]

Anyone tell me about how women have to be "homemakers" on the first date is such an instant nope. By date three you'd be reduced to a birthing machine. Just eww.

[@PhantomMagician1846]

one positive note is if a guy is looking for a future housewife and the woman doesn't want to go down that road its prob good they got it out in the open on the 1st date so they can go their separate ways

[@Scarlett.Granger]

@@PhantomMagician1846 yes, and nothing against that, but every man that tells you "women HAVE to be housemakers" on the first date has zero respect for women. Nothing wrong with "my goals are x and I'd like to find a partner who'd be okay with being a SAH Wife and parent". But the two things are infinitely not the same.

[@PhantomMagician1846]

@@Scarlett.Granger that's very true and I would guess that any man who thinks a woman has to be a housewife would disagree with what I said. some men are stuck in "leave it to beaver world"

[@namubub]

I once traveled an hour for a date and it was bad. I had my leg in a cast and crutches so moving was hard. The pain medication caused sweating. He told me at some point that my bangs look bad because they are all wet (it was 28°c out and the meds increased the sweating) then he proceeded to scroll Tinder throughout the date. Randomly he started talking about his weight and then just said "you would be so much prettier if you were 10kg lighter" out of nowhere.. then he had the audacity to say this date went well and we should see again. There was no second date

[@lexil3727]

I kinda understand the Japanese-Korean one. My mom’s family is Korean, and my Grandma lived through when the Japanese occupied Korea. So many atrocities happened in that time, even to her little town, so even now in her 80s, she boycotts all Japanese goods. If the guy’s mother was alive in Korea during that time or heard stories, I could totally see why she wouldn’t be super enthused about her son dating a Japanese person. Of course not every person of Japanese descent had family that was a part of it, so the girl’s confusion is largely warranted, but just the ethnic association alone might bring up some bad history to the Korean guy’s family.

[@violetshadow4518]

Understandable, but even still, the girl wasn't a part of it, and should be judged as an individual and not because of generations before her

[@Caitilizzie]

Boy, do I have a story for this! When I was freshly 18, a guy in my public speaking class messaged me and asked me out while we were doing a group project together. I found out shortly before the date that he was 30, but still went on it like an idiot because I felt bad declining him. On the date, I also found out he was a recently divorced single dad, and he showed me a picture of his son. I was still basically a child at that point and couldn't even comprehend taking on that kind of responsibility, so it was the most awkward date of my life. I told him afterwards that I just wanted to be friends, and then I ghosted him

[@mohsinAli-hq1nd]

good on you. that was a major red flag

[@JadaCarlton]

Not mine, but heard this story from tiktok. A girl was having her first blind date with a guy, and JUST BRIEFLY mentioned that she used to have a boyfriend and quickly changed the subject. He then makes a disgusted look, got up and said TO HER FACE "I'm not into used women" and walk away, leaving her to pay the bill. Needless to say, that girl dodged a bullet.

[@introvertstar7847]

Whenever i feel sad for being single, these kinda stories make me feel happy for being single and not want to search for partners. If we r meant to be I'll be doing my things and u yours and let the time decide it.

[@michelleikoma2953]

There are still many Korean families that had a lot of trauma over the Japanese colonization of Korea, but I do think it is a bit unusual for a family in North America. The son is a bit TOO obedient to his elders. Wonder why?

[@Levi_Yuki]

Wasn’t a first date but in the first week of us trying to be a couple, he threatened to k*ll himself if we broke up…Then proceeded to say he “loved” me…. It wasn’t even a full week of us being together.😬

[@kaileychambers6969]

I'm glad you got out before you were in too deep. Man that reminds me of my ex a little. We dated for a little over two years. Long story short the relationship started getting unhealthy for both of us so he broke up with me, although I did agree with that decision. We left things off on alright terms and said we might consider getting back together if things worked out that way, after a lot of self improvement on both sides alone. I was in a horrible place since my grandma had just passed and a lot of other life changes. After being single for a few weeks and reflecting on the relationship I started moving on and realized I couldn't see myself being happy with someone like him. The final straw was his hostile reaction when someone I had trusted kissed me without my consent. He started immediately trying to blame me and that was it. It gave me the uck and I knew there was no chance at regaining those feelings. I told him I had no interest in getting back together ever, and that sparked a whole long thing. I still cared about him and couldn't just stop caring, so I stupidly went to his house a couple more times when he needed someone to talk to. He flat out said he was gonna kill himself soon and the tone he said it in just chilled me to the bone. I didn't know what to say or do. He knows that's a really triggering topic for me, that I've made an attempt on my life before, and considering one of his exes pulled the same thing on him I couldn't believe he could do that to me. I've tried getting him to seek therapy on several occasions and I kinda just decided that if he wasn't willing to get help, I wasn't going to let him make my mental state any worse. We fought on Halloween and haven't really talked since though, so I'm feeling a bit better about the whole situation now. I've been really tempted to check in on him but I just can't deal with all that right now, and after having the space to realize how emotionally manipulative he got sometimes, I know it's not a good idea. Even out of the relationship he's still triggering my anxiety, but at least now it's not purposely. Sorry for the long message and trauma dumping. Haven't had therapy in a couple weeks and I've lost everyone I would normally talk to so I just needed to get it out.

[@buukss]

@@kaileychambers6969 Hi, I'm glad you were able to get it out! It's still going to be difficult to avoid checking up on him, but you, especially in the state you're in, can't help him. You can wish him well, but you can't help him. Those two can coexist; caring about someone, and understanding you can't be of help to them. Your mental health matters more than he does, so please, do only what will make you maintain mental healthiness. So even if he does reach out to apologise, choose yourself and avoid continuing the 'friendship' with him. Don't be his confidante, don't confide in him. Remove him from your personal space both physically and emotionally, and maintain that distance. Focus on how you can work on being in the best possible place mentally and healing from the emotional manipulation, and keeping busy at attaining your life goals, and prioritize that over every care or emotions you have for him. You have to be resolute on your decision to, too. Or else the emotional burden won't ever be lifted, and you'd be worse for it. Love you!

[@kaileychambers6969]

@@buukss Thank you, this was really encouraging and I feel more sure of my decision now than ever. I already know he won't reach out to apologize cause he never thinks anything is his fault when it comes to important things, and after the fight and how I was responding to his texts I actually think he's planning on leaving me alone permanently. I'm starting to have my concern shrink a bit so I'm hoping I can get to a point that I don't have to be worried about him anymore. Our whole relationship and a bit after the break up I've always given him the benefit of the doubt that maybe he wasn't aware that he was triggering my anxiety so much, but after his responses to me moving on I can't fully believe he wouldn't do that on purpose. I kept wishing him well, acknowledging his mental health wasn't great either but things do get better. He kept saying stuff like "Probably won't" and just rejecting anything I tried to say to be nice. He knows I've been struggling with depression for over half a decade now at this point so that was kind of a slap in face to all my efforts to help myself get better on top of just being annoying to deal with. Anytime I'm tempted to reach out I just remember that that's the kind of responses waiting for me, and that makes me refrain from doing so. Thanks again for the encouragement and support, I'm pretty short on that these days. I hope you have a wonderful day!

[@cgamejewels]

First story: I would have cancelled my order, broke up with him, and left him there at the restaurant. Second story: People who constantly talk about their ex ae a big NOPE. Third story: Cheater alert. Fourth story: What? Nope. Fifth story: Crazy coincidence. Sixth story: NOPE NOPE NOPE Seventh story: RUN! Eighth story: RUN! Ninth story: EW! NOPE! WTH! Tenth Story: She dodged a bullet. Eleventh story: Nope Twelfth story: NOPE Now we know why he is a single parent. Thirteenth story: Take a bath. Nope Fourteenth story: Grow up. Fifteenth story: NOPE Psycho that became a police officer Sixteenth story: Wait! wut? Psycho kidnapper thief much. Seventeenth story: Hold Up! Naw bruh. Eighteenth story: Again, what's with these people constantly talking about their ex. Moral of the lesson: You will never regret remaining single.

[@haileehendry3010]

i literally cannot tell you how much you make my day better, like fr you are like my inspiration bc you’re so sweet and like genuine (let me stop i sound super creepy, but on a real note ur awesome)

[@cruxal216]

If someone told me that they didn’t wash their hands after using the bathroom I would nope out of that date too. Like what I’m not to get E-coli from you if you don’t wash your hands.

[@elsalanchester8495]

I once went on a date with a Chinese guy in his 20's, who for starters chose MCDONALD'S, but I was like okay no big deal, the chicken nuggets are fire anyway. BUT, I ended up finding out he hardly spoke any English, so that was awkward. I got home to find that he texted me exactly this "can I have sex with you". WORST DATE EVER.

[@PhantomMagician1846]

I'll give him a pass on the McDonald's thing but he needs to learn what is proper behavior and learn English better before trying to find a GF

[@asaasa7900]

Thank you SO much for the video, Kyutie! We appreciate you so much.

[@laurafranich4807]

I think the non hand washing guy just wanted all the appetizers to himself

[@qbbi]

First one I was like ???. Like excuse me, what if I was allergic?

[@_mirary_]

Fr that's disrespectful af and dangerous if you can get food intoxications from it 💀

[@Scarlett.Granger]

I'm impressed the second one made it for TWO HOURS. Ooof.

[@jaeger7341]

3:31 I would understand this if they were closer, but before the first date?? You gotta me on another level of odd-

[@alzorama2876]

I need closure on the story about the girl who took all of the guy's clothes, including his underwear.

[@lovelia69]

you're so pretty! your voice is so sweet! i love you videos ellen!

[@Akiraamariee]

Omg! Your accent has gotten so much better 🥺 Im proud 🫶🏼

[@BeanKally]

Kinda random I know but your hair looks so cool :D

[@theaudacityofmortals8281]

Can we just take a moment to appreciate her for posting on my birthday today ? And every other day of the year too? You’re awesome Kyutie! Stay warm everyone 👏👏👏 Edit: special thanks to the people who responded to my comment :)

[@sassyg9133]

happy birthday

[@sariahbowman1681]

I hope you had a wonderful birthday today.

[@FlowerArtzy24]

Awww happy birthday 🎉I hope you celebrate your day well !! Know that you are loved and appreciated, take care ❤

[@kimtaehyungswife9272]

Happy birthday, random stranger!😀I hope you had a great birthday!😃

[@briannaduffney1745]

Happy birthday

[@Nicholaspimpinsohard]

I have actually heard about several women robbing me just like that. That you be a lesson to anybody things are not heating up that's just lust.

[@kimtaehyungswife9272]

Thank you for another video, Ellen! I hope everything is going well for you.😃My hair also kind of looks similar to yours right now!😀My hair is brown, but I bleached the ends of it and have the ends of it dyed a shade of pink kind of like yours.😀😃I had dyed it this past October for Breast Cancer Awareness month and decided to keep it for a little bit longer. I surely hope you never have a bad first date with anyone like the people in the video did! You deserve all the greatest dates in the world!😃

[@WittyRoseKoi]

I love your videos kyutie

[@MishiawooLee9999]

Happy Birthday Kyutie, hope you have a happy day 😊💗

[@shadowboxer1]

Her birthday's in May.

[@MishiawooLee9999]

@@shadowboxer1 Sorry I was looking at someone else's comment.

[@shadowboxer1]

@@MishiawooLee9999 No problem.

[@Thecraytuber]

Oml I just realized you changed your background, what happened to the coco background? Is coco fine?

[@rmmoonchild1473]

I luv ur earrings today, how r u?💜

[@solargomez2490]

Ellen my dad saw an angel the other night.

[@saimawasti9598]

Hey Ellen. How are you? If you don't mind me asking, Why did you delete the video of you going on a date with your friend Yoshi? Don't worry. I'm not hating on you or anything. I'm just curious 🤔🤔🤔

[@karaelzexceed666]

4:28 aww i'd take this one he seems cute :3

[@jades_cabinet]

He knows where she worked without her telling him??!?

[@ChrissyBae]

@@jades_cabinetguess this person is either rly sarcastic or into yanderes 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@itz-yagirl-nattie3408]

I get not always washing your hands after using the bathroom cuz some bathrooms are just gross but at least use hand sanitizer!!

[@ATM2306]

Hi! I hope everyone is doing well :)

[@bestie_jess]

congratulations your first how are you doing?

[@ATM2306]

@@bestie_jess Thank you! I’m doing good, thanks for asking :) How are you?

[@shadowboxer1]

Here's your gold medal! ====> 🥇

[@bestie_jess]

@@ATM2306 great!good to know your doing good!

[@ATM2306]

@@shadowboxer1 Thank you :)

[@thatoneprettycupcake]

how are there 5 comments 1 view and 11 likes???

[@BeanKally]

KZbin is drunk again

[@bestie_jess]

@@BeanKally lol

[@thatoneprettycupcake]

@@BeanKally yuh

[@Sluggerbugger13]

5:38

[@ihavetwoturtles8166]

I don't think reading these stories is doing you good💀

[@blobbythepotato7062]

❤

[@shadowboxer1]

Third! Here's your bronze medal! ====> 🥉

[@Nicholaspimpinsohard]

How are you doing sweetie? How are you feeling? I love you so much my friend!! Stay safe!!

[@your.bunny_wrote]

Wondering pumpkin 58

[@bestie_jess]

I’m early! How is everyone today?

[@RaidenMeii]

Hey!

[@Sluggerbugger13]

10:12

[@buck99]

HEY BEAUTIFUL 👋 💖U

[@WittyRoseKoi]

Shadow boxer I’m I third

[@shadowboxer1]

Nope. Fifteenth.

[@yummy-j3l]

Hello

[@shadowboxer1]

Second! Here's your silver medal! ====> 🥈

[@socahha]

I made it early. Hi 👋 Ellen😀

[@Sluggerbugger13]

6:48

[@Sluggerbugger13]

8:48

[@Sluggerbugger13]

7:38

[@Sluggerbugger13]

9:38